Salma Hayek: ‘I thought everybody who was married was secretly miserable’

These are some photos of Salma Hayek at the Rome photocall for Savages. I’m also including a photo of John Travolta looking like he’s about to say “Hey, girl!” in a sassy way. As for Salma… I still don’t know what kind of crack you people were smoking when you yelled at me after I yelled at Salma for describing herself as “at the limit of chubbiness at all times.” I’m sorry, but I still hate that she described herself that way. That’s an insult to truly chubby girls, and I find it so very patronizing, especially given how crazy-awesome her body actually is. LOOK AT IT. This is not a woman who is one Snickers away from ‘Chubby Tragedy’. For the love of God.

Anyway, there are more excerpts from Salma’s More Magazine piece. She really has turned into Goop. Only richer (haha on Goop).

Salma Hayek is happily married these days, but looking back, she didn’t believe such a feeling would be possible.

“I didn’t think marriage worked,” she tells More in its October issue cover story. “I thought everybody who was married was secretly miserable – that it was something they just put up with for their children.”

But since saying “I do” to French billionaire François-Henri Pinault on Valentine’s Day of 2009, the actress, 46, sees things very differently.

“I have a master of decision-making helping me out, so of course my life and my career are better,” she explains. “I really enjoy having somebody that I can be weak with. If I’m insecure or afraid, I can talk about it, and he’ll give me strength and courage. With us, there’s no power struggle. I don’t mind doing things for him because he does so much for me, and he feels the same way.”

Hayek, who gave birth to the couple’s daughter Valentina, 5, in 2007, is a devoted mom, but she also makes personal time for herself and Pinault. Teasing that she has texts which “would surprise you,” Hayek goes on to say, “I can show you a thousand things. But I’m not going to.”

[From People]

Well, her confession of thinking “everybody who was married was secretly miserable” is the solace of many single women. I will admit to thinking that sometimes too, when I think to myself, “Should I regret not settling down at my age? Eh. I’d probably be miserable, just like nearly every married woman.” It’s the way I justify my unmarried status to myself. So… I can relate to that. As for all of the “But Now That I’m Married, Everything Is Hearts and Candy!” stuff – meh. She had to stand by as her billionaire husband tried to cheap out on his barely-acknowledged son. Is it worth it?

Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.

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  1. Erinn says:

    So she thought that married people were all miserable…then enters into a marriage with a douche bag who essentially shuns his other kid. Class act. I can’t stand this woman. I never could.

    Edited: caught a spelling error…it’s early!

    • Mare says:

      Pinault has said, and Evangelista didn’t dispute it, that he spends time with their son and that he’s part of his family and close to his sister.

    • Eh? says:

      So this cow MUST be miserable. What an idiot! She’s delusional. And the fake boobs are extremely unflattering.

  2. GiGi says:

    I AM happily married for 10 years (after a little starter marriage, lol) and I still think most married people are miserable!

    Out of all my married friends, I know *maybe* 2 couples who are legit happy and content. The rest are pretty bad: from bickering to cheating, they run the gamut. It makes me wish most of them had stayed single until they found someone they were really compatable with rather than settling. I’m surprised at how many of them say the same thing.

    • Tifygodess24 says:

      I’ve been married for 13 years ( actually got married at 19! No I wasn’t pregnant lol ) and I can see where you are coming from with what you said, I don’t know if it’s so much people settle as much as they want to do what society tells them they should and they fall into the whole lust over love stage. I think in this day and age with so many people SO ego driven and have that me me me mentality that it’s hard for them to be in a healthy relationship where they have to compromise and have understanding for someone else. Generations past put more effort into marriage and relationships than the quick jump in jump out when things get hard like they do now.

      • GiGi says:

        I think you’re right. People are so focused on themselves that they don’t know how to be a partner. I’ve been shocked at how many times I’ve had a friend say, “Well, I either marry this person or I’m alone and I don’t want to be alone.”

      • Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

        Did they put in more effort, or did they just shut up and keep going for the sake of the bloodline and business and accept the reality of limited options and negative scrutiny?

        No courtly love poem has even been written for a wife, unions have been far more pragmatic than that until very recently.

      • ShugAveryPee says:

        DING DING DING…. That is it…. All these married people are forgetting that marriage is “WE” and not “I” or “Me” ;… Yes most people back in the day worked harder at marriage…. My grandparents were married 50 years .. married in 1946 and my grandma threatened to divorce grandaddy all the time… but we knew it was just talk… she loved him and took care of him until he died… In my life I never had a reason to not believe in marriage because I knew alot of happily married people… they went through crap but over all they were happy … I just think because Divorce is sooo easy now.. people are so quick to do so… so they do not even try ….

