Courteney Cox talks candidly about her marriage problems, isn’t wearing her ring


In my opinion, Courteney Cox and David Arquette are having some very real marriage problems. The gossip about Courteney’s alleged affair with her Cougar Town costar Brian Van Holt probably hasn’t helped – and the last time we checked in on David, he was allegedly acting very sad and strange (like, mid-life crisis strange) and defending his marriage cryptically. Now it’s Courteney’s turn. She’s the cover girl for the August issue of InStyle Magazine, and she gave a pretty good interview:

Public attention is usually focused on the love life of her BFF Jennifer Aniston, but Courteney Cox is now opening up about her own marriage.

In a remarkably candid InStyle interview – to which the Cougar Town star, 46, arrived minus her wedding ring – Cox admits that her 11-year union with David Arquette has had its ups and downs.

“We’ve done couples therapy in the past. We’re not lazy about our marriage,” Cox says in the magazine’s August issue, on newsstands Friday. “We have the same arguments we’ve had for years.”

Disagreements are something that exist in every marriage, and Cox says she doesn’t expect them to ever be fully resolved. “Some things just never change, and you should realize that the intriguing things you fall in love with will probably become the things that you don’t like,” she says, “and the very things that you’ll be talking about for the rest of your relationship.”

Luckily, their domestic issues don’t sound all that dramatic, and they have made some changes to suit their lives as a couple. “If we didn’t live together, David wouldn’t even notice if a lightbulb had burned out!” Cox says. “He collects things; I don’t. When we first lived together, I lived with [his] clown paintings, bobbleheads … I couldn’t do that now.”

The actress does cop to some fantasy world crushes on Zac Efron and Robert Pattinson, whom she calls “cute.” “How old is he? I saw one picture of him and he looked dangerous; I like it,” she says of the Twilight star, 24. “That’s a really pretty face. I might feel insecure around him.”

But her real-life love for Arquette – father of their 6-year-old daughter Coco – goes deeper. “One thing is, I let David be himself and he lets me be myself,” Cox says. “You have to make an effort to stay connected, and that’s something we work at.”

Courteney also talks about aging and Botox: “Aging gracefully is one thing, but trying to slow it down is another. Sometimes I use Botox. Compared to most, I use it very sparingly. One time I did too much, though. I feel weird if I can’t move my face, and that one time I overdid it, I felt trapped in my own skin.”

Courteney would never stop acting: “No—although there was a time when my dad thought I should get out. It was right before I got Friends, and I probably had a month to go before I was completely broke. At one point my dad called me and said, ‘You have always been a great salesman. I think it’s time you come home and sell swimming pools.’ I don’t think I would ever quit acting, but there are other things I am interested in. I wanted to be an architect, and I wish I knew more about landscaping. I think I’d be a good therapist too.”

[InStyle Magazine excerpts, courtesy of InStyle and People Magazine]

I’ve said it before privately to CB, and publicly on this site – I don’t think Courteney and David are going to make it very much longer, and I think Courteney is the one driving many of the problems. She sounds like the one who is fed up, annoyed, looking around for something better.

Oh, and the Botox stuff – well, at least she’s admitting it. But she’s delusional if she thinks her face is still moving. Whenever I catch a few minutes of Cougar Town, I wince every time Courteney tries to talk or move her face to form any kind of human emotion. She looks so f-cking jacked.


1 June 2010 - Century City, California - David Arquette and Courteney Cox Arquette. 2010 Women In Film Crystal+Lucy Awards held at the Hyatt Regency Century Plaza Hotel. Photo Credit: Byron Purvis/AdMedia

BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JANUARY 17: Actress Courteney Cox and actor Brian Van Holt attend the InStyle and Warner Bros. 67th Annual Golden Globes post-party held at the Oasis Courtyard at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 17, 2010 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Larry Busacca/Getty Images for InStyle)

InStyle photos courtesy of InStyle online, cover courtesy of Courteney‘s fansite.

