I tend to think that Ben Affleck & Jen Garner are the same as every other celebrity couple, no better, no worse, not deserving of any special treatment or special condemnation either way. Do I personally believe the rumors that Ben isn’t fully engaged in a wholesome, family-first lifestyle? Yep, I believe those rumors. I believe the rumors that he’s still got gambling issues, and I believe the rumors that he’s fooled around on his wife too.
I do have questions about what Jennifer knows or suspects or what she’s willing to put up with to ensure that her marriage weathers any storm. It wouldn’t surprise me to learn that Jennifer tries (and maybe succeeds) to keep Ben on a short leash at times. Remember in the middle of last year’s Oscar campaign when he signed on to work with Kristen Stewart, who was fresh from her Rupert Sanders affair? I believe Jennifer Garner was the one to pull the plug on that situation and she made quick work of it too, because Affleck pulled out of that film in less than a week. So what’s going to happen when Affleck wants to spend four months in Vancouver, the city where he’s historically loved to party? Affleck wants to check out the latest strippers and Garner is all “SHUT IT DOWN.”
Ben Affleck remains resilient in the face of harsh criticism over his new role as Batman in the upcoming Batman vs. Superman movie, but one person who still isn’t on board is his wife, Jennifer Garner. The film’s shoot, which begins in early 2014, may move from Detroit to Vancouver – and Jennifer is adamant that the entire family (including their children Violet, Seraphina and Samuel) tag along because she doesn’t trust Ben to be on his own.
Ben has a bad history with the Canadian city since he reportedly hooked up with a stripper at Brandi’s Exotic Nightclub in 2003 while engaged to ex Jennifer Lopez.
“Jen is extremely insecure about his being in Vancouver,” a source tells Star. “He used to get caught up in the party scene and make bad decisions, he’s reluctant about his family coming if filming gets moved there, but Jen has put her foot down. The alternative could be a nightmare.”
And Jennifer isn’t leaving any stone unturned. “She wants to be by his side at all times,” admits the pal. “Even if it causes inconvenience.”
[From Star, print edition]
I enjoy the idea that it’s VANCOUVER that will make Affleck cheat. Like, the city is to blame. Vancouver destroys marriages!! I could see it – maybe – if you were talking about Las Vegas, but… it’s Vancouver? Are the Vancouver strippers really that amazing? Does one dude say to another dude, “Man, I really thought my marriage was strong but then Vancouver happened”?
Anyway, should Garner be worried? Probably. But I think she should save her energy for when Ben starts filming Gone Girl with Emily Ratajkowski playing his on-screen mistress. COUGH.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
Vancouver does have really awesome strippers…..and I used to live in Vegas. There’s no comparison.
Really? Can’t believe it. I never thought of Vancouver like that.
This makes my day by the way: 😉
“Man, I really thought my marriage was strong but then Vancouver happened”
This is a completely douchey thing to write, but Vancouver really does have some amazing exotic dancers (cough, strippers).
I haven’t been to the Couv in a while, but I used to visit all the time when I was younger, and in addition to the party scene, it also has pretty tolerant residents and fewer paps. So people like Ben can get away with more.
He’s so gross.
If he’s going to cheat it doesn’t matter if he’s 5 miles or 500 miles away.
True dat.
He already cheated! There was something about a woman all over the internet a few months ago. And someone over here was a friend of a stylist who worked for the woman he cheated with. Why should Garner be concerned now when he probably cheats all the time.
Oooh, I remember that – about the stylist and how she had to attend to her client after a bedroom tussle with Affleck at a party.
I’m of the belief that if any Ben-watch is required, it’s of the nature of “I can’t trust you to be discrete about this” as opposed to “I can’t trust you not to cheat”
This is a Hollywood marriage, not a pleb-marriage. Different rules, different morals and values!
where did you guys see this about the fling with the stylist? you said it was all over the internet about a month ago but i searched and cannot find anything on it.
Yep. If someone wants to cheat, they’re gonna cheat. It’s not something you can control.
And why would anyone subject themselves to a partner like that??
I think there’s a code for men thinking it’s ok to cheat when they are in another country so I understand her worries.
when you look at the statistics women on holiday or travel in another country cheat more than traveling men. especially in a group of girlfriends that encourage and promise to keep the secret.
So I guess the out of country thing works both ways lol
What, some kind of Douche Signal?
I once had a friend of a friend of a friend who thought it didn’t count as cheating if he was out of state. Everyone else, male and female, thought he was a stupid douche. That way of “thinking” is just not normal.
Yeah, it’s Vancouver that was the problem Garner. 😉
We will just not mention when he was away filming To the Wonder in Oklahoma then. Nope, not going to say a word…evil Oklahoma made him do it!!
If you gotta work that hard to try to keep a man, he ain’t worth it. *Especially* if you think he would’ve ran off with McCranky-pants, Queen of the “Meh” face it is time to re-evaluate your relationship.
Surely they have some sort of arrangement? Ben barely even tries to pretend he’s involved in family life, and he’s not particularly discreet about the drinking and gambling and strippers. The only time he downplays the sleaze is when he’s angling for an award.
