Alyssa Milano on being fat shamed by Jay Mohr: ‘It hurt me, I was affected by it’

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Here are photos of Alyssa Milano looking like a boss at the taping of Extra. Last week, we discussed Alyssa’s righteous call out of Jay Mohr, who made rude remarks about Alyssa’s figure after they both appeared at a Nascar event. Alyssa always looks spectacular, but Jay decided to be a major a-hole by podcasting, “It seems like she had a baby and said, ‘I don’t really give a s—’ … I read it on her gut.

Alyssa kept it classy. She responded with a “So sorry you felt the need to need to publicly fat-shame me” and ended with a “send my love to your beautiful wife.” Some of you thought Alyssa may have been throwing shade at Jay’s wife, model Nikki Cox, who has had some obvious work done. I didn’t see Alyssa doing that at all. I think she’s a genuinely nice person and would never imply anything about another woman’s looks. Plus Alyssa is gracious without effort.

Well Jay felt the fury of the internet upon him. He took to his blog to explain the incident away as a failed joke. He said he was improvising content for his podcast and thought people would find “the incongruousness of my statements” to be funny. Jay continued, “I know full well how much words can hurt people, having seen my wife get destroyed by the tabloids, and I am embarrassed that I didn’t think before I spoke. Alyssa is an extraordinarily beautiful person–both inside and out. Sometimes comedians go too far.” Yes Jay went too far with this dumb little “joke.” For the record, Alyssa did accept the apology:

Apology or not, one can be certain that this exchange will weigh heavily on Alyssa’s mind for the rest of her life. Many of us can remember specific incidents of being teased about weight. It’s something that sticks with you. Those words crawl into the deepest crevices of our minds and never leave. Alyssa has spoken to Extra about how terrible Jay made her feel:

Actress Alyssa Milano stopped by Extra at Universal Studios Hollywood today and responded to the recent remarks that Jay Mohr made about her weight to Mario Lopez.

Milano explained, “Well, he made a comment that was not so nice about my weight and I called him out on Twitter about it… I just think he was trying to make a joke and not think about it, but I heard it actually on Christmas Day and it hurt me, I was affected by it and I wanted to remind him that I’m a human being and that this hurts.”

Mohr said things like, “It seems like she had a baby and said, ‘I don’t really give a sh-t” … I read it on her gut,” along with “Melissa what’s-her-name was very nice but didn’t look so great. Somebody sat in the director’s chair and was not wearing Spanx and I was like, ‘Jesus Christ.’” Jay has since apologized for “fat shaming” Milano on his blog, explaining his jokes fell flat.

Alyssa, who responded to Mohr on Twitter, writing, “@jaymohr37 So sorry you felt the need to publicly fat-shame me. Be well and God Bless. Please send my love to your beautiful wife,” told Mario, “I think it’s an interesting statement about where we are socially that people feel that they can sort of rip a woman’s body apart after having a baby. I think we’ve plastered these celebrities on tabloids about how much weight they gained during their pregnancy and how quickly they lose it afterwards and so it’s sort of, unfortunately, everyone’s fair game and I don’t think it’s fair.”

The TV star continued, “I gained 55 pounds when I was pregnant, I still have 10 more to lose. [My son] is 2 in four months.”

[From Extra TV]

Good for her. Jay apologized and seemed sincere, but that doesn’t mean Alyssa needs to drop the entire subject. He deserves to feel just as shamed as he made Alyssa feel. She’s also using the incident to spread awareness. I find it really bittersweet that Alyssa mentions how she still has “10 more to lose.” See, Jay’s words still bother her, and they probably always will.

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  1. LadyMTL says:

    Being teased for any reason sucks. I still remember a guy in high school writing a poem in my yearbook about how I looked like Frankenstein (no joke, the poem was all of 4 lines and I still recall the entire thing today) and it hurt a lot. I can laugh it off now but yeah, teasing / shaming of any kind can be awful.

