The summer of Bennifer: Waxed, Vaxxed and Relaxed. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez have been together since mid to late April, although it’s good to remember that Ben was totally pursuing her back in February, when he began writing her emails full of love and longing. Ben was clearly pursuing Jennifer and they were having some kind of emotional (pandemic) affair for a few months. Jen barely took a breath between A-Rod and Ben and it’s been smooth early-00s sailing ever since. The Bennifer revival is real and it is amazing. How amazing? They feel like their true love is the real deal and like they’ve been together for years, not months, and they are committed to spending the rest of their lives together. Oh.
Made for each other! Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are “both thrilled” by “how seamlessly” they’ve fallen back into each other’s lives following their jaw-dropping reunion, a source exclusively reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly.
“The past few months have been a real whirlwind,” the insider says. “They’re well aware some cynics still look at it as a big flashy attention grab and roll their eyes at the speed of it all, but it doesn’t faze them one iota. They’re fully committed to taking the next steps and spending the rest of their lives together.”
When it comes to their quick reconciliation, the “Get Right” singer and Affleck don’t think “they’re rushing things,” per the source. “It feels like they’ve been together again for years, not months. As far as they’re both concerned, they’re just blessed to have found each other and discovered true love, which most people can only ever dream about.”
Though they may not have gotten their happy ending the first time around, “there’s not a single doubt in their mind[s] that this is [not] going to work,” the source tells Us. “Everything that went wrong in the past can only serve them in a positive way this time around.”
Lopez was previously married to Ojani Noa from 1997 to 1998, to Cris Judd from 2001 to 2003, and to Marc Anthony from 2004 to 2014. She shares 13-year-old twins Emme and Max with the “Home All Summer” crooner, 52, and is “looking forward to getting to know” Affleck’s three children as their relationship progresses. (The Gone Girl actor shares Violet, 15, and Seraphina, 12, and Samuel, 9, with ex-wife Jennifer Garner.)
“Family and kids are everything to [J. Lo],” the source notes, adding that Lopez wants to “respect” Garner, 49, as much as possible. “She’s more than willing to be patient and do this at a pace that’s comfortable to all parties, there’s no rush.”
Go ahead and yell at me but I’m rooting for them! Y’all know I’m rooting for them. I hope they get married! I hope they last for years! I hope they go to the Met Gala together in September. I hope they go to all of the awards shows next year. I hope he gives her a new pink diamond ring! I hope they buy a big yacht and they recreate the “Jenny From the Block” video entirely. Let’s do this. Now, do I think that all of that will realistically happen? Probably not! But much like Bennifer, I’m trying to manifest this.
Photos courtesy of Backgrid.
You know J.Lo will get sick of Ben’s crap by end of summer, right? And who can blame her? He bailed on her once, he’ll bail on her again.
After all these years and Ben is the one she gets back with? I personally have been rooting for her and Marc Anthony.
What? you mean ben will be over after valentine’s day 2022 and Jen will have to break up becuase he wont do it. who is planting those stories in the press – it’s so ridiculous. “they’re just blessed to have found each other and discovered true love, which most people can only ever dream about.” True love most people can only ever dream about? LOL this screams JLo’s state of mind. Very into herself, very “what I have no one has” when clearly what she had, nobody wanted: um that 23 year old backup dancer cheating in strip clubs? A-Rod?? Ben Affleck??? Ben affleck 2021 is no ben affleck from the 2000. She needs that narrative of “i know it’s exceptional, you can’t understand cuz it couldnt possibly happen to you” to convince herself that this 2.0 after being cheated on 17 years ago with stripdancers is amazing and something we can only dream about. Jlo is too extra Ben will not be able to take it.
Which one of the two has been watching Sex/Life?????!!! Just saying…………
This is another case of dueling PR. This is Jennifer’s people and Ben’s people are the ones saying he won’t be moving in with her. Negotiating through the press.
This is going to end the same way it did 17 years ago. Jennifer is way more invested and Ben just isn’t that into her. He is way too concerned with what her campy, goofy diva show does for his Cool Intellectual cred.
Oh I know, I’m just gobsmacked about how stupid Jenny is being.
WHAT?!? Jenny slow doooown girl!
