Anna Kendrick threw away ‘for real diamond earrings’ gifted from a creepy fan


I like Anna Kendrick a lot. She was great in Up In the Air, 50/50 and she killed it in Pitch Perfect. But I’ve never been one of those internet people that goes crazy for everything she does. Yes, she’s good at social media and she seems like a she’s a cool person in real life, but I feel like certain people/blogs are trying to make Anna Kendrick into, like, the Hipster Megan Fox. Like, she’s a “hot girl” but she’s authentic, man, and she does indie movies and she’s REAL so you don’t have to feel guilty for thinking she’s hot. That’s just the impression I get. Maybe I’m wrong.

Anyway, Anna Kendrick has some insane stalkers and fans and those people like to send “gifts” to her home. Some of the gifts are just regular fan stuff, like teddy bears and epic fan letters, all of which she just throws in the trash. But in a new interview, Anna confessed that one fan sent her actual diamonds. And what did she do with them?

“I got [a gift] with, like, a really long letter about how he really felt like we should be together, and if I would just give him a chance, and he didn’t want to do it over social media because he thought that would pressure me because it was public … he [wanted] to be a gentleman. And he, uh, sent me a pair of diamond earrings,” Kendrick said.

“Get the f–k out of here,” Maron said. “For real ones?”

“For real diamond earrings,” Kendrick responded. “I did go and check. And I was just like, these have to go into the trash. I can’t. I cannot. I cannot wear them. I can’t give them to someone. It’s too weird. If the teddy bear goes in the trash, these go in the trash. Just on principle. So, I had to throw them away. If you send something to my house, it’s going in the trash.”

She also admitted that, while she hasn’t had to deal too much with stalker issues, she did have to hire a guy to investigate one person who got a little too psycho.

[From Uproxx]

Okay… so… I think this is wrong. I mean, you don’t have to be all Mariah Carey about it and keep binders full of fan letters and have a room dedicated to all of the gifts your fans send you. And it is creepy that people send this stuff to Anna’s HOME. But at the end of the day… those were diamond earrings. DIAMONDS. If she didn’t want to wear them, she could have just sold them or given them away. They didn’t need to be trashed for goodness sake. Note to all movie stars: if you are thinking of trashing some jewelry sent to you by a crazy person, just send the jewelry to me. I’ll take it off your hands because I have no qualms about stalker cooties.

PS… these are some photos of Kendrick at the Cake premiere at TIFF two nights ago. Her dress is J.Mendel.



Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. TheCountess says:

    I agree with you. And really, you know if she’s getting teddy bears from fans and she really wanted to be cool, she could donate them to a children’s hospital or charity instead of just trashing them. I guess she thinks tossing them makes her sound cool? It makes me not think very well of her.

    There’s a better way to handle unwanted gifts.

    • Kiddo says:

      Maybe the earrings. But I wonder with creepy fans if you are gonna get little cameras in teddy bears from stalker-ish types. How old are her fans exactly, if they are sending stuffies in the first place?

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Why not just send them back to the creepy fan? Sends a clear message without wasting the poor dude’s money.

      • Sugar says:

        But having to pay for postage to send the stuff back to the fans wastes HER money. She is not obligated to send gifts back or to donate items that could be compromised in some way (tiny camera in a stuffed animal, stolen goods, germ-laden). Throwing the items away is correct.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        They have fan mail services that will open them and send a generic headshot back for you. This way, if someone is mentally unwell and sends you a threatening letter, there is still a buffer between you and that person.

        Plus, stars should NEVER acknowledge that they received gifts/communication from fans directly. It is very dangerous as it can fuel delusion in those with mental illness.

      • Sozual says:

        Agree with you Tiffany!

    • maybeiamcrazy says:

      But we don’t know what is in teddy bears. Some crazy fan might even put a camera in it. She was right to throw teddy bears IMO but diamonds could have been donated.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Completely agree. She could have donated them to a charity that was having a silent auction or something. I think I would have returned them to the sender with a note saying I couldn’t accept such an extravagant gift from a stranger. Unless he was really creepy and scary, then no note.

      • Josephine says:

        I think it would be dangerous to send a return note – someone mentally unbalanced enough to think that he is going to establish a relationship with her will see the note as an invitation to correspond. And almost no one accepts donations of stuffed animals – charities don’t want them because they can’t be properly cleaned. Not having dealt with a stalker, and knowing that actresses have been killed by stalkers, I can’t judge her reaction.

      • Kiddo says:

        Yeah, I just recently watched a show on the girl (have to go look up her name) who was shot at her front door. She had corresponded with her stalker.

        ETA: Rebecca Schaeffer

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Ok, you both are right. She still could have sold them and donated the money, or donated the earrings themselves, but you’re right – corresponding with him or acknowledging him in any way would have been foolish.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        I said the same above, GNAT.

        I think you guys are probably right, though. Even rejection can be seen as a form of attention from someone who’s mentally unbalanced.

      • Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

        There is a well written book that relates to this discussion called The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. An excellent read for those who have trouble saying No and for young people to learn early on how to spot manipulation and cons in interactions. ( The information can be used to spot manipulations in all genders – Mr Debecker writes in the pronoun he but you can substitude she where it is written he)

      • Tiffany :) says:

        Gavin DeBecker is a very good source.

      • Rosalee says:

        Absolutely, we’d take the teddy bears and the diamond earrings..hey there star folks you can send all your unwanted and gently used diamonds to our little food bank in the northern winterland.

    • TheCountess says:

      Any organization that receives them could and likely would check the bears for any untoward tampering. After all, someone who claimed to have bought and donated them directly could have done the same thing. There are safeguards set up to screen material donations.

    • Amy says:

      I agree. She could donate the teddy bears to a children’s hospital, or to that program where police give a teddy bear to traumatized children. And she should have either given away or sold the earrings. But to throw away all gifts from her fans makes her a big jerk in my eyes. Yeah, I’m sure there are some odd gifts, but sometimes fans send really nice gifts that the celeb really likes.

      Also, what if the guy that sent the diamonds reads about this? If he’s nuts, this might enrage him and then go all kinds of crazy. She should not have mentioned it at all.

