Selena Gomez: ‘I’m the girl you take home to your parents, not for the night’

Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez covers the December issue of Teen Vogue in typical Selena fashion. She’s such a babyface, right? I think she’s adorable even though she’s admitted that her ultra-youthful looks can be annoying at times. Selena will appreciate her tendency to look younger than her years when she reaches 30 for sure. That’s when I started looking in the mirror and lamented not seeing a spring chicken any longer. Selena recently admitted she receives a lot of pressure to look sexy, which she has resisted thus far. I think she knows better than to sell herself short just to flash the flesh. Of course there’s nothing wrong with shaking it, but you gotta bring something else to the table. Here are some insights from Selena’s interview:

Possible insight into the Bieber debacle: “You fall in love and it completely consumes you. So a part of you is broken when that’s gone. And part of you wants to have that rebellious feeling where you’re just like, forget it-I can do anything I want. I’ve tried it, and I’ve never been that girl. I’m always going to be the girl you want to take home to your parents, not for the night.”

On de-stressing: “My attention span is all over the place, and I overthink things. I’m an insomniac. Dancing allows me to go away and not have to think of what I’m doing next. That is the opportunity for me to really escape.”

On taking chances like Spring Breakers: “I like to say I have a good sense of judgment, but I know that not everybody does. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve learned that I have to open myself up to all opportunities. Maybe I’ll get burned and not meet the right people, but I won’t know until I do it.”

[From Teen Vogue]

Last year Selena admitted that growing up Disney made her crave” raunchy film projects. Yet even with Spring Breakers, Selena played the relative good girl in a group of wild college girls. I think she’s accepted that she really will always play the good girl, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. It’s okay to be different than all of the other pop stars and actresses! Selena is so refreshing in that way. There’s quite a niche to be found in being one of the only pop stars out there who isn’t waving her ass cheeks to the world.

Selena is so pretty, but this shoot is so photoshopped. Why???

Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez

Photos courtesy of Teen Vogue

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  1. Kate R says:

    Dem ‘brows, though.

    • Bubbles says:

      I like the brows. I don’t like her.
      I mean, she is pretty, she is nice, but there is no talent. She lip syncs to songs somebody else has written, she can’t act and her dancing is mediocre at best. And she does use her sexuality a lot. Not in a way that Miley uses it, but she does. And when you compare her to Swifty, Demi and Miley, she might be the most “normal” of the bunch, but at least Swifty writes er own songs, and Miley and Demi can sing. I’m sick and tired of people like her and Jessica Alba who get by on looks, while actual talent goes unnoticed. It’s not fair.

      • Spooks says:

        I agree with everything.

        What happened to her purity ring? Or were the Jonas Bros the only ones who had them?

      • NoU says:

        Spooks, you’re thinking of the Jonas Brothers. They were the only ones of the Disney bunch of their time who had ‘em.

      • Lucija says:

        I think Selena had one too, and she said her father gave it to her.
        I don’t know why you’re so surprised. It’s Hollywood, looks usually come before talent.

      • Emma - the JP Lover says:

        I actually like Selena’s voice and acting talents. Is the problem really that she’s too boring? I ‘like’ that she’s not a sex fiend like Miley or has drug addiction problems like Demi. There’s nothing wrong with having average dance ability. She’s not a professional dancer … she acts and sings.

        She can’t sing? The girl has a better range than Taylor Swift, who doesn’t sound anything like herself outside of the recording studio. And many singers sing songs written by other people. If not, song writers would be out of business.

      • Spooks says:

        @Emma, as Bubbles said “She lip syncs to songs somebody else has written.”
        And her being boring is definitely not the problem, at least not for me. I listen mostly to rock music, where ,thankfully, being sexy is still not the norm. Demi, Miley and Taylor have SOME talent. Selena has none.

      • Just Me says:

        Uh, spooks. Ever hear of ZZ Top, The Rolling Stones, Aerosmith, to name just a few?

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    • TherapyCranes says:

      Thick brows are in now. I grew my eyebrows out specifically because I love the look and embrace having thicker more prevalent brows. They look great.

  2. Dani2 says:

    Is it impossible to be both? :(

    • Florc says:

      Short answer, Yes.
      A girl you take home for a night has a big stigma. Generally you bring them home after some flirting and they’re out of the house before anyone sees them there. Maybe they’re a different person outside of the bar scenerio. That’s the exception. Maybe she’s refering to the girls Beiber is messing around with. New girl every night and such.

