People: Duchess Meghan is skipping the Chubbly to avoid the intense ‘scrutiny’

Interesting. People Magazine put the Duke and Duchess of Sussex on this week’s cover, and it’s all about their decision regarding the coronation. It was and is a major story – one of our biggest of the year, and one which is still a huge headline across the pond. People Mag doesn’t have any major tea, but I’m somewhat happy to see that the magazine attempts to be fair to the Sussexes, and not center the story on “the Sussexes are wrong no matter what they decided!” Some highlights:

No reconciliation: King Charles is said to be “pleased” his son will be there, but the wider reconciliation so many have hoped for within the family hasn’t happened. “At this point, it’s become so personal,” a close friend tells PEOPLE exclusively in this week’s cover story. “Maybe what they wanted wasn’t achieved, but at the end of the day, he’s going there to support his dad.”

Harry didn’t see his father King Charles or brother Prince William when he was recently in London: “Things are strained,” says a palace insider. King Charles, 74, was deeply saddened by the accusations of disloyalty and media manipulation that Prince Harry made against the royal family in his memoir, Spare, released in January. But it would be Charles’s “first wish” for Harry to join them at the coronation, says a source who knows the royals.

Bittersweet Chubbly: The coronation will be bittersweet for Prince Harry, who, in addition to attending without Meghan, likely has no official role and is not expected to participate in any of the other planned events, including a Buckingham Palace balcony appearance. However, a source who knows the royals tells PEOPLE Harry “will happily go along with whatever the plan is” and that his main concern about attending was the issue of his security, which has been addressed.

Reasonable for Meghan to skip: “It’s an elegant solution,” royal biographer Sally Bedell Smith tells PEOPLE, adding that Archie’s birthday “gave them a reasonable out for Meghan not to come.” But those closest to the couple know that the media backlash Meghan faced in the U.K. during Queen Elizabeth’s funeral last year — and in the seven months since — played a significant role in her decision not to come.

The scrutiny: “Meghan wants to be there to support her father-in-law, but at the same time, the scrutiny she receives outweighs the support,” the close friend says. “There’s always going to be that other side challenging their reasoning, and who wants to put themselves in that position?” A palace insider also tells PEOPLE, “It would have been quite significant if Harry hadn’t attended his father’s coronation, but I’m not surprised Meghan isn’t going given the circumstances.”

Harry’s doing it for the history: Whatever happens during Prince Harry’s upcoming trip to the U.K. — where he will likely stay at Frogmore Cottage for what could be the last time following King Charles’s decision to evict Harry and Meghan from their U.K. home — “he will look back on it and think it is better to come and play his part and say, ‘I saw my father crowned,’ ” says a source close to the royal household. “And tell his children about it.”

[From People]

Archie’s birthday “gave them a reasonable out for Meghan not to come.” I love the way British commentators speak about Archie’s birthday like the Sussexes chose to schedule their kid’s birthday for the coronation, like it wasn’t the other way around. No one wants to admit that Charles is a petty, jealous man who is currently beefing with his grandchild over who gets more attention on May 6th. As for the quote about “the scrutiny” Meghan faces… I hate to say this, but that probably is how she would talk about it and how she would describe the unhinged hate campaign against her in the UK. She’s too positive, too optimistic, and I would absolutely believe that her first instinct was to “support” Harry and his father, but “the scrutiny” would have gotten to her.

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  1. Eurydice says:

    Well, scrutiny means “minute inquiry” and “critical observation,” so that sounds about right.

    • EM says:

      What really pisses me off is that there hasn’t been any scrutiny given to the fact that Harry’s father and brother BLEW off their Lili’s Christening. With the family’s wealth (i.e. ability to travel) and flexible “work” schedule, there is no excuse. Wish Sussex friendly media would raise this point – their blowing it off is more meaningful IMO.

      • Where'sMyTiara says:

        Barely any talk about how H&M were banned from having Lili christened in the UK in the manner of every other Royal child, either. That should have been the focus. Because that decision was absolutely rooted in racism.

      • EM says:

        GREAT point. It was rooted in everything ugly about the BRF – racism, envy, malice

      • Diana says:

        Yeah this has nothing to do with Archie’s Birthday or getting booed. She doesn’t feel comfortable around his family and doesn’t want to deal with all the shit from the BM..