He seems unstable, after years of watching his life in the press this doesn’t surprise me for him.
But Jenny! Slow it down! Where’s the fire?! I know she always has to have a relationship, but doesn’t she always move at lightning speed!!?
He looks so rundown, like he got dragged into this
He got dragged into nothing. He went after her hard. And if I read him right, and I think I do, he’s not beyond walking right up to Arod and laughing in his face. This is what he wanted. Now, I know his history and could he break bad again? Sure. But nobody, nobody, dragged Ben into this.
Yeah, isn’t his MO to pursue hotly and then lose interest, ultimately ending things by behaving like a nasty little self-indulgent man-child? I don’t blame anyone who forgives someone, believing them to be capable of growth. Affleck seems like someone who believes his own BS until he doesn’t. As my mom would say, “He’s in love with his idea of love.”
Do I have a bias against him? Yup. Based solely on the behavior that’s we’ve observed and that has been reported. So I don’t trust him to stay committed.
Yep that is his MO. He doesn’t get dragged into anything, he’s the hot pursuer, good phrase. I do hope this lasts and he’s gotten his act together. I have a big soft spot for him, I don’t know why. I love his films, that’s probably why. I’d hate to see him backslide, but I know it definitely can happen. Real change is hard.
I honestly think they’ve been having an emotional affair for years, because didn’t JLo’s mom email him for advice when she was divorcing Marc and then there were reports that he whispered stuff in her ear at the Oscars a few years ago (when she wore the princess gown with the ponytail) and she giggled. When they saw they were both single at the same time, they made the emotional affair, physical. I am rooting for these two crazy kids, I think they’re IT for each other, early 2000s was right people, wrong time.
Give him a break. Addictions are ongoing battle people why so much empathy with other people ex Sussexx and no with him?. Everyone has the right to changed and try something and if it doesnt work so what? they both enjoyed it. Chill pill people BENNIFER FOREVER
Excellent point Darla!
@ Darla
Ben got JL just like when he sent her flowers & had them delivered in front of Chris Judd, her then husband! Ben likes the thrill of the chase &he seems to enjoy the hunt.; however that feeling of victory wears off & he is on the hunt again!
How do you drag a grown man into a relationship against his will?
Dragged into the PR circus, yes. Dragged into the relationship, no.
I could see her publicity thirst sinking this ship.
Agreed, I think he was into it at first but these ridiculous pap walks and constant PR updates seem to be wearing him down. It’s gotten sophomoric.
I’m not seeing this relationship lasting to “death do us part”. Ben will bail like he did last time and JLo will be crushed again. Hope I’m wrong though.
I agree. And I think she deserves better tbh.
Weren’t they fully committed to spending the rest of their lives together during the OG go around, or their spouses/sig others? This is going to be deliriously messy and awesome and old school gossip. Have to say I’m loving it. (Feel bad for the kids)
Can you imagine being 13 or 14 and your mom is like this? At least their kids have their other parents.
Messy Marc? Really?
At least he isn’t embarrassing his kids and putting his business out there for all to see. At least the kids get some discretion from one parent.
This is my best friend’s mom. She has never been without a man and she’s always been completely extra about it. Making out with the new young, non-English-speaking boyfriend at Thanksgiving dinner among a bunch of people who don’t speak his language- including bf’s mom, playing grab ass with the family doctor at the family reunion, dating her teachers and coaches. When she was denied a plus one to best friend’s wedding, she spent the whole night making moves on the groomsmen who were half her age and getting sloppy on the dance floor before disappearing with the groom’s uncle. Best friend barely has a relationship with her bc she is so self-centered. I can’t imagine being 13 and my mom fawning all over a guy who clearly didn’t like her as much she likes him, pole-dancing for the paparazzi
ok thank you, I have been wondering if other people find it very strange for the kids when their parent is constantly falling in love and introducing them to new ‘family’ only to have it dissolve in 6 months to a year.
I’m rooting for it too, I don’t care when people yell or laugh at me about it. Which only happens here btw. lol. This is the only place I post online other than twitter though. I think it’s great! I hope they last, good for them.
I think they love eachother, but Ben is an addict. I admire his work ethic, and he is very talented. But, I feel like he is a ticking time bomb.