      • Gretchen says:

        Surely that says more about Bieber than the girls he goes home with, no?

        @Dani2 This conversation looks like it could very easily veer into slut-shaming territory, so I’m just going to leave it here: no, it is not impossible to be both :)

      • Florc says:

        Could easily turn into slut shaming! Even if you’re speaking nothing, but truths in an unbias manner someone will call it shaming.. but yea.Conversation could explode.

        We’re all watching JB stuck in a state of arrested development trying to prove to the world he’s a man by sleeping with lots of women. All while sucker punching anyone who calls him a baby then hides behind his body guards.

        Side note. His fame will last longer than we think unless he does some major screw up. Met a few 20-somethings that think his music is awesome and actually pay 500 a ticket to see him. Says he puts on a great show even if he’s always late to the stage.

    • mzizkrizten says:

      . I’ve asked several guys their opinion on girls that give it up too easy. They want these girls of course because obviously, but they have zero respect for them and know that if she fucks them that quick, she fucks every guy that quick.

      • Gretchen says:


        Give what up too easily? What is this mythical, abstract thing women give up during sex? Purity? Innocence tokens? Unicorn magic???
        “know that if she fucks them that quick, she fucks every guy that quick”, patently not true.

        Those several guys are misogynist assholes.

      • Buckwild says:

        It’s true many guys think like this.

        Except what about those same guys who are also “giving it” easily? There is no concept of them giving it up “too easily” at all. They feel free to judge girls who give it up to them but don’t think of how they too are also technically doing the same thing since it takes two to f*ck. And why does sex have to be seen as something to “give” only with some “proper” amount of work (not too easily! But what is too easily?) when it’s something to be chosen and shared between two people? This conceptualization really bothers me.

        And I agree with some of the other commenters saying that Selena is not really helping by dividing the “girl you take home” and the “one night stand girls”.

      • mzizkrizten says:

        It as in sex, duh. There’s no innocence or purity involved when it comes to one night stands and easy women. And I’m sorry but feminism has nothing to do with promiscuity and flesh baring. Its sad that the movement has taken on that meaning. Its supposed to be about equality and mutual respect and value for each gender not freedom to be as slutty as men generally are.

      • Meaghan says:

        @Gretchen AMEN! I AM SO SICK of sexist bullshit like that, men can sleep around and women can’t. I REFUSE to give in to these blatantly sexist stereotypes, and the men that believe that bullshit are the type of men I would NEVER choose to be with.

        @mzizkrizten feminism is not just about bearing flesh, it is about being equal to men, not having a different set of standards of living your life so you are deemed ‘worthy’ in a ‘mans world’. And furthermore having sex with somebody does not make you a flesh bearing and promiscuous wanton women. If I feel a sexual attraction with a man and want to have sex with them I do it because I want to, I do not for a second think about ‘what the man/society/other women will think of me!’. Believe it or not a woman can have safe sex with a man and still be respected and valued and not be deemed a ‘slut’. The men I am with and the women I surround myself with love me for me and do not just people based on how many partners they have been with or how easy they give it up, but on how good/funny/smart/kind of a person they are.

      • lafrenchy says:

        “Its supposed to be about equality and mutual respect and value for each gender not freedom to be as slutty as men generally are.”

        Well so to you feminism has the very unusual and exotic meaning of reinforcing the long dated cliché of “repect and value ” for women… but “not the freedom to be as men genereally”… so not equality right?

        Feminism is about equality and freedom. It’s for any woman to be who she wants to be without having people up her throat trying to discipline her using a backward rhetoric of “value” or ” not being as slutty as men”. If she wants to be promiscuous and baring flesh well without having to suffer the judgement of other people on her life or whole person because of it !

        Basically what your are saying is that a woman should stand the exact ground that was assigned to her by patriarcal society and that’s feminism? LOL!

        I understand way much better yur choice of “wonderful” male friends…

        PS: read the definition of feminism it would help you greatly

      • MCraw says:

        Not true. Slept with my husband on the first date. He became my 2nd boyfriend after that. But, hey, maybe I lucked out :D

      • Bubbles says:

        I have a bad opinion about women AND men who sleep around a lot.