    • Lee says:

      I remember being told I looked like a Holocaust victim growing up and being told on multiple occasions that I “looked anorexic / bulimic”.

      Weight comments hurt. No one likes to be shamed for their body type / shape.

    • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

      I still remember six years ago, down to what I was doing, where I was, when this boy that I had a massive crush on, was laughing at me, to his friends saying I had a mustache. The only reason I heard it was because I had just the left the classroom, and then walked right back in to hear the tail end of it.

    • Dani2 says:

      Teenagers/kids can be brutal with teasing. And yeah, it really hurts because with us ladies, we’re usually our harshest critics so being teased about our weight is worsening a situation that was already pretty bad. It sucks having people use the insecurities you have on the inside to hurt you.

    • Eleonor says:

      I still remember when I was 13 I was told I was an ugly girl who had a mouth like a oven. I’ve always had fuller lips, but in my teen years that was the only thing you could see on my face: LIPS and the bracalets on my theets. After that I remember I’ve stopped smiling in the photos because I didn’t want people to see my lips, and my theets.

    • Kelly says:

      I feel ya, no matter what you look like, kids always find a reason.
      I was never “feminine” and “sexy” enough in junior high, so I was always degraded with comments like “grandma you in menopause yet” and such. I was plain, skinny and had short hair. And 13.
      Kids are cold-hearted a**holes.

    • Lindy79 says:

      Its so true. This stuff doesn’t go away. I still recall so clearly a tiny little thing from over 10 years ago in my part time job through college when a guy I was friendly with pinched me around the waist jokingly and went “ooh putting on a few!!”

      He was joking but I just died a little, and he saw it in my face.

    • prettylights says:

      It does stay with you forever. I still remember being in 6th grade on the bus ride home and a guy in my grade asking me for my bag of chips. When I told him no he called me a cow and started mooing. I went home to my mom in tears. Her response? “Well the next time he says something like that, give it right back to him.” LOL – It must have seemed so stupid to her (I was a pretty thin when I was a kid, but never felt like it) but obviously it has stuck with me to this day.

      • Norman Bates' Mother says:

        @prettylights – I went through a similar thing. I never weighed more than 105 pounds in my life (I’m 5’5″) but I grew up thinking I was a hippo because of stupid bullies. When I was a kid, almost all girls born in the same year as me in our rather small town were super skinny. I was thin but I didn’t have those chicken legs and I hit puberty when I was 9 years old so everyone in my school or playground called me fat. The short version of my name rhymes with fat when translated to my language so it became my nickname. It completely destroyed my self-esteem and because of stupid attempts to lose weight I ended up with a serious intestinal disease which still causes me lots of physical pain. Now I look at the childhood pictures and I see how thin I was and how ridiculous those bullies were but somehow it still hurts.

        But even if I was in fact overweighed, they would have no right to bully me or anyone else like that and I think parents should teach their children how hurtful those words are from the young age. Sadly – many children learn this behaviour from no one else but their parents.

      • Prettylights says:

        @norman Awe, so sorry you went through it too and it had such a negative affect on you. At that time my two best friends used to brag about how they were a size 0 or -1 and were super skinny, and I was always the heavier one just naturally even though I was only a size 4 in middle school. So when bullies said stuff about my weight it hit home. I also hit puberty early compared to other girls in my grade so when I started ‘filling out’ it made it worse. However, I was able to salvage my self esteem partially through a loving family who made me feel beautiful whatever my size and by the fact that since I did ‘fill out’ early I had plenty of male attention at school. To this day when I gain a few pounds it doesn’t bother me much because I’ve never had trouble getting a date and I’ve learned to be confident that this is just my natural size. But it also gave me other complexes – I got called a slut for wearing the same outfits as the other girls, only I actually had cleavage, so even now I don’t like showing much skin.

