Star: Jared Leto grabbed a stripper’s neck while she gave his brother a lap dance


In previous Jared Leto stories, I’ve seen that some commenters have referenced this story, or stories like it. But this is the first time I’ve ever seen it printed in a tabloid. Star Magazine has an interview with a woman claiming that Jared Leto acted… inappropriately with her many years ago, when he was dating Cameron Diaz. God, how long ago was that? Let me look… Camy and Jared dated in the early aughts, roughly 1999-2003. She dated him right after she was done with Matt Dillon and just before she started up with Justin Timberlake. So, yes, we’re talking about an incident that took place more than a decade ago. Here are the basics:

Former adult-film star Vicki Marie Taylor claims that Jared Leto is very kinky, after spending an evening with him in Little Rock, Arkansas. Vicki was appearing at a strip club when a roadie for Jared’s band, 30 Seconds to Mars (which was playing at a nearby college) invited her and three other dancers to a post-concert get-together one night in April 2002. At the time, Jared was in the middle of a three-year relationship with Cameron Diaz.

“The other girls and I stripped down to bikinis and hung out with Jared and the band backstage,” Vicki, now a mainstream actress, tells Star. “After a while, Jared invited me onto his tour bus. His brother, Shannon, the band’s drummer, was already on it and the three of us were the only people there. I gave Jared a lap dance for just a minute, but then he asked me to do the same for his brother, who was sitting on a cough. As I started to dance for Shannon, Jared suddenly grabbed me around the throat from behind and said to me, I can reach pure sexual enjoyment in 30 seconds just by looking into your eyes.’ Obviously it was kind of weird situation.”

Jared sat back down and watched Vicki lap dance his brother for 10 minutes, she claims, then the interlude ended when a roadie announced it was time for them to leave for their next gig.

“Jared is one of the stranger guys I’ve ever met… and at the time, I couldn’t stop thinking, ‘Is this how he acts with Cameron?’”

[From Star Magazine, print edition]

What’s creepier, that he grabbed her by the neck or that he wanted to watch her give his brother a lap dance? For me, the neck-grab is disgusting and the brotherly lap dance is just creepy and gross. Now, do you believe Vicki Marie? Considering this is not the first whisper I’ve heard about Leto’s need to grab someone’s neck… I kind of believe it. Plus, as Bedhead points out, Jared does do the “looking into a girl’s eyes” pick-up often enough. He was doing that throughout the awards season. Lord. I hope Lupita Nyong’o stays FAR away.


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  1. Hiddles forever says:

    Oh no he pulled a saatchi…


    As far as I know he had grabbed Elijah Wood’s neck too…

    Sorry but Oscar or non-Oscar this guy is a douche, period.

    • Bluebear says:

      Wait, wait, wait. You mean to tell me that a single 42 year Oscar winning actor and lead singer of a rock band isn’t a total sweetheart?! I’m shocked!

      No, really, I’m not. First, I like the band 30 Seconds to Mars, as does my husband, and we have been going to concerts since they played at a small bar in our town (population 12), so I’m not a Leto hater, I’m just a realist. He is single, and has been for decades, so likely he is pretty ego centric. He is also swarmed with women who think he is “the most beautiful man, like, EVER”, and that doesn’t do anything to shrink his huge rockstar head. His best friend is in the band with him (likely has the same swollen head) AND is his brother (so mummy thinks they are both amazaballs) so it isn’t as though his closest friends are keeping him grounded. He is insanely talented. He can sing, act, direct, produce, play multiple instruments, and, unlike most artists, he is making MILLIONS off of those talents. His head is just going to keep getting bigger. It really doesn’t shock me at all that he is an ass, most lead singers are as are a LOT of actors (Russell Crowe anyone?). I’ll still continue to enjoy his talents however I have never felt the need to meet him (even when they were signing merchandise in my small-town bar) because… why would I? I have no interest in autographs and meeting him holds no appeal to me as I would have nothing to talk to him about.

      • Hiddles forever says:

        Russell Crowe is a douche too lol a talented douche maybe, still a douche though 😉

      • Bluebear says:

        That is exactly my point.

      • Helena says:

        Hi Bluebear,
        What an awesome comment! I love Jared Leto´s talent and that´s it. I have no emotional investment on his person or behaviour. Same goes with every actor or rock star I like. Don´t put them on the pedestal, just enjoy the art.

      • Jayna says:

        I’m like you. I have never had an interest in meeting any band or singer I am a fan of. I have no interest in autographs or getting a meet and greet obligatory handshake and photo like 60 other people of someone I don’t know personally. One time in my life I took a meet and greet offered to me and didn’t want to, but my friend wanted me to. It wasn’t my thing and lost the photos with them and never asked for an autograph. What if someone in my favorite bands was a jerk to me. That would ruin all of my enjoyment of their music and concerts for the future. Pass.

      • His Pet says:

        Met him at a famous club in LA with my husband and Master. That’s exactly how he is.
        Whatever floats ur boat…safe,sane andCONSENSUAL!!!!

