Charles Saatchi won’t leave Nigella Lawson alone, threatens suicide

Nigella Lawson

Just like you, I thought all of the drama between Charles Saatchi and Nigella Lawson was over when the couple was granted a quickie divorce on July 31. They had a 70-second hearing during which neither party made a financial claim against the other. Of course, Charles probably still has an axe to grind given his complaint that he was divorcing Nigella because she didn’t defend him from public outrage. He called his abuse a “playful tiff” as if choking her was the most normal thing in the world.

That now-famous incident took place in early June on the patio of Nigella and Charles’ favorite restaurant, Scott’s (in the Mayfair district of London), so one would think that neither party would be willing to revisit the scene of the crime ever again. Yet here is crazy-ass Saatchi dining alone at his favorite table (yes, that one) at Scott’s just last month — as if he’s trying to keep the memory alive. Now the Mail reports that he’s continuing to harass Nigella by phone and text message while even threatening to commit suicide if she does not call off the divorce and return to him. Seriously:

Charles Saatchi

Charles Saatchi threatened to commit suicide in a bid to win back Nigella Lawson after the first stages of their divorce, The Mail on Sunday can reveal.

In a series of text messages and phone calls, the multi-millionaire art collector warned he would take his own life and begged his wife to contact him. The ‘harassing’ messages show the depths of despair – some friends say madness – into which Mr Saatchi has sunk.

The Mail on Sunday can also reveal that he has accused Nigella of potentially criminal behaviour and allowed his young daughter to make statements alleging illegality by her stepmother. Nigella has not seen her estranged husband since photographs of him grasping her by the throat were published in a Sunday newspaper eight weeks ago. She has also refused to answer any of the messages he has been leaving on a daily basis.

However, the television presenter finally relented after Mr Saatchi, 70, said he would kill himself. Such was his despair, his 18-year-old daughter Phoebe also texted her former stepmother to say she was worried about her father’s state of mind.

Friends revealed details of his desperate behaviour after being “appalled” that he allowed his daughter to attack Nigella by claiming her stepmother had abandoned her. The couple spoke twice on the phone in the days after their decree nisi was granted on July 31. It is understood that the threats of suicide were made in at least one “ranting” phone call.

According to a friend of the television presenter, she felt she was left with little choice but to contact him. The friend said: “Charles has been texting and phoning Nigella endlessly. One minute he’s pleading, the next bullying. Her silence has been driving him crazy. When she didn’t reply, he used Phoebe to get Nigella to talk to him, to tell her she was worried about his state of mind.

“He’s not above using Phoebe as a bargaining chip. In the end, after the threats, Nigella called him. The first conversation was quite sweet. It was a case of, ‘please come back.’ Nigella was sympathetic. She was going out somewhere and said I hope you don’t [do anything silly]. The second conversation was more difficult but she held firm.”

Last night a friend of Mr Saatchi confirmed that he had contemplated suicide in recent weeks as he struggled to come to terms with losing his wife and his reputation. It is said that one of the hardest things for him has been Nigella’s refusal to defend him against allegations of being a wife-beater – allegations Mr Saatchi insists they both know aren’t true.

The friend said: “Yes, he agrees he felt low and suicidal but he couldn’t leave Phoebe. He has been very up and down. He was just wanting some form of contact. He is feeling very betrayed by Nigella’s lack of support and the fact she hasn’t stood by him or stood up for him in public. How difficult would it have been to issue a statement? Charles was brought to the brink of suicidal feelings and they did have a couple of conversations but Charles says they didn’t come to any understanding.”

The suicide threats come amid deepening concerns for the former advertising tycoon who has been acting increasingly strangely of late. Yesterday he allowed his teenage daughter to issue a statement to a newspaper denouncing Nigella. Phoebe, his daughter by his second wife Kay Hartenstein, accused her stepmother of abandoning her and said: “She has behaved in a very cold-hearted way.”

The Mail on Sunday can reveal that Phoebe had also been prepared, last month, to accuse her stepmother of behaviour that was potentially illegal. With the full knowledge of her father, she gave a statement to this newspaper containing a number of criminal allegations that could not be substantiated. The claims highlighted the depths of bitterness now engulfing the family.

The Mail on Sunday took the decision not to report the claims. Friends of Nigella’s are furious that Mr Saatchi should allow his daughter to enter the public fray.

