Taylor Swift talks about love: ‘It has to be an us-against- the-world mentality’

Taylor Swift covers the new issue of Rolling Stone. Thoughts on the cover? I don’t mind the bangs here. I don’t mind the letter jacket or the sleepy-crying eyes. I don’t even mind the position of her leg, or the headline “The Heartbreak Kid”. What I mind is the way her hand is positioned between her legs, and the way that you have to do a double-take to make sure that she’s wearing shorts. Because that whole effect is really, really gross.

Anyway, the print issue comes out later this week, and I’m sure it will include some crazy, Swifty things that will make us go “Bunny boiler.” But until then, we just have to work with the few quotes that are being parceled out by RS. Funnily enough, Swifty does talk about Conor Kennedy. And crashing that Kennedy wedding. And how she’s a cougar because she’s dating someone barely legal. Such is the life of Swifty! Some assorted highlights:

Swifty on the idea that she “kidnapped” Conor Kennedy by flying him to Nashville on her private jet: “How did I kidnap him? You can’t kidnap a grown man! These are serious accusations, now!” Laughing, she adds: “It’s an interesting way to spin something into a story. … See, this is why I don’t read stuff.”

The story that she crashed the Kennedy wedding: “I have no idea what happened there. I think that story was based on the biggest misunderstanding, ’cause I would never knowingly show up somewhere that I thought I wasn’t invited to. And I would never want to upstage anybody.”

How she went from dating older dudes to dating an 18-year-old: “I have rules for a lot of areas of my life. Love is not going to be one of them.”

Whether she got the idea to date someone younger from her friend Selena Gomez: “Probably!”

On love: “The way I look at love is you have to follow it, and fall hard, if you fall hard. You have to forget about what everyone else thinks. It has to be an us-against-the-world mentality. You have to make it work by prioritizing it, and by falling in love really fast, without thinking too hard. If I think too hard about a relationship I’ll talk myself out of it…

[From The Mail, HL, People]

Her comments about the Kennedy wedding-crash are very interesting, right? She calls it a “misunderstanding” because she would never “knowingly” show up somewhere she wasn’t invited? “Knowingly” is the operative word. Because even if she didn’t go into that situation “knowingly” trying to “upstage” someone, that’s what happened, and she was told to her face that she causing a scene. But maybe she just deferred to her fall-back position on love: “You have to forget about what everyone else thinks. It has to be an us-against-the-world mentality.” I’m not trying to create a flame-war or anything, but that’s the language that perverts use on Law & Order: SVU. “I don’t care what you think, I fell in love with a 13-year-old. It’s me against the world, and you can’t define your love by society’s rules!” Ugh.

Photos courtesy of Rolling Stone, Fame/Flynet.

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  1. videli says:

    Boring, boring girl. Go to college, or something.

    • Mimi says:

      But think of all the young college boys she could take advantage of. 😉

    • Jay Elle says:

      lollll “or something”… as if college would ever be an idea for this girl.

      I WISH! the planet could use less tarts and more smart young people…

    • Sweet Dee says:

      LOL but she doesn’t “read stuff” you know? Obviously she doesn’t read stuff. Like anything. Not the news or books, no cereal boxes. Not even My Little Pony illustrated hardcovers (with SPARKLES!).

      Also, this love philosophy is working out super well for her, don’t you think?

      • evieS says:

        Ironic that she doesn’t read stuff since she donates so much to literacy programs and schools/libraries.

  2. Brown says:

    I think the cover is fine for Rolling Stone. It sounds to me like there definitely was some sort of altercation at the wedding and this is her way of dancing around it without really denying it.

    • Beatrice Sparkplug says:

      You’re right: it’s not out of context for Rolling Stone. I was just thinking when in the hell did Terry Richardson and Richard Kern, two pervy underground photogs, start getting all the big celeb shoots for magazines?

  3. Sugarrbunny says:

    Because. “Us against the world” always turns out well ( i.e Bonnie & Clyde, Louis & Marie Antoinette) that is a very sophomoric idea of love. She seems like a lovey girl but her actions makes me think she is somehow damaged

    • Annelise says:

      what is the love story of Marie Antoinette and Louis (I’m assuming that’s her husband, the later King of France)? I thought they had an arranged marriage, and grew closer gradually. Also, he was pretty childlike, which influenced the relationship. But I wasn’t aware of their “us-against-the-world” love.

  4. Riana says:

    When I read Taylor Swift quotes I think “That’s a dumb kid.” and oddly enough I don’t mean that in an insulting way.

    I’m in my early 20’s and talking to any other girl on campus sometimes you hear dumb kid quotes. Sometimes people just have this whimsical idea about love and relationships that goes against the common belief sometime. I don’t share them but I kinda envy them for still being able to be so optimistic.

