Lana Del Rey: ‘I wish I was dead already. I don’t want to have to keep doing this’

Lana Del Rey

Lana Del Rey is still promoting her upcoming album, Ultraviolence. I haven’t listened to any of the songs yet — are they decent? Lana’s been doing lots of interviews lately, and I’ve excerpted the two that are getting the most airplay. Lana brooded in front of a camera before talking about death with the New York Times. Then she sat on a balcony with a Guardian journalist and talked about death some more. Is this what Lana is truly interested in talking about in order to sell records? Apparently so. She also talks more about not caring about feminism. These excerpts really speak for themselves:

On criticism: “Carl Jung said that inevitably what other people think of you becomes a small facet of your psyche, whether you want it to or not. I learned that whatever I did elicited an opposite response, so I’m sure ‘Money, Power, Glory’ will actually resonate with people as being what I really do want. I already know what’s coming, so it’s O.K. to explore irony and bitterness.”

A clarification on her feminism POV: “If my choice is to, I don’t know, be with a lot of men, or if I enjoy a really physical relationship, I don’t think that’s necessarily being anti-feminist. For me the argument of feminism never really should have come into the picture. Because I don’t know too much about the history of feminism, and so I’m not really a relevant person to bring into the conversation. Everything I was writing was so autobiographical, it could really only be a personal analysis.”

Talking to NYT about death: She agrees that her videos have often been “exploring ways to die,” she said, adding: “I love the idea that it’ll all be over. It’s just a relief, really. I’m scared to die, but I want to die.”

More on death with the Guardian: “I wish I was dead already. I do! I don’t want to have to keep doing this. But I am.” Do what? Make music? “Everything. That’s just how I feel. If it wasn’t that way, then I wouldn’t say it. I would be scared if I knew [death] was coming, but … Family members will come on the road with me and say: ‘Wow, your life is just like a movie!'” she says at one point. “And I’m like: ‘Yeah, a really f–ked-up movie.'”

Did her daddy “buy” her a record contract? “It was the exact opposite of that. We never had more money than anyone we ever knew in town. My dad was a well-loved entrepreneur – he was interested in the early dawning of the internet in 1994 – but it wasn’t anything that ever translated financially. And I don’t think he was too sure what I had been up to either. So it was interesting that they sort of fictionally put us side-by-side together and involved him in that story.”

Did she enjoy success at before the backlash? “I never felt any of the enjoyment. It was all bad, all of it.”

Does she love fan worship? “No. I don’t know what I think. All I know is that, right now, I like sitting here, on this terrace.”

[From NYT and The Guardian]

Lana sounds really depressed in these interviews. Lana’s always projected apathy, and this seems worse. I caught a whiff of this new mood in my last post about Lana, but the vibe is coming on stronger now. Is she really that unhappy being famous? Maybe she’s just upset about the criticism. If she can’t find joy onstage in front of her devoted fans, then she’s definitely not enjoying herself ever. Nobody legitimately sounds this joyless without reason. I hope Lana gets some help and/or takes some time off if she needs it. Record promotion can wait.

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  1. Yellowshaba says:

    I love her music but geez I don’t know if she’s trying to be the tortured artist for attention she’s truly truly depressed

    • Wren says:

      I do too, which sometimes I’m ashamed to admit in the face of the bullshit that usually comes out of her mouth. Normally I’m thinking, “Ug, shut your face. You sound like a whiny little idiot and you’re making me not like you.” But this seems different somehow. Maybe she’s upping her game, maybe there’s something really wrong. Her songs tend not to be full of sunshine and daisies, so maybe it’s just more of that. Then again, we do have the tortured artist stereotype for a reason.

      • QQ says:

        Also undercover Lana (in the studio!) Fan, but Yes she is awful both Live and in interviews… Love love love West Coast, Shades of Cool and Florida Kilos (the three songs I’ve heard from the new cd)

        Is it depression or the fact she looks like she’s on downers all the time

    • delia says:

      Its messed up to romanticize death when others are fighting tooth and nail to survive illness and abuse. Talk about first world problems.

      • mimif says:

        This times a million.

        ETA: “He hit me and it felt like a kiss…” F-ck off, Lizzy.

      • wiffie says:

        It would be messed up if death was a bad thing, which it’s not necessarily. It’s a part of life, like birth. She’s matter of fact about it, more, I think.

      • Belle Epoch says:

        DELIA exactly my reaction! If you are clinically depressed, go away and get help. If you are just a poseur selling made-up anguish… Just go away.

