Duchess Kate is staying with her parents because the palace is too exhausting

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Duchess Kate still feels like ten kinds of hell, apparently. Her hyperemesis gravidarum doesn’t seem to be getting much better, even though random royal aides were declaring just last week that Kate would probably be taking on some public appearances this month and next month. It’s gotten so bad that Kate is staying full-time with her parents in Bucklebury… and the aides are even confirming it! Usually the aides are pretty squirrelly with the information on Kate’s comings and goings from her parents’ mansion, mostly because (in my opinion) Kate has spent like half of her marriage at her parents’ house and that doesn’t really go along with the royal propaganda. But now Kate’s health is so bad, the aides are confirming that she’s staying with Carole and Michael. She probably has been there for a while.

The Duchess of Cambridge has been getting some home comforts as she continues to battle the effects of severe pregnancy sickness. Kate, 32, has been staying with her parents in Bucklebury as she is “not at all well, the poor thing,” a family friend tells PEOPLE.

“When you’re ill, the place you feel most comfortable is at home with your mum, isn’t it?” the source adds. “When she’s there, Kate can just relax and sit on the sofa and not have to worry about having to deal with all the staff and everything else that comes with a big palace full of rooms.”

Kate, who is very close to her mother, Carole, has been struggling with the debilitating condition, hyperemesis gravidarum, and hasn’t been seen in public since the palace made the announcement that she is expecting again. They were forced to make the news public early because she became unwell. Last week, she canceled an appearance at the launch of a new initiative of one of her charities, the Art Room. It came a couple of weeks after she had to miss out on her trip to Malta, with husband William going instead.

Palace officials say they are assessing on a “day by day basis” whether Kate (who is believed to be around 10 weeks pregnant) can resume public duties.

And one source tells PEOPLE, “It’s very difficult to give a timeframe for when we might see her again. But hopefully she will get better soon and will get some engagements in soon.”

This is in keeping with what experts say about the extent of her illness. “With this condition – hyperemesis gravidarum – recovery before about 16 weeks is pretty unusual,” says Caitlin Dean, who suffered from it in three pregnancies and has written a book, Hyperemesis Gravidarum – The Definitive Guide.

But, by spending time in Bucklebury around 50 miles west of her main doctors, it could signal that things are being managed well and she simply needs to rest. It was around the 13-week point in her previous pregnancy that Kate started tentatively doing public royal engagements again. Caitlin Dean says that “it’s not uncommon for women to have it worse in subsequent pregnancies.” But Kate’s doctors should be better prepared this time. “If you know you are going to get it and you have good doctors, then you can manage it better,” she adds.

“Last time, she did appear to recover quite quickly,” Dean also said. “But we did only see her for short appearances and then not for a while.”

[From People]

The family friend source seems… out of touch. Like, I think many people can probably relate to wanting their mom when they’re sick (although I don’t relate to that at all – I just want to be alone when I feel like hell). But can many people relate to feeling too sick to order around your palace servants? LOL. Yes, because when Kate is at her parents’ house, she “can just relax and sit on the sofa and not have to worry about having to deal with all the staff and everything else that comes with a big palace full of rooms.” Well la de da! That’s so Goopy, really. I can imagine Gwyneth Paltrow saying something like that too – “Ugh, I just wanted to go somewhere to relax, it’s so exhausting lying in bed at home and barking orders to all of the underlings.”

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  1. Abbott says:

    What a hero.

    • PHD gossip says:

      Is anyone buying this fairy tale anymore?

      • The Original Mia says:

        Yes, there are. I, fortunately, never did buy the fairytale.

      • Juliette says:

        Reading these detailed reports on the state of Kate’s womb, I find myself reminded of Hilary Mantel’s comments during the last pregnancy. Comments for which Mantel was persecuted, but which still ring true…

        “You see that your life is a charade, that the scenery is cardboard, that the paint is peeling, the red carpet fraying, and if you linger you will notice the oily devotion fade from the faces of your subjects, and you will see their retreating backs as they turn up their collars and button their coats and walk away into real life.”

      • wolfpup says:

        Juliette: Your comment was thought provoking.

      • hmmm says:

        Wow, Juliette. Thanks. That is brilliant.

      • Olenna says:

        @Juliette, how appropriate!

      • Vava says:

        The fairy tale only exists in Kate’s dreams. You could tell this union lacked passion by the way William has behaved both on his wedding day (i.e. Kate asking him if he was OK) and ever since then. She chose poorly when she married that guy. I think that’s one reason why she goes to Mummy so often – what sort of support does she get from her husband?

      • FLORC says:

        Vava
        That might be reading too much into asking if he was ok. That could mean a million things during that massive celebration. Judging from how much he’s away from Kate for great stretches of time though… I think all the passion and devotion is on Kate’s end. And while William might appreciate that he doesn’t reciprocate with the same intensity.

      • Chammy says:

        I don’t buy that it is more relaxed at home with mummy. I bet there is a housekeeper as well.
        I wonder if Kate and William had had a serious quarrel and Kate is running home to mummy to hide and to sulk till William comes and picks her up?

    • Chrissy says:

      Her life is so hard…..

    • Yup, Me says:

      I just finished reading the book How Children Succeed. The author talks about the various character strengths that kids need to succeed and mentions that kids who grow up wealthy sometimes miss out on the development of certain qualities of character because their lives are often set up (by their parents and their schools) in a way that prevents them from experiencing (and growing from) struggle and failure (and then facing themselves and their lives and making different choices).

      I kept thinking about Kate during that section. I don’t know (or really care) if she is or is not ill. But I DO think that it is as likely that she feels a little ill and is using it as an excuse not to do anything she doesn’t feel like doing as it is that she has severe and chronic morning sickness and is truly UNABLE to do ANYTHING.