      • blue marie says:

        I would like to sign up for unicorn magic so I can in turn give it away. Will I fart rainbows once I pass the the magic on? or are you just trying to scam me?

      • GiGi says:

        This is so ridiculous. Not to overshare… but every single one of my long term relationships I slept with on the first or second date. Every. one. Now, maybe I’m just a phenomenal lay, but I’d rather suspect that *most* grasp that people are all different and that subscribing to archetypes gets you no where fast.

        Sex *can* be a deep thing, but sometimes it’s just physical. God save us from this weird romanticization built up around penetration.

        And I doubt that the (number not important) men I slept with once or twice outside of a relationship think of me as a whore, if they think of me at all. Consenting adults are free to do whatever they’d like, whenever and with whomever. The gift of age is that when you grow up you stop caring what anyone thinks and just do what you’d like.

      • Leila In Wunderland says:

        @Mzkristen: The guys who think like that are just mysogynists who have learned the lesson that the patriarchy teaches, and the girls who agree. Feminism IS partially about female sexual autonomy and bodily autonomy, liberating us from our religious patriarchy’s repressive, sexist rules about sexuality and the human body. But the’ freedom isn’t just for women, it’s for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people as well.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Wow..some of you ladies need more guy friends or at least more FEMINIST guy friends.

        No guy I know would fault a woman for sleeping with him on the first date. Why? Because they’re all feminists and none are hypocrites.

        So what I’ve gathered from this thread is that y’all are surrounding yourselves with a lot of douchebags.

        …and commenters who have a problem with promiscuous people? WTF? What people do in the privacy of their bedrooms should be nobody else’s f*cking concern.

        +1 to everything Gigi said.

      • Coco says:

        I had sex on the first date of almost every major relationship I’ve been in throughout my lifetime. Even my fiancé and I hooked up on the first day we met. Now, there have also been countless first dates where I didn’t so much as hold the other person’s hand, let alone get naked. My “numbers” are also relatively low compared to other ladies my age in my peer group. I’ve just never found that any man I’ve hooked up with looked at me in a deragatory way because I “gave up the goods”. Perhaps it’s because I grew up and live in the Bay Area or perhaps it’s because I never looked at myself in a lesser way for having sex on a first date. That being said, I also think there is something lovely about being courted and waiting to become physical too. It’s just not something that worked for me. We’re all different and as long as you have value in your own self worth, it doesn’t matter whether you’re “old-fashioned” or more sexually free with your activity. Being protective over your heart, mind, and soul will lead you to do right by your body, whatever that means to you.

      • Bucky says:

        Do they not make the connection that they, too, are, by default, also giving it up easy? Also, I have so many friends who have married guys they slept with on the first date. I have noticed exactly zero correlation between time to first sex and relationship length.

        The guys you talk to might just be misogynistic buffoons.

      • QQ says:

        HO-LY shit is this 20fking13???? Is this real life?? Some of ya’ll still letting men dictate and discuss and hector you on the virtue and value of when do you use your lady parts and where does that put you in the wifeable rankings?!? nah! *rubs temples* *walks out*

      • Leila In Wunderland says:

        And also, I hope that nobody is thinking that all guys are mysogynists like that. There are plenty of decent guys out there who are secure in their masculinity, open-minded when it comes to human sexuality, know that it’s not wrong for a woman to just want sex, and don’t feel that being sexual makes a person less worthy of respect.

    • bettyrose says:

      It’s the ole virgin/whore dynamic. But as most CB ladies know, it’s totally possible to be both.

      • sienna says:

        I agree Bettyrose, its fun to be both.

        I also think the “take home” versus “one night” has less to do with how a girl acts behind closed doors than how she portrays herself and her outside image.

        I was no saint during my single days, but always gave the impression of being a “good girl”, and was discrete with my hookups. There was never anyone talking about my actions. One of my best friends was known as a “bad girl”, because she was so out there with her sexuality and really owned it.

        Neither was right or wrong, we just approached things differently.

    • Dani2 says:

      Yikes, well I knew this post would get messy haha. I definitely think you can be both but I feel like I’m seeing more and more these days, this whole case of you’re “one or the other”. I mean, I’m a Rihanna fan, but I love Taylor Swift too. I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years but we met at a club, and his parents love me. And @Gretchen, I am behind you 100%, there is a major double standard and I’m not going to go into it too much because I feel like you and @Buckwild have done a good job communicating what is wrong with this Madonna-Whore complex.