      • Lisa says:

        Bluebear, OK, so the part of your comment that really surprised me was that Jared Leto is 42??! I had to wikipedia it to be sure that wasn’t a typo.

    • Piccola Gionata says:

      I have met this guy a couple of times at their shows, and I can not tell you how sweet he is. I just find these stories strange. I know a couple of other beautiful ladies that have met him and never got the vibe of douchery. And this happened in 2002? I don’t know about this.. He dated Cameron Diaz for 3 years so if he is a freak and did freaky stuff with her, she must have been freaky too..

    • Penny says:

      I said it before and I’ll say it again, an entertainer’s bad behavior makes it hard for me to reconcile my self to supporting them or being a fan of their art, but doesn’t change my opinion. I was in awe of Jared’s performance in DBC, and that does not change because he’s an alleged douche. I may not ask for an autograph or a pic though. Instead I’ll enjoy their art from a distance unless if cringing from exposure, as is the case with Mel Gibson & Tom Cruise. So I guess I let my physiology determine how much I can stomach seedy performers.

  2. don't kill me i'm french says:

    i only can say apparently he was mean with my niece’s friend more 2 weeks ago.Her friend is a 14 years old french teen who won a meet&greet after the concert in Paris .She waited him 2 hours ,her english is bad but it was vital for him to make fun of her

    • Kiki says:

      Can you please tell us the full gossip?

      • don't kill me i'm french says:

        i was at his concert in paris recently with my niece(my present for her XMas) and her friend.Her friend won a meet&greet with the band(i was not with her in backstage).She waited 2 hours before to see Leto.
        As the musicians were nice with her (pics,autographs) as Leto(who came later) was mean with her.He made fun of her accent,her english and he didn’t want to do pics with her .
        She also met Nicolas Sirkis Indochine’s singer when she met the musicians

        my guess is Leto thinks to be edgy whereas he’s just fake and pretentious , he only has music success because he’s good-looking and in France,his fans are teen girls.

    • FLORC says:

      don’t kill me
      So sorry that happened to your neice:(
      The last interaction I had with leto was 3 years ago. Feels longer though. He was abusive and dismissive to her fans. lauched a mic stand into the crowd, and when a girl came up to him for an autograph he not only didn’t give her one, but told her how stupid she was for expecting him to sign that photograph.
      He’s just awful.

    • Dani says:

      I met 30 Seconds to Mars in like, 9th grade. He was a bigger douche back then when he was all ‘punk rock.’ Not surprising.

    • ray says:

      this really bums me out, i really enjoyed him in DBC, but he sounds like a real asshole in real life. I’ve heard about him acting real egocentric at his shows and with fans charging over the top prices to say hi to him. i saw them years ago and they did a free (how rare) signing and i tried to say hi but i was moved along like a conveyor belt and they all looked so bored. real sorry about what happened to your niece!

      • Diana says:

        blue marie
        I too stopped liking him and his band when the second album came out. It was one bad album, stupid stupid lyrics.
        He used to look so ridiculous with his designers coats in all those rock festivals…hated his voice and his pretentious answers to simple questions.

    • db says:

      What a hurtful and disappointing experience for your young niece, sorry that happened to her. I hope she realizes he’s a pretentious, self-important idiot here and it’s got nothing to do with her.

    • Isadora says:

      Wow… that’s just .. mean. See, that’s why I don’t get it why people here sometimes bitch about stars who are maybe overly enthusiastic about their fans and cater to all the crazy fangirls out there. Because I was once a teenager too (yes, long ago haha) and I have really fond memories of meeting famous people who were extremely nice even though you wouldn’t exactly expect them to be (like Kerry King from Slayer). I’ll take a star who is maybe a bit too nice over a douchebag like this anytime.

  3. paola says:

    I have to questions:
    1. Why bringing this up now?
    2. Isn’t every man kinky in their own way?

    I’m not justifying his behavior but this happened with a former pron star who gave him a lap dance on his tour bus. He’s probably used to have just ‘yes people’ around so he probably thought doing that was just fine.
    Her bad bringing it up now, it makes her look like an attention whore.
    He seems to be a douche though.

    • M.A.F. says:

      Probably because he has been under the spotlight a lot lately due to award season so these type of stories start rolling out. And now that he has the Oscar, he will be even more under the spotlight for a longer period of time.

    • I totally agree. When I read the header, I was expecting something really awful and scary, like he grabbed a girl by the throat and was violent with her. This just sounds weird and a bit eccentric, which is how Leto has always seemed to me.

      Did she have marks on her neck and did she go to the hospital? Because I’ve had dudes grab me around the neck from behind when messing around and it didn’t hurt nor was it violent in any capacity.

      I can see the slight douche factor in Leto but I think people go overboard with the hate-on for him.

      • Sisi says:

        that’s the thing though, the woman doesn’t say she’s a victim, words are put in her mouth. She doesn’t accuse him at all in the anecdote, just says that he seemed to have a kinky streak and was a bit weird.