    • Eurydice says:

      You’re right on that, but I was referring to Meghan’s usage of the word scrutiny to refer to her personal situation – it’s appropriate, whether those doing the scrutiny are her enemies or not.

    • Caribbean says:

      Along with racism, I think the royal family like how they are, in that they can be visible and invisible at the same time. They can do all their deeds without all the attention that Harry and Meghan commanded.

      • Agreatreckoning says:

        This is not a H&M sanctioned piece. At all. Meghan is NOT explaining anything to anyone. Her friends are not explaining anything to anyone. This is coming from a non Montecito place. Like a palace.

  2. North of Boston says:

    I’d guess it’s less “the scrutiny would have gotten to her” and more that the scrutiny is going to happen one way or another, why go to all the trouble of traveling and gracing CCWK with her presence and subjecting herself to their pettiness and rudeness. And bonus, it lets her skip providing fresh meat to the vultures.

    Harry can fly in, fly out while she just keeps on keeping on, working and hanging with their precious children.

  3. The number one reason I believe she is not attending is because her child is having a birthday and her children come first. I also believe she is done with it and is moving on period.

    • Zazzoo says:

      Exactly this. I’m done with it myself. I’m so eager to follow Harry & Meghan in their post royal life. I have lost my taste for RF gossip because they’re still living in the 18th century while H & M have joined us here in the 21st century.

    • Sherri says:

      I fully expect to see Harry never live in the UK again after Charles is gone. He’ll either get his citizenship here or hang out in Canada for a bit, but I think he’s done with the UK.

    • Denise says:

      I also think she’s over the UK Media and the BRF but if Charles and the Family had been different I think they would have celebrated Archie’s birthday at Frogmore just like they did Lilly’s because I do think she’s wants her children to have access to their birthrights as a prince and princess of the UK.

      If Charles was a different kind of person (like meeting with Harry when he was recently in London, ensuring that they had a secure place to stay and security, etc) they could have done an almost duplicate of how they manuevered through the Jubbly but KC3 is no QEII. This is no defense of QEII because there are some things I think she could have done better but she understood how to connect with Harry and made the effort. I think KC3 understands too but just doesn’t care.

  4. Flowerlake says:

    That and she is over it (=the UK and BRF).

  5. Jais says:

    I mean yeah Serena said sometimes meghan can be too nice. But at the same time, she knows how to set her boundaries and she knows her worth. She’s not missing her son’s bday just bc Charles chose to schedule his coronation on his grandson’s bday. She’s not letting William put his finger in her face. She’s not staying with Harry unless he gets therapy after talking to her in a certain way. Honestly, the ability to still be positive and optimistic after everything the BM and RF have done to her is no small thing.

  6. Amy Bee says:

    I understand Meghan’s reasoning and I think Harry’s going to minimize the attacks from the family and the press more than anything else. They were treated terribly at the Queen’s funeral and I get why Meghan wouldn’t want to put herself through that again even if it means Harry would have to go alone.

    • Anners says:

      This is my thinking, as well. I think this is the best possible solution for both of them. Meghan can stay home out of the fierce, recriminating spotlight (and not be accused of pulling focus), and Harry can go and support his father (because I think he feels it is his duty as a prince, and I think he still hopes he and his father can reconcile someday). Meghan and Harry are a team – they absolutely made this decision together after careful consideration.

  7. Lala11_7 says:

    As Meghan said in the Netflix documentary…”I realized I wasn’t being THROWN to the wolves…I was being FED to them…” So Meghan knows what’s up & even if it wasn’t Archie’s birthday…I don’t think she would have gone in that TERRIFYING den of vicious wolves…And I’m talking about her in-laws😡

    • Brassy Rebel says:

      Archie’s birthday doesn’t give her an excuse for non-attendance. It gives the royals and their media flunkies an excuse besides the fact that they make her feel unwelcome and even terrified to set foot on that terrible island. I am still haunted by the look of fear on her face during that Windsor walkabout last September. She should never have to go through that again, and the fact that his wife is so fearful that she doesn’t feel comfortable visiting his country should give Harry plenty to think about.