I don’t think Jennifer really cares what he does, I think she just doesn’t want strippers selling gross stories (the stories about him are ALWAYS gross) about her husband for the umpteenth time. She’s based so much of her image on her family, she doesn’t want Ben ruining it for her by letting his sleaze leak into the same magazines that print pictures of Garner being Supermom.
Sorry, posted in wrong place.
Completely agree with you. I’m sure that the two of them have some sort of understanding otherwise their marriage wouldn’t have lasted this long.
This makes sense. But still a man who doesn’t get how the arrangement works probably isn’t worth having an arrangement with.
I would hate to be married with 3 children and feel like I have to watch my husband 24/7. It’s just not worth it.
Totally agree with you.
TOTALLY agree.
My idea for the father of our children is for me to feel safe in the knowledge that if a brick dropped on my head the next day, I would die knowing that our children would be as much-loved and well-cared for as if I were alive. But, hey, that’s just me.
Oh this is glorious… I spent a drunken evening in Brandi’s during a stint there for work and the place is a DIVE (as strip clubs go…). Had nooo idea about the Lopez/Affleck story, but I was too young to have ever heard at the time.
Interesting. The opinion among people I’ve heard from is that the No 5 is the shady club and Brandi’s is the pretentious one. No 5 is the one that has the full contact lap dances and is the “gangsta” favourite anyway.
Jennifer Garner is undercover GANGSTA.
I may agree with you. I think this site (and others) paint Garner as the “willing to turn a blind eye wife” and I just don’t see that in her. If Affleck has cheated, I see Garner laying down some house rules and making it clear what he is risking and on what she will not put up with. I believe that if he screws(or screws up) in the future, Garner will lower the boom on his *ss. Just how I see it. I think she is probably incredibly self-aware and strong-willed. I don’t know why anyone wants to paint her as “poor put upon wife” or “willing to turn a blind eye”.
With the way the Garner-Afflecks work, I actually think both viewpoints are correct. Garner clearly is all in with this relationship and isn’t going to leave despite the fact that he’s a well documented cheater. He’d have to come up with a public, humiliating scandal for her to leave. BUT I think that Ben also needs Jennifer. His image rehab of ‘stable family man’ is completely hinged on his marriage to Garner, and should she ever leave him he’s toast. She can absolutely dictate terms like ‘no, you’re not working with her’.
Oh, I absolutely think that Ben needs Jennifer. I believe his image would take a serious hit without her but, more importantly, I believe he needs the stability that their relationship provides. I believe that he loves her and in his heart of hearts knows that he has been very fortunate to have found someone like her. As far as Garner, she is absolutely all in. I don’t find that fault-worthy. The thing is though I believe that IF he has cheated that there is no way that Garner will “look the other way”. I think if he cheated that has had consequences in their relationship but I also believe one of those consequences is “never again”.
To me, there are two sides two Ben: one is definitely down with Jen and the family. I think it is something that he takes enormous pride in. I also believe Ben has a self-destructive side and is attracted (temporarily) to things that Garner isn’t. It remains to be seen whether he is smart enough to realize what he has got while he still has it. 🙂
Also, I don’t think that Ben has to go as far as public humiliation for Jen to call time on the whole thing. I think that all Ben has to do is get caught, not by the tabloids, but by his wife and that will be that.
I think both of them cheat, or they have an open relationship, and she is just better at keeping her end quiet. Because I tend to think there was some overlap with Foley, Vartan, and later Ben. I have a hard time believing that she married Ben, and all of the sudden changed.
It starts at home. If he’s not connected (which from his own comments he doesn’t seem to be entirely) he’s going to feel more entitled to do as he pleases, especially somewhere that he has a history.
That’s what happens when you marry an entitled douche. People don’t really change much – especially when they are awash in money and fame. She had to know what she was getting into. It must be worth it to her; thus, she is probably as narcissistic and entitled as he is.
Wasn’t he cheating on her with Blake Lively when they were filming The Town? And she obviously turned a blind eye then…
He’s a dog, and their marriage has been on the rocks on and off for the last few years. I guess she wants to keep it together for the family, but damn, Jen – it might just be better to let him go.
Not a shred of evidence. His family was in town during filming, and Blake and her steady boyfriend at the time seemed to be on good terms before and after she filmed The Town. And apparently Ben had known Blake’s older sister, Robyn, for years since they worked together on a TV series.
There were other rumours he was fooling around with another woman on The Town set and the Blake rumour was used to distract, but there’s no evidence to support that one, either (though the woman did go on to a relationship with another married director and they are still together.)
I went on vacation in Vancouver in my 20’s. You will be amazed at how hard you can party there. Don’t let the picturesque mountains and fresh air fool ya, that place can put Vegas to shame.
I love that the word “Vancouver” can now be a code for husband misbehavior. “The douchebag was vancouvering me this whole time…”
No! Not my wonderful city!!!
I resent that my beautiful city has to become a code word for cheating or that Ben Affleck will be in this city and Jennifer Garner will use it as an excuse to cause drama. And Jen, men like Ben will only resent you more if you put them on a short leash. If he wasn’t thinking about cheating before he most definitely is going to find some young, dumb extra and have five minutes with her when your head is turned.
