So what is the ‘deeper truth’ behind Gwyneth Paltrow’s ‘conscious uncoupling’?


There are about a bajillion pieces of new (“new”) information about Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s “surprise” split. Surprisingly, none of these stories come from Vanity Fair! Page Six had a lukewarm story about how Graydon Carter screwed the pooch on that one, and how VF should have doubled-down on the Gwyneth tell-all. Lainey at LaineyGossip has been dropping in some interesting information into her coverage too – her sources seem to be saying that Goop has been fooling around with “lawyers and showrunners” while Chris fell in love with someone else. I don’t think the mystery woman is Kate Bosworth. We’ll see though.

Radar says that Gwyneth is “in the midst of a mid-life crisis, obsessed with her physical appearance.” But I don’t understand when Goop was NOT obsessed with her appearance. She’s one of the most superficial celebrities out there. But Radar’s sources are tying this mid-life crisis to her move back to LA and turning 40 years old. Sources also started whispering to the NYDN yesterday, saying:

“This news should surprise no one,” a source close to the pair told Confidenti@l. “They haven’t been a couple for a number of years and have been pretending for the sake of the kids and each other’s careers.”

Another source close to the couple tells us Paltrow and Martin almost called it quits in August, but decided to give it another shot. News of the separation follows a rough stretch, rife with speculation that the marriage was in trouble. Early last month, secret-sharing app Whisper reported that Paltrow and entertainment lawyer Kevin Yorn had been carrying on an affair.

Paltrow’s rep Stephen Huvane vehemently told Confidenti@l at the time, “It’s completely false.” A rep for York echoed those sentiments, claiming, “It’s categorically untrue.”

Similar claims were long rumored to have been at least part of the problem with a prospective Vanity Fair article. The magazine’s editor, Graydon Carter, agreed not to run the story after a heart-to-heart chat with Paltrow.

[From the NYDN]

As I said in the original breakup post, if Gwyneth and Chris had split up circa 2011, I think people would have expected it more. Back then (and 2009-ish), they really seemed to be going through some big relationship crisis. But I honestly thought that they had worked through their crap. Guess not.

As for that whole “conscious uncoupling” thing… well, it wasn’t just some pretentious hogwash that Gwyneth made up on the spot. It’s this artsy-fartsy term for “breakup” that was pioneered or exploited by Goop’s friends, Dr. Habib Sadeghi and his wife, Dr. Sherry Sami. The basics, via ELLE:

A “conscious uncoupling is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument [within a marriage] was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing,” they write. “From this perspective, there are no bad guys, just two people,” they say, expanding on the blame-free, “it’s about people as individuals, not just the relationship” theory.

Jeanne Byrd, a coach in the Conscious Uncoupling method, [was contacted] for a little more clarification. Apparently the method can be traced back to one woman, Katherine Woodward Thomas, who developed it in 2010. (She’s currently writing a book about it, which is certainly good timing for her.)

Conscious Uncoupling, Byrd tells me, is a five-week course, though it takes some couples and individuals longer to complete it, naturally. (“Some couples get stuck on week one for three weeks,” she says, like she’s all too familiar.) The method upholds that there are three “power bases,” which are your relationship with yourself, with others, and with life, and that you need to understand all of them to get to the “deeper truth.” The relationship with yourself is often trickiest for people to pin down, but it’s central to how Conscious Uncoupling relates to divorces and separations. “It’s not the fault of one person,” says Byrd, or even as simple as any overt betrayals and injuries from one person to another.

Instead, in a relationship, “Each party has brought to the dynamic a set of patterns that they’ve been living inside of for years,” she says, and those things contribute to the downfall whether they realize it at first or not. The Conscious Uncoupling method, then, involves addressing those things and their impact on a relationship. “Like, say, someone had been cheated on. It’s not as simple as black and white. The other party would want to address if they had done anything to contribute to that. If they had been withdrawing,” Byrd offers.

[From ELLE]

It sounds like the fancy, elitist way of tossing all of his clothes into the front yard and setting them on fire. But sure – both parties are to blame and there is a “deeper truth.” That truth? That Chris and Goop were bored rich people who were screwing around on each other consistently for years, probably.

PS… The Daily Mail has another excellent theory: Chris was tired of Gwyneth’s constant dieting and how she forced her food issues onto their children. He wanted the kids to be able to eat junk food sometimes and, you know, not be starved of carbs, diary, etc.


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  1. Meme says:

    Stupidest divorce announcement ever. Goop is such a pretentious beeyotch.

    • Mel M says:

      Exactly, s/he knew what they were doing when they released that stupid statement. She knew no one would know that conscious uncoupling was some made up break up “technique”. Does she really think people are like “Oh wow, look at Gwyneth and the sophisticated, educated, classy way she’s handling her divorce” puleeeze.

      • kri says:

        “Conscious uncoupling” sounds like you had a sex accident, and the ER had to help”separate” your sex parts from your partner’s. FFS, just say “We are divorcing, as we both enjoy whoring around” or something. And I bet she has a HUGE Vanity Fair cover & feature within 3 months.

      • Green Girl says:

        @Kri – LOL, so true! It’s a really weird phrase to use.

        I just hope this announcement doesn’t start a trend with other celebrities. I want to stick with the terse “We have decided to separate, but will continue to be good friends. Please respect our privacy at this time.”

      • Meredith says:

        After reading the description of it, the concept sounds pretty interesting. I’m a divorce lawyer and if you could get couples that are uncoupling to do this, it would be great. But feelings are often so raw for the first six months that it’s impossible. And I doubt GOOP will be doing anything reflective in the near future especially if it involves looking at her own faults and mistakes.

      • Heather says:

        Meredith, thank you for your comment. I am a lawyer too – I don’t deal with divorce – but I see how nasty it is all the time in the legal realm. If this gets people to start going through the process more thoughtfully, rather than acting full out psychotic and mean per usual, then good for Goop.

      • DrM says:

        @kri – my thoughts EXACTLY. Her Royal Head Up Her Own A**ness went to VF and promised them a tell all scoop if they killed the article about her wandering vag/his wandering dong/food issues/general dysfunction etc. Ugh that is one article I wouldn’t read if you paid me.

    • Meri says:

      I truly hope James Franco and Seth Rogen release a statement that they too will be trying this “Conscious uncoupling” technique. 🙂

    • ol cranky says:

      even more pretentious than I thought. IDK how we all missed her interview with E! in which she said: ““I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it’s not like being on set,”

    • ParisPucker says:

      Perfectly stated.

