Natalie Portman served vegan food at her wedding, didn’t even have a cake

Natalie Portman and Benjamin Millepied got married in Big Sur on Saturday. Apparently, it was a pretty traditional Jewish wedding, although some of you took issue with Natalie for being a “cafeteria Jew” (like cafeteria Catholic, I suppose), picking and choosing what she believed in as far as her Jewish faith. What I found surprising were the little things – I didn’t know Jewish weddings could go down on the Sabbath. I didn’t know you could have a traditional Jewish wedding outside of the temple. And I thought traditional Jewish brides had to be more covered up than Natalie was – The Mail has some photos of Natalie in her Rodarte wedding gown, and you can see them here. Her arms are covered (in transparent white), but the dress is a tea-length A-line. Is that allowed?! Besides all of that, Natalie’s wedding sounds okay. The only food was vegan, though. Ugh.

The wedding between Natalie Portman and Benjamin Millepied reflected not just the bride’s Jewish faith and the groom’s French nationality, but also the couple’s outlook on the world.

Instead of having flowers flown in, the ceremony featured wildflowers indigenous to the Big Sur coast where the ceremony took place, and instead of “fish or steak” the menu was strictly vegan in keeping with the bride’s diet.

Portman, 31, chose a traditional white gown from Rodarte, the same house that made the purple dress that Portman wore to the 2010 Oscars, and wore a crown of white wildflowers in her hair. The groom, 35, wore a midnight blue tux.

The 45-minute ceremony, said to be designed and coordinated by LA-based wedding planers Yifat Oren and Stefanie Cove, took place on a bluff overlooking the ocean and under a rustic Jewish chuppah made of twigs. They were surrounded by family (including 14-month-old son Aleph and friends, including Ivanka Trump and Macaulay Culkin,

During the ceremony, the couple were wrapped in a tallits, a Jewish prayer shawl, and in keeping with custom, things ended with Millepied smashing a glass to shouts of “Mazel Tov!”

The reception was held under a tent at a private residence, and featured a Klezmer band. The newly married couple kicked the dancing off with a 20-minute hora dance before being lifted up in chairs by guests.

Eschewing the traditional wedding cake, the couple opted for French macaroons.

When things wrapped up around 2 a.m., the approximately 100 guests took home packets of wildflower seeds as party favors. The packets were inscribed with a single word: “Merci.”

[From People]

Aw, I like that they did the breaking of the glass (update by CB: it’s symbolic of the destruction of the temple in Jerusalem in 70AD). And they danced the hora! YAY. Thoughts on the lack of a wedding cake? Thoughts on the macaroons and the “gift” of wildflower seeds? Eh. I don’t have an issue with macaroons… but she should have had a cake as well! Why even get married if you’re not going to have a wedding cake? That’s, like, one of the few reasons to get married. THE CAKE.

Let’s see, other details… a source told In Touch Weekly, “Her dress was stunning, not overly showy or revealing. Very much her own subtle and pretty personal style – she always has a hippie theme, whatever she does.” Um, really? Natalie is a hippie? When did that happen? Some of the guests: Diane Sawyer and her husband Mike Nichols (Nichols directed Portman in Closer), Ivanka Trump, Macaulay Culkin and Rashida Jones. Which sounds like the guest list was chosen by picking named out of a hat. I wonder if any of Benjamin’s ballet friends were even invited? Hm.

Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Kate says:

    How can you have vegan macaroons? Egg white is their major ingredient; they’re a cousin to a meringue! Though I bet they had it like a croquembouche, in a tower. (The latter is a wedding cake alternative I can really get behind. Profiterole wedding cakes are fine by me.)

    The photos the Mail got are really creepy. I think they crossed the line there tbh.

  2. lisa2 says:

    Its always interesting to see the guest list for very small weddings. Her list of celebs seemed random. But then I don’t know much about her and her friends.

    I will always vote for some kind of wedding cake. It should be a rule. I actually saw that they do make vegan cake so why not?

    • tripmom says:

      Because vegan cake is disgusting.

      • Blue says:

        I’m not vegan but have a lactose intolerance and have made quite a few vegan cakes, brownies, cookies and cupcakes in the last 4 or so months and they were quite tasty.

      • backwards says:

        Not when made by a professional. They can be very yummy.

      • StephanieMarie2685 says:

        SO UNTRUE!
        Why do people hate on “vegan” food?? Read the ingredients on your food labels and I think you’ll be surprised to find SO MUCH of the food you enjoy is vegan!
        I make vegan cupcakes and cakes all the time–I’m no professional baker but they are DELICIOUS. It’s meat industry propaganda which insists baked goods REQUIRE eggs or dairy.

      • tripmom says:

        I’ve been a vegetarian most of my life, so I’m not a vegan-hater, but I’m sorry, I find vegan baked goods to be awful. The best I can say for some of them is that they’re good for vegan cake/bread, but I wouldn’t eat it otherwise. There are many vegan dishes/recipes that are indeed delicious, but I’ve never enjoyed vegan baked goods. They’re so dense and chewy. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, of course, but my opinion is that the stuff sucks.

      • Leen says:

        I thought vegan cake was disgusting too. Until I tried vegan brownies and chocolate cake. YUM! They were delicious.

      • Kate says:

        I’ve eaten vegan cake in a cafe (vegan) people rave about. I was told their cakes are sold to cafes that sell meat, they’re that good. I was keen to like them, but sorry, thought they were sludgey and just not nice. Good compared to commercially sold long-life cake, but nowhere close to a properly made fresh cake made with eggs. Some cakes with veg oil are fine, but I’ve yet to find one without eggs that have the same texture.

        A lot of vegan food is wonderful. I could happily live on Thai or Indian without animal products. Baked goods? No way.

      • ya says:

        I’m not vegan at all – I eat everything – but there are many recipes for great vegan cakes out there. I make them sometimes just for the taste!

      • paranormalgirl says:

        I make an awesome vegan chocolate cake that I make just because it tastes delicious.

      • erica says:

        it’s not nearly as disgusting as what’s done to the innocent creatures who are mercilessly slaughtered every day.

        Believe it or not there are many delicious vegan offerings. I’m not one to shove my beliefs down other people’s throats. But there’s a lot of ignorance out there about how limited vegan cuisine really is(n’t).

