Is Harry Styles way more mature & diplomatic than Taylor Swift?

It’s been about six weeks since Harry Styles and Taylor Swift broke up when they were on holiday for New Year’s. There were mixed reports about what went down, so let me just tell you what I think happened (gathered from my years as a professional gossip): Harry and Swifty were on vacation, and Harry wasn’t spending enough time paying attention to Swifty (maybe he was drinking, maybe he was flirting with other girls, something like that). Swifty freaked out and threw a hissy fit, and Harry kind of freaked out by how she can run hot and cold so quickly. She gave him some kind of too-serious ultimatum about their relationship (“Pay attention to me or we’re over!!”) and he didn’t give in, effectively calling her bluff. Swifty left in a huff and flew home, confident that he would come crawling back to her. He didn’t. So Swifty switched tactics, alternating between playing the confident dumper all while privately begging Harry to take her back, even flying to England to stalk him for a few days. He still wouldn’t budge.

And so it’s been a holding pattern like that for weeks – Harry is acting like he’s totally over Swifty, and she acts like she’s dedicating her next album to their torrid and tragic romance. He’s been seen out with various girls and Swifty continues to play the brave, innocent, wronged woman… only people are wise to her act at this point, so it’s kind of failing. Hard. And this new development won’t make things any better for her – Harry Styles has taken the high road, and it’s magnificent.

Unlike Taylor Swift, Harry Styles isn’t trying to publicly embarrass his ex. While promoting One Direction’s No. 1 charity single, “One Way or Another,” during a radio interview with London’s Capital FM Feb. 17, the pop star spoke about what life has been like since his January breakup with the country superstar.

“I’m okay, thank you for asking,” Styles said when asked about his split with Swift, 23. “I’m good.”

The 18-year-old then discussed how he felt about Swift’s dig at him during the 55th Annual Grammy Awards; the country singer used a British accent during her performance of “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.”

“She’s a great performer and she always performs great,” Styles said diplomatically. “She’s always good on the stage. She’s been doing it a long time. She knows what she’s doing on stage. It was just another good Taylor Swift performance. It was good.”

Styles added that he doesn’t mind the extra attention surrounding their breakup. “I understand why people would wanna know stuff like that, I get it. If someone does stuff like that then I wanna know about it, too,” he said. “I guess it just kind of. . . It is what it is, I guess.”

The boy band member doesn’t seem too heartbroken. Styles and his pal Jonathan Harvey spent Valentine’s Day partying with co-eds at Leeds University, a source tells Us Weekly. “They just had fun, drinking and chatting,” the source says.

“It was pretty much all girls there, about 10 to every guy, so Harry was in his element. He’s a flirt and so you could tell he was enjoying all the girls coming up to him and wanting to talk,” the source continues. “But he didn’t give our his number or try and hook up with anyone. It was all innocent.”

After partying on campus, Styles and Harvey went to Mezz club, a popular student hangout. “Harry took over the VIP area,” a local tells Us. “Somehow before he got there, half of Leeds already knew so the club was rammed and people were all trying to swarm the VIP area. But Harry was cool about it. If anyone got to him, he happily posed for photos and signed things.”

Swift, meanwhile, had more modest Valentine’s Day plans. “I’m probably going to be with my friends or rehearsing,” she told KIIS-FM’s Ryan Seacrest in early February. “And I don’t think I’d rather be anywhere else, to be honest.”

[From Us Weekly]

So, while Harry isn’t the most eloquent or verbose young man, he certainly knows HOW to play this breakup, doesn’t he? He doesn’t say one bad word against her, he even compliments her performance (a performance widely seen as mocking him and their breakup) and he even acknowledges and accepts the interest people have in knowing the details of their split. I think he played this brilliantly. Much better than Swifty, honestly. TEAM STYLES!!

Two more things: one, the pics of Swifty are from last week, when she was filming a new music video and some say that green beanie is significant because Harry always wears a green beanie. Secondly, Buzzfeed had an interesting article called “Does Taylor Swift Hate Other Women?” It’s worth a read.

Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.

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  1. allons-y alonso says:

    A baby is more mature than Taylor Swift

    • aims says:

      Right! She’s mental. Any guy that decides to take that on is as crazy as she is. Grow up Taylor, you’re whole vibe is exhausting and get help. You are obsessive.

