Sandra Bullock doesn’t want our pity in Today Show interview preview


Tomorrow is Sandra Bullock’s big interview with Matt Lauer on the Today Show. She and Lauer already filmed it, though, and Today has started the steady release of quotes from Sandy’s first television interview since Jesse James’ bimbo eruption. So far, we haven’t gotten any quotes about Jesse, or about the divorce, and my guess is that Sandra said a few things about him and then Lauer let her move on, not pushing it. Mostly, it seems Sandra talks about her son Louis and how he’s changed her life. My favorite quote is when she’s talking about all of the “girls” in her family, and how she wasn’t expecting to adopt a son: “And I didn’t think it would be a boy. We don’t have any boys in our family. Boy, is everyone really happy about that. So, he’s like the crown prince. You know, it’s nothing but girls in our family … It was just the hierarchy that needed to be broken.”

In her first television interview since splitting with Jesse James, Sandra Bullock says “everything works out the way the universe wants it to work out.”

Case in point: Her seven-month-old son Louis, whom she adopted from New Orleans.

“He’s a little Cajun cookie,” she tells the Today show’s Matt Lauer in the interview, airing Tuesday.

Bullock, 46 — who attended the ribbon cutting Sunday of a new $700,000 New Orleans health clinic she helped fund to mark the fifth year of Hurricane Katrina — says she loves being tied to the Big Easy.

“How lucky am I?” she asks Lauer.

Bullock and ex husband James, 40 — with whom she split earlier this year following reports that he cheated — began the adoption process four years.

“It was a long process,” she tells Lauer. “I did not circumvent. I wanted to do everything exactly the same way everyone else did. And– it was– he was always mine, you know. It wasn’t like I felt like someone was going to take him away. But it was nice to have someone say, I think you’re a fit parent.”

Bullock has said she always had “faith” she would end up with the right child.

“Everything works out the way the universe wants it to work out,” she says. “We had always said that it didn’t matter where the child came from. If they had issues that were medical issues, we didn’t care. It’s like the child that needed us in the home is the child that’s going to be placed.

“And I didn’t think it would be a boy,” she adds. “We don’t have any boys in our family. Boy, is everyone really happy about that. So, he’s like the crown prince. You know, it’s nothing but girls in our family … It was just the hierarchy that needed to be broken.”

Bullock kept her adoption hush-hush — and she credits her close friends with helping her do so.

“It takes good people with integrity,” she says. “I mean, I read something like, how did someone keep a secret, and it’s– you know– human beings exist that have integrity that know how to keep their mouth shut. That know the bigger picture, that don’t sell out their friends. Those people are all over the place. But again, we don’t like to talk about it, because it doesn’t sell a magazine. But I was blessed with the same friends I’ve had since before things got really special for me and blessed in life.”

“And when things get bad, they’re still the same friends,” she says. “And, you know, it– everything passes. It all passes. But they just– you know, they know if they screw up they’re not coming on the next vacation. I’m not going to babysit their kids. I will cut them. I will take them down.”

Kidding aside, she says, “I have friends and family that are filled with massive amounts of integrity. And it shouldn’t be an oddity.”

[From Us Weekly]

She sounds like she’s in a good place. I don’t know… I’ll judge her state of mind when I see the full interview, see what kind of inflections she’s using. My guess is that she’s still feeling pretty damaged from everything that’s gone on this year, but that she’s a positive person and she sees the glass as half full. Which… good for her, you know? I prefer this so much – a celebrity who is like, “Seriously, I’m fine, I don’t want your pity.”



Sandra on August 24 & 29, 2010. Credit: Fame.

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  1. whatever says:

    She’s always struck me as the ‘glass is half full’ type of person.

    I don’t pity her…I admire her.

  2. Lantana says:

    Is she wearing a dress or her living room curtains? Really don’t like the dress. I do like her however and think she’s making an effort to be perceived as a positive role model. Makes me wonder if it’s PR since she managed to stay with JJ so long and he’s so ick.

  3. Liana says:

    “…human beings exist that have integrity that know how to keep their mouth shut. That know the bigger picture, that don’t sell out their friends.”

    Amen. I have friends that would never sell me out. I AM a friend who would never sell out another friend. I’ve been asked for dirt about friends I have and no, sorry, you can’t have any. You want me to talk about the good things about my friends as related to ME? Sure, but don’t ask me about anything else. And Sandra’s friends are the same way. Good for her.