[From Daily Mail]

This is such a load of crap on Saatchi’s behalf. Look, I’m not trying to discount suicidal intentions at all, but doesn’t it seem like Saatchi is merely trying to blackmail Nigella into taking him back? Like, “If you don’t agree to drop the divorce, I’ll off myself, and it will be all your fault.” That’s a d-ck move. Nigella seems to have surrounded herself with a great support network who have helped her through the divorce process, and she just needs to stay strong and not give end up back at square one with Saatchi’s hands around her throat.

Here’s Saatchi once again outside Scott’s restaurant after all the shiz with Nigella went down. He’s so friggin creepy.

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Charles Saatchi

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  1. QQ says:


    • Meredith says:

      This is typical abuser behaviour. It always has to be all about them. They gravitate towards self-pity like a crack addict. He won’t kill himself, it’s all just a move to get attention and pity. Drop kick the a**hole narcissist.

      • Viola says:

        The suicide threats are manipulative but dragging his daughter into this takes the cake. Its so clearly intended to guilt Nigella and weasle his way back.

      • Florc says:

        Glad everyone here is right on the money with this horrible man. This is a power play. It’s text book abuser.

      • Jany says:

        He’s indeed a textbook narcissist. It’s a legit personality disorder and those who ‘suffer’ from it will never change. And if you marry one, good luck. I’m glad that Nigella got out while she could.

      • mynameisstolen says:

        Yeah. I was married to a “Charles Saatchi”. I am so thankful we are divorced. My life improved 1000-fold.

      • danielle says:

        VERY typical abuser behavior. Wondered about the quicky divorce – thought to myself “no abuser lets his victim go that quickly without a fight”. Threatening suicide when nothing else works is pretty typical. I used to work at a domestic violence shelter.

      • Trashaddict says:

        Actually I would say he’s got borderline personality disorder.

    • CTgirl says:

      Absolutely. The only way to deal with someone willing to engage in this kind of emotional blackmail to to tell them “OK” when they make the threat.

    • BooBooLaRue says:

      LOL. The creep runs deep with this fellow.

  2. LAK says:

    Given what’s coming out in the British media, even if a tenth of it is true, he is a right tit and she’s better off without him.

    While we are here, I really, REALLY hate people who threaten suicide if they don’t get their way.

    Let him, I say.

    • JenD says:

      I’m not sure what a right tit is supposed to mean, but it still cracked me up.

      • Harriet says:

        It’s a pretty effective form of abuse delivered cuttingly in an English accent! Lol! However, moreover I agree with LAK in that I hate people who threaten suicide too. I have seen something similar firsthand and it makes me furious! Selfish and dramatic behaviour.

  3. Eleonor says:

    This man comes out from an Abuser Textbook!
    My sister abuser exhusband used to do things like this: endless phonecalls to sis, or to ME (when she wasn’t answering his phonecalls), to explain how he couldn’t live without her, how his life was meaningless, and how he was going to kill himself etc.etc…

    • Elizabeth says:

      Seriously. When I was in an abusive relationship any “misstep” on my part ended up with him threatening suicide or half heartedly attempting (read: taking 10 lexapro even though it just makes you throw up). Hopefully she’s not getting caught in the cycle – early on in that relationship I was so stressed and worried he would actually do it. Then I realised it was him being a controlling, manipulative jerk.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Exactly. He is a classic abuser and manipulator. I hope she stays strong.

    • gg says:

      Yep, typical control move. He’s furious that his bullying tactics haven’t worked so he steps up his control game.

    • Layale says:

      Yep. Textbook. And many here predicted this from him. I also hope she stays strong.

  4. Sixer says:

    John Diamond will be turning in his grave.

    • LAK says:

      Spinning at this point!!

    • Sixer says:

      He always wrote about how lucky he felt to have married Nigella. I always thought how lucky she was to have married him. Lovely man. Couldn’t have been more different to this horrid, horrid Saatchi.

      • EscapedConvent says:

        Yes, they seemed to appreciate each other in the most lovely way. They look happy in their photos.

    • UsedToBeLulu says:

      Perhaps it is his memory and what they had together that is keeping her strong and grounded during Satchi’s manipulative gyrations.

  5. Belle Epoch says:

    Wow he looks evil! She still looks crushed.

  6. DailyNightly says:

    She’s out of her mind if she takes him back. It will just get worse.

    • fingerbinger says:

      I have a strange feeling that after all the bad publicity goes away, some time in the future they’ll get back together.The breakup was so abrupt there might be this feeling of unfinished business. I hope I’m wrong.