      • AG-UK says:

        There is a lot of hate for him. I never watched that TV show so when people would say he would always be Jordan c…. I thought who the hell are they referring to, so had to google it. I loved him in Requiem for a Dream, funny in Panic room. I am sure a lot of people of some odd behaviour behind closed doors.

  4. Ag-UK says:

    Umm I don’t know why wait all this time well he is in the news I suppose. Also I have never been to a strip club but don’t they all sit there while the girls give random guys lap dances? That’s how I have seen it portrayed in movies unless it’s a fancy place that do private ones. As would he do that to Camy seriously doubt it she could kick his ass I believe. This probably why it’s best not to know toouch about any if these people. He dated Scarlet too.

  5. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Sad that someone makes a living by stripping down to a bikini and going onto the tour bus of a group of men she doesn’t know and grinds all over them and has to tolerate men putting their hands around her neck and being all sorted and bizarre. I know it’s her choice, but the whole this just makes me want a shower and makes me wish she had been taught to value herself more.

    • Liv says:

      I wish Jared and his brother would value women more.

      • It does sound like they may have a problem valuing women (very very typical of mama’s boys IMO). That being said, no one forced her to strip down into her bikini and go into their tour bus and no one forced her to give them both lap dances.

      • Liv says:

        Agree with you, but then again you will always find people who are desperate enough to sell themselves. It’s double-edged I guess – many people do this willingly to themselves, but they also almost always experience harm or things they can’t control. Also many would do a lot just to interact with a rich or famous person, which is unbelievably sad.

      • Leah says:

        @kitten Even if she is a stripper i think there is a difference between doing a lap dance and being grabbed around the neck.
        @liv Leto and his brother invited this person into their bus so this has nothing to do with people who wants to be around famous people. She was actually doing her job and Leto had invited her in.

      • @ Leah-She gave Shannon a lap dance right after that incident-doesn’t seem like she was frightened or hurt.

        Don’t accuse me of “victim-blaming”, ok?
        I’m simply trying to find the part where she claims she was hurt and scared and I don’t see it anywhere in her description of the incident.
        If you have more info beyond what is presented here please feel free to enlighten me. I’m not married to my stance on this, simply basing my opinion on what I read here.

      • Leah says:

        Calm down, I am not accusing you of anything. But You did seem to imply that because she walked into the tour bus she had no right to complain when he grabbed her neck. I simply said i don’t agree with that. Just because she is in that profession doesn’t mean men can grab her throat without asking.

      • Pardon…? Very calm here and nope you missed my point entirely. I never implied she had “no right to complain”, I simply said that she didn’t appear to be complaining to me. She seemed happy to party with a bunch of rock stars (and maybe make some cash in the process)–really not that unusual when you consider how many groupies Leto’s band has.
        She said it was “weird” not that she was scared for her life or even disgusted with his behavior.

        The response on this board is overwhelmingly reactionary and rife with assumptions. And I get it-violence towards women deserves a strong reaction, but I think people need better reading comprehension because I don’t see any violence occurring in the incident described.

      • Leah says:

        @kitten I don’t think you read my posts properly.
        Look i simply replied to your post. I posted one sentence in which i said i there is a difference between a lap dance and throat grabbing. In my second post i tried to explain further how don’t think its necessarily in a strippers job description to be grabbed by the throat. Its her choice in my opinion not his. I can’t see how this is reactionary or how it is accusing you of anything.
        I Have not used the words petrified or disgusted either so am not sure why you are aiming that at me? I understand what you are saying that she didn’t label it violence, but i also never made such a comment. I am just saying that there is a difference between a stripper and a prostitute. Many strippers don’t allow grabbing and fondling, there are different boundaries. Thats all. 🙂

      • It’s not in the job description and no one has a right to grab or touch ANY woman in a violent way or at all even, without her consent—we agree on this. I guess I don’t get why you’re bringing up “prostitute versus stripper” because it doesn’t appear that she was treated like a prostitute–they didn’t even have sex. I guess I just don’t see the relevance in context of the event described..
        “I Have not used the words petrified or disgusted either so am not sure why you are aiming that at me?”

        I wasn’t “aiming” anything at you, I was explaining that if she had said she was scared for her life or felt threatened, then my stance would be entirely different and I would be sympathetic. She seemed fine with it–that was my only point and it had nothing to do with your comment.

        RE: reactionary. Yes, I think a lot of people (never said you in particular) just read the headline and jumped to conclusions without reading her description of the event and t’s something I HATE about both celeb gossip and politics.

        I’m not defending the guy. It’s clear that he has issues, but I don’t think this particular incident is one of violence, that’s all–more like creepiness.

      • I completely over-commented here. I can have a tendency to drive my point home with a sledgehammer 😉
        Sorry if I got crazy–I do think that we share the same sentiments about men who treat women like crap and I don’t doubt that Leto is prone to this.