  4. Tess says:

    Lantana, thanks for the laugh!!!

    You’re right. She has that Carol Burnett/Scarlett O’Hara living room curtains-as-a-dress thing going on.

  5. funnygirl says:

    She’s putting a brave face on things. Her eyes still look sad but that’s to be expected. She has her pride; if I was in her situation, the last thing I’d want is pity either. I really hope she realises that she can do sooo much better than Jesse James guy wise in the future though-when I first heard she had married him, I was like “what?? is she mad??”

  6. Bea says:

    Sandra looks good, glad that she enjoys being a Mommy. Thanking her for helping with the NOLA clinic, I hope she left a little extra so it can maintain itself. Kudos to all the orgs. in the Gulf Coast areas that have hung in there and have made a difference. One doesn’t have to look far to see the the good things on, but so much more is needed…come on, money bags of the world…CEOs, software giants, hedge fund winners, network giants, oil giants, producers and you!…turn loose with some of your money. Put people back to work rebuilding this country and cleaning up the Gulf Coast. Bring ’em home, NOLA!
    Don’t forget Haitians and Pakistanis need help either.

  7. Praise St. Angie! says:

    ditto, Liana.

    In Bullock’s case, I think it has to do with the fact that she’s kept the same friends she had since before she was famous.

    she knows they aren’t in it for anything other than friendship…no hangers-on in her life.

  8. nnn says:

    Well she is not a pitty partier, that’s for sure. She has too much talent, intelligence and maturity to indulge herself in pitty parties.

    That’s what winners are made of. Good for her and good luck to her and to her new son!

  9. K-MAC says:

    I admire her. She is someone who has been through a hell of a lot. It has got to still hurt. She and Jesse James were together for whatever reason, it sounds like she loved him and I am sure he loved her, but that one messed up man. I bet her life turns a different corner and keeps getting better and better….it already has and she is right to say that she has been so blessed; however, my heart still goes out to her for that madness she endured was off of the charts!

  10. OC lady says:

    Yeah–no crying pity party for Sandra. I really admire her and like the way she has handled herself.

  11. Iggles says:

    Hmm, she’s anti-Aniston. How refreshing!

  12. tutu says:

    To think we held Aniston to the same standards, seems like such a sham. Sandra is no Aniston for sure. I haven’t heard anything negative when Sandra refers or talks about Jesse. Even after what he did to her. See Sandra was always together, whereas Aniston just can’t get it together even pre-Brad, with Brad and post-Brad. Just look at her choices both professionally and personally. She is a fake and she relied on her likeability to garner sympathy while creating this major hate shift to Brad and Angelina. No one was in her marriage and from all accounts seems like there was more than meets the eye. Sandra has love, always did and I’m glad she is radiating that love to her son.

  13. Jeri says:

    I admire her more than any other person in Hollywood or the celeb world. She’s right, it passes, this will be an insignificant blip on her radar.

    Go Sandra! You have more friends then you know.

  14. Tess says:

    Funny, Iggles, I was just beginning to think about Anniston when I read your comment.

    I suddenly had this gut feeling that Anniston and Bullock have something in common. Not that Bullock’s an anti-Anniston.

    My thought is that they’re actually quite similar. Both fall for boys. I don’t think that either one will ever form a longterm relationship with a mature, fully grown up, man.

  15. played says:

    What a contrast to Aniston who went on the Oprah show on her “I will survive” tour, to talk about how well she is doing and where they popped the bubbly and made a toast oh with her acting coach in the audience to say the least because it’s all a show, just putting on an act. You would think that she overcame cancer. Call me naive but I don’t know any cheating husbands that go on one last vacation with their soon to be ex-wife and then throw her a birthday party at their house even after anouncing the divorce. Does that sound like a bitter breakup? Geez we all got played by Aniston coz time has proven that Brad is a good man and has intergrity and he just had to follow his heart and try to accomplish his dreams. He seems to be the one although tired is more fulfilled while well need we say more…she keeps talking about things she can’t seem to accomplish.

  16. aenflex says:

    She doesn’t actually need our pity either, I don’t think. Rich? Check. Beautiful? Check. Famous? Check. Head on shoulders? Seems so.
    What’s to pity? She got cheated on, along with millions of others. At least she has millions in the bank and plenty of friends to help quell her sorrows.