    • Debbie says:

      I totally agree with both of you and others who’ve said that Meghan wouldn’t have gone anyway, even if it hadn’t been Archie’s birthday. She’s no fool and she knows that they (BRF and BM) have given them tons of reasons not to step back into that overseas cesspool. And anyone who writes or reports that Meghan was mainly concerned about going to England because of the scrutiny she received “at the queen’s funeral last year and in the 7 months since” is a suspect source, as far as I’m concerned. Clearly, the mistreatment of Meghan started looong before the queen’s funeral and after. It’s what has come to define her time living in England. What, are they kidding?! The so-called “scrutiny” (an understatement from where I stand) has not changed one bit from the rabid stories Meghan used to get when she lived in England.

      Off topic: I must admit that I chuckled out loud at reading the term “Bittersweet Chubbly.”

  8. girl_ninja says:

    The scrutiny is the right word. Meghan has been under that racist microphone since they found out she was dating Harry. They live to see her, and pick everything she says and does apart. An I’ll be honest, I really loath them for it. I wanted to see how she and Harry worked as working royals with all of the good work that they do. I know that they are still doing great work and I love seeing them at Invictus but I feel we got short changed in seeing some great things from them all because of hate and jealousy.

    • L4Frimaire says:

      I agree Girl_Ninja. I think we miss seeing Meghan and miss seeing her work and get why you feel cheated. She really was great in her royal role while she did it and her events and appearances were always exciting and made an impact,because she just had that something. The royals hated her for it and were trying to reduce what she did even while she was there. I think the funeral really did a number on her and was hoping she got some support behind the scenes. I really hope once this Chubbly is over, Meghan won’t feel the need to hold herself back or hide as much. Of course, there is always security since they have directed and encouraged so much hate towards her. It’s gotten so toxic leading up to this event. I’m just glad it will be over by the time I wake up.

  9. Shawna says:

    “…the scrutiny she receives outweighs the support” – Absolutely. Meghan isn’t petty. If she goes, she’ll be criticized; if she stays, she’ll be criticized. So why make an effort *and* still get scrutinized?

    If this truly is a Sussex source, I have to note that my point was always that the time delay in announcing their decision to go/stay was about security negotiations.

    • Amy Bee says:

      Yeah I think Meghan decided a long time ago that she wasn’t going to be there and if the Palace had provided security for Harry I don’t think he would have gone either. The fact that Harry’s flying in and out shows that he too wants to minimize the scrutiny on him.

    • Nermine says:

      I don’t believe Meghan or the kids were invited, which is why Harry was late answering the invitation.

      • Amy Bee says:

        If Meghan wasn’t invited Harry would not be going at all and the Palace knew that. Furthermore if she wasn’t invited the Palace would have leaked that information. She was invited.

      • Becks1 says:

        @AmyBee again I agree with you. If she wasn’t invited the palace would have leaked it.

      • Nerd says:

        We know that Harry and Meghan were invited because they are the ones who confirmed the email invite and how they hadn’t made a decision yet. There is no way that Harry would attend if they disrespected Meghan by not inviting her at all. We know that the kids weren’t invited because they have said as much through the leaks from the palace. I think that is part of the reason she isn’t going. They have disrespected her, but have put their main focus towards disrespecting their children. The date being on Archie’s birthday. The long refusal of giving them their rightful titles. The refusal to Lili’s Christening. The removal of their children’s only UK home and their refusal o invite them even though they hadn’t seen them at all or only a couple of times.

    • Nermine says:

      @Amybee – She wasn’t invited to Althorp for the 20th anniversary of Diana’s death/ Pippa’s wedding / Balmoral when the Queen died, Yet Harry attended all of these events. Charles didn’t invite Meghan, and he knew Harry will attend anyway.

      • Lady D says:

        Why did he go to Pippa’s wedding? Seriously, why?

      • Agreatreckoning says:

        @Nermine, Meghan was with Harry at Pippa’s & James reception.