    • dena says:

      I too have often wondered if the press “forced” her to break-up with him or if she was like “Thank you, Jesus, I can leave this fool without impunity,” as she frantically ran through the house, chatting “Take what you can carry. Take what you can carry.”

      • madchen says:

        It’s also possible that his choking her in public was the straw that broke. At least I hope it was. He’s a nutter.

  7. brin says:

    Creepy and crazy…don’t go back to him, Nigella.

  8. cloud&feather says:

    Pretty sure that’s one of the classic moves an abuser would make in their bag of tricks to keep a person with them. “I can’t live without you, if you leave, I’ll kill myself!”

    The next time he threatens it (because you don’t want to ignore it) she should call the police and tell them about it and they’ll go to his house because suicide hotlines will just tell you to call 911 (or your country’s equivalent) anyway.

    Maybe then he’ll be finally be embarrassed enough to grow up.

    • Elizabeth says:

      That’s what I ended up doing once. Called the police on my abusive boyfriend for one of his many suicide threats and he left me alone for quite a while after that. It works!

    • Azurea says:

      Yeah, my ex-boyfriend’s abusive son used to pull the suicide threat out a lot; even after he choked my boyfriend & knocked him down a couple of different times, boyfriend still wouldn’t call the police or 911 over the suicide threats/assault. Nor would he kick the a**hole out of his house. Hence the “ex.” People have to stand up to those who abuse/manipulate/threaten.

  9. LadyLupton says:

    How childish to threaten suicide to try and win someone back. Glad she’s sticking to her guns. An ex-boyfriend threatened suicide after we broke up and it’s a horrible position to put someone in but it did help me realise I’d made the right decision in the first place.

  10. blue marie says:

    definite d-ck move, but would anyone expect anything less? this is just a move to try to regain some of the control he had over her.. douchebag

  11. paranormalgirl says:

    HE files for divorce and then begs her to come back? Yeah, OK. Loser.

    • wonderwoman21 says:

      This is exactly what these abusers do; they leave you to hurt you and make you feel rejected and worthless. Then they come prancing back in expecting you to be grateful and to grovel, if you dont they jump to abusive tactics to manipulate your feelings. It’s all about their power over the victim.

    • gefeylich says:

      I don’t think people should discount how annoyed Saatchi must be over his loss of “face” after this mess. Nearly everyone sided with Nigella (only people in his employ defended him, and apparently he was able to manipulate his daughter into doing so too) and called him out on his classic abuser moves.

      I’m sure that rankles. Getting her back would help him “repair” his tattered image. Hope to God Lawson doesn’t fall for the manipulations.

  12. Lucy2 says:

    He’s not sad he lost his wife- he’s mad she had the guts to leave, and that the public turned even more against him after his disaster of a statement.
    The stuff about him expecting her to defend him is insane. What a manipulator, and I feel badly for his daughter.

  13. Carolyn says:

    Creep. Nigella and the children are better off without him. Sounds like Phoebe would be better out of his life too.

    He can rot by himself.

  14. LahdidahBaby says:

    He looks like the troll under the bridge. Without the bridge.

  15. Nev says:

    Classic passive aggressive behaviour. Ugh.

  16. Putchka says:

    Suicide? Bye, a-hole

  17. Nibbi says:

    soooo manipulative of him. if he’s really having emotional problems on that level, i hope he’d get qualified professional help, and leave her out of it.

  18. Layale says:

    Wow. Getting his daughter involved…calling Nigella “cold hearted”….accusing Nigella of illegal stuff…lower than low. Please, Nigella–do not go back!

  19. OriginallyBlue says:

    Ughhh, what a horrible excuse for a human being. I feel sorry for his daughter as well. Poor thing is being dragged through this mess. I wonder what he threatened her with to get her to say those things.

    • gefeylich says:

      He probably told her he would cut her off without a cent if she didn’t throw stones at Lawson. What a dick.

  20. Virgilia Coriolanus says:

    Ugh, let him Nigella. Call his bluff.

    You’d think a nasty old fart like him would be glad that he not only has a hot, younger wife who is completely devoted to him, but one that can also cook.

    He’s an ass.

  21. Jenn says:

    You know, I get the feeling that this may have been a blessing in disguise.

