Jesse James has issued a long statement responding to the news that the famous wife he so publicly wronged, Sandra Bullock, has filed for divorce. I’m struck by how long and arrogant the statement is. It starts out by saying that it was a hard decision to “let” Sandra file for divorce, as if he had the final say and is doing her this huge favor by allowing her to go through with it. He does say that he loves their newly-adopted son Louis, though, and it was hard to again “let” Sandra move forward alone with the adoption. The guy is still holding out hope that he can somehow win Sandra back, and of course tries to pull the “I’ve changed” crap. Why do cheating men always do this? James’ statement ends with asking us not to blame Sandra, as if anyone has ever done this apart from him. You know he’s got to have some twisted justification for all the crap he’s pulled.
As Sandra Bullock shares her decision to file for divorce from husband Jesse James and adopt son Louis as a single mom, James tells PEOPLE he has a “huge hole” in his heart, but understands:
“My whole life has been full of hard decisions.
“The decision to let my wife end our marriage, and continue the adoption of Louis on her own, has been the hardest. The love I have for Louis cannot be put to words. Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart.
“Sandy is the love of my life, but considering the pain and devastation I have caused her, it would be selfish to not let her go. Right now it is time for me to beat this addiction that has taken two of the things I love the most in life.
“I have always taken great pride in proving people wrong. That time has come once again to show that I am not what everyone says I am. I know in my heart that I can be the best father possible to my four children, and the mate Sandy deserves, and realize that this is an incredible mountain to climb. But I believe that the steps I have taken in the last 30 days are the foundation for making this happen. The lifelong commitment I am making is what being a real husband and father is all about.
“I ask that you please do not judge Sandy for the things I have done. She has done no wrong. She played no part in any of this. She has been an amazing wife, mother, and best friend, for the over 6 years we have been together.”
[From People]
In terms of some of the asinine, self-pitying things Jesse’s spokesperson has said to the press in the past, his latest statement isn’t that bad. He’s changed, he wants Sandra back, he regrets his behavior, etc. This is a story as old as time – Man cheats, man gets caught, man claims he’s changed and wants his life and wife back. If only these fools would have realized what they were gambling by cheating in the first place. Once the wife finds out, it’s often too late.
Compare Jesse’s sappy “poor me” statement to the advance, very classy quotes from Sandra in this upcoming issue of People. She said “I really don’t know how our paths will intersect in the future, but the father I have known Jesse to be … is one that I hope Louis can experience one day, no matter how Jesse and I go on with our lives.” [via Lainey Gossip]
TMZ also has more quotes from Bullock’s People interview, and she responded very strongly to the news about James’ Nazi photo. “The photo shocked me and made me sad. This is not the man I married. This was stupid, this was ignorant. Racism, anti-Semitism, sexism, homophobia, anything Nazi and a boatload of other things have no place in my life… And the man I married felt the same.” I love that she said this so unequivocally and that she explained that the Jesse she knew wasn’t the racist assh*le that he’s been described as. I believe her, and I’ve written about this before. The guy hid his blatant infidelity from her for years and maybe his racism was a side he rarely showed.
Here’s James outside his cafe, Cisco Burger, in Long Beach on 4/27. Radar Online reports that the diner’s business is way down ever since the scandal broke.
Photo credit: SRV/EVA/bauergriffinonline.com
STFU , asswipe
@ Biteme- I KNOW! STFU! That’s how I feel too
That word “SORRY” above his head, is appropriate.
Yes you are sorry, Jesse. You are so sorry.
If she was his “best friend” shouldn’t she have known about the women? But really, IF she was his best friend, there would have been no other women to talk about…so…lies just pour forth like honey, eh Jessie?
“I ask that you please do not judge Sandy for the things I have done. She has done no wrong. She played no part in any of this.
Well no sh*t Sherlock. No one is judging her, perhaps we are wondering why she has such awful taste in men, but beyond that it is only your behaviour that is being questioned.
Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart.
Yeahhhhhhhh a hole big enough for a dozen hooker and a few kegs.
He’s certainly had his hardships of which whores to sleep with over the years… His life has been filled with hard decisions.
I’m guessing this is why it took Sandra so long to file for divorce: she had to let him think he’s “letting” her leave.
Oh, please. This guy’s a total enema.
I just don’t buy it… from either of them. But this is a very nice PR clean up. You couldn’t buy better damage control control than celebrity adoption. Oh wait, obviously we can. Lol. Good job with the divorce though.
