Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas celebrated their 20th wedding anniversary last November. Catherine and Michael have a 25-year age gap. Age differences can cause a stir at the start of a relationship but once a couple passes the 15-20 year mark, we tend to overlook them. Catherine recently participated in the Wall Street Journal’s My Monday Morning series. Since her marriage has survived 20 years in Hollywood, they asked her the secret to their success. Catherine said it’s having a sense of humor and the understanding that a relationship is going to have ups and downs. The WSJ article is behind a paywall, so I am using an excerpt from Just Jared.
Catherine Zeta-Jones is opening up about her marriage.
The 51-year-old actress revealed the secret to her successful marriage to Michael Douglas in an interview with the Wall Street Journal.
“First of all, we have a lot of fun together,” Catherine said. “My husband is 25 years older than me; that’s not a secret. With any relationship, it wouldn’t be normal if there weren’t any ups and downs. The constant is love and respect. We’ve never, ever lost our sense of humor, and we enjoy each other’s company.”
She added, “My husband and I spend a lot of time together because, unlike so many couples, we’ve never had a 9-to-5 job where it’s consistent. We’re either on or we’re off. I’m really working 16 hours a day, or I’m not. He’s doing the same, or not. So we’ve had in our relationship huge amounts of time where we’ve been just us. We lived on the island of Bermuda for 12 years bringing up our kids. We respect each other’s space, and our humor is just long-lasting.”
I laughed a little at Catherine’s casual reference to “ups and downs” because her marriage has had some pretty major ups and downs. Their relationship emerged from the explosive end to Michael’s marriage to Diandra Lurker. However, I’ll bet if most married folks looked back on their relationships, we’d find that we went through a lot more crap together than we thought.
I whole-heartedly agree on the humor part. It doesn’t work for everyone, but it works in my family and it sounds likes it’s working for Catherine and Michael as well. I think the same is true about Catherine’s comments on the amount of time she and Michael spent together – it’s couple specific. I know a (childless) couple who travel for work separately. They spend maybe half their year together and couldn’t be happier in their situation. I know another couple that hates it if they are kept apart for more than an average 9-5 work-week. In the end, Catherine and Michael have had some wonderful ups and some devastating and scary downs. They fought through them and came out the other side. They’ll celebrate their 21st anniversary this year, defying most naysayers’ odds about them as a couple. They’ve stood by each other during critical health issues and seem happy. Good for them.
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