        I agree with you that children need to be taught to respect others early on. Every one is different and have different things that set them apart. When people bullied me back then I never bullied back even though my Mom told me I should – I just went home and felt bad about it. To this day I can’t say a bad thing about someone else’s appearance because I know how hurtful it is. It’s all about respecting and realizing that you could easily have been born as someone else, maybe as that person you are making fun of. You always have to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and kids (and some adults!) need to learn that early on.

      • Norman Bates' Mother says:

        I just realized I messed up the weight thing. We use kilograms here and I have troubles with pounds and stones but I was too lazy to check and tried to calculate that in my mind. I meant 120 pounds. 105 pounds is 47kg which is super thin.

    • paranormalgirl says:

      I was ginger shamed as a kid. I was always tall for my age, lanky, with red hair and freckles. And I grew up in Ireland. You’d think the Irish would embrace their gingers more.

    • Ange says:

      I was crossing the road once of an evening and had to jog a little to get out of a car’s way. One of the (many) young guys in the car leaned out and yelled ‘keep running love it hasn’t worked yet!’ I was so devastated because I had put on a bit of weight and wasn’t feeling good about myself anyway. I told my mum who was furious and she said something very true: ‘the sad thing is they will have forgotten all about you straight away while you are probably never going to forget it.’ She was right too, I was in my twenties and over a decade later I still remember that encounter. Words frickin’ hurt.

  2. Kiddo says:

    I think he sincerely apologized. I’m not a fan of beating a dead horse. Point made. If it is a pattern for Jay then rip him a new one, but I actually sense that he felt regret, and not for looking stupid, but for actually hurting her feelings. But what do I know?

    • T.C. says:

      He only apologized when attacked by fans and women. I don’t find the apology genuine. No problem with her choosing to talk about it to Extra. Like she said, she’s human and got really hurt. It stays with you. She’s in a business where women are always being pressured to look like stick figures. Men can gain weight and grow older still considered sex symbols.

      • Kiddo says:

        I see it as a failed joke from someone who was subsequently schooled. I think the two of them were z-lists, (look at the event they were at together), until the brouhaha. I’m sure it hurt her feelings, but lots of things hurt people’s feelings from unintended foot in mouth syndrome, which I’m sure I have been guilty of. If they asked her a question, it’s fine that she addressed it, as long as it doesn’t become a point of constant attention, IMO. He was stupid, the end. Hopefully he learned something.

      • bluhare says:

        He apologized with no qualifiers. That’s a sincere apology.

      • Kiddo says:

        Yep, bluhare. He didn’t pull the IF anyone was offended bullsh*t.

    • T.C. says:

      This is what he said:
      “It seems like she had a baby and said, ‘I don’t really give a sh-t” … I read it on her gut,” along with “Melissa what’s-her-name was very nice but didn’t look so great. Somebody sat in the director’s chair and was not wearing Spanx and I was like, ‘Jesus Christ.’”

      That doesn’t sound like a failed joke. That is a malicious attack on her body. His wife has had extensive surgery no doubt trying to keep up with his ridiculous standards for how a woman should look. And I don ‘t consider her a Z-lister like him. She has her own TV show and gets covered like an A-lister.

      • Kiddo says:

        Look, I’m no fan. He was an asshole, he might be a perpetual asshole. He went on Howard Stern and said all this crap, where it is expected that you say something outrageous, and he overplayed it for his own promotion, with no consideration for anyone else. I still think that his apology was enough at this point. What should he do? Kill himself? My point is that it’s fine that she addressed her feelings, but hopefully she isn’t going to make a career/promotion out of this incident. I don’t know how else to explain that.

      • nicegirl says:

        Re: look at the event they were at? Z listers

        The National Association of Stock Car Auto Racing (NASCAR) actually has millions of fans. It is an American institution. NASCAR makes buckets of money and through racing, huge amounts of money gets contributed to several worthwhile humanitarian efforts. Putting the redneck stereotype aside, the Sprint Cup Awards are a big deal.