    • jc126 says:

      Billions of dollars can make just about anyone happier. And plenty of people are miserable in their marriages, or relationships. People are afraid of change – what if I never find anyone, or the one I find is worse than the one I have, etc.

  3. littlemissnaughty says:

    I’m not so sure she “had” to stand by while he was being an ass. As in, I can’t tell if it was really such a big deal to her. Lately she gives the impression of being someone who probably thought he was doing nothing wrong by acting like an ass towards his other child. Or the mother of that child, whatever. I’m pretty sure she knows exactly who she married and why. *cough*billionaire*cough* Or maybe it’s his movie star good looks. …. I don’t even know.

    • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

      Whenever she feels unhappy she just breaks out a couple 100 thousand, throws it on the bed and swims around in it like bitchy rich.

      • littlemissnaughty says:

        LMAO … Wait, that is probably true so I don’t know if I should laugh. 😀

        She’ll have to increase that amount in a few years when that stunner of a hubby of hers impregnates the next supermodel. Because you know it’ll happen, he has douchebag written all over his face.

  4. Tanya says:

    I think once the honeymoon phase wears off…people unrealistically think something is ‘wrong’ with their marriage when it is just the natural evolution of a relationship..a different stage. The lustful hormones fade after a couple of years, then you settle into a more simple, bill paying life. I think, however, being married to a billionaire would make life alot different than your average relationship. financial stress and alot of household chores, day in, day out, can change things and fast. It’s all how we look at things…but dollars certainly makes things less stressful I would assume.

  5. FreeSpiritedGirl says:

    She sounds proud and vain. I dislike these kinds of people. They think they are above everybody.

  6. marie says:

    I am one snickers past chubby tragedy, in my defense though-it was a really good snickers! ha

    As for the rest, I’m not married so I dunno..

  7. lucy2 says:

    She can talk all she wants about it, but I don’t think I’ll ever believe that’s a truly happy, loving marriage. Not only did the whole other child thing happen, but I think she just wanted someone with deep pockets and a lot of connections.

    • Suzy (from Ontario, Canada) says:

      I agree with you. Somehow I doubt she would’ve married him or even given him the time of day if he was just some regular guy without all the money.

      She keeps trying to build him up into some fantastic guy, but the way he treated his Linda E and his other child speaks volumes about both of them. All his money and he had to be such a dick to her (Linda) and the boy? That could’ve been handled so differently. Why bedgrudge the money etc. when you have so much of it anyways? How can that child not grow up feeling resentful and abandoned?

      And if a man will do that to a former girlfriend that he supposedly loved and the child they created together (accident or not), then he has no real character or integrity. He sounds like a jerk and she just comes off selfish and vindictive for standing by. She could’ve influenced the whole thing by encouraging him to embrace the other child and make peace and give Linda what she wanted, etc. and she did nothing.

      • Relli says:

        ITA with you!

        The overkill to show what a great man he is and how awesome her life is a bit much. She has never siad so much regarding thier relationship until now? Every interview is like this ever since the world found out he was king dick and tried to weasel out of paying for non-legit child. That whole situation pretty much killed it for me on Salma, although it would be pretty embarassig for everyone to find out you talked your bf into getting you pregnant because he has a wandering peen and got someone else pregnant.

      • bisolar says:

        Come on!He didn’t love Linda E,never did nor claimed to be.Am amazed at why u think Pinault has to cater to the whims of a self entitled gold digger who got pregnant after 3 or 4 dates.He never got a chance to bond with her,and she rejected d money he wanted to give her.She just wants what Salma has,and she aint getting it.

  8. Charlotte says:

    My experience does seem to be that the more you have to talk about how happy you are, the less the reality. Seems like overcompensation. Or maybe it’s that she gets asked a truck-load of questions and these are the only quotes that get run.

    • TG says:

      Agree. She is sounding more and more like Heidi Klum was when she was married to Seal. The more and more they go on you know the split is inevitable. Salma has become insufferable. She also sounds very submissive to this guy. I guess she is happy so long as the money is coming in.

    • HotPockets says:

      Thank you for saying this. I’ve always noticed that people who put out this perfect, overly affectionate, happy and unbreakable front, usually have the most faults and issues in their relationships.

      Someone who has to talk about how great their relationship is and make it a point to constantly mention how happy they are, usually indicates they are trying to overcompensate for the lack of fulfillment in the relationship.

      Heidi Klum and Seal are great examples of this, not to mention their annual vow renewals. The only couples I’ve ever known who renew their vows like that have a ton of issues going on, so it is like they have to remind themselves of why they’re even married.