      • msw says:

        She is throwing away stuff that gets sent directly to her house. She probably feels like it has really bad juju is someone is aware of where she lives and doesn’t have the sense to send mail to her agent or her office. I’m not saying it’s rational, but I don’t think it makes her a jerk.

      • Green Girl says:

        I can only imagine how unnerving it would be to receive gifts – and extravagant gifts, no less – from fans at one’s own home. I don’t blame her at all for wanting to get rid of the gifts ASAP instead of trying to find a charity to donate it to.

      • Bridget says:

        These aren’t normal fan items – they’re from people who did some digging amd found out her home address. That’s creepy.

    • Sarah says:


      • Sarah says:

        In theory, donating that stuff seems like a good thing to do, but in practice, I’d guess it’s not that easy or really all that good an idea. Aside from the creepy camera possibility some have mentioned, who knows where these stuffed animals came from and what the sender might have done. Besides, she didn’t ask for this stuff, so why should she be obligated to do anything with it?

        As for the earrings, I threw away a pair of gemstone earrings once. They were just too emotionally loaded for me. I didn’t want money from selling them. I didn’t want their energy in the world. I just needed them not to exist anymore. So I won’t fault her for that, either. It’s got to be creepy as heck to have people like that sending things to your home.

      • Venus says:

        @Sarah: I agree. I’d be totally creeped out by getting diamond earrings from a complete stranger, especially with that letter, and wouldn’t want to have anything at all to do with them. Wicked bad energy. Into the trash they go. It’s his money he spent, after all — why should she have to recoup his costs and send it to charity?

    • Wren says:

      For some reason the idea of throwing away a teddy bear makes me sad. Not that I think she should keep them, far from it, but donating them to a children’s hospital was the first thing that crossed my mind.

      • J. says:

        Most charities will not take stuffed animals because they are germ carriers.

        I learned this after buying stuffed animals for years to donate to Toys for Tots. A charity worker eventually admitted those stuffed animals likely got tossed because of the germ issue.

    • Megan says:

      If fans sent stuff to my home it would make me sooo paranoid. I’d probably be afraid to touch it.

    • Mike says:

      There was a news story in Las Vegas about the garbage men and all the incredible stuff people throw away. i would bet the men who pick up her trash know who she is and go through her stuff pretty thoroughly. Especially now that they know she is tossing diamonds out.

    • India Andrews says:

      Charities like Salvation Army only take stuffed animals if they are new in an unopened container. Otherwise they could have too many dust mites and germs that would make someone with a compromised immune system sick.

  2. Linn says:

    I understand that it’s creepy to get such a letter and gift, but I don’t like that she through them away. Sell them and keep the money or give the money to charity.

    Why do people know her home adress anyway? She can be glad that people seem to keep it at sending her stuff instead of standing in front of her door.

    • Aussie girl says:

      I would have donated them to charity or gone up to a stranger and given them to them, with out the back story of cray so they could enjoy them.

    • Wren says:

      She said she took the trouble to have the earrings valued by a jeweler, so if I was her my next question after being told they diamonds were real would have been, “What will you give me for them?” Or I would have taken them to one of those places with the big “We Buy Gold!” Banners and sold them there.

      I don’t know why but her casual, “eh, I just throw it all away” really strikes a weird note with me.

      • Isadora says:

        I don’t believe a word of that… In the end she didn’t even have to sell the diamonds if they are of good quality. If they were big enough for earrings, she could give them to someone to recut and reset, maybe into a ring or hair clip something? The creepy fan would never recognize them.

        And if it’s too creepy for herself and she didn’t want those earrings out there, she could just sell the diamonds without the earrings.

  3. Frida_K says:

    And she couldn’t donate them to an organization that does things like silent auctions for charity?

    And if she was concerned that the fan was a nutter, it is a good thing to relay this anecdote far and wide?

    Ah. I see.


  4. Anna says:

    I’ve heard she’s a jerk to fans before so I’m not really surprised by this story. Not that I think she should humor someone she thinks is a stalker but the bluntness (and her attitude) of her saying she throws everything away isn’t surprising to me based on the stories I’ve heard about her with her fans

    • HH says:

      That’s interesting. I haven’t heard that before and it makes more sense. I was also struck by how blunt and nonchalant she was about it.

      I will say though that dealing with fans has to be ROUGH. A lot of people either have NO personal boundaries or they feel that those boundaries disappear because you’re a celebrity. For example, the people that have inappropriately touched celebrities in concerts this past year: Tim McGraw, Beyonce, and Justin Timberlake. Or, fan autographs. People ask when you’re eating or trying to enjoy your time, elsewhere. It’s just gotta be tough.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I think she should have kept this story private, instead of humiliating the guy. I mean, he did say in the letter that he didn’t want to pressure her on social media so at least he showed some modicum of self-awareness.

      I don’t know…I can understand how scary it would be as a celebrity to be targeted by obsessive fans, but the story she’s telling here doesn’t sound nearly as Code Red as some of the other stories you hear….

      • Zigggy says:

        THIS. She seems very cold.

      • Happyhat says:

        I’m not sure what self awareness he’s gotta have if he’s convinced he and Anna Kendrick are ‘meant to be together’ and ‘here’s some diamonds’.

        I don’t see it as cold at all. Strange items from strangers. Stuff from strangers in the mail! Hello anthrax?

        I do think she should have privately sold those earrings and given the money to charity though. Hopefully, someone will find those earrings in her trash and get some money for them.

    • starrywonder says:

      Honestly I haven’t heard that. I have hear that some fans have unfortunately come up to her and said that they have a gf but she’s on their freebie five list. That’s just creepy. And the teddy bear thing. No I’m sorry I don’t blame her for throwing those out. Most charitable places don’t accept things unless they have been washed anyway and children’s hospitals are even more stringent about what can be donated to them since kids that are there often have to be careful about germs. I wouldn’t trust some fan who sent me gifts in the mail to actually not have tampered with the thing or….left something on them. Ugh.

