Hailey Bieber ‘was going to stick it out’ with Justin ‘no matter the outcome’

Hailey and Justin Bieber attend the Lakers game with Kendall Jenner

Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin have been married for over three years. It’s hard to wrap my head around, even though they seem pretty happy. They began dating in early 2018, even though they had already dated and had maintained a loose friendship years earlier. In 2018, Justin took sex off the table while they dated and throughout their fast engagement. They were in marriage counseling and couples therapy throughout, and it’s been pretty good for them. Anyway, the Biebers gave an interview to In Good Faith with Chelsea & Judah Smith, a new podcast. They talked about how their faith helps them and Hailey said some interesting stuff.

Hailey on their conversations: “We always had so many conversations about, ‘What were our goals? Where did we want to end up at a certain age?’ We always talked about wanting to be married and be young, and have a young family, and have kids young.”

Justin on his mental health struggles: “I had experienced so many things in my life. So many milestones and traveled the world and seen everywhere in the world. And I just got to a place where I was lonely, and I just didn’t want to do it all alone,” he said on the podcast. “I realized there was some serious healing I needed to go through in order to get to a place where I could be in a healthy, serious relationship because I had a lot of trauma and scars. So I just committed to working on those things and getting healthy. Luckily, Hailey accepted me as I was. Even when we got married, there was still a lot of damage and hurt that I still needed to work through, but you’ve seen my heart through it all.”

Hailey is ride-or-die: “I was in it. I made a decision. I know for a fact that I’ve loved this person for a very long time and now would not be the time to give up on him. I just wouldn’t do that to him. Imagine abandoning somebody in the middle of the worst time of their life, potentially. I’m not that type of a person. So I was going to stick it out no matter what the outcome was going to be.”

[From People]

I’ve gone back and forth on what I think about Justin and Hailey’s marriage and whether it’s actually healthy for either of them. I’ll say this – I think Justin is very happy. I think he adores Hailey and he’ll do anything she says, anything she wants. I also think Hailey is very young to commit herself in this way, and I think she’s more “in charge” of him and their marriage – she’s the organized one, the one supporting him, the one telling him what they need to do. Honestly though, this marriage has ended up a lot healthier than I thought it would. I’m also surprised that they haven’t gotten pregnant.

Justin Bieber steps out with wife Hailey Bieber after winning artist of the year award at the VMAs

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  1. Destiny says:

    You’re joking right? There are tons of videos of him being a POS to her lol

    • Jamie says:

      I haven’t seen any of those kind of videos but it doesn’t surprise me, possibly part of the reason he acknowledges still needing to do a lot of work

    • Tisme says:

      YES, I have seen a number of videos where he looks completely disrespectful toward her. I hope she has healthy boundaries (doesn’t sound like it) and I hope she isn’t guilted into staying with him “in the name of religion”…

    • Katherine says:

      Yep, you can see Travis Barker is over the moon about Kourt, Keith Urban worships Nicole, Ryan Reynolds really loves Blake – just a few examples, but Justin never looks at her (or anybody as far as I can recall) like that.

    • jb says:

      thank you for saying what the rest of us are thinking, @Destiny!!

      there is NOTHING healthy about this marriage. sad to watch from the outside.

    • Jules says:

      exactly. their public statements are just trying to refute the actual videos showing the opposite. they are like two kids playing house.

    • AAW says:

      @destiny I totally agree, he treats her like garbage. And in public.

    • Robyn says:

      Yep. “Healthy” and “happy” are not words I would ever use for these two. They’re also in a cult, which doesn’t exactly scream well-adjusted…

    • Sinéad says:

      Yeah I’ve seen tonnes of videos where he’s disrespectful to her they’re easy enough to find on TikTok and I think Gawker did a couple of stories on the 2 of them as well. Then there was that Cathy Weaver GQ profile with Beiber where when they went into the hotel room Hailey was “sitting on a pristinely made bed. She is doing nothing—no TV, no book, no phone, no computer, no music, no oil paints, nothing.” I think there’s a Chris Pratt / Katherine Schwarzenegger vibe from Beiber & Hailey

    • LadySwampwitchGivsneaufux says:

      Yup she beat him in a video game once and he had a fit. Screamed that he wasn’t trying. He hasn’t grown at all. She probably has

    • AMJ says:

      He treats her horribly. She’s a mixture of his parent and his doormat. Very healthy and happy indeed

    • HandforthParish says:

      You just have to google and you find loads of videos where he makes inappropriate comments to her- and there are more than one where he spefically says he would get rid of her ‘if she wasn’t so hot’.
      There is one whefre he literally shuts the car door in her face, another where they are caught in a crowd and he runs off leaving her behind. She ends up falling in the street while chasing after him and he doesn’t even notice.