        This is what singing for the Kardashians does to your soul!

      • Miffy says:

        Unfortunately it’s that attitude that contributes to a lot of suicidal people never getting help. The guilt that others are fighting for life when they want to end theirs and the exact reaction you’ve just described.

        Whether she’s legitimately depressed or not, I can’t say, but if someone needs to talk they need to be allowed to do so without being dismissed as attention seeking.

      • Belle Epoch says:

        What? Telling someone who is clinically depressed to get help is the wrong reaction?

        We don’t know what her deal is. IF she needs help, she has the means to get it and she should not wait another minute. IF she is making up some depressed persona and idealizing death to sell albums, that’s reprehensible.

      • Miffy says:

        No, Delia’s original comment about her romanticising death and suggesting she should feel guilty for discussing wanting to die. I saw no mention of getting help there at all.

        Obviously, if she’s adopting suicidal tendencies as some kind of tragic artist marketing tactic there’s a special place in hell waiting for her. But, from personal experience, it’s always best to give someone discussing suicide or a longing to die the benefit of the doubt.

      • Kitty says:

        You’re exactly right. And if this is an act, that’s even worse. Boohoo, what a horrible life. I’m sitting here in a depressing cubicle in my boring 9-5 job, hoping I’ll have enough money to go out to dinner on the weekend. Man, I pity her sooo much.

      • Kitty says:

        Death a “part of life”–maybe, except you’re not alive anymore. What fun.

      • Karen says:

        I agree with Miffy. I also understand what Lana Del Rey is saying because I feel the exact same way, and I’ve been diagnosed, on meds, and I’m a psychiatric social worker. And if it’s real and not a stunt, it’s probably depression for Lana too and hopefully she’ll seek care. But feeling this way and expressing it doesn’t automatically mean she’s at risk for suicide. I’m not. I think it’s important to understanding those with these kind of disorders is that this feeling of apathy or depression toward life has nothing to do with external circumstances, whether it’s a rock star life or one in a cubicle. In many, many cases it’s caused by a malfunction of neurotransmitters. So dismissing her possible depression by pitying her “sooo much” is offensive, uninformed, and cruel.

    • ol cranky says:

      IDK, this doesn’t come off as depressed to me, this comes off as she’s trying very hard to sound “deep” (and I say this as someone who has worked with people who suffer from depression and has a history of a MDD w/suicidal ideation & attempts)

      • Belle Epoch says:

        Sometimes it’s the quiet ones who say nothing until boom! They’re gone. Others get very cheerful after they make up their minds to kill themselves, so you are caught off guard. I would be surprised if someone who was clinically depressed and suicidal had the energy or enthusiasm to face hundreds of people, perform, give interviews, etc. – and I say this as someone who comes from a family with a lot of suicides.

    • Steph says:

      There’s just something about this woman that makes me want to smack her right in the kisser. She’s so exceptionally irritating. Like Goopy passed the torch or something.

    • GirlyGirl says:

      I stopped reading at “Carl Jung said…”

      what a windbag,

      quit yer bitchin ‘lana’, you’ve got it better than most people

  2. Esmom says:

    Yeah, wow, this fixation with death is definitely a red flag for depression. It does seem more than an affectation to sell records. Hope she gets help and soon.

    • Detritus says:

      Yeah this sounds like mental illness to me. Idealizing death and finding no enjoyment out of life? Sadness tells you when something is wrong, like physical pain does for your body.
      Girl you are talented, wealthy and beautiful, your pain is out of proportion. I always got the feeling something bad happened to Lana that she never dealt with, maybe it’s coming to the forefront now. Hope she helps herself and gets better.

      • ParisPucker says:

        it’s emotional illness, not mental illness. that always pisses me off when people say that.

    • Miffy says:

      Same here, kinda horrified that no one around her is stepping in to see to just that if she’s not willing to do it herself. Guess it really is all about the money.

  3. Lucretia says:

    Why are all these young women so ignorant about what feminism is? It’s as if they think it means “man-hater.” As for the rest of it, either it’s a pose or she needs some intervention. If it’s the latter, I hope her family or those around her get her some help.

    • elo says:

      At least she admits to being ignorant on the topic and irrelevant to the conversation. I’d rather she do that then spout off some truly stupid bull.