        Eat and serve what you want at your own wedding. I’m thrilled that she chose to do what’s best for our plant for hers.

      • Kate says:

        I was vegetarian for a decade. Close relatives and many friends are vegan, and they cook for me and I for them regularly. I only eat meat if I know who produced it – I now live in the country so can achieve that. The eggs I eat are completely, 100% cruelty free, too.

        I have no issue with eating meat, as animals also eat one another; I do have every issue with their living in a concentration camp first. But given that background, I am very well aware of where the meat I eat comes from, and how it arrives on my plate.

        I also wonder how many vegetarians and vegans know the level of carnage to small animals and insects and birds that is required for even a cereal or vegetable or fruit crop to reach their plates. My garden is an organic graveyard, and I don’t plough, and I also check the fruit nets daily.

        Nature is brutal.

        And I still think vegan baked goods are horrible. I’d far rather eat a delicious fruit plate.

      • Pandy says:

        Sorry tripmom, you are way wrong on the vegan cakes. We ordered them for our office all the time from a lady who bakes/decorates cakes. She makes V cakes for her sister and makes regular cakes as well. You cannot taste the difference. Her red velvet cake in particular is beyond delish. Maybe you are not a good baker? Am eating raw brownies today as well that are better than any brownie i’ve made. Challenge is making myself stop …

    • ya says:

      I find most wedding cake – vegan or not – disgusting actually… I hate fondant, plus usually the cake’s been sitting around for awhile…

      I don’t think I’d have a cake if I got married – seems like a waste. I’ve never been to a wedding where people truly enjoyed eating the cake.

  3. Rose says:

    There’s no way a French macaroon is vegan

  4. LittleDeadGirl says:

    The wedding sound very cute. I think she did it her way and that’s fine. The little wildflower packet is a little much for me though, especially with the word merci on it. I just don’t get that as a wedding favor but then the only parting favor I loved was a mask I got from my friend. Her wedding had a 1920′s masquerade ball theme, it was really beautifull, and she made masks for all the guests and we got to take them home. I like her small wedding party.

    • Relli says:

      That’s what i thought too. This seemed very much about Natalie Portman getting married, not Natalie Portman the Movie Star.

    • Jenna says:

      The wildflower thing actually can work out nice – I ended up going with them myself as the wedding favors. And now, 5 years later, both my mom and my mother-in-law have flower patches that, every year, are a riot of blues, whites, and soft silvery/grays (wedding colors) that remind them of the wedding. Worked out nice and was a relief to the budget. Granted – that’s not exactly something a movie star has to fuss about, but I’d rather hear someone had a quiet and meaningful to THEM wedding them some huge tacky over the top think that the monstrosity that was Kim K’s wedding.

      And I don’t really get the vegan hate. I’m not a vegan (or a veggie – I’m actually one of the rare birds that has to either eat meat or get blood transfusions or die. And while I’ve accepted that one day I’m doomed to be taken out by angry villagers armed with torches and pitchforks, why rush it? I just have a burger.) but I do cook a lot of veggie food because the grass fed and local meat I prefer is pricey. Eating lower down the food chain saves me a ton of dough and is healthy enough. And, in the hands of the right cook – a vegan cake or ANYTHING really, can be a masterpiece. The macaroons won’t be traditional because of the vegan thing, but I’ve played with them myself (I have celiac and egg allergies – traditional macaroons are off the table) and they can be really tasty and DON’T actually have to be made by a bunch of scary sounding chemist’s playset.) and make a pretty tasty one using either cashew flour or sunflower seed flour and they are gobbled up when I make them for friends.

  5. flan says:

    As long as she enjoyed HER wedding, it’s fine with me.

  6. I Love Kim K. says:

    I don’t like her she is phony and overrated. And STFU with these vegan crap.

    • RocketMerry says:

      What I don’t get is how she can be so strictly vegan and enviromental and stuff and then happily be the face of something like DIOR, which could care less about enviroment and organic products. Just saying.

      • Eleonor says:

        Good point.
        I’m not vegan, I’d love to be, but I can’t it’s stronger than me…sometimes I want to eat a good steak. But I always pay a lot of attention where I buy food stuff (luckily I can buy meat directly in the farm) and about cosmetics stuff, and DIOR is not on “the green list”. But you know “money don’t smell”.

      • lafairy says:

        and Dior makeup is not cruelty free!

        so she has a vegan wedding, doesn’t wear leather shoes and blah blah blah…. but IS the face of a label who actively test on animals!!!!

        Talk about being coherent and standing up for you values!

        That just paint her as a huge hypocrite for me!

        Marion Cotillard has refused a L’oréal deal (a friggin’ very juicy L’Oréal deal!!) because she found that it was anything but complying with her values especially on how she stands on animal testing (that is also the reason why she declined being a spokeperson for some Dior makeup and is sticking just to the handbags!)
        and Marion Cotillard isn’t even a vegetarian let alone vegan!

        So to me Natalie Portman is just a hypocrite!!

      • UniqJaz says:

        Why because she only cares about the money that’s being thrown at her. She’ll shift her views when it comes to whats best for her !

    • kennedy says:

      I don’t know if your name is a joke or you actually love Kim K but if the latter is true, then giiiiiiirl, you have no room to talk! But if it’s a joke- cheers! Natalie Portman comes off as such a frigid biatch… I can’t even.

    • Tiffany says:

      I really don’t get your comment about “STFU about the vegan stuff”.

      Umm…in this case she wasn’t talking about it. It was HER wedding, and people spied on her to get the details. There is no “shutting up” to be done here.

  7. gee says:

    I think it’s nice to have a small, semi-unconventional wedding reception. Make it unique!

  8. lafairy says:

    On the cake thing, it is a current trend in a lot of weddings in France to serve macarons as a wedding cake but structured as a croquembouche and the result can be gorgeous and yummy!un-gateau-bisous

    So maybe Benjamin being French it was a wink to his nationality

  9. Marianne says:

    I respect that she’s a vegan, but I think she should have had more variety in the menu for her non vegan guests.