        I can imagine that folks who consider themselves celebrities could be egotistical – and maybe the dude just got his panties in a wad because he was irritated and jealous she got to present Jimmie Johnson with the Sprint Cup Award, while he was (just) the emcee? Many of us would be jealous! His apology seemed sincere to me as well, but I don’t think that means she has to stop living her truth and sharing her feelings, especially since it happened so recently.

      • Kiddo says:

        I just couldn’t see stars with more power doing it, but honestly, the NASCAR stuff is completely off my radar, so maybe it would attract celebs of any level or caliber. I don’t hear much about either of them (Jay or Alyssa), so I didn’t think either were A-list or even B or C. I surmise that Jay was trying to be a show-off on Stern, because so much of that show used to be, at least, about women’s bodies and/or sharing some big secret about other celebrities and causing a stir. I don’t know, her “truth” is that a guy, who is almost universally seen as a jerk, made her feel bad about herself once. How about teaching some dignity and just moving on before giving any further weight/credence/attention to his stupidity? If one jerk’s ugly statements have bruised her psyche to such a great extent, as opposed to being uplifted by the overwhelming flattery and support that she received in turn, I don’t know how she has survived this long in Hollywood. Like I said above, sure, get it off your chest, but don’t make it a pitypalooza tour to promote yourself, KWIM?

      • bettyrose says:

        Ugh, his wife is a grown woman with her own career. Her response to his douchiness should have been divorce not surgery. Not to excuse his behavior but I don’t get women who enable jerks like him instead of walking out on them.

      • lady_luck says:

        I agree with you T.C. It wasn’t a failed joke, it wasn’t even funny to begin with…not one bit. That plasticised wife tells you everything you need to know: she’s with a control freak with ridiculous, superficial standards of how a woman should look, to which he is very vocal about…total d-bag.

  3. Stormsmama says:

    She’s gorgeous. F him

  4. Dani2 says:

    Jay Mohr is a d-ckhead. I think that it says a lot about you if you actually think that making fun of someone like that is funny. That’s not funny, that’s mean.

  5. RHONYC says:

    Jay Mohr who ‘jokingly’ thought to take his wife’s Nikki’s name changing it to

    Jay Mohr-COX made a tasteless joke. wow. surprising, huh? 8-)

  6. lucy2 says:

    I don’t think she needs to lose anything, she looks great. I hope she doesn’t let his baseless comments bother her too much, but I know how that feels and it sucks.
    I’m still trying to figure out where the joke was in that statement. I knew he’d pull the comedian card, but there was nothing funny or clever about what he said, it was just a mean spirited insult.

    • QQ says:

      That’s the sad shit that likely she’ll starve work out like a demon and Kardashian us in a magazine cover soon talking about “In Your Face Jay. alyssa milano skinny new life” or some such bs UGH

  7. PS says:

    Her son was born in August, something’s wrong with the last quote.


  8. V4Real says:

    She’s still hot; that’s all I got. Oh and she seems to be aging gracefully, not that 40 is aging but you know how it goes in Hollyweird.

  9. smee says:

    I pretty much see this as a publicity stunt by Jay Mohr to get his name in the news. It’s so lame – he picked a thin woman to attack – it’s total b.s. (not on her part tho)

  10. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    With my last pregnancy, I hung on to 10 lbs until I was done breast feeding my son (at 20 months). I’ve heard that’s pretty common, although it doesn’t make it any easier. I think it’s perfectly reasonable for her to be ten pounds heavier, particularly because she is in great shape and doesn’t look it. I hope she can let go of that one negative comment once she sees how much support she’s getting online and elsewhere. Everyone truly thinks she looks wonderful and most people don’t even know who Jay Mohr is (another has been trying to say something shocking about someone relevant, to stay in the spotlight).

  11. Audrey says:

    She’s so gorgeous. It blows my mind that anyone would call her fat.