Now that their story is wrapped up nicely, I wonder who will be next?
So he had a brand new baby at home and he still was surfing the net looking for stupid tattooed women to screw?
I hope he goes away and never comes back.
He gets extra creep points for doing all that crap during an adoption process. Here they are doing a life-changing thing that could affect a vulnerable little infant, and he’s off doing crap that endangers it. She’s lucky that the adoption will still proceed. No WONDER she has been so composed — she HAD to be to get through all the damage control!
It’s like John Edwards running for President while diddling that Rielle chick. WTF do guys like this think??? LOTS of guys do this — my ex gave me an STD from a prostitute while I was carrying his baby. My girlfriend’s husband was shopping on the internet for the woman of his dreams while they sought fertility treatment. . . she had a miscarriage just weeks before he announced that he needed a quickie divorce so he could help his new love immigrate from another country. WTF goes on in their minds???? I know not all men are like this but there is a definite type out there that seem to think that they can get away with anything.
i know he’s a douchebag but i feel bad about this because i think sandra and him really did love each other and probably still do. i kinda feel sorry for him because i think he just realized he’s lost so much. then again he could be effing some nazi tattoed hooker tomorrow.
Celebitchy, you are spot-on on this one! No one blames Sandra (except Jesse, who I’m sure has some elaborate excuses in his plebian mind), we blame him!
And not only did he cheat throughout almost the entire marriage (a la Tiger), he put their adoption at risk as well. He just looks worse and worse.
ITA with those who wonder what is wrong with these men and why they never consider what it is they stand to lose when it all comes out. And it ALWAYS comes out. There is absolutely nothing in this world that would make me risk losing my children and the man I love. Nothing could be worth that, ever.
Playing the addiction card instead of the douchebag one is typical of a racist, self-centered boy who never grew up.
His “career” is finished.
Sounds like he’s sorry he got caught and now everyone hates him…not sorry for what he did
ugh, i hope the jesse she married would never have worn overalls.
Oh, how gracious of him to allow Sandy to end their marriage and raise a kid.
There is enough douchebaggery in that statement to power a douchemobile for a year.
Nice prepared speech. Didn’t he hire a publicist before entering rehab?
I’ll hope the children are given a little relief from being photographed.
Texasmom – that’s awful – your story and your friend’s. So sorry you had to go through that! I’m glad you realize, even after dealing with your horrible situation, that not all men are like that. But with all the stories coming out lately – Jesse James, Tiger Woods, Tiki Barber, etc. etc. – it makes you wonder.
I think his statement sucks. How could he do this to his “best friend”?? How could he do that while going through a 4 year process trying to adopt and potentially put it at risk?? How could he pick such trashy women while married to such a cool, classy woman?? I just don’t understand any of it…
Poor baby! Cry us a river there Jesse. Too little, too late. Why weren’t you thinking clearly before you had all those affairs. LOSER!!!! I hardly think there is anybody dumb enough to believe the BS you are slinging here.
the two most important things in his life?? So, where does that leave his other children? Loser.
Here it goes: I like him, I like them. I think he’s a douche and an asshole and I think he can change. People can, usually only after they lose something or someone great. She is doing the right thing, even if they do wind up working it out it will have to be much further in the future. Good luck to them and THANK YOU to the people who realize that right here in New Orleans, in America, there are children that need homes and love.
@city – He said two of the things he loves most. Maybe he has five things he loves the most, he lost two of them. I didn’t read it as losing the only two things he loves the most.
Let her go? Let her go?!!!
This is the kind of CRAP men come out with during break ups that really pisses me off!!
LET HER GO!
Dude, she left you. Dumbass.
I think people can change, but they have to want to change. Sometimes it takes a catalyst to force yourself to “see the light,” so to speak. That said, I don’t think Sandra will ever take him back and good for her! He can show he’s changed to someone else.
Well I certainly did see a LOT of people on here trying to blame Sandra for what happened. Saying she HAD to have known he had mistresses, she knew what she was getting into when she married him, she must be a racist by association, she’s from Germany so she must be a Nazi. On and on ad nauseum. So *I* think it is nice for him to have added that.
Other than that, yeah, the whole statement is a typical addict’s rant. Poor me me me me ME.
I agree with everyone on here. And feel bad for texasmom who had the douche of a spouse also.
Every action has a consequence. And Jesse was well aware of this when he took his actions with those women and whatnot.