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  1. Tia C says:

    I agree, she looks REALLY f-ing jacked compared to how she used to look. I can’t even watch Cougar Town because of that. Well, that and the fact that it just doesn’t grab me. I also get the impression that her marriage is not long for this world.

  2. denise says:

    She seems like such a cold bitch. Never liked her.

  3. lisa says:

    That’s funny because she did an interview where she said she had only used it once.. She and a “friend”..

    Well her interview sounds like a woman that has outgrown the man in her life. David is David, and she just seems well.. like she has changed.. but I actually like them as a couple.

  4. NO! I want them to work it out! No split! 🙁

  5. roxi says:

    I like Courtney Cox, not a huge fan or anything, but this makes me sad. I hate to see marriages break up. Legitimate marriages that is… the spencer/heidi monstrosity and those like it, aren’t real to begin with.

  6. guesty says:

    she does seem ALMOST over it with david…

  7. lola says:

    She sound like she’s Monica Geller irl?? and she sort of married a Chandler Bing… how odd.

  8. mln says:

    Does anyone else remember her in that old Bruce Springsteen video or on Family Ties? she was always very pretty so sad what she has done with the Botox.

  9. bitterbetty says:

    ugh, marriage. I think Al and Peggy Bundy had it right. their alliance was about staying together no matter what. being happy or inlove had nothing to do with it, and they appreciated small moments of bliss in their marriage more because of it. yes I’m drunk…

  10. Ogechi says:

    Hope her marriage is peacefully restored. She sounded so sweet and sincere.

  11. mslewis says:

    I tried, really, to watch Cougar Town but I got through only one entire episode and about 1/2 of another. Courtney’s face is really distracting. I get the same feeling watching Nicole Kidman in a movie. So uncomfortable. Court is delusional about the botox.

    Re: the marriage . . . I’m surprised it has lasted this long. She married a man-child and she knew it but thought it was cute and funny at the time. I mean, who marries a man with a house full of clown art?? Apparently David hasn’t grown up much since the beginning and she’s tired of him. Hopefully, it will work out. Maybe David can have his “man cave” full of the stuff he likes and Courtney can live in a grown up house with the things she likes. I like them both so I hope they stay together.

    P.S.: I don’t believe those rumors about Courtney and her co-star. I think she’s too smart for that and he’s a dog.

  12. Taylor says:

    It doesn’t look like just Botox that jacked up her face. It looks like some bad plastic surgery. Looks like bad eye job, bad face lift that widened her mouth into joker-look, bad lip injections that don’t fit her face and flattened her naturally pretty lip, as well as being too thin. If it’s surgery, the surgeon should get slammed for it, not her. None of these people want to look ridiculous, and plastic surgeons are like car salesmen. All these actresses looked way better before they had plastic surgery. Actresses should demand that actors be questioned the same way about aging and cosmetic procedures and stop the sexist double standard.

  13. KateNonymous says:

    It’ll be sad for their daughter if they split. They’ve always seemed like a strange match to me, and I’m surprised they’ve made it this far–they just seem like really different people.

    BTW, it’s Brian Van Holt, with an H.

  14. malachais says:

    I have NEVER liked Courtney Cox and never understood why the boring monotonous b-tch got good acting roles She looks like she is the one having an mid-life crisis, similar to Susan Sarandon. I dunno if I could really call if a mid-life crisis, more like im-tired-of-my-husband-and-want-to-be-a-cougar crisis. UGH

    I don’t keep up with these two, but she just comes off that way. She’s kind of pretty, but I have never understood how people even watch her movies or shows.

    On the other hand, David Arquette seems to have stop working after marrying Courtney. He has always come off as a sweet person. They will probably divorce soon, no doubt. This attention whore wouldn’t be going to InStyle talking about marriage problems for any other reason.