  12. Trillion says:

    Jerk aspect aside, it doesn’t even work as actual comedy. It’s just not funny.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I know. I don’t understand how he thought it would be. Maybe next he can pull a chair out from under an old lady when she’s about to sit down so she falls on the floor. Haha.

  13. Hannah says:

    When I first read about the comments Jay had made, I did think it was a horrible thing to say. Completely out of line. But having read his apology mentioning “the incongruousness of my statements” I now get the joke. He obviously had his tongue firmly in his cheek when he said those things. Because OBVIOUSLY Alyssa looks amazing. She might have only read those jokes on the page and didn’t realize they were entirely ironic. Judging from her latest remarks it’s apparent that she does feel self-conscious about her post-baby figure (absolutely no need to, btw!) and thusly thought Jay really considers her fat.
    So quite unfortunate for everyone. But it’s nice that Jay apologized, he clearly didn’t want to hurt her.

    • Prettylights says:

      Agreed – I really do think he said it because she is so obviously in great shape and gorgeous. I don’t think he meant anything by it. It was a stupid ‘joke’ to make but come on, look at her – she is stunning, extra 10 pounds (in her mind, not mine – she looks perfect!) or not.

    • RobN says:

      I agree; I think it’s another instance of tone not translating.

      Regardless, she’s going to use this for all it’s worth. She’s not stupid; her name hasn’t been in the news this much in a decade.

  14. Original N says:

    It is great that he apologized but that does not alter the fact he should not have uttered those statements in the first place. Obviously, apology offered or not, his words have had a negative impact on AM (which is evident by the fact she mentions that she still has 10 pounds to lose). Her body created another human being and whilst there are some women who put on very little weight and lose it quickly, others simply do not and struggle with it, even when they exert a lot of energy to return to their pre-baby shape (for example: losing 45 pounds but struggling with the last 10). I just cannot excuse a man for making a ‘joke’ at the expense of a woman who has experienced a physiological process that the man has never experienced first hand, particularly in the vulgar and cruel way Jay Mohr utilized in an attempt to be humorous.

  15. Darlene says:

    That last 10lbs seems to be the hardest. It took me 6 years to get it off.

  16. Ruth Dunbar says:

    She looks amazing. She doesn’t need to do a thing. I was comparing her photo to the one of Kate (on the Celebitchy home page the stories are right next to each other); it’s nearly impossible to believe that this woman is a decade older than the Duchess.

  17. Amanda B says:

    Oh she shouldn’t worry about him she sleeps on a bed of money from all the Ladies Sporting gear she designs and sells.

  18. bluhare says:

    Come on. She totally threw shade at Jay’s wife. IMO, it took away from her point of being shamed to bring up his wife in her tweet. I think I know why she did it; the glass houses thing and all.

    • Chris says:

      Agree 100% ! Also, after tweeting a response, why then continue with “my Christmas was ruined”? It would have been far more effective if she was like ” whatever, I still look good even with (God forbid) an “extra” ten pounds. I had a great Christmas, gut and all”.

  19. Lisa says:

    Not saying she shouldn’t be hurt, but consider the source. Jay Mohr looks like a foot.

  20. Kelly says:

    She looks fine to me. I don’t see any extra weight. Jay Mohr should put Spanx over his mouth.

  21. Thea says:

    Alyssa is truly beautiful and she shouldn’t feel that she has to lose weight! It wasn’t a joke, the only thing Mohr is sorry for is that he got called up about it. Hope it ruins his career. Fat-shaming a perfectly normal woman like that is just awful.

  22. Happy21 says:

    Alyssa Milano you are AWESOME and BEAUTIFUL!

    Samantha Micelli 4 EVA!

  23. Lori says:

    Joan RIvers makes a living doing this. Fat shaming and attacking peoples physical characteristics. Why does she get away with it and even get a TV show out of it?