    I feel like/hope in 10 more years she’ll read some of the stuff she said, groan and go “What was I thinking?” But I think she needs a break, no bunnies have been boiled. When they have…then we can crucify her. Also I really didn’t notice anything sexual or off about her hands or shorts, maybe the effect is different in person.

    • Raven says:

      Very smart comment.

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      Agree with your sentiments…ppl need to chill out lol

    • Feisty says:

      I agree, she sounds really naive, especially for someone who has dated so many older guys. I hope that in 10 years she realizes how she sounded.

      I can’t help but contrast her with the Emily Watson quote where she talks about finding out that love doesn’t just “happen” to you, you aren’t a victim of love. Emily is around the same age but has a more realistic view.

      Taylor’s still in the process of growing a brain. Connor is too. Hopefully this will end up a no harm, no foul situation, but I doubt it.

      • LeslieM says:

        I agree. Most 22 year old girls are just getting into the work force, dancing all night with their friends and falling in love or trying to. She is living in a very unique world but is acting like a 22 year old – which she is. I’m sure when she is 35 she’ll look back on her words an realize she was young and immature. She’s not doing drugs, driving drunk, and she is an artist successfully supporting herself.

    • Sugarrbunny says:

      It was an arranged marriage. The play was on “us against the world” comment. Bonnie & Clyde (we’re not lovers) & Louis XVI & Queen ended up in tragic situation caused by their ” us vs them” lifestyle. It was just an analogy if how ridiculous & juvenile her statement was. She just needs to mature a little

  5. Amelia says:

    I disagree about the ‘it’s us against the world’ comment.
    Swifty, you may think the world’s out to get you, but personally I think love is finding the right person to experience the world with. It’s not about shutting yourself out from everyone else and creating some special bunny-boiler environment just for you and your jailbait.
    It may just be me, but I find that comment a bit odd. Sort of, subtly possessive.
    Also, the hair stuck on her lip gloss is *really* irritating.

  6. FreeSpiritedGirl says:

    ‘It has to be an us-against-the-world mentality.’… Oh God… @_@

  7. marie says:

    I find it sad that she considers Connor a grown man. A grown man wouldn’t have pulled a d-ck move and brought his famous girlfriend to a wedding she wasn’t invited to ans asked to stay away from..

    And her views on love will probably be the reason she never stays with anyone for long. It sounds like she wants to be consumed by love and not have to work at it. This is the love theory my aunt lives by, she’s been married over five times..

    • L says:

      I picked up on that to. A high school junior does not equal a grown man.

    • Esmom says:

      When I read that I felt like she chose the words “grown man” deliberately to counter all the “she’s dating a child” handwringing.

      He may be (mostly) physically grown but someone Conor’s age is still just a kid.

  8. littlemissnaughty says:

    This us against the world thing is the mentality of teenage, 14-year-olds-fall-madly-in-love-bs. A coming of age movie. We’ve all been there. But at 14! It’s not cute in a 22-year-old.

  9. Bren says:

    ” You have to make it work by prioritizing it, and by falling in love really fast, without thinking too hard.”

    Maybe that is the problem – if she really put some thought in to it she might make better decisions

    • Elizabeth says:

      +1. Maybe she should be thinking a bit harder about it. Maybe she should put as much effort into choosing her new relationships as she does to planning her concert tours, etc. Being succcessful in stuff requires thinking – is this good for me, is this bad for me, etc. A few years ago, a reporter wrote that Katie Holmes (“happily” married to Tom Cruise at the time) was intelligent but “unreflective”. That sounds like Taylor Swift now.

  10. Mel says:

    I’m beginning to get the impression that she has a touch of The Crazy.

    • Ruyana says:

      ITA. I also get the impression she’s mistaking lust for love. She’s a pretty girl, but I get the “creepy” vibe from her.

  11. Anna says:

    It’s an act, right? Someone that successful can’t be that dumb?

    • T.C. says:

      It’s a complete act. Just like with the phoney songs of heartbreak after dating her “boyfriends” for a few months. Acting like each is the grand love of her life. Saying she falls in love without thinking about it leaves her room to write songs about how she was wronged. The girl is a business, Taylor Swift Inc. making $60 Million a year.

      It was fun reading the part of her dancing around the issue of crashing the wedding using lawyer talk semantics. The girl is shrewd never doubt that.

    • Elizabeth says:

      I kinda hope it’s an act because if it’s not, she has a bad case of the stupids. And if it is an act, then she starts to look like an evil genius. Not really an improvement, IMO.