      It looks like he enjoys the fact that whatever he does and however demeaning he is to her, she’s always there trying to smooth things over. It looks like a very sadistic dynamic to me.

    • Bash says:

      I’ve seen a lot of those videos, but all the ones I saw weren’t convincing at all in the way people wanted to make it out to be. It seemed like jealous Justin fans taking clips WAY out of context to suit their own storylines. Like the one where he is supposedly “yelling” at her, when really he just got off stage and seems to be explaining something in an excited, expressive kind of way. I do think he’s a bit immature and clueless, but he seems to adore her and he seems to be at least actively trying to grow as person. He’s grown on me over the years and it looks like he’s been adoring Hailey. Plus she seems like she’s been a positive influence in his life. Not that that should be her role, but he is in a very unique situation with his level of fame, and I think having someone like her has been stabilizing for him.

  2. Toilet says:

    This relationship seems really toxic. It reminds of of Kristen and Dax. Yes, it needs work but it should it be that hard?

    Plus they dated for like a month a few years before getting married and three months before the marriage. That is not good

    • BothSidesNow says:

      @ Toilet, when you have one partner maintaining the adult role, that’s trouble right there!! Also, I don’t know if anyone, except the generation of WWII that would have married having known each other for such a short period of time, and it lasting! My in-laws were married for over 55 years, met in Germany.

  3. ModeratelyWealthy says:

    I am pretty sure she is saying this as a positive thing, but nobody should be ride or die. We all have limits and we should all be able to walk away of a situation if it hurt us.

    However, a great secret for a healthy marriage is indeed patient and not act harshly on making decisions, Sometimes a bad phase is just a bad phase, and giving up too easily is of no help- but acting like you are a golden retriever instead of a wife? not cool.

    • ItReallyIsYouNotMe says:

      Great way to put this. I wouldn’t still be married if I wasn’t patient with my husband because I am naturally irritable but it is Hard to know where to draw that line between being a doormat. I try not to respond right away so I don’t overreact to the moment and say something I will regret, but I will initiate a conversation if the issue still bothers me in a day or two.

  4. Willow says:

    Everything is about him. Fixing him, healing him, Justin’s trauma, scars, problems. And Hailey sticking with him, no matter what. What will happen when he is healed, when he doesn’t need her anymore?
    And, no, don’t bring children into this, Hailey already has one damaged child she’s trying to raise.
    But what about Hailey? Is she happy? Is she okay? What support does Justin give her?
    Marriage should be a partnership, not a pair of crutches and 24/7 therapy. Get that done before you get married.

    • BothSidesNow says:

      Thank you @ Willow, you said it much better than I did!!

    • February-Pisces says:

      I see their relationship dynamic being like William and Kate’s, Justin holds all the power and Hailey will put up with anything to be with him. Just like Kate I’m pretty sure she was obsessed with him for years before getting together.

      If she wants him to be emotionally dependent on her, it’s probably to ensure he doesn’t leave her, but I think he will eventually. I don’t see this being an equal partnership, but one of obsession (hers) , co-dependency and toxicity.

      • liri says:

        Agreed. It’s all Justin. What’s strange that Hailey is from a known family, she would never starve. She has a career and she’s openly stating that basically no matter what stupid thing Justin does she won’t abandon him. What about women’s needs?


    This is unrelated to their marriage, just wanted to throw out that we don’t actually know sex was off the table, we just know he said it was. I dunno if it’s relevant here I just think we can’t always take celebs at their word.

  6. Abby says:

    I read this and it’s so sad to me. She made it sound like she knew this was a potential trainwreck before marrying him but she was willing to marry him regardless and just commit. To me, as someone raised in very conservative Christian culture, it makes me wonder if this is part of her own toxic childhood of “a good wife just stays and stays and stays” if she loves a man, to the point of sacrificing herself for his greater good. I wasted 18 years trying to be a good wife and even though I didn’t wake up until 40, I wish I’d saved myself the trouble.

  7. Case says:

    I once saw them described as that couple that always comes to your party grumpy because they’ve been arguing and then she locks herself in the bathroom for an hour crying. And…yeah, that’s my exact thought on them. She seems like a shrinking violet and I don’t get the sense she’s in control in this relationship at all.