    The pictures being so public meant really that Nigella had no choice but to leave and maybe in the past she felt she couldn’t (if his current behaviour is anything to go by, he may have guilted Nigella into staying – and also used his daughter).

    Now she can break away and not turn back, something that she may have tried to do but didn’t succeed with or something she has been planning to do but didn’t know how.

    Thankfully she is now out of the relationship and hopefully there is no turning back.

    • ParisPucker says:

      yes, exactly this! Totally agree… sometimes, things happen for a reason and it looks like this time, this is particularly true..

  22. EscapedConvent says:

    I am surprised but glad that Nigella is sticking to her guns & not going back to him. I thought that she might.

    And what “criminal behavior” has she done? Taken away his Marmite?

  23. Maritza says:

    Nigella needs to watch her back, a manipulative guy like that could probably pay a hit man to get rid of her once she decides to start dating. “You in danger girl”

    • L says:

      Exactly. I’d think she needs to get someone to watch the kids as well.

      Classic abusers like this once they start making these kinds of threats, will soon lash out at the kids/spouse. It’s what they are used to and what they expect will work to ‘get that person back in line’

      He’s disgusting.

  24. Mew says:

    Oh wow what a dhead.. emotional blackmailing is really an adult way of dealing with things. If he commits suicide, it’s his own decision and nobody else’s fault, only his.

    Hold on tight to yourself Nigella and keep on walking, don’t look back. You’re so much better off without abusive ahole like this.

  25. Mon says:

    More reasons to stay away from him!
    What a pathetic loser. Even if he does feel suicidal (and having experienced a similar relationship in the past, I don’t believe that for a bit), he brought it all on himself and should seek therapy instead of blaming her. How dares he?! hope she doesn’t fall for this. And to brainwash his daughter into thinking it was all Nigella’s fault and then using her to get back at Nigella is just discussing. She has made the right decision leaving him and should stay away as far as she can!

  26. Jane says:

    I feel so terribly bad for her. She must be in agony right now dealing with this lunatic. I do hope for her sake as well as her children that she gets protection. This man is up to no good. I would hate for this issue to go any further!

  27. The Original Mia says:

    He’s too much in love with himself to commit suicide. She’s definitely better off without him.

  28. Mrs.Darcy says:

    Classic abuser/control freak behavior, I really hope she doesn’t fall for it. When I was very young I dated a guy who I realized after not very long was a control freak/weirdo. He got too serious way too quickly and just too posessive all around. Sometimes you just get a bad feeling, and even though he was hot and we had great chemistry, I broke it off. When I broke up with him he threatened suicide, bombarding me with phone calls, turning up at my house. When I ignored this behavior he moved on to stalking and threatening to kill me. I called the police(NYPD,natch) and that put an end to it. I am so thankful I had friends around to support me and that I was strong enough to not be intimidated into giving him what he wanted, attention. I think the Nigella/Saatchi situation is a strong message/example that this kind of thing can happen to anyone. He is a powerful man who probably always gets what he wants, his behaviour here is so telling of his true nature, I hope she doesn’t fall for any of it because the fact she was with him for so long does scare me as this clearly isn’t a one time thing.

  29. Londerland says:

    Ugh, way to prove the allegations are untrue, Charles – because nothing says “I’m not abusive” like constant harassment by phone, and blackmailing your ex with suicide. Like that’s not a form of abuse too?

    I’m not in the least bit surprised he’d stoop to this, though. If he regards choking (or even pretending to choke) his sobbing wife as “playful” then how would he recognise that the rest of his behaviour is abusive? The methods vary but the message is always the same: do as I say, or else.

  30. Sarah says:

    The suicide threats are more than a d— move, it’s part of the cycle of abuse. It is manipulative and abusive to threaten one’s life to get the affections of the other person. I know. It’s been 15 years and a lifetime ago but I dealt with a boyfriend like saatchi. What a worthless human being (I use that term loosely for both my ex and saatchi).

  31. Suzy from Ontario says:

    I can’t believe what a narcisstic, maniuplative d**k this guy is. She’s well rid of him. I’m surprised his daughter, who is old enough to see the reality of the situation, is taking his side.

    • gefeylich says:

      The daughter may be courting his approval (Nigella may not be the only one he’s abused) and/or is in fear of losing her fortune. Douchebags like Saatchi think nothing of threatening family members with all sorts of emotional blackmail.

  32. mojoman says:

    poor Nigella, the stress and the harassments she endures must have taken a toll. She looks so haggard and dreary, I notice she lost so much hair (top pic) it must be soo awful to have a scumb*g of an ex stalking you like this!