SHe should feel insecure. Look at how he has talked abotu his marriage in several interviews – not very flattering to her at all. Having said that, if you are THAT worried about your marriage then perhaps you need to think about moving on. I could never live my life like Garner and Rimes wondering every second if my husband has cheated/is going to cheat/will cheat on me. Eff that scenario.
Not insecure. She should feel over it
I’m learning all kinds of surprising things about my city, here. Really? Awesome strippers and you can party harder than in Vegas?
Because the locals call Vancouver “No Fun City”. I’m really doing a head-tilt here.
And, apropos of nothing, Batman needs to lose a few.
HA! Love it. Hey you should come over and party in Victoria- “10:00- Last call folks!”
If I were married to Ben Afleck (gross), I’d be subtly encouraging him to cheat. Then I could get pictures of him doing it and wring the biggest possible divorce settlement out of him. Because being married to Ben Affleck, are you kidding me? He’s nasty. Also he acts with his teeth.
LMAO! A world of this^^
Jennifer has always been one of my favorites! Ben? Not so much. I don’t know how anyone lives with the stress of not trusting their partner? If they want strange, no matter what you do.. it will happen! Life is too short to put up with a cheating partner! It has nothing to do with love, it’s a flaw in a person’s character!
Worked in Vegas or four years managing a strip club and Vancouver for 6 years doing the same. There is no comparison, Vancouver is above and beyond Vegas.
Which one?
Whether he cheats on her or not, doesn’t matter. She will get him his next Oscar with tons of photo ops with the kids and she will remain Ben Affleck’s wife, because that’s the best deal she can get at the moment.
I find him to be kind of an idiot, but I do have to admit I think he’s good-looking. And I like Jennifer; and they’re kids are all so cute. Ben, don’t ruin your marriage – you have a lot to lose!!
I had no idea the strippers in my city were this good! lol i should check them out.
They’re still together though.
If I was married to Ben Affleck (as if) I’d have every aspect of him monitored..car (why is he in Vancouver already?), phone numbers crossed-checked to a database (who’s that number he’s called 8 times and sent 22 txt to?), spies on-set (what’s he up to now? He’s gone into Emily’s trailer?!!?), any perfume on his clothes on return to home (I don’t wear J-Lo Glow!!). “You went where? A strip club??!!” “Don’t worry honey, it’s research”. Like him as a director but as a husband…nuh.
Ben & Emily = “Bemily”. Watch out Jen!
~~~ Yeah well so he has a dark side. I really dont give a flying FK. Id take him anyway. Id take him dirty, id take him clean, good, bad and sideways. Id work him like a summer job. He is HOT and hes got brains. He was the brains behind Good Will Hunting as well as Argo. Nothing sexier than a hot guy with smarts. So hes got a few flaws? Big deal…….as far as being married to him……I can only imagine the power and clout she must weild being Mrs. Ben Affleck. Shes not stupid.
I live in Vancouver. Yeah, Vancouver strippers really are that amazing. They’re allowed to do a lot of things that American strippers are not allowed to do, let’s just put it that way.
But the strip clubs have been closing down thanks to free internet porn. There are, I believe, only three left: Brandi’s, which is fancy and expensive, the Penthouse which is very noir and sleazy (and storied! a famous murder happened there), and the Number Five Orange, which is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay downscale. I forget which band named an album after it.
It has been declared the best city to live in. I love visiting from Toronto; and can easily move there.
Vancouver: “strippers” (cough cough), and gold-diggers, OH YES~
Jennifer should know by now to just let her husband do what he wants, as long as he comes home. After all, that’s who she married.
OK, 100 years ago, I went to Vancouver, with my cousin and my former bf – we were only there for about 8 hours – she had to work the next morning, at Starbucks, in Bellevue, WA. It was during the garbage strike, so the city was disgusting, trash in the streets, but we thought we could make a quick trip and have a few drinks at the TGI Fridays, my bf was underage and my cousin Liz wanted to hit up a pharmacy to get some Tylenol with codeine, drive up and back, no biggie.
Ended up, it was some severe sh-t. My bf was underage and drank like a fish, we met an awesome gay dude at the TGI Fridays, went back to his place for a bottle of wine and a joint, then to a seriously awesome club, where my bf went ‘upstairs’ (later we find out he is a heavy addict, so who knows?) . . .quick flash to him in my face, totally freaked out, I remember being on a dance floor with my cuz in some kind of fog/smoke . . .then waiting outside of a Kentucky Fried Chicken next to a pile of garbage – have NO MEMORY of actually driving home but remember CROONING at the top of my lungs to the Tracy Chapman tape over and over again – Liz did make it to her AM Starbucks shift in WA. HOW? No Idea!!
Vancouver was THE HANGOVER, for us. I swear that joint was laced with SOMETHING. This is not something I would condone, getting ridiculous and stupid in another country, no matter how close to home, it was a crazy night and I have yet to recover, some hundred years later. My cousin and former bf STILL don’t speak. When I read about the exploits of ‘kids these days’, I think I am mighty lucky no one was on the internet about my shenanagins, the many “mornings after”.
And yet, it was AWESOME.