  2. Quinn says:

    I think living with Goop for years on end would probably make me consciously homicidal.

    And- this marriage probably HAS been over since 2009. No real news here. I’m sure Martin finally said enough is enough.

  3. Jaderu says:

    I’m actually a little underwhelmed by the split. I mean we all knew it was coming but I thought there would be more juice to it. It’s early though and some blond starlet may make her appearance yet *cough* Hudson.
    I feel bad that I want this to be dirtier.
    No. Not really.

    • Annaloo. says:

      I also saw some articles linking Gwyneth to her ex Donovan Leitch, who is now estranged from his wife Kirsty Hume. Here’s alink to the always reliable Daily Mail– but other people have covered it too:

      Whether this is legit or not, and whether we want it or not, I think we’re going to see a lot of crap coming out of the cracks on these two pretentious a-holes . It’s basic couples therapy 101 that “it’s not one person’s fault” why the relationship is in trouble – so they are not the first ones to discover this, as much as they’d like to think.

      I agree that the world is looking at them as two idiots overblowing the smoke around them. People get divorced or “consciously uncouple” everyday. I’m sure Apple will give us details about this split when she inevitably steps on the world spotlight to go into acting.

    • HappyMom says:

      Actually the rumor is that he’s in love with Alexa Chung, ended it to try and do a last ditch effort to save his marriage. So I’m guessing they’ll be out in the open shortly. And who knows if Goop is still with the Glee writer/producer (who has subsequently ended his marriage.)

      • Heather says:

        Woah HappyMom, is that what Lainey is referring to – his relationship with Alexa?!? Pretty juicy. I thought he preferred them young, blonde and skinny. Alexa is super skinny and young – so I guess 2 out of 3! Cannot see her being a step mom, but then again I really don’t know her!

    • Nina W says:

      This thing is going out with a whimper, neither will surface with new blood anytime soon. Conscious uncoupling, you know?

  4. The Original G says:

    OMG, he’s as pretentious as she is. His incredibly inflated view of his music. His refusing to be photographed with his wife. These two are pretty unlikable and have been sleep around for ages. No mystery and no loss here.

    Remember that blind item a while back about a movie star with few female friends who invites one of her last ones and her kids over for a play date while in England? Movie star goes out on an errand and friend sleeps with husband. It was widely discussed to be Angelina and Gwen Stefani, with Angelina doing Gavin.

    Well, I didn’t believe it but now I’m throwing shade on Goop, Chris and Kate Hudson.

  5. Lia says:

    Hopefully, Martin will feed the kids normal foods when he has them, and let them focus on things more important than their appearances and trendy possessions.

  6. Lucy says:

    It’s Alexa Chung. Lainey has dropped pretty big hints

    • tifzlan says:

      Isn’t Alexa Chung with that Arctic Monkeys frontman? I haven’t heard of her cheating on or breaking up with him so i’m not sure.

    • starrywonder says:

      I still think it is Kate Hudson based on the blind reveal yesterday on BlindGossip.

    • Em says:

      I am not sure Chris is cool enough for Alexa. Kate Hudson I could totally see happening but she is still with Matt from muse.

      • mimif says:

        I’m not sure Lainey would be that obvious, unless she’s got proof…then she can claim firsts.

    • Tapioca says:

      You can’t split from Gwyneth Paltrow for being too emaciated, superficial, pretentious and self-obsessed and then hook up with Alexa Chung, who makes Gwynnie look like Britney Spears, the Cheetos years!

      And seriously, have a read of Alexa Chung’s book *cough* – it makes Pippa Middleton’s magnum opus seem like War and Peace…

      • Tatjana says:

        A friend of mine talks about that book all the time. What is it about?

      • Ally8 says:

        @Tatjana, it’s like a scrapbook put together by a stoner: hazy photos and lazy musings. She “wrote” it in the form of emails to her editor.

        She’s a style savant, but her showing-up-to-the-openings-of-envelopes lifestyle sure isn’t turning her into a brainiac.

    • Talie says:

      The Daily Mail is spilling the tea on Alexa now — and that is probably their 200th article about this divorce since it happened. They are having way too much fun with this! Ha

  7. MollyB says:

    I’m no fan of Goop in general but I find it a little annoying that the press is tripping over itself to blame Gwyneth entirely for the split. Chris Martin seems like a dismissive, cold a-hole that Goop spent a long time trying to keep happy. I think the blame here is at least 50-50.

    • Renee28 says:

      It’s more fun for people to call her pretentious and insufferable than to admit he might bear some responsibility for their split. It would be miserable living with either one.

    • decorative item says:

      I’m with you on this one.

    • Mrs.Darcy says:

      +1. He is every bit as organic try hard as Gwyneth, ok maybe he feeds the kid junk food but it’s probably just a Dad trying to win favor/shut them up. He is super preachy about his causes, with his hand scribbles and gaffa tape and what not, I actually think he and Gwyneth were well suited were it not for the infidelities brought on by their lifestyle/constant travelling/being attention needy skanks. I v.much doubt Gwyneth cheated pre-Bosworth, something tells me there was a v.cold war in the house after that and G felt she had carte blanche. Imagine the indignation a mere mortal would feel being cheated on, then times it by a million – the fact it was (allegedly) a C list actress even bonier than Gwyneth must have been the highest insult he could have paid her. I foresee Gwyneth making a huge play for films now that maybe she wouldn’t have when she was married.

    • Addie says:

      I agree with this. Everything about him was being jealous of her attention and trying to suppress her. So glad she had the courage to cut him loose. IMHO this conscious uncoupling BS is therapist speak and the way she needed to rationalize letting the prick go. Maybe its the only way she saw to get out on her own terms, which included him as a coparent. I hope she meets the love her life now – that can change a lot for a person, including feeling more relaxed about the way you look.

    • Helvetica says:

      I totally agree. Everyone is making her out to be the bad guy. It doesn’t seem like he’s really supported her over the years, whereas she has always had his back.

      Divorces suck. They (Gwen and Chris) should keep quiet about it and let it be.

    • jjva says:

      yeah, that sound bite from awhile back where she said that when they’re mad at each other, she just gives him blowjobs … that actually made me feel really bad for her. (And I have irrationally disliked her for a decade-plus.) Apologies in advance if anyone on CB handles their issues that way, but that just did not sound like a healthy relationship of equals to me. She never said, if you’re mad, go down on *each other*, you know? Combine that with the stuff about how he’s a sensitive moody musician and … ugh.