      • ray says:

        +1 i would much rather someone came out and said i dont know what feminism is or im not interested in feminism rather than spout off some crap a la miley, selela etc

      • Renee says:

        this @ ray: I think that these young women don’t even know that they don’t know what the meaning of feminism is…

      • Miffy says:

        Yeah, I actually respect her more for saying she doesn’t understand it so isn’t a good person to ask. More female celebrities need that honesty, cause, wow, some of them made complete idiots of themselves on the subject.

    • break says:

      She needs to take an intro to women’s studies class at an online university or something… stat!

      • Aussie girl says:

        Maybe it doesn’t interest her. An intro into women’s history would be interesting to me but not her. In fact we had a subject at school called herstory which I loved. All in all at least she is not expressing an uninformed opinion and she admits that. Buuuuuut she does sound like she is depressed or that she is trying to be deep, dark and mysterious.

      • Illyra says:

        Women’s studies class? Blech. Chances are that if that didn’t cause her to be even *more* depressed, it would just turn her into a foaming-at-the-mouth, man-hating lunatic.

      • Anon33 says:

        Don’t know how to reply to illyra but honey stop talking bc you’re part of the problem. I minored in women’s studies and guess what? I love men. Most of my friends are men. And I’m married. To a man. And I’m not depressed or a “foaming at the mouth man hating lunatic.” Really?!?! Not everyone’s experiences are the same.

      • tessy says:

        @Illyra sad that young women really have no idea what feminism is, they think its only about being free to run around showing off their t&a or else “hating men”. It would do you some good to read up on some history.

    • Kitty says:

      Sorry, but how do you not “understand” feminism unless you are mentally deficient? Here’s an easy definition for her and others who claim to be as stupid as she is: feminists believe that women should be treated the same way men are. That’s it. No one cares how many “men” she wants to screw, seriously–have at it! She acts like we’re talking about organic chemistry or nuclear physics. Let’s see how she feels about feminism when she’s 50 and not so pretty, and no one is interested in some old singer. What a dope. If she hates what she’s doing so much, just quit. Surely, she has enough cash to sit around doing nothing for a while. Poseur.

      • qwerty says:


        Plus, one more thing…
        “If my choice is to, I don’t know, be with a lot of men, or if I enjoy a really physical relationship, I don’t think that’s necessarily being anti-feminist. ”

        Um, maybe because IT’S NOT?? The whole idea is to let women do what they want, especially in bed without being judged. Stupid girl.

  4. Elisabeth says:

    the part of Fiona Apple will now be played by….

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Please do not invoke Miss Apple’s name on a Lizzy Grant thread.

      • Kiddo says:

        I had to look that up, I wasn’t getting the Lizzy Grant reference. How is Lana Del Rey a more interesting name?

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        It’s more “exotic” because at the time, she was spending a lot of time with her friends from Cuba and speaking a lot of Spanish in Miami, don’tcha know.

  5. Meow Mix says:

    I don’t know. If she is really this depressed than she needs to seek help. I can’t help though thinking that talking to several reporters that this is for attention. Sorry, I know this probably makes me a bad person.

    • Erinn says:

      I AM depressed (though it’s much more managable now), and have a tendency to think the same. In my OWN experience (everyone has a different one, of course) I wasn’t willing to tell everyone that I wish I was dead. I wasn’t broadcasting those feelings, because they were embarrassing. I guess, I mostly wished I didn’t exist for a while. I didn’t want to kill myself, even at my worst. I just kind of wanted to just not be.

      • PunkyMomma says:

        @Erinn – big hug to you from me. I was clinically depressed for years. I’m much, much better, thanks to a terrific analyst and the right combo of meds. Hang in there.

      • Erinn says:

        Thanks, PunkyMomma!
        I only feel like not existing when something really big and emotional happens. Doc started easing me off meds now, as well. This was a bad weekend (in-laws were pissed at me even though I absolutely didn’t even do anything – which they now realize). But after laying in bed and crying for a while, I got up and said “damnit, I’m not losing my weekend over others’ petty behavior” and went and got me some icecream and visiting my best friend. Probably the best recovery I’ve had yet.

      • PunkyMomma says:

        @Erinn – you go girl! I know how hard it is to get out of bed and face the day. That’s huge that you did that, in spite of the family drama – that’s a terrifically healthy thing you did for yourself.