He was happy with Ana, then suddenly they broke up, and he made sure her cardboard cutout was thrown in the garbage for everyone to see. Ana also didn’t have children. It was all about Ben.
After seeing Emme’s face last weekend, this blending of families is going to be a struggle. I am still hoping this all works out.
I don’t think Ben is in a healthy place. He’s self destructive and this relationship will implode, as they all do. I feel sorry for their kids who are old enough to feel the full brunt of this train wreck.
I’m with you, Darla! I don’t care if this implodes – until then I want it to burn brightly so we can all bask in the glory of wild, irrational, early 00s love. It’s delicious and bad for everyone involved! It’s like Taylor and Burton! It’s like the early days of Angie and Brad! It’s like a big slice of cake on a bad day! Why be a spoilsport and count the calories with every bite?
I’m just gonna say it, one of them has barely aged a day since their first romance and the other one is on fast forward.
One of them filters their photos to hell and back though…
She filters all videos and all photos from paparazzi? I saw her feet away from me in concert and she looks the same she does in pics.
Okay. There is a marked difference to my eye (very noticeable in the header pic) and I’m not alone in that. Guess it’s the “olive oil”
JLo has aged much more than a day and looks every day of her age in non-photoshopped pics. Pap pics also get photoshopped, when they’re your own paps that you called yourself, which they usually are.
Those quotes about the relationship ! Does that person live in the real world or fairy tale land? Do people really talk like that? Did J. Lo sign off on those quotes I wonder? The story would have been all about her and ending with Rodriguez if she hadn’t picked up with Affleck. It seems real but it also had real p.r. value for her. So… we’ll see. They just seem so different (which can work) but who knows?!
Hi Tinnie,
I was just going to say that – thank you! “They’re well aware some cynics still look at it as a big flashy attention grab and roll their eyes at the speed of it all, but it doesn’t faze them one iota.” Just the fact that they know they have to go out there and make that statement (to quell the naysayers) is a red flag. I agree – this has been PR gold for her.
Wondering if JLo is thinking clearly. You cannot commit to a gambler, cheater and substance abuser in the first two months after getting back together. Remember why you broke up the first time and then give it about a year at least before committing. I can see her daughter and son not looking 2 happy in most of their photos I see on the internet. I hope she slows down before commenting. As someone who had worked with substance abusers I remember saying to them don’t try to convince me you have changed, I will see by your actions in a few years if you did change.
This is a rushed mess. Neither one of them talked all that positively about their previous relationship, particularly Ben Affleck. I cannot see this working out, and I feel bad for the kids (who they seem to be getting involved already).
Such a rushed mess. I can’t help but 🙄🙄🙄
Agree. The victims in this story are the kids and unfortunately their parents don’t understand the damage they are doing to their mental health. Money and fame are not enough for a happy life. Nobody can force any of the children to like each other or to become friends or to like the new person in parents life. Actually, this is a huge problem for a marriage with kids from different families. Jealousy and hate for the new person and the kids can create chaos.
JG isn’t going to have her children anywhere near this—and whatever else Ben Affleck is, he is on board with JG where those kids are concerned. JLo really needs to turn over some rocks and find some chill somewhere.
It’s true and for the saddest of reasons. Ben thinks Jennifer and her family are trashy, tacky, and beneath him. He totally thinks he’s slumming it, just like last time.
Jennifer Garner just likely wants to keep her kids away from Ben’s mess and JLo’s diva circus.
So true. JLo needs to take a deep cleansing breath, slowly exhale, and think clearly about HER children. Not later, right now, because he knows where, with whom, and what HIS children are doing: baking, walking their dogs, feeding chickens, playing sports, and going to church on Sunday. And he wants and likes it that way.
I totally agree. JG is looking like the only adult in all of this. Like it or not, once you have kids and get divorced, what’s best for your kids has to factor into your decisions. You can’t just chase true love – you are a parent before you are an autonomous person able to find your own happiness. Does that mean you can NEVER seek another relationship? Of course not, but you cannot make decisions solely based on your own needs anymore.
His son was already with them and her children. If JG doesn’t know about this, she knows now.