  5. Seb says:

    She’s always bothered me. I was watching her press conference for cake with Jennifer aniston and she came across as kind of stand offish and she was rude to one press guy who asked one serious question and then asked what everyone’s favorite cake was and she was like one good question and one silly question but she said it not in a fun jokey but an arrogant way.

  6. Lee says:

    Maybe she’s just sending a very public message to the crazies and potential crazies? Telling them to not bother. And really the teddies go to charity and diamond earrings/jewellery get passed on to friends? I hope that’s the case, cause otherwise, she sounds like a beotch.

    • Linn says:

      She talks about the stuff going in the trash and throwing the gifts away, so I would assume that exactly what happens.

      If she would give the things she doesn’t want to someone else she probably would have said so.

    • Charlotte says:

      That’s what I was wondering too. Maybe she said that so that her creepy fans who send stuff to her house won’t bother in future, and the diamond earring guy will understand that she’s not his soulmate.

  7. Tifygodess24 says:

    I mean how dumb has she not heard of Charity , any of these items could be donated to those less fortunate. Granted I’m not saying go run to goodwill with every teddy bear but to know there are people without food on their table and she throws out diamond earrings? I just can’t with that. And maybe it’s just the way it was written but she seems rather cold.

  8. Rococo says:

    I like Anna but I don’t know why she didn’t sell the earrings and donate the money somewhere if they bothered her that much…also, as for the bears, there’s so many places they could be donated to, it just feels so wasteful to me!

  9. gloaming says:

    This interview is from Mark Maron’s WTF Podcast.
    He’s a great interviewer…The Louis CK one is legendary.

  10. Meme says:

    She annoys me and what she did with the earrings was stupid. The person who sent her those earrings could go psycho reading this.

    • macey says:

      That was exactly my first thought. What if he really tries to go after her now? I forget the girls name but there was a celeb yrs ago that had stalker like that and he ended up shooting her when she answered the door. I think it was the girl from Mork N Mindy but cant remember.

      She shouldn’t have said anything or better yet donate them to something without saying a word.

      • GByeGirl says:

        It was the girl who was in another show with Pam Dawber, formerly of Mork & Mindy. My Sister Sam, I think?

      • Aotearovian says:

        Someone mentioned her above – Rebecca Schaeffer.

        Not to mention the case of John Hinckley, who shot Reagan to get Jodie Foster’s attention. She was in college and he’d been writing to her for some time.

    • Brin says:

      Agree…she comes out looking worse than her creepy fan.

    • Mel M says:

      Exactly! Um, if he’s that delusional to think that they are meant to be together and bought her diamond earrings then he is 100% going to be reading every interview she gives.

  11. Anastasia says:

    Another vote for why didn’t she sell them and give the money to her favorite charity?

    Geez. It’s not that hard. That was the first thought that popped into my head.

  12. Belle Epoch says:

    What an idiot!!! She thinks she is living according to some Trash Principle that must be obeyed. No, it’s a stupid idea. How about selling the earrings and giving the money to a hospital? Money is still green whether she likes the gift giver or not.

  13. Mzizkrizten says:

    She could have sold them and given the money to charity. Throwing them out is odd. Actually I don’t believe her. She went to all the trouble of having them appraised for authenticity only to trash them? Weird.

    • PunkyMomma says:

      Agree. She could have just sold them after the appraisal and quietly donated the cash to charity.

    • Buttock Fatock says:

      This. Why bother appraising them at all if she planned to trash them? Would she have somehow kept them if they were fake? Doubtful. I don’t really believe her story.

    • AntiStupid says:

      I disagree. Giving the earrings to charity, is basically accepting the gift in a way. Throwing them away, or sending them back is the proper message. Which is NO, I don’t take creepy gifts.

  14. smcollins says:

    Accascuse me? I understand not wanting to keep all the stuff people send her, but donating the items makes more sense than just throwing them in the trash (especially diamond earrings!). Still like her though, and I’m anxiously awaiting the release of PP2. 😉

  15. Kate says:

    Am I the only one tired of so many of these women obsessed with proving how “cool” they are? Sorry but I’ll take an Anne Hathaway type any day of the week over this. The “cool girl” routine is phony.

  16. Kate says:

    She doesn’t say how expensive the earrings were, and I doubt she threw away proper jewels. You can buy crappy diamond earrings for a hundred bucks, and really anything under one thousand is basically worthless as soon as it leaves the store. Was she supposed to pawn the unwanted creepy gift just to get $50 if she was lucky?

    The creepy fan would have had to spend well over 10k before trying to sell the earrings or donate them to charity would be worth her time, and at that point her bigger issue would be that that sort of expenditure would make the fan quite scary.

    • lower-case deb says:

      i wonder if you can just give it to Oxfam or some similar charity shop. even if it goes for a tenner it’s still a tenner going to charity.

      then again, perhaps someone dump diving could’ve gotten lucky.

      i just hope it won’t give other crazy people ideas of periodically diving into Anna Kendrick’s bin.

      • Kate says:

        Sure. But y’know, maybe she just feels the need to trash these gifts. Because they are super creepy, and I’m sure they make her uncomfortable. It probably feels better to just get rid rather than hold onto them until she has time to go to her local charity shop.

        It’s not the same thing, but I’m no contact with a member of my family. Sometimes he sends me gifts on my birthday, Christmas etc. These go straight in the bin. It would all make a few bucks at a charity shop, but I just don’t want to deal with it. The person sending me gifts wants me to pay attention to them, and on some level that’s what the people sending Anna gifts want to. Just ignoring it by trashing it immediately feels good because you aren’t giving that person any of your time or validating their intrusiveness.

    • Tifygodess24 says:

      It may not seem like a lot but even $50 could have helped someone , a woman’s shelter etc. She went out of her way to say they were real , took the time out to get them appraised so she could have even had an assistant ( or herself ) sell them or even bring the item to the Salvation Army or so on. I don’t see how something would need to be 10,000$ to be worth her time considering her time was clearly ” valuable ” enough to even check them in the first time. I may not a big celebrity but I take the time out to donate to others even if I have to go out of my way.

      • Kate says:

        But she can just give $50 to charity. It’s not like she’s throwing away her only means of donating to charity. She supports a few charities publicly, I assume she donates as well.