    • TherapyCranes says:

      Yes? I slept with my husband the first time we met. We’ve now been married for 10 years and there’s no end in sight. My husband however doesn’t have a misogynist mindset.

      • Seán says:

        I’d take her home for the night! ;) But I’d also take her home to my parents. She is friggin’ gorgeous and seems pretty smart too despite dating Bieber. She’s a class act.

        I just want to weigh in on the whole debate about sleeping around/keep them waiting. I think there’s nothing wrong with being promiscuous for both MEN AND WOMEN provided that you use protection and aren’t hurting anyone else in the process.

        Look, I’m a single guy. It’s not always easy to find the right person to be in a relationship with and sometimes it can get very lonely being single. I go to clubs and I pick up girls and I have one night stands. I always use protection and I always tell the girl before I sleep with her that I just want it to be a casual one-night thing before she makes a decision to go home with me. I’ve learned to do this from experience as I made assumptions before and one girl got really upset because I didn’t want to get more serious. I honestly feel bad about that and make sure that that situation doesn’t happen again.

        And you know, a lot of girls just want what I want and that’s someone to hook up with for the night. Sometimes people are just horny :lol: and I say if you’re single and it’s consensual, why not give in and go for it! Yes, sex is always better when it’s with someone you have genuine affection for, or love, or a ‘spark’ with (for me the ‘spark’ I have with another girl indicates whether I want to get more serious with her…those girls come around every now and then whereas about 90% of other girls, it’s just pure physical lust :P ) but sex can also be a great physical activity. It relieves stress, is good fun and boosts confidence. Honestly, I think it’s great when someone finds you attractive enough that they’re willing to spend some time with you and get extremely intimate even if you plan on going separate ways afterwards.

        Granted, I know we don’t live in a perfect world and a lot of men treat women like s–t (and vice versa in less cases) and that girls get slut shamed more often whereas men get applauded. But hopefully we’ll eventually move forward and learn that while we may all sexually objectify people every now and then but they’re still people when all is said and done.

        To respond to mzizkrizten comments:
        “I’ve asked several guys their opinion on girls that give it up too easy. They want these girls of course because obviously, but they have zero respect for them and know that if she fucks them that quick, she fucks every guy that quick.”

        I was thinking over this and in a way, guys do think this way. However, it’s not quite as clear cut. There are some girls who comes across as highly attention seeking and obnoxious and dress/act quite fake and they might still be hot but their personalities are a complete turn-off. And sometimes to our detriments, guys think with their dicks more than they do with their brains/hearts. If a woman carries herself in a more intelligent, assured way; they can generally get away flashing the flesh and being sexually promiscuous. It’s basically all about how discreet you are and how much mystery you have.

        To use celebrity examples, someone like Selena Gomez or Emma Watson are girls who are much more appealing to me (and probably the majority of men) than Miley Cyrus or Rihanna. That’s why Gomez and Watson can get away with selling sex because they seem to know how to rein it in and leave some mystery whereas Rihanna and Cyrus are off flashing their ass cheeks and appearing naked all the time and just letting it all hang out there. Sure that’s sexy in a carnal sense but it completely overwhelms any sense of personality. They come across as exceedingly shallow and vapid. It works the same way with men I’m sure. A man with a bit of mystery is much more exciting than some arrogant douchebag flashing his abs in your face non-stop. But obviously women get the brunt of the criticism because of the patriarchal society we live in.

        Anyway, those are my two cents on the topic.

      • Nick says:

        Yay another guy on here. I thought I was alone lol.

        Dude you wrote like an essay but I agreed with it all.

      • glaugh says:

        Yeah i slept with my bf very quickly too. We met in a bar drunkenly.

        We’ve been together four years…

  3. Sasha says:

    1) She does play up to being sexy. Absolutely nothing wrong with that but let’s not pretend she’s not using her sexuality to her advantage. She posts plenty of cleavage shots to instagram. Shrug!
    2) Personally I don’t think the distinction between ‘girls who sleep around’ and ‘girls who don’t’ is helpful towards the cause of feminism as a whole.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Agree with both statements.