    • Nina W says:

      I agree, he’s checked out on the relationship and it was obvious, she seems like a very committed partner and parent. I’m not saying they don’t share equal responsibility but it’s definitely not all on her.

  8. Kiddo says:

    I beg to differ, it was pretentious hogwash and it still is.

    • doofus says:

      lol…and I agree!

    • mimif says:

      It’s amazingly pretentious hogwash, Kiddo. 😀

      • Kiddo says:

        Personally, I’m a strong proponent of the ‘unconscious uncoupling’, where the couple gets drunk, flies to Vegas for a quickie divorce, initiated through an Elvis-impersonator-attorney, and no one can remember what went wrong with the marriage. Equally as valid, right?

      • mercy says:

        LOL! Maybe that comes after the conscious part. 😉 I know I would need a drink or two (or ten) after going through sessions with these ‘coaches’ making fancy worded excuses for the obvious.

  9. LadyMTL says:

    I’ve never been a rabid Goop hater but sometimes she can come off as so pretentious that I just wanna smack her in the teeth. I’m not saying that’s the reason they split but yeah, she can be annoying as f*ck.

    I wouldn’t be surprised if there was cheating on both sides, tbh.

  10. Hawkeye says:

    What this split has really crystallized for me is how her star has faded. She peaked in the late 90s/early aughts when she was in her 20s – she dated the hottest men, had the coolest friends, had her choice of film roles and won an Oscar. Now she’s doing dance numbers on Glee, riding the money/relevance train of Robert Downey Junior and Marvel for her role in the Iron Man movies, operates a website that sells a bunch of sh*t that exactly no one needs, and has a a hair blow drying parlour with Tracy Anderson. I mean, I’m the poor here and I feel bad for her! When you put it all out there, she goes from It Girl to paying some doctors to explain on a website how meta her separation is that it needs a new name… dayum, Fate, you cold as ice.

    • gloaming says:

      You hit the nail on the head…..But It’s not over yet though. She’ll get a few good Magazine covers and TV interviews out of this.

    • Tatjana says:

      Her career seems pretty good to me. Especially for an actress of her abilities. How many actresses in their 40is are hitting it big right now?

      • V4Real says:

        “How many actresses in their 40is are hitting it big right now?”

        I wouldn’t say Goop is hitting it big. She had a supporting role in the IM Franchise but nothing much is going on with her movie wise. I know she has some movie coming out soon but her career isn’t what it used to be. Halle Berry career is still better than Goops and of course Sandra Bullock’s career is still going well. Here are some other ladies in their 40’s that are still going strong. Vera Farmigo, Juilanne Moore, C. Diaz, Jennifer Aniston, J. Roberts, Melissa McCarthy, Naomi Watts, Salma Hayek, Sofia Vergara, Cate Blanchett, Viola Davis, Toni Collette, Tina Fey, Leslie Mann and Diane Lane. Goop career is no better than these ladies. It just appears that way because she stays in the media but not for acting.

      • lucy2 says:

        I agree w/ V4Real, there are a lot of actresses of her age group that are doing quite well, even if it is tougher to find roles.
        I think the problem might be that she’s never shown a huge talent like some of them, and isn’t as relatable/likable as others. She stepped away for a bit for her family, which is great, but was never someone everyone was dying to see come back – especially once she started really expressing her pretentiousness.

      • Tatjana says:

        But, when you take out the ladies that do comedies, which Gen usually doesn’t, you’re left with a just a few. Has Salma been in a good movie recently? And I can’t think of the last time I saw Diane Lane.

      • Annaloo. says:

        My Korean immigrant grandma knows who Kate Winslet is, but she doesn’t know who Gwyneth is. If my grandma doesn’t know who she is, she’s not big! 🙂

      • hazeldazel says:

        Especially when you consider that her role in the IM franchise was entirely due to RDJ pretty much begging the studio to give her the role.

      • Violet says:

        Well, actually all the oscar best actress line up was conformed with 40+ women with them all having critical and comercial success with their movies. And Cate Blanchett (the one who Goop won over an oscar 15 years ago) has had the best year of her career winning her second oscar when it is difficult to do when you are in your forties. Also Sandra Bullock had two of the two grossing movies of the year all sold in her name, not to mention was nominated to an oscar for sci-fi movie. So yeah, compare to them and many others Goop’s career since 2005 is not that remarkable.

    • Mrs.Darcy says:

      I agree her status has lessened, but I do think she took a back seat to Chris’s career to raise the kids and exercise four hours a day though. I don’t think they would have been able to raise a family with both of them travelling a lot, they are not as bohemian as Brange, much as Gwyneth likes to put herself forward as hip to every trend everywhere. I think she “settled” for the Glee part as a means to show off her multi-talented self (cough). I think she still has very powerful friends in Hollywood and will attempt to stage a comeback of sorts.
      I could be wrong, but I do think she compromised most in the marriage and now she will be in L.A. with kids in school/nannies to pick up the single Mom slack (or even Blythe, where is Blythe? She so seems like a hand the grandkids back to Mommy with poopy diapers sort of Grandma!). Methinks Harvey W’s phone will be ringing, curious if he will be picking up for a 40something though. It won’t be easy, but I would never understimate her. Sure, she has alot of internet ignomity, but there are people like me who grew up with her as the 90’s It girl who wouldn’t mind seeing someone besides Jennifer Lawrence get a meaty role.

      • Pumpkin Pie says:

        I love the “to exercise four hours a day” part, LOL!
        But I don’t get that impression of Blythe Danner like that though.

      • Mrs. Darcy says:

        I like Blythe as an actress, but did you see Gwyneth’s Who Do You Think You Are? There was a really tangible iciness between them I thought. And I’ve just never seen her photographed with Gwyneth and the kids, I could be totally wrong of course.

      • Xas says:

        People, don’t forget before winning the Oscar, Gwyneth was Harvey and Miramax golden lady. She made Emma, Shakespeare in Love, The Talented Mr. Ripley and Sliding Doors and she was considerated for other roles like The Hours -Julianne Moore role-, Cold Mountain -Kidman role- and The Aviator -Blanchett role-. Actually it was her post Oscar career sans Miramax that came terrible – Bound, Shallow Hall, Duets, View from the Top-.

