Kate Hudson on parenting: Kids should “make mistakes without too much judgment”

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Kate Hudson stepped out with son Ryder earlier this week without (gasp!) putting on any makeup, and the paparazzi went wild in response. Seriously and as a rule, I generally don’t like Kate’s movies, but I do love that she occasionally goes outside without bothering to put on makeup. It makes me feel prettier, somehow. Anyway, Kate also recently (while she was still pregnant with Matt Bellamy’s child) took part in a very airbrushed photoshoot and interview with Elle magazine. In the interview, Kate promotes the launch of her new jewelry line, CH+KH, with her good friend Laurie Lynn Stark of Chrome Hearts. The line (which you can see more of here) is very bohemian, 1970s vintage-inspired and quite aquamarine heavy. In the meantime, Hudson also doles out a few tidbits that are of interest for us gossip-leaning types:

On Whether She’ll Marry Matt Bellamy: One thing at a time. We’ll say hello to our new one and enjoy that for a while.

On Maintaining A Long-Distance Relationship: “Most relationships I’ve had in my life have been with people who travel quite a bit for work,” Hudson says. “I don’t know if I’m attracted to that specifically. but it is nice to be with somebody who understands having to be on the move.” Although she’s excited to get back to work (among the upcoming projects she’s involved in is a Linda Lovelace biopic), she concedes that logistics are “definitely getting harder. You have to think about things like, ‘Where is it? How long is it going to keep me away from my family”‘ ” She laughs. “But, you know, life moves on. I would never want to be someone who complains and goes, ‘Oh my God, my life is so crazy,’ ” she says. “If you make the best of it, it can be amazing.”

On Turning To Her Mom For Advice: “We’ve definitely had lots of talks about parenting and being a working mom,” she says. “She never hands out unsolicited preachy words of wisdom, though. My parents allowed my brother and I to have our freedom and be ourselves and feel confident in our choices and to make mistakes without too much judgment. I hope that I can do as good a job.”

[From Elle]

From what little Hudson says about her relationship with Bellamy, I’m inclined to believe that she’s in no huge hurry to marry him, and she may very well never marry again. After all, her first marriage to Chris Robinson didn’t work out, and her mother and Kurt Russell have been going strong for decades without formally tying the knot, so she might decide to just be like mom in that regard.

At any rate, Kate’s words about parenting and kids being allowed to make mistakes seems like a bit of a cop out; but then again, she’s merely working with (or against) the questions posed by the journalist in question. Regardless of whether or not parents allow kids to make mistakes, kids will do just that regardless. After all, I was raised by very strict parents and still found a few moments to sneak cigarettes and vodka here and there. In short, there is no golden ticket to parenthood, and we’re all flying by the seat of our pants. In raising my own daughter, I feel like there are very definable qualities to “bad” parenting but very loose qualities to “good” parenting, and I hope that I’ll get lucky and fall into the latter category, but only time will tell.

Here’s a few Elle photoshoot snaps, which are strategically followed by more photos of a makeup-less Hudson so that we can all feel prettier. Feel free to thank me at your leisure.

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Photos courtesy of Fame and Elle.com

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  1. Leigh says:

    Thanks Bedhead!
    What a great reminder that measuring up to the media beauty standard requires a makeup and styling team + photoshop to achieve.

    That said, she still looks great for recently post pregnancy when measured against a ‘human’ beauty standard.

  2. Caz says:

    I think she’s beautiful without! Doesn’t make me feel prettier….besides isn’t comparing yourself to other women just a sign of insecurity?? Her being pretty or ugly doesn’t change my looks 🙂

  3. brin says:

    Aren’t they engaged? Why bother getting engaged if you don’t intend to marry?

  4. truthSF says:

    Amen Caz…well said!

  5. Eve says:

    Kids are already making mistakes without too much judgement — the problem is that I’m afraid this is leading to children making mistakes without any judgement at all. I’m baffled by the amount of BS said about raising children…yes, let them do whatever they want so later you’ll have no control anymore about what they do (wrong). They need discipline.

    Wherever I am (at the mall, in the theaters, at the beach) I see children behaving like little tyrants simply because they’ve never been told the words “no” and “that’s wrong”.

  6. guesty says:

    & you should never go outside without some concealer or @ least foundation.

    she looks like jsimp in her perfume ad in that one pic.

  7. Bill Hicks is God says:

    She’s a very unextraordinary looking woman.