  15. BB says:

    MsLewis: Why is he a man-child because he has some less “grown-up” interests? Why should a man have a “man-cave” for his interests? I never understood this logic. I often feel that if a man told his wife to get a “cave” for her silly little interests so that the house would look “grown-up”, we’d all be saying “what a douche”. I am a married woman btw, but it makes me sad to see how some of my female friends become so controlling in their late 30s and suddenly the seemingly respectful appearance of their house overrides any respect for their partners’ interests and hobbies. We may agree to disagree but I think that if a marriage is to survive, respect and an effort to understand the other person’s interests and let them be, no matter how much they may clash with your sofa, are crucial.

  16. tori says:

    All of her friends are single and enjoying every minute of it. I bet she feels left out of all the fun. I hope her single friends aren’t encouraging her to leave but stay. I like Courtney seems like a nice woman. Don’t want to see her as another jen with a bad reputation.

  17. sarajane says:

    Statistically speaking, people shop around MORE for a new car than they do for a plastic surgeon. Sad isn’t it? 🙁

  18. Snarf says:

    Wonder if she’ll have to pay David spousal support?

  19. Riley says:

    She isn’t using much botox because she has a complete facial overhaul very much like Madonna’s.

  20. Bite me says:

    Courtney and Jen 4 ever

  21. Sumodo1 says:

    I don’t have a dog in this fight.

    That InStyle cover is hideous. I didn’t know who it was, and I still don’t now. Step away from the scalpel.

  22. T-RAE says:

    I understand the “I used to love his crazy antics and now I hate them” kind of confession she made.

  23. Cheyenne says:

    Bite me: Courtney and Jen 4 ever


  24. Cheyenne says:

    Maybe part of the problem is she has a career and he doesn’t?

  25. LOVE ANGELINA says:

    I think Courtney still looks very pretty. I don’t watch that show because I hate the name of it but I still like Courtney and I think she is very pretty. I always liked David and her back when I was into the scream movies. When I hear the phrase “we went to couples counseling” I just think they are done. Which is sad.

  26. Juiceinla says:

    I wish they would make it, but would not be surprised if she has just outgrown him.

    I heard that as a condition (a good one in my opinion) to marrying him, she made him go through a lot of drug and booze rehab. He was definitely a mess when they started dating. The Arquette family has those kind of issues, so if they end, it will probably be related to such things.

    I hope he finds a way to grow up and out of all that business, but damn, it seems like such a struggle.

    ps @bitterbetty- I love your drunk insights, keep ’em coming! and @mslewis- add me to your “hes a man-child who never grew up” column.. Agreed and Agreed.

  27. Kim says:

    I like Courtney & love Cougar Town but i think either she is having mid life crisis or has become sort of an ego maniac. Her catty remark about botox and compared to most she uses it sparingly-plleeaassee. Why did she even need to say that? Just say yes i do botox. She is so trying to justify the massive amounts of botox she uses which i dont respect. On Cougar Town you can view her face has getting tighter & tighter in each episode =( she needs to lay off the botox or whatever tweaks she did a little.

  28. Marjalane says:

    Realistically speaking, sometimes those little “quirks” that a guy like David Arquette has are charming at first, but 10 years later? Uh, no. I thought she sounded completely legit, and I’m not that big a fan. Why should she waste years of her life trying to adapt to those quirks? My mom always told me, “If it bugs you now, it’s going to make you insane later on- men don’t change”.

  29. Kim says:

    U dont have to admit to botox when youve had a face lift. Oh no I dont botox much (Ive just had my face overhauled).

  30. Jeri says:

    I’d like their marraige to make it but I don’t have a say in it. It will be sad if they split though. I can’t imagine that she envies Jen’s life or Cheryl Crows’ but whatever.

  31. Ellen says:

    I’ve always thought she was the best physical comedian on “Friends.” And that she’s just gorgeous. I don’t think she looks awful here, though it is of course a statement that she is/feels compelled to do Botox/surgery? and play a “cougar” now that she’s in her mid 40s. I wish her well. Never understood the Arquette attraction but obviously it’s none of my business. And yes, I too vividly remember the Springsteen video. Yes to what Cheyenne (#24) says.

