Cameron Diaz on feminism: ‘I am not looking to have all the things men have’

Cameron Diaz

These are some slightly dated photos of Cameron Diaz, Kate Upton, and Leslie Mann at the German premere of The Other Woman. I didn’t cover them until now because there was very little interest for either the London or Amsterdam fashion posts. In Munich, Cameron wore a tight little Emilio Pucci mini-dress that was too ornate. Kate went with a red Fendi number that was her best dress of the tour. Leslie looks absolutely amazing in an ivory, cowl-necked, satin dress by the row. With her glamorous waves, she scores my vote for the evening.

Cameron’s been doing most of the talking for this press tour. That’s not surprising. Cami loves to talk. She will talk about her vadge hair and theories of universal cheating until commercial break. Cami did a new interview with the Sydney Morning Herald. Her main topics of discussion were women supporting women and feminism, sort-of. Cameron seems really afraid of the f-word. She dances around her idea of feminism quite a bit:

About The Other Woman: “What women need are more women in their lives. We understand each other. It’s a film about a relationship between three women. [Revenge is] honestly not the focus of the movie. It’s a part of the movie, but the movie itself, I felt when we were making it, is really about these unlikely friendships.”

Does she enjoy revenge? “It’s a waste of energy and time. It’s one of those things that society gets caught up with. It’s instant gratification. We’re addicted to that, but it’s a waste. When you get cheated on, you have to move past it.”

Is she a feminist? “I am not great with labels. I am not a person who likes to put labels on anyone. But in terms of what you can have and what you can’t have, it’s all relative. So, what are we fighting for? What do we want more of? If we are fighting to have what men have, is that really what we want?”

More on labels: “There are certain things we should all have: male, female, straight, gay, whatever ethnicity. Basic civil rights we should all have, absolutely. And we should never stop fighting for that. But representation in film? [That’s] not life or death. We can still live those stories, we can still keep building our own understanding of women and our relationships, and can still, in life, be engaged by those things and not see it on the screen for it to proliferate. There are certain things I’d concentrate on, as a human being, rather than a feminist. As a woman, I am not looking to have all the things men have. As human beings, we should all have what we all deserve. I will always fight for that. But whether I feel women are under-represented … I feel there are a lot of ways I can spread that message, and a lot of ways I can be engaged to help people understand that it’s something I think is important.”

On competitive females: “Women are taught that we’re supposed to be pitted against one another. I never grew up that way. I was not drawn to women who were competitive with me. Any time I did, I found myself broken-hearted. [So] I just decided that as soon as I felt that from another woman, I’d go the opposite way. We live in a society where women are self-sufficient, they can take care of themselves, and what they need are more women in their lives. We understand each other, we know each other, we can be compassionate towards one another, the same way guys are ‘bros’ and ‘buddies’ together.”

Staying real despite fame: “It’s all about who you bring into your life. There’s plenty of [false affection] out there. And I could be engaged with that if I wanted to. But I am just not drawn to that, I am drawn to authenticity and real people. I can sniff fakers out real quick and I have always been able to do that. In the past, whether or not they stayed in my life because I allowed them to, or for my own purposes, is one thing or another, but at this point in my life I am not interested in that and it’s not something I have to worry about.”

[From Sydney Morning Herald]

Cameron at least has a better grasp on the definition of feminism than Miley Cyrus (who thinks being able to degrade her dancers fits the definition). Cami’s fear of “labels” is a bit off-putting. What’s so wrong with calling oneself a feminist? Some people really are afraid of the word. I don’t know what she’s getting at by saying she doesn’t want everything that men have (beyond the obvious anatomical differences).

Cameron’s talked a lot on this tour about being a girl’s girl. I suspect much of that is to promote this movie. Cameron does have many female friends though, so she knows what she’s talking about.

Here’s some photos of Cami at LAX yesterday. She looks fresh and relaxed despite the transatlantic flight.

Cameron Diaz

Cameron Diaz

Photos courtesy of WENN

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  1. Amelia says:
    At times like this, I refer to Caitlin Moran – the abridged way of finding out whether you’re a feminist or not;
    “a) Do you have a vagina? and
    b) Do you want to be in charge of it?
    If you said ‘yes’ to both, then congratulations! You’re a feminist.”