      I saw myself as a “nice” girl at her age, and nice girls did not have relationships with men unless they loved them. This caused me to mistake attraction for love and waste loads of time trying to make relationships work with cute jerks because, duh, obviously I loved them. I seem to have drifted off of the point, but Sasha said it well.

      • epiphany says:

        Wow, hair stood up on the back of my neck. You just described my life from 18-25 to a “T.” Tried so hard to be the “good girl”, so convinced myself I was in love with guys when it was really just a fleeting attraction – and wasted a lot of time with idiots.

    • stellalovejoydiver says:

      that was a pretty gross statement.

    • Leila In Wunderland says:

      There’s this thing on tumblr called exposing smg, and the post was about how Selena gomez fans (and others) slut-shame Miley Cyrus while calling Selena ‘a classy, good role model with morals.’ Well, the post is full of pictures and videos of Selena showing her butt cheeks, wearing revealing outfits, braless boob-flashing twit pics, and grinding on guys and girls, as well as grabbing her crotch during a performance and admitting to getting wasted. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with those behaviors (I’ve done most of them myself :) But let’s not pretend that Selena is some saint in a world of ‘female fornicators’ or anything. That includes you, Selena!

      I sent her a tweet about this last night.

      • itstrue says:

        I regret that you posted this. I have spent a few days now, reading your posts and really weighing what you have to say….this discredits all your work in my opinion. Why would you call attention to that tumblr? so so strange.

      • Leila In Wunderland says:

        Because the subject here is Selena’s ‘good girl’ image and how legit it is.

      • itstrue says:

        all the pics and gifs on there seem very stalkery. There is’t one on there that is her purposefully putting her t and a in a photo shoot. The particular upskirt still when she is on the stage is so invasive. Good job furthering feminism.

      • Leila In Wunderland says:

        Hey, don’t blame me. I’m not the one who put it up.

      • bijlee says:

        …wow leila you’re own slut-shaming got called out and you can’t even own it.

      • Leila in Wunderland says:

        @Bijlee: I didn’t slut-shame her at all. I have no problem with a girl wearing revealing clothes or dirty-dancing.

        What I DO have a problem with is the division of girls as either good/the girl you bring home to mama/good role models vs. bad/inferior/problematic/ bad role models based on the skin they’ve shown or how sexual they are, and if I see a famous female celebrity playing that game, I will call her on it- even if it’s someone I respect.

        When I said “I sent her a tweet about it”, I don’t mean I sent her a tweet about the Tumblr. I mean I sent her a tweet about her comments in this article. I have to check my twitter too.

      • Bijlee says:

        @leila you’re full of it. Read itstrue statement. You’re perpetuating it by describing such a site and naming it.

        Tip either own your bull and do what you expect other people to do by owning it and realizing you made a mistake. Or stop being such a preachy butt to everyone else.

        Sorry sweetheart you may have accidentally slut shamed her but you still did it. And you continued to do what other posters have done when you’ve bitched at them. #hypocrisy

      • Leila In Wunderland says:

        @Bijlee: If you look at what the author of that site wrote, she’s not saying “Miley’s not a slut. Selena is.” She’s saying that it doesn’t make sense to praise one while slut-shaming the other. That isn’t slut-shaming.

      • bijlee says:

        Deny deny deny leila. You’ve attacked people for saying the slightest thing that could be considered slut-shaming. Even if they didn’t mean it like that at all. You’ve shoved words down their throat and accused them of “puritanical bitchery,” “pearl clutching”, etc etc etc.

        Sweetheart, realize that posting such a site and suggesting that it’s okay that such things exist oh and then saying don’t look at me i didn’t put it up (but you sure as hell have no problem perpetuating it) is offensive and anti-feminist, and yes slut shaming. So you’re okay calling people out for posting offensive things, but you refuse to look inward and realize you might/maybe participating in it yourself.

        As much as I dislike selena gomez I’ve never heard her be judgmental about people’s choices. And if her image is like that good girl crap (which I don’t really see, she’s super vanilla, and she soooo does cash in on the sexy), I mean I can’t really blame her. She’s after the money. She’s faced a little more adversity then miley virus. So I can forgive her for chasing the money trail. Lord knows I would f-king do it if I could. Miley cyrus can afford to act like that. She’s white and privileged and never has to worry about her situation in life. Selena gomez probably can’t as much, although she has white privilege like cyrus, but is ultra boring so won’t last as long.