    Wildflower seeds, really? I don’t think she had to go overly elaborate, but maybe some nice chocolate for everyone or something. But wildflower seeds? I like the top half of her dress, but the bottom half is a mess. In the end, it looks like something I could buy at goodwill.

    • Blue says:

      Lol, some people are like that. My coworker and her husband are both vegetarians and don’t drink. So their wedding was meat and booze free, when people asked about it or tried to make suggestions ( having a few bottle of wine that they buy themselves) she basically lost her mind and told people to suck it up because it was only one day or not to bother coming.

      • Minimi says:

        Hmm…I guess your friend was right. Yes, it is indeed nice that if you give a party you also take into account what your guests would like to have, but I also think that if you decide to attend a wedding your focus shouldn’t be in the food that will be served in there. That is really one of the most annoying things for me in weddings: a bunch of people that are only there for food and drinks! This is supposedly a very special day for the couple and if they invited you to be there might be that they consider nice to have you there…is it really necessary to pick on their choices for how they want that day to be? And if you don’t feel any happiness in going there, simply don’t go, done! I’m not a vegetarian, but I can see that if that’s a big part of who the person is then it’s kinda nice to have a wedding that represent the people who are marring.

        P.S. The “you” is a general you, not specific to you, Blue..although I did pick your story

      • Brittney says:

        I totally understand that she “lost her mind”… I’m a vegetarian and so is my boyfriend, and though we don’t see the need to get married (in part because of the whole wedding rigamarole), if we did we would definitely have a vegetarian menu.

        If a couple has strong enough feelings about animal products to exclude them from their diets/lives entirely, why would they break that commitment to purchase a lot of food that offends them on THEIR big day of all days?

        (On the flip side, at the last wedding I attended, even the pasta salad and macaroni and cheese had bacon in them. I literally had nothing to eat for the entirety of the five-hour reception, and yeah it was inconvenient, but I never expected to be catered to, and the event was not about me. Non-vegetarians and non-vegans can eat ANYTHING at a vegetarian or vegan wedding, though, so that complaint is even more absurd in comparison. Meat, eggs, and dairy are not required at every single meal of your life.)

        I get that celebrities are fair game for pretty much any amount of judgment on a gossip site, but in the real world I hope most people wouldn’t declare the FREE food at a wedding “gross” just because it doesn’t conflict with the beliefs of the bride and groom.

      • Kate says:

        I’ll happily eat vegan at a wedding. I even made the desserts for a friend’s vegan wedding (summer pudding, which is a Brit dish with fruit and bread – sounds horrible, I swear it’s delicious!). But I’d be horrified if I went to a wedding that didn’t cater for veggies and vegans, because as you say, they can’t eat anything else. And it isn’t HARD to cater for them, either, in fact usually it’s cheaper!

      • CC says:

        I don’t mind vegetarian or vegan as long as it doesn’t taste like crap, just give me some pesto salad or spaguetti with a good tomato italian-style sauce just pile on mushrooms and tomatoes for consistency(I can handle it not having cheese, if vegan) or guacamole (the type with only tomatoes, avocato, onions, garlic, lime juice, cilantro) and salsa dip. Or something. And nice fruit salads, at least, made without cookie-cutter fruit like apples, bananas and oranges. Or grapes. But don’t dump tofu or egg replacement crap on me. I can handle vegan food as long as it made with ingredients not aimed at being vegan replacements. I don’t like sugar replacement either for coffee or deserts, I’d rather drink sugar free than use those replacements, either use the real thing or none at all, but those replacements are garbage I want to do without. It’s a one-time thing for the marrying couple as well. And it still would be vegan without creeping out the guests.

        Oh and great bread can be made, vegan style, you just neeed to do it traditionally, but using high quality flour. Won’t be sweet but bread isn’t supposed to be sweet, not the old school,medieval kind. Or buttery. If using yeast is the problem, just make flat bread. But again, no replacements, PLEASE.

      • Kate says:

        Agree on all fronts.

        And I’m not vegan, and I make vegan bread because I think it tastes nice. Never even considered that it was until a vegan friend asked it if was okay. Sourdough starter, hemp oil as the fat, away you go. Yummy and stacked full of omega oils, too.

      • the original bellaluna says:

        Ooooh, Kate, recipe please? (For that sourdough.) :D

      • Kate says:

        Bellaluna with pleasure, but do you need the starter recipe as well, or just the actual bread?

      • the original bellaluna says:

        Kate – YES PLEASE! (Sorry, I just saw this.) :D I would love the whole shebang!

    • StephanieMarie2685 says:

      It’s ONE NIGHT of their lives, I’m sure everyone resumed their own habits the following day and are no worse for it.

    • Liv says:

      A bit over the top – I don’t eat much meat, but I would never force my guests to do the same! She’s obviously not very tolerant.

    • Kate says:

      I’d really like wildflower seeds as a favour, though. And at the end of the day it’s what the bride/groom wants to give you. I mean, you don’t go to a wedding for the food and loot, do you.

      And if the food is delicious I don’t care what label it has. I’d rather have a gorgeous vegan meal than a massively overdone steak/chicken royale with a stodgy dessert. Most wedding food I’ve eaten is poor, because the caterers have to get so many plates out at once.

    • ya says:

      I’m not vegan and I completely disagree – it certainly won’t do her guests any harm to eat vegan food for one night. And there are plenty of delicious vegan recipes out there.

    • Lee says:

      As a vegan who served only vegan food at my own wedding, including a vegan wedding cake, I have to disagree. I completely respect my friends, family and wife who are primarily omnivores, but I spend 99% of my own life forced to accommodate their eating habits by choosing a plain salad because everyone else wanted to go to a steakhouse. If there was ever one day where I wanted to have the option of enjoying all of the foods being served, it was certainly on my wedding day.

      I made an effort to find a vegan caterer who made faux chicken and shrimp skewers that even my hardcore meat-loving grandfather greatly enjoyed and mini veggie burgers that the kids ate by the handful (it was a 50s themed wedding, so we did classed-up diner style food).

      The response I got from friends, family and my spouse when I suggested that I wanted to have an all-vegan wedding was that they were more than happy to eat one vegan meal if it meant it made my day more special and welcoming to me (the bride). The only person who complained at all was the notoriously self-centered sister of a friend, and she ended up not coming to the reception anyways.