    Obviously it doesn’t take men into account, but like I said, the abridged version. I really wish feminism wasn’t a label people keep trying to avoid.

    • blue marie says:

      Completely agree Amelia

    • Kiddo says:

      Meh, men can be feminists too, and some women want not only control of their own reproductive rights, but they want control over others’ as well.

      • blue marie says:

        How else will I rule the world damnit?!?

      • My brother and father both self-identify as feminists.

        I don’t shade her at all for what she said about feminism, but I think when she was describing women represented in film, she was not-so-subtly defending her decision to take role after role in the notoriously sexist Rom Com genre. Also, she can “sniff out fakers” but dated A-Rod for how long? Uhhh….

        That rubbed me the wrong way but meh, I’ll still always like Cammy. I love the fact that she’s unapologetically single and not having kids. She doesn’t do the Aniston thing where she uses her love life or potential “bump watch” to get press.

      • Amelia says:

        Blue Marie, I thought we’ve been over this – you CAN’T use every woman’s uterus as an incubator for your little clones, ALRIGHT?
        World domination, or not. I suggest mind control as an alternative.

      • Kiddo says:

        @blue marie, First, be a billionaire, second pay for elections, third, pay for lobbyists and propaganda. Keep repeating that.

      • Kiddo says:

        @TheOriginalKitten, well she doesn’t go that far up the uterus, but she spends an inordinate amount of time yakking on the lower part.

      • She does but is that a big deal? Maybe I’m defending her too much but the vadge talk, although annoying, doesn’t make me hate her.

      • blue marie says:

        What?!? And I had just figured out best baking temperature for optimal cloning. Well back to the drawing board, and I would suggest staying away from bran muffins for a while.

      • Kiddo says:

        I think it’s annoying, the baby bump stuff is annoying, both equally so. You don’t have to hate her, you can like her. I used to like her more before she began anointing herself as a spokesperson and guru of all women. But I guess this will be her next career direction, like Goop, once the Rom Coms dry up. I will try to ignore her henceforth. I was pretty successful at paying no mind to Goop too.

      • j.eyre says:

        Blue darling, you haven’t taken over the world yet? Kind of laying down on the job, aren’t you? Or I guess you aren’t.

        Either way – can you kind of get on with it? I have a hair appointment in a bit and I don’t want to miss your World Domination address – your still using sock puppets for that, right?

      • @Kiddo-they are equally annoying but if she had kids, she’d be hocking a book about raising kids or coming out with her own line of holistic, organic, green, baby products so eh…..she’s just getting a piece of hers.

        Speaking of products, I might write a book about the magical healing qualities of Vaporub. My dad told me that he used it to cure his foot fungus as well. I’ll get you ladies a signed copy, not to worry.

      • Kiddo says:

        If you want to make the vaporub money, you have to stop giving the secrets away for free.

      • fairyvexed says:

        Control other peoples’ reproduction? Do tell, because I have never seen anybody make this charge, EVER.

      • Kiddo says:

        Anti-choice and anti-birth control is (attempting) taking control over others’ reproduction decisions.

      • blue marie says:

        Yes J. sadly though I do tend to get lazy and now one of the sock puppets is a cyclops so I’m not sure anyone will listen. I tried to sew the eye back on but wound up sewing her nose to her ankle in The Great Bloodbath of the Blue Thread. It was a very sad Tuesday.

      • @Kiddo-But this is just the tip of the iceberg. Cammy has inspired me to create a line of Vaporub-based feminine care and sexual well-being products. I can’t wait to tell everyone what Vaporub can do for their vaginas.

      • Kiddo says:

        “I can’t wait to tell everyone what Vaporub can do for their vaginas.”
        Burn them, I would think. Yikes. Did you know that they used to sell Lysol as a douche? LYSOL, for crissakes. There was a site that used to put up vintage ads. I forget which one, it’s probably still around. What a terrifying thought.

      • blue marie says:

        For the lady that loses her tingles, try Vaporub in sprinkles..
        Nothing really rhymes when I think of Vaporub OKitt, it’s the best I got..

      • “Did you know that they used to sell Lysol as a douche? LYSOL, for crissakes.”