        A series of critical and commercial flops as a Lead Female Star put on hold her career. Proof was supposed to be her big return -John Madden was directed again, Miramax production and starring veteran actor Anthony Hopkins and the young promise Jake Gyllenhaal-. Too bad for her the film was released at the time that Harvey and Cynthia Schwarztman -The PR of the Oscars- left Miramax and GOOP was alone on the trip. 2005 was the weakest race in Best Actress in YEARS, GOOP even received better reviews from her detractors and still she failed to make it.

        Maybe she has motivation to be a full mom, but it’s remarkable to considerate her decline came exactly at the same time Miramax came to end -After Harvey departure in 2004-. Without his guardian angel and mentor, GOOP career suffered a set back. I think, if one of those things wouldn’t happen -Especially Harvey and Miramax united-, maybe GOOP could have make a meatier career.

    • Annaloo. says:

      I agree.. she’ll get a lot of press mileage from this bc people will want to know how someone whose life seemed so perfect couldn’t keep her marriage. If the world’s most “beautiful woman/luckiest girl” in the world couldn’t do it, what hope is there for the rest of us plebians?

    • Ag says:

      @hawkeye – all excellent points.

    • Nina W says:

      I read the situation so differently. I see a former star who has been on hiatus and now made herself relevant and known to a whole new generation of fans. Yes she is long in the tooth for HW but Iron Man and Glee are nothing to sneer at, both are cherry roles to whatever starlet snags them.

  11. PunkyMomma says:

    Who doesn’t get crabby when cutting down on carbs? It’s a wonder he didn’t bop her with a head of arugula and claim the “Twinkie” defense.

  12. Kitty Cat says:

    So Chris and Alexa Chung, huh? I wonder if he’s still in love with her?

    • Liv says:

      Lainey suggested today that the new Coldplay song is about her…who knows, but if everything Lainey dropped about her is true, then I’d say he’s still into her.

  13. Hiddles forever says:

    Conscious uncoupling lol there is an interesting article on the Washington Post about how she borrowed the term from a marriage counsellor (who denied to have them as clients though).

    I have no idea about deep truth behind their split. Any divorce ends for many reasons, not just one. They were probably fed up with each other for good.
    What did Goop say a few months ago? “A couple stays together until both people agree to get a divorce” (or something along these lines, I don’t remember the exact wording)


  14. Christin says:

    Wealth, boredom, too much time on their hands….Probably a lot of factors, actually.

    Her dietary fads probably did wear on him, too. I spotted a can of spray cheese at the grocery this morning and remembered the funny comments on here the other day. And, in full disclosure, I bought a can myself. 🙂

  15. Jedi says:

    Lainey gave a hint yesterday about who Chris fell for – Alexa Chung. Which is so random.

  16. Bridget says:

    Vanity Fair really did drop the ball on this one. I’ll gived GOOP credit, she ended up making Graydon Carter look like a hack.

    • V4Real says:

      I’m sure he’s somewhere in a corner having a mental breakdown about it.

    • HappyMom says:

      I don’t know. I kind of think he’s getting the last laugh here.

      • Bridget says:

        VF thre down that gauntlet months ago, and just 2 months after they back down, everything comes out? The cheating, the fact that Paltrow and Martin were separated that whole time? VF prides itself on being quality journalism, and they got completely outflanked. They)ve missed out on what could easily turn out to be the biggest Hollywood story of the year.

    • starrywonder says:

      Yeah they do look like fools now. Next time go hardcore against Goop VF.

    • magpie says:

      Yeah, that was really dumb…I think they had some juicy shit and somehow Goop got them to cut the story. Now it’s ALL gonna come out and they look like cowards for killing the story. Maybe they can still run it.

  17. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    It irritated me when Ms. Conscious Uncoupling said that if there’s cheating, the person cheated on should examine how they might have “contributed” to that. I’m not saying that each person doesn’t perhaps contribute to a breakdown in the relationship, but it’s the cheater who decides to handle it by breaking their marriage vow. It’s not like cheating is an automatic reaction that a person has to employ when a marriage is troubled. My first marriage was troubled. I handled it by trying to fix it. My ex handled it by cheating, drinking and becoming more and more abusive. I know I sound defensive and all it wasn’t my fault he cheated! But it wasn’t. That was his decision. So buzz off, Byrd.

    • LadySlippers says:

      Yup. I agree GoodNames.

      I get that a lot of relationship troubles are reflected in behaviour in either partner. But that doesn’t mean *all* troubles are and blanket statements are never good. For example, abusive (whether domestic or mood altering substances and behaviours) people need to take full responsibility for their abusive actions. There is no ‘shared’ decision or ‘shared’ responsibility in that aspect.

      So some does not equal all.

    • mercy says:

      Thank you! That’s what bothered me, too. Anyone can come up with reasons to justify their cheating, but that doesn’t make it ok. Work to fix a relationship, or leave if it can’t be fixed. At the very least, be up front about the desire for a non-exclusive relationship so their partner isn’t blindsided, (though I still think that’s unfair, especially if there are children involved.)

    • Hiddles forever says:

      @goodnamesall taken

      I totally agree with everything you said. Usually even in abusive relationships the abuser makes the victim believe he/she is at fault for the abuser’s behaviour. Blaming your cheating on the fact that the marriage was already broken, hell no… Just get a divorce if you don’t want to make it work.
      Can we send a conscious slap to Goop?

    • lucy2 says:

      That bothered me too. I don’t think there’s ever a good excuse for cheating. If the other person has withdrawn, perhaps try to find out why, and fix it or help them through it, rather than run off to see who else you can find.

      • LadyZenArcher says:

        I agree w/you but if you’re gonna cheat, I say do it because you know your relationship is dead, the person you’re with is crazy and you want to get out.
        My aunt cheated on her husband of 15 years. The marriage was dead but she didn’t want to divorce him until the kids were older. She apparently carried on with this guy for 6 years and immediately married him when the ink was barely dry. We all come to find out my ex-uncle had a side piece fora super long time as well. They were both unhappy but wanted to stay together for the kids but at the same time they build super solid relationships with other people with made it easier for them to tolerate one another and focus on the kids. Her and the ex have no animosity and get along super well. So while I don’t agree with what happened, in the end I think it’s about whether or not those two people actually can get along, be good parents and be mature people. JMHO

    • anon33 says:

      So agree with everyone. I HATE that defense…”oh the relationship wasn’t going well so I cheated, oops, silly me!”


      • AmandaPanda says:

        +10000000000 to this.