  8. mln76 says:

    I’m really loving everything about Kate right now. I love that she hasn’t put herself on some liquid diet to lose all baby weight in 2 weeks and I love that she’s not afraid to go outside with a bare face. She obviously isn’t worried about her image and that kind of confidence is refreshing.

  9. Dorothy#1 says:

    WOW it is amazing what a set of false eyelashes will do!! I might need to get a pair! LOL

  10. constance says:

    @brin: Thank you. They are engaged as per “her” “informal” announcement on the Today show a few months back.

    I think she’s kind of flaky, self-centered, and entitled. My own opinion over the years of seeing her flutter between Romantic-blah blah movies, and her “naming game” with her children. It’s always all about her. I wish the best for her wealthy, mistake-entitled children as she collects DNA from any “celeb” that can keep her relevant.

  11. RocketMerry says:

    Depends on what kind of errors!
    There’s difference between:
    “Look mom, I discovered that if I eat dirt I’ll get sick!”
    and
    “Look mom, I’m doing cocaine!” *side eye to Linnocent*

  12. renee says:

    Constance,

    Why do you think that she is entitled? I am not challenging you, I honestly want to know why. Ted C called her that a few years ago when she was with Lance Armstrong and snuck into a party a Cannes that was invitation only – and she didn’t have an invitation. Have you heard other stories?

  13. tapioca says:

    @Bill Hicks is God: Agreed. It almost makes you wonder how she ever made it in Hollywood…

    😉

  14. Susan O. says:

    This poor woman isn’t that old but looks so washed up w/out makeup or photo shopping.

    Kids have parents for guidance to teach between right and wrong, Kate! We don’t have to alienate them for making mistakes but kids fare better with parental limitations.

  15. jinni says:

    She looks like Christina Applegate in the first ELLE picture.

  16. Theuth says:

    I know lots of parents that never allow their children to get dirty, do something a little risky, and make them grow up surrounded by prohibitions: as a consequence, many become neurotic teenagers/adults or have no idea how to restrain themselves once they gain the “adult freedom” because they where teach these ways.
    So…I get that she says. It’s more healthy to show/teach a child WHY something is wrong (even letting him try it), not just saying it and blocking him.

    That’s said, she really is SO plain. Even when she wears make-up, I really am impressed by the power of nepotism.

  17. constance says:

    @ renee: I wouldn’t accuse you of challenging me. Really, it’s only gossip after all. LOL

    Over the years, I think it’s really grown into my opinion of her. Would she be famous without her parents? Likely not, I don’t find anything compelling about her acting.

    Yes, she shows up uninvited a la Lohan. She’s made an ass of herself at one of Zoe’s parties if I remember too in recent history. There was the A-Rod “leak” that she made him agree to announce their split after she did her movie press. The break-up stemming from the fact that she had to be the center of all camera attention (a la upstaging all her BFs at their events with pap photos of herself.) This supported by many other wives that leaked stories of her attitude. I believe even Anne Hathaway had to conceal ill feelings about her while on a movie set for constantly comparing herself to Anne. She’s gone on to diss Southern cities she had to film in (mmm, professional.) Told Howard Stern that she agrees with the Europeans who hate us based on stereotypes she doesn’t (obviously) fall into.

    I can’t remember the last time I’ve heard anyone say they’ve met her and thought good things about her. I can’t remember the last time she was involved in charity, even for publicity. For that matter, I do remember her saying this recession was a “weird time” and she was going to knit for Christmas. But I do remember her shopping at expensive boutiques last Xmas too for the paps. The one before that, she had a huge Xmas party on ARod dollars and publicly shopped for diamonds and pearls.

    I just get that vibe from her that she knows she’s Hollywood Family, and knows how far above the rest of us she is.

  18. SLM says:

    Dang, everyone seems to be feeling harsh. I’m no big Kate fan, but good for her to go out makeup-free and with the natural, normal post-baby curves. I do not understand what those celebs and models who drop all their baby weight in a week are doing.

    Doesn’t she look like Goldie in that second Elle picture?

  19. renee says:

    @Constance: Thanks for your response! I have to confess that I sort of like her although I have to admit that she makes, um, not very good films and when I am enjoying her comedic talents she seems to just be imitating her mother’s performance in Private Benjamin…I will say though that she seems to have an “edge” that is at odds with her happy-go-lucky, trippy-hippy persona. It does irk me that she doesn’t do any charity work…and I have the same irritation with Beyonce but that is a story for another day.