      • Leila In Wunderland says:

        @Bijlee: Slut-shaming is when you imply that a female is in any way inferior or bad because of the skin she has shown, for sexual dance moves, for the amount of sex she has had, etc., I didn’t imply in any way that Selena is inferior because of her sexuality. What I’m saying is that the fact that Selena hasn’t posed nude or twerked doesn’t make her any better than Miley or Rihanna or any of the other girls here who get called sluts and whores, and the point of that web page was that ANY female who exhibits sexuality can be slut-shamed, so maybe we just shouldn’t call anyone trashy sluts/whores at all.

        I do agree though that Miley comes from a more privileged background than Selena, since Selena isn’t as white as Miley (she’s part Mexican) and she grew up poor, whereas Miley didn’t. I’m not bothered by the fact that Selena doesn’t want a Miley/Gaga/Rihanna makeover and doesn’t want to be pushed into an image that she’s not comfortable with. She just shouldn’t have phrased it the way she did here.

  4. John says:

    Not attractive. Skinny with a big face and cheeks– bulimic?
    She looks like an over-sexualized 11 year old.

    • GlimmerBunny says:

      Skinny people with big cheeks aren’t automatically bulimic! I look like that and I’ve never had an eating disorder and it’s pretty rude/hurtful to draw those kind of conclusions (people have asked me if I’m bulimic in the past too…) Selena’s chipmunk cheeks are probably genetic (just like mine).

    • Kenyan254 says:

      wow…cynical much?the girl is beautiful!lets not deny that!But criticizing her for something she cannot control is just wrong and it makes you come out as bitter…

    • blue marie says:

      umm no.. she has chipmunk cheeks, which a lot of girls have and it has nothing to do with having an eating disorder.

    • Celebitchy says:

      I would delete this idiotic comment but there are too many responses to it, just FYI everyone. Please report trolls.

  5. GiGi says:

    She’ll love her baby face as she gets older… I used to hate having chubby cheeks but having a fuller face makes you look younger as you age.

    I played that whole “girl you take home to your parents” bit for a while in my early twenties… it resulted in a severe lack of getting laid. So I just decided to do what (and who) I wanted. I was much happier that way and after 12 years of marital bliss, I can say it worked out pretty well in the end ;)

    • Dawn says:

      I agree with you about her baby face. When I was her age was very very skinny and I ate everything in site! She is still growing into that face and I think she will be a beauty.

    • j78 says:

      Haha, cute story…I did that too, but I just had an “ex bf/turned friend” from out of town and we would just get together and bang every week or so…in my culture ( Indian) one cant openly have any bf’s, so it held both of us over until our marriages were arranged to other people.

  6. Hannah says:

    Easy on the ‘shop, Teen Vogue! Why do they insist on making people look worse?

  7. Badirene says:

    Eh you are the girl who dated the Beiber, by choice.

    • Kenyan254 says:

      yeah…my thought train exactly…she was expecting the Beibs to take her home or was she just dating him for other reasons…?

    • Tapioca says:

      I’m pretty sure that was a record company set-up – increase her fanbase and deflect attention from his mid-pubescent thirst for open-minded hookers!

      Some people just aren’t suited for one-night stands, and it’s good to know yourself well enough to realise that it isn’t for you. “Expressing your sexuality” because of peer pressure and feeling horrible and empty afterwards is as self-destructive as squelching your carnal desires because you’re afraid of being judged.

      Chacon a son gout, as they say…

      • epiphany says:

        Yeah, the Beiber relationship was mostly about photo ops – I don’t think either one was despondent (or surprised) when it ended.

      • MonicaQ says:

        “Some people just aren’t suited for one-night stands, and it’s good to know yourself well enough to realise that it isn’t for you.”

        Preach. Seriously, every time I come to a Selena or Miley board, I think I’m a mutant. “But EVERYONE should/did do that in their twenties!” What? Because I wanted (and got and kept) a stable relationship in my late teens I’m weird?

  8. klue says:

    zzzz..huh! yeah..yea..that’s great Dem- I mean Selena!