        My vagina whimpered when I read that. No vintage ad telling dudes to dip their balls in Ammonia? Because it can get not-so-fresh down there too.

        Also, BALLS.

        @Blue-That was a very admirable effort, I enjoyed the rhyming effect. How about Vaporub: The Biscuit-Tingler?

      • ~Z~ says:

        Kitten ~ You should send these tips to Shailene Woodley!
        You guys are hilarious today!
        Balls! ♥

      • fairyvexed says:

        I read your original comment as saying that female feminists wanted to control others. Which…..yeah.

        And male feminists? A surprising number seem to think that if they adopt sort of feminist positions—–which for other human beings would just be human rights——–they get to do things like call Ann Coulter “Mann Coulter” and say she needs a good f—ing.

        Anybody here hear of Hugo Schwyzer? He was a big deal type male feminist——-and he was a great example of the dangers.

    • Jen says:

      Ahahahahahaha. Brilliant.

      Beyonce’s definition by way of the brilliant Chimamanda Ngoza Adichie works well: “a person who believes in the social, economic and political equality of the sexes”.

      • Lolo-ology says:

        Yup. It really is that simple.

      • Tapioca says:

        Um, yeah. Except Beyonce’s definition of feminist is “getting ahead of all those other hos by stealing their work whilst rocking the porn star aesthetic”.

        One quote by an already well-known and respected writer on a video album of partial nudity after a lifetime of stepping over other females, by a woman married to a man who refers to women as “bitches” and self-identifies with the Five Percenters – a group one of whose central tenets is that women are subservient to men – does not a feminist make!

      • Eleanor Zissou says:

        Didn’t Beyonce say she’s not a feminist, but believes in girl power or something like that a while back?

    • Fren says:

      I think she runs from the feminist label because of the backlash she will get from other feminist, if she would have said yes I’m a feminist, this is what being a feminist means, you would have a whole gang of feminist screaming NO that’s not what being a feminist means, they always always argue over who has the correct definition of femanism, and I think Cameron (smartly) avoided that backlash

    • Kenny Boy says:

      I’m very much a feminist, but Caitlin Moran is not my feminist idol – way too racist – and it’s not a bad thing to not call yourself a feminist. Everyone gets to decide what they identify with. It’s not exactly feminist to force labels on people. Cameron didn’t diss feminism, she just doesn’t consider herself one. Why does she have to be?

    • Godwina says:

      +1 all the math ever.

  2. Wren33 says:

    I don’t expect everyone to be an activist on every issue, and I understand that some people resist “x-ist” labels because they think it makes it seem like that is the central part of their identity. However, I always am surprised by the number of successful actresses that shy away from the “feminist” label. I’m not sure if they are afraid to alienate their male or conservative audience or if it is something more. The way that Diaz seems to think lack of representation on film is not big deal makes me think that she is not, in fact, a feminist.

    • Lolo-ology says:

      I fear they just don’t really know what it is, and are going by the negative connotations the term has always had. And it’s not helped by the fact that representations of feminists in tv and movies has been pretty awful, mostly “strawman” feminists set up so that the female protagonist can stand apart from it’s exaggerated terribleness. You know the only explicitly feminist character on TV is Leslie Knope? That there is only one, says a lot right there.

    • Godwina says:

      I used to be one of those “I’m not a feminist, I’m an equalist” morons–partly because I had gained a warped idea of feminism via mainstream culture, partly because (like a lot of women) I’d internalized a lot of misogyny, and partly because I wanted a boy-cookie. If I could go back in time I’d slap my 20-something face so hard.

      Cami’s not helping.

    • bettyrose says:

      Wren33 – Yep, that was me at 19. I was all “I’m not a feminist. I’m a college student with total control over my life, so I don’t need labels.” If CamDiaz ever had to work a real job and live a real life, she would totally laugh at her 19 year old self, but she never has and never will. It’s easy to reject labels when you live outside mainstream problems.

  3. Kiddo says:

    I have no issues with anything she said here. Although it would help if more diversity was represented in films or represented politically. I’m still not at all interested in her latest film.

    • Lindy79 says:

      Yes, this was the only thing I didn’t really get. More diversity is desperately needed so not sure what she meant.

  4. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    “If we are fighting to have what men have, is that really what we want?”

