Lee Pace: Being married is ‘an endless sleepover with your weirdest friend’

Lee Pace covered a recent issue of GQ Hype. He’s promoting Bodies Bodies Bodies, but also Apple TV’s Foundation, a show I have never watched. The second season has already been filmed and he talks about that a little bit in the GQ piece. Mostly, though, he’s just a peaceful vibe. He’s happily married, he built a house for himself in upstate New York, he’s close to his family, he enjoys fashion and he works when he wants to. Zen and the Art of Lee Pace, I’m telling you. Some highlights from this piece:

He bought land in 2010 with the idea of building his own house: “There’s something—a fundamental lesson about self sufficiency—inside this. I wanted to explore it. And I took this timber framing course up in Maine where I learned how to do the math to design it and carved the joints with a handsaw and chisels. Of all things that I’ve done I’m like, ‘Hey, I actually built this thing.’” When I ask how many acres he’s sitting on, he gets a glazed look in his eyes and says, “Oh it’s big, very big.” There are no fences, and currently no crops. Just grass and wild turkeys and bears and foxes.

His ease with masculinity: “Who doesn’t?” A lot of men, I say. “They’re just stuck in it. It’s awfully loud. It’s a loud force in our world. And I think that makes it very hypnotic. But I also think that it’s a very multifaceted thing. There’s lots of different ways to look at what that is. It’s not always the toxic thing that we have come to stamp it as.”

He loved working with Pete Davidson: “I loved working with Pete. I found him as a human being fascinating—his stories were interesting. His approach to the work was serious and interesting. I don’t watch Saturday Night Live, so I don’t know what he does on Saturday Night Live. But in that context, I was like, ‘You’re cool and I really am curious to see what things you do in your career.’”

His husband: Pace and his husband Matthew Foley, an executive at Thom Browne, were set up a few years ago by a mutual friend. “I said to my friend, Nick, ‘You know a lot of people, who do you have for me?’ And it luckily has worked out.’ What I’ll say about being married, it was once described to me as an endless sleepover with your weirdest friend. In our experience, that is absolutely true. If you’ve found one person you can be weird around, hold on tight.”

Whether he’s ready to be a father: “I’d love to have kids. I think there’s nothing better than little kids running around.”

On ‘Foundation’: “I play a different character every season, because there’s big time jumps. There’s just so many different layers of generations of men… What is interesting about this character is that it’s like this grotesque of a man who’s in control of everything–he’s Emperor of the Galaxy; no one can stop it–and the absurdity of that.”

He was raised Catholic, and he recently went into a church for the first time in years: “Sitting in this church, listening to these Czech services, I didn’t understand a word they were saying, so I didn’t hear sin or judgment or any of those things that bothered me so much when I heard them when I was younger. I found myself among all of these other people who had wandered in off the street to think about their lives, to think about how to be good people, to think about the challenges that they face. I’m not interested in dogma, but I am interested in understanding my life better.”

[From GQ Hype]

“They’re just stuck in it. It’s awfully loud. It’s a loud force in our world. And I think that makes it very hypnotic…” That’s an interesting way to describe the concept – and reality – of masculinity. That we, as a society, are stuck in it. That masculinity is loud and hypnotic. He’s right? Masculinity and the performance of masculinity drowns out a lot of sh-t. And marriage is “an endless sleepover with your weirdest friend”? That’s kind of nice too. He has a way with words. I feel very peaceful when I read his interviews.

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  1. bettyrose says:

    That is *absolutely* what marriage should be. It’s not that simple, of course, but if it’s never a fun sleepover with your best friend, what’s the point?

  2. SJ (they/them) says:

    His comments about his marriage are SO sweet. As a guy-of-center who is into guys, can I just say: lord i see what you’ve done for others and i want that for me!!!

  3. girl_ninja says:

    His is just so dreamy. I enjoying looking at him, reading about him and his house he built, his dog, his husband, his spiritual journey…looking at him.

  4. Jumpingthesnark says:

    Love Lee Pace!! His words, his vibe, all of it!!

  5. MrsG says:

    Ha! Definitely telling my husband later, it fits us exactly.

  6. Chaine says:

    Foundation is a little bit difficult to get into, and the gigantic timeline shifts are a stretch to grasp when it starts, so if you try it an are underwhelmed by the flow of the first couple of episodes, stick with it!

    • Eurydice says:

      Thanks, I’ve been hesitant because I’ve read all of Asimov’s Foundation stories and they seem pretty unfilmable, but maybe I’ll give it a try.

      • Kirsten says:

        The books won’t help when it comes to the series — they’re almost completely different stories. I’d still recommend the show though.

  7. MeganC says:

    I loved him in Halt and Catch Fire. We graduated from college just as the dot com bubble was starting and it was a nostalgic look at our early careers.

  8. Jais says:

    Like his vibes

  9. Jessamine says:

    Gosh, just as lovely and thoughtful and idiosyncratic and wonderful and gaze-at-able now as he was in pushing daisies. The man has excellent taste in the projects he chooses and still manages to elevate everything he’s in. Love that his behond-the-scenes life is so sweet and fulfilling.

  10. potatoe says:

    He is so hot !

  11. Lucía says:

    Such a beautiful, lovely man.

  12. Alice in Wonderland says:

    Honking for Lee Pace! I can hear his voice as I read the quotes … Sultry!!

    • Anners says:

      I just wanted to honk for Lee as well – I like all the things about him, but his voice in particular. Love his vibes, love how chill he is, glad that he’s happy. (un)fortunately he’s low drama, so not much to gossip about, but I’m always very happy to see him. If only we still had hot guy Fridays!

    • Coco Bean says:

      Another honk for Lee Pace! Adore him, his work, and his zen personal life!

  13. jferber says:

    Ordinarily, a see-through shirt would be a turn-off for me, but this guy can manage it and manage it very well, indeed.

  14. Kirsten says:

    He’s wonderful. That is all.

  15. MsGnomer says:

    Love this human. Love his work!! Plus, he validated my 30 year relationship. Perfect!! *mwah*

  16. Therese says:

    I discovered Lee Pace in Miss Pettigrew lives for a Day, the movie, with Frances McDormand, Amy Adams, Ciaran Hinds, and Lee Pace. He is wonderful in it, as is everyone else. The movie is so good and so much fun. Please go find this movie and watch it. I don’t watch things over, and I can’t help myself, I watch it over and over.

    • BeanieBean says:

      I’ve only ever seen him in the TV series Pushing Up Daisies. Absolutely loved that show, it was weird & quirky, which is apparently Lee Pace. I’ll have to look up the Miss Pettigrew movie, thanks!

    • GiveMePizza says:

      YES! I am smitten with that movie, too. He is so so so dreamy in it.