        If you cheat on me, I’m afraid you lose the option of me thoughtfully reflecting on my own behaviour. Regardless of how badly someone behaves in a relationship, you don’t cheat. I would be FURIOUS if I went to couples counselling with my cheating husband and the counseller came out with that shizzle

    • Nina W says:

      It’s classic blame the victim BS, he wouldn’t have hit you if your face wasn’t in the way!

  18. Talie says:

    Blind Gossip says Kate Hudson.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I thought she was married, she said naively.

      • Pumpkin Pie says:

        No she’s not. And I read somewhere that she supposedly does not want to marry the muse guy because she wouldn’t want to give up parts of her fortune in case they get a divorce. That’s what I read, I am not saying true. But it does make sense, sort of. They have a kid though, so the situation would be more serious.
        Was she ever married though?

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I thought she and the Muse guy got engaged a few years ago, but I guess they never got married and I just assumed they did.

      • Hiddles forever says:


        If I don’t remember wrong Lainey wrote a couple of articles about Hudson and Bellamy and stated their relationship was dead already…. What a coincidence with this announcement.. This was just a few weeks ago….

    • mollie says:

      Blind Gossip said that yesterday, but please tell me if I’ve lost my mind, the solved item is gone today!

  19. lovegossipbutnotL&E says:

    All I see is that hand!!! Omg….lol 😀

  20. gogoGorilla says:

    I don’t find it at all surprising. Very few celebrity couples make it for the long haul. I really hate that pretentious statement, though. (Was a statement even necessary? I mean, it’s not like they’re ever photographed together. This makes me think something big got out and we’re going to be seeing some photos in the tabloids soon.)

    Also, I’ve seen a lot of couples split up in this fashion: big crisis, lots of work, a surface smoothing of things, then one or both of them realizing that it’s not working. Divorce. It’s a pretty common story.

  21. frisbeejada says:

    The only ‘deeper truth’ is a massive PR campaign to try and save her ‘shiny happy brand’. She’s spent years convincing us peasants her poo smells like roses in a life of unremitting perfection – which was always bollocks. Now she’s just trying to save the ‘image’ with this complete nonsense of ‘conscious uncoupling (I can barely type that for gagging) – too late methinks. Wouldn’t it be nice if she just went away quietly and stopped bothering us civillians (wistful sigh)…

  22. theredone says:

    I am so sick and tired of everyone bashing the Goop for every little thing she says and does, especially in the comments on this site.. Yes, she has her faults, we all do. Her fault is that she’s rich and elitist, but you can’t blame the woman for trying new things and new ideas when it comes to how she eats and where that food comes from. I’ve known plenty of “peasants” who eat as she does (and not because she said so) and have their kids eat that way as well and they are all perfectly healthy.
    I think a lot of you bash her because she does talk about it and it makes you question your own dubious eating habits. Eating healthy and clean is no easy task when you’re busy and the cheap easy choice is always right in front of you. I work full-time and am going to school for pre-nursing and I have the time to eat clean, cook/make my own food and occasionally do a cleanse. I can’t take the easy, cheap way out because I have food sensitivities to soy, gluten and corn syrup. It’s these sensitivities that’s lead to severe anemia (everything else was checked). It takes discipline and getting your priorities straight as to what’s important to you…cheap and easy or a long healthy life that doesn’t involve medications for cholesterol, high blood pressure or Type 2 Diabetes.
    I have never once heard her say or read on her site or in any interview she’s given that her way is the only way it should be done.
    I also don’t recall her saying that her marriage was ever perfect. Most of the soundbites from her about marriage always seemed to talk about how difficult marriage is.

    • starrywonder says:

      Um you know you don’t have to read the comments on the articles right 🙂

      And I bash her because I think she is a pretty meh actress. Seriously besides the Iron Man movies that is probably the only thing I have ever liked her in. Her “acting” is sub-par when you compare her to other actresses in her age group (thinking of Kate Winslet, Sandra Bullock, Amy Adams, etc.) She had such a bad reaction to winning Shakespeare in Love because even she knew she only got that cause of Harvey W and being one of his girls. Her career was pretty flatlined until Iron Man.

      And I guess I started to dislike her after she started proselytizing about a diet for everyone that very few people could afford to actually partake in. If I had a chef and unlimited money I could eat organic food perfectly cooked at all days and times. And I think her website where she shows clothes that 95 percent of the population cannot afford is just a bit much.

      People of course are going to chat about what broke up her marriage. I am not getting a sense of satisfaction about it, since I bet Goop could give a crap what a peasant like me would have to say about her life anyway. She is married and it didn’t work out. I guess I don’t feel bad for a woman who flat out has been cheating right along with her husband and doesn’t seem to have a problem not going after married men (see examples of why she fell out with Madonna, Beyonce, etc.) So to wrap it up. Goop kinda sucks.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Right, we don’t like her because right now, we’re all washing down our Doritos smothered in Cheez Whiz with bourbon and cokes for breakfast. You and Goop remind us of this, so we make up fake reasons not to like her, such as how she has a new “healthy” way to eat every week that’s usually really bad advice, and that she contradicts herself constantly about what she does and doesn’t eat. Excuse me, my pork skin nachos are ready. Gotta run, I mean walk.

      • Jaderu says:

        GoodNames, everyone knows you pair Doritos and Cheez Whiz with Boone’s Farm Country Kwencher.
        Bourbon and coke?!?! How uncouth of you.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I was out of Boone’s Farm. Sent the hubby to the store for more, in addition to some cigarettes and more pork rinds.

      • Hiddles forever says:

        I was having a custard cream doughnut.. Well maybe two…
        Is Goop running after me? Oh wait I am peasant, I don’t count 😉

      • jjva says:

        Oh well *played*.

    • mercy says:

      Some of the GOOP hate is over the top, but sometimes it seems like she is almost courting that kind of attention, or completely oblivious to it. I’m into cooking and health, and I like to shop, so I do enjoy reading about some of her ‘discoveries’ and ‘finds.’ But her obsession with Tracey whatshrername and stuff like colon cleanses? No thank you. That’s not promoting healthy living. Quite the opposite. And most of the products she promotes are simply a waste of money, even if you have it. She needs a good editor to filter out the junk.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I agree. I actually used to subscribe to Goop for restaurants and recipes (back when she claimed she ate whatever she wanted and was friends with Mario Batali) and shopping, but then she got all colon cleansy and I just got bored with it.

