Prince William & Harry’s greatest hope for reconciliation is ‘in the memory of Diana’

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Anna Pasternak was the author of the now infamous “Catherine the Great” Tatler cover story last year. The Duchess of Cambridge authorized friends and family to speak to Pasternak and the story Pasternak wrote was a masterpiece of shade. She managed to make Kate sound dull, lazy, hopelessly dependent on her mother, vapid and out-of-touch, all by accurately quoting Kate’s people. It was amazing. Anyway, Pasternak has a book out (about the Duchess of Windsor) and she’s been giving quotes about the Sussexit and the state of the Windsor klan these days. She said some words about William and Harry’s relationship:

One royal expert believes Prince William and Prince Harry will reconcile their differences for the sake of their late mother Princess Diana. A statue of the Princess of Wales, commissioned by the brothers in 2017 will be installed on what would have been her 60th birthday, BBC News previously reported. It will be unveiled on July 1st and the princes are scheduled to reunite at Kensington Palace for the occasion.

“The greatest hope of reconciliation lies in the memory of their mother,” royal author Anna Pasternak told Fox News. “That is what will unite them still today. I believe they will put their differences aside for her. And I believe there is a possibility of us witnessing that at the unveiling.”

She said there’s no doubt Harry’s relationship with William will require time and patience before it can ever be healed.

“Given what’s been put out there in the public arena, the brothers and the family look quite fragile at the moment,” she said. “But it’s clear they desperately need healing as they prepare to stand shoulder to shoulder in honor of their mother. And I think the grudges and the hurts seem to be building up on both sides and widening the rift between the brothers, as opposed to lessening it.”

[From Fox News]

I… disagree. I mean, I think it’s true that no matter what, William and Harry will always have a special bond because they are both Diana’s sons. I think there’s still such a shared history of trauma and grief. But what the two men have done with that trauma and grief has been so radically different, and no amount of PR photo-ops at a statue unveiling will make it better. William has to meet Harry halfway and Willy isn’t capable of that.

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  1. Tessa says:

    Unless William is civil to Meghan and stops the smear campaign, there will be no reconciliation.

    • aftershocks says:

      Totally agree with @Kaiser’s take. Commentators need to stop with all the BS sentimentality. Many of these talking heads have not been closely following the fakakta details of this sad royal saga post M&H falling in love and marrying. Only those of us who have closely followed know all of the gnarly, disgusting truths about KP crew led by Cain & Unable, with Smear-Momma Middle and crazy uncle adding their harmful nonsense.

      There will have to be sincere public apologies made to Meghan before any possibility of reconciliation (and I don’t see that ever happening). Harry is a gentleman, but he’s also a warrior. He ain’t playing the firm’s and the U.K. media’s games. He’s done with the gaslighting, scapegoating and disrespecting of his wife and children.

  2. Over it says:

    Kaiser, is there a reason you don’t appear on news networks to give your royal take? I mean you are insightful and honest and quite frankly incredible at this. You give unbiased honest accounts and observations.

  3. TheOriginalMia says:

    I think Anna is being incredibly naive and unrealistic. I mean…the brothers aren’t speaking because William is a racist twat towards Harry’s wife. For years, a decade at least, William has undermined his brother and when Meghan came into the picture, he simply tried to destroy her. William has done so much that has put Harry and Meghan’s emotional and personal health at risk with nary an apology in sight. Nah. They can stand shoulder to shoulder and the gulf between them will be the size of the Grand Canyon.

    • sunny says:

      And don’t forget his antics have resulted in risking the physical safety of themselves and their children by using the press to target Harry and Meghan resulting in probably increased threats by a certain derranged segment of the public.

      Yeah, I can believe that both men loved their mother but these two are on wildly different paths and William is actively trying to harm Harry and his family so reconciliation seems a big stretch. As has been said for years by the awesome posters to this site, reconciliation would require self reflection from William and a change in his behaviour and that seems *unlikely*

    • Jais says:

      Yeah this is an unrealistic take from Ana Pasternak, esp. in that William and Harry don’t even share the same memory of their mother. Their divergent reactions to the panorama interview do not suggest that the memory of their mother is necessarily going to bring them together at all.