  24. Suckmyfarts says:

    I think he’s a jerk! I understand her feelings were hurt. But I’m pretty sure she gave this more attention than it probably would’ve gotten. Nobody listens to Jay Mohr nor do most people take him seriously. Also, let’s keep in mind that he probably has a different view of beauty! For example: his wife looks like a fish face! What do you expect?
    She looks good & always has! She needs to be confident & shun assholes like that! Not give them attention.

  25. Elisabeth says:

    as a Jay Mohr fan I understand exactly how the joke was told and it was blown way out of proportion and taken completely out of context. He apologized for the misunderstanding.

    • idk says:

      I don’t think this “joke” is something Alyssa is going to carry with her for the rest of her life. I mean come on, she is 40 not 14 and she knows she is not over-weight. She’s been told she is beautiful her whole life ! If, on the other hand, she was bullied as a teen for her weight, and then later in life a jerk came a long and called her “fat” then I can see it bringing up old hurt feelings, but with Alyssa this is not the case. She knows she looks amazing ! Let’s not undermine Alyssa’s strength as a grown woman. She’s not some fragile 10 year old being mocked for her weight. This is an intelligent, mature, and strong woman we are talking about. I’m sure she didn’t like the comment, but I highly doubt she cried into her pillow at night over a comment Jay Mohr made.

      • Sullivan says:

        I agree with this. A beautiful woman was called fat by one man. Legions of admirers came forward to say that the man is mean and she is not fat, she has a great body. In fact, many spoke of her beauty and how she is beloved. All this to say – she’ll live.

  26. Skye says:

    Alyssa is GORGEOUS by any standard, not just for someone who just had a baby. I can’t fathom how she still thinks she needs to lose ten pounds, but hey – her body, her business. The fact that she is also gracious and has a sense of humor makes me like her even more.

    As for Jay Mohr, it was a totally rude, asinine comment, but decent people do veer into asshole territory and make mistakes. I thought his apology sounded completely sincere – there were no BS qualifiers or hedges or “you didn’t understand me” excuses: I thought something would be funny, it wasn’t, I didn’t think it through, I was an ass, I’m sorry. If Alyssa can forgive him, it seems like we can stop hating on him, too.

  27. skins says:

    Who is Jay Mohr anyway? A z-lister at best.

  28. junegorilla says:

    Nikki Cox may suffer from some pretty severe body dysmorphia considering her frail form and her odd choices in plastic surgery procedures . I wonder what the impact of living 24×7 with a man who says such awful things about women must have on a woman with those issues. And Jay’s statements were made in a public forum. I can’t even imagine what he says when he is off camera and mic. Asshole. Alyssa is gorgeous. I am a former cutie pie who is now 47 and a size 16. I shudder to think what men must say about me is Ms. Milano gets fat shamed. EEEEKKKK!

  29. themummy says:

    I don’t know how sincere his apology was, but I don’t much care. I think what he said was just awful. She’s gorgeous no matter what she weighs, and she is a completely normal weight (even if she did have an extra ten, twenty, thirty, etc.)…and even if her weight was a little high (which it is not and never has been), it is no person’s place to comment on the weight of another person.

    I’m 5’4″ and 110 pounds. I have, in the past, struggled with disordered eating and a degree of body dysmorphia. In recent years I have truly come to a place of peace with regard to my physical appearance, but I do remember how a comment like that would have spun my head around a hundred different ways. A year or so ago someone in my family (well-intentioned…aren’t they all?) made comments about my being “soft” (I had a child in ’96 and since then I don’t care about being a “hard body” anymore…I exercise every day and eat right and enjoy my life!)… At the time I weighed 105 pounds due to some autoimmune medical issues I still have (and had both 4-pack abs and ribs sticking out…not a good look…size 0 jeans were too big…and even now size 1s are often loose…) and felt like, at my height, I could not afford to lose another pound. It didn’t stop me from feeling like I was disgusting and huge…a small version of an obese person. It’s horrible. It stuck with me for a long time and threatened to derail my recovery from body image struggles and eating habits. It hurt, however stupid the comments may have been. I feel for her that she had to experience this at all, but mostly I cannot imagine how awful it is to experience it on a world stage. He’s an ass and I hope his groveling apology was a result of his wife schooling him and him actually having a few realizations.