  9. Anna says:

    Oh honey, the innocent act isn’t going to cut it for much longer. This girl is going to get exposed soon. Keep talking about Bieber dear. Oh and the photoshop ages her which is a good thing because she’s forever looking 4 years old.

    • Jackson says:

      What is her innocent act and what is going to get exposed?

      • Anna says:

        My ass will not get sued! Just don’t believe this girl. Hell, she might not even last long enough to get exposed but I really hope she does. And I actually pray that it’s Bieber who does it but I doubt even he would drag their fake crap for as long as she has.

    • Elle says:

      You can’t get sued fom a random blog comment lol! So spill :)

      • lovegossip says:

        Haha @Elle, no kidding. Thinking if @Anna really knew something, she would be saying. Like you said, this is a blog and I don’t see any first or last names. Sometimes people like to look big behind computers. ;-)

      • Anna says:

        yes you can…

  10. Jackson says:

    That barely looks like her on the cover. Enough with all the damn Photoshop already, FFS. I like this girl, that whole Beiber thing not withstanding. She’s cute and seems level-headed and like a normal kind of girl just please, please stay away from that little idiot.

  11. Miss M says:

    She may be a good girl and all. Isn’t she friends with Taylor Swift. Yeah… I don’t buy their acts.

    ps: I rolled my eyes with “the girl you take home to the parents” comment. It reminded me of someone I knew who said: I was born to be married. Whatever…

  12. Belle Epoch says:

    Wait – people are BELIEVING this stuff? She is NOT a wholesome “meet your parents” girl by any stretch of the definition or imagination. She absolutely plays on her sexuality – remember naked Bieber Instagrams? She’s just trying to distance herself from her Bieber past now that he has gone even lower to paying hookers. Not to mention the reports of her being interested in Scientology. Dumb wench.

  13. Savanna says:

    …have you seen the pics of Selena flashing her vadge under her super short shorts on stage? I like her a lot but let’s not pretend she resists being sexy. She may not be pulling a Miley but she knows she’s working a sexy angle. Which is fine! Own it!

  14. Itwillrain says:

    It’s Bieber, people, not Beiber.


  15. mzizkrizten says:

    I love her attitude, her self-assuredness, she’s just awesome. I’d love to see an MTV celebrity smackdown claymation of miley and selena. Twerknasty versus tweenqueen LOL

  16. dremy says:

    I hate it when guys use the terms ‘girl to take home to’ or ‘girl for a night’. It is so misogynistic.
    And when women use it, just shows how much they are brain washed by a patriarchal society.
    As if dividing women into two groups and making one superior to the other solely based on her sexuality.
    I much prefer women who are different and original, rather than trying to conform to the societal/patriarchal view of striving to be the girl to be taken home.
    Girl, you dont need a guy and you dont need to go to anyone s home. Hoping you could grow up.

    • itstrue says:

      Ah the patriarchy returns, thrilled.

    • Payton says:

      Whoa, take it down a notch, will ya?

    • lafrenchy says:

      Totally agree with u!

    • phlyfiremama says:

      Absoutely~the level of ignorance and arrogance in that statement of “I’m the girl you take home to your mother’ is astounding. This damaging paradigm of women being assigned value due to their sexuality (or perceived lack thereof) needs to be WIPED OFF THE MAP. ASAP. It is the oldest tool in the book for controlling women socially, politically, financially, and personally. Shake off the chains, ladies! Don’t keep letting yourselves/ourselves be put in the position that something as inconsequential as “purity” or “virginity” decides whether or not you have anythihng to offer society. It’s a trap, and so insidiously ingrained that women (and men) don’t recognize it for what it is when presented with it face to face.

    • Leila In Wunderland says:

      @dremy: Don’t take it down a notch! Some people are just mad because you dare to challenge our slut-shaming culture, while they’ve come to accept it as normal and right.

  17. stellalovejoydiver says:

    She is not the kind os girl you take home for the night, she is the kind of girl who tells you to when you’re ready come and get it.

  18. Bridget says:

    ”She brings more to the table” – like what? She’s an extremely coached, packaged, managed Disney star. She writes no music, and her singing is… well she tries. Her biggest claim to fame is as Bieber’s ex-girlfriend. I’m sure that Selena is a very nice girl who works hard, but here people are ripping Lorde to shreds for one comment and then praising Selena for being properly bland? So this is the message that we’re sending to girls: if you’re polite and pretty, you too can aspire to a middling career in entertainment AND be the ex-girlfriend of a crappy pop star? Really?

