Gwyneth Paltrow: My daughter has ‘a sense of entitlement that’s beautiful’


Gwyneth Paltrow has a 16-year-old daughter, Apple Martin, whom she adores. I’ve said this before, but I actually think Gwyneth is probably an okay mom? There’s the disordered eating patterns which have always concerned me about Gwyneth and what she might project onto her kids, but beyond that, I buy that Gwyneth is loving, encouraging and adoring of her pretty teenage daughter. Apparently, Gwyneth pays a lot of attention to what Apple and her friends are up to and Gwyneth is very impressed with how “entitled” they are. It’s actually not as bad as it sounds! Gwyneth just makes everything sound awful.

Gwyneth Paltrow is impressed with the young woman her teenage daughter, Apple, is becoming — and the Oscar-winning actress naturally has a unique way of describing how pleased she is. During a virtual appearance at the Adobe MAX conference on Wednesday, October 21, Paltrow was asked about female representation in entertainment. While noting that “we’re laying the groundwork for the change” through movements like #MeToo and Black Lives Matter, the actress spoke highly of the “entitlement” that her teenage daughter and her generation have that will be beneficial in the years to come.

“The patriarchy itself feels like it’s cracking and starting to embrace a much wider variety of voices and races and genders,” the Goop founder, 48, explained. “By the time my daughter is in the workforce, those girls are not going to stand for it. When I see my daughter with her friends, they are so empowered.”

The Shakespeare in Love star continued, “They have, and I mean this word in the best possible way, a sense of entitlement that’s beautiful. It’s not spoiled, [they] are here for what the boys are going to get too. I find it very uplifting and heartening that we all seem to be going in this direction together.”

[From Us Weekly]

My interpretation of what Gwyneth is trying to say is that Apple and her fellow youths feel they are “entitled” to better treatment from the world as far as representation, inclusion, respect and non-toxic work environments. But of course Gwyneth makes it sound like she’s super-proud of her daughter for being so entitled. Surely a better way of saying it would be “my daughter and her generation know their worth and they won’t settle for being treated the way my generation was treated.”

Gwyneth Paltrow attends a seminar in New York City


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  1. Mika says:

    I know I say this a lot but….

    Gwyneth has GOT to start wearing sunscreen.

    • Valiantly Varnished says:

      She probably does. But like most people she’s probably not wearing it properly and not wearing enough.

    • Gobo says:

      Sunscreen can’t undo the damage incurred from years of not wearing it/wearing it incorrectly.

    • Maryanna says:

      I thought it was refreshing to see wrinkles lol

    • Mika says:

      Actually, a few years ago she said she didn’t wear sunscreen because “the sun is natural, and how can something hurt you?”

      You know, like a dumbass.

      • yvrjanice says:

        My husband died of melanoma last year and it was heartbreaking to see such a strong man wither away from it. It was quick – over in 4 weeks and everyday it was as if he was being tortured. Wear your sunscreen people!!

    • TeamMeg says:

      Skin ages. No shame. Personally, I find this look preferable to that of women who never let a drop of sunlight touch their face, which they end up ruining anyway with countless surgeries, tweaks, fillers, botox, etc. (Nicole Kidman I’m looking at you.) Sunscreen isn’t going to prevent aging. Youthful beauty fades no matter what. Sunshine is natural and healthy in moderation. Enjoy!

      • SKF says:

        Comments like this are so weird to me. As an Australian, we know how dangerous the sun is, especially in a country with a brutal sun and a lot of caucasians. I know people in their 30s already getting skin cancers removed. All of our parents have had them removed. All of us know people who’ve died from skin cancer. We all wear sunscreen and hats and people still get cancer, just… less. The beaches these days are full of little kids in swimwear that covers them up. Most people I know don’t spend more than two hours at the beach, and never in the middle of the day in summer. Yes the sun is beautiful and natural and you need it for vitamin D. It’s also dangerous and can kill you and damage you significantly, especially in a world where people with cool climate skin have migrated to hot climate parts of the world.

      • Ange says:

        I hear you SKF. As a fellow Aussie who grew up in the 80s I wish I’d had a bit more of that ‘no sun’ vibe. I’ve had nasty moles taken off in my 30s and my husband had a really nasty mole cut out (along with a decent chunk of his leg) last year at 34. Hell my brother had one cut out at 16. Nicole always had the right idea just for safety, if not aesthetics.