      • jj says:

        Give the guy a brake, he just won an Oscar, which he deserved BTW, unlike a lot of Oscar winners. He is allowed to go a bit crazy. There was a picture of him and Lupita in Paris, they seem to really like each other.

    • Anne says:

      Stop apologizing. The headline is clickbait and was bound to fire people up.

  6. Virgilia Coriolanus says:

    He’s friends with Uncle Terry–close friends. What did you (we) expect? I side eye anyone who is affiliated with that creep.

    • Liv says:

      Yep, nothing good comes out of a friendship with Richardson. Ugh! Same goes for Chelsea Handler. How can one be friends with these people??!! It says a lot about their friends.

    • Sadly, half of Hollywood is affiliated with that creep. It really doesn’t leave you with many people left to like.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        Yeah, but they’re friends. They didn’t just work together (or ‘model’ for him–gross), they know each other, and have for years.

      • I hate to say it, but I can see these two being friends.


      • FLORC says:

        They act like-minded and more like friends than through a professional or casual affiliation.

      • Marty says:

        This VC! His friendship is disturbing to say the least. Especially when Jared blows off a charity event to have dinner with him.

      • AG-UK says:

        @ littlestar
        It’s not the Oscar going to his head this was when he was seeing Cameron Diaz 2000-2003 I think

    • littlestar says:

      Virgilia, I went and took a look at the links you posted on the last Leto post. Ugh. This guy gives me the willies. He was really good in DBC, and sadly, I think his Oscar win has gone straight to his head (and I wouldn’t be surprised if he feels even more justified now in his sick behaviour towards women). And porn star / stripper / call girl / whatever, no human should be grabbed by the neck like that by another person.

      • Sara says:

        This kind of behaviour is awful. It’s probably only going to get worse, probably already has. It makes me sick when these celebrities think they can treat anybody however they want and not be held accountable.

      • FLORC says:

        The silver lining in this whole thig is now he’s on peoples radars. So, when he does this kind of stuff and mistreats others more will run to the press. He’s gotten away because he wasn’t a household name. This Oscar win will it make very difficult for him to keep up his public persona.

      • Hiddles forever says:


        Maybe he will give the Oscar back… Or launch it to a fan in a fit of rage Russell Crowe’s style lol

  7. Kelly says:

    I believe it, this totally sounds like him. He’s weird, arrogant and obviously a former (or still current) substance user. I don’t think he’s dangerous though. He says weird trite like this, mostly I think to get attention and to appear artsy and edgy to people, because you know he considers himself to be special and different from the average crowd.
    Deep down I believe he’s just a frustrated insecure teenage dude who’s still proving to himself that he can be a cool man or whatever.

    • Esmom says:

      Sounds a little like Franco, at least the artsy and edgy part.

      • Kelly says:

        man don’t get me started on him, that’s a whole other level of sleaze douchiness

      • Jade says:

        Franco is nothing like this creep, there’ve never been any rumors or gossip about him hurting women, or anything bad at all regarding women, nothing at all like what women have been saying for years about Leto. He’s also 100x the actor too. I’d rather 10 arty James Franco’s in the world then 1 Leto or Leo any day.

    • AG-UK says:

      I don’t think he does drugs maybe before but def doesn’t drink either.

    • Rux says:

      Yeah I’ve read many stories of him being rude in bed, or him having weird sexual habits ( loves BDSM, choking ) and his preference for young, “easy” ones because he thinks he can control them or impress them. It’s all about his narcissism problem.
      I wish he treated women differently, I have nothing against having fun but he seems way far from the normal fun, he’s addicted to having crowds of Yes girls around him and admiring him and it’s just supply for his ego…And I’ve read so many fans being heartbroken when they met him because he was rude… A girl fan I know on facebook told me JAREd tear her pic of Jordan Catalano into pieces and sent her away just because she asked for an autograph on that particular pic of him ( he hates being associated with My so called life ). Come on, you’re 42, not a 7 years old prima donna.
      I think he has a huge acting talent, and I like his determination and ambition, but damn I hope he starts living a healthier “love” life, it’s better for him, inside!

      • FLORC says:

        That story sounds very similar to what I witnessed in person from him.
        Not sure what the photo was he freaked out over, but someone called it a soap opera.

    • Seán says:

      @Jade, I think Leto is a more talented actor than Franco (although Franco is decent) although Franco doesn’t strike me as being as conceited as Leto is. Franco has always reminded me of that swotty kid in school who always had to show off how smart he is to everyone and throws a tantrum if anyone questions his intellect (how he got that lecturer fired). Leto on the other hand strikes me as a supremely arrogant douche! I think it has been very transparent in his Oscar campaign. The way he talks about his career and himself personally…you just know that he’s in love with himself and believes himself to be a highly creative and important person! A special kind of snowflake. I believe he loves his family and cares about transgender issues which made him come off well in his awards speeches but there’s an element of PR spin to that too! He’s also chased that Oscar for a long time…all his roles have involved doing something methody, gaining or losing weight, or even playing someone like Rayon…he knows that Academy will eat that shit up!