        She would have checked whether they were real so she could tell just how weird this fan was. If they were $5 studs from some cheap fashion brand, probably harmless. If he’d sent her a priceless family heirloom, time to beef up the home security.

      • Tifygodess24 says:

        I get what you are saying but being aware of all the poverty in this nation , even the world I just can wrap my head around throwing out something that has value like that and to have such a cold attitude about it. It’s like I’m going to brag about how some looney sent me diamond earrings and act like its no big deal I trashed them. With this mentality I might as well take this $100 bill and burn it because I don’t need the money. The earrings may have been worth $50 or heck a $1000 , we don’t know but I just think its so wasteful. I’m glad she is involved with other charities but that’s not what this is about its about acting so out if touch that throwing out diamond earrings is just no big deal.

      • sigh((s)) says:

        I agree with you, Kate. She had them appraised to find out the level of creepy she was dealing with.

      • Ruth Dunbar says:

        If she really wanted to send a message, maybe sell them and donate the proceeds to a stalker prevention charity?

    • pamspam says:

      I find it odd, though, that she didn’t just toss them immediately if she was so (rightfully) creeped out. Why bother taking them to a jeweler if she were just going trash them as she does with all gifts. Struck me as strange.

  17. Suki2 says:

    She has fans?

    • aang says:

      haha, that’s what I thought……

    • Anath Pariah says:

      Besides lurking on here for whatever reasons, I’m pretty oblivious to pop culture in general. Even then, I have a general idea who’s from what and I can’t even really say I know who she is. I get that she’s an actress, but I don’t know what movie roles she’s known for.

      I know that a lot of guys my age think she’s so “cool”, and I’m not really buying it.

  18. familr says:

    The exchange is from the latest episode of WTF by Marc Maron. The full exchange went something like:

    Anna: “Where did you get that ring?”
    Marc: “From a fan.”
    Anna: “Cool”
    Marc: “I bet you get weird fan gifts all the time”
    Anna: “Yes, but this can make sound like a bitch …
    (diamond earring story)

    Interview proceeds on to why she seems to attract creeping dudes.

  19. Maria says:

    i dont understand the fuss. She is sending a clear message: DONT SEND STUFF TO MY HOME!
    its not like she gives the adress away i pressume. imagine someone you dont know sending you stuff to your home. that must creep you out big time. they know where you live.

    if she would say she keeps it or donates it people would feel validated. i dont think her answers actually gives away if she really throws them away or not. she just wants people to stop sending her stuff to her private adress.

    • snowflake says:

      that would be so freaking creepy to me. i couldn’t deal with it. i’d be thinking, well, if they do that, what are they going to do next?

    • Mixtape says:

      I completely agree–she is identifying the boundary here, and she has every right to. She clearly explained her reasoning: if you send anything to my house, regardless of the value, it goes in the trash, so don’t bother.

      There is so much criticism of AK on here for not donating the teddy bears or diamonds. Isn’t it also fair, then, to criticize the senders of these items for not finding a more worthy cause for their spare change than nonsensical and unsolicited gifts for celebrities? Why is the burden on her? I’m just a little surprised that, on the same day this site has such a thoughtful discussion of the Ray Rice situation, the same commentators would be so quick to condemn a woman for being firm in her refusal to pander to unhealthy and, in some cases, delusional gestures of “romance.”

      • sigh((s)) says:

        Right, mix. If fans are stalker-ish enough to find out her home address and send her things, you know they would use her donating these things to charity as validation that the gifts were meaningful to her, but since she’s such a kind and generous person, she decided to help others with those love tokens.
        Aaaaand the cycle gets perpetuated.
        I say trash them, girl. That creepy juju needs to leave this world.

      • Kirsten says:

        You hit the nail on the head I couldn’t agree more. I’m frankly a bit surprised at the responses here esp. from posters that I often agree with. She did what I would do if I had to deal with creepers, especially those with her home address. *shudders*

      • Ange says:

        Thank heavens someone said it! I was astounded that so many people would jump on Kendrick for not being thrilled that she is being sent creepy notes and gifts with the implication that people know where she lives and have something of an unhealthy fixation on her. I wouldn’t want those gifts either, they cross boundaries and goodness knows what was done with them first. She doesn’t owe this creepy guy anything to protect his feelings, he has mental issues and could escalate.

  20. Rose says:

    I think she was scared and publically sent the stalker the message that she does not accept ANY gifts. She has the right to do so.

  21. Marianne says:

    I get that sending gifts to her home is kind of creepy (especially a letter about how they should be together) but c’mon you could have donated them. Even the teddy bears could have been donated.

    I like Anna, but this doesn’t make me like her very much.

  22. savu says:

    I get the principle of throwing them away, if she’s vocal about that then hopefully less people will do it because they know it’ll end up in the trash.

    BUT call any charity that deals with kids or has auctions, they’d be there to pick that shit up pronto. I’d love to see them go to women and children’s centers, the bears for comfort and the earrings can be sold for funds.

  23. Lucy2 says:

    I really like her too, and fully understand her being creeped out by things coming to her house and just wanting to instantly get rid of them. But I fully agree that the earrings should have simply been returned or given to some charity. If I were her I think I would just write “return to sender, incorrect address”, on everything.
    I also don’t know if talking about this publicly was a good idea- The guy who sent them obviously isn’t too mentally stable, and now he has confirmation she received them.

    • Dani2 says:

      Agreed on both counts.

      I love her, I’ve loved her since the first time I saw in her something outside twilight and her twitter is one of my favourite celeb twitters. But yeah, she should’ve given it to charity, I understand being creeped out but that would’ve been the better thing to do.

    • Kate says:

      Not a good idea. An actual stalker would love that kind of contact. Knowing she got the letter is one thing, getting it back after it’s been in her home is another. ‘Maybe she touched it, maybe that’s her handwriting, maybe this is her way of reaching out…’it would pouring fuel all over the fire.

    • Amy says:

      Return to sender, incorrect address is a very good idea.

      • lucy2 says:

        Make them think they got wrong info and that’s not really her house.