  17. She’s a strong woman, she doesn’t need pity.

  18. Alex says:

    another woman I can admire and respect in HW. She went through a lot and don’t want our pity, good for her. No pity parties for SB. She is a strong, intelligent and brave woman

  19. Lucy says:

    I think everyone is entitled, at some point, to a pity party. Its how and when people choose to have them that makes the difference.

    For example, my pity parties are a 10 minute cry in the shower if it’s needed. After that, pick it up, and move forward.

    So, I applaud how she’s handled herself. Even if it’s PR, it could be much different.

  20. Liana says:

    I have awesome pity parties. Seriously, I could be a pity party planner. But then I pick myself up and move on.

  21. Fluffy Kitten Tail says:

    How do threads with nothing to do with Aniston, always end up being about Aniston.

    As for Sandra, I think there is a lot of fake to her. I do not dislike her, but I do not buy this schmaltzy stuff either.

  22. nnn says:

    I am also shocked and the world is shocked that there is not even a one year spring cleaning and rebirth there…when some make it like up to half a decade to be reborn and end up their lengthy spring cleaning.

    A woman in control. Great for you SB !

  23. anon says:

    @nnn: 🙂

  24. RHONYC says:

    i love how she’s all ‘don’t cry for me, argentina’ with her situation.

    no whining, no complaining, no poor me parties.

    she keeps it moving, no matter what knocks & tumbles life throws her way. she seems like a real down to earth person….my type of girl. 🙂

  25. Rosanna says:

    Friends like that do exist! As long as we set up firm boundaries, and they know what the consequences of their misbehaviour could be, they do indeed behave.

  26. Whatever says:

    I love what she said about her friends. It never ceases to amaze me when people in celebrities’ lives sell them out. I’m happy that she has a good group to lean on.

  27. Mistral says:

    She’s looking great. Glad she has a baby to love.

  28. mimi says:

    ahh, she has a sad aura about her. But part of me wonders why she married Jesse James…??? Is that really the best she could do?? Really?

  29. OC lady says:

    As I recall, Aniston did that Vanity Fair interview where she posed nearly nude for photos, while crying about her husband lacking a “sensitivity chip” and having “Billy Idol’s” hair cut. She also talked about screaming at the ocean, holding pity parties, etc. And, she brought her friend to the interview to say things like Brad “didn’t want children, it wasn’t a priority with him.” I couldn’t believe how many people were fooled by her BS–it seemed like a manipulative ploy for sympathy.(BTW, Aniston still hasn’t talked about using the R word has she? Seems like she’s lacking some sensitivity herself there.)

    Glad to see Sandra didn’t go that route at all. I would have lost ALL respect for her if she had done something like that. Yeah, Sandra. 🙂

  30. Liana says:

    here is some people and blogger like this one creating another war between two women for the fault of men. That we call it a distractive society of women against women for the fault of men.

    just, or whatever your name is (can’t read it), I’m sure I’m not alone when I say “WTF are you talking about??”

  31. Dhavy says:

    At least we can all agree that she’s a mature, independent woman who in hard times decided to do good for others and in return has a beautiful baby and friends that support her…I hope she doesn’t disappoint me and starts posing for magazines half naked just to prove a point

  32. Kaiser says:

    Liana – I just banned that person – she was trolling.

  33. Liana says:

    Thanks Kaiser, because, WTF? LOL

  34. Maritza says:

    I’d love to see a movie with Sandra Bullock and Brad Pitt, have they ever worked together?

  35. Raven says:

    She’s a remarkable woman. It’s so interesting that she is great at reading people in terms of friends and family. And yet her boyfriends and husband have all pretty much been poor choices for what she seems to want. Well, Louis is a lucky kid, anyway, to grow up in that family.

  36. nnn says:

    Love is blind, that’s why we are not always able to read in people’s mind.

    Plus just because he had affairs and a double life, that doesn’t mean that he didn’t treat her right or like a princess in their intimacy.

    Those men are usually very sweet, considerate and great partners at home, hence you don’t see it coming.

  37. chessie says:

    Sandy’s lost too much weight… she’s starting to look skeletal. You should not be able to see rib bones (first photo) like that.

  38. Holly says:

    Must everything go back to aniston? C’mon guys. People mourn in different ways. If my husband cheated on me, I’d have no trouble ripping his balls off, much less making fun of his haircut. So aniston cried over her marriage and the interviewer made a point to say it. Isn’t she human? Sandra is a totally different person in a totally different situation. Why must the two be compared?