  4. Vanessa says:

    I don’t why the royal reporters are still pulling this nonsense about a reunion between the brothers William and Kate spend five years are trying to destroy Meghan . The campaign against Meghan continue to this very day just this week William had his people call Meghan damage goods sociopaths but Harry is supposed to forget and forgive dump his family so that he can be part of a creep three way relationship between himself William and Kate to make the press happy.

    • Tessa says:

      I think there should be a grouping of some photographs about Peacemaker and William’s activities. The pics of the Flybe stunt, William and Kate glaring at Harry and Meghan, and so on.

  5. Eurydice says:

    Diana is dead. No statue or reconciliation is going to make any difference to her. Reconciliation is only worth something to those who are living. There’s a lot that Harry and William have to work through – if they are willing. I don’t see how that could happen, but I’m not them.

    • Tessa says:

      I think William is the one who is being so self righteous and feels himself so superior he won’t want to reconcile unless somehow Harry can leave Meghan and the children and come back as the third wheel. I think it is that bad. No reconciliation can happen under those conditions.

      • goofpuff says:

        Agreed. It takes two people to reconcile and if William is not interested in putting in the work, then there’s not reconciliation. Its not Harry’s job to capitulate to Will’s desires to please him. This isn’t the middle ages.

        Besides, if Will really wanted to reconcile, the constant smear campaign would not continue and KP would stop briefing against the Sussexes.

      • taris says:

        @tessa yes. the point is that reconciliation is not only needed, but can happen only if meghan is out of the picture. i mean, at this point, they’re so close to just saying it out loud. they’re not even self aware enough to realise that continuing to attack meghan will only push harry further away from the BRF. not to mention, it makes them look every bit the racists they are.

  6. Liz version 700 says:

    The RR are so childish in a way. They spent years helping William drive his brother and wife (with assorted babies) out of the country. Now, to sell a few papers they are demanding a reconciliation. Please. Some people are to toxic to invite back in your life period.

  7. Becks1 says:

    Yeah, reconciliation will only happen if William meets Harry halfway and everything that entails (ie stop the smear campaign, stop being a racist ass, apologize for prior behavior, etc) and I dont see that happening. How can William meet Harry halfway when William is convinced that he’s in the right? William doesnt see a problem with the smear campaign, or being a racist ass, or his behavior, and so on. So how can there be a reconciliation?

  8. WintryMix says:

    It’s so interesting to me to see how prevalent the view is that a family reconciliation is automatically a desired outcome. Do none of these people have any experience with truly toxic families where the best thing people can do is separate and detach for their own health and healing? The BRF needs a reconciliation to help them escape from this PR nightmare of their own making, that’s very clear. But why does Harry need a reconciliation? Why this assumption that returning to the warm embrace of his demeaning, manipulative, gaslighting, exploitative father and brother would somehow be worth it? Ugh.

    • one of the Marys says:

      @Wintrymix you articulated my questions very well, who is pushing for a reconciliation? Who is in desperate need of healing? It seems to me Harry is healing far, far away from his brother. I think the RF would prefer the appearance of a reconciliation for PR purposes. I think Harry is inclined to shine light into all the shadowy corners if they keep forcing his hand. God they’re dumb to think he won’t come at them with bigger guns if they won’t leave them alone

    • MipMip says:

      This.

      I wish we as a society and culture would drop the narrative that family is all that matters, at the expense of everything else. If you have a warm, loving family then that is probably true. But if you have a toxic family then continuing to engage with them is at the expense of your own mental and physical well-being.

      That being said, I don’t doubt that a lot of RR’s come from the same kind of stuff-upper-lip repressed British nonsense that perpetuates this kind of toxicity, so they are probably incapable of seeing that distance from toxic family members is actually a good thing.

      There is so much potential for a national conversation about mental health and families that could be had here but the ones controlling the narrative just double down on this bs. It’s a disservice to the entire UK.

    • fluffy_bunny says:

      Harry doesn’t need a reconciliation. I’m estranged from my family. I’m not looking to reconcile. I’m quite happy with it and Harry has every right to be happy with his estrangement. I think he’s only keeping in contact with the Queen and won’t have anything to do with them once she’s gone.