    You mean like equal pay for equal work? Or being valued for our mind and not having to commercialize our bodies to get noticed? Being allowed to make decisions about our bodies and reproductive systems? Stuff like that? Yeah, it sort of is what I want, anyway.

    • Kiddo says:

      I still think this was a vast improvement over her other interviews.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        True, although to me, saying “I don’t like labels” when you’re asked if you’re a feminist is sort of like saying “I don’t want to turn off men and that’s more important to me than anything to do with women.” Is that unfair of me?

      • Kiddo says:

        Yeah, I’ve said it before, she is frightened of aging and not getting by alone on the youthful hotness. But I’ve been really critical of her so I’M TRYING not to harsh on her parade as much. It is ironic that she wrote a book about and for women but still wants no labels. Maybe we can call her the genitalia grooming spokesperson instead…Okay, that was snarky. I’m leaving the thread now.

      • I feel like her comment might have been in reference to male/female roles in society rather than the basic concept of equality. I think maybe she was drawing a distinction between the societal expectations that men experience versus the expectations of women.

        I also might be giving her too much credit.


        …so is anybody gonna ask me how my zit is doing?

        So self-involved, every last one of you.

        The Vaporub WORKED zit has been downgraded from SUV-sized to the size of a modest sedan. I’m amazed because I was certain that this would be one of the much-touted home remedies that works for everyone in Internet Land except me.

        But sorry, back to feminism….

      • Kiddo says:

        @TheOriginalKitten, Wow, yeah. Strangely I was thinking about your zit and the vaporub, last night. Good to know. I will have to price out which is cheaper, the salve or the vaporub. Hopefully, I won’t have a monster zit soon to contend with.

      • Thank you, Kiddo, it comforts me to know that you were concerned about my zit.
        The rest of you can go to hell.

        Yeah I’m shocked they haven’t harnessed the power of Vaporub and repackaged it as some sort of cystic acne treatment. It really did work-it also reduced the pain and inflammation/redness.
        All in all, I give it 5 stars.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Oh, Kitten, thank God! Lol, of COURSE I was just about to ask! But as for even more important issues, what did you decide about bangs?

      • Kiddo says:

        If I get the monster zit, it seems to happen near my chin. Bangs will not help and adding a fake beard as cover-up would be more insane than the killer zit. See how lucky you are with the location?

      • @ Goodnames-I decided against the bangs. For now. I still get a fringe though..a longish fringe, but not a DIY-I’ve learned from your story and will trust the experts only.

        @Kiddo-What about a hat with a chin strap?

      • Kiddo says:

        @TheOriginalKitten, That made me laugh hysterically. Maybe I’ll just become the crazy lady with a bee hat, who owns no bees, roaming the streets. Everyone will think I’m nuts, but no one will be the wiser about blemishes.

      • I think it’s a risk worth taking, Kiddo.
        It’s better to be known for eccentricity than to be known for bad skin.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      @Goodnames – My thoughts exactly…its easy not to worry about silly little things like equal pay with men, when you you are making millions of dollars a year. I hardly ever listen to any celebs when they talk about “real” issues, because they don’t live in the same world as you or I…

    • Godwina says:

      Right of refusal? Developmental mentorship? Yeah, all of that, too.

    • bettyrose says:

      One time, I had a drunken conversation with some traveling businessman at a bar who was all “I support the rights of women, but men and women are different and shouldn’t want the same things.” Yaaaawn. So true. I do not have and would never want a penis. But my vagina does very little in the workplace. In fact, it mostly just sleeps during the work day so let’s leave it out of my ability to be an independent productive human being receiving fair pay for my efforts.

      Again, my vagina has different medical needs than a penis, so it doesn’t want the same medical care or reproductive options. It wants medical care and reproductive options tailor made for a vagina. So, all agreed, feminism is not the same as wanting a penis.

  5. Tiffany27 says:

    I’m sad that when people avoid the word Feminist it’s because of they don’t want to be labeled, not because of the real problems with feminism in terms of race, sexuality, and class issues.
    I’m all for women’s rights, but I’m not going to participate in a movement that claims to be for all women when it isn’t.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I look at it the same way I do religion. Everyone who identifies as a feminist doesn’t necessarily define feminism the same way I do, or speak for me.

