Ben Affleck is not ready to move in with J.Lo: ‘He’s very settled in his home’

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck go for an evening stroll in The Hamptons

Are Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez moving in together? That’s the question percolating through the interwebs this week for some reason. I mean, I get it – they went from “hanging out” to “we’re back together” in the space of about a week. They’re already vacationing together and flying around the country to spend time with each other. Jennifer is relocating from Miami to LA to be closer to Ben full-time, and she’s already enrolling her kids in LA schools. So are they moving in together or nah? Us Weekly says yes:

Getting serious! Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are ready to take the next step in their relationship, a source exclusively reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly.

“Ben and Jen are spending almost every night together when they’re not working,” the insider shares. “They plan on moving in together very soon.”

“As far as Jen sees it, she and Ben have their whole lives now to set things up in a comfortable way,” the insider adds. “She intends to be an involved stepmom who’s there for Ben in that area, plus she’ll want him to make the same effort with her and Marc’s kids.”

[From Us Weekly]

There’s a big difference between “maintaining separate spaces and spending as much time as possible with your new partner” versus “moving in together and having one space for two people.” Even though A-Rod and J.Lo were engaged for years, they still maintained separate homes in Miami, because they were that rich and they could do it that way, and it was probably easier on the kids too. Which is why I kind of believe E! News’ version of events:

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck have ticked many relationship milestones off their list, like meeting the parents and taking vacations together, but a source close to the Batman star exclusively tells E! News these two are holding off on moving in together.

“Ben is very settled in his home and it’s close by to his kids,” the source explains. “Jennifer’s house is also a place she likes being and is a good family home.”

The insider notes that their relationship is “going well as is,” so the pair sees no need for either of them to relocate anytime soon. The source simply says, “They are both back and forth to each other’s homes and live close enough that it’s not an issue.”

Moreover, the couple gets their fair share of time together, whether it’s on a staycation in Miami or going out to dinner with her two kids, Emme and Max.

While fate played a role in bringing her and Ben together after her split from fiancé Alex Rodriguez, a source previously confirmed Jen left her rental home in Miami so she could be closer to him. The insider said, “She is excited about a fresh start and pursuing things with Ben.”

And Ben is putting in the effort, too. In June, an insider said he’s “totally won the family over with his charm,” including her kids who “think he’s funny.”

[From E! News]

Yeah, if you can afford it and you’re not looking to press your young kids into a quick blended family, why not maintain separate homes for a while? I kind of enjoy the fact that Ben’s camp is shutting this down too, because it’s felt like J.Lo’s people have been the ones doing most of the talking in the gossip press. Ben isn’t ready to move in and he doesn’t see a reason to. He’s right.

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck go shopping with her kids in The Hamptons

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck go shopping with her kids in The Hamptons

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  1. NotSoSimpleTaylor says:

    I admire all that Jennifer Lopez has done in her life. She is a woman worthy of admiration and respect. But where she thrives on certain areas in her life, she is an absolute idiot when it comes to love. She is going to find herself as high and dry as she did the first time.

    • Truthiness says:

      She comes across as a stage 5 clinger with boundary issues. Uprooting your tween kids and moving them a thousand miles away one or two months into a relationship is bad enough, talking about being an ‘involved stepmom’ is repulsive at this stage. I wouldn’t want JLo to teach my kid anything save for workout or dance tips. Can you imagine her trying to give his daughters makeovers/clothes like she does for Ben?

      • LMR says:

        Yes on that, especially since the kids have friends and, oh I don’t know, a DAD in Miami? Is that where Marc Anthony lives? Or is he in Puerto Rico or NY?

        In any case, step back and chill out Jennifer. You have had zero recoil time since your breakup with Alex. Use that time to focus on YOU. Affleck is a disaster. I live in a city I hate so my kids can have both parents in the same town. And I would do it again.

  2. Serena says:

    The first article is ridiculous, especially this “She intends to be an involved stepmom”, stepmoms after a few months of dating? That’s simply absurd and offensive.

    • jccw says:

      Agree 110%!

    • Robyn says:

      “Bless her heart!” – Jennifer Garner, probably.