  8. Karen says:

    I really hope it’s realized that just because a woman does sexualized work, it doesn’t give anyone the licence to abuse her. Some of the comment above resemble victim blaming, which is disturbing…

    A couple of weeks ago, I skimmed through a Tumblr post about him and it was all about how he disrespects women sexually with some first and second-hand testimonials, it had a ton of notes. And as mentioned above, you’re the company you keep, and he and Terry R are tight. Ew.

    • What is she a “victim” of? I’m not being facetious, I’m genuinely wondering.

      ” ‘As I started to dance for Shannon, Jared suddenly grabbed me around the throat from behind and said to me, I can reach pure sexual enjoyment in 30 seconds just by looking into your eyes.’ Obviously it was kind of weird situation.’
      Jared sat back down and watched Vicki lap dance his brother for 10 minutes.”

      I assume if she was violently attacked she wouldn’t have proceeded to give a lap dance to his brother?

      I make it my policy to side with women in cases of domestic violence, but I don’t see any violence occurring in the scenario described. If she was claiming that Leto hurt her, then it would be a different story, but it seems she’s just describing an incident that she thought was odd.

      • Renee says:

        Hi The Original Kitten,

        We don’t know the circumstances of why she was doing sex work and I don’t want to speculate. Apparently statistically a lot of young women, and men, who enter into sex work do so because they are experiencing abuse at home, or have been abused. I also know that there are people who enter into it very pragmatically and state that they enjoy it.

        I know that this woman did not use language that denoted what happened to her as abusive or violent but sometimes people are attacked and they carry on as though things are fine when they a) either fear further harm b) start internalizing or normalizing things when no one comes to their aid and their self-esteem/self-worth is already on shaky ground. I doubt that anyone in that setting would have assisted her since it seems as though they were more interested in relating to women as sex objects who were there to entertain them than anything else.

      • I really do agree with your description of the sex trade industry and the women that fall prey to it. Yes, I could see the potential scenario that you described, but I could also see her getting excited to be invited into a tour bus with Leto. I’m not blaming her-hell, if I didn’t know he was jackass, I would be excited too,. Ultimately, we don’t know what we don’t know-the only info we have is her description of what happened (and from Star Mag at that :/ ). I’m certainly not judging her for being in the industry that she’s in–but I also know that women who are in the sex trade are not impervious to the dangers and mistreatment that come with it.
        They are not as stupid and naive as many make them out to be and I truly believe that she would have gotten the hell out of there if she was nervous.

        Ultimately, I feel I need more information to come to the conclusion that she was treated like shit and scared for her life, that’s all. I’m not willing to just assume that she was violated and victimized without her saying that she was.

        On a completely personal level, I feel that women who end up working in the sex trade industry are all victims to some degree.
        Conversely, there are always porn stars and strippers who claim they genuinely enjoy what they do for a living and are not victims in any sense of the word but rather empowered by their professions, so who am I to judge?

      • Renee says:

        @ The Original Kitten – I think that you and GoodNamesAllTaken are among the few who can engage with people they might have a difference of opinion with without being jerks about it.

        Back to topic though, I do agree with much of what you have stated here. I guess that I am inclined to think that he was rough with her because I have heard several other people on this site mention that they have read/heard about him being rough with women. Also, there is something about him that just gives me the creeps. I don’t like his eyes. They really creep me out.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Aw thanks, Renee 🙂 I go overboard at times but if it counts for anything, I always regret it (unless it has to do with Mel Gibson-I hate that guy).

        Yeah it’s hard not to believe the worst about Leto after reading other people’s impressions from meeting him. I haven’t looked at the Tumblr that is being talked about–I’m pretty sure it would make me mad 🙁

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Thanks, Renee!

      • Penny says:

        At Original Kitten, “…I don’t see violence in the scenario described.” As someone who knows what it is to be grabbed by the neck unexpectedly, I can say there is no non consensual type of a neck grab I would personally be ok with… That may be the PTSD talking or just plain common sense. I get that I the world of sexual experimentation and kink there may be different rules and people of the S & M cloth may be a bit more lax with boundaries regarding safety, but I believe 100% neck grabbing is always violent. I can’t for the life of me think of a single scenario where neck grabbing is a non-threatening situation. It’s just like pulling out a gun. You may have the safety on, or empty chambers, but if you expectedly point if at me, I will assume intent to harm. I am not going to wait for you to explain the safety is on and there are no bullets for me to lower my guard. I will be panicked because being threatened actives a flight or fight physiological response. A weapon –just as certain physical moves– are for impaling others and signal danger– the circumstances can change based on the person holding or brandishing it and the context may vary: acting, self defense, offense. People may get excited over feeling threatened or scared, but that’s the element of neck grabbing that arouses or is erotic for someone in the scenario described – sensing fear. Jared must get most excited by intense emotion – and what emotion is more intense than fear?

