Gillian Anderson: there are so many taboos around discussing bodies and menopause


Gillian Anderson is one of those women whom I find to be just too cool for school. I’ve had a girl crush on her since my very first episode of The X-Files in 1998. I think she’s a fantastic actress, has great style, and an empowered attitude. I guess what I’m trying to say is I love her vibe. During the pandemic, Gillian realized that she was drinking too many sugary, caffeinated drinks and decided to found her own brand of natural soft drinks called G Spot. At a recent event in which G Spot partnered with the Wellbeing of Women charity, Gillian did an interview with Hello! Magazine to talk about female empowerment and the taboo around women’s health. If you didn’t know, Gillan co-write a book in 2017 called We: A Manifesto For Women Everywhere and spoke in interviews about her experience with perimenopause.

Gillian Anderson is feeling powerful. “I am,” she agrees. “It’s interesting because I feel like I’ve learned a lot from the characters that I’ve played over the years.”

From Special Agent Dana Scully in The X-Files to Stella Gibson in The Fall, Gillian has played a long list of empowered women. Now, the 55-year-old star wants the women who have loved her characters to feel like they can feel powerful too.

“I think women can be incredibly powerful. I want other women of all ages, who have looked up to the characters that I’ve played, to explore what it is about those characters that they actually want, and whether they can embrace some of those attributes that already exist in them. Hopefully then they can own them more.”

This mission to empower women is something that’s been partly driven by one of Gillian’s most recent roles as Dr Jean Milburn in Sex Education. “Women centric issues have always been important to me but since doing Sex Education, women’s health has been a topic that has been brought to me quite a lot.”

“There are so many taboos, oddly, even in 2023, that are still around discussion about women’s bodies, about sex, about menopause.” It’s why the award-winning actress cares so much about the kind of sex education that children are receiving in school.

“A good percentage of youth out there aren’t really aren’t getting messaging that is helpful and useful for them in terms of what protection to use.” Gillian has even observed that it isn’t always taught that the different developmental stages that girls and boys go through are all completely okay.

“There shouldn’t be shame around it or judgement, it’s always going to be icky. So why not be brave and have those conversations?”

Even menopause, a significant stage currently experienced by approximately a third of the UK’s female population, is still a taboo topic. Earlier this year UCL discovered that a staggering 90% of postmenopausal women were never taught about the menopause at school. In fact, over 60% only started looking for information about it once their symptoms had started. Gillian has similarly found that many women simply aren’t informed about menopause.

“I’m constantly struck by how many women of my age and younger know very little about menopause. It’s just such a peculiar thing that in this day and age there isn’t more out there that is accessible to women from a very young age.”

“But also to young boys about what the other half of the population is going to be going through. It may end up affecting them as well in one way or another because they have sisters and mothers. And we actually have partners that may or may not be women.”

[From Hello Magazine]

Honestly, I couldn’t help but read Gillian’s quotes in character as Dr. Jean from Sex Education. But she’s right, though. There are so many taboos, lack of education, misconceptions, false information, and shaming that goes on when it comes to talking about women’s bodies, especially our reproductive health. Just think about how many men and women over the past 18 months have had their eyes opened up about abortion being healthcare. These stigmas also help perpetuate misogynistic sentiments throughout society, such as women being too emotional, irrational or promiscuous.

I once had a discussion with someone who firmly believes that any talk about bodies and sex should be strictly left to parents to teach. My counterpoint was that there are so many parents out there that have never actually been properly taught about these things themselves. I’ve read some crazy Reddit threads and Buzzfeed compilations of stories from reproductive healthcare workers sharing some of the wild things their patients didn’t know about their own bodies and how they worked, including how you get or prevent pregnancy. I think there’s a difference between TMI and breaking stigmas. When we talk about biological experiences that are common or shared, it helps educate others so they don’t feel confused or alone. I know these topics make a lot people uncomfortable. They don’t have to talk about them, but if those of us who feel comfortable sharing do, then the information will be out there whenever they need it and are ready to listen.

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  1. LeahTheFrench says:

    “I’ve read some crazy Reddit threads and Buzzfeed compilations of stories from reproductive healthcare workers sharing some of the wild things their patients didn’t know about their own bodies and how they worked, including how you get or prevent pregnancy.” My former OB-GYN once told me a teenager came to see him with a bloodied belly-button. She apparently thought this was how you had sex. Through the belly-button. I kid you not. OK, this was pre-internet days, but also in Paris, where you have access to plenty of health and medical information.

    • MoxyLady007 says:

      The sheer amount of shit I did not know when I was pregnant and giving birth scares me now. The fact that my mother had 11 pregnancies and births and I still knew nothing really scared me.

      My kids know all the things.

      That said – I’m 41 and all I know about perimenopause and menopause are that apparently I’m going to go insane for a decade and my whole body is going to go through a metamorphosis which will leave me frail and hurting and dry.
      Wooo.

      • Drea says:

        HRT if you’re able. It’s been a lifesaver.

        I had to go to a functional /integrative medicine doc for it though. OB/gyns are generally useless on the subject.

      • Lolalola3 says:

        100% agree with Drea. HRT hooray. I’m just sorry I waited and suffered with hot flashes, brain mush, crappy sleep etc. for a few years before finally reaching out to my Gyno to get some HRT. I felt better within a few days. Why didn’t I know more about what was going to happen? Aside from hearing about hot flashes, I was clueless

      • Monica says:

        What scares me is that I won’t be able to take HRT due to other health issues. I’m in my mid forties and am trying to learn all I can about what’s to come but it’s very dispiriting for me when everyone says ‘HRT saved my sanity!’ and I’m left wondering what will happen to mine. I’m so angry that I’m marching towards a biological imperative that has been painted so scarily and bleakly. I appreciate these conversations here, I’ve actually learned a lot from other commenters, so thank you!