      • Bec says:

        Well said Lee. I recently attended a friend’s wedding where we were served vegan food and the food was fantastic. There was no cake but a incredible ‘cake pop’ arrangement made by a mutual friend which was a sweet gesture appreciated by all attendees. As a meat eater, to try food I wouldn’t normally eat was a great experience.

    • orion70 says:

      The thing is, vegan food, unless a person has food allergies or what not, is well within the realm of what an omnivore can eat. I could totally understand the complaint if people were served solely vegan food for like a week or something, but one meal should be tolerable.

      I’m vegetarian and I’ve been to lots of events where the only thing to eat was meat, potato and some vegetables, often all covered with meat-based gravy or whatever. I’ve made more than one meal from a dinner roll and maybe some dessert. It’s one meal, no biggie.

  10. Hautie says:

    No cake?

    Not even cupcakes?

    How cheap. :)

    Well maybe at her next wedding she will do a cake!?

    I biggest issue is with the choice of entertainment. Come on now… if you are going to hire a band…

    Now that is a band!

    I love this guy and his show.

    Could you image the looks from her family when, Dan and the Dan band,
    broke into “Total Eclipse of the Heart”!

  11. Birdie says:

    So, what about her guests? No meat, no cake.. well it was her wedding, but I would have rolled my eyes the whole time.

  12. Cazzee says:

    Nothing tastes better than the self-righteousness of veganism!

    My sympathies to the guests – also, how much do you want to bet that the McDonalds on the way back to the hotel probably got a decent amount of business later that evening?

  13. Lala says:

    Would have left wedding and drove STRAIGHT to “Fatburger”!

  14. Michelle says:

    Jewish weddings can take place at any time but if you are religious you need to wait until sundown on Saturday, this is the end of the Sabbath. The Sabbath starts on Friday sunset and ends on Saturday at the same time.

    • coconut says:

      agreed re timing of the wedding.

      i’ve never heard, kaiser, that the glass symbolizes breaking the hymen!? what my rabbi and books have said is it symbolizes containing the bad stuff that will inevitably happen in life.

      her dress looked quite conservative to me overall. i think you’re taking the “conservative” thing a bit too literally. having the tallit (prayer shawl) indicates to me that they’re pretty serious jews.

  15. GoodCapon says:

    Regardless of the Daily Mail’s paparazzi-esque photos, that looked to be a wonderful, intimate wedding.

    I still can’t like her though. She seems a bit… phony? Also her fans always say that she’s articulate and eloquent, well I watched a couple of videos where she kept inserting ‘like’ in her sentences like a stupid uneducated girl.

  16. celine says:

    i saw her once laughing about a contestant on project runway after michael said something really really mean. from that moment on i hated her. i can’t help it, when i look at her i feel like she is just such a fake a bitch. a hypocrite and just so overrated.

    OH, and she is a fuck!ing homewrecker, i NEVER EVER forgive that.

    • Aotearovian says:

      Gahd, I’m sick to the back teeth of that word.

      If anyone ‘wrecked’ a home, it was Benjamin – and were he and his girlfriend even living together, if we’re going to get literal?

      He was in a supposedly committed relationship, he left it, HE wrecked it. It’s on him – though Natalie would be wise to remember that he has form.

    • UniqJaz says:

      @ Celine I agree 100 percent.
      If she married a man willing wreck his own home, then that says a lot about her. They arent going to last bc how she got him is how she’ll lose him.

  17. Kayen says:

    I will never understand the criticism of vegans or vegetarians not serving meat at their weddings. The Dior criticism for Natalie, ok, but the concern for the guests over lack of meat, WTF? It’s one meal, of one day! Honestly it seems so petty and selfish to me to gripe about it like you’re going to starve

    • Flim says:

      Agreed. And what an absurdly “first-world” gripe it is. Be glad she didn’t serve you crickets and snails. People are so quick to make fun of veganism, and granted there is a vocal minority of self-righteous preachers–but my goodness, why demonize a tiny subculture of people who wish only “to do no harm?”

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Yeah my first reaction was “Why wouldn’t she offer more choice?” then my second reaction was “It’s her wedding, her ideals, if her friends and family can’t suck it up and deal with no meat for ONE celebration, ONE day then eff ‘em.”
        Plus she probably has the most amazing vegan chef on the planet-vegan food can be UNBELIEVABLE, even more amazing when you have a trained professional making it. So maybe her intention was to open people up to the idea of veganism-why not?

        But, at the risk of completely contradicting what I just said, I wouldn’t choose this route myself, for my wedding. I want my wedding to be about celebrating with my friends/family in an inclusive way, not about my personal wants/needs, meaning I wouldn’t deprive them of meat just because meat is not for me.

        Just my approach though-still maintain that there’s nothing wrong with hers.

      • Kate says:

        My cousin thinks eating meat is profoundly wrong, and it never even crossed my mind that her wedding would be anything but vegan, genuinely. I don’t know. I think if people love someone, and want to see them married, they’ll happily eat yummy food (I’ve happily eaten some pretty nasty food!) and just be happy for the couple. A wedding should reflect the couple, after all. I don’t think my own personal taste matters compared to them sharing their day and celebrating their future with us all.

        I have a hippy heart, I think!

    • Suzie says:

      I agree completely.

      I’d put money down that the majority of people taking issue with a vegan wedding have never eaten a decent vegan meal. Good food is good food, whether vegan or not.

      I’m sure the couple had the whole thing prepared by a 5 star chef. What’s the big deal? No one is forcing you to eat your broccoli, children. Get over yourselves.

      • Kate says:

        “Good food is good food, whether vegan or not.”

        Yeah, this. I don’t care if my meal is “lactose free” or “gluten free” either, if it tastes nice. I’d only care if that were my dietary restriction. I tend to be the same about vegan/veggie.

        And I always ask for vegan or veggie on planes, because it’s less disgusting and less factory-farmed. Though I have had to sacrifice that to a genuine veggie/vegan when the airline’s messed up, more than once.

    • venny says:

      THANK YOU x1000!! I just came here to post the same exact thing. I’ll never understand the hate-on for vegans; all the vegans I’ve met have NOT been the preachy, in-your-face, you-must-eat-like-me type – just regular people who don’t want to consume animal products (with sound arguments to back them up!).