His sorry story would be more believable if he had sought treatment long before he got caught. Maybe you can’t confide in your spouse but you can in a friend or counselor. dumbf**k.
Hsays, I KNOW! The “let her go” thing pissed me off too – he screwed around, got caught, and she rightly so) dumped his sorry butt. He didn’t “let her” do anything, she made the decisions. Poor, poor wording there, it only makes people madder at him!
As gross as everyone thought he was, it only got worse today when know it’s known that he did all this not just during their marriage, but during their adoption process. How does one bring another child into a family when he cares so little for them by screwing around? Disgusting.
I wish Sandra and all the kids the best, but I hope Jesse has to live with his shame and regret for a LOOOONG time.
I think the “let” language is more that he has agreed with sandra that he wont contest or argue for anything in the divorce. Meaning, he’s going to let the divorce go through smoothly and not fight her on things like the prenup and parental rights over the baby. its what she deserves, he knows that and he’s giving it to her.
He looks like he has aged quite a bit…
go sandra!
“Meaning, he’s going to let the divorce go through smoothly and not fight her on things like the prenup and parental rights over the baby.”
@lem That’s the way I read it, too.
lem is right. It was probably written by somebody else, and it meant he let her file first, and he’s not going to contest the divorce, and he’s not going to contest the adoption. I see nothing wrong with his statement. He is a lowlife a-hole and he knows it.
Also Crash is right. There were tons of people blaming Sandra on this very site for knowing he was this nazi and she probably was too. And that he’s not going to stalk her to try and get her back. He’s leaving her alone. So that is what those comments were addressing.
Any statement he issues is going to be ripped apart and thrown back at him so, eh.
Agree with everyone. His statement did say 2 OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS in his life. I think he was careful not to omit his other children.
Me 4 lem! That said, Jesse is a douche. How are you screwing a nazi hooker when you have this beautiful little baby!?! This dude has a major disconnect going on.
@ Tessa,
Don’t you think it would be more appropriate to describe him as the end result of said enema?
Jesse = Devil
@crash that’s the first thing i thought of!
@ little….thanks, i guess i was reading too fast and just reacted.
And just one last comment, PR rep needs to have his/her hand slapped for referring to James as a good parent.
Being a good parent, includes being a good example. This man’s behavior placed his children in the public, no doubt causing them unnecessary humiliation.
What is it with his overalls too? You’d think his PR would try (and all the work that entails) to get him to clean up his act and at least look decent in public. Then again, he has been dropped faster than a hot potato on the pavement and he now looks like it. Sloppy jacket and all!!!
Let her…please some one bitch slap him back till his year of birth.
oh so suddenly they are all very chatty?
You know this is PR vetted with mutual approval of the other’s statement etc… It would be quite funny to read the long list of conditions People Magazine had to sign to get those 2 exclusives.
SMH
@dawnfire – Do you not know anything about Jesse? (Besides the number of tattooed ho’s he is doing) Not to defend him, but his overalls are part of who he is. He fixes/builds bikes – should he wear a suit? He’s not going to change his look because of this scandal. He actually has a clothing company (in addition to his bike shop) that sells “work wear.” Your statement is just kinda silly about his PR team trying to get him to “look decent in public.”
wow…that’s how he treats his “best friend?” self centered douche.
Something about the whole James/Bullock debacle is developing into a storyline that resembles a movie more than real life.
@Fire – the overalls for work I can take, but those ridiculous K-Mart looking jeans he is always sporting has nothing to do with work. Just because you work in a bike shop doesn’t mean you can’t look sexy in a pair of Levi’s or even an expensive designer brand. Every thing about him spells loser douche, from his greasy hair and face to his barnyard clothing.
Out of his whole statement THIS is the part that got me:
“She has been an amazing wife, mother, and best friend, for the over 6 years we have been together.”
So then WHY DID YOU CHEAT ON HER? Not just once but over and over. WTF???
The other thing that gets me is, Sandy B would be considered a “good catch” by just about anyone. She’s reportedly very nice, funny and smart, she’s generous with her time and money for charitable causes, she is a great mom/step mom, she’s very successful and rich on her own–I mean GD that is one hell of a “resume”. And STILL, it wasn’t enough. I mean what would it have taken for him to be happy? If only she was covered in Tats and had big fake tits? What? Ugh.
Sorry about the rant, but it just mystifies me.