  2. Bienestar88 says:

    I’m 41 and currently going through menopause due to a total hysterectomy I had in November. Some things I read on the internet convinced me that menopause was the end. Besides the hot flashes, it hasn’t been so bad so far. I wish I wouldn’t have scared myself silly with reddit, etc.

    • FHMom says:

      I think surgical menopause may be different than menopause that occurs naturally? I’m not entirely sure. I went through it a few years ago. It wasn’t bad. None of my friends had awful experiences; and it’s wonderful to not have to plan your life around your period. For me, the worst part was the peri years when my period would just show up unexpectedly.

      Also, this piece was written very thoughtfully, Rosie,, I also love Gillian.

    • ML says:

      Bienestar88, Good luck with your health and the ensuing menopause—you don’t just choose to have a hysterectomy for kicks and giggles!
      I entered menopause in my late thirties due to (unknown to me at the time) celiac disease. I had more issues with night sweats than hot flashes, but they’re both annoying. What helped me is making sure I moved daily and making sure (in retrospect) my blood sugar didn’t spike (ie, try to eat a bit of fiber and protein and potentially healthy fats when you ingest sugars and starches). I’m glad your experience is better than you had expected it would be.

    • Anony vas Normandy says:

      46, had a total hysterectomy/salpingo oopherectomy in July that kick-started my menopause. My doctors are being very cautious with the use of estrogen, because of a history of cancer, but they did put me on low-dose premarin that’s been very helpful for mood swings, hot flashes, and night sweats. There are a lot of other issues caused by menopause that I never knew about until this year, like loss of bone density and increased visceral fat – things you don’t notice until they become an active problem. I feel like, when you deal with surgical menopause, you kind of have to do a crash-course and it’s kind of terrifying how little we’re told.

    • Drea says:

      If you still have your ovaries and other glands, the hormones are still there.

      Are you on prometrium?

      Wish you the best!

  3. SarahCS says:

    I’m 45 and pretty sure I started perimeopause a couple of years back, the comments here have been SO helpful but at the same time I’m sad that this is where I’m getting critical information about my health.

    Please keep covering these stories and huge thank you to everyone sharing their experiences in the comments.

  4. mel says:

    I’m deep in “peri” and other than some heat flushes (which only last a few minutes and are annoying but ok) it’s been fine. In fact my libido sky rocketed which was kinda nice! I’m 50 now and just met my current partner 10months ago. BEST. SEX. OF. MY. LIFE.
    Also not having a period is AWESOME. I get a little spotting once in awhile but that’s it. Cannot wait til it’s finally gone!

    Everyone is different. I had to explain to my sis that menopause looks different for everyone…My period came more often between 43-47, every 3 weeks-ish. Only in my late 40s did it start spreading out more. Meanwhile she’s 1.5 years older (52) and is still getting hers monthly! I feel for her haha!

    It’s also SO important to maintain muscle mass. I eat more protein, drink more water, do heavy lifting twice a week and get outside. Cut down on booze too. Plenty of ways to stay vibrant and healthy! Main thing though is mostly IDGAF what others think anymore! Other than injuries not healing as fast, I am definitely in the prime of my life and will extend it as long as I can!

  5. Concern Fae says:

    Huge Gillian fan since X-Files. But this we should be teaching this in school trope bugs me. Does anyone think teenagers would do anything but roll their eyes at being given menopause education? Also, any information would surely be out of date when they go through menopause in thirty plus years. It’s a lazy kick at education.

    We do need better sex education, though. I went through menopause without really noticing. I did have a hormonal IUD in, which my doctor left in for the 10 years that they do in the EU, rather than the 5 they do in the US. My period never came back.

    • Doodle says:

      I disagree. I live in Texas and it’s staggering how little some people know and how many parents pull their kids from the sex Ed talk at school, and from what I can gather they avoid the talk at home too. It may be outdated info but at least they will know the word and the overall gist of things. Information is never a bad thing and that information can get updated, but the first step is breaking a taboo.

  6. Sharon says:

    I’m 58 and my period didn’t stop till just before my 58th birthday. My gyno had checked everything since turning 50. It was hard to find good information. Even my own mother wouldn’t talk to me about it. You’re supposed to keep working your full time job pretending you’re not going through anything physically or emotionally and that you’re the same person you were at 30 or 40, but you’re not. And then there’s pressure to keep colouring your hair & do some Botox to cover up your lines & pretend you aren’t aging. Who are we doing this for? Why do we have to pretend to freeze time?

    • Bree says:

      Amen! 50 here and been in perimenopause with significant symptoms for a couple years. It’s a joke that I can do the same job (running a nonprofit). Have had to modify and offload a ton. Grateful I can (kind of) do that!

  7. Elsa says:

    I am 62 and live in the pit that is Texas. However, I have little to no contact with the Trump crowd so my experience is somewhat different. My girlfriend’s and I talk about everything. I don’t feel that anything is taboo. However, I used to go to an Uber religious obgyn and he tried to get me to get a hysterectomy for no reason and was pissed when I wouldn’t. That is when I realized that he was dangerous and just trying to get money. It was crazy.

  8. East Villager says:

    I’m in my 40’s and just started a low dose of HRT because I took initiative on my own. Even my primary care doctor dismissed my request and told me that she rarely will prescribe this (she’s in her early 30’s) and then quoted very outdated medical research. I did quite a bit of research on my own and honestly I wish I’d gone on HRT 2 years ago. I used to work at a prominent academic hospital and most American doctors spend less than 2 hours learning about menopause in their curriculum to become GP’s. I am so grateful that people like Naomi Watts and Gillian Anderson (and even Gwyneth) are starting this dialogue.