Demi Moore thinks she was the first working mother in Hollywood


Demi Moore is the cover girl for the May issue of Elle UK. I think it’s a lovely black-and-white image, and I love when Demi does loose waves with her hair. I can’t stand when she does the flat-ironed, super-straight hair. The soft waves look more natural, and they make her look younger too. Can you tell I’m obsessed? My hair is Demi’s length right now, and I’m debating whether to cut it. I’m also debating whether I should dye it – for the first time ever! I’ve got silver coming in, and it’s starting to piss me off.

Anyway, I can only find this little excerpt from the Elle interview, but it’s a pretty decent one. From the way Demi talks, you’d think that she was the first actress to ever have a family. Granted, I know things were different in the olden days, but Demi isn’t solely responsible for the whole “working Hollywood moms” thing. Sidenote: Meryl Streep managed to raise four children while having a career that has earned her 14 Oscar nominations. Just sayin’, Demi. She also admits: “I don’t think that I am the most talented person.” Ya think?

The actress is renowned for making some daring decisions throughout her career. In 1991, she appeared naked and heavily pregnant on the cover of Vanity Fair magazine, and she shaved off all her hair for 1997 movie G.I. Jane.

She insists she had no idea of the impact the Vanity Fair cover would have, explaining she just wanted to “push the boundaries”. Demi, who has three daughters with her ex-husband Bruce Willis, explained she felt she had to do something about the way women were viewed at the time, as she felt it was unfair they had to choose between having a family and career.

“I didn’t have a lot of role models in Hollywood and I probably pushed a little hard. But I’m hard-headed. I look at women like Jennifer Garner and Reese Witherspoon, actresses who are also young mothers, and I realise it’s not even a question now,” she explained. “Risk taking scares the s**t out of me. I always feel that I’m going to fail, which is a terrible thing. I can be my own worst enemy.”

Demi, 47, still worries her career could come tumbling down around her. She doesn’t think she is a particularly talented actress, and just tries to use her fame to help other people.

“I don’t think that I am the most talented person,” she told the British edition of Elle magazine. “I’ve been given a window into a life, and I may not know why but it’s not for me to question. It’s more important for me to just shut up and listen and give. Even if I don’t know what it is that I’ve got to give.”

[From Music Rooms]

If I get passed the whole plastic surgery thing, and the whole lying-about-plastic-surgery thing, and the whole Twitter-idiot crap, I don’t really dislike Demi. I think she usually sounds very grounded. But I have another question – this is the second major publication she’s appeared in on a month’s time – she was the April cover girl for the American Harper’s Bazaar. And now she’s on Elle UK. What is she promoting? The only film she’s got out this year is still in post-production, and it doesn’t even have a release date. Why do magazines keep letting Demi have a cover when all she does is reminisce about the good old days when she was breaking barriers? Why doesn’t she actually “shut up and listen and give”?

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  1. moo says:

    I’d have to agree…. she’s like 60 or something, right?

  2. snowball says:

    Maybe Ashton has something coming out? She does seem to have her mug all over the place. I liked it better when she was holed up in, what was it, Colorado?

    Why pick on one of those Kartrashian people on Twitter? She’s been making all sorts of semi-controversial statements, just enough to get her name out, not enough to be really, really offensive.

  3. Jillian says:

    Snowball, it was Idaho.

  4. SammyHammy says:

    Kaiser, as a person who has hair that started turning prematurely white at age 15 and am now 45 (my dad’s turned white at 17), I am in the pro-hair dying camp. It’s easy, it’s quick and as long as you don’t choose a crazy color it looks very natural.

    Also, if you are skittish, you could try one of the semipermanent dyes first, that will only last a few weeks.

    Oh, and long hair is beautiful…don’t cut it!

  5. Iggles says:

    “I didn’t have a lot of role models in Hollywood and I probably pushed a little hard. But I’m hard-headed. I look at women like Jennifer Garner and Reese Witherspoon, actresses who are also young mothers, and I realise it’s not even a question now,” she explained.


    Demi has a point. She was criticized for taking strong roles. On the mother comment, “old” hollywood wasn’t obsessed with snapping actresses with their kids like they are now. If she was raising a family now there would constantly be pictures of her with Rumer and Scout.

    I don’t think she said she was the first working mother, but I think she meant she was at the height of her career as a leading woman while raising young kids. Not sure if that was the norm back then.

  6. meme says:

    um, her career has tumbled down already. she’s a has been twittering twat who can’t deal with the fact that she ain’t young anymore.

  7. Taya says:

    She may be 47 years old but she acts like a 22 year old. Face it Demi, you are not a teeny bopper anymore..grow up and act your age.
    Demi needs to stop pretending that she is this cool and hip young actress because it just makes her look like an idiot.
    When Demi talked about her working mother struggles, I hope she left room for the numerous nannies that helped her. Sally Fields, Meryl Streep,and others were having kids and being working mothers before Demi was even on the radar screen.