Go away. Please please go away. Take time for yourself. Think of your children, who were very close to your old boyfriend’s children & now are being forced around a new set of children. You walked away from each other when there was NO baggage, when it was easy & you only had yourselves to think of. Thing long & hard before dragging your children down this vortex. A-Rod is a douche bag but Ben wrote the book.
I still blame Puffy for JLo
My thoughts exactly. Take a breather from your broken engagements. She just can not go any amount of time on her own. I grew more as a person during my time on my own than any of the times married.
Your last line about Puffy? Yeah he got her the Selena movie, right? She is a legendary icon and broke down so many barriers for Latinos everywhere, but yeah she owes it all to a man.
Rita Moreno, Selena, Joan Baez are women with talent that broke barriers in the Latin community. JLo is a package & while I don’t doubt that she has opened many doors she doesn’t have the talent to be considered an icon. Most of what we hear about JLo is her personal life and she is quite thirsty to be in the public eye which is unusual for those with iconic status .
She is really beautiful & works really hard but she isn’t all that talented (clearly my opinion) Had she not had Puffy’s help no one would know who she is. My comment about Puffy was mostly tongue in cheek. But it’s funny because it’s true
Are you Latinx? Because if you’re not, please don’t tell Latinxs who their icons are. Thank you!
I will never forget the day I was making disparaging comments about the talent of some pop star or other, and my boss paused and said to me, “but could you or any of us do better?” of course the answer was no, because that pop star was objectively talented, even if I was subjectively not into her schtick.
objectively, Jlo is a talented entertainer – no amount of luck, connections, money or pr could carry her this far without talent. she may not be your cup of tea, and there may be *more* talented entertainers, but come on.
I agree ElleV. I don’t think she’s a particularly a talented singer or actor, but she’s a good entertainer, and great at being a celebrity.
She did Selena, Out of Sight, and her first album before she even met Puff Daddy. She was always going to be famous and a big star. The green Versace moment and the following tabloid frenzy over their relationship gave her a boost, but she was already on her way.
Here for all of it! Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton Part Deux!
Ha! They should go to Big Sur and roll in the sand on the beach as the waves crash around them and a couple of paps hide in the trees. That would be so Prince of Tides.
Talking about spending the rest of their lives together and then how patient she is, there’s no rush…all in the same breath. JLo will never learn
Nope, she won’t. And he won’t either. They both repeat the same patterns over and over, and I have no reason to think this will be any different.
I’m rooting for them too.
Ugh. These people have 5 kids, who are just getting to know each other and their parent’s new partner. Slow the hell down.
With ARod, it was all about how seamlessly the families blended. This time it’s just trotting out the kids for the pap stroll. Max, in particular, looks OVER IT.
I think critics expect too much of people, I think these two can be happy together even if it’s not perfect, they look like they fit pretty well
Why do these wildly rich, very successful, middle-aged people need to announce every little thing they do?! I guess no amount of money can fill that need for attention.
This! There are celebrities who’ve had an actual baby and not a soul knew until they wanted you to. i would find the insane attention whoring of these two hysterically funny if their kids, especially hers weren’t being dragged into it. They have to publicly meet another man and his kids again, right after they’ve lost the man and kids they had in their lives for 3 yrs. They have to move again. They have to go to new schools again. They will probably end up living with someone else again. They will have to go through another break up , publicly again.
Yes to all of this, Mel! It’s wildly selfish. Y’all are teaching your five kids about relationships with this stunting and none of it is healthy.
Yup, there is a reason for all this, they could be quiet and secretive if they wanted. Curious about the behind the scenes contracts and agreements. It has to be about money and attention.
I guess it’s that they do not know how to handle getting old, that they are no longer participants but observers of the game
I’ve been cheated by you since I don’t know when
So I made up my mind, it must come to an end
Look at me now, will I ever learn
I don’t know how, but I suddenly lose control
There’s a fire within my soul
and I can hear a bell ring
(One more look) and I forget everything, whoa
Mamma mia, here I go again
Please. They are one awards show joke from breaking up.
Seriously. This is so sad and pathetic.
The phrase “ tempting fate” comes to mind…
Yawn!
WHY!!!??? They are exes for a reason.
Ahh good one. I do love a comedy story to end the week.
Lord, I’m already sick of their bs. When are they breaking up?