    • SarahCS says:

      I agree entirely. Sometimes it is healthier and better for everyone to live their own lives and move on. I am so much happier and better in myself now that I am estranged from the family member who caused me so much pain.

  9. Robert says:

    After the Queen passes and Charles becomes King. It will take a few years but the english will start questioning why they still have a monarchy. They will vote to get rid of it. So William will never be King. After this happens he might figure out it was all just stupid stuff. That is the only way he will apoligize. And maybe start to heal the rift. Or he will become even more bitter.

    • STRIPE says:

      I would like to think so too, but I also understand, from Brits I’ve talked to, that the most Brits just don’t care about them one way or another. There is some safety for them in the apathy of the general population.

      • SarahCS says:

        Sadly I agree, I’d vote them out today if I could but apathy is prevalent and I doubt that will change soon even when Liz goes.

      • Robin says:

        You’re right, Stripe. As a Brit, most of my friends don’t care about the royal family or follow any of the news around them. Public interest will never reach the fever pitch of Diana’s wedding, for example, or her awful death. The Queen’s passing will be a truly big moment felt throughout the nation – we’ve grown up with her; but, after that, apathy will entrench itself even more. Thing is, I come from a family of lawyers and solicitors who bang on about how the crown is root and branch within the system – they consider the monarchy an embedded legal functionary of sorts.

  10. Harper says:

    William couldn’t even act friendly to his brother at Philip’s funeral. William is never going to summon the humility required for reconciliation so the brothers will physically unite for the unveiling but that’s all. William benefits too much from Harry and Meghan being dragged in the press and that’s how it will stay.

  11. NotSoSimpleTaylor says:

    Given everything I’ve heard, I genuinely believe it will be a cold day in hell before these two ever reconcile. I don’t think they were ever truly close to begin with. I think William spent a large chunk of their childhoods bullying Harry (and I think he was trained to do that by his father) and what they consider “closeness” is the fact Harry allowed his brother to bully him for so many years. I think the shock is at how completely Harry walked away.

    • Julia K says:

      Exactly and true. They were never close. I know from personal experience that the oldest feels entitled and free to degrade and bully with no consequences. Meeting halfway will never happen. Walking away only solution.

  12. Curious says:

    William bullied Harry Wife Meghan to the point she had suicidal thoughts. plus he never welcomed Archie, his respond to how he feels about his Nephew is he already have a Nephew. he disregard his blood Nephew. to this day none of the royals have stopped the smear towards Harry/Meghan/ Archie and Lili Diana. there will be a cold day in hell before Harry/Meghan forgive William. they will be cordial and have very little contact with him. a man like William can’t be trusted .William had Jason spy on Harry/Meghan, he got no dirt on them, then Jason made up dirt to please William. William used the fake dirt and told his friends,his friends took it to the press.. the only thing Harry/William have in common is they share the same parents. Harry became a warrior and William became a jealous ,bitter, angry person. with no future then to be a king of a dying monarchy. William got no substance to him.

  13. Beatriz Somma Campos says:

    I am so sick of reading everywhere that they need to reconcile… sometimes it is not possible to reconcile. We need to normalize not being close to family when they are toxic. Maybe what they need is distance. And that’s fine.

    • aftershocks says:

      Exactly @Beatriz! The only reason some people like Pasternak are weighing in is because the British monarchy is still viewed in many quarters as a powerful institution, despite its obvious failings and rapidly increasing decline.

      Apparently, some people putting forth their two-cents have vested interest in pandering about ‘reconciliation.’ Or else, they are still wrapped up in and blinded by the fantasy of royalty, and by the overly sentimental romanticization of the young, grief-stricken Wales brothers. Those Diana funeral images from August 1997 are burned into the global public conscience.

      Harry and Meghan sincerely and enthusiastically gave royal life their all. But they refused to be used, abused, marginalized, slandered and gaslighted. They have saved their sanity, their marriage, and have protected their children’s lives by walking away. How they have courageously conducted themselves with so many odds against them should be a lesson for everyone.

  14. Athena says:

    Two people being in the same place at the same time for a brief moment is not a reconciliation.