Of course he could look sexy in a pair of Levi’s or designer jeans, but, again, I say, this is who he IS. He is a biker through and through. He doesn’t give a shit what anyone thinks about how he is dressed. I’m not saying I love it or find him sexy, I’m just saying this is his way of life, he dresses for comfort, not style. Those few times on the red carpet with Sandra – you can just see how uncomfortable he is in a suit/tux. I just think it’s funny how you and dawnfire are picking on the way he dresses. That’s the least of his worries! And, I reiterate, this is HIM through and through. You wanting him to dress better is like wanting Paris Hilton to wear clothes from Walmart. Just ain’t gonna happen.
One more thing – he doesn’t just “work in a bike shop” he owns it. This is his way of life. Everything he does and owns is about the blue collar way of life (West Coast Choppers, Garage Magazine, his industrial clothing company, Cisco Burger, etc. etc.) Why do you think people have had such a problem with seeing these two get together – they seem like opposites to most. Why would he try to change that image all of the sudden because he is being stalked by the paps?
I agree with all you guys .. Who thinks this guy looks absurd in those Overalls.. OMG… only toddlers and maybe farmers should wear those.. J
Actually a lot of people did blame Sandra for Jesse. In past stories a lot of people were posting that Sandra knew about the affairs and was a racist when all of the Nazi photos came out. They thought she was getting what she deserved because there were red flags that he wasn’t a good guy(married a pornstar, etc).
@OK ~ yep I know what he does but most people I know who work in the industry wear overalls (coveralls I think for the US) over normal clothes IN the workshop and then take them off before going home. He is just trying to create a ‘poor me,sad sack’ image and I’m not buying it. Maybe it is just hiding his huge nappy as it looks like it.
He would’ve been aware that this would’ve hit the press today from his PR (or hers)and hence why you’d think they’d clue him in to NOT looking like the racist person he apparently is.
I’m commenting on his appearance as I believe it has been carefully considered. After being with Sandra do you honestly think he doesn’t know he is going to be photographed and that his image counts???
I am, and know of many bikers and they would not be caught dead in those overalls. JMHO
jesse says ““My whole life has been full of hard decisions. ”
Ya “hard” as in which bimbo to bone. Weak and pitiful man.
“My whole life has been full of hard decisions.”
Like the one you made to f**k women other than your wife? Is that one of the decisions you’re talking about, scumbag?
wow,i must have blinders on because i don’t think i ever really saw any (or very many) posters saying that somehow this was her fault or somehow looked badly on her…… in my opinion, she came out looking like A-1 America’s Sweetheart Done Wrong! and people were out for blood with this guy. but if it was all centered around that ONE post about the Nazi picture, i guess i didn’t really read that one, at the time there were SOOOOOOO many different posts coming every single day about this girl and that girl and Michelle this and Michelle that, that i kind of went on overload and couldn’t take any more of it.
sooooooooooo maybe i missed it, but i really didn’t see a lot of people negatively associating her with his bullsh*t.
and also, i’m just logging on today…. am i completely in the dark about this adoption thing? was that another article that i had skipped over during the Jesse James Blitzkreig? i would think i would have heard something about it by now if it was, but oh well… you’d be surprised what you can miss if you don’t log on for a couple days
LET your wife end the marriage??? Who the f- do you think you are, you slimy pathetic monster!!
He makes it sound like he doesn’t have to let her, he’s doing her a favour, in fact he’s within his rights to hit her with a club and drag her off to his cave.
I hate this guy’s guts.
truthfully i think what he said is nice. Regardless of what he did to Sandra he is now unable to see his adopted son everyday and be part of his everyday life. Sad for him and the baby. Yes his own fault Im not excusing him – most men who cheat dont think about consequences to their children.
How can someone be ACTIVELY married to someone for years and not know they are Nazi (if he is) and having multiple affairs? If it was 1 time maybe and Im not blaming Sandra but something doesnt add up. Just look at the facts and either it was sham marriage because she is gay & used him to fool public and get her a baby or she knew some of what he was up to. Maybe not the extent but she had to know he was into some perverted stuff. No way could she be married to him 5 years and be dumb founded by all these allegations – no way. And I dont buy all his employees knew yet not one of them chose to take story to the tabloids for huge payout in all these years? I just dont buy this story as is being reported – it doesnt add up plain and simple. If Jesse went through adoption process they took a long hard look at him and with all the stuff we are hearing now some of it would have come out UNLESS they just paid off the adoption agency which is probably the case.