  2. Valiantly Varnished says:

    Actually I think entitled is the perfect word. Because women, and black people and other POC are ENTITLED to be seen as equal and to be afforded the same opportunities as white men. I think she used the right word for it.

    • Mignionette says:

      Lol – exaclty !

    • Otaku fairy says:

      All of this. And people don’t get to pick and choose which marginalized groups have a right to equality and basic respect. Because not everybody gets to just be one, and because nobody should be forced to pick which one or two they’re allowed to care about for a seat at the table.

    • Mabs A'Mabbin says:

      I completely agree and wanted to say the same. If there was ever a positive use for entitled, it should be reserved for women, all POC and minorities across the board. And use with gusto and traction. We’re not simply deserving of equal treatment accompanied with an abundance of opportunities, we’re entitled to it in the same way Americans are entitled to freedom and justice and liberty and yes, healthcare, an honest and just government, police protection and respect, education and a healthy environment.

    • lucy2 says:

      I agree. Anything coming from Gwenyth is automatically going to make my eyes roll, but she’s right on this one.

      I was just listening to a Jane Fonda interview, and she was saying something similar, how the younger generations are just not putting up with all the stuff hers had to. I just hope all of those young people who can vote by next week are doing so.

  3. Mignionette says:

    I get what she is saying, but it is horribly framed.

    The basic expectation that all people be treated equally is NOT a sense of entitlement. It is just how things should be.

    This is the problem I feel with a lot of what Gwyneth says. It’s deliberately provocative and ambiguous to draw people into the conversation. Basically akin to click-bait. And in choosing to employ this method, she dilutes and harms the underlying message.

  4. minx says:

    I get what she’s saying, I have a Millennial son and a Gen Z daughter and I’m very heartened by how accepting and progressive they and their friends are. But unfortunately it still takes time to knock down barriers and not backtrack. Who would have thought we’d be worrying about abortion rights in 2020?

  5. Minal says:

    Sure, the world is an amazing place for rich, white women living in developed nations. But it’s been that way for quite some time.

    • Peet33 says:

      I mean yes, seconded. She’s growing up to be a rich white lady so yeah, ‘entitled’ probably is the perfect word here. I get what she’s trying to get at at least but a small modicum of self awareness wouldn’t go amiss either. But then hey, it wouldn’t be the Gywneth we all know & love if she had that.

  6. Julia K. says:

    I wonder if she has mis spoken. Perhaps instead of entitled she was describing confidence and self awareness.

  7. L4frimaire says:

    Entitled is an interesting word. It’s often used to disparage others, especially if they speak up or push back. I get what she’s saying but she always sounds so tone deaf and gets peoples backs up. Her daughter will face very few obstacles in her life, regardless of what happens with the patriarchy. Might be a whole different ball game for the rest of us— we’ll have to keep fighting. Also, ladies use moisturizer and sunscreen on your chest. That’s some visible sun damage.

  8. A says:

    Gwyneth, as we all know, is a professional, highly paid troll. I think she worded it exactly how she wanted to word it, knowing it would make people do a double take. What’s sad is that she’s bringing her daughter into this, which is a shame–is “entitled” how she would describe herself? That’s doubtful.

    • Jules says:

      So well said. Yes most celebrities act like professional trolls, looking for attention or controversy. And then there are the non-celebrities who troll comments, same thing. It’s all a sign of mental instability, a need for external validation because there is no sense of self, and turns into narcissism when it gets to the extreme.

  9. Nini says:

    I’m here for this actually. I have spent the past few years working on being more entitled. I was raised to be really humble, self-sacrificing, be happy with what I get, don’t ask for anything, put myself last. To an extent that was SO toxic and just made me a doormat in life. I would expect to be recognized and appreciated for my great attitude and just wasn’t and had to watch all the ENTITLED people constantly get everything I wanted.

    I really practiced and worked on being ENTITLED and I think it’s extremely important for everyone who grew up marginalized in one way or another to work on being ENTITLED. We should all be entitled to being treated with respect.

    After years of faking it till you make it, I genuinely have a very healthy sense of entitlement now and what it means is that I’m not a doormat anymore.

    • NotAgain says:

      I feel you! I have a Masters Degree, and yet I currently work for peanuts at my kid’s kindergarten/school. We can do better, entitlement as such is not a bad term! We are not entitled, we just would like recognition for what we are and do.
      I want my kid to feel entitled to be who he wants to be!

    • dlc says:

      Well put!