      And for her menu, who gives a crap?! It’s her day, her choice. In the end, it’s only one freaking meal – why are people so unwilling to broaden their gastronomical experiences? Sad. SMH.

    • Marianne says:

      I think it’s polite to at least have 2 different options. I’m not a vegan or vegetarian, but I would put a vegetarian option on my menu for my non meat eating friends.

      • Liv says:

        I agree. I am vegetarian and I wouldn’t force that on my guests. Be a bit more tolerant.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        I know what you’re saying, Marianne but I guess the difference for me is that if meat-eaters have to eat vegetable-based dishes one time, they’ll be fine but if vegan/vegetarians are forced to eat meat then they could get very very sick because their bodies are not able to digest meat properly after years of not eating it.
        So meat-eaters presumably can eat vegetables-it doesn’t go against their belief system and it won’t make them sick whereas vegetarians/vegans, if forced to eat meat, might get sick AND it goes against their belief system, actually it’s not different than Kosher or any other dietary restriction that’s based on religious/personal beliefs.

    • jamie says:

      I completely agree. I’m not a vegetarian or vegan but I wouldn’t throw a hissy fit about being “forced” to eat vegetarian/vegan meal at a wedding I’d been invited to. Leaving out meat and/or animal products for one meal is not a hardship. Anyone who would complain about not being served meat at a party or dinner you’ve been invited to needs to get over themselves and be grateful for the little things in life. Gah. Too much coffee.

    • Lucinda says:

      Yes! I was about to say the same thing. The idea that you have to serve a certain kind of food and a certain kind of cake turns the wedding into something about the guests rather than what it is: an opportunity for the couple to publicly proclaim their commitment to each other. The end. Good for her for sticking to what she values. If you don’t like it, than leave for God’s sake.

    • Pandy says:

      Maybe their family and friends are vegans as well? Perhaps there is no perceived “lack”?? Grr. Hate this anti-vegan/vegan freak stuff.

  18. Maya says:

    I wonder if Darren Aronofsky was there…

  19. NYC_girl says:

    I love Big Sur so much… so beautiful there.

    Putting that aside, I’ve never been married, but I used to be an event planner, and I would think that if you’re gathering friends and family together you might want to give some thought to them, and not inflict your annoying OCD eating habits upon the party? I understand if you keep kosher or have celiac or allergies. Typically the only person who enjoys a wedding is the bride and her mother anyway; at least give the others some freakin’ cake.

    Separately, Natalie’s father was my friend’s GYN when she was having trouble conceiving and she loved him.

    • Minimi says:

      I’ve never been married also, but from all the weddings that I attended I tend to think that the only one usually not having fun is the bride (or at least, the one having the less fun)!
      Usually the guests just have to sit around, get food, get drinks, talk with the others, dance around, socialize and not have a worry. The bride (and probably the bride’s mom) has to think and decide in advance what should “make everyone happy”, bare the stress of the day and deal with everyone’s side eye in the end if the cake doesn’t have chocolate. ;)

      But well, I never went to a wedding that I didn’t want to be at, so I might be biased here…but I would definitely like to see that world where only the bride and her mom has fun! That would change my mind about stressy wedding planning.

      • NYC_girl says:

        I guess because I’m in my 40s, and had to deal with my stepsisters’ weddings and their micromanaging and bridezilla behavior… I always thought if I got married I’d have a small party with good food and music and make it fun, and hopefully people would go home saying it was fun. Often times the music is too loud, the food stinks, etc. My father gave us a bit of wedding money 10 years ago when my first sister got married, and I took the cash and bought an apartment. For me now, it’s more about getting the families together to share the event, and have a meal together. But, I have yet to find a decent guy who’ll put up with me, so… wishful thinking!

      • Minimi says:

        eheh I think you invested your money well! And I totally share your idea of small wedding, nice people, nice food, no stress!! Wishful thinking on the way ;)

  20. the original bellaluna says:

    That’s one way to keep the guest list short, I guess.

    Kaiser – The Sabbath is from sundown on Friday to sundown on Saturday. Since they were married in the dark (I read that somewhere), I guess they were in compliance. Also, a traditional Jewish wedding can be outdoors, as long as there’s a chuppah. (I’m not Jewish, so if I’m wrong, someone please correct me. I’m also not differentiating between Orthodox and Non-Orthodox Jews.)

    • Scarlet Vixen says:

      @Bella: Nope, you’re right! Saturday evening is not considered the Sabbath, so it’s fair game for partying. ;-)

      @Mew (and others): you can make vegan macaroons–you can use sweetened condensed (soy) milk instead of egg whites.

      My husband and I had a Saturday night wedding (adults only! It was awesome!!) and we served cheesecake and fresh fruit instead of wedding cake (hubs hates cake). We had literally dozens of guests thank us for not having traditional wedding cake because it’s always too dry, too sweet, they hate it, etc. I was hoping to have plenty left over but everyone ate it all! So, I’m all about exchewing a bit of tradition.

      I’m also pretty sure that while the menu was vegan it was quite delicious. She was a guest on Top Chef a couple seasons ago where the contestants had to make vegan dishes for a dinner party she hosted, and while I’m not vegan the food looked and sounded pretty darn tasty. I’m sure her guests understand her particular dietary choices (quite possibly it was even mentioned in the invitation), are used to it by now and did fine for one meal. They can have their steak the next night. *eyeroll*

      • the original bellaluna says:

        Scarlet – That sounds lovely! :D (Thanks for confirmation, btw. I thought that was correct – seriously dated a Jewish man for 2 years and daughter’s dance studio owner/instructor is Jewish – but I didn’t want to put false info out there.)

        If you have the money, vegan fare can be quite good, I imagine. Like the “stars” who have personal chefs or a meal delivery service, I’m sure there are tricks of the trade that would make the most banal-sounding foods delicious.

  21. Mew says:

    How can one make vegan macaroons?? What to replace eggs with?