        I think I’d also have all mail delivered to an office or PO box at this point.

  24. Leigh_S says:

    If she’s having problems with creepy fans, there’s a smart message here. “Escalation will not be rewarded”

    How many times have we seen something like this play out?
    First notes, then flowers, then teddy bears, then earrings, then delusion of relationship, then home invasion…

  25. Chris says:

    Her message to these people is quite simple. She does the movies. They watch them. The end. She’s just setting firm boundaries.

    • lower-case deb says:

      i think it’s not as extreme as that. she still accepts prezzies and gifts from fans, just not the ones sent directly to her house.

      i’m guessing she is setting clear boundaries between work (maybe red carpet, movie set, her agent’s office) and private (her home).

      at least that’s what i get from the interview.

  26. Pager90 says:

    She could have done what Whoopi Goldberg’s character did in the movie Ghost and put them in a Donation box can/Salvation army.

    But,….she probably is letting creepy stalkers know, STOP sending things, it just gets trashed!

  27. MsMercury says:

    I don’t understand why she checked to see if they were real diamonds if she was just going to throw them in the trash anyway. I agree with others that said she should have donated or sold the stuff and gave the money to charity.

  28. Mia4S says:

    Donate the teddy bears? After what some of these guys might have been doing with those teddy bears? Are you nuts? Trash them and make your own charitable donations. Even the thought of what might have gone on with those bears would keep me up at night if I sent them to children.

    The earrings? Well if she said she donated them that keeps the connection going. “We did something nice together”. Better to set boundaries and cut ties. And fans for crying out loud most stuff you send stars or give at conventions gets trashed. Grow up!

    • starrywonder says:

      I keep having disturbing flashbacks to that L&O episode where the guy put anthrax or some weird disease on earrings he gave a woman that broke it off with him….

  29. stellalovejoydiver says:

    If some fan sent me a gift to my home address, I would move immediately.

  30. aenflex says:

    Donate these items to a shelter or other charitable institution. Something. Throwing it away is just stupid, and speaks to her disconnect from reality.

  31. Lia says:

    I listened to the entire interview. At one point she mentions having had to hire a private investigator to help deal with a stalker. She’s a woman living alone. Based on little details she shared, she does not live in a gated community with any sort of security detail. I think it’s really easy to sit in judgment of her, but until we’ve been subjected to a constant stream of privacy invasion in our homes, it’s hard to say that we’d behave differently. Establishing very harsh, clear boundaries with zero wiggle room is her way of taking some control of a dynamic that has made her a target in her own home.

    • Kate says:

      This. She’s famous and has some very, very obsessed fans, but she’s not a mega rich movie star with proper security or an impenetrable compound for a home, so she’s extremely vulnerable.

      Seriously people, if a whole bunch of boundary-less weirdo’s started sending ‘gifts’ to your house, would your first concern really be making sure the ‘gifts’ found their way to a charity shop? If things escalated to the point where one particularly creepy guy was sending diamonds, would you be driving around visiting pawn shops trying to get the best price so as to maximise your charitable contributions, or would you just be disturbed and wishing it would stop?

      • Marianne says:

        I dont think she has to spend her day driving to different pawn shops, but she could simply make a stop at goodwill and dump the stuff there. And then maybe make an announcement to her fans that she would prefer gifts to be sent to her agency and NOT her home. Plus, if she’s really concerned about safety why risk antagonizing this guy by saying she threw the jewellery away in the trash? Why not ask for a restraining order?

    • GByeGirl says:

      I think that women like her are more bound to have stalkers. By women like her, I mean approachable in looks and demeanor. She’s obviously beautiful, but by “hot star” standards…she doesn’t have the ridiculously hot-unapproachable, other-world type of looks that someone like Megan Fox has. Creeps who stalk tend to go for women like her. Weirdos think that they have a chance with her.

  32. Dani says:

    I feel like sharing this story was a bad idea. Some fans are nuts and this guy could get seriously worked up over the fact that she threw the earrings out and do god knows what to her.

  33. Lia says:

    Additionally, checking to see if the diamonds are real was probably done to gauge the seriousness and potential danger of the man who sent them. If he’s sent multiple items and these earrings were just the latest, confirming that they are real gems points to an escalation. I personally think I would have donated them, but I also have never had to deal with this sort of ongoing invasion of privacy.

    • Kate says:

      Exactly. Whether they were diamonds or not, whether they’re expensive diamonds or bargain basement diamonds, whether they’re just a common style sold in hundreds of chain jewelers or something more unique and specially chosen …that tells you a lot about who you’re dealing with.

  34. Lydia says:

    Why not sell them and donate the money to charity? Why is she throwing them away? I never liked her and her rat face and this is not helping.

  35. Tippy says:

    She shouldn’t have even acknowledged receiving the earrings. Why bother antagonizing a “stalker” when she could have just ignored his romantic overtures.

    All celebrities, even those at the local levels, deal with similar situations by ignoring overzealous fans whenever possible and the problem eventually resolves itself.

    Unless she’s being threatened it’s best not to make such a fuss about receiving fan mail.

  36. Jaded says:

    Why not just give the letter and earrings to the police and let them handle it? That was truly stupid and wasteful.

  37. serena says:

    I like Anna, and I could understand why it bothers her to no end that her fans send stuff at her home. BUT trashing EVERYTHING away is damn rude and wasteful.
    Also, I get that some of those letters are written by overly entusiastic fans or psycos/stalkers but not everyone of them, right? She’s trashing teddy bears for gods sake.. just donate the gifts!

  38. pnichols says:

    Anna Kendrick……Charity have you two met? Loser.

  39. StacyGInTheCLE says:

    For everyone giving her shit, think about it for a second. You go to your house, find a package on your porch, it’s from a complete stranger, someone you’ve never met. Despite this, they say they love you and think you should be together, they know a creepy level of details about you and think you would be together forever if you would just give them a chance. Are you SERIOUSLY saying you would do anything with it OTHER than throw it away? Personally, I’d burn it. Given that stars are regularly stalked and have been assaulted and killed in the past, I personally would not be flattered or even okay with it. It is NOT normal to mail things to strangers and profess your love for them/ask to be together, she has every right to discard the gifts.