        A bouquet of roses for you, my friend – 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

      • Ivy Vine says:

        Good for you @Erinn, for not letting people get you down. I have had episodes of depression and it’s hard sometimes not to let others get to you.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Erinn, it sounds like you’re making a lot of progress, and I’m happy for you. I have lived with depression for years, and I agree with you. Everybody’s different, but when I’m seriously depressed I try to HIDE it from people. I would never tell the world the way she has. I know what you mean about not wanting to exist for a while. I’m doing really well now, but last year was pretty bad. Sometimes I just want to take a vacation from my feelings, from being me. It’s so exhausting. Not that I want to die, I just want the pain to stop. Feel better, and keep working on finding the right formula of therapy, exercise and for me, medication is necessary. Good luck.

      • lucy2 says:

        Erinn, that’s what I was thinking too. The fact that she’s telling this to a journalist, knowing it will go out wide, makes me doubt that she’s serious about it.
        Glad you are doing well!

    • Ag says:

      yeah, this seems a bit like a “tortured artist” pose. who knows, of course. my my own and purely anecdotal experience, being depressed for years never made me want to talk to people about it. (but it IS amazing what the combo of the right shrink and the right meds will pull you out of.)

      • PunkyMomma says:

        Ag – You’re so right – it is amazing what the right combo can do. I’m not being snarky when I say the “better living though chemistry” worked for me. Saved my life.

      • Ag says:

        really worked for me too, PunkyMomma. not a day goes by when i am not grateful for modern medicine. 🙂

    • Tiffany :) says:

      I agree, this sounds purely for attention to me. First of all, she doesn’t have a sincere bone in her body. Second, she made this statement after the journalist started talking about the 27 club and how she was going to turn 28 soon. Just more shtick.

  6. Sayrah says:

    Sheesh, very depressed or she thinks that makes her sound deep.

  7. GiGi says:

    You know, I couldn’t care less about this chick – I’m 35. BUT! I know she’s extremely popular with the emo girls in High School. They dress like her, wear their makeup like her and hold her up as a “princess”. And for that reason alone, she might want to STFU when it comes to this romanticization of death/flirtation with suicide.

    • Kiddo says:

      +1. It does sound like she needs help, though.

      • GiGi says:

        I agree – she should get help. I just worry about the publicizing of suicidal thoughts. Especially when coming from someone young girls hold as an icon.

    • Anna says:

      Yeah…I’d hope this isn’t just an image to sell records, since depression and thoughts of suicide are obviously really important things that need to be addressed ASAP. And I agree, it’s definitely problematic to be romanticizing suicide when she has a lot of teenage fans. I hope she can get the help she needs.

      • Lee says:

        I don’t think it’s about selling records. What she said really resonated with me from when I had clinical depression – I felt exactly the same way about death. I think she’s just answering questions and telling the truth about how she feels. It is a worry though, with so many teen girls emulating her.

    • aenflex says:

      What does your age have to do with it? I’m your age and I really like her music.

      • GiGi says:

        I’m not talking about her music. I’m saying, that at 35, this girl is not my icon. I don’t hold her up as someone to follow, like the HS age girls I know.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Why does she act as though she has no choice but to go on making music and living a life she hates? I think she needs help, but I also think if something makes you this unhappy, stop doing it.

      • Anne de Vries says:

        Because if you’re depressed and emotionally drained, making changes can feel almost impossible

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        When I’m depressed, and have been seriously on and off for years, getting out of a situation that’s draining me is not easy, but it’s necessary. So I do it. To stay alive. Everybody’s different, I guess. But even in my very worst days, when I wanted nothing more than for the pain to stop, I never would have given this interview. Depressed people hide their depression, in my experience. I’m not sure I’m buying her story.

      • Leen says:

        @GoodNamesAllTaken, I think it depends. I went into a very deep depression after my boyfriend’s suicide, but I didn’t necessarily hide it. I really poked fun at myself and at my depression, lots of deadpan and dark humour as a way to deal with it. I’m in a much better place now, but I do know I kind of freaked out everyone with it (especially because at times I would get euphoric feelings, like I’m on top of the world) and even ‘joke’ about how miserable I am (Like oh crap, I’m single now). Really behind closed doors, I was a different person, very deep in my depression, but I can see how people can openly talk about their depression.

  8. Eleonor says:

    I enjoy her music sometimes, and I don’t know about this statement: is she trying to be controversial, or is it a cry for help? In the second case I hope she gets help.

  9. Lucy2 says:

    I feel like this is a PR stunt, but if not, quit or take some time off.
    As for the feminism stuff, at least she admitted she doesn’t have a clue.

  10. Amelia says:

    “Because I don’t know too much about the history of feminism, and so I’m not really a relevant person to bring into the conversation.”
    Always good to know your limits. Take note, Sunshine-Vadge.