  6. InLike says:

    I dont want what all men have either. But it would be nice just one time………just ONCE……to be able to pee my name in the snow.

    Sigh, so jealous.

    • V4Real says:

      I’m not fighting to have what men have either because I can definetely do without a penis.

      • I Choose Me says:

        I’ve always wondered what it would be like to have one. But I do like not getting my bits caught in things or having to adjust. Plus I’m always having trouble with zippers. I figure if I had a penis I’d be accidentally flashing people all the time.

      • V4Real says:

        Ok I will admit that I have often wondered what it would be like to have sex with a woman as a male. I’m also sure some men have wondered the opposite.

    • poorimmigrant says:

      Female urination device will make your dreams come true.

  7. nicole says:

    I like this quiz better for determining if you’re a feminist as then men can (and should) be included:

    I hate the argument from people that “I can’t be a feminist, I love boys and being girly *teehee*””. That’s not what it’s about. It’s simply equality so that you can either go about your life loving boys and being girly or doing the opposite of that or whatever mix in between with all the same opportunities and abilities to do so as men.

    That was reducing a complex theory to a simple example but when faced with that counterargument I find it best to keep my response simple for fear of losing my mind.

  8. msw says:

    IMO, there isn’t really a cohesive group to identify with these days. 3rd wave feminism basically entails believing whatever you want as long as it is vaguely pro equality, and sometimes not even then. Point being, the label of “feminist ” is pretty loosey goosey these days as there is no real movement to align with.

    • This is so so true.

      There’s a lot of wiggle-room in third wave feminism and a lot of room for contradiction or dare I say– hypocrisy. Not gonna lie, as a feminist I personally struggle with this a lot.

      For instance, I adore male chivalry, but I’m also keenly aware of the danger in men treating women as fragile, delicate creatures in need of protection–the problem lying in the power differential inherent in that kind of behavior.

      I straddle the line a lot in the sense that on a date, I’ll gladly pick up the tab for dinner, but I get pissed if a guy doesn’t hold the door open for me. Does that make me less of a true feminist in the traditional sense? Maybe…but I feel like I’m protected under the ideals of the new feminism which essentially dictates that I can have it both ways, or any way I want really. The Burger King of the feminist movement: Have It Your Way.

      • Kiddo says:

        If someone was mugging me on the street while with my companion, I would hope he would step in. In most cases, there is no denying the difference in size and strength between males and females.

        I like the doors being held open for me too, but not for the chivalry, necessarily, I just always feel like door handles are a repository for disgusting viruses and bacteria.

      • Erinn says:

        Ahaha, I think mainly, that’s more of a love for all things polite. It’s polite to hold doors, regardless of either gender. It’s more of an issue of thoughtfulness. I too, hate when people don’t hold doors. But I get annoyed if women allow doors to close on me just as much as if men do it. I also like the occasional chivalrous act, as long as it’s not done in a patronizing manner. I think it’s maybe all about intentions.

      • Ha ha, Kiddo, agree with you about the germ factor.

        @ Erinn, Not to get too illustrative but I meant a man walking ahead of me and then holding the door open while I walk though it, not just holding the door for me while I grab it behind him, which is basic courtesy. I also hate it when a dude gets into an elevator before me, I think he should hold back and let me get in first, same with the train, etc. Does that make me positively Victorian? Eh…

        Anyway, the counterargument is that through chivalrous acts, men are putting women on a pedestal, but it’s MEN who put us there-they’re defining the role and we’re allowing them to do it.

        But here’s the thing: I’m not going to stop expecting chivalry. Why? Because I like it, it’s sweet and old-school and I actually enjoy feeling a bit “precious” at times.
        That being said, I think there’s value in acknowledging and understanding the dynamic that chivalry creates.
        So I accept that someone could call me out for my hypocrisy, because a full-on rejection of male chivalry is really an underlying component of traditional feminism.

      • stellalovejoydiver says:

        IMO holding the door open is basic politeness, I hold the door open for men and women alike. Same with if someone is carrying a lot and I don´t, I`ll ask if they want me to help them and vice versa.
        The problem I have with men being chivalrous, but maybe that`s more common with the guys in my age group, is the notion that they expect something- sex- in return, like “I bought you a drink and you don`t wanna blow me stupid bitch?!”