    • Marianne says:

      If that happened to me, I wouldn’t throw it away. I would call the cops and let them deal with it.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        This. And I also wouldn’t reveal this story to millions of people, for my own safety if for no other reason.

  40. Dany says:

    She deals with a stalker and had to hire a professionel to help her with that stalker. So she does the right thing. Donating the earrings to charity sounds nice… till the crazy stalker hears it. Then this weirdo feels “the connection”. He feels important and noted by her because they TOGETHER donated something… like a loving couple…CREEPY!

    And who knows what people did with the teddy bears…urghhh. You never know! Stalkers are perverts. Think about body fluids, rape drugs etc. inside or on the pelt. I could never give these stuffies to little children. Never.

    • starrywonder says:


    • Candy Love says:

      Do you not believe that the stalker while read this interview and know what she did with the earrings.

      Her revealing this story make an even bigger “connection” then if she just kept quiet and donating them. He know that she felt his gift was important for her to remember and reveal it to thousands of people.

  41. Algernon says:

    When she relayed this story in Marc Maron’s WTF podcast, it made perfect sense. They were talking about fans and vulnerability and how she’s increasingly finding herself at the receiving end of some pretty intimidating scrutiny. I also doubted, when I listened to the podcast, that she *actually* trashed the diamonds. She probably did sell them (likely to whomever appraised them), but that would have sounded **worse**, don’t pretend like you wouldn’t all be mad at her for “profiting” off fans if she’d come out with that. As many others have said, why bother appraising them if you’re just going to trash them?

    The way she relayed the story did not come off as bitchy or rude or cold. She sounded genuinely disturbed to be receiving things at home, and she emphasized she’s only throwing away things sent directly to her house. (Also, celebrities are not required to treasure every crappy drawing handed to them by fans. Sites like Tumblr and DeviantArt exist for that kind of thing.) It seemed like she was making a point to say, “Don’t send things to my home, that’s creepy and inappropriate,” without actually *being* a bitch about it. She just relayed an anecdote about how uncomfortable it makes her, and how something *you* think might be cool is actually kind of scary and over the top to the person on the other end.

    Could she be donating teddy bears? Maybe, but given real concerns about stalking and home invasion, she’s right to have a “zero tolerance” policy regarding her home.

    ETA: The other problem with “just dontate!” is that then, if/when it got around that that’s what she was doing, her fans would take it as a sign it’s okay to keep sending her things at home. Have you seen how fans behave these days? If you give them an inch, they will walk all over your life. Yes, celebrities have a decreased level of personal privacy, but everyone should be able to feel safe AT HOME.

    • Angie says:

      Thanks for this post. I bet she sold the diamonds and probably donated the proceeds but wanted to send a message to the crazy fans: “Don’t send things to my home. I’ll just throw them away. ”

      She’s really in an untenable situation when you think about it. She risks pissing crazies off with this message but I understand why she sending it.

  42. Mrs. Wellen Melon says:

    Two words: charity auction.

  43. Suzy from Ontario says:

    I agree with those who said she should have donated the earrings to charity. Even the stuffed animals could have been carefully inspected for any camera or other weirdness, cleaned and donated to a childrens hospital. That stuff is creepy but either put Return to Sender on the front of the package and put it back in the mail (you don’t need postage to do that) OR donate but don’t just throw it out. A charity could have auctioned off those diamond earrings and the money could’ve done some good.

    • word says:

      Yes, return to sender (if the sender gave their address that is). There are plenty of homeless people in LA, plenty of charities. I would have sold the earrings and bought food for a food bank/homeless shelter or school supplies for kids in need.

  44. Alex says:

    I’m sorry but I agree with what she did here. Considering how crazy people can be who knows what has been done to the things fans send. I’m sure she has a trashing rule so she doesn’t have to distinguish between harmless fans and not. I’ve heard of crazy stuff being put in teddy bears and stuff so you really can’t be too careful. And for everyone who says she should donate them…she donates enough to charity. Just the other day she posted a photo of everything she was donating to goodwill this month. And she does this often. So for me I can’t judge her for drawing a line to protect herself. She can donate money later but I doubt the fan sent her any diamonds that were worth more than a check she could send. I’m not going to judge a celebrity for how they deal with fans (unless they are always mean or something) because I can’t say I would deal with the constant invasion gracefully.

  45. tealily says:

    Yeah, I agree she should have donated them or something, but I can understand feeling like she needed to throw them out for her own mental well-being. Hopefully someone trash-picked them. If they didn’t before, I’m sure people will be all over her trash now!

  46. notlistening says:

    Just give them to charity or send them back, jesus.

  47. sweetpotato says:

    Even if it isn’t true – she should have stated something simple like, “when things are delivered to my house, I feel weird, and I have a trusty friend that whisks the packages away and deals with them in an appropriate way so that I don’t have to.”

    Just my two cents. This would absolve her from both things A. encouraging escalation B. coming off as cold and wasteful.

  48. Anonymous says:

    I am really surprised by some of the comments on this site. Anna is entitled to do what she wants with earrings given to her by what is potentially someone who is mentally volatile unstable. It’s not our place to judge her, and all of this sounds blamey towards someone who had her privacy and personal space violated.

    • sweetpotato says:

      Meh. She didn’t have to share the story. It’s not like it was released without her consent. It’s a story she, a public person, shared during an interview, therefore, we can respond to it.

  49. Lia says:

    I have never heard of a children’s hospital that accepts possibly dangerous (bodily fluids, harmful substances etc…) used toys. For everyone suggesting to, “donate them, they’ll clean them”, just no. That’s a huge liability issue for the hospital. Anna mentions not wanting to risk the possibility of someone getting hurt (anthrax was one hypothetical) and she’s right.

    • word says:

      She could have sold the stuff on Ebay and given the money to charity.

      • Algernon says:

        The problem with that, though, is that if she acknowledges in any way that she is even looking at this stuff some nutcase could see that at a “message” and escalate into proper stalking. There are very real personal security concerns at play here, and I’m kind of shocked that people are just totally ignoring that aspect.