  22. TheOriginalKitten says:

    I agree with others above that said those commenters that claim vegan food is “disgusting” have probably never tried it before.
    I’m not vegan but I’ve had a lot of different kinds of vegan food, some at an amazing vegan restaurant in town that has since closed down. Most of the vegan cheeses, vegan desserts etc-you would NEVER know that they were vegan if someone just served it to you and didn’t tell you.

    I always feel bad for people that dismiss types of food without even trying it first-you miss out on so much….

  23. olcranky says:

    they were married Saturday night after sundown so they weren’t married on the Sabbath

  24. DesertReal says:

    She’s not a “cafeteria jew” as many of you put it. The sabbath ends at sundown & that’s when she had her wedding.
    Most religions say no sex before marriage, to display loving kindness towards others, no judging/discriminating your fellow man, & a million other things that most people “gloss over” or rationalize not doing/following (if they did there would be no war, shootings, discrimination against other peoples race, religion, or orientation, etc).
    So chillax bitches.
    On a side note – I’m not the biggest fan of cake & had 5 different types of cheesecake at my wedding instead. My sisters tried to change my mind & tell me it was “all about the cake” & “what if people don’t like cheesecake” & all that jazz.
    My answer then is the same I have for all of you now, “it’s my wedding, I don’t care if they don’t like it, they can go suck a D.”
    *end rant*

  25. julie says:

    i’m finding it weird that they had the wedding on the sabbath..that’s a really big no-no unless it was after sundown which is fine. Normally at jewish weddings you don’t get wedding favors so I thought the seed things was a cute idea. other than that it’s just another hollywood couple trying to be “different”. I had no idea she was a hippie LOL

  26. Smokey blues says:

    Piping in about the criticism of “cafeteria religion” in general…. I am getting married in 2 weeks. I am Buddhist. I am also human, and my religion is a path I follow, an enlightenment I strive for. I lapse in my loving kindness every day. I still have not figured out how to not eat meat and stay healthy ( after 2+ years of health issues as a vegetarian I conceded and now eat humanely raised meats). There are many more examples of me being a “bad” Buddhist, messing up, being human. Does that mean I do not deserve to hold the Buddha in my heart on my wedding day, let his words guide me, take Buddhist vows? I think people are missing the point of religion – our religions give us something o strive for. Just because we have not reached enlightenment does not mean we are unworthy of holding tight to our religions on such a spiritual occasion as our weddings. Quit judging, yo!

  27. lucy2 says:

    The wedding sounds kind of nice, and I don’t take any issue with the food choices – it’s their choice, and one night, none of their guests starved.

    I would imagine it was macarons, not macaroons. Big difference!

    Also don’t take issue with people being “cafeteria” like with their beliefs – do what works for you. The only time that isn’t right is when people select certain things to harp on and try to force on everyone else and insist everyone must live by the word or whatever, but then ignore stuff that doesn’t suit their views.

  28. BW says:

    Jewish weddings are traditionally held outside, and the chuppa (canopy) symbolizes the house. They’re only held in synagogues recently because people hold them in churches and you don’t have to worry about the weather so much.

    The breaking of the glass does not symbolize breaking the hymen. Breaking the glass is there to tone down the joy of the wedding and remind the couple that there will be sad times as well as happy.

    Vegan food is wonderful. People eat vegan food all the time and don’t even think about it.

    I personally think wedding cakes are stupid looking (my opinion) and I would never have one if I married again. I love chocolate pudding and rice pudding, but if my bride and groom wedding topper was plopped down in the middle of them, I guess it would look like we were knee deep in shit or vomit. Ok, I get the cake now.

  29. DHL says:

    Re. the guest list… Natalie was the same year at Harvard as Ivanka Trump’s husband, Jared Kushner — probably why she was there. And Rasida Jones went to Harvard too, I think.

  30. mdw says:

    her wedding was after sundown, so it was no longer considered the sabbath. the jewish calendar is on a lunar cycle, so a day begins at sundown and a new day begins the following day at sundown.

  31. Ainsley says:

    If I went to a wedding and they didn’t give me cake, I’d take the gift I was planning on giving the bride and groom home with me. No cake for me, no gift for you!

  32. Pants says:

    The length of her dress is fine, as long as things are modest and cover knees and elbows, no worries.

    Also, I’m a total meat and potatos type of girl, but one of the best desserts I’ve ever had was a vegan chocolate and peanut butter cake. Just sayin’.

  33. ramona says:

    I’m no Nat-Po fan (didja know that’s what her classmates at Harvard called her? She hated it) but I think it sounded like a lovely wedding. i love the personal touches – the wildflower seeds, the macaroons… my wedding didn’t have favours at all (we donated to a food pantry instead) and we had a friend do a cake and offered that or profiterole for dessert. Why do you HAVE to have a cake? No one ever eats it anyway, if it’s a good wedding – everyone’s too busy dancing!

  34. Palefire says:

    Vegan food is amazing so is vegan cakes brownies cupcakes hellooo whole foods. I can easily transition between months of fish and chicken to months of vegan or vegetarian food & lifestyle. However i would never be a a-hole bridezilla to say its MY DAY suck it. Id want everyone to have an amazing time i frankly would care more that my wedding was enjoyed by my freinds and family than myself thats just me. I would make darn sure the meat i served was humane fair organic and locally sourced if i had opposition to the meat industry ect and was spending money on it for a wedding but i was a vegetarian.

  35. JulieM says:

    Can’t stand her but….. Good for her for doing it the way she wanted. People need to get over the vegan hate. It’s one meal; just eat it and stop for a greaseburger on the way home. I’ve known overweight vegans. Yes, you can gain weight from eating twigs.

    I love Rodarte but this dress looked kind of baggy and ill fitting. Love the alternative tea length, though.

    • NYC_girl says:

      I agree with you. I am not a hater – I’m a meat-eater, but have been enjoying my Morningstar veggie sausages quite a bit the past few days. And I will not eat at McDonalds or purchase mass-produced meat because of how the animals are raised and slaughtered. I have IBS and I’m not a huge fan of soy but it’s in almost every processed food we eat. I just want my food to taste (and hopefully look) good. I read people with IBS should avoid dairy, and I also tried coconut milk “ice cream” recently and the chocolate version is really tasty. I have a family member who is vegetarian and she’s had a serious health issue the past few months, and she’s too thin and not eating enough protein. I was in her hospital room when the doctor was begging her to eat more.