      • AnneSurely says:

        If I were advising Jennifer Garner, I would tell her to pack up the kids and go spend the summer in West Virginia with her parents. Get them right out of the middle of this circus. Easier to establish her own narrative and create distance from this mess while shielding the kids.

  3. Me says:

    He’s had the acceptable white wife and children. He’s done. It’s going to be ladies with no commitment from here on out, unless he gets sick and becomes frightened of dying alone. He’s got just about enough bandwidth for his own kids and a blended family is probably more work than he’s willing to do at this point. That’s not a knock—better not to make promises you aren’t going to keep. I think Ms. Shookus had expectations that he couldn’t meet. Of course JLo loves a rescue dog.

    • Nicole says:


    • AnneSurely says:

      This exactly. At the most, we’ll see him accidentally knock up one of his young chippies and play older daddy for a few years, but this is the type of man who will be on his own for the rest of his life until he needs to be cared for by his ex wife in his later years.

  4. Liz version 700 says:

    Geez US I hope they aren’t ready to move in together…this rekindled romance has been like what a few months? To even be having the discussion with multiple sets of children involved?!?

  5. Kate says:

    He shut it down so quickly. Ouch!

    • myjobistoprincess says:

      ouch yes but i’m thinking that’s probably a JenGarner planting the response.

    • LaurenMichelle says:

      Ben wants to live at his house and resume his routine of daily Dunkin’ & Amazon deliveries.

  6. Jayna says:

    This was the dumbest article I’ve ever read. They’ve only just gotten involved again. Ben has three kids that barely know Jennifer not her kids. Who in their right mind would believe it’s even on his radar to move in with her and her kids? No one.

  7. HeatherC says:

    Uh oh! Dueling narratives already! Trouble in paradise?

  8. Carolnr says:

    Ben had commented & proved that he is not “husband material.” I think Ben is happy with the way things are now,maintaining separate homes & dating. This is probably the most sensible statement that has been made about them! Living together is a huge commitment & step, especially when you both have children. Gwyneth Paltrow even maintained 2 homes after she re-married for her children to adjust. I am not particularly a fan of hers, but she seemed to put her children first.
    I do think that JL would move in with Ben in a heartbeat if he gave the green light …

  9. Robyn says:

    Againiffer needs to get their PR on the same damn page!

  10. Mary says:

    Jennifer’s camp is way too pushy with all these leaks and I think it’s gonna annoy Ben sooner rather than later, especially with him getting Benny Medina fired when they were together during bennifer 1.0.

    • MaryContrary says:

      Yep. You think she would have learned that the first time around? 1)He’s an addict-if he’s not using alcohol he definitely still gambling 2) He is chronically unfaithful 3) He likes the chase and 4)he doesn’t want the narrative that they’re madly in love and he’s setting combining households. Jennifer Lopez is so smart with her business but so painfully oblivious with her love life.

  11. Lena says:

    That US weekly article is just one huge cringe embarrassment. I’m surprised Ben didn’t come right out and and disavow it by name, but this is pretty much throwing cold water on the main bullshit. I mean talk about offensive: ‘’they’ve discovered true love, which most people can only ever dream about.” Umm, me and many others who are married take exception to that sweetheart. And talking about ‘’intending to be an involved stepmom’’ before there’s even a wedding (or even engagement?). Jen needs to calm the fuck down. Did she forget who she’s dealing with?

  12. a0 says:

    Us Weekly has gone so downhill. It’d be funny to think their PRs are duelling publicly but it feels more like Us Weekly made this up and Ben shut it down.

  13. Meg says:

    Is it bad ben feels the need to correct this in the press instead of, you know, talking to her about how she seems to want to move in together and having one voice for the press? Otherwise it feels like shes trying to manipulate him through the press or is using this relationship for the press attention to create a narrative?

  14. MsIam says:

    Why do I feel an implosion coming soon with these two? Aren’t they too old to this messy and running to the press? I wish them no ill will, but dang just be a couple, be quiet, date, see where it goes, etc.

  15. You Know Me says:

    Embarrassment all the way around and is Ben ill? He looks very ill in the face. JLo is a complete chode.

  16. Carolnr says:

    There are pics of Ben & Jen Emme & Ben’s son, Samuel , (but not Max or Ben’s daughters) at Brentwood Country Market on Friday…8