        The way this came off to me in the WTF podcast (how many people here have actually heard this related in her own words? She does not come off bitchy/rude *at all*), is that she is saying, “I get all kinds of stuff sent to my house. Teddybears and one time even diamonds. But it doesn’t matter, if you send something to my house, no matter what it is, it’s going in the trash. That is not appropriate, I am not keeping any of that stuff.” It seemed like a perfectly reasonable and GOOD boundary to have.

      • Marianne says:

        Yes, but then isn’t she doing the same anyway? I mean, she’s still acknowledging that she recived the gift and even took the time to get it appraised.

      • word says:

        @ Algernon

        But her real concern should be that people know where she lives and are sending her stuff to her actual home address. I’d be afraid a crazy would should up at the door. Some fans may have gotten their feelings hurt knowing she throws everything away. It’s such a waste. She should have said, if anyone mails stuff to my home, I don’t keep any of it, I give it away or sell it for charity. Plus, she already acknowledged she looks at the stuff, otherwise, how would she know about the diamond? Better yet, how did she know it was a real diamond? So she basically admitted she does look at the stuff, but then throws it away…so in essence this won’t stop people from sending her stuff because they know she will still look at it.

      • Algernon says:

        I know it’s a little contradictory, but if you listen to the podcast her intent is clear. She’s blatantly saying it doesn’t matter what you send, it all goes in the trash. It is in no way encouraging. Fans can be fruitcakes, and will take and twist anything to fit their fruitcake narrative. She’s just saying that it doesn’t matter what you send her she isn’t keeping any of it, she isn’t sorting it, she isn’t taking it on a case by case basis. She’s trashing everything. And once again, given real personal security concerns, that seems like the best thing to do.

        Why isn’t the conversation that her fans should start sending stuff to charities in her name? How about stop sending her stuff she’s just going to throw away and donate that teddy bear to a children’s charity in her name instead? But that’s not what this is about. This is about fan entitlement, and fans thinking celebrities owe them consideration no matter what boundaries the fan has crossed. Anna Kendrick is saying that sending stuff to her home, no matter how well meaning, is inappropriate. That seems reasonable.

      • word says:

        Yeah but the only way she knew a fan sent her diamonds is buy OPENING the package right? So she just let everyone know that YES, she does in fact open “fan mail”. The real issue here is how did fans learn of her home address? That’s the scary part. Also, fans weren’t aware until this podcast that she throws out fan mail…now that they are made aware of it, let’s hope they stop sending it, or yes, they donate it in her name.

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      Stuffed animals and toys are accepted by numerous charities as “gently used”. Please don’t perpetuate a fiction that unused goods have to go in the trash. Many hospitals and hospices accept flowers and floral arrangements, don’t spread misinformation. Wastefulness should never be encouraged.

  50. venus velvet says:

    I know where I’d be making a regular stop if I were an area dumpster diver.

  51. Adrien says:

    Who are these weirdos who sent Anna real diamonds? I bet they are crazed Rocket Science fans. I once planned to send some diamond studs and cash to Nicholas d’ Agosto.

  52. Delilah says:

    I am surprised at some of the criticism for Anna’s response and lack of empathy. I am an ordinary citizen and most recently a stranger followed me to work after seeing me at a restaurant. I had no idea! And when I think how he had to have used stealth to follow me for at least 10-15 minutes without my awareness just to ask me to dinner, I freaked! For days I thought he could follow me home or wherever else I frequent. I told the concierge to observe whatever security protocols.

    With Anna constantly being at the receiving end of creepy gestures I can just imagine how serious she wants to come off in terms of a zero tolerance policy on stalking and harassment. It is scary and it should be handled with extreme gravity.

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      What happened to you was scary and she is wise to have a standard policy she sticks to with the stuff she receives but that doesn’t make it okay to throw goods into the landfill.

      • Delilah says:

        Thanks Bob. I shudder at the thought of unused goods going into the trash. The optimist in me believes she doesn’t really toss items but rather advertises this to allow propaganda to quell would-be stalker attempts to connect.

  53. NewGirl says:

    Didn’t realize that she had fans.. She’s cute but I don’t think she’s hot.

  54. mimi says:

    We’re recycling nuts at our house. We even have a compost in our backyard. So this story about her throwing away gifts from fans is really bugging me. Who throws out diamonds?! I can understand her being weirded out receiving real diamonds from a total stranger but donating them to a charity or giving them to someone in need makes more sense to me than tossing them in the trash bin. Diamonds are not trash!

    Let this be a lesson to fans who send gifts to celebs…don’t do it! In cases like this, they don’t appreciate the gesture. All they want from their fans is support. They want you to buy tickets to their movies, concerts, fragrances or other products they’re endorsing. Instead, send the teddy bears to children in need. They will appreciate the gesture more.

    • Marianne says:

      I dont think the message is “Don’t send gifts”…I think its “Don’t send gifts to their house. Apparently the Bucky and Falcon dolls that Anthony and Sebastian used for their ALS video were given to them from a fan at some con. I also know Chris Colfer has a shelf that he keeps stuff from fans (but I also remember that he said, he only keeps the truly unique stuff). I mean, I wouldnt say every gift is un-appreciated, I think it just depends on what it is and how it was given to them.

  55. babyb says:

    why oh why is this girl trying to happen? she is more annoying as her sub-character in twilight…
    she’s no star. if there are serious stalker issues she should go to the police. but speaking like she has hords of fans is delusional… she’s no mimi or gaga….

  56. imstupid says:

    I think it was *sarcasm*, people, she didn’t put them in the trash:P:P:P.

  57. Bread and Circuses says:


    Or send them back to the guy with a terse note from your agent. After all, if he has a weak-ish grip on reality, he probably shouldn’t be spending his money on diamonds anyway. It would be kind to give him the option of getting some of his money back.

    • Green Girl says:

      Honest question: He makes her feel uncomfortable – why does she then need to be nice to him?

      • Bread and Circuses says:

        Because he might be mentally ill.

        She doesn’t have to be nice, but she might choose to be kind (although preferably through a third party, like her agent or lawyer, as it may not be wise to interact directly with the guy.)