      • fairyvexed says:

        Putting a woman up on a pedestal is a great way to look up her skirt. Also, I hate chivalry. Chivalry was always used as a substitute for equality, so guys could offer opened doors and lifeboat sears to some women—-,but by no means all women. And you can bet the nice things women do for men never get appreciated.

        It reminds me of those gaudy public marriage proposals that always make me cringe. What if she wants to say no? He’s put her in the spot.

        I think really nice gestures would be pretty non spectacular—–but sweet.

      • @ Stella-Probably more common among young men.
        Yeah I guess that aspect doesn’t affect me much because I usually insist on paying for my own sh*t, mainly because I generally make more money than the guy I’m hanging with, and yes, I admit to not being entirely comfortable with a man paying for everything. Still, I don’t insist more than twice-that’s my rule. If a guy REALLY wants to pay, I’m not gonna stop him. I think it’s right to at least offer to split it though.

        See, I would never hold open a door for woman to walk through it, unless she had a baby carriage or a cane. I won’t let a door close on a woman, but I’m not gonna make this grand gesture of holding the door open so she can walk through…
        You guys are making me feel weird…am I supposed to be doing that? Maybe it’s a Boston thing but we typically don’t do that out here.

        @fairyvexed: “And you can bet the nice things women do for men never get appreciated. ”

        Well, I got a huge thank you for the BJ I gave my boyfriend the other night. That’s not what you’re talking about? Ok, sorry, carry on….

  9. Maria says:

    Of course the white, blonde haired, blue eyed woman who gets paid a fuck ton of money doesn’t care about representation- that’s an easy thing to do when you’re the standard of beauty.

    As a Mexican who is tired of seeing my people portrayed as drug dealers, thugs, maids, over sexed fiery sluts, and human traffickers actually having ONE Latino who is successful and doesn’t adhere to a stereotype would be refreshing. ..

    I’m a need her to shut up for a bit.

  10. Candy Love says:

    “I am not great with labels. I am not a person who likes to put labels on anyone.”

    Yet in the same interview she LABELS herself as a “girls girl” .

  11. Ag says:

    She sort of reeks of desperation to me – I talk about my vagina, I understand that everyone cheats, all women want to bang other women, I don’t want to emasculate men by wanting what they have (whatever that is). Protesting too much and trying too hard to appeal?

  12. Hannah says:

    I’m really over reading Cameron Diaz’ thoughts on things (and yes, I realize I didn’t have to click on this). She’s not the smartest woman in the world and really likes to her herself talk, I think that goes a long way of explaining her various statements over the last couple of weeks/months.

  13. Pinot Grigio says:

    I’m not really understanding what she’s saying about feminism (nor do I care), but she has great fashion sense.

  14. Annabelle says:

    Men have done a great job at making the term “feminism” a dirty word and stupid women fall for it.

  15. poppy says:

    you don’t have to be a ball-busting, all babies should gestate in a cow uterus, man hater to be a feminist.
    as candy love pointed out, she labels herself while saying no labels for her please.
    she should invest in some education because her “sexy, dumb and fun” parts will come fewer and farther between, exponentially as her age increases.

  16. Algernon says:


  17. Lia says:

    It must be nice to have that kind of privilege where you don’t care that much about representation and you don’t think it’s worth fighting for.
    I don’t know which quote is worse : the one about representation or “Please don’t give me a label,I don’t want to piss anybody” girl PLEASE.

  18. JenniferJustice says:

    She is so full of herself. I wish she just gracefully fade away, but no, we will continue to have her shoved in our faces against our will. If she’s great at sniffing out fakers, then why A-Rod? Why Justin Timberlake? And, um, yeah, both of them totally played her. Ugh! why do these ding bats think they are intellectuals? Must be all the “yesmen” and brown-nosers.

  19. Emily C. says:

    She sounds like a teenage girl desperate not to turn off boys. Cameron, dear: that never works. Men can smell the desperation, and other women just pity you.

  20. Damaris says:

    Why should you aim to have what men have when you’re Cameron Diaz? You get paid lots of cash and you live in the best areas in America. Why should Cameron Diaz be concerned with having what men have? That’s for peasant women! Only peasant women complain about unequal opportunities.