    • Kiddo says:

      If you like her, that’s okay. People goofing on Goop are not making an indictment on your life style choices. I never hated her. But in her delivery of most things, she provides for good comic relief, because she has created a cliche, or caricature of a herself.

    • pru says:

      Actually, I do think I’m entitled to fault her for being an elitist.
      I’ve been to her website and get her newsletter because I find GOOP amusing, with a good idea mixed in every so often. She pushes her healthy eating/diet hard, without ever really seeming genuinely concerned about the health of her readers. There is very little advice about how to incorporate her lifestyle suggestions into the middle class, mid American lifestyle. The unconscious point she seems to be making is that those that can’t afford her $300 per day diet don’t really matter. So critique/comment/bash away, I will.

    • Nina W says:

      She has no education and she dispenses health and nutrition advice right and left despite being anemic and osteoporotic. You may find her delightful but I find her annoying and slightly dangerous. Cleanses are by and large useless and unhealthy. It’s nice that you feel being super judgey about food choices makes you a better person but really it just makes you a bully.

  23. PHD gossip says:

    Anyone care to think about how bad Goop’s breath must be? Anytime I go on a low carb diet, even for a few days, I have to stop because of the awful breath. I notice it on others all the time – the awful dieter’s breath.
    Chris Martin must like it – he went from Goop to Kate Botsworth (even worse breath).

    • Annaloo. says:

      Her mouth must be a mess. I remember seeing pics of her face during the opening of the blow dry bar in LA and there was a huge chip at the bottom of one of her incisors. Dieter’s breath, crumbling teeth.. no wonder Chris left! jk

  24. talullah rex says:

    Good to know that there is some sort of therapy program called “conscious uncoupling”. I was going to accuse her of über-elitist behaviour again. You know: “you peasants, your divorce is all unconscious and superficial, my separation is well meditated and deeply understood”…
    Nah, she is being full of it again. Just the choice of adjective is over the top. Like people go through divorces out of boredom or sillyness. It usually – especially with kids- is painful as hell.
    Just get rid of the euphemism: you are divorcing, bitch.

  25. mercy says:

    Sometimes the fault does lie mostly with one party, but I don’t think that was the case with these two. They didn’t take the time to build a solid foundation before they jumped into kids and marriage. Had they given themselves more time, they probably would have discovered that they weren’t right for each other. But I think Gwyneth was vulnerable and focused on starting a family after her beloved father passed, and Chris was impressed by the attention from the popular girl and wanted to be her hero. With that said, there is no excuse for cheating on your spouse, and it does seem like Chris was the first to stray (with Bosworth.) I don’t care what his reasons were, that’s a crappy thing to do to a woman who put her career on the backburner to move to his side of the world and give him children. Sure that was her choice, but he seemed to apprecate it at one time. To toss all of that aside for a fling with the likes of Kate Bosworth had be a blow. It sounds like the latest rumours are pointing to Alexa Chung as his new side piece. He really has bad taste, but at least these women were single. You would think Gwyneth would have avoided getting involved with married or attached men after her own experience of being cheated on, but it doesn’t sound like she did, at least in one case.

    • starrywonder says:

      I agree we don’t know what was the final tipping point but based on what Lainey posted those two had an “open” marriage. However he was only supposed to get involved with civilians I guess. She apparently was messing around with friends husbands which to me makes them both equally suck.

      • Annaloo. says:

        Look at this clip of alexa Chung interviewing Gwyneth. Do you think she was messing around with Chris at that point? The body language is a little nervous, if not a little hostile from Alexa. Gwyneth looks like she has no clue, or maybe she’s a better actress/shiller than I realized.

        They both have HORRIBLE voices!!

    • Breakin2 says:

      He cheated before Kate Bosworth. Lainey had the story eons ago. Before Bosworth was Nathalie Imbruglia and before that was someone in London not famous. Those are the ones Lainey had confirmed so who knows if there were even more than that.

  26. MrsBPitt says:

    I realise that sometimes when people “uncouple” its not one person’s fault…but I am getting so sick of this entire crap (not just divorce, but everything, lately) that nothing is anyones fault…nobody is ever to blame for anything…thats why people don’t take responsibility for anything these days…

    • mercy says:

      Agreed. There are always ‘reasons’ and I think they’re worth discussing in the context of trying to improve relationships, learn about ourselves, and avoid making the same mistakes in the future, but when they’re used to make excuses for bad behaviour I think it does a lot more damage than good.

  27. Monkey Towz says:

    I made a conscious uncoupling with alcohol a few years ago b/c it made me a raging, irrational bitch. Just call a spade a spade! Divorce is sad and hard, but it doesn’t make you a failure.

  28. Ag says:

    i think us peasants call these deep, mystical reasons “cheating.” it’s not the larger universal forces at work, goop, it’s your and your husband’s fault.

  29. Jen says:

    I sat at the table next to them and their son during breakfast at a trendy Venice restaurant back in August of last year. They barely spoke a WORD to eachother and looked fairly miserable. Gwyneth looked kind of tired and was hardly wearing any makeup. Chris kept looking around smugly to see who was looking at him, of course.

    • Esmom says:

      “They barely spoke a WORD to eachother and looked fairly miserable.”

      That’s pretty common if you look around at couples at restaurants. Except the part about the guy looking around to see who noticed him, ick.

  30. Em says:

    Before Chris was famous he really liked a friend of my older sister. She turned him down. They all thought he was nothing to look at back then. The guys first serious relationship was with Gwyneth, even he has said he had no luck with women.
    He married the first serious gf and was probably in awe because she was kind of big deal back then. Then as his band got bigger he literally had women throwing themselves at him. Not just groupies but Hollywood starlets. I think it was inevitable, most rock stars divorce I guess. I also think the power balance in their relationship shifted as he became more and more successful and she stayed home to look after the kids. Gwyneth spoke as if she just gave in to him because of his ” artistic temperament” as she called it.

    • Esmom says:

      Yes, he was most definitely a late bloomer who eventually had his pick of groupies, that had to be weird for Gwyneth. And if I remember correctly Gwyneth rejected him for quite some time for that very reason. Which is why I was surprised she eventually married him, my impression was that maybe she had no other prospects at the time so she gritted her teeth and settled.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Interesting. Maybe it all went to his head.

  31. Abbicci says:

    Maybe this is just Goop’s next brand phase and Chris was finally done. Mix in some cheating, too much real estate ,friends who are sick of being name dropped and the shilling like a Kardashian.