  20. ol cranky says:

    @Eve – try working with some of those kids after they “grow up”. I’ve noticed a disturbing increasing trend of entitlement and junior high behavior (when the demands from the entitlement aren’t met) in the workplace.

  21. Eve says:

    @ Ol Cranky:

    I understand what you’re saying, believe me.

  22. IAMEROK says:

    @ EVE Lawd I think I’m the only mom in my neck of the woods that DOESN’T let her kid run around like a tyrant! Yesterday I needed to have my 6yo take a time out for not listening at a public rock wall. This other Mom deigned to tell me that I was wrong for making him have the time out, that he needs to learn from his mistakes..cuz falling off a huge rock wall is a lesson he needs to learn..-END RANT- Sorry Off Topic..

  23. Rhiley says:

    Thank made her look like Taylor Swifty.

  24. Eve says:

    @ IAMEROK:

    Oh dear…how can a toddler learn from his mistakes if he’s still doesn’t know exactly what the consequences of his actions are?

    I’m glad you’re trying to teach your son something that, in this particular situation, also protected his life/health.

    P.S.: (somewhat off topic too) I’ll never forget the episode of that super nanny where there was this 4 or 5-year-old girl that was really aggressive. Her mother tried to lock her in her bedroom (as a punishment for something bad she did) so she started kicking the door — the noise (both from her kicks and from her screaming) was scary. The mother literally cried after a while.

  25. the original bellaluna says:

    @ Eve & IAMEROK – Teaching personal responsibility for actions and the difference between right & wrong is fundamental to parenting. Otherwise, why bother having kids, right?

    I want to raise fully functioning human beings with the ability to think and act in a proper way. That doesn’t mean I don’t let them get dirty and make messes, but it DOES mean I discipline their little heinies when they act a fool.

    I’m not really sure what KH is trying to say here, but I don’t think (at least I hope not!) she’s saying to let the kids rule the roost – just give them some room to make mistakes, learn the hard way, and be there to love and support them (and teach them) when they do.

  26. IAMEROK says:

    @ Orig. BellaLuna You seem like such an awesome Mom! I love your posts!
    @ Eve I can’t watch Super-nanny I get upset!! Though my neighbors child is really aggressive, he punched me in the stomach during a play date..I sent him home when he wouldn’t say sorry and now the Mom doesn’t talk to me..maybe I should see what super Nanny would have done!!!!

  27. original kate says:

    i think with kids you have to pick your battles. your kid wants to wear orange pants and a green striped shirt to school? okay. your kid wants to throw rocks at the pigeons in the park? not okay.

    as for kate, i think she looks fine without makeup – pretty normal, really. but it does underscore how made-up and photoshopped celebs are. no wonder the american beauty ideal is so unattainable!

  28. Kim says:

    I completely agree with this particular statement. Children/everyone has to make some mistakes in life to learn and grow. You just have to have solid parents or role models to talk to after you make a mistake so you learn from it and dont make same mistakes again & again.

  29. kg says:

    She came to my work about 2 years ago with her son and she was one of the nicest celebs we have ever had. She also seemed like a very good mother from my limited dealings with her.

  30. corey says:

    I agree with some of the posters on here, she really isn’t spectacular looking. She’s always reminded me of what would be the “prettiest girl in the trailer park”.(ooh am I going to catch sh-t for that?, oh well….) but I will also say that she is not a model, nor has she ever claimed to be. A big complaint that I’ve heard from people is that actresses are too fake, barbie-like, unrealistic,why can’t they just put “normal looking” people in movies and tv like they do in parts of the UK? so I guess you can’t win either way.

  31. jemshoes says:

    Kate looks great without makeup, and how awesome is Ryder’s t-shirt? 🙂

    As for her comment on raising kids – well, it’s how she was raised and what she knows. But it’s not a hard-and-fast rule of thumb; plus, it also depends on the personality of the kid, not just the parent. Some kids need more guidance and more absolutes than others in order to feel safe and able to cope, while others may not.

  32. kayls says:

    I think she’s beautiful with or without makeup!

  33. Vernie Oesterle says:

    Wenn beide einverstanden sind und es keine Streitigkeiten wegen Geld gibt kann man auch den Scheidungsantrag ohne Anwalt einreichen!