  32. Guest says:

    You all realize that David and Courteney are currently filming Scream 4 together in Michigan and via David’s twitter, pap shots and general sightings seem as close as ever.

    Courteney has long spoken of her and David’s use of therapy and I find her commentary that marriages are work to be refreshing. The truth is everything isn’t roses all the time, and she seems to be one of the few celebs to realize this…which might be why she and David have been together for as long as they have.

    I don’t think there is anything going on in their marriage or they are having any more problems than anyone else. I would be shocked to hear otherwise. The story about her and her co-star was tabloid fodder, and people are reading into her Instyle comments far more than is there because of it.

  33. Anti-icon says:

    This was a great interview she gave. Honest. You rarely get that in a celeb. Marriage is a hard, hard deal. I always hate when people who are married for a long time just keep blowing the happy smoke up people’s butts. She has never done that.

  34. serena says:

    Too much botox can ruin your life.
    Look at Courtney :/ urgh.

  35. lucy2 says:

    @Guest – I thought that too, that she’s always been very open about their difficulties and therapy. This does have a little bit more of a “fed up with some of the quirks” vibe to it, but other than that, it’s not much different than what she’s said before.
    Whatever’s going on, I hope they’re able to work it out, and that she STOPS with the Botox! She’s still pretty but has definitely done damage.

  36. Well, I do sympathize with her marital difficulties… but it can’t possibly help that she and David often have a 3rd wheel (Aniston) along during their getaway vacations.

  37. Patrice says:

    I love Corteney Cox!!! “Cougar Town” is one of the best newer shows on television : ) So funny and unique.

    But I have to say the whole her not wearing a ring thing isn’t exactly news. She almost never has since they’ve been married! I hardly think it means anything (I can’t say I understand it when people don’t wear their wedding rings…I know mine would be peramnantly glued to my finger once married and worn with pride, but, to each their own I guess).

  38. Patrice says:

    I have also noticed (well, how could you NOT) all of the very strange work that she has had done on her face…joker mouth, newly sunken eyes, waxy albaster skin….it’s very off-putting. I was checking out one of the Monica/Ross wedding episodes of “Friends” the other day back when she was tanned and seemingly natural and she was so stunning! Why actresses start on trying to mess with natural perfection is beyond me *cough, cough Nicole Kidman*

  39. Missy says:

    Some people just can’t take honesty and bluntness, thats for sure. Courteney has always been completely real, no matter what people think instead of fake Aniston who always acts like the goodie two shoes with the perfect life. And the perfect marriage back then with Brad Pitt, and see how that turned out.

    To the poster named Angelina: If the comment made by Courteney about couples therapy makes you believe their marriage is almost over, than it would have ended in 1998 already. Omg, it’s obvious the braindead posters on here don’t know shit! If you have read any more on Courteney and David, you would have known they did couples therapy as soon as they got engaged, not because it went wrong already, no, because they actually wanted to prevent this from happening. Which is very smart in stead of the other celeb couples who just muddle through untill there is nothing left. Oh and the people saying she looks awful now, you are f*cking blind, the cover is way too photoshopped, not her fault, the pictures inside the mag (which ofcourse you haven’t even seen, what else can i expect from people who open their big ugly mouth before they know anything) aren’t photoshopped as much, and damn she looks hotter and more beautiful than ever. If someone in Hollywood gets a wrinkle you judge them for not being perfect anymore, if they use botox because f*ckers like you make them insecure, they are awful looking as well. Go look in the mirror, there is nothing even remotely beautiful about you, especially compared to this amazing looking woman!

  40. Paula says:

    I don’t use Botox. -> I used Botox once. It scares me. -> I use a little Botox, only sparingly. Wonder if others will follow her lead and admit to using facial injections. Her face looks weird on the cover, but that’s probably because of too much photoshopping more so than using Botox “sparingly.”