  2. marie says:

    if it were anyone else I’d say that the beanie means nothing but it’s Swifty so I’m sure somehow in her video it will be a dig at the kid. and after reading Buzzfeed I’m guessing that since I’m a brunette, Swifty and I will never be friends? well, that’s the best news I’ve heard all day..

  3. Eve says:

    “Is Harry Styles way more mature & diplomatic than Taylor Swift?”

    Every single one of Swift’s former boyfriends seems to be more mature and diplomatic than her, even — and I cannot believe I’m about to say this — John Mayer.

    • Liv says:

      Eh, not so sure about Mayer ;-)

      But what I keep thinking – how can she be friends with Emma Stone??!

      • stellalovejoydiver says:

        Prob because both of their images are fake and contrived, in reality they are a lot more alike, both of them strike me as cold and famehungry.

      • HotPockets says:

        I don’t get it, half these guys, including Mayer really were never her boyfriends..they just poked her a couple times. Huge difference.

      • Liv says:

        Noooo! Love Emma Stone! But if you’re right Swift should hire Emma’s PR team ;-)

      • stellalovejoydiver says:

        Liv: I am not a fan of Emma, she is the least insufferable of the new starlets, but when she says she never wanted to be famous, but she dropped out of high school to make it in Hollyweird, never had proper training, mainly stars in mainstream movies and tries to establish hersef as a fashion girl, I think she is very calculated like Swifty IMO.

        hotpocket: I wouldn´t mind her dating and having fun, but dating famous guys only to sell it as the biggest romance, then getting dumped and bash them in a song because it will gather more interest than sth written about an unknown is really calculated, plus her pr is trying to spin as she doesn´t give it up and therefore gets dumped, haha.

      • ViktoryGin says:

        @ HotPocket

        Then someone needs to tell Taylor Swift that.

    • L says:

      I’d *shudder* agree about Mayer. I think he was pissed about the ‘dear john’ song and still didn’t say anything about her.

      Heck, even the high school junior is coming off as more mature than her.

  4. Megan says:

    without even reading the article I can answer the headline question with a resounding YES!! But then again a toddler is more mature and diplomatic then Taylor Swift.

  5. Lil says:

    There’s something about Ms Swift that I don’t like. There’s a nasty hardness to her eyes that quite belies the ‘brave, innocent me’ routine that she does.

  6. dcypher1 says:

    she needs to start sing about something else cause all her songs sound the same. get over it swifty. find a new topic to sing about. im sick of hearing about your two month long relationship that didnt last.

  7. Leen says:

    For shame this man-child has crashed my uni! Oh Leeds, never change.

  8. Harry seems to be the one who is mature here. I’m not a 1D fan, but I would like to pat his back after reading that interview. :-)
    As for Swifty… I’m disappointed. Been a fan of her from the time she came into the limelight. Sigh… I’ve had enough of her break-up songs, accusing her exes. I’ve seen some pics from the shoot of her new song, all dressed up as Harry… Then her performance in British accent making fun of Harry. UUUGGGH! ENOUGH, TAYLOR, ENOUGH!

  9. GoodCapon says:

    Is Harry the lead male singer of the band? I really don’t pay much attention to them, and I really don’t know anyone else aside from him.

    • Tessa says:

      I think (I’m not a fan, I’m 28 years old, but I can’t help but be bombarded by them on almost every site I go to) that the one that shaves his head Liam is the lead, or sings the most leads.

      • GoodCapon says:

        Thanks Tessa.

        I only always hear about Harry (because of Taylor maybe?) so I assumed he was the most popular one/lead male voice.

  10. emmie_a says:

    I’m always Team Harry! He seems so down-to-earth and happy and fun… the exact opposite of Taylor. Glad their (fake) romance is over.

  11. Nanz says:

    That Buzzfeed article is great. Thanks for the link. As for Harry Styles, good for him for taking the high road.

    • Sweet Dee says:


      The Buzzfeed article was very good, a very quick read. I find myself liking this Styles kid, even if I wouldn’t listen to his music. I like his attitude. THAT is how you put a psycho over the edge. If she ever finds him and flips out on him, he should laugh and walk away.

  12. Hoya_chick says:

    Lol, I don’t get why people like her music. Her voice is terrible, her songs are terrible and she has no stage presence. Glad he took the high road, something I am sure never even occurred to her.

  13. Mrs. Darcy says:

    Harry has dated rather a lot of “cougars” pre-Swift, I wouldn’t be surprised in the slightest if he is more mature than she despite her being older.