I find it hard to believe that he won’t eventually take his Viagra and look for a younger woman. She looks amazing, obviously, but I don’t see him sticking with a woman in her 50s – even when he’s in his 70s, honestly.
I am only rooting for the children. These two can mess up their lives.
Such b.s. She is using him like she has used every other guy. She will dump him when he has served his purpose or she finds someone newer and better. Poor kids are collateral damage. I am a fan of hers professionally but not personally.
Living large. Living loud. I know there are a lot of naysayers, but so whattttt…
I hope they last. If not, they are doing it the way they want to do it.
JLo really disgusts me. She was saying she was SOOO in love with ARod and wanted to spend her life with him. Exactly two seconds later, she’s SOOO in love with Ben and wants to spend her life with him. That’s just so gross… She always has to be seen as desirable and has to have a man by her side. How can she be so insecure?! And she is a terrible role model for her kids, jumping from relationship to relationship, unable to stand tall without a man/relationship, and introducing her kids to each new guy trying to play “family.”
I don’t recall JLo ever trying to convince anyone she was madly in love with ARod actually. I think they tried to convince us they were a perfect match and perfectly compatible but neither pushed the passion aspect of their relationship.
I really believe she’s still be with Alex if Ben hadn’t been e-mailing her letting her know he was game to be her jump off back in February.
It is true that she did want to spend her life with him, so much so, that she moved to Miami to be with him – Jennifer has always been L.A. based. However, ARod continuously cheated on her throughout their 4-year relationship. He has cheated on EVERY female he has ever been linked with. How long was Jennifer suppose to put up with the abuse? You stated “Exactly two seconds later, she’s SOOO in love with Ben…”. I don’t know how old you are but Jennifer and Ben Affleck were once engaged about 20 years ago, and she did not just fall in love with him. She never stopped loving him, clearly.
This is going to end badly 🙁 And the dueling PR again. It’s obvious Ben thinks Jlo’s team is going a little overboard with the sources. His team just basically said the opposite about the US Weekly article and not moving in together.
Anyone see the blind about the 3 of them? Either ARod or Ben gave her the clap… If it’s true of course. And she’s pissed (supposedly she doesn’t know which one gave it to her!) My money’s on ARod. That dude’s always been dirty!
What?? Clap? Never saw that story. How do you go about telling your new bf that you have a little(ahem) problem and you should see your Dr.
OMG that would be so rough, maybe it’s really common in Hollywood. Yikes.
“And the dueling PR again. It’s obvious Ben thinks Jlo’s team is going a little overboard with the sources. His team just basically said the opposite about the US Weekly article and not moving in together.”
lmaooooo
For the life of me, I can’t understand how people are rooting for this. Ben is a trainwreck and JLo can’t be single for more than 30 seconds and has a collection of engagement rings in her jewelry box. What’s worse is both have children that are now involved with this mess.
I haven’t been enjoying this reunion. This was always going to happen the way JLo is with men. No way was it just some summer fling.
THIS.
She gets carried away. He loves her larger-than-life kind of love, but it eventually starts to feel smothering to him. That’s how how you know they’re at the beginning of the end.
I’m just here for the matching outfit and exasperated face comments! 🤣
I want to see a picture of Ben smiling like jlo.
I think they are incredibly self absorbed. In my opinion she is trying to hurt Jen Garner because he obviously was in love with Jen when they were together.
They were married and had a baby within a year. No, she did not trap him into marrying her🙄
Ben would go back to Jen Garner in a heartbeat if she would take him.
JLo has stated that she looks forward to being a stepmom to Ben’s kids.
It’s not a coincidence that Ben posted that glowing IG and adorable pictures of their family on Mother’s Day about Jen.
JLo is behaving beyond sad and desperate. I would feel sorry for her if there were no children involved in the fiasco she is creating.
I don’t know how anyone can find this fun summer gossip. She obviously is a very insecure, insensitive person.
I feel like I’m watching a car crash in slow motion. Man, I feel so sorry for Jen. This isn’t gonna end well.
Uff. Late yo the party, but is this post being assaulted by Arod fans? Lots of negative comments about Jlo, as if she is the only one in this relationship and Arod was the wronged party. I don’t believe for a second that Ben is so averse to paparazzi now, after he basically kept the industry going during the early months of the pandemic (or have we forgotten his daily strolls with Ana?)