    Alyssa is beautiful, inside and out. Her philanthropic work is amazing. She’s an immense beauty. Jay Mohr, well, he’s probably not amazing.

  30. Seagulls says:

    Well, Ms Milano, whatever “joke” that dud was attempting, you are the opposite of fat.

    I can’t even fathom why he thought “obvious incongruity” was a reasonable excuse. I still remember being harassed on a daily basis in the seventh grade, culminating with the day he just repeated “look at those thighs, look at those fat thighs” though I was quite thin. That crap is damaging. Jay Mohr evidently functions at the level of a seventh grader.

  31. Maya says:

    Any form of body shaming is pathetic and it does ruin someone’s confidence in themselves.

    What I have noticed is that people go on and on about how terrible is it to fat-shame someone but the same people are the ones who don’t hesitate to thin-shame someone else. What I mean is when Melissa M was fat shamed by that idiot (forgot his name) many women felt horrified and attacked him (rightly so).

    But I have seen many people thin-shaming Angelina Jolie, Nicole Ritchie and some VS models by calling them skeletal, corpse etc but no one gives a damn then. Why the double standard in this? Shouldn’t it be equally rude, pathetic and vile to body-shame all types of people?

    • Jackie Jormp Jomp (formerly Zelda) says:

      People call others out for that all the dime, here.

    • Jay says:

      I see where you’re coming from, but I think in a society where thin is held up as the ideal, people don’t feel as bad calling celebrities skeletal or corpse-like.

      Body shaming is never okay, but being called too skinny is NOT comparable to being called fat. At 5’8, my weight has ranged from 110 to 150 lbs, so I’ve been told I’m too skinny AND a little chubby… chubby sucked way more in my experience.

  32. Gorgonia says:

    It’s always stupid to tease someone for the weight or the look, but it’s almost ridiculous a not at all appealing man as Jay M. said something so rude to a gorgeus woman as Alyssa. I also saw, in my life, the ugliest men are in the habits to judge women by their look, while the really handsome men don’t.

  33. Maureen says:

    We’ve grown into a society of whiners and easily-offended delicates. God help us (literally) if we ever have to experience a true catastrophe.

  34. wendi says:

    She’s gorgeous and I’m still trying to figure out where she is hiding that extra 10 lbs she refers to. I think she is having the last laugh here though as the issue has put her in the spotlight and all the attention might help her career-wise and elevate her from her D-list status.

  35. gogoGorilla says:

    I have no fucks to give Jay Mohr.

    However, while I think Alyssa has a really beautiful face and figure, has anyone been watching her horrid hosting gig on Project Runway? Her clothing, hair, and makeup are consistently terrible. Heidi Klum has always flirted with total tackiness in her wardrobe, but Alyssa just looks plain BAD. I can’t tell if the wardrobe and hair/makeup people are doing it intentionally or if they really think the end result is edgy.

  36. John says:

    Mohr needs to find a new line of work, he did the same thing to Danica Patrick:
    h t t p ://

    “Sometimes comedians go too far.”
    Pretty much any time you go after a non-comic female, they have no sense of humour for that type of ‘joke’.

    Even Sarah Silverman got all insulted when it was turned on her about her age:
    h t t p://w w

    but she dishes it out pretty good, so I don’t really care if her feelings were hurt or not.

    And Mohr’s wife CHOSE to mutilate her face and body, age and weight (read: anorexic Hollywood standards) are not choices.