  15. Merricat says:

    You don’t reconcile with your abusers, especially when they don’t admit the abuse.
    William has never had to sincerely apologize for anything in his life, and I think it is unlikely he will start now, unless he has some kind of out-of-body Scrooge experience, where he’s given the chance to see his past, present, and future. “While there’s life, there’s hope.”

  16. Athena says:

    William’s whole identity is tied to being a ffk. I don’t think he has a sense of who he is as a person outside of that title. The monarchy is his sole identity If he thinks there is a threat, real or imaginary he will fight because without that who is he. Without any personal accomplishments he cannot see pass this title.
    He’s dangerous, different time he would have his brother in the Tower. I’m certain if William thought he could get away with it he would erase Harris, Meghan and the kids.

  17. DS9 says:

    I don’t understand how reconciling in the memory of Diana is supposed to work when the entire problem is William’s rejection of their mother’s memory, legacy, and work ethic.

    Now if William wants to man up and start living and behaving more along the lines of Diana’s wishes for her boys, fine. But yeah… good luck

  18. Lowrider says:

    The will reconcile; Harry’s a compassionate person. He doesn’t seem the type to hold grudges, but I’m sure he views Bill in a different light.

    Harry had no problem talking to Kate at his grandfather funeral.

    • Curious says:

      they tried to kill his wife. and you think he should be compassionate? good lord , they tried to kill his wife. they refuse to accept his children, and you mean harry should be compassionate? good lord.

  19. Adrienne says:

    Why should Harry make ANY effort to reconcile when they’re still actively trying to smear him and his wife? They’re literally in the middle of investigating Meghan for “bullying” her staff, aka being black and expecting them to actually do the work she asked them to do. Harry showing up and standing shoulder to shoulder with Will doesn’t change that dynamic. I’m still hoping he just skips this ridiculous statue unveiling completely and sends a video message or something.

    • Adrienne says:

      Ugh it looks like Harry’s already left for the UK, so I wish him safe travels and that he gets in and out without being subjected to as much of the same horrible treatment he got during Prince Philips funeral.

      • Curious says:

        Harry will be fine. he got nothing to be ashamed off he will walk out there and give his speech with confidence. its his brother who will be ashamed with a tight jaw and a face of thunder.

      • BritDebbie says:

        @ Adrienne I hope that the reason why Harry is going is that he is asserting his right to take up his space as the son of Diana. He has the right to be there and I’m glad he is continually taking up space and just showing the world what complete shits the others are.

        If Harry hadn’t have spoken up on behalf of his mother from the outcome of the Bashir investigation, all we would have had was his Dad and other brother making out that she was tricked into making statements.

        They want to silence him and make him go away.

  20. Curious says:

    the monarchy is still using Diana, by letting her sons put a statue in her garden at KP, they gonna make millions. the Queen/Charles or any other member of the royal family is not attending as far as i have read. but Diana will be making them money . so its not a private garden,its a garden for the tourist to spend money and sit in that garden,admire Diana Statue, take pics, and whatever else they will be selling as souvenirs. Harry is not making a cent out of this .

    • BritDebbie says:

      @ Curious I’m hoping that the rest of the world are watching what is going on and boycott. As soon as the Royal family stop attracting tourists to the UK the faster they will be gone.

  21. MsIam says:

    Put their differences aside. Nice way to sum up gaslighting, racism and harassment. This woman is clueless.

    • Curious says:

      these press people are insane. these are not simple disagreement like many of us go through. and grow out of it . this is about how they trying to cripple Harry/Meghan from working .so no one will want to work with them.. Harry must have read that William called his wife a ‘bloody bit ch’. so while William is bashing Harry wife,Harry should be all nice to William?Harry is not bashing anyone ,nor is he every day speaking negative things about his brother and his wife to the press , all he did was talk about how he got treated for mental health issues. that was going on since his mother died.Harry came from a very dysfunctional family ,cheating and lies and mental abuse was going on from before he was born and after his birth.

    • Tessa says:

      Gross how the bots cheer William on for trashing Meghan. Just disgusting.

  22. Amelia says:

    “Royal Correspondents have been denied access to the event with just one press association reporter allowed inside the grounds and a photographer and two camera operators.
    It comes after Prince Harry said he would no longer participate in the “royal rota” system, accusing some elements of the media of “control by fear”.”

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