Michelle Buteau: fat, disabled & queer people are sexy, we should see that on screen


I first saw Michelle Buteau in Always Be My Maybe, and my initial reaction was “this gal is adorable.” That opinion still stands, although it’s now augmented with smart and sassy. After booking an endless succession of “the best friend” roles, Michelle now has her own show where she is the creator, writer, producer and STAR, finally. Survival of the Thickest, based on a book of her essays by the same name, came out on Netflix last Thursday and sees Michelle play a NYC-based size-inclusive stylist. Naturally, Michelle has been busy promoting her baby:

On being the creator, writer, producer and star of her show: “It doesn’t come out of nowhere. I’ve been doing comedy since 2001. I’m bad at math so you do it. I think it’s over 20 years. Thank God I age well… Honestly, comedians that can do other things and just be multi-hyphenates, we’ve been working for free for years. Whether it’s writing sketches with your friends or hosting some stuff on a cable network. We’ve actually been putting in the work for a long time, so by the time you do get to a position like this, you know how to call the shots and you know exactly what you want.”

Surrounding herself with ‘boss a*s bitches’: “All four of our directors are boss a*s bitches. All women. Most of the heads of our department were women. My showrunner, Danielle Sanchez-Witzel, she’s a boss a*s bitch. She’s done a ton of TV and she’s actually on the negotiation committee for the WGA right now. Like-minded individuals who only want to help you be your best, highest truest self is where it’s at for me. I really can’t f— with anything else. That’s why I don’t talk to half of my family. Sorry. See you on Facebook.”

‘A human area’: “We beat ourselves up for our bodies. Like, ‘Oh, this is a problem area.’ It’s not, it’s a human area. ‘Oh, I’m doing something bad.’ No, you’re just on a journey to self-discovery and you’re just doing something real. If you’re not learning from your mistakes, then you might be an a*shole and you’re not reading the room. You won’t get anywhere in life and you’ll wonder why.”

Why she made Mavis a stylist: “I think I really wanted my character, Mavis, to be a stylist because I definitely want to talk about body positivity and that fat people, disabled people and queer people are f—ing sexy and we should see that on camera. Also, I really wanted her to be a stylist because I wanted a good a*s budget for the wardrobe… Plus, it was just a beautiful platform to say, ‘Ok, how do we just make all these oddy bodies and fatty bodies just look and feel good?’ Also, it’s a job that your immigrant parents aren’t going to understand. People know how to dress themselves. Why are you dressing people for a living? Being a stylist hit all the marks in terms of what it was like for me to tell my parents that I wanted to be a comedian. They left Jamaica and Haiti to come to America to give me a better life. I’m out here just telling d**k jokes in Express jeans. Bootcut jeans! What a mess.”

[From Salon]

Yes to all of this! She has so many gems here, and even more in the full interview (like at the top when the interviewer introduces her as “the brilliant actor, writer, producer and hilarious comedian,” and her first response is “you forgot mother, daughter, taxpayer”). I’ve been on record here before about my own body-positivity issues, or as Michelle might say, my (very long) journey of self-discovery. I’m definitely still in the mindset of seeing “problem areas” as opposed to “human areas,” but just her language alone there I find helpful. I’ve joked for years that I didn’t wear high heels because I had “human feet,” so why can’t I say the same about other parts of my body? This is exactly why Michelle is doing the right thing–we need to see fat, disabled and queer, any kind of other or marginalized group of people as main characters thriving in their sexiness. And if you’re able to throw in some expertly-executed fart jokes as well, then you have me for life.

Photos credit: Vanessa Clifton/Netflix and Getty Images for Netflix

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  1. girl_ninja says:

    I watched her entire Netflix series the weekend and loved it. The 8 episodes were not enough and I hope it gets a 2nd season.

    • Lilo says:

      Me toooooo!!! I couldn’t stop watching and almost sat down yesterday to rewatch it all. It’s so so soooooo good.

  2. seaflower says:

    Loved her in Always Be My Maybe look forward to seeing this.

  3. Cel2495 says:

    Love her! I def will watch this… I agree… we need to see more of this on Tv. I have issues with my body and learning to love my heavier body now while working on getting healthy whatever that is and whatever size it is. I gained a lot of weight the pass 5 years due to thyroid problems, anxiety ( stress eating), mentally abusive soon to be ex husband, and all the usual stressful situations you can think of. Anyhow, have a therapist and a great endocrinologist and hope to continue on working on loving myself. It’s a journey as she says … we have to learn to love whatever shape we are and be grateful we are here.

    • TikiChica says:

      Best of luck in your journey. I like what you’re saying because both things can be true: trying to get healthier+ loving your body where it’s at. Not waiting to do things until you have the “right” body for it.

      • Cel2495 says:

        @Tikichica thank you! I spent lots of time getting depressed and hating the weight gain and then with my therapist I learned that I have to be grateful that this body heavy and all got me through my bad thyroid health problems. I learn to refocus on getting my medical issues under control, be thankful that I was alive with this body and all and be kind to it. Now I am in a journey to love it as is , be kind to myself while working and getting better. And you are so right… we sometimes wait till we “have the right body “ to do things and perhaps that just keeps us in a vicious cycle of punishment. I want to wear the bathing suits now , the skirts now, the bodycon dress now…. Whatever that size is.

  4. LIONE says:

    She is my FAVORITE!
    So funny, gorgeous, talented, warm-spirited and wholesome. God, I love her!
    Binged her series and hope we don’t have to wait too long for season 2.

  5. manda says:

    Her standup is so funny!

    • Lucy says:

      Yes! I’ve seen her stand up, I don’t know how long ago the special was. Her husband was Dutch (it was part of the Jews) and she is hysterical.

  6. Cosmic Cow says:

    I watched two episodes this weekend and I enjoyed them. It’s an antidote to all the doom and gloom in the media lately.

  7. Jess says:

    I love her and was so excited for this show. I binged the entire season this weekend and loved it!!

  8. upstatediva says:

    Watched the whole show and loved it! Come for the love of Michelle Buteau’s brilliance and leave appreciating EVERY cast member (she has a lot of cool comedians as friends and colleagues!). The tone and warmth/love were fantastic, and I laughed out loud in many places. Highly recommend .

  9. K says:

    She’s awesome. I watched the entire season and I loved the message. This show was hilarious but also very sweet. My niece is trans and I loved the idea of the Prom.

  10. kd says:

    Love her, Loved the show. Such a true depiction of Brooklyn creatives… With this show and “From Scratch” is Netflix telling me my forever love is waiting for me in Italy????

  11. QuiteContrary says:

    I love her so much, too, and cannot wait to watch this show!

  12. Ness says:

    I know her socially through my BFF and she is delightful, friendly, fun, and has a beautiful family with her husband and babies. It makes me super happy every time I see her winning at life on TV 🙂

  13. Nicegirl says:

    She’s amazing

  14. Tee says:

    Survival of the Thickest was excellent!!! Great cast, writing. I laughed and cried. Fingers crossed we get more seasons!