  37. Brown Eyed Girl says:

    You know, i was chunky for a while there in college but it wasnt like i didnt know it either. I was okay with myself, my boyfriend loved me and i had good grades in a difficult major. i figured i would lose weight eventually (which i did)
    One day i was walking out of a 7-11 with a donut and these furry redneck landscaping guys were laughing and as I passed by one of them said “well orange you fat?” (i was wearing an orange shirt). i turned and looked at them and said “maybe, but you’ll still be cutting grass in a few years while im half your age bringing in six figures.” they stopped laughing and called me a bitch but i went home and cried even though i had told them off. I’m sure Alyssa did the same thing.

    I noticed she was a little bigger than usual in Mistresses but I think the extra weight is age appropriate and it was storyline appropriate too. Its better then her being a lollypop and putting fillers into her face to avoid looking shrunken in like all the real housewives.

  38. Kellykat says:

    Alyssa Milano is A list forever in my book. She is fabulously beautiful, gracious and talented the star of major tv shows and the creator of her own sportswear clothing line and a wife and mom of a beautiful family. This guy is a failed comic and talentless misogynist who has been called out for this barely veiled chauvinism many times which he excuses as “jokes.” They aren’t jokes, these are his beliefs which is probably why his wife has ruined her natural beauty getting repeated plastic surgery procedures and dressing like a prostitute to become a grotesque parody in a desperate bid to remain sexy for him. Many people have suggested that he hit on Alyssa and she turned him down and that’s why she reminded him of his wife in the tweet. My guess is he probably hits on women all the time and his wife is aware of it. Scum.

  39. Nev says:

    gorgeous woman.

  40. LilyT says:

    I think she has handled this with absolute class. I like her even more now.

    I think most of us, especially as women know very personally the effect that these kinds of comments can have on one’s self image.

    As a child I wasn’t overweight, but never looked anything like my stick thin peers (still don’t). Being half East African doesn’t lend itself to a super thin physique. I can vividly remember several times when attention was called to my weight, skin color or different “mixed kid” hair texture as a child. I remember once, in 6th grade, a boy I thought was was cute was trying to describe me to a friend of his.. The friend made a wrong guess, and so the cute boy corrected him “no, her friend, the chubby black one”…. I wanted to disappear and never go back to school.

    I’m 28 now, blossomed into my looks and shape in college. I even get quite a bit of male attention. Despite that, the seeds for my own self hatred were planted early, and I see so many flaws in myself. I struggle now with combined conditions, borderline personality disorder, depression and disordered eating. I restrict calories for the most part.. Today, despite being an intelligent woman with a masters degree, I’m hoping to finish the week successfully (never eating over 800 cals/day).

    This turned into a sort of cathartic rant, I apologize. Some days I want to give up. I feel that this image focused, patriarchal society is quite literally soul killing for women.. And young girls. It breaks my heart.

  41. Whoop says:

    This is just your typical PR stunt to promote her show. Yawn. And can we please rid the internet of the word, “shaming”?

  42. daniel says:

    bottom line; JM is a total douche and AM is one sexy lady. I don’t know any guy on the planet that wouldn’t love to date her (if she were single of course).

  43. magpie says:

    She is so beautiful but I think she should have gone the high road by saying she was hurt but leaving poor mutilated Jay’s wife out of it.

  44. Leila in wunderland says:

    Sheesh, there is nothing wrong with this woman’s body, and even if there was, his behavior still wouldn’t be called for. I dislike body-shaming in general, but I especially hate it when it’s either a kid, or someone who’s recently had a baby (or is about to have one). I love the sincere, classy, but assertive way she called him out.

  45. Blackbetty says:

    How did this guy ever become a comedian? He isn’t funny. Maybe instead of fat shaming women, he should be concentrating on his career?!

  46. Nroth Wset says:

    Milano, fat??And she went and ATE IT>>??Are people so out of this world that they cant think before acting?She should’ve looked in the mirror before she felt affected. We should learn to think (again), and dont depend on what people say are the ‘internet’.