  8. Scout says:

    She can stop worrying about her career tumbling down….the worst has happened – it is in an ugly heap on the floor. Well, actually, IMHO, that is the BEST thing to have happened for we, the public! She is annoying to put it kindly, and she needs to get over herself..she is not relevant anymore – if she ever was.

  9. Lisa says:

    Ooh, Kaiser, I’ve been dying my hair since I was about 13 and I’m addicted. Nothing changes up a look more than a new color (get it done professionally though!) However, I did see a woman in Chicago a few weeks ago that had long, gorgeous, natural silver hair and it looked absolutely stunning on her. Even more so because she was wearing a long black coat and she definitely stood out from every other woman around her.

    As for Demi? Meh. She twitters more than a cyrus-obsessed tween, though I hear she’s been saving lives through tweeting lately, so maybe that’s not so bad.

  10. Rosalee says:

    Are women in their 40’s required to wear widow’s weeds and climb into a rocking chair?..bu**@@it..

  11. Kaiser says:

    I got premature grey too, but over the past year, the silver has started coming in up front. I’m half-Indian, and I really don’t want to do anything drastic to my hair that will make me look too ridiculous – I just want it to look the way it does now, minus the grey.

    I’ve been considering the Garnier Nutrisse stuff – can anyone give me feedback?

  12. OXA says:

    Lucille Ball beat her to it.

  13. Cinderella says:

    During her heyday, she seemed pretty full of herself. Then she did an unselfish thing by getting away from it all and raising her girls in Hailey. I give her two thumbs up for that.

    Unfortunately, it cost her a career, so I guess her role is to just be Demi Moore–Ashton’s wife, Rumer’s mom, Twitter Extraordinaire.

    She’ll always be a celebrity, though.

  14. meme says:

    her youngest daughter is what 12 or something and they’ve been living back in hollyweird for years so she hardly raised her daughters in idaho. what was the point if only to bring them back to hollyweird at their most impressionable ages?

  15. N says:

    Permanent dyes scare me so I use the Natural Instincts line but would highly recommend doing a strand test because the colors come out a bit different than the box – usually a shade darker. With your dark hair, you should be fine, but with lighter hair, it can be a bit dramatic if you don’t do a strand test and determine how long to leave it on. The best part: it does wash out, so you can always try new colors.

  16. danielle says:

    Kaiser, I’ve been dying my hair for a long time. Mine is a dark brown, and I go slightly lighter, to a medium brown. I personally like Nice and Easy with Color blend technology of Feria. Both of these brands add multiple different colors, so I think it looks very natural. That said, it might be a good idea to go semi-permanent to start with, like others suggested. Only problem with that is it doesn’t cover the greys as long. I would only go to a salon for a dramatic change or highlights.

    Oh, and sometimes I think Demi doesn’t sound terribly bright.

  17. lucy2 says:

    Why is she all over the place if she has nothing to promote and doesn’t seem to do anything besides red carpets and twitter?

    I think it was a good decision to raise the kids out of Hollywood. It may have cost her some roles, but she should own it as HER decision, not that Hollywood forced her to chose between career and family.

  18. Kaiser says:

    Thanks N & Danielle!

  19. mslewis says:

    Kaiser, DON’T DYE YOUR HAIR!! Let the grey come in naturally. It will make you look amazing and you will stand out from the crowd. I assure you that if you dye your healthy hair you will regret it very soon.

    As for Demi . . . What Scout said!!

  20. chunkstyle says:

    No comment on Demi, but go for the hair-dye if it makes you feel better 🙂 I’ve been graying since I was 19 so I never thought of it as an “old” thing, but just an annoying thing!
    I ended up going blond because it hides the light grays better! Go for it!

  21. lrm says:

    THere’s a classic chinese herbal formula-He Shou Wu-that reverses grey hair. It’s been around for hundreds of years, and it does work.
    Also, Ayurvedic medicine has approaches.
    In Chinese med. grey hair is the result of loss of kidney jing [life force], which depletes as we age. Herbs can rebuild it.
    Grey hair can also be the result of excess heat in the blood-again, herbal remedies abound for this cause.
    Or, just plain old stress can exacerbate.

    Obviously, you can be of the ‘it’s a part of life or genetic’ camp, and still choose a number of routes for dealing with it, including said herbs/alternative approaches, as well as dying.

  22. happymom says:

    Meme-you’re so right-she’s been back in LA for years now.

    And Demi-I hate to break it to you, but Hollywood actresses from the get-go had children too-you didn’t invent this.

    On the plus side-I think she looks amazing.

  23. Jules says:

    Demi is desperately trying to stay relevant in the world of Hollywood. Unfortunately for her, she’s been IRRELEVANT for years…

  24. Ohforf says:

    Hasnt she ever seen Mommie Dearest? Joan Crawford had that working mom thing down! “NO MORE WIRE HANGERS”!!!!

  25. 2centsnichols says:

    Demi is her biggest fan. she is and always has been so full of herself. she is always the “first woman” to do anything in Hollywood. No one cares Demi, parties over- do you really need to be swept out with the plates?