        @Lady D, what if all along it was Harry & Meghan’s choice to not have Meghan go to the wedding itself? Most of what people know comes from the lying BM/BRF. Do I believe CarolE wouldn’t want Meghan to outshine Pippa? Yep. But, CarolE would also grasp how much more Pippa’s wedding would attract more viewers if Harry showed up with his new girlfriend. Harry was protecting Meghan from the media. That was May 2017. CarolE’s team thought they were getting their revenge when they placed H&M across from each other and a big ass bouquet between H&M.imo

  10. SURE says:

    “Meghan wants to be there to support her father-in-law…” I can’t think of a reason why M would want to support her FIL given he kicked her family out of their only home in the UK, leaked to the RR that she would not be welcome at Balmoral if she dared turn up with H, insulted her so viciously that H had to rebuke him, refused to support her financially as a working royal despite having earned £612m since becoming the Duke of Cornwall, etc.

    • Amy Bee says:

      This is just like when she said Kate was a good person. It’s for her protection.

      • Becks1 says:

        @AmyBee agree completely. that line had me raising an eyebrow but you’re right, its absolutely about covering her tracks, and I can’t blame her.

      • Sunshine says:

        I don’t believe Meghan said any of this. They speak for themselves and don’t use sources. This is all for the palace so Tampon doesn’t look bad.

      • SURE says:

        @Sunshine Yeah the friend sounds more like a friend of KFC’s.

      • Mary Pester says:

        WHY, WHY would Megan want to support Charles, Charlie never supported her. He allowed and FED the media hate campaign against Megan. All he had to do was release a statement telling them to back the hell of and if anymore lies were printed about her, legal steps would be taken. But HE DID SOD ALL, because it deflected the haters from Camilla. He CHOSE Archie’s birthday for this waste of money so that HE had an out, not Megan. Megan has behaved with grace and poise all the way through the mud that has been thrown at her, it’s the sht shower Royals who haven’t. Yes I can understand Harry going, but more to the point, I can understand Megan NOT. She has her priorities and they do NOT include attending this clown fest, they are her children and making sure Archie has the best party ever for HIS DAY. Charlie it’s your loss. And megans gain. A final point, Charlie didn’t want Megan there, because he wants the papers to be talking all about HIM, but they won’t 🤣🤣

  11. C says:

    I feel there were more reasons for this decision than otherwise.
    1.) They would have harassed her nonstop even just for where she was sitting or how she did her hair and the other royals would be helping that
    2.) Her absence means they can’t make money off her
    3.) It is an exhausting trip and spectacle, and unnecessary (ok maybe that’s just me since I’m pretty low-energy but seriously)
    4.) Archie’s birthday (although if the royals had been kind to Meghan, I am sure she would have been fine celebrating another day and coming to this)
    5.) None of these people mean anything to her except a certain few like Eugenie and Meghan doesn’t need to attend the coronation to see her. The Queen was the last one she would do events in honor of.

    Like someone on Twitter said, she’ll pack his Dior suit, send him off with a kiss, and they’ll be reunited in an extremely short time.
    It’s the best scenario.

    • Amy Bee says:


    • aimee says:

      as we can see, even the months leading up to this decision, they’ve made loads money off of her with clickbait articles. they’re gonna make money off of them regardless. bc the ppl want to see stories of rift within the family. society is obsessed. but you’re right, more scrutiny = even more $$.

      • C says:

        Yes, I truly do not think they are making even a fraction of the money with made-up headlines in her absence that they would be making by dissecting her and harassing her in person. And people are far less likely to pay attention to them.

      • Amy Bee says:

        @Aimee: There’s a reason why the press was clamoring for a picture on the hospital steps and for Archie’s christening. The photos make a lot more money and her presence at events than the clickbait articles.

    • Well Wisher says:

      An astute observation…

  12. rawiya says:

    “Meghan wants to be there to support her father-in-law…” the close friend says. Um??? The same father-in-law who banned her from joining her husband when his grandmother died? And then asked another woman to stay behind, as well, so that it wouldn’t look “as bad” since she was banned? I would have much rather said close friend say that Meghan wanted to be there to meet other foreign royals or to wear a fancy gown.

    • Truthiness says:

      There’s an old saying “acid spoils the vessel.” I’m sure Meghan has seen the royal family for exactly what they are but she hasn’t let it change her core beliefs, her professionalism (for her husband’s family’s business) or her desire to make change for the better.

