Megan Thee Stallion: ‘I want Black women to be louder. I want us to be sassier’

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Megan Thee Stallion has been named GQ’s Rapper of the Year, as part of their people-of-the-year series. They gave her a cover and a nice editorial and tons of space to talk about all of the sh-t she’s been through this year, whether it was the success of “WAP,” her career going into overdrive, her performance on SNL, and of course, Lory Lanez shooting her over the summer. GQ devoted a large chunk of their interview to that assault, and they basically give Megan the space to speak about it in her own way, in her own time (which is how it should be done). The full GQ piece is worth a read. Some highlights:

Tory shot her when she was trying to get out of the car: “Like, I never put my hands on nobody. I barely even said anything to the man who shot me when I was walking away. We were literally like five minutes away from the house.” After he shot, she says, Lanez begged her not to say anything. She says he offered Megan and her friend money to stay quiet. “[At this point] I’m really scared. because this is like right in the middle of all the protesting. Police are just killing everybody for no reason, and I’m thinking, ‘I can’t believe you even think I want to take some money. Like, you just shot me.’ ”

She felt like she was expected to project strength throughout the ordeal. “Like damn. I have to be tough through all this? All the time? It was like, who really checks on us or who protected us? You just go your whole life with that mentality. And then when something actually happens to you, when you properly should have protected yourself, your first instinct was not to protect yourself, it was protecting other people.… So it was like, ‘What do I do?’ ‘What do I say?’ Like, ‘Is anybody going to believe what I’m saying?’ ”

Her friends should have checked on her. “I saw something that said, ‘Check on your strong friends.’ And, like, a lot of people, they don’t do that because they think, Oh, this person is just so strong, so I know they got their stuff together.… I feel like I have to be strong for everybody, and I don’t want my friends or anybody around me to feel like it’s a pressure on me, ’cause I feel like they all start freaking out.”

On the conservative reaction to WAP: “I saw somebody…some Republican lady, you know how they be. Some goddamn Republican lady, like, ‘This is a terrible example.’ And I was like, ‘Girl, you literally had to go to YouTube or to your Apple Music to go listen to this song in its entirety. How are you in your Republican world even finding your way over here to talk about this? You must not have noooo WAP if you’re mad at this song.’ Sometimes people are really not comfortable enough with themselves, and I don’t think they like to watch other people be comfortable with themselves. And I don’t think they want anybody to teach other people how to be comfortable with themselves.”

On women’s sexuality: “I feel like a lot of men just get scared when they see women teaching other women to own sex for themselves. Sex is something that it should be good on both ends, but a lot of times it feels like it’s something that men use as a weapon or like a threat. I feel like men think that they own sex, and I feel like it scares them when women own sex.”

On Black women: “I want Black women to be louder. I want us to be sassier. I want us to demand more, be more outspoken, keep speaking and just keep demanding what you deserve. Don’t change—just get better. Grow from these situations. Don’t be beating yourself up about these situations, because that’d be a lot of problems too. I feel we keep this stuff in and there’s some kind of way we flip it on ourselves. We didn’t f–k up—We didn’t do something wrong, and it’s like, ‘No, girl, relax. You just needed somebody to come stir the Kool-Aid.’ ”

[From GQ]

There’s such a good aside as Megan is recounting what happened that night when Tory shot her, which is that at first, she didn’t think anything of jumping into Tory’s car at the end of a pool party. She was in a bikini and heading home. But she also had a radar that something was happening while she was in the car. As GQ writes, “Megan often tells herself, ‘Always trust your first mind’—her way of saying, ‘Listen to your gut.’ That night, her first mind told her to get out of the car and find another way home. She tried exiting the vehicle to call for a different ride.” But people told her to get back in the car, etc, so she pushed down those thoughts. I appreciate that she can talk about that – she felt like something about about to go sideways – but still not blame herself, because IT IS NOT HER FAULT. Even if you have a bad feeling and you don’t listen to your gut, what happened is not your damn fault.

Cover & IG courtesy of GQ.

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  1. smegmoria says:

    She is the best. Her skills are amazing. She makes me smile every time I see her. I hope nothing but Good News comes her way for life.