  41. Bianca says:

    How are people getting that they sound like they might split up from this?? Right in the article she says “…I let David be himself and he lets me be myself,”“You have to make an effort to stay connected, and that’s something we work at.”

    Sounds like they are pretty solid to me…

  42. Jess says:

    Missy: You are taking all of this pretty personally for someone I assume doesn’t even know them. Also, how do you know that she looks “hotter than ever” inside the pages of the magazine since it’s not even on shelves yet?! Calm down. No need to swear and get so bent out of shape about it. It’s just a blog.

  43. LolaBella says:

    Aww, I like them together and I hope they make it.

    “One thing is, I let David be himself and he lets me be myself.”

    This quote reminded me of a time David came to a movie premier in a white suit that looked like it was splattered with blood. I remember thinking to myself, ‘damn she really must love that quirky man to go along with that!’

    Yes, she’s a beautiful woman, but she is OBVIOUSLY overdoing the botox.

    Yay Scream 4! Dewey and Gale forever!

  44. Missy says:

    To Jess: Ha, that’s a good one. So the public may call Courteney a b*tch, and fugly and god knows what else, and when someone who has been a devoted fan for 20 years – who actually knows something about her, and her personality (i have met her before, just so you know) defends her, and gets angry because heartless people treat a lovely caring person (even to her fans) like dirt, like she has no feelings at all, then i am responding too heavily, and i’m out of line? Come one, it has become a sick world where people are never good enough, on the internet i never read a decent comment, always people bashing other, burning them to the ground just to have fun or make themselves feel better. And yes, when someone like Courteney who doesn’t deserve this treatment gets bashed like this, i open my mouth. And i don’t feel quilty about it for one bit, the people on here aren’t exactly mother theresa either, now are they. Courteney has definitely more class then they do, she never talks bad about anyone (how do i know? believe me, if she did, it would have been out on the internet already) plus the E entertainment special on her, watch it, see what her friends and family have to say, what she has been through. And still always is there for everyone, she deserves respect.

    And the scans have been out on the internet for days already, check it out on google: courteney cox instyle august 2010.

  45. Mrs Odie 2 says:

    I also have a husband who never changes a lightbulb or even notices it’s burned out. He is also a collector of things (and has hoarding tendencies that have to be kept in check or we’d end up on a TLC show). It is NOT easy. I’m no Monica Gellar, but you get tired of being “mean mommy.” We are going to marriage counseling and have no intention of divorcing.

    I love Botox. I’d still be doing it if I weren’t a nursing mom. It’s fantastic.

  46. Wif says:

    BB – I couldn’t agree with you more.

    Patrice – I don’t wear my wedding ring. Not because I don’t have pride in my relationship, but because the demands of being a mother mean that I’m washing my hands constantly. My dad never wore his because he was hauling cases of beer for a living and didn’t want it getting caught on a box. In her case, it could be that she doesn’t want to lose it if she needs to do a lot of costume changes on set. When you’ve been married for years, you don’t need a symbol to show that you’re married, it just becomes a part of who you are.

  47. Cam says:

    They’re definetely having some problems.

    Too bad, I really like/d that couple.

  48. Rebecca says:

    ^Oh no!! Duh, that’s what Courteney just said herself, that isn’t a secret, its funny how everyone acts like this is worldnews, while she mentions this in like every interview she has ever done?! Every marriage has problems, the only difference between Courteney and David and other celebrity couples is that they admit it, because they don’t need to be ashamed, they are human, and when you care for eachother you fight. The celebcouples that pretend everything is always totally fine between them on the other hand, are doing very bad.

    Also they aren’t in therapy anymore, that means its actually going better. Why do the readers on here find it so difficult to think logically?!