  14. Jano1981 says:

    She is so lame. My 60 year old mom just asked why she acts so stupid and my almost 10 year old thinks her new album sucks. I can only hope that means people from both ends of the age spectrum have had enough of her and she is becoming less popular. Fingers crossed.

  15. serena says:

    This totally shows how immature and stupid she is, Team Styles too -while I honestly didn’t care for him before-

  16. I Choose Me says:

    It was just another good Taylor Swift performance. It was good.

    Would have loved to have heard his tone of voice when he made that remark. :)

    And yeah, Swifty’s whole life seems to be a series of performances.

    • stellalovejoydiver says:

      It´s not like he is Alex Turner, he is a member of a shitty boyband, not even a good one like BSB or NSYNC*, their songs are on the same level as Swifty´s, so when it comes to the quality of perfomances or songs he is not in the position to judge.

      • Sweet Dee says:

        I believe the poster was referring more to her off-stage performances, most likely in the context of their little romance. The joke was that she’s good at performing in real life. You missed the subtlety of it.

        FWIW, calling BSB and NSync “good” is a questionable reference point at best.

      • stellalovejoydiver says:

        Sweet Dee in the first part I choose me was referring to her Grammy performance and I commented on that. I got the dig at her love life.

        And yes when it comes to pop music, specifically boybands IMO NSYNC* and BSB were superior to 1D.
        You don´t have to be condescending.

      • Chibby says:

        Despite the fact, Stella, at least he seems to acknowledge the fact that One Direction is just a flash-in-the-pan pop act. He’s even got one of those
        clothes hanger tattoos like models usually get. (I only know because my daughter’s completely obsessed, don’t judge me.)

      • I Choose Me says:

        Oh I don’t give a sh*t about One Direction. I can honestly say I’ve never heard a single one of their songs so I’m not in a position to judge how bad or awful they are.

        But you’re right, I didn’t think much of her Grammy performance and I just plain dislike her. I give her props for knowing how to market herself and that’s it.

  17. Kizzy says:

    That Harry Styles kid’s a cutie! He will be even better looking in a few years. He has a sort of Michael Hutchence, young Mick Jagger, Morrison appeal – his looks I mean.

    • TheOneAndOnlyOnly says:

      Kizzy like your references but harry isn’t close to Michael hutchence sex on legs; go on youtube type in INXS wembley 1991 and watch their performances, especially of New Sensation, that’s the way live music should be 70,000 screaming fans, no I PHones no stage gimmicks, and a great band at the top of it’s game, English fans were the best and I doubt you’ll find anything like that today. Ask yourself whether tay tay could do that for 3 hours.

      • Kizzy says:

        You know what Oneandonly? I’m woman enough to admit when I’m wrong. You are right. I still think Harry will be a sexy man. He has rockstar appeal. But no one can touch Michael in the sexy department. I’m still in love with the man and he died so long ago. Need you tonight is my favorite music vid of Inxs. It encapsulates all things that made Michael sexy (to me). In the New Sensation video, he looks like a sexy vampire with a ribbon thingy in his hair (!!! …so strange, sooo hottt!!!). Singing live he didn’t have to try too hard, his voice was effortless. One of the best male voices I think. I can go on about Michael but I will stop now. My fascination is starting to look weird I fear. But yes, sex on legs. :)

  18. bopit says:

    sweet Lawd. How is it possible that record after record comes out with the same type of song, the same type of video and “woe is me, he broke my heart” schtick, and fans STILL eat up record sales and she goes to #1?! HOW?! why do they support and encourage this gimmick? furthermore, how are they not TIRED of it?

  19. bangarang says:

    I’m no sure if the whole doe eyed innocence of her is an act or not

  20. Ann says:

    Of course he’s more mature than Taylor Swift. The child I’m gestating is more mature than her.

  21. anonymous fan says:

    Am I the only one that thinks that she ONLY dated this guy for material.I mean the “getting dumped by another celebrity after 2 months” angle has been her bread and butter since she got dumped by Nick Jonas.I think she set this guy up and never really liked this 18 year old boy.He isn’t even what she said was her type.And she IS making fun of him in that video if you listen to the lyrics.I think she purposely picked a fight so she could end it in time to film the video for that song.It just seems manipulative more than immature.

    • stellalovejoydiver says:

      No you are not the only who thinks this, this is her MO, date a famous guy, who appeals to the teen demographic for a couple of weeks, get dumped, then exploit their “relationship” in a song about how much they wronged her and leaving stupid hints so everyone can guess it is them.