  2. VS says:

    I love her Savage song………..I wish her all the best

  3. Julie says:

    I’m appalled at how the black blogosphere has treated her. When actual black women sit behind a mic and say “well there’s two sides to every story”, I know that the internalized self hate runs way deep. I’m glad that the mainstream media is treating it correctly. This and the coverage of FKA Twigs story is giving me hope for our daughters.

    • Nanny to the Rescue says:

      Two sides? In which case, the shooting?
      Her not reporting it?
      Or WAP related?

      (How can there be 2 sides in the shooting story? There’s no logical reason to defend that.)

      • Noely says:

        I rolled my eyes so hard when I saw some people on this blog asked why Megan was out partying with friends during the pandemic in response to the articles about her getting shot.

        Like… that’s not the freaking point when SHE JUST GOT SHOT.

        I also agree on what she said about being “strong”. So many people confuse being strong with brushing everything off and pretending to not care about things that hurt you. I think that’s unhealthy. Megan got shot by someone she considered a friend, she should not have to act “strong” and pretend that it didn’t upset her at all.

  4. Kelly says:

    Great interview and she looks amazing on the cover!

  5. Rumer says:

    Was the guy who shot her charged?hope he is in prison for a long time

  6. Mignionette says:

    Agreed. We need to keep taking up space and not be gas lighted into silence.

  7. Sigmund says:

    Love all of her comments, especially about sex and WAP. She’s completely right. Just look at Snoop Dogg the other day complaining about it. Men are used to owning sex.

    • Otaku fairy says:

      So true. One of the downsides of sex being seen as something owned by men is that young women never, or almost never, get the chance to just enjoy being blatantly immodest or raunchy without the male gaze being used as the reason why it’s bad. Like she said though, it’s something that both sexes enjoy. Demanding that women give up something because of how men may feel about it is still the male gaze at work. Is our goal really still that unrealistic one of keeping lust out of men’s eyes, or is it teaching that you can be turned on and still treat others with basic respect as human beings, and are required to?

      Male artists also get to turn on both sexes without being dismissed when they discuss any form of abuse or inequality. Without being told that they need to admit to how their deliberately arousing people makes them partially to blame. It’s good that she’s not caving to that pressure either.

  8. Betsy says:

    I really like her, though I feel about 40 years older than her. She’s right about all of it.

  9. lucy2 says:

    Her comment about the conservative reaction was SPOT ON.

    • Otaku fairy says:

      It really was. She’s so right about then not wanting anybody to teach other people how to be comfortable with themselves part too. There’s always been a lot of paranoia about women getting the idea that they can say ‘no’ to certain values from seeing or watching other women. A lot of fear is expressed over feminists and progressives letting women ‘get away with’ being ‘sl**s’. Some religious women have even admitted to being worried that a woman’s effort to be classy and live by those values will no longer be expected and praised if it becomes unacceptable to treat women badly for openly rejecting them. The very first time I heard another woman say that, it the selfishness of it was shocking.
      Also, LOL at republicans thinking they still get to dictate who is and isn’t a female role model after what they’ve done. It’s so backward.

  10. Lucy says:

    I recently learned she’s training to become a nurse! That’s amazing. Also, the more I read about how that guy attacked, the worse it sounds. Poor Megan.

  11. wineforcats says:

    She is a National Treasure!! I love her so much

  12. Stacy Dresden says:

    Megan is one of those rare celebs who is talented, successful, pushing boundaries in a positive way, and easy to respect (unless you’re a Republican pearl clutcher type)

  13. outoftheshadows says:

    I love her. Her NYT op-ed was great, too, if you want to look it up. I’m older than she is by a good bit (46) but I’d rather see Megan as a role model for my daughter than any Republican “lady.”

  14. Jaded says:

    “I feel like men think that they own sex, and I feel like it scares them when women own sex.”

    This woman….*chef’s kiss*

  15. Imara219 says:

    I like Megan in theory but her skills just aren’t there for radio. I want to like WAP but the lyrics are so elementary. No one had a problem with artists like Lil Kim because of the network she surrounded herself with. I love her thoughts about the strong black woman myth and how determental it is for us.