      I agree on the dress too – it looks very conservative, esp how she’s covered up. The length is nice. I never wanted a dress with a train and worry about it getting stepped on or dragged through the dirt.

      • JulieM says:

        NYC_girl: One of the overweight vegans I knew did a report in high school about the veal industry, including its relationship with the dairy industry, and never touched a piece of meat again.

        Had to look up what IBS is. My husband’s daughter, who was vegan (not anymore), said that she would have terrible gastric pains when she did, on occasion, consume dairy products after abstaining from them. This sounds like what you’re talking about.

        BTW- I’m a NYer too. Not the city, though, Long Island. Born and raised.

  36. TheOriginalKitten says:

    Still confused-so if it was an Indian wedding, say specifically Jain wedding which would likely constitute a strictly vegetarian menu, then would that also be unacceptable to people?

    Or is it ok for it to be a vegetarian/vegan menu but ONLY if it’s religion-based and not based on personal belief?

    • venny says:

      Interesting point. I used to be vegan (now vegetarian) and was repeatedly teased and questioned at work about my dietary choices (all in good fun, but still).

      Meanwhile, a colleague of mine is semi-vegetarian by religion – a religion that she (admittedly) blindly follows because her parents are believers. No one ever questioned or challenged her, but it was open season for me.

      That I had made a dietary choice based on research apparently meant nothing. Had I played the religious card, I wouldn’t have heard a peep.

      • CC says:

        I don’t eat pork, and to this day I’ve been pestered about it basically any time I reject it, I get the “are you jewish?” (I’m agnostic, but they tried to raise me catholic). So around these parts you have to be jewish in their mind, to stay away from pork. What a bunch of crap. It’s my personal choice, which doesn’t harm anyone. My reply? Not that it’s completely true, but they give me shit, I give shit back mentality, is: “no, I find the anymal disgusting to look at while alive, I certainly don’t want to touch it dead either, also…tapeworms…so gross” and that usually shuts them up.

  37. putchka says:

    I used to like this girl til I saw her on Top Chef. She acted like an entitled little twit. No more like.

  38. jen d. says:

    I would have loved this wedding because I have always wanted to try macarons (macaroons are those coconut things, right?). Where I live there are no bakeries that have them, and they look delicious. I love the colours! I feel like I would have to eat them with my pinky finger up. I probably wouldn’t have noticed that they were vegan.

  39. really says:

    I had a vegan wedding. And a cake!
    The food was great, and I have non-vegan friends who have no problem telling me when they don’t like what I serve them.

    Open your minds! There are cultures where meat and dairy are not available, or not desired – and those people have wonderful celebrations.

  40. Lucinda says:

    In these pictures, they look happy. Like a couple truly in love and just content to be with each other. It’s nice.

  41. Aria says:


    OT: I hate the dress.

  42. serena says:

    Macaulay Culkin? Are they friends?
    If so, I hope Natalie put some sense in him.
    Yeah the dress is kind of awful.

  43. Miranda says:

    I think she looks beautiful. Not a vegan myself, but my best friend is, and she’s never had meat and dairy at her home. I can only imagine when she gets married she’ll also have a vegan wedding. It’s her call, it’s her wedding.
    Also- As a reform Jew, you’re dead wrong on the symbolism behind breaking the glass. It represents tempered joy.
    As to the “cafeteria” concept, like many religions, Judaism has many different levels of severity and devoutness. My step-father went to a synagogue for many years, where the congregation would dance in the aisles, had a lesbian rabbi, and changed all pronouns from he to she. I personally only go to synagogue on the high holidays, and I eat the occasional piece of bacon, and I still most definitely consider myself Jewish…
    (Sorry if these have all been addressed, running very late to work!)

  44. T.C. says:

    Nice simple wedding, fugly wedding

  45. Molly says:

    Kinda surprised she’s friends with Ivanka Trump.

    She could have made such a gorgeous bride in a better dress. Or the same dress with bigger,longer sleeves and a billowier and longer length.

  46. Lushus L. says:

    Some of these comments have struck a nerve with me ,so here goes….My wedding opinion is that the guest’s feelings are of the supreme importance. If you don’t care about them, it’s not fair to invite them. When the day (moment) comes and you see everyone standing, smiling, and dressed up for your occasion–it will really hit home. It’s not just about the bride.

    • Melissa says:

      I agree – you may not be able to make everybody happy, but you should give some thought to your guests comfort and happiness. Neither my husband nor I eat fish, but we had it served at the wedding (in addition to meat dishes and vegetarian ones) because lots of people like fish. No skin off my back – there was still food served that my husband and I were able to enjoy.

      And those party favors blow. I don’t want a gift that I then need to plant and take care of for who knows how long. And the “merci” is SOOOOO pretentious. I will give her this, though – she looks very happy in the photos, so I’m glad she had a nice time!

    • Palefire says:

      Omg thnx you I was going to say same thing. Im not a bridezilla when it comes to a wedding it’s about the memories my friends and family take from our the (couples) love that day. I would consider others and offer meat and vegan food. I’d just make sure the meat was organic humane local and farm raised if I had her $$$. And you def need a cake!! And nicer favors without going over the top :)

    • orion70 says:

      Why does serving only vegan food mean that they didn’t care about their guests or consider their feelings?

      As long as the food is tasty and well made, I don’t see the issue.

  47. TG says:

    I just love how these people talk about wanting to be French or name your country but then make sure to have their child in the US just to be on the safe side.

  48. erika says:

    What a nice, simple wedding. Her dress is beautiful and understated, though not my style – but I love her hair. To be honest, I did NOT want cake at my wedding – I just don’t like cake – but I gave in because everyone else wanted one. I did have a ton of vegan food and almost no meat, though :-) Good for Natalie.

  49. Valerie says:

    Her dress looks familiar- oh yea, I wore the exact same one for my First Holy Communion when I was 10.

  50. Jen says:

    Well, some of us don’t like cake. I’m one of those people. Straight up do not care for cake.

  51. pamela says:

    Personally, I find it pretty inconsiderate that because she follows a “strict vegan diet”, she could not or refused to incorporate non-vegan foods in the wedding menu for her non-vegan guests. Or was being a vegan a requirement for an invite?