    • Kiddo says:

      While that’s good, knowing your limits, doesn’t anyone have intellectual curiosity any more? I realize that she may suffer from depression, but having been asked about the subject, why not do some research?

      It also occurs to me that history being taught in US schools is still largely about white men.

      • cr says:

        From my memories of being what would probably considered clinically depressed (after the deaths of my parents) there was a long stretch of time where I had no curiosity about anything.
        So it’s possible that she is truly depressed.
        Or, she’s really just not that curious about things.

      • paola says:

        Maybe she is not curious about that specific topic. I’d rather her to say she doesn’t know anything about it than pretend to know the subject and put her foot in her mouth.

      • cr says:

        @paola: she strikes me as not being curious about a lot of things, not just feminism.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        But..but.. SPACEX!!!

        If she were alive today, I’m sure that Sylvia Plath would gladly tell Lizzie Grant that depression really isn’t a valid reason to not care about feminism.

      • Mikeyangel says:

        Agree with you Kiddo. Why is it ok to be ignorant about feminism? It is like saying ‘I don’t know anything about racism.’ If I didn’t I shouldn’t speak on it but it still makes me ignorant. Just like she is ignorant here.

        Also, if she is depressed, maybe she should talk to a therapist or psychiatrist, not a journalist.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      Its good to know your limits…but this comment comes AFTER she already talked about feminism and how she has no use for it. If this was her first statement on Feminism, I would give her some credit, but its not. This is the PR damage control statement.

  11. paola says:

    I hate her music, she makes me feel sad and i feel suicidal too. She’s even worse than Coldplay!
    Maybe she should change the tunes.

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  13. freakylady says:

    I thought the same thing. Schtick or not, it’s kind of irresponsible given her angsty teen girl fan base.

    • kri says:

      If this is some kind of “tortured art” thing and she is saying this stuff to promote a romanticism of beauty dying young, then she is being irresponsible and horrid. If she really is that depressed, then she needs immediate help. Either way, it’s a bad situation. I am not a fan of her music-but many girls are. Talking like this could possibly push a young, impressionable fan into something stupid.

  14. PunkyMomma says:

    @Em – this is what is pinging my radar – it’s an emo act. And if it is she needs to stop this pronto because she may have some unstable fans who see her views as the validation for their own self destruction. If this isn’t an act, FFS to her family – get her help, NOW!

  15. DarkSparkle says:

    Agreed. This gives me the rage.

    • magpie says:

      Agreed. And she’s old enough to know better. This is a “tortured artist” act and it’s irresponsible and manufactured.

  16. Godwina says:

    “If my choice is to, I don’t know, be with a lot of men, or if I enjoy a really physical relationship, I don’t think that’s necessarily being anti-feminist.”

    Wait–is she suggesting feminism = chastity? Holy wut.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I almost threw my desk over when I read that.
      Could she have missed the mark more?

    • Tiffany :) says:

      She seems so oblivious to how wrong she is! It is pretty much the opposite of what she thinks it means. She is such an idiot.

  17. lisa2 says:

    I so agree with the comments up thread. She has so many young girls emulating her. Idolizing her. Teens are so impressionable at that age. I just hope it doesn’t take the lose of a life for her to understand how what she says resonates and can be taken too seriously. I can actually see some already depressed teen thinking if Lana is tired of life what do I have to live for.

    Things like this really scare me. Her PR team or friends/family need to step in now.

    • Sunny says:

      I agree, she has so many young fans that she needs to be careful of her words. I also think that she really needs help. Hopefully she is in therapy or something.

      I also wish she would just refuse to answer any questions on feminism. She clearly doesn’t know what it is and each time she opens her mouth it is more cringeworthy than the last time.

  18. ray says:

    i’m erring on the side of caution with this, because while its entirely plausible she is suffering depression and suicidal thoughts which is terribly sad, i cant help but feel she’s romanticized dying young and being a part of the 27 club.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      “she’s romanticized dying young and being a part of the 27 club. ”

      That is EXACTLY what this is about. In fact, the journalist was talking about the 27 club and her 28th birthday coming up right before this soundbite. Incredibly tacky on her part.

  19. jwoolman says:

    Not sure why “feminism” always comes up in these interviews today. I thought we went through that decades ago and most folks decided equal rights for women was kind of a good idea. Is that changing? Are they thinking of taking the vote away from women or reinstating laws allowing husbands to beat their wives?

    Next a popular interview question will be: “What are your thoughts on slavery? Pro or con?”