      • Penny says:

        Sorry for typos – all my discussion is in regard to “non consensual” neck grabbing and “unexpected” advances. Pretty sure you can still decipher my message, typos aside.

      • lrm says:

        Yea, I see you are saying that the situation didn’t escalate to ‘violence’ that she personally was uncomfortable with. But surely you don’t think grabbing someone by the neck is normal, ordinary behavior??? It is a violent action any way you you look at it….Every person has their own boundaries as far as what they will continue to do for money or sometimes they are shocked/stunned in the moment and don’t know how to act or react, so they just continue what they are doing rather than leave. And then the moment was over and she moved on. Regardless, there’s nothing subjective about a total stranger grabbing you around the neck and saying suggestive things like that. Unless she had signed some agreement that it was part of her ‘role play’, it doesn’t really matter if she felt threatened or was a victim in her own mind. THAT is violent behavior. We don’t grab other peoples’ necks as a customary social behavior!

        Funny thing is: I had never heard of Jared Leto or seen him, until this DBC and all the coverage on Celebitchy. That’s the only way I would have known about him. I don’t know jordan catalano and never heard of this band, either…hah!
        I love when i hear about egotistical douches that i’ve never heard of. Irony! (: Too bad-he is very cute/beautiful. and he doesn’t age, it seems….

    • Renee says:

      Thanks for posting this Karen. I was just coming on here to write the same thing myself.

    • treefingers says:

      I agree with Karen. I can’t believe that some comments here seem to infer that working in the sex industry somehow makes you culpable for sexual violence inflicted upon you. If somebody chokes you without your consent, it doesn’t matter who you are or what you happen to do for a living, you have the right to kick up a fuss.

      • Where does it say she was choked?
        I didn’t read that part…

      • treefingers says:

        Oops, my bad, “grabbed around the throat” – sorry, when hands grab throats I can’t help but equate it with choking. Honest semantic mistake.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I’m not trying to be self-centered, but I hope you’re not interpreting my comment that way. It makes me sad that a woman would resort to making her living by stripping and selling lap dances, but I never meant to imply that her doing so meant she should or would have to tolerate or was somehow responsible for abusive behavior on the part of her customers. I do think she’s probably in vulnerable situations more often than most women. That’s part of why it’s sad to me.

  9. AHAHAH says:


  10. eliza says:

    I do not believe anything Star magazine prints. He could very well be an asshole but because it is in Star, I chose to ignore it.

  11. name du jour says:

    If it’s ‘not the first whisper’ anyone’s heard about him grabbing someone’s neck, it seems to me that neck-grabbing would be a safe story to make up. As opposed to, that being the proof that the story is true.

  12. babythestarsshinebrite says:

    I can’t imagine an adult film star being bothered by a little kinkiness. Jared’s nice to look at, but I agree that Capita should stay far away!

    • Jessica says:

      I’m sorry, how in the hell does her profession have anything to do with being uncomfortable with being grabbed without giving consent? Just because she’s an adult film star doesn’t mean he has the right to grab her by the throat without asking. That’s not kinkiness, that’s assault.

  13. Kali says:

    That neck grab story sounds like the intense “artistic” douchecanoe that most women end up dating at least one of between the ages of 17-24. Ugh. *shudder*

    • Yup. They were a dime a dozen in college (I went to art school so you can imagine).

    • Kali says:

      @TheOriginalKitten: I had film school and then a brief *cough3-4yearscough* period of trying to be an actress. Good god, if I could take back the time I mooned over idiot intense creative types, I could’ve cured cancer by now.

      @Leah: Kinda my point 😉 the fact that he’s pulling the kinda game that teenage/college dudes are doing doesn’t speak well for him (in my opinion).

  14. Jaded says:

    As noted above, he’s friends with Uncle Pervy, Terry Richardson. I’ve seen some disturbing pictures of Jared at his studio in some pretty revolting group shoots. He’s def into the sado stuff. For that reason I can’t appreciate his acting talent or his Oscar or his heartfelt speech to his mother because he hangs with a very rough male crowd that seem to get off on degrading women and photographing it.

    • don't kill me i'm french says:

      his Golden Globes speech was bad (full of himself in bad way)

    • FLORC says:

      I think Leto is very much the same as Cruise, Gibson, and any other actor that lead a double life. Double in the sense that their fans adored them and then stories of abuse and terrible behavior came out.

      • don't kill me i'm french says:

        Leto’s mean behaviour with the women is on the fans’forums since a long time.
        Even Trent Reznor (NIN’s leader) never had a so bad reputation in 90’s

  15. Addison says:

    If this story is true, I find it creepy.

    I also find that scarf and those shoes creepy.

    • Chris says:

      The shoes look like he stole them from Michael Jackson’s closet.
      Also, getting tired of attractive men bedecking themselves in flowy scarves (looking at you Johnny Depp).

  16. UghInsomnia says:

    There have LONG been groupie tales of him being extremely into choking. Even in his lyrics he talks about it.