  52. Arla says:

    Oh wow that must have been a lot of fun for the guests huh? Hopefully they were all stupid Hollywood types and they all thought it was so amazing and impressive how inedible they can make food these days.

  53. sup says:

    my cousin had vegan cake in her wedding, it tasted unbaked and kinda sucked

  54. DANDILION says:

    There were just the right amount dessert calorie for a bite or two.. each.. Perfect no one splurged with shame or got diabetes by her wickedness in any way. She can do whatever makes her and new hubby happy on her wedding day as far as I am concerned.

  55. mimi says:

    They look so pretty together and its her wedding so if she is vegan, that makes sense that the wedding would reflect that.

    As for traditional Jewish weddings: I didn’t know saturday was allowed/ or common, but the real traditional Jewish wedding is actually outside of the temple and under a Chuppah- which is supposed to be under the sky.

    And traditional Jewish brides are not so covered up. At least, that’s what I know.

    Anyways, she looks so happy in the wedding picks.
    I think she is so beautiful, though I didn’t like the wedding gown at all.

  56. littlestar says:

    The French meringue cookies are called macarONS not macarOONs. Macarons and macaroons are two totally different things. As a HUGE lover of French pastries and desserts, it really irks me when people can’t get the difference between the two :D .

    • Scarlet Vixen says:

      @littlestar: Actually, macarons and macaroons traditionally are in essence the same thing, and the terms can be interchangeable. The confusion is that the coconut macaroons that people now think of as ‘macaroons’ are actually a hybrid of the original almond meringue cookie. Millipied is French, Portman is Jewish, and us Jews love our macaroons, so I think that’s also adding to the confusion. :-)

  57. Penguin says:

    It’s their day, they have the right 2 serve wat they like. When my sister got married she only served chicken & nut roast 4 the vegetarians. I dnt like chicken but it’s only 1 meal & tbh we all had such a good time no1 cared about food.

  58. Kate says:

    Okay, given a lot of vegans are here:

    Please can I have a good recipe for vegan marshmallows, and another for macarons? My cousin’s birthday is next month and she is a vegan, and she would be so delighted for a box of each. I don’t care if ingredients are hard to source in the UK – that is what mail order is for!)

    Thank you, if anyone has one. (And apologies to the admins if that is so off topic as to be unacceptable, too!)

  59. jen7waters says:

    Natalie is perfection!

  60. birdgherl says:

    I love her style, very organic and natural yet classy..and the macaroons are a nice homage to his French heritage.

  61. anya says:

    She’s friends with Ivanka Trump?
    I guess nobody’s perfect…

  62. Suze says:

    I find Portman self-righteous and annoying but it was her wedding so if she wanted to get married wearing a sack and serve boiled cucumber slices it would have been entirely her prerogative.

    I exaggerate to make my point, of course.

    What follows is a rant about – yes! – the wildflower seeds.

    I am so sick of wildflower seed packets. Who deemed these the “gift of choice”? In my world, they seem to fall from the sky with alarming frequency. I’ve received two packs from my employer this year, one to plant during National Breast Cancer Awareness Month and one for Ecology day, I got a pack from the bank on Mother’s Day, a pack as a gift at the last wedding shower I went to, and just last week I brought back a pack from the grocery store as an “autumn promotion.” So – I would have been harrumphing if I had been gifted that at her wedding.

  63. Jennifer12 says:

    Re: vegan food- if it’s done properly, it’s delicious. Babycakes does an amazing job on vegan cakes. Re: the stupid Jewish remarks- are you not able to look things up on the internet? It’s not picking and choosing. It’s living your faith the way YOU want to do it. There are different sects of Jews, varying in religious beliefs. The more religious Jews do not allow men and women to sit together, women have to be covered up, etc. Less religious Jews feel differently. We can wear any wedding dress we please, but the more religious ones cover up completely. You can get married on a Saturday night. You can get married outside or in a temple. Isn’t all of this easy to look up? You make it sound like voodoo rites. There are different levels of people’s religions and they may have the same faith, but worship differently. You sound like a calmer version of the zealots who attack Muslims for not covering their entire bodies, etc. Do you seriously not know about different levels of religion?

    • JulieM says:

      Jennifer12, could not agree more. Most people are amazingly insulated and provincial in their knowledge of the world around them. It’s all about me, me, me. If you don’t feed ME steak and cake, I’m not coming to your wedding. If you don’t wear a strapless mermaid gown with your boobs pushed up under your chin, you’re not stylish. Voodoo rites, love it.

      My husband’s daughter used to be vegan, so I learned to cook it. It’s really not that hard. Most recipe books have vegan recipes unintentionally. All one has to do is look. I still have favorite recipes that I make just for the hell of it, and I’m a carnivore.

  64. Jordan says:

    Her wedding, she can do whatever she wants. And don’t most people in religions pick and choose what beliefs they hold dear?

  65. Lisa B. says:

    I always thought the rumours about Darren Aronofsky knocking up Natalie were bullshit but after looking at Aleph now…no way on the planet this boy is Millepied’s son.

    No resemblance. He looks JUST LIKE DARREN. And could easily pass off as Henry, Darren’s boy with Rachel Weisz, when he was this age. Impressive.

    I wonder what Benjamin thinks about that. I suppose he doesn’t care much, but still.

    /off-topic comment

  66. Colin Sullivan says:

    His surname sounds too much like centipede to me and is therefore creepy.

  67. TTT says:

    Its her wedding, she can do what she wants.

    I am tired of people who think the bride & groom are obligated to feed them gourmet food, champagne and caviar. One thing I can’t stand is wedding guests who think they are royalty.

  68. Lexi says:

    I didn’t think she HAD any friends ~ humourless chick that she is.

  69. Ravensdaughter says:

    It’s their wedding!
    As for sweets, in Seattle, we have Mighty O vegan donuts, and they are yummy (though no less fattening). Surely some vegan genius could have cooked up a cake-or they could have called up to Seattle and ordered a Mighty O giant frosted donut!
    Macaroons work, and probably are as easy as donuts to whip up vegan. Personally, I think wedding cakes have such high tacky potential anyway!