    • Adrien says:

      It is meant to jolt the interviewee. It’s funny that these questions are now norm in celeb interviews yet they are always caught off guard and give incoherent answers to questions their publicists could have briefed them beforehand.

  20. allons-y alonso says:

    “Lana Del Rey is still promoting her upcoming album, Ultraviolence. I haven’t listened to any of the songs yet — are they decent? ”

    ~ Nope! Triple J radio is featuring it. My ears are now polluted.

  21. Adrien says:

    I love her latest songs but she does not excite me at all on her media rounds. I’m just indifferent towards her outside her music. She’s OK on small doses but I just cannot imagine going to one of her gigs. My friend went to her concert in Singapore and I remember him texting me throughout her gig. I think he finished the whole thing b’c he won a meet and greet pass after the gig.

  22. joy says:

    I feel like this is extreme posing. And yes I work in mental health before everybody attacks me for not being sensitive. And I’m sorry but boo hoo. Your making $ and adored by many. If it’s about to kill you go work at Walmart and be happy.

  23. Adrien says:

    Bedhead, “Shades of Cool” and “Cruel World” were good ballads.

  24. Mel says:

    “I wish I was dead already”, so she wouldn’t have to do something?
    What a puerile comment to make!
    Even as a rhetoric exaggeration it is not funny at all.

    Oh, and it’s Carl GUSTAV Jung.
    I am not nitpicking. “Gustav” was not his middle name – he had a double name, and it should be used as such. (Like Marie-Antoinette, for example.)
    You’ll never hear him referred to as “Carl Jung” outside the USA or the English-speaking world.

    • Sunny says:

      Mel, I love that you pointed that out!

      • The Original G says:

        A simple Google search reveals many references to Carl Jung, so perhaps you are nitpicking. Also, I have never heard of his psychology or any components of it described as “Gustav-Jungian” either?

      • booboobird says:

        @The Original G
        gustav is part of his name. Why would it be gustav-jungian? Imagine sarah Jessica Parker without jessica? 🙂

  25. aenflex says:

    Should musicians not be who they are or write the songs that they want because of worry with regard to their fans? I don’t think so. Impressionable teenage girls? I hope their parents are doing the job they are supposed to. I listened to Alice in Chains and Nirvana when I was little, and I’m still here to tell the tale.

    • Kiddo says:

      I don’t think the hoping for death to arrive rapidly will impact well-adjusted people. You wouldn’t exactly call it causative either if someone acted upon the sentiments. But on the other hand, it can have the effect of deepening or validating an already existing despair.

      If we accept that the some of the positive breaks through, in terms of reaching adolescents experiencing sadness, as in the “It Gets Better” campaign, then we can’t completely deny some influence from the negative. Good music, (and I’m not commenting on Del Rey because I haven’t really listened to her music to critique it), tends to resonate with various emotions and conditions. But what may be different here, is that this is in an interview and not in a song evoking a time, place, emotion, etc. Whether it is posing or genuinely expressing a state of mind, it does, at the least, legitimize an outlook on life for already vulnerable, not matured, individuals who might look up to her.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I don’t necessarily have a problem with it, I just find it all so redundant and YAWN.

      Without any real profound understanding of the tiresome themes she relies on to sell her image, it all comes across as perfunctory and depthless.

      This really sums up LDR in a nutshell for me:

      “And I could write a whole post on her fundamental mis-reading of Lolita. The famous literary rape victim appears a few times on Born To Die, as well as Lana’s styling and press releases. (If I never hear the phrase “Lolita got lost in the hood” again, I will die happy.) Lana Del Rey has never said or done anything to indicate that she knows Lolita is a text about child rape, and not some sexy, glamorous advertisement for being young and hot and American. Any thinking person knows that “Lolita” can never be short hand for “I, an adult woman, enjoy consensually fucking wealthy older men and calling them ‘Daddy.’” Which is gross in its own way, but we’ll get to that.”

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    • ML says:

      exactly! Geez, I wonder what they’d think of Nick Cave?

  26. InvaderTak says:

    Ultraviolence? Really? That sounds like an attempt at hipster and ends up being a 12 year old’s online gaming handle.

    Maybe she’s upset about everyone calling her out on her crap. How she got her concract, her plastic surgery….

    • MourningTheDeathOfMusic says:

      Exactly! Little girl needs to grow a thicker skin or get out of the industry.