      I know she’s wrangling two toddlers but I hope she can indulge in as many adult beverages as her heart desires and play party games. Coronation bingo anyone?

  13. Sunshine says:

    This is a palaced sourced, badly worded article. This simply looks as if they are using Harry and Meghan for coronation PR, knowing the others wouldn’t bring any attention.

    • lanne says:

      Of course they are using her for Palace PR. That was their implicit purpose, and that’s one of the reasons the British media hate her so much–she refused to be their whipping boy. She refused to let them abuse her continuously. Meghan is the coronation story, whether the royals like it or not. No one cares about it otherwise.

  14. aimee says:

    she didn’t go bc she didn’t want to be harassed. not bc it’s her son’s bday. that’s just a nice polite excuse to position herself. a 3 yo has no concept of time. celebrating 1 week later or earlier would make no diff to him, and he will still have wonderful memories with his parents. if she didn’t feel harassed (lets not say scrutiny bc that’s too nice), she would have gone even if it was arche’s bday. honestly charles did her a favor by putting the coronation on archie’s bday. this is probs what they wanted anyways.

  15. MCG says:

    First Thought: People Magazine (a US publication) knows that they need to start presenting a more pro-Sussex view (or at least not an anti-Sussex one) because of their star power here.

    Second Thought: Meghan is absolutely gorgeous.

    • Jais says:

      Meghan is gorgeous and having the Sussexes on the cover just hits different than having the wales couple on the cover.

    • Truthiness says:

      People magazine and the online version has been pro Sussex from the jump. PR people from KP especially have been trying to triumph over them and drown it out to no avail. I personally won’t give the other British royals any clicks, deprive them of any oxygen. Defund the monarchy everywhere.

  16. RoyalBlue says:

    Oh she’s skipping the bore-a-nation because she’s just not that into you.

  17. aquarius64 says:

    I don’t think US media is coving the Chubbly live. They’re certainly not advertising it on the news.

    • Polo says:

      They are covering it just like the did the funeral and jubilee.
      Coverage will be similar to Philips funeral. They are sending teams just not as large as the jubilee.
      I agree with everyone else is saying. Look at the stories they’ve gotten from her attending the jubilee.
      Now they have nothing to profit from her name.. Remember we barley got any books from Philips funeral because Meghan wasn’t there.
      Meghan and Harry are thr most googled royals and so anything with their names attached on it is instant clickbait and a top story.

  18. Robert Phillips says:

    They all keep talking about reconciliation and other crap. Do they not realize that Harry more than likely won’t even see anyone from his family. He will fly in the latest he can. Go to the Abbey sit there. Then leave the country so he can get home for his sons birthday. Harry isn’t going to support his dad. He’s going to support his country. He’s going to support his military buddies who have actually done service for England. Unlike the photo ops from the Royal Family.

  19. Kelsey says:

    Those salty island reporters spent months telling her she’d better not come and now they’re going “awwww man she’s really not coming”. Freaking DUH SMH.

  20. Ace says:

    “Meghan wants to be there to support her father-in-law”

    And this is where I literally LOLed. Meghan respects herself too much for this to be true. This is just another article where People invents friendly quotes so there’s a chance the Sussexes talk to them some other time.

  21. Eleonor says:

    I think she wasn’t even invited because the firm was afraid she would steal all the attention, and they are blaming her again, because of their (poor) choice.

    • Agreatreckoning says:

      @Eleonor, Meghan was absolutely invited. The BRF are aware of the Sussexes being keepers of receipts. It would not bode well for Count Chocula to not invite his biracial daughter-in-law after his shenanigans from QE2’s funeral.

  22. tamsin says:

    At least a balanced article. If Meghan were treated decently, I would surmise that she would have gone to support Harry. They probably could celebrate Archie’s birthday the week before. A conflict of two events is not an insurmountable problem. Grandpa only gets one coronation, but he will have a birthday on that date every year.

    • Beverley says:

      The problem her is that Grandpa doesn’t GAF about his mixed race grandchildren. And it’s likely that he chose that date to compete with a preschooler. Charles never loved Diana, his love for his sons seems transactional, and his love for his mixed-race grandchildren is imperceptible.