  49. original kate says:

    i like courtney but her face is starting to scare me. she needs to stop with the botox and gain about 15 pounds.

    i remember the “dancing in the dark” video, too! i used to have the same haircut courtney did in that video.

  50. Kiska says:

    I don’t understand her success. She is a terrible actress.
    Her husband, David, is by far, more interesting than her.

  51. Crash2GO2 says:

    Well Missy, you will find that some here think that couple’s counseling early in a relationship means the relationship is in trouble from the beginning. I don’t happen to subscribe to that, and I don’t think most others do either.

  52. LOVE ANGELINA says:

    @Missy I didn’t even know that about them getting counseling so early in their engagement. The thing with me is when I fall love, I just want love to sustain us. I want it organic. I want it to be about just us and I want us to feel it deep within us pure and as real as when we are first born. I want us to maintain that feeling. I don’t want “ok I love you today but I might get fed up with this tomorrow and not love you, lets go see someone.” Ugh. The thought that love is soooo cold, hard, and manufactured makes ill. Like if Courtney and David’s relationship was the Matrix they would be the ugly ass spaceship, with the bad food, and ugly fashion. I don’t want that. Now I don’t want that. I hate seeing relationships as that. I do hope they stay together but hell if they have to an outside influence on their relationship holding them together then whats the f*cking point?

  53. My2Cents says:

    What are some of you going on about? Did we just read the same article? Where did she say they were breaking up. Even the best relationships are sometimes hard. My parents who have been married and madly in love for 40 years this year have their spats and still have to ‘work’ at their relationship. Good on her for being honest and telling it like it is rather than making out its all roses.

    And look wise. She looks hot! Esp in the second pic with the dark blue background.

  54. Teel says:

    I remember reading prior to their engagement that he was a serious drug (heroin among other things) and alcohol abuser and was shocked when they got engaged. Blood spray on a suit at a premiere? Hello, punctured vein. Seems this may still be going on, and why he may not be working as much.

  55. Crash2GO2 says:

    @LOVE ANGELINA: ‘Organic love’ that occurs between a longtime partnership that doesn’t need work is fiction. But clearly, fiction is your forte.

  56. dovesgate says:

    Counseling isn’t a bad thing. I think many people believe the opposite though. Maybe more people should do marriage counseling before or right after the vows are said: perhaps people would believe in marriage more.

    We don’t know what they went to counseling for. It could be as simple as learning tools to help them keep their relationship together in the hard times before they get to those times. Which is actually kind of smart. Wouldn’t it be better to know how to cleanse your computer of a virus before you get the virus?

    I have friends who have been married for 24 (ish) years who have the kind of love you’re talking about wanting tempered with the realization that sometimes, here and there throughout your relationship, you will want to stab him in his sleep and he’ll want to smother you with a pillow. That doesn’t mean you don’t love him. It means you’re human.

    I’m giving Courtney some seriously mad props for being honest and not “everything is so peachy and perfeeect”

  57. Mrs Odie 2 says:

    @Love Angelina, good luck with that. Let me recommend you fall in love in a Disney movie and not in the real world.

  58. LOVE ANGELINA says:

    @dovesgate I hear what your saying. I think I would only resort to couple’s counseling if we had kids or something. If I start to hate the guy I am with or vice versa then I will just take a nice clean breakup and start over on my quest for prince charming. Life is very hard, don’t get me wrong I live in reality, but I can’t deal with love being something so manufactured and worked on, like a used car. Love should just happen and the two people should just work together to make their love last because the love they feel for each should hold them together. Not a shrink. Hell if I thought going to a shrink worked I wouldn’t be so against it. I honestly think people just settle for who they are with and I don’t want that.

  59. Diva says:

    Nothing wrong with using couples counseling as regular maintenance, not trying it as a complete overhaul once the engine’s already blown.

  60. mollination says:

    Courtney Cox is one of my all time favorite celebs in Hollywood. I think she seems real, not cold at all. I like her and I hope her and David do whatever they need to do to be happy.