    At some point in aspiration lifestyle branding you have to let people in to all the details of your life. The over sharing may have been too much for Chris. I always get the creeps when stars share photos of their homes. Your home is your sanctuary, the one place you can take off the armor you have to wear every day to protect yourself out in the world. Once that armor is off you get to share your true self with the people you love. Goop sees her home as one more way to sell herself and her brand. Chris had to buy the house next door to get some privacy.

    Next will be the dog and pony show with the kids and the dating and being a single mother.
    When you are a lifestyle brand you don’t have any privacy, everything about you and your life is monetized. Your relationships, your home, your children. It all has a price tag.Once you are a brand there is no separation from yourself and what you are selling.

    On a side note, I just saw Thanks for Sharing. Pink was wonderful and Goop played herself. A body/food/ exercise obsessed, judgmental twat.

    • Not many seem to be talking about the fact that they stayed together for their careers (and their kids, of course) long after they were through. Think what you will of Lainey, but she does a good job of showing that the entertainment business is just that — a business — and part of that business is personal relationships.

      It makes me wonder what other A-list couples are through, but haven’t worked out their re-branding yet.

      • Abbicci says:

        I’ve just started reading Lainey. I do find her perspective interesting. I like how she frames things.

      • mercy says:

        That’s the rumour, and it would be easy to assume there is truth to it for a variety of reasons. But not everyone is the same, even in the entertainment business. Lainey is running a business, too. She has her own agenda. It remains to be seen how she or other bloggers would hold up under similar scrutiny. And I’m sure she wouldn’t appreciate being lumped in with reporter for, say, InTouch, just as I’m sure there are celebs who don’t share the same values GP and CM are rumoured to hold. I’m sure for many, their children would be the biggest consideration.

      • Liv says:

        You have to take Lainey’s perspective with a grain of salt. Sometimes she tries to shove certain celebritys down our throats – like Blake Lively. I can’t help but think that she has hidden agendas. I don’t know. But I agree with her on many things. She, for example, points out that many celebritys share their private lifes with the public and make money out of their kids, but go furious when there are unauthorized shots of them.

        And I believe her hints about Paltrow and Martin. Like The Blower’s Daughter said – it’s a business and we all know probably damn little about how much all of them are messed up.

      • kc says:

        Lainey has pretty consistently stated that she isn’t as interested in the celebrity as much as how the celebrity machine works. Most of her posts are about the motives and behind the scenes of the situation, not the situation itself. She reports more on the situation than the celebrity, and she makes sure she can corroborate her stories or blinds. Reading her posts are interesting for the perspective, although I do not follow numerous people she posts about. And I respect her for refusing to cover the Kardashians and reality tv people.

      • MeetMyUserName says:

        @kc Not everything she has reported has been “corroborated.” She is cozy with certain publicists who like to have their client’s names out there and feed her both shades of truth and utter fiction. I’m sure she is cool with this as it is part of the “celebrity machine” itself.

    • Kiddo says:

      I don’t know much about Martha Stewart (other than the jail stint and that she has a daughter and some dogs). I think it’s possible to separate the truly personal from the brand, but it depends on what you’re selling. Goop was selling her marriage and personal life as part of the brand. Martha was food, entertaining and crafts. Goop could have stuck with food, exercise and clothes.

      • Abbicci says:


        Martha used to be able to separate. Now she is going on morning news shows to talk about her online dating profile. For years Martha kept things pretty quiet. Even her divorce was a big splash, then not a peep. I think the market has changed so much. Daily blog updates and the new crop of sellers, like the Pioneer Woman and others like that have made it more difficult for people to be private.

        ( And there is a world or difference between keeping something private and keeping something secret, because they can all keep secrets.)

        From what Martha Started to what we have no are night and day. It is interesting to watch it play out.

      • Kiddo says:

        Ah, okay. I didn’t know that Martha went down that road. I am pretty task oriented in terms of finding answers on recipes, colors, ideas, etc. on the internet. I’ve never looked to any gurus for consistent life advice. Maybe I saw one or two of Martha’s shows, or excerpts of her on other shows, but didn’t follow her.

  32. Irishserra says:

    “Conscious uncoupling is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument [within a marriage] was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing…”

    Biggest pile of $*** I’ve read all day. Anyone who’s ever been with anyone else for any length of time knows that irritations and arguments are just a part of being with someone else. The most successful relationships have irritations and arguments, just like the unsuccessful relationships. You either decide to stick it out and work on the relationship despite the irritations, either choosing to overlook them or reaching a compromise regarding same; OR you decide it’s not worth it and move on.

    Sounds like Dr. Habib Sadeghi and his wife should sign up to go on tour with Oprah. They have some things in common.

    • jjva says:

      Yeah, this is some crap. I’ve been married almost nine years now, and it’s true that *sometimes* if I’m irritated with my husband it’s a sign for me to look deep inside myself and nurture my special inner snowflake child … but *sometimes* if I’m irritated with my husband it’s because he’s being irritating. And vice versa. As you said, Irishserra, successful and unsuccessful relationships alike have arguments and irritations. It’s really not nearly as complicated as all this ridiculous “conscious uncoupling” b.s. is trying to make it seem.

    • Nina W says:

      Yeah it’s psycho-babble, shrink-speak. You’re either in or you’re out and you don’t need professionals to make the call. Marriage isn’t for everyone and if you want your marriage to last you have to stay committed to having it last.

  33. bella says:

    Hands down funniest post I’ve seen on the split.
    Credit: Ashley Doonan “This sums up Chris’ reaction to split.”

  34. Kelly says:

    Too bad they can’t consciously understand the deeper unconscious truth – they’re too selfish and in love with themselves instead of each other to make any long lasting relationship work.
    Then again, most celebrities are.

  35. mzizkrizten says:

    So… wait, its a 5 week course on how to divorce? Or is it a form of counseling to see if you should divorce? I actually like the term… wish I’d known it in my 20s. It does sound like a more sophisticated way to dump someone ha

  36. Bella says:

    Lainey mention english fashion it girl, that girl is Alexa Chung. In a music festival they were hanging together, there is an instagram of a fan that took pics with them and she mentions they were buying milkshakes together. Kate bosworth is old news, he might had an affir with her but years ago she is not the new it girl. And Kate Hudson I dont know maybe they hooked up randomly but she is not an english it girl and she still is with Matt.
    Altough alexa is way too thin and maybe obssesed by being skinny, I think she is much more relax and easy going in her personality and not so anal like Gwyneth.