      Or the people who post on twitter and facebook about how happy they are and how awesome their marriage and boyfriend/girlfriend are. Who are you trying to convince? yourself? If you’re content, you don’t have to convince anyone.

      Marriage is work, plain and simple, but not just marriage, any relationship. It takes a road of compromise, trust, unconditional love, understanding and commitment, whether it be a friendship or partnership.

      I don’t believe that everyone who is married is miserable, I believe miserable people are miserable and it doesn’t matter if they are married or not. A relationship doesn’t complete you, a partner should compliment you, people don’t understand that. If you feel like someone doesn’t complete you, then you should find some inner contentment with being alone until you pursue a serious relationship. In order to be happy in a marriage or partnership, you have find solace with being alone first.

      • BeesKnees says:

        Very well said!!

      • Minty says:

        That was well put and thoughtful, too.

        Before you can truly love another person, you must first love yourself. It may be a cliché, but I think it’s completely accurate. Too many people mistakenly think the love of their life will make them “whole”.

        Salma needs to stop doing interviews for a while.

      • I Choose Me says:

        My sentiments exactly!

        I seriously have to give props to my fellow CB commenters. You guys express yourselves so well and are usually interesting, thoughtful or simply hilarious.

      • HotPockets says:

        It’s true, you must love yourself before loving someone else. I see too many unhappy marriages, friendships, relationships that have gone astray, simply because one of the parties was unhappy and usually it was because of something within themselves.

        I dislike when people make assumptions about marriage, simply because so many who marry have unrealistic expectations of what a marriage should be or they think the other person can fill a void in their life. No one can make you feel complete, but yourself, so it unfair to expect that from any partner.

        Salma needs an adjustment, because I think what she meant to say was, “I thought everybody who was married was miserable, unless they married a billionaire, then they’re married and rich! I’m a great example that money can buy love!”

  9. jojo says:

    marriage is so much more fun when you have an infinite amount of money….

  10. Would Vincet Cassel Wear This? says:

    Let’s see. Around 50% of marriages end in divorce and of the 50% that don’t a lot of them are probably struggling too. Team Selma.

  11. Maggi says:

    Chubby does not mean fat or obese, I think she means that she has a light layer if fat covering her at all times and that seems accurate to me. There are degrees of plumpness and she is definitely on the plump rather than skinny side.

    • SallyBee says:

      Exactly! She is an extremely curvy woman, as am I, and If I gain 10 lbs, I consider myself chubby (which is a nice way of saying I’m fat).

  12. lizzi says:

    LOL at the Travolta pic. TOO EASY.

    As for marriage, if you marry your best friend in the whole world, it’s amazing. There’s no one I’d rather just hang with than my hubbs. 🙂

  13. Talie says:

    We know why she married this guy and not the others…she’s a pragmatist. I would bet love/passion is very low on her list of needs in this marriage.

  14. Cherry says:

    Wait a minute. Is she talking about her husband when she says ‘I have a master of decision-making helping me out’? really, Salma?

  15. effy says:

    how is being chubby a tragedy?
    redefine every word in your own terms but don’t act like you understand exactly what the person is saying. ha!

    As per the other kid’s issue, Salma has said nothing, absolutely nothing about that issue (not that i remember), yet we somehow blame her for what we don’t know.

    And yes, there’s a little misery in so many marriages. Try marriage councelling, you will know it.

  16. Annie says:

    Yeah I don’t believe her marriage is awesome. And he was clearly f-cking the two of them at the same time. She just loves the money.

  17. Annie says:

    Yeah I don’t believe her marriage is awesome. And he was clearly f**king the two of them at the same time. She just loves the money.

  18. Rux says:

    I was in the “married people are secretly unhappy” group. So I did not get married until I was 36 because at that point, I knew myself well enough to know what was important. My husband is my partner and our marriage is not perfect but we work at it everyday. We try to do everything together and are involved very much with whatever the other one is doing. I did not marry for lust, I married because it felt/feels right and we make each other happy, support each other, and are there for each other.

    As for her, ever since the Sofia Vergara comment and her recent attitude, I find her insufferable and I used to be a big fan. It just feels like she lost her self.

  19. Ann says:

    Just wait until the next illegitimate baby pops up!

  20. bettyrose says:

    I always thought that because every married person I was around growing up was miserable. So, now, even more than a decade into wonderful, committed relationship, the idea of marriage still makes me wake in a cold sweat.

  21. francesca1 says:

    I’m chubby and married, too! We are practically twins, Salma and I!