  8. Hyperbolme says:

    This is how religious marriages get marriage confused with martyrdom and it’s seen as a righteous thing. My parents are prime examples. Married 36 miserable years, 9 kids, and every last one of us thinks they shouldn’t stay married — but they made a vow!

  9. Mooshe1 says:

    Uugghhh, I like him but she’s so young and optimistic, I hope he doesn’t suck the joy out of her…..

  10. Noki says:

    I think the fact that he is Justin Bieber keeps her more commited. She may be a second generation Baldwin but her social currency has rocketed after being with him. She was more famous for following Kendal Jenner around and was really not making it as a model the same way.

  11. lunchcoma says:

    They’re in that Hillsong cult too, aren’t they? Their marriage hasn’t been a meltdown, but I don’t get the sense that it’s very healthy. I’ve kind of been hoping that it will run its course before they have kids together.

  12. ME says:

    She takes care of him as if she is his mother. I’ve seen bits of their YouTube show. When/if they have a kid, the dynamic is going to change so much that Justin isn’t going to be able to handle it.

  13. Mimi says:

    Also cringe

  14. Sigmund says:

    Their dynamic still seems really unhealthy to me, but I’m pleasantly surprised they’ve been in couples therapy and marriage counseling. (I hope it’s not one of those pseudo-church things though.) I worry about Hailey. The marriage always seems all about him. His issues, his decision to settle down, etc.

    • Normades says:

      I dunno. I think it’s really odd to be in couples therapy if you’ve been married less than 3 years. So young, no kids, little past …just get a quickie divorce and chalk it off as a starter marriage.

      That said I think they were in therapy because Justin needed therapy. She says she wouldn’t leave him during such a hard time…I think he had huge physical and mental health issues. Plus some kind of hardcore drug addiction. If they haven’t had kids yet I think she’s intentionally waiting for him to work out some major shit.

  15. Linda says:

    I read a blind item that suggested he is bankrolling her family. If it’s true she’s under a lot of pressure to make it work regardless of the emotional cost to her.

    • Jenn says:

      Ah, I hadn’t considered the probability that she lives on his dime. I think he needs a lot of trauma processing, but if they aren’t splitting bills — if he’s feeling like he’s putting his whole wallet into the relationship — he is probably rationalizing his financial contribution as a *replacement* for all the elbow grease needed to be a good partner emotionally. Like, “well, I can be a good partner in THIS way.” Ugh, I’m depressed.

  16. Nicole says:

    Sounds very co-dependent on her part.

  17. A says:

    I think they think they’re the ideal couple. And I’m sure there’s something quite potent and like, attractive about the notion of being committed on this level for the two of them. Bieber clearly needs someone who will hold his hand and keep him steady. And Hailey is prepared to fulfill whatever role she needs to in order to be in this relationship because she desperately wants to be with him (to the point where she’s alleged to have schemed her way to get closer to him/be in a relationship with him).

    I think for Hailey, being in a role where she is supposedly the one “in charge” makes her feel better too. It’s not exactly hip or cool these days to be desperate or slavish about your relationship with a man, which Hailey clearly is. This way she can be like. I am the mature one. I am the smart one. The reins of the relationship is in my hands. I made him get therapy to be better. I made him fix the parts of himself that could fuck things up for us. I set the terms for this relationship. But really, what happened is that Hailey was Bieber’s kindergarten teacher bc he was too lazy and couldn’t be assed to do the work for himself.

  18. what's inside says:

    Stand By Your Man is a country western song, not the blueprint for living happily ever after.

  19. Greta Garbo says:

    This entitled little punk has had everything handed to him on a silver platter. Of course he lacks character because he’s never had to develop it.

  20. Rnot says:

    I have a vision of Hailey screaming out the lyrics to good 4 u.

  21. april says:

    Totally agree with what Kaiser wrote.

  22. Lyds says:

    I get a Gigi and Zayn vibe from them and I somehow thought Gigi and Zayn would make it work more than they could, so what do I know?

    I feel like if you’re at Justin’s level of fame and wealth, with all the healing he still has to do, there is just such a slim chance that you could stay married to him if you married young. If all the internal/external factors are working against you, how hard must you work before you become a husk of your former self?

  23. hexicon says:

    Hailey is about to find out how much people of faith value you if you can’t produce a healthy baby.