    • lady mary. says:

      well yeah ofc material but i guess swifty and her team were tryin to nab his young fan base,she reminds me of this cold attention whore i had in school,who would do jut abt everythin to get what she wanted and when she didnt she would run amock defaming others ,blaming others for her own folly

  22. erika says:

    good lord swifty……her life is straight outta the pages of my jr high journals….”i’m so in love with______” “______ didn’t smile at me today, I’m so bummed…” “Forget_________ I’m onto a new man_______________!!! He said ‘excuse me’ when we bumped into each other in the hall and he SMILED at ME!!!!”

    grow up t swift, GROW UP. you’re acting like a hormonal teenager next thing wek now you’ll be down on the carpet rolling around screaming “PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!”

  23. HotPockets says:

    “If you won’t get back together with me then I am dedicating my entire, next album to you, so there!” (signed in glitter) -Taytay Swifty

  24. Mew says:

    Taylor Swift is absolutely tasteless. She’s mass dating people only to smear them few months later. If that was a man, feminists would’ve already cut him.

  25. Jade says:

    She’s a bad example on how to act for her fans what are actually around her mental age.
    As much as she wants to write songs saying how she was wronged or whatever you’ve got to wonder, she’s the one who’s had a dozen boyfriends and all of then have not ended well, has she not though, maybe she’s the common problem and it’s not that she happens to pick bad guys who all go on to find great partners and problem free relationships??
    Also, who do guys keep going out with her, they all know they’re going to have a song written about them right? And it’s not going to be nice. I’d avoid that personally.

  26. Incredulous says:

    Toxic Swift, more like. Ugh, what a two-year-old.

  27. TheOneAndOnlyOnly says:

    How is this news, lil, i would add the smugness, given how mediocre she is, except to tone deaf 10 yr olds, is off putting, and bopit, you hit it right, she is a gimmick, but she has massive corporate support and media arse kissing, i know a person that knows a person in the sound engineer business that has actually worked with her and confirms her live unaltered voice is bad, bad taste endless marketing and hype rule the pop world – try the Alabama shakes and esperanza spalding for actual music.

  28. Quinn says:

    Being friends with Taylor Swift must be…tedious.

  29. Luxe says:

    She is just as bad as Kim K. I will admit I have some of her music bc it’s brainless and decent enough for the gym or a makeup job. I would never pay money to hear her live. Her voice does suck.

    That said, she needs to grow up! I think it’s both a schtick and her actual personality. None of her so-called boyfriends are non-celebs so it just solidifies that she dates guys she can make money off of. It’s good to see her pedestal in trouble bc it’s such a sham.

  30. soda says:

    I cant understand why all the kids are lusting after harry. Zayn is the good looking one in that band.

  31. HannahF says:

    Interesting. Not a single pro Swifty comment.

  32. Missy says:

    Two words people, Larry Stylinson. Go to Tumblr and learn up please.

    The relationship between Taylor and Harry was a complete media game to generate more interest in both of them and to hide Harry’s real relationship with his bandmate.

    • Chibby says:

      As a psychologist, I’d say that Louis is not homosexual, nor is he hiding it for publicity. Styles, on the other hand, is either bisexual or his mother just raised him well. Whatever ‘proof’ you girls made up isn’t serious, I’d hope.
      (This is good proof that I need to stop listening to my kid blabber on about them, Jesus, Mary, and Josef Stalin.)

  33. KellyinSeattle says:

    I keep asking it, but has anyone seen Taylor even crack a smile or laugh really hard? She takes herself sooooooooooo seriously.

  34. WALT NYC says:

    Not only is Harry more mature and diplomatic, he is far more attractive. Seriously, what a little cutie.

  35. dorothy says:

    Everyone is more mature than Tayor Swift.

  36. dan says:

    harry sucks

  37. Anna says:

    Google Larry Stylinson. YOu will get a SLEW of videos showing Harry’s relationship with Louis. They are adorable together.

    Wake up people!!

  38. emma says:

    is this it for Taylor Swift?
    probably not, although I think more and more people are liking her less and less.

  39. Bran says:

    Harry is a sweet guy. He didn’t deserve to get treated the way Taylor treated him. Taylor Swift is poison. She needs to grow up.

  40. Holdin27 says:

    It would be extremely difficult to be less mature than Taylor Swift. She is, like, never ever getting back together with him. TS and Adele are the same age, one’s a mom and one acts like a child.