  12. Talie says:

    You missed the part where she compared the inside of her head to Disney movies. *shakes head* It’s just one horrifying quote after another for a 20-something woman to be saying.

  13. Skins says:

    “Grown Man” Really? A High School Junior? Psycho!

  14. hairball says:

    Who cares. Tired of reading about essentially high school drama. Unless you’re maybe 14 it’s just embarrassing to be reading and makes her think people actually give a f*ck. We don’t.

  15. Mia says:

    Her hand seems far enough from her crotch to make sure you know it’s a hand to me. Don’t read too much into everything lol

    • Esmom says:

      Yeah, it doesn’t bug me either. But I did notice she’s wearing the exact outfit from the photo shoot out on the street, funny. RS styled her and she liked it? Or she wore her own clothes to the shoot?

    • Veronica says:

      @Mia I thought the same thing, there’s nothing wrong with the hand…. chill out Kaiser

  16. Megan says:

    I actually figured that was what happened with the wedding situation…. I felt like he didn’t really tell her the whole story.,.. Guess that is what you should expect from juniors in high school

    • EmmaStoneWannabe says:

      Yeah why did she get all the hate for that? She did not crash – they crashed it together. 18 y.o. boys are not the most communicative. Prob a text from him like,”well my cousin is getting married this wknd..I guess we could go if you want. My fam wont care..”

      • T.C. says:

        She got the hate because the mother of the bride went straight up to her face and asked her to leave. Her Taylor Swift not Connor Kennedy. She ignored the MOD and stayed. Left for dinner since they had no seats but came back to dance. How rude is that? There is no excuse for her behavior she needed to owe it and apologize.

  17. aims says:

    He’s not a grown man!! He a high-school boy, who’s just lost his mother in a tragic way. I think he’s looking for some kind of support and dad’s hanging out with actresses, being a Kennedy. She’s offering the support he needs. That’s a comfort, then she zero’s on him. She’s a like a bird finding prey.

  18. Dani says:

    No one finds it disturbing that she’s wearing a high school football players jacket, that belongs to her HIGH SCHOOL BOYFRIEND, on the cover of ROLLING STONE? NO ONE????

    • Jay Elle says:

      I find it disturbing that she wears it at all to be honest with you. She’s 23, but then I see her wearing it and I think she’s 16. Delayed much?

  19. Jay Elle says:

    1. he’s not a grown man at all, he’s 18, and we all know that 18 year old boys have the mentality of 13 year old boys. FACT;
    2. falling in love really fast? uhh “only fools rush in”. I learned the hard way, she will too;
    3. “without thinking” THAT’S THE PROBLEM. YOU’RE NOT THINKING.

    Her frontal lobe is still developing, thus she still doesn’t have the ADULT capacity of making decisions. She’ll feel like a tool in a few years…. lol

    In the mean time, she’s innocent & not hurting anyone, but she needs to protect herself instead of romanticizing the idea of love. LOVE IS WORK. LOVE IS HARD. Love… can be painful. She’ll learn…

  20. J says:

    She has the maturity of less than an eighteen year old when it comes to relationships, but the branding and business acumen of someone older. She is clearly like Jennifer Lopez: IN LOVE WITH LOVE. I don’t see a problem with her dating an eighteen year old (how many twenty two year old dudes do that? S*** tons!) The problem is that Conor Kennedy is in high school, which is creepy. So creepy.

  21. TheOneAndOnlyOnly says:

    Why in the hell is she on the cover of the RS – remember folks this is the mag that once had the likes of Jimi, Janis, Bob Dylan and John Lennon on – oh, right she has another piece of crap coming out soon – if the RS were true to it’s leftish past it would say No we’re not going to help market a manufactured vapid pop star’s music – But Nooooo they have to try and sell like everyone else. The amount of attention that is paid to this little girl and her silly music is out of all proportion to it’s true value – but what a marketing team she has.
    Yes, dani, who out of high school wears their high school jacket – immature and pathetic.
    Good point T.C. about the wedding her handlers have coached her well.

    • Laura says:

      Rolling Stone…Britney Spears, Rihanna, Katy Perry, Christina Aguilera, The Biebs…It’s well established that RS likes pop stars, especially if they’re half naked.

  22. dooliloo says:

    Oh Swifty it’s definitely US the world AGAINST you and your mentality!

  23. Down and Out says:

    “You can’t kidnap a grown man…” Actually, Taylor, I think you’ll find that kidnapping isn’t an age-specific crime. I think the word you were looking for was “abduct”. But good hustle.

  24. dcypher1 says:

    That quote is very pedo like creppy swifty needs to grow up and not be so needy.

  25. LadyBird83 says:

    Only someone REALLY immature thinks “it’s us against the world”