    What frustrates me the most is the way Disney paxkages and coaches their child stars (ESPECIALLY the girls). If you turn on the Disney channel today its filled with impossibly groomed, impossibly attractive teens, made up within an inch of their lives. Its not a picture of what real girls look like. And for as much as Selena talks about growing up, isn’t she still managed by Disney?

  19. Lia says:

    Her association with Bieber has tainted her name, whether she was “in love” or not. She’ll be forever looked upon as a twit because of it. You hang around with garbage, you start to smell like garbage.

  20. marina says:

    I thought she was cute on Wizards of Waverly Place, which I watch every day with my seven year old. She did something really nice for a dying little girl when her concert was in Philly a few weeks ago so I give her a pass on some stuff. I don’t think it was all about a photo-op since it was only covered by local news. I’m sure competing with Miley Cyrus must drive her nuts, since Miley has no talent but gets so much attention.

  21. kim says:

    She’s pretty and I like her, but honestly think she has the worst songs and movies. Hate to say it but miley has better lyrics. ..and that says it all.

  22. idk says:

    Selena is harmless. Her tour is doing really well…so there are people out there who will pay to see her perform (even if she’s not singing live). Talent wise, yes there are more talented people out there. I liked her on Wizards of Waverly Place, that character really suited her. She is a very pretty girl and in Hollywood that goes a long way. It’s impressive though that she has reached this level of stardom without taking her clothes off…but then again dating Justin really helped her fame (hey just being honest).

  23. Bucky says:

    Since I read this, it is literally all I can think of at any mention of Selena Gomez.

    But damn, girl’s got her talking points down.

  24. tessy says:

    She resists being sexed up yet she poses in short shorts and unbuttoned shirts with the baby sparrow mouth? Huh. That’s a tad hypocritical.

  25. Meggin says:

    She’s a pretty girl, but I don’t think she has any talent musically. You can tell she lip syncs and never sings live and her songs sound so manufactured. She would probably be better off acting in chick flicks!

  26. Lark says:

    I actually thought that was a really obnoxious comment to make. She’s a beautiful girl, but she’s going to fall flat imo because she has no voice and she has little talent. She doesn’t have some huge previous success like Miley, either.

  27. Sarah says:

    She has horrible taste in men. I can see dating Justin Bieber at first maybe when he was a little less of a tool, but now he is complete all-out tool, and she keeps going back to him. So gross.

  28. Leila In Wunderland says:

    There was a debate about Selena’s quote on Oh No They Didn’t, and the readers were pretty divided. Most people felt that she was kind of slut-shaming, while other people didn’t think so. Her comment definitely invokes that whole virgin/whore dichotomy, and unfortunately a lot of female teen/twenty-something starlets do play that card in interviews. They’ll have a quote in an interview that’s supposed to mean, “Hey, I’m a superior good girl/virgin, not one of those inferior bad girls/whores. So like me!” “I’m not that kind of girl.” It’s a way of elevating themselves above their less-than-virginal counterparts and cementing their roles as ‘good role models.’ Taylor Swift, Beyonce, Shailene Woodley, Charlotte Church, and others have done this- some in worse ways than others. Unfortunately, a famous female’s ‘good role model’ status is determine by how modestly she dresses and how ‘sexually pure’ she comes off. (cuz you know, nudity and sex and dirty-dancing are BAAAD, y’all!)

    But then again, maybe Selena was also trying to let any and all guys who might be interested in her that she wants a committed relationship and not just a hook-up. There’s nothing wrong with that at all. But it does come off like she was throwing a little shade at girls who do want to experiment sexually. Either this was a calculated slut-shaming move, or it’s just something she could have worded better and doesn’t see the implications of her words.

  29. Mhmm says:

    Love her. So genuine and levelheaded. Very rare, good soul <3

  30. Caroline says:

    Well, looks like her using Bieber for the PR paid off.
    With that said, not to overshare, though I had hook-ups and one-nites, I wouldn’t sleep with anyone I wish to begin a serious relationship with on the first or second date or for a while not because I don’t want to, but simply because when you sleep with someone, sometimes it clouds your judgement regarding who that person really is.