  22. someone says:

    This shows you what a difference a well fitted dress can make. The black dress from the “chubby” thread did make her look chubby. This grey one makes her look very fit and slim. Even her boobs look in proportion.

  23. Cathy says:

    I like the dress on her. She’s not overly thin, but she’s far from being chubby. What’s with the picture of John, it looks like he’s posing to find a new massage therapist.

  24. Jennika says:

    I’m 25 and single and it seems like everyone from high school and college is married/engaged/in a serious relationship. And everyone’s always asking why I’m single, I like being single! sheesh! I feel like a lot of the people I know who are married already or engaged, just are doing it to be married bc they don’t want to be alone/ end rant lol

    • Mrs. Ari Gold says:

      @Jennika You should move to New York City or another big city because no one gets married there until they’re 30 and up.

      Anyone that’s married any younger than 30 in a big city will have people shaking their heads at them and feeling sad for them because they probably married “too young”.

  25. Jaded says:

    I’m getting very tired of all her pontificating on how perfect and wonderful her marriage is. It’s like she’s constantly rubbing everyone’s faces in the unending perfection that is her life now that she’s married to Mr. Moneybags.

    Please Salma, stop with the TMI nonsense about your sexting and how wonderful it is when you feel weak and you have a big, strong, RICH man to rely on. Remember pride goeth before a fall, and I totally agree with other posters that it’s just a matter of time before the whole thing goes sideways with the discovery of another love-child or some 21 year old hottie he has hidden on the low-down.

  26. blonde on the dock says:

    I have never found this woman to be attractive. I also think she’s one snicker away from being chubby.

  27. Alana Fajina says:

    Wow there are A LOT of Salma haters on here. I am starting to see a trend of whom you favor for what reasons and whom you are threatened by for others. So she is a stunningly beautiful woman who married a billionaire that knocked up another supermodel while they were on a break- oh the horror. What, should she live like a pauper because it would make everyone else more comfortable?? GET REAL Ladies!!

    • Ennie says:

      I agree. it is getting worse than with Gisele.
      He did not impregnate the model when they were on a break. She was 5 or 6 months pregnant when he met Salma in 2006. The boy, Augustine, was born in October 2006. Valentina was born in September 2007. They broke in July 2008 , but got married in Valentine’s day 2009.
      We do not know what things have been said between them. I read that the boy sees his father and shares time with his sister and probably his other older siblings.
      What is she going to do, apologize for her life?

  28. xxx says:

    I was married 12.5 years and 11 of them I was very, very happy. I could not understand how others divorced so easily, thinking they gave up too soon or were not devoted enough. Then my own marriage took a sad turn. We did everything to save our relationship including counseling and we just could not keep it together.
    So when people now tell me they are happily married I can’t help but think to myself, “give it another 5-10 years and see where you are then”. I know of one happily married couple now at the 10 + year mark and I am so happy for them wishing I could have been that lucky. Everyone else is unhappy and most cheat. I think now the divorce rate is 55%, again let’s see what happens with the statistics in another 10 -15 years. I thought I had the secret…. love, acceptance, forgiveness. Sadly sometimes people just do grow apart, we live in a different age than our parents or say 100 years ago. I too am pessimistic that anyone can last forever but if I find the right person I am willing to try again. Let’s check on Selma 10 years from now. He husband in my opinion treats his illegitimate child unfairly and it says a lot about who he is as a person. Salma Hayak is beautiful, let’s check in on this again in the future and see is she speaks the same way, her marriage is young. I wish every married couple could stay together happily but the truth is there is no guarantee in life. She has her billionaire meal ticket (in france the woman does not get alimony like americans but the children get money the mother controls) so she has her meal ticket for life. She is not a dumb lady by any means and may just be playing a part to stay very, very rich. Time will tell:) But I wish all couples stay together forever and be happy, the whole fairy tale. It is possible but very, very hard.

  29. skuddles says:

    Well it helps when you just ignore the extramarital affairs…

  30. mek821 says:

    Totally agree with you on how ridiculous her chubby statement was. She’s not even close.

    And LOVE the “haha on Goop”!!

  31. SallyBee says:

    Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought Salma came from oil money- AND, Pinault and Hayek don’t live together- a marriage made in heaven, or hell?!!! Aren’t they living on separate continents?!

  32. Princess Koa says:

    You were right the first time, Salma…THEY ALL ARE MISERABLE!

  33. Genevieve says:

    Love her! She was being honest in that interview, I like that. And I can relate to her on the thinking everyone who is married is miserable. I use to think that….still sometimes do.

  34. anneesezz says:

    So did I until I met the right person – after dating a lot of the WRONG people.