  23. Over it says:

    Allow me to be you for a second Meg and say what you are too nice to say . My husband family is pure trash and that’s why I ain’t going.

  24. Noor says:

    Meghan is not coming to the coronation because the royals and the media does not welcome her. The Queen’s funeral photos showed how Kate, Sophie and Camilla had send her to coventry and isolated her. Same thing happened in 2020 Commowealth Day.

  25. Escape says:

    I think she’s preserving her mental health which is a great thing. I bet she also doesn’t want her name associated with the silly clowning if she has political aspirations. From what we know about Meghan, she’s not here for the party. She wants to help people.

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Escape, the bm continues to say Meghan has political aspirations. Frankly, I just can’t see it. She has much more latitude to choose the issues she wants to by staying out of political offices. This is just more bm crap.

      • Amy says:

        Yeah, I’d agree the Meghan as grasping political wannabe is almost exclusively a construct of the right-wing, unapologetically racist British media.

  26. Eating Popcorn says:

    Meghan to people magazine, ‘sure Jan’

  27. Bubblegum Dreams says:

    She’s just doing what every person with toxic in-laws do, let the spouse deal with the toxic family.

  28. Leslie says:

    If the RF were even halfway normal, I think Meghan would have been glad to attend and might have even brought her children along with her – what an amazing opportunity for them to meet their relatives and participate in a once-in-a-lifetime experience. But the royals are NOT normal, not by a long shot. Meghan has been abused, threatened and undermined ever since she joined that family, and there is no way in hell she would subject her children to the rabid hostility of the British press. K & W’s kids have no such worries – the sycophantic press loves them and they don’t terrorize them like they do with Meghan (and before her, Diana). By the same token, after the venom Meghan was subjected to during the Queen’s funeral, I would be surprised if she EVER considers attending another RF function at any point in the future (I’m talking about a “big” event such as the King’s funeral, etc., not a Buckingham Palace tea party). They had every opportunity to embrace Meghan, but their jealousy and malignant narcissism destroyed their relationship with her.

    Harry is going out of duty to the Crown, not because he respects his assinine father and manipulative stepmother. No matter what the press say, Harry is still fifth in the line of succession; I think he also has the utmost respect for veterans and the military (clearly shown by his ongoing work with Invictus) and wants to pay homage to those who served his country as he did. I’m sure he will simply attend the coronation and then get the hell out of there as quickly as he can. What an awful, awful family. I’m so glad H & M are raising their beautiful children far away from those fools.

  29. Saucy&Sassy says:

    I certainly can see that the bm is angry that Meghan’s not coming. Their anger should be directed at the brf, because they’ve made it very clear that she’s not welcome. By evicting them from Frogmore Cottage, KFC has made it clear that the entire Sussex family isn’t welcome. I think the only reason he wanted Harry at the Clowning is because the eviction showed the world what type of person he is, and it’s ain’t pretty.

    KFC made it clear he has no intention of speaking with Harry. He’ll be too busy.

    • Amy says:

      I think it mostly has to do with Harry advocating for his children at this point. He’s drawn a hard line regarding what he will and won’t tolerate, so what does the family do? They publish a coronation program that completely ignores the existence of Archie and Lili.

      It couldn’t be more obvious that the British Royal Family has been going out of its way to vilify Meghan and erase HER children because they don’t want Black people anywhere near the line of succession.

      • Beverley says:

        But, it’s too late.

      • DancingCorgi says:

        I think they had to use that photo because no one had bothered to do an updated family picture that included Archie and there was a good window of time for that before the Sussexes left. The only other opportunity to have one with Lili would have been the Jubbly and of course, nothing like that was going to happen at that point. Even if you ignore the absence of the Sussex children in the program, the age of the Cambridge children shows how woefully out of date the photo is.

  30. AmelieOriginal says:

    Of course she’s not going to avoid the scrutiny, that’s like saying water is wet. After the Queen’s funeral, she probably swore to herself she will never put herself in that kind of situation again. I think she would have gone to the funeral even if the Queen had died while she and Harry were in CA. But she was caught offguard while she and Harry were in Europe for their minitour and wasn’t prepared emotionally for the media onslaught surrounding the Queen’s death and dealing with being on very public display all of a sudden, something that hadn’t happened since she and Harry announced they were quitting UK life. She probably won’t go to another royal event unless it’s Charles’s funeral. She’s doing the right thing for herself.