    • Evelyn says:

      I think Kate would have left Bellamy if Chris Martin wanted to date her, but he chose Alexa. That is why we are now seeing pictures of Kate and Matt.

  37. Duchess of Corolla says:

    I have always had a good feeling about Chris Martin. Never knew why he was with Dame Gwyneth. Of course, that’s based on absolutely nothing…

  38. Jaded says:

    And in other exciting news, my cat coughed up a hairball this morning.

    Seriously, two of the most self-obsessed, pretentious, sanctimonious and boring people on the face of the planet. I’m surprised they made it this far.

  39. InLike says:

    While the movies are pushing for more “female power”, this just screams “When I am an older woman with kids, leave me for a younger woman”.

    Bit of trickery running amuck. If this turns into a trend there are gonna be a lot of “uncoupled” and lonely older women out there.

    Sounds like a man wrote this article. I do however hope the best for her. She’s a pretty and loyal woman.

    Ahhh the ideal male society where women think they are in control, but they all just end up “uncoupled” and unknowing pawns to the new man’s world of men being even more superior, whilst the women are being told the whole time “no, really honey…….you are in charge (but not really )”


  40. BRILLIANCE says:

    Isn’t Alexa is dating Rob Ackroyd from Florence And The Machine ??

  41. Luca26 says:

    ‘Unconcious uncoupling’ belongs inside a marraige counseling room or a self help book. Someone who is educated and trained and has experience,tact, and practical sensitivity should talk about these things as a goal for separating couples. Goopy has none of these things which is why it sounds like an expensive appliance.

    • LadyZenArcher says:

      Is it just me or does it bug you when celebrities try and give medical, nutritional or psychiatric advice? I take things Gwyneth says with a grain of salt. She isn’t a certified nutritionist, she isn’t a psychologist, she isn’t a doctor. She reads lines off a page for a living. What gives her the right to preach to me about my health. I’ll ask a health professional. She throws out these terms and she has no f—ing idea what they really mean just her own uneducated opinion.

      • Nina W says:

        It is not just you, I cannot stand the “free” advice available from all the know nothing’s in HW. I don’t turn to any celebrity for advice on anything. Just because they are in a position to be heard does not mean they say anything worth listening to.

  42. Alexis says:

    Hmm I find Alexa Chung an order of magnitude more likely as a splitting force than Kate Hudson (Chung is cool and British and has a different look than Gwyn), but I think more likely it’s the old they grew apart and hate each other now rather than some distinct “the other woman/man” story.

  43. bsh says:

    Who would want to bang that walking skeleton?

  44. Leigh says:

    While Lainey’s tidbits are vague, she’s at least added the detail that this thinner-than-G-fashion- It-girl is British, so I think we can safely assume she’s not referring to Bosworth, who is American.

  45. Mrs.Krabapple says:

    Her face looks really different in that top photo.

    • Christin says:

      She really knows how to appeal to the masses, doesn’t she? Working two or three weeks a year (making more than most make in years), with plenty of money for help. Yet she thinks an office job is better because of the predictable schedule (52 weeks a year)? Clueless.

  46. Kay says:


  47. dread pirate cuervo says:

    I know the Goop can be extreme with her food choices, but if he doesn’t like chicks that diet, he probably shouldn’t have married a movie star. Looking good is part of her job.

  48. LadyZenArcher says:

    So I’ve been reading for awhile, but never really took the time to comment. But this story is too good to not comment. I’m gonna warn you I throw my opinion out there and it’s probably wrong. I am not refined in the art of gossip. I know a lot of people think it started with Chris and Kate Bosworth but I wouldn’t be so sure. I just think that Lady Paltrow (sounds good for a refined snob like her right?) has always been more discreet about such things and less sensitive to her partners. Maybe Chris started cheating because he figured out she was? It could happen. But I think she is going to become a brand new Demi Moore in obessively chasing that youth dragon. I totally see her going in that direction. She’s nauseating and I don’t like harping on a fellow woman but I can’t imagine she is easy to live with. I just feel sorry for the kids having her as a mum.

  49. magpie says:

    That “Magic” song is coming out at the perfect time!

  50. anne says:

    Good word, did you guys see her latest insult to working women and Moms everywhere? How her life is harder? That sums up the woman for ya! The worst, my friends tease me because I hate the B word (though do curse 🙂 and NEVER gossip at ALL in “real life” but trust me when I and they have said for years just how awful this particular woman is. Those all over are rejoicing that Chris finally made it official and kids are so so relieved. Chris deserves love….and why men choose these horrid women over fantastic ones sometimes is so strange. His case, just too young and married her cause pregnancy. So glad again he has more than paid his penance. Sad because he truly loved her at beginning and tried until she really started upsetting the kids. Hold on to your hats, her PR team is yet again working 24/7 (as is her ego) on the spin and after this cruel comment she made (check it out) is fighting to reign her in 🙂

  51. Aria says:

    I lost all respect for Goop when I read her comment regarding working moms. Such a m*ron! No wonder why nobody likes her!

  52. prayforthewild says:

    Oh the Fail is pointing at Alexa Chung! CM will get all the blame if Goop has her way.

  53. Emily C. says:

    Oh look, she’s giving yet more bs artists a platform.

    Everything they are saying is wrong. It is utter nonsense. Human beings are incredibly adept at choosing what we want to do with our own lives. It is not against evolution to be monogamous. Being unable to stay faithful to one’s spouse is not somehow a pre-programmed thing, and it is most definitely not acceptable if one has promised to remain faithful. But Goopy never ever ever does anything wrong ever, of course. She’s just able to embrace her humanity so much more than anyone in a happy, monogamous marriage — or a happy open marriage for that matter.

    This crap is right up there with the fraud Tracy Anderson and Goop’s own deeply unhealthy food and exercise advice. I have no sympathy for anyone who doesn’t even have the guts to say, “I’m getting a divorce and it sucks,” and has to instead spin it as something inevitable in the human condition. Because Goop could never, ever make a mistake.

    The highest divorce rate among any population (except, probably, celebrities) is 40%. The lowest is 25%, among women with an independent source of income and at least some college education. As for Goop, I feel sorry for any man who gets entangled with her. I know nothing of Chris Martin; maybe he’s just as much an ass as she is, though that would take some doing. But at least he doesn’t go around spreading lies under the guise of a “lifestyle” website.

    • Patty says:

      Emily I completely agree. We all make choices and can choose to be monogamous. People do it every day.