    • Rux says:

      Yes he is neck obsessed. Control-anger issues, I guess. He seems frustrated inside but manages to play a very decent public persona, especially lately.

    • Jayna says:

      Well, then Brandi Glanville will be perfect for him. Wait, but she’s too old for Jared. She’s almost 41. She talks about letting men choke her during sex to speed up the happy ending if they are taking too long to get off, even to the point of her blacking out sometimes. I can just see it now, her boys being asked how their mom died. During sex.

  17. Chris says:

    “I can reach pure sexual enjoyment in 30 seconds just by looking into your eyes.”
    HAHAHAHAHAHA. To me, this is the most offensive thing about the whole story. Total Cheese. Pure Velveeta. If I were her, I’s still be laughing 10 years later.

    • Rux says:

      LOL I hope she laughed at his pretty face and answered “Yes honey, whateva”

    • Miffy says:

      I was just coming here to comment on that line, praise Spiderman someone else noticed!

      Is that supposed to be a chat up line? For real? It just makes me think eye contact causes him to prematurely ejaculate. Hot stuff, indeed!

  18. smee says:

    What the hell does he have on his feet in the photo with the blue scarf?! By far the creepiest thing about him.

  19. Size Does Matter says:

    Nothing good has ever happened in a strip club in Little Rock, Arkansas. That is all.

  20. Rux says:

    “I’ll wrap my hands around your neck so tight with love”. He even says it in his douchey songs.

  21. FingerBinger says:

    These comments are so funny. On Oscar night and this whole awards season everyone thought Leto was the best thing since sliced bread now he’s a “douche.” Some of you turn on people fast. LOL

    • Jaderu says:

      I’ll just leave this little quote from “The Animal” here for ya. 😉

      Sgt. Sisk: Stay with the mob.
      Mob Member: Stay with the mob. All right.
      Sgt. Sisk: Right.
      Mob Member: Hey, hey, hey, I got another question. Hey, uh, doesn’t this guy deserve a fair trial?
      Sgt. Sisk: You – back of the mob!
      Mob Member: “Back of the mob”? What? This is my spot! I came early!
      Sgt. Sisk: Okay, *out* of the mob!
      Mob Member: Ah, this mob blows.

    • UghInsomnia says:

      He did a douchey thing between then and now, thus the change in perception.

    • Bridget says:

      His rep for douchiness has been around for a long, long time, he just cleaned himself up for the Oscar season. Not a nice guy.

  22. Miffy says:

    Anyone else think that with that hair and those sunglasses that if he shaved and whacked on some red lipstick, we could be looking at Khloe Kardashian?

  23. Penelope says:

    Yawn. She’s looking for her 15 minutes.

  24. Jane says:

    He just seems like the biggest douchebag. So gross.

  25. Haley says:

    As a 30 seconds to Mars fan I’ve met jared and Shannon a few times before and after shows and they were nothing less than pure gentlemen. I find this kind of hard to believe.

    • Jaded says:

      There’s a petition going around, which I have signed, to have Terry Richardson removed as photographer from some of his more fashion lucrative contracts. This was about 6 months ago. I actually forced myself to look at some of his more offensive ‘private’ photographs, which Leto was featured in frequently, and dear God they were awful. Violent, misogynistic, sick, sick, sick, So he’s been on the douche/kink radar for a long time, not just because it’s Oscar season.

      • Rux says:

        Daamn I wish I didn’t make a google search for those pics, I saw a really “too much private” picture of Jared by Terry shared on twitter on 2012…ehm ehm! I mean he published that pic ON TWITTER?? without problems?? Wow he must love showing off more than I imagined. I can’t believe it.

  26. Lark says:

    I’m kind of torn on this. While I hate to have some doubt when women say things like this, the thing is these “rumors” about Jared only came out AFTER he publicly admitted being into rough sex and did that S & M esque music video. I just think these stories would have come out BEFORE that if there was a lot of truth to it…..That said I understand why people are suspicious considering he’s tight with Uncle Terry. I’m not saying he’s not a douche, I’m just eyeing the timing of the rumors.

  27. pirategirl says:

    I’ve heard lots of stories about Leto being rude, disrespectful for years. It made me think of my past, I’ve dated two different men unfortunately in my mid 20s who both were very close to their moms and adored them, total momma boys, but treated other women including me with total disrespect and were abusive. Both were into the choking thing (I was not, it scared me) and other violent things I won’t mention. Thankfully I’ve moved on to a much nicer man….but it does make me wonder if some men (not all of course) like them and Jared Leto who are very adoring and close to their mothers, seem to treat other women with almost contempt, like they are not good enough, and beneath them? While not all people who are into the choking act mean that they are abusive, I know when I experienced it, the man did it to really hurt me. It seemed to make him feel powerful, and he enjoyed the fear that came from me, as if feeding off of it. Just an observation.