    • mazza says:

      No. No one has an obligation to be nice to people like this dude. Society says women have to be nice. No communication. None.

  58. Irishae says:

    Like most, I wince at the thought of diamonds being thrown in the trash. But I’m on the fence about this for a few reasons. I couldn’t accept those earrings for an auction or any purpose at the non-profit organization I work without due diligence…who/where/how/when purchased, etc. Any stuffed animals are unfortunately not usable for health and safety issues. It IS ridiculous, but it’s just a result of the society we live in.

    Even though she is a celebrity, sending gifts with a letter professing love and fated romance should be treated as red flag. Any acknowledgement will only encourage further and potentially more extreme behavior in the future. Just my more-than-two-cents.

    • Bob Loblaw says:

      Stuffed animals can be cleaned and many charities accept them as “gently used”. Please don’t encourage unnecessary wastefulness.

  59. Lisa says:

    What a stupid move. I would say that mocking a fan who doesn’t seem to live in reality is not such a smart thing to do.

  60. Janet says:

    Give the teddy bears to the local children’s hospital and sell the diamonds and give the proceeds to charity. What sense does it make to dump them in the trash? She doesn’t seem to waste a whole lot of time thinking.

    • India Andrews says:

      A children’s hospital won’t take stuffed animals unless they’re new in a never opened container because of the risk of germs and things like dust mites. The kids already have compromised immune systems.

  61. bermudashortz says:

    Well now the stalker IS getting attention via this article. Not a good move for her to talk about it. She needs to move and cloak her new address. Let her management handle fan letters.

    • Adele Dazeem says:

      Exactly what I thought. She should not have talked about it. More fool her. She should have just sent it and anything else she gets creeped out by to her management – they are being paid to look after her.

  62. Lurve says:

    She looks AMAZING. She’s okay looking but her makeup etc is just flawless. All of those actresses who get their breakthroughs have a team of makeup people stylists etc (and the odd plastic surgery job) and they end up looking great just after a year or so. Kate Beckingsale wasn’t so lucky; she moaned about looking dorky and plain because she didn’t know to get made over with a team, and she said Keira Knightley was on the ball right from the very start.

  63. may23 says:

    Not classy at all. She should have donated it to charity at the very least. It was a gift and a gift from someone who made an effort to be different.

    • Lurve says:

      I totally agree. Why throw it out completely? You can just give it to someone who needs the proceeds.

  64. amanda says:

    She should forward her fan mail on to Lil Kim. 😊

  65. Amy says:

    Honestly this would be my reaction if I received gifts from people I did not know through the mail, even if it was an entire treasure chest full of gold coins. Sure diamonds are great and yes they can be donated to charity. But I’m sorry, the first thought running through my head would not be, “Which charity should I donate this to and who is more deserving?” but more along the lines of my own safety such as “WTF are these, why were they sent to me and who knows I live here????” I would have thrown them out too.

  66. Bob Loblaw says:

    Crazy fan or not, that should not go in the landfill. Re-use, recycle, re-gift, return, re-anything. All the crap she receives that she doesn’t want should go to a charity. Hospitals and hospices often accept flowers. Every piece of old furniture, used clothes, retired devices or whatever she gets should be re-used, sold, passed on to family or friends, or given to charity. I was taught this as a child and it has always been practiced in my family. It is even more important today to be responsible about not filling trash cans and being wasteful. I understand and respect her policy of not accepting gifts but she needs to change her disposal habits.

  67. Sandra says:

    Why get them checked to see if they are real if you are just going to throw them away?

  68. Anath Pariah says:

    Can we stop trying to make this chick happen?

    My issue here isn’t that she feels uncomfortable about fans sending packages to her personal address – that’s perfectly understandable; what I have a problem with is the fact that she obviously didn’t feel too uncomfortable to antagonize the poor sucker in a public interview.

    He most likely is delusional and out of touch with reality, but I’m not sure if sharing this story reveals that she’s completely devoid of common sense, or she’s just an a-hole.

    Either way, I hope she feels important or remotely interesting. That’s what she was going for, right?

  69. Adele Dazeem says:

    I can understand Anna’s reaction – it does sound creepy. However, the fact that she has made her actions public and talked about it, ie. that she regularly throws away fans letters and gifts is a mistake in my eyes. Yes, having fans send things directly to your home is just not on, but she should not have admitted throwing away things in this interview. Rightly or wrongly, it makes her out to be sound completely ungrateful. She shouldn’t have answered the question. She could have just said “yeah, I get a few things sent to me from fans, but, hey, what can you do?”. And left it at that. Then only she would still know she actually throws them away.

    • Adele Dazeem says:

      Or she should just send these gifts straight to her management. They are the experts at dealing with fans and fan mail – she pays them management fees so get them to work for their fee – they can dispose of the gifts as they wish.

  70. Lulh says:

    As someone who has been on the receiving end of unwanted attention and has spent 7 years hiding my address I completely understand her reasoning. These people are sending gifts to her home and that is creepy and disrespectful and she has every right to throw everything away. Even diamond earrings. I know I had no problem throwing away jewellery that represented being terrified and knowing he had touched it made my skin crawl.

    • India Andrews says:

      Anyone can think of some creepy person who gave them unwanted attention and tried to give them gifts and know how Kendrick felt getting those earrings. You don’t care how valuable they are, you want them gone. It would sicken your stomach to wear them.

  71. mazza says:

    I’ve got friends who have worked with celebrities and a lot of the gifts do end up in the trash. The celebs can’t carry the amount of stuff on the plane, they have no where to put them, they don’t have the time to arrange to send to charity, etc. (Look, horrible but true).

    Also, by saying she does this, it discourages further interactions by the crazy fans. Sending the earrings back continues the interaction which is what he wants.

    • mazza says:

      And it was said upthread but The Gift of Fear addresses situations like this. I think she did the right thing.

  72. India Andrews says:

    I wouldn’t give anything to a celebrity or royal anyway. They have plenty of money to buy something and they’re not going to keep it.

  73. zelda says:

    Why didn’t she send them back?