  27. decorative item says:

    I wouldn’t go about publicizing the fact that I wanted to be dead if I were her. Why open the door for some nut job to grant your wish by trying to put you out of your misery in some kind of love pact. I can see it now, “She and I both wanted to be dead. It was as if she was talking directly to me, begging me to help her take that first step into forever. Why did you bring me back? All I want is to be with my soul mate for eternity and beyond. Our love is beyond anything you mortals could ever comprehend.”
    Some thoughts are best kept between you, your friends and your mental heath professional.

  28. Shelley says:

    I love what I’ve heard of Ultraviolence so far. It is awesome!

  29. Nicolette says:

    A friend of mine had a sign up in her kitchen that I never forgot. It said “Never regret growing old, it’s a privilege denied to many.”

    Romanticizing death when you are in the public eye is a dangerous thing. She may have an effect on some troubled youth in her fan base that may be contemplating doing something they wont be able to take back. Death is no joke, and if this is to perpetuate some kind of troubled artist image it’s extremely irresponsible of her. If this is how she really feels she needs to get help.

    • jc126 says:

      I so agree. I feel like she’s a self-centered poser, spouting this nonsense. FWIW I work in mental health. Everyone who is indeed suicidal should seek help, she comes off as being a drama queen and flippant about it.

  30. Delta Juliet says:

    I hate what I am doing. I hate being famous. I never enjoyed it. I don’t enjoy my fans.

    Well, FFS no one is making you record your shitty music. Go do something else! I mean, you won’t make the money that you’re making now but seriously. Find something else to do.

  31. pnichols says:

    she’s a real treat. Figures Angelina picked her to sing that song for her movie. She’s reliving her dark, blood around the neck days.

  32. Fai says:

    Maybe she’s depressed coz she thought she was performing to an A-list crowd at Kimye’s event and it turned out not to be to her expectations….

  33. Renee says:

    1) It sounds like she is tired of living and finds life tedious and has, to quote Edna St. Millay, come to the realization that it’s not one thing after another but the same damn thing over and over. Which is often a sign of depression. It sounds like she derives no great pleasure from what she is doing, which is ultimately unfortunate. Again, this could be a symptom of depression but also she could just be being melodramatic; I get the sense that she exaggerates in her interviews in an attempt to come off as more interesting than she actually is. But I could be wrong, and I will feel terrible if I am.

    2) I think that it is SO dangerous to say thinks like that out loud and tempt fate…I know that I sound superstitious but remember the old adage, we would often be sorry if our wishes were gratified. Remember when Kristen Stewart claimed that she wanted to get “screwed over”??? She got that big time.

  34. Mayamae says:

    I see her as Winona Ryder’s character in Beetlejuice. Wearing all black at the dinner table. “My whole life is a dark room. One big dark room.”

  35. Kate2 says:

    I only know one song of hers and its pretty or whatever. But if she wishes she was dead because she doesn’t want to sing anymore then…don’t? I guess?

    If its an act, its irresponsible and annoying. Just STFU already you whiny little emo brat.

    If its not an act, girlfriend needs meds and a therapist. And to stop everything she’s doing.

    • Lola says:

      It’s clearly an act, otherwise magazines wouldn’t print it. They know it’s going to keep selling an image, and that’s all the care about.

  36. Lola says:

    Definitely an act. If she was depressed she wouldn’t be dying to give interviews.

  37. Mrs. Lecter says:

    Something that wasnt mentioned in the post and that you guys don’t seem to be aware of is Lana has actually been battling a “mystery illness” for the last year or so and that could be contributing to this death subject. So, knowing that, when she says she’s “tired of it”, I see it as she’s tired of being sick and not knowing what it is while doing her exhausting job. Of course she isn’t clear on exactly how she means it but I just wanted to write this for the people who say she’s faking it for attention.

  38. RobN says:

    You know you’ve taken a wrong turn somewhere when you basically talk about suicide, and the general consensus is that you’re simply an attention whore.

  39. The Original G says:

    IMHO, singing at the Kim-Kanye wedding is probably enough to make anyone lose their will to live.

    • Jade says:

      Coincidence? I think not!

      Ok jokes aside I like some songs but most times I don’t find her real. If this is a cry for help, hope she gets it…

  40. littlestar says:

    I said it on the last Lana del Rey post and I’ll say it again: F*ck OFF Lana del Rey.

  41. paranormalgirl says:

    Her whole life is one big fabrication. This appears to be part of that. But since I don’t treat her, I can’t say for sure.