    • Rux says:

      I am happy you’re with a lovable man now, really. You know what creeped out the most when I read fangirls experiences? One of them said she was like 17 or 18, can’t remember, but I do remember perfectly that JARed asked her to scream out loud she was 14…it turned him on. That’s a huge control issue, + some anger management and definitely a narcissistic personality disorder ( they experience sex mainly for power ) . Maybe he’s not like that with older, self confident ladies, cuz they could criticize him and reject him. That’s why he’s not very much into serious relationships and women his age, in my opinion.

      • pirategirl says:

        I think you definitely hit the nail on the head Rux! And that must be why he is still single at 42.

    • Addison says:

      Oh gosh, how scary for you. Glad you are in a safe relationship now.

  28. Rux says:

    I only want to add that the “not very nice in bed” rumors by some groupies and fangirls were written in blogs few years BEFORE the famous sado song-video, I’ve read the date of posts and they’re all quite old. That’s why I think some of the stories we can read now are true.
    However, I have never imagined him being the romantic type.

  29. Jayna says:

    A guy getting a lap dance in front of his brother is weird? Not in a band after a concert. If you were a well-known band and you were in your twenties and getting high and had tons of groupies and dope, what went on on tour buses and/or backstage right after the concert and/or after parties was anything between groupies giving BJs in the hallway after a concert to just outright debauchery at after parties. Sitting on a tour bus and passing around a girl for a lap dance isn’t even scandalous for a band after a concert compared to all the other stories I’ve read about bands in books or articles.

  30. Jayna says:

    Depeche Mode has quite a few S&M songs because the songwriter, Martin Gore, was into S&M. He seems like such a sweety that I can’t imagine him choking a woman, though. Spanking, tying up, whips, etc, yes. I think he might be the kind that likes the woman to have power over him from even some of the words in some songs that indicates he likes to be dominated by the woman. Fans got into an argument one day saying songs that I never thought of were about S&M in their catalogue, but I think the fans finding S&M in far too many of their songs were into bondage themselves so looked for it. Most fans didn’t see what they saw because Martin wrote a lot about love and the pain of love emotionally. But I realized you could take their music any way you wanted. He never discussed what his songs meant,

  31. BettyD says:

    The common denominator seems to be utter self-absorption. I’ve always wondered why Cammie digs the guys who really only dig themselves.

    • Maureen says:

      You seem to have nailed it perfectly.

    • Denise says:

      They’re usually very charismatic so that gets them in the door, and unattainable in a truly intimate way, they don’t let you get too close which keeps you wanting. Cammie thinks she’s hot stuff and will get them to commit but it doesn’t happen. She simply chooses the wrong men over and over. She knows it. Ultimately it’s her decision so I guess she’s not ready for a good guy.

  32. Faith says:

    Just because someone is kinky doesn’t mean they have problems however this sounds like an utter dick move on his side just because a woman is in underwear doesn’t mean its ok to touch them.

  33. Helena says:

    Here´s a bit of rockstar factor to you all. Take it as it, a fantasy to the artist and his fans. What happens in a real worls might be something different all together. It´s crazy to confuse these too together.

  34. It'sJustBlanche says:

    No offense to the woman in the article, but having lived in Little Rock at the time, I can assure you that the strippers in the surrounding area are not your Vegas or LA quality ladies. He must have been desperate for some companionship.

    • Maureen says:

      Many male sociopaths actually like this type of woman. The “trashier” she is, the more he can justify his ill treatment of her. In other words, he wasn’t desperate — he chooses this type. Trust me, it’s a sociopathic trait.

      • Alina says:

        yes it´s also called “doing a Charlie Sheen”

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        Plus when men are trolling for some strange, they could care less about what the woman looks like–as long as she has two legs and a heartbeat, they’re good.

        I’m remembering some pics, maybe a year and half or so ago, when Fassy was pap’d outside some bar, drunk. He had a woman with him, from the bar–she was white, blonde hair, blue eyes, easily looked about ten to fifteen years older than she really was because she smoked (I’m guessing)—Fassy likes darker skinned girls. But he was strolling, and booty is booty.

  35. Naddie says:

    Weird, but not surprising; he does have this histrionic way in his singing and video clips. Histrionic people are good to stay away from.

  36. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    This is the best that Mary-Kate Olsen has looked in a long time. The french dude is agreeing with her!

  37. Corey says:

    I’ve always been leary of men who are into this type of umm thing…to me it almost feels like they can’t just be with a woman….there has to be something weird or taboo attached to the experience.

  38. LAK says:

    Not to judge, though I am doing so, but isn’t it hazardous to go with a stranger even if they are famous?

  39. Denise says:

    Choking during sex (not real choking but hands on the neck, you decide how firm you want it) is not unusual at all, there’s a whole culture around it. James Deen (the porn star who did The Canyons with Lindsay Lohan) has made a career of doing that and looking straight into the other person’s eyes right up close, during that and other things. Jared Leto probably gets action so often he forgets there are boundaries, in that the ‘choking’ should be consensual, not sprung upon someone. Even a porn star giving a lap dance to your brother on your tour bus. Ew.