  26. Dani says:

    Try henna in your shampoo and conditioner if you don’t like chemical dyes. It makes your hair stronger too.

  27. Ruffian9 says:

    “…explained she felt she had to do something about the way women were viewed at the time, as she felt it was unfair they had to choose between having a family and career.”

    Please; She wasn’t raising her kids in the 1940’s. Does she honestly think that she forged some kind of path for hollywood moms like Garner & Witherspoon?


  28. Hautie says:

    My bias opinion on hair color and dyeing long hair.

    I have both, long hair and dyed to hide the shiny white hairs that started showing up in my mid 20’s.

    I was a natural brunette and I decided to go lighter too. But to a warm chestnut brown. Nothing too drastic. I also use Nice and Easy with Color blend technology of Feria. Been very happy with the results.

    Now I purposely went with a store color. Versus going professional coloring. The store brands tend not to fade out to some horrible shade. Nor do they lift my natural color too much.

  29. Scout says:


  30. Sunnyjyl says:

    Kaiser, I am in the dye, don’t cut your hair camp. I agree that Feria is a very good starter colorant. You’ll have to go for a stronger dye when every hair on your head is white.
    No comment on Demi. I’m still trying to get Bruce’s phone number. Not going to piss her off.

  31. bellaluna says:

    @ Kaiser – Feria is an excellent over-the-counter product, and they have some beautiful colours (I work in the cosmetic section of CVS) – people rave about it. I’m trying to decide on which colour to use for my own hair, which is down to my rear end. You will probably need more than one box, though, due to the length of your hair. I have to use 3 boxes due to the length of mine!

    @ OXA – Thank you! Lucille Ball was the first woman to pop in my head when I read this header! And she did it with style.

  32. santacruz says:

    ‘daring’ decisions in her career, or attention-seeking behaviors? This woman is, and always will be a publicity whore.

  33. Abby says:

    oh, please! kaiser! you’ve been duped. she is so not grounded. “i just want to give and give, even if i don’t know what to give…” – vomit. i bet that was in a script she read.

    i’ve never dyed my hair either – i’m 30 – and have found a few silver hairs this year. i’m thinking about trying Lush’s line of henna.

  34. ashley says:

    Kaiser, I am a color specialist, and if you’ve never done it at home, please go to a salon and just get a demi color gloss. Sure some people are ok with a kit from the store, but if it messes up, because color is unpredictable, color corrections cost in the hundreds. So just go to a salon and have a spa day, we all deserve one.

  35. Yvette says:

    Esther Williams had 3 kids while swimming her way to fame (plus a miscarriage before the first one that no one cared about and made her feel like crap – read her book)

  36. snappyfish says:

    Other than Ghost, which was Whoopi Goldberg’s film nothing this chick did was interesting. Strong roles? what? Striptease? Charlie’s Angels 2? G. I Jane?

    She was on General Hospital and sucked on that. This woman is full of herself and the whole “I never had plastic surgery” is ridiculous that was one of the reason she was hiding in Idaho…Her divorce from Willis was because she never got over the fact that he was the movie star. They have managed to raise what appears to be fairly normal girls.. with the exception of Rumer who actually stated that college was stilting her growth……really an education was a problem?

    good luck with the hair, I’m sure it will look nice which ever way you chose to go…but don’t cut your hair. Mine is 18 inches long and I will never cut it other than a trim.

  37. CeeCee12 says:

    My hair is auburn and almost down to my waist. I noticed a few rogue premmie grays and used Natural Instincts a few times. I liked the outcome. I do prefer salons though because they are able to add more depth to the color. I say keep your hair as long as you like and if you aren’t ready for gray then dye away!

    Demi Moore used to have the nickname Gimme Moore because she was so demanding and bullying. Her career has never been impressive and it never will be. She needs to keep some of the dumb she says to herself. Nobody cares anymore.

  38. Cindy Kennedy says:

    She has probably had a about a quarter of a million dollars worth of plastic surgery.

  39. jover says:

    Are there no attractive models in the UK that UK fashion mags are reduced to putting Gweyneth Paltrow and Demi Moore on their covers – and the shots are generic and uninteresting to boot.

  40. SammyHammy says:

    Another comment about the hair dying thing…I’ve been coloring mine for many years. Because my hair is completely white, I chose to go with an ash blond; that way any rogue white hairs that don’t take the color well just look like highlights.

    As for the at-home versus salon coloring question:

    My experience has been that I’ve almost always dyed my own hair (I agree with everyone else about Nice & Easy–it’s the best!). At one point I wanted to treat myself, so I decided to have it done professionally at a salon. I went to one of the “upscale” salons in my area to have the color done right.

    Well, when I got home, my husband asked my why I chickened out. I didn’t. Turns out that the $70 professional dye job looked EXACTLY like my $5.99 home dye job. I just couldn’t see any benefit to spending that much money when I could do it myself and have the identical result.

    Just my 2 cents…again!

  41. Ruth says:

    Didn’t she say she has never dyed her hair? At 47 and no visible grays, I find that very hard to believe.