  33. Ag says:

    Classic abuser behavior.

  34. AnnE says:

    I’m not sure why but I get the sense that if she ever went back to him or allowed herself to be alone he would end up killing her. I hope he is never allowed to be alone with their kids.

    • Tiamet says:

      They haven’t got any kids together. Nigella has two with her late first husband, while he has a daughter with his previous wife.

      By the way, as far as I know, Phoebe’s mother got at least joint custody, so her whole ‘Nigella’s been like a mother to me’ may well come as a surprise to her actual mother.

      Nigella’s children would have far more grounds for saying Saatchi had been like a father to them since their own father is deceased, but since he apparently never liked them and insisted they be kept to other parts of the homes he shared with Nigella, it doesn’t surprise me that they aren’t saying anything of the sort.

      I think Saatchi is one of those men who think that if they aren’t actually closed fist punching a woman or kicking her in the ribs, they aren’t abusive. Grabbing and pushing and emotional abuse don’t count in their minds. Of course, the rest of the world don’t see things the same way, but it explains why Saatchi is so indignant that Nigella hasn’t defended him. In his mind, he isn’t abusive and she should therefore say so. In her mind and in the minds of her supporters, he definitely is abusive.

  35. Evyn says:

    Is assisted suicide legal in England?

  36. Jennifer12 says:

    It’s emotional manipulation and he is NOT going to kill himself. I hope Nigella doesn’t fall for it.

  37. Harriet says:

    No it’s not. There has been debate over it but it’s currently not legal.

  38. Meanchick says:

    My ex pulled that crap on me. I saved the text message and got a restraining order. It’s a power move, it’s the ‘go to’ for abusers. Sympathy and then bullying, then threats to reveal ‘secrets’ and then back to sympathy. Sick cycle.

  39. Jane Q. Doe says:

    If he’s constantly calling, threatening, etc. she needs to file for a restraining order / injunction of protection. Y’all are right, he’s a classic abuser with loads of $$, & what he’s doing is certainly stalking.

  40. DeepFriedLies says:

    Not only is he a POS, he is also winding his daughter up and allowing her comment publicly. The only public comment she should be making is an apology to Nigella for her Fathers abuse!

    As for his empty threats…. no one cares.

  41. Jedi says:

    I’m actually impressed the paper is calling him out and exposing this and is refusing to print the “inside info” from Saatchi’s daughter to protect Nigella . Good on the Daily Mail (for once.)

    • Tiamet says:

      Their lawyers stopped them – she’d have sued and one person’s unsupported word is unlikely to be accepted by the courts. It’s why UK kiss and tell girls generally need telephone messages or lure the man in question to a public meeting so the newspaper can take pictures.

  42. CJW says:

    My ex husband to a t. Finally after nine grueling months of the suicide crap, I told him do it. If your sons aren’t worth living for, then they are better off without you. He has not spoken to any of us in six years.

  43. Paula says:

    He reminds me of a broke down version of oj and the way she passively endured the abuse in those pics made me sure it wasn’t a one off, thank god she is away from him

  44. Reece says:

    Then don’t let the door to hell hit you on the way in f**ker!

  45. RdyfrmycloseupmrDvlle says:

    Wow. What an ugly mug this guy has. What a mean scowl. I cant imagine what the poor thing had to think of to get underneath this ugly toad. Shes too beautiful for him. I have no clue what she saw in him. Hes a toad inside and out!

  46. raincoaster says:

    Let us hope that for once Saatchi will be as good as his word.

  47. Lulu says:

    I just want to hug all the people who commented in support of this woman. I don’t even know her but I have followed this story and I feel for her. We stand with you. You remind everyone that has ever escaped the hands of a mad man of their own strength.

  48. Normajean says:

    Okay, don’t hate me. I think you are all being completely ruthless here. Do not forget that Nigella would not be as famous as she is without Charles magic touch. He introduced the lick the spoon, and silly mishaps in the kitchen and help build her career. Yes, he screwed up and I’m sure the whole ordeal was upsetting for such a classy lady. He’s a jerk not a monster. Have any of you ever been in pain due to a break-up, well it freaking hurts, feelings all over the place and in 70 seconds it’s over. On top of that the whole world is watching…we all say things under stress and I’m sure it’s hell for both of these people but back off leave the guy alone.