  42. A.Key says:

    It’s all BS. She’s trying to sell her carefully constructed “depressed 40s voodoo starlet” image.
    But the album is good, I recommend it. She should just let her music do the talking.

  43. Ginger says:

    Wow! Not a fan of her music but I think she’s a beautiful girl. She’s obviously successful too. If this is clinical depression then I hope she gets help. If this is an act however, that’s really messed up.

  44. Selina says:

    She’s not depressed; she’s a poseur.

  45. smee says:

    Go work as a cashier at WalMart for a week and then see if you don’t really want to continue doing this, Lana.

  46. MSat says:


    Fiona Apple called. She wants her persona back.


  47. Gypsy says:

    Artistic people can be so moody.
    Normal people don’t make good artists and good artists are never normal people, that’s just my Vincent Van Gogh way of looking at it.

  48. wow says:

    I don’t know anything about this girl, except from what I just read, but she sounds so depressing. Wishing she were dead because she’s tired of doing…what exactly?

    Is she always like this in interviews?

  49. Marianne says:

    First of all, if she’s really depressed then I hope she gets help. However, I can’t help feel that this is nothing more than a “persona” that shes putting on to the public so she can sell her music. You know, so that like depressed teens and young 20-somethings will identify with her and want to buy her music. I kind of feel bad for thinking that though.

    Also, in regards to the feminism….at least she admits that she does not know this history behind it.

  50. jjjessica says:

    this has been done. she is so fucking trite it hurts. seriously lay off the plastic surgery too, aren’t you supposed to be young?

  51. Kay says:

    The comments in this post remind me so much of when people dismissed me when I started talking like this. It took me ages to finally get help because of it. There are really no words to describe how angry I feel when people automatically assume that people exhibiting signs of depression are just looking for attention.

  52. Snowflake says:

    Everybody who was upset over gabe Aubrey getting his child support reduced, should read the post on Mark Anthony’s ex. She got hers doubled, but there’s no outrage over that. Only 25 comments. Amazing

  53. Hayley says:

    She seems extraordinarily full of herself and has an affected attitude that makes a lot of people cringe. She wants to die? I’m sure there are millions out there who are going to die soon of something catastrophic, who would love to live her life and let her take their place. What a bunch of crap.

  54. Sad says:

    She sounds very depressed…why the nihilism?

  55. MourningTheDeathOfMusic says:

    She needs to watch what she wishes for.

  56. Chris says:

    For every action there is an equal and opposite criticism. But it’s interesting how Lana said “I don’t want to have to keep doing this.” Given how obsessive and compulsive some artists are I sometimes think that there’re a lot of similarities between the artistic drive and addiction. Maybe people like Lana feel trapped by it in that they don’t want to do it but they feel compelled to do it. I have actually heard other artists in the past say that their art is something they have to do.

    As for the depression stuff, I remember when Angelina Jolie used to talk about how unhappy she was. Once time she said ” I have everything that is supposed to make a person happy but I’m not.”

  57. Naddie says:

    Sorry, but I don’t buy it. If she’s tired of living (I know the feeling), go find a psychologist, that’s what money’s for. And for my cat’s sake, stop this retro/sexy/femme fatale shit, it’s annoying.

  58. Gritsngreens says:

    Wtf EVER. I despise when celebrities complain about their difficult lives. Try getting a real job and see if you still feel that way. Ugh. Terrible role model.

    • Chris says:

      People living in war zones and the Third World could probably say the same thing about First World people complaining about how hard their lives are because they have to do a real job.

  59. cat says:

    She is so Liv Tyler like

  60. Nudgie says:

    Where is the point where someone (fan, roadie, backup band member, manager, parent, best friend or ANYONE) has to step in and say, “I want you to get help. Go to a very good Doctor and get evaluated. I’m sure I’m wrong, but please do this for me and yourself.”

    Do you really have to wait until you see it in the headlines the next month? Week? Day? Imagine if someone had done this for Blohan ten years ago. Where could she be now?

    F*cking Hollywood…

  61. Sway says:

    I think she’s really playing with the idea of suicide in her mind.

  62. Fan says:

    She is trying to tell us something.

  63. hm says:

    her new album is so so good

  64. Amanda says:

    I love her. Ultraviolence is brilliant, as is she.

    Also, I I think it’s terrible that some commentors have basically said that she’s not allowed to feel depressed because, after all, she’s not working at a ‘real job’ or living in a third world country. I don’t know whether she’s depressed or not, but everyone’s pain is valid no matter their situation in life.