I will say he seems wayyyy more genuinely sorry than Tiger. I think Jesse realizes he has a sex addiction whereas Tiger is just sorry he got caught. And again the whole Sandra/Jeese marriage doesnt add up. I think it may have been fake Hollywood marriage to help her adopt a baby.
I bet she would have forgiven him if the infidelity and the Nazi thing hadn’t been made public.
I’d bet there’s still waaayyy more to this then has come out. I vaguely remember an interview when she was cover of either Cosmo or Glamour, and the interviewer made a comment about doing something sexual recently, and her reported answer was, “I never said it was with Jesse.” I can’t remember how it went, was like 4 years ago or so. But I’m suspecting there was a rather open marriage, and either 1) these were girls she didnt know about, or 2) She did know but it went public and she has to save face.
SANDRA BULLOCK: Yeah, and it’s funny, the other night I was talking to this man I’m sleeping with…but, as I told you, Anne Fletcher, I won’t talk about my personal life. Anyway, I said, “Isn’t it funny how you’ve never seen me do one of the things I love the most?”
GLAMOUR: Jesse’s never seen you dance?
SANDRA BULLOCK: I didn’t say it was Jesse…
Here we go: Its on page 3
http://www.glamour.com/magazine/2009/06/shes-strong-shes-sexy-shes-sandra-bullock?currentPage=1
Dawnfire – I really can’t believe I am defending him because I think he’s a piece of shit, but you won’t seem to let this stupid debate about his clothes die. I think it’s funny that you think he’s “creating this image” by wearing these overalls. He would be creating a false image if he STOPPED dressing like this and started wearing a suit and tie. Google his image over the years – this is who he is. He doesn’t have a “carefully considered appearance.” And the fact is, if you read the photo credit, that picture was taken yesterday, not today after the news broke. He was walking back from picking up lunch from the burger joint he owns down the street from the bike shop he owns. Guess he didn’t feel he needed to change into Armani for that.
There is one thing I commend him on which is staying true to himself and not going all “Hollywood” because he married an A list actress. Sure he could look better, but he knows changing his look now just for the paps isn’t going to win Sandra back. She married him looking like that.
I know plenty of bikers who WOULD wear most of the clothes he wears, including those overalls. He owns a clothing company that sells to blue collar dudes – he knows what they wear because, even though he has money, he is a blue collar dude.
One more thing, since when did wearing overalls = being a racist? I don’t even know where to begin with that over-generalization except to say it’s total and complete bullshit. My father is now rolling over in his grave over that little gem.
Once again, I agree with April. I think Jesse is a skank BUT I don’t believe for a second that she’s a squeaky clean as folks would like to imagine.
My GAWD, people, she KNEW. kNEW about the women, KNEW about the n a z i gear, the whole bit. If not, she would have been out in the press decrying the whole n a z I picture thing the minute it happened. She didn’t and even now just says the right things and why? Because she KNEW all about all his crap and he would not let her get away with totally throwing him under the bus.THERE IS A SEX TAPE or was, and that has kept her mouth shut for weeks – NOT the hidden baby. She could have issued statements to denounce his N a z i crap without revealing the baby- it’s called a PUBLICIST. She managed to orchestrate a “hike” to show her ringless finger but couldn’t issue a definitive statement from home? That is just silly. She didn’t speak out because she didn’t dare because she KNEW all Jesse’s crap and didnt mind a bit. SHE, like her husband, is sorry she got found out — otherwise, she’d still be with him and gushing in the press about his awesomeness. And she WILL take him
back, after an appropriately long time to build a
redemption story for him, calibrated to soothe her
huffy fans. Mark it down, she will have her sheep/fans eating out of her hand — the same
sheep who are grazing joyfully on every word of her People press release. eventually they will
accept him back in her life and just him to death. Which is all fine with me but man, the Saint Sandra crap is really lame.
I FEEL BAD FOR SANDRA. BUT WHENEVER I LISTEN TO HER INTERVIEWS, IT SEEMS TO ME THAT SHE IS LEAVING AN OPENING FOR HIM TO CONTINUE TO BE A PART OF HER AND HER SON’S LIFE. IT IS CLEAR TO ME, AND A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE, THAT JESSE IS A RACIST. WHY ON EARTH, WOULD SHE EVEN THINK ABOUT LETTING HIM BE A PART OF HER BLACK BABY’S LIFE!