  31. QuiteContrary says:

    I am sure Doria is happy her beautiful daughter is staying home. I know I am!

  32. Amy says:

    Yeah, it’s “personal” at this point. My “it is what it is,” (shrug) attitude toward my family’s toxic dynamic on my own behalf got one hell of a makeover when I had my first kid. You see your own abuse and mistreatment with VERY new eyes.

    Harry is protecting and advocating for his kids in a way nobody ever did for him. Good for him.

  33. Purley Pot says:

    Charles scheduled this coronation on Archie’s birthday because he didn’t want Meghan there. Pure and simple.

    • L4Frimaire says:

      Exactly this. They knew what they’re doing and set it on this specific date to spite Harry and Meghan specifically.Now they won’t stop talking about her not showing up and saying the only reason is because of Archie’s birthday. Suddenly the other royals are remembering their kids have birthdays too. She’s not going because Chuck is a douche, Camilla is vulgar,the women in that family are a coven of insular inarticulate mean girls, and it’s not worth the hassle after the unrelenting nastiness around the funeral. Harry will do his duty and the bilious press will bitch and moan about it the 10 hours he’s in the UK.

  34. alex says:

    Meghan has feelings just like any human being, this is constantly forgotten by the BRF gossip peddlers. Their vileness is repulsive, is no way justified yet it is fully supported by BRF. The hurt that Harry and Meghan must suffer is immeasurable. The narcissistic British Royals are imploding because of their insane jealousy, they cannot see that what they are doing is inhumane and totally wrong on every level.

    • Tessa says:

      The worst is the fake story that Meghan is not going because she does not want to walk a few steps behind Kate and curtsey to her. Really gross.

  35. Robin Samuels says:

    People Magazine can’t seem to pick a lane. In case they’ve been sleeping on the job, Meghan has been scrutinized since the day the world discovered she was dating Prince Harry.

  36. AC says:

    I’ve said this before, but I’ve always thought Meghan is there to support Harry and vice versa. Any kind-hearted woman would not block her husband from attending important events with his parents/siblings/cousins, even though she knows she’s not liked in that circle. (Believe me there are some women/men who wants their husband/wife to pretty much lose contact with all their family members as he/she wants to be in complete control of the marriage). I can tell that this isn’t the case with Meghan. Her mom Doria seems so classy that she raised her daughter to always be respectful. I think Meghan wants her husband to be there to support his father during his coronation. And that to me shows how Meghan has way more class, values and morals than any of the members of the BRF, no matter how old money wealthy they are. Actions speak louder than words. People magazine (which is US based) has a better take on things.
    And to the last point, why would Meghan want to go back to the UK where she literally was vilified. She didn’t do anything except marry a British prince. And as an American, she tried the best job she can with her duties- but unfortunately that made the rest of the family envious of her. I still remembered when an article came out from the Daily Beast either it was during or after HM very successful South Pacific tour. It did highlight the rise of popularity they’re achieving and it wasn’t yet peak , their admirable work ethic, Meghan’s natural and charismatic speaking skills in front of an audience(best one out of all the BRF members), and how these all posed a threat to the “other” royal couple. And right after that, bang, all the bad press about Meghan one after the other. Anyone with a brain can see what was going on, and they’ve done it before with Diana. The jealousies in that family are so unreal but I guess that’s already ingrained in their blood , centuries worth of that.

  37. blunt talker says:

    Meghan and Harry are protecting their mental health and their children’s mental health-one day when they are older they will read about this cornation-their parents will be able to tell and show them why dad went and mom didn’t-the one thing nobody ever says when you write something in the media through print or social media-it stays there forever-Archie and Lilibet will read and see the terrible articles villifying their parents-their mom most of the time-Harry and Meghan will be able explain the reasons and show why-Harry writing that book is one for the ages and his children will have a guideline to understanding how their royal relatives work and think-God’s speed for the Sussexes-God’s safety net for the entire Sussex family.