Lupita Nyong’o posted about dissociating from someone who deceived her

Here are some photos from this weekend’s Go Campaign’s annual gala. Robert Pattinson – a Go Campaign ambassador – attended with his girlfriend Suki Waterhouse. Lupita Nyong’o was there as well, and she brought her mother, Dorothy Ogada, as her date. I want to talk about Lupita more than Rob, if that’s okay. Weirdly, Rob seems so settled lately, like he’s finally figured out some kind of balance in his life and everything’s going well for him, so it’s not that scandalous or anything. But Lupita has some drama and it’s not just her shell headpiece or her sack dress.

So, last Wednesday, Lupita turned up at a Janelle Monae concert in Inglewood. She was with a group of friends, one of whom was Joshua Jackson. Jodie Turner Smith just filed for divorce from Joshua a few weeks ago, and reportedly, he was surprised. Reportedly, Joshua and Lupita are “just friends” but… you know, people will gossip. That Janelle Monae concert outing came at the very same time that people noticed that Lupita wiped all evidence of Selema Masekela from her social media. Lupita and Selema had been together for a year, probably longer. Well, the day after the concert, Lupita posted this note on her social media:

There are much more important things going on in the world right now, and my thoughts are with those who are deeply suffering.

At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust…

I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception. I am tempted to run into the shadows and hide, only to return to the light when I have regained my strength enough for me to say, “Whatever, my life is better this way.” But I am reminded that the magnitude of the pain I am feeling is equal to the measure of my capacity for love. And so, I am choosing to face the pain, cultivating the courage to meet my life exactly as it is, and trusting that this too shall pass. The promise, they say, is that a tender heart is what gives birth to fearlessness. I hope it’s true… I share this to keep it 100, and hoping that the knowledge of my experience might be useful to someone else out there experiencing the grip of heartbreak who is poised to try and escape from the pain and miss out on the wisdom that comes from it. #Breakup

Let’s face our pain so we don’t spread it.

[From Lupita’s IG]

WTF did Selema do to Lupita? What kinds of lies, what deceptions, what did he do that was so horrible that she needed to publicly dissociate herself?? The fact that all of this happened within 24 hours is bonkers too – Lupita wipes her IG of any trace of Selema, goes to the concert with Joshua and then posts this message… I really, really want to know what went down. It was bad, I know that much. It also feels like Lupita’s mom probably had to fly in after the sh-t went down.

Photos courtesy of Backgrid.

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  1. Amy Bee says:

    Sounds like Selema was involved in some fraudulent activity and Lupita knows it’s going to come out soon.

    • Pinkosaurus says:

      Agreed, some crime or grift is involved and she wants to make sure everyone knows it’s not her before the news breaks. Anne Hathaway stuck with her grifter too long after it started coming out and it damaged her reputation for at least a while.

    • Eurydice says:

      Damage control makes sense, even if the actual words don’t.

  2. Hannah says:

    Lupita’s mum 💫 Ms. Ogada. They both look beautiful and I’m glad Lupita has her mum with her 🥹

    • antipodean says:

      Her Mum is gorgeous! Easy to see where Lupita got her looks. They are a luminous pair. There is nobody who can console your heart, after it has been mangled, like a Mum.

    • Glamarazzi says:

      They both look sublime here. No better way to heal a broken heart than with mum and glamour.

  3. Kitten says:

    I NEED to know what happened. How did he f*ck things up with Lupita??

  4. Shawna says:

    RPattz looks healthy.

  5. Concern Fae says:

    Hope all goes well for her.

    Headline was alarming, Glad to read the story! “Dissociate myself” is very different from “dissociating,” which is a psychiatric symptom meaning feeling separated from one’s self. It gets used now to talk about internet surfing while stressed, but medically, it means having a break from reality.

  6. NotSoSocialB says:

    I assume we mean disassociating, as in not associating with someone?

  7. blue says:

    I took “betrayal” to refer to an infidelity of sorts, like S was fooling around or has a sidepiece.

    • Blithe says:

      Maybe. But it could also mean not being the person that he was purported to be — especially in ways that could change how she might view him and, as a consequence, their relationship. There are other biggies like that. So, something like finding out that a person has a child that they’ve never mentioned; that they’re doing things illegally or immorally; that they’ve misrepresented themselves in ways that are abhorrent — that would have changed the nature of their relationship if they had been openly known. Someone with a serious history of substance abuse, or incarceration, or massive debts — who lied about it, for example. In my youth, someone I dated told me that he was recovering from cancer — when that wasn’t true.

      Betrayals of trust and manipulations and psychopathy are big deals that can go beyond infidelity.

  8. Libra says:

    This sounds like the standard published newspaper statement “I will not be responsible for any debts other than my own.” Wonder if this statement was made after legal advise. Be proactive, get your non involvement out there asap. Criminal activity ?

  9. Blueberry 🫐 says:

    Lupita looks stunning!!!

  10. Notjust says:

    I read somewhere that she took that last long part of the statement from an artist without referencing them. Don’t know if it’s true so don’t take my word for it.

  11. Flamingo says:

    Lupita and her Mother looks angelic. And is that a baby bump on Suki? Or just the design of the dress.

    • Sudie says:

      Looks like a baby bump to me. Earlier photos of her from her tour a couple weeks ago, it appeared she might be pregnant. I guess we’ll see as time goes by because I don’t believe they will make a formal announcement.