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I am rooting for them too. I don’t find them any more annoying than others.
I don’t know why kids be affected much? They will rather prefer their mom have hope of something else than sad and crushed over being dumped or cheated on for years or months to come. It probs would have brought nothing for her all she did was to be sad and crushed and spend years in sorrow after Ben broke up? Same deal here not?
She sounds she just don’t get deep with people to move on quick but after it’s over it’s better to move on if you find someone around. Distract and start over. It seem to work for her. May be not for everyone.
Their bonding with A rod kids can continue as friends in long future if there is a want. With their parents break up it’s is very difficult to put it where it was right now. Difficult for any kids in this kind of situation not? But it’s what it is. Kids may want you get back but if their is no want with the couple for it then It is not gonna be.so..
um, no.
So you believe that her kids enjoy having to get to know and live with EVERY man she gets involved with ?? No, children do NOT enjoy having their home life disrupted continually, especially when they’ve created an entire family unit. All of this is is on display for public consumption. This is bad parenting 101 and if this was an average person behaving this way no one would think this was okay. You model relationships to your kids, she isn’t doing a great job.
Despite having children, JL still is trying to be & act like she did in the 2000’s. No doubt, JL.is attractive & in great shape, BUT I think people would actually see her attractiveness without all the mak-up & filters to start. That video of her new song & the pics are actually embarrassing! She is trying way too hard too look desirable & sexy! Less is more & way more sexy! Ana DeArmas’s commercial for the Diamond industry is classy & beautiful & Ana is 18 ( almost 19 yrs younger)
The problem with Ben is that he wants a stripper serving him beer behind closed doors but he also wants a classy, intelligent, beautiful woman!
Ben’s camp was very quick to squash the rumor that they were moving in together! I think Ben will go along with some of her PR, but if Ben isn’t moving in with JL, he obviously isn’t marrying her anytime soon…
BA is an overgrown man child with serious addiction problems, gambling, booze.
JGarner has always been the adult, and she has done the heavy work of being the stable parent with their kids.
JLo is an extremely successful and wealthy celeb who goes from man to man for decades, even after having children.
I despise that behavior in both sexes. Chaos, instability, emotional upheaval for the kids.
IMO, how awful for all the kids. It must feel like constantly changing school, always adjusting to whatever new situation your parents are in, you are being given a signal that you are extra baggage to the current significant other.
Pictures tell a lot. Jennifer does & hasn’t looked happy & she looks older. I feel she got major hurt & turned to Ben to get back at Alex. We all know she just should have worked on herself but I guess she’s a slow learner
I find it better than being a single- bitter who spend years of hating your ex who cheated on you or you think wrong you in some way not?
They may or may not last but it’s way better.
I don’t understand why dating an old ex causing all this. Stories that are self given or made up will be when there is interest in the coupledom not? Ahhh
Ben needed a confidence boost after Benana. Jlo always provides that; she thinks he hung the moon, and she’s never made any secret of that.
But Ben hates himself as much as he loves himself, so eventually all those worshipful gazes make him uncomfortable, and he stops respecting her.
She made much of how close her children were to Arod’s kids. She can’t put them through that kind of emotional whiplash and expect them to be happy about it. Good grief.
I keep thinking that Ben needs to just be by himself and get a good therapist to work on the why of his self destructive behavior. Doesn’t he have any really close friends who can talk with him?
Jennifer Lopez is fully committed to one thing: bringing home an oscar. This renewed romance brings her one step closer… Ben will open the vault just like he did for his brother.
Seems the blended family is getting bigger. At Universal today, Sera with Sam and Emme.
The picture’s of him and the children today at Universal Studio are truly heartbreaking. Those kids look horrified.
I expected more from Jen Garner. She needs to step in and protect her kids from this situation.
You and I must be looking at different pictures because those children did not look horrified…at all.
I don’t think JG wants to stop Ben. Sam & Sera obviously want to spend time with their dad.
If JG doesn’t permit this, she would be hurting her children & she has encouraged them to have a relationship with their father…
That is a good point! His children do seem to have a good relationship with him.
I wish that they didn’t have to do it in front of all of the paparazzi.