      • HoustonGrl says:

        I think there’s a lot of truth to this. Remember in her engagement interviews, she mentioned more than once about William helping her through the “bad times”?
        I get that she had to deal with the media, but it’s not like they didn’t have unlimited holidays and several mansions/castles in which to seclude themselves. And it’s not like she had job stress!! I’m not sure Kate is equipped to handle much of anything that’s thrown her way, precisely because she’s had such a coddled existence. Even “royal” life is too stressful for her. Yes, with HG I’d probably want to run home to mom (figuratively, my mom lives in a different state), BUT, if I had a nanny, a cook, and a bevy of servants at my beck-and-call, I don’t think I’d be sending out press releases complaining about my living conditions. Kate is painfully out of touch.

      • Megan says:

        Ugh. It is so tiresome to hear about how wealthy children grow ill equipped for life. Look at Wall Street if you need proof that such theories are just bogus.

      • FLORC says:

        Megan
        Not everyone. The world isn’t so black and white.
        Trumps daughter Ivanka for example. Had a life where she could have done nothing and lived well. Instead she’s a working mom that doesn’t slow down. And imo her shoe line is 1 of the best at Macys.
        With Kate she never pursued a career. It seemed to be put on hold for William. Her choice! She lived off her parents money and while that was fine she wasn’t preparing to ever live on her own.

        Some people that are overly dependent find themselves unable to thrive on their own. And when the parents pass what happens?
        The theory is solid. It’s just not all encompassing.

      • Hazel says:

        Megan: I’ve always thought (not being of this class) that people born into wealthy families are much more easy going-able to take risks & accept defeats or failures because they know that even if they fail, they’ll still have a roof over their head & food to eat. Trying, failing, and trying again is very good for the character–not just suffering and pain. I don’t think the offspring of the very rich necessarily lack character, nor do I think the children of the poor are necessarily going to end up brimming with character.
        FLORC: and Ivanka earned two degrees, I believe, a Bachelors & a Masters.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        I think that really depends on personality and upbringing.

        Everyone of any given “class” isn’t cut from the same cloth. Some children of rich parents have a great work ethic, takes chances, build their own companies, become great scholars (like Aby Warburg who came from money and therefore had the financial security to pursue his art historical interests – he’s the reasons that the Warburg Institute exists. In London because he had to flee Germany in the 30s).

        However, some people from a wealthy background do nothing with the opportunities their wealth gives them. The saddest case is perhaps the Tetra-Pack heirs, who lived a life of indulgence though all their wealth didn’t make them happy. At least one of them died young from a drug overdose.

  2. BendyWindy says:

    I don’t think they mean she’s too sick to order around servants, but she probably wants to look and feel like hell without 20 people peering at her and watching her every move. I know I wouldn’t want the maid to hear me puking my guts out.

    That said, I wonder if she’s looked into acupuncture. I don’t know if it will help with HG, but it cured my morning sickness in two sessions and I had one more top up a month later. It was awesome.

    • Size Does Matter says:

      I agree. Or maybe she feels like she has to be “on” when the staff is around. And she just isn’t up to it.

    • inthekitchen says:

      But couldn’t she just go to her rooms and say she doesn’t want to be disturbed? I’m quite sure they (the staff) aren’t nosing around when/where she doesn’t want them to. They work for her (or her husband), so she would call the shots.

      • hmmm says:

        I imagine she has a housekeeper who can order the other staff around. She can relay orders through her PA also. When she’s at some other pile the staff manage without her. So, why would this be so very different?

  3. Gina says:

    This is the future Queen of England. When the going gets tough, go to moms.

    • Rocketmerry says:

      +1.
      I mean, come on, really?! 9 plus years of waitying and she STILL was not prepared for how being a royal in a palace would be? Spoilt brat.

      • Gina says:

        Kate was not born of noble blood, making her a commoner until her marriage to Prince William. Diana was born into an aristocratic family, which made her a commoner likewise, although in the beginning of her marriage I think she was more refined. Point being she is not simply an English housewife. She is the future queen of England which is such a revered honor in her country. Running to the comfort of her mother’s home is not acting in a way one would thing royalty would resort to. Morning sickness doesn’t care who it is embodying. She has people at her beckon and call to aid her. There are princesses and there are there are princesses in training I guess.

      • Hopeless says:

        Sal, SHHH! with your reasoned responses and empathy. Have you been on the comments section lately? That kind of clear thinking is not allowed. Hating on Kate is in, putting yourself in her shoes is out.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Quick note, she is the potential future Queen Consort, not Queen. She will never reign in her own right. What happens with Camilla may change KM’s eventual title. If Camilla goes with Princess Consort, it might set a new precedent.

      • AM says:

        There has been some talk that that’s exactly what Charles wants to do – if Camilla has to be Princess Consort, make it a legal change and let William and Kate deal with it when it’s their time. That being said, I think Maxima was supposed to be Princess Consort in the Netherlands, and then when the time came she was Queen.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Yes, AM, they announced that Maxima would be Princess Consort (an egalitarian move in the unequal system of monarchy). The public protested so they made her Queen (consort) instead. Their eldest daughter’s husband (or wife) will most likely be Prince or Princess Consort.

      • Dommy dearest says:

        Wow really? How dare Kate be human and just want to be around her mother when she feels unwell. Gawd.

    • Francesca says:

      Gah, let her puke in peace wherever she wants.

  4. Sal says:

    Agreed BendyWindy. It amazes me that it didn’t ‘click’ with Kaiser, especially since Kaiser said she likes to be left alone when she feels like hell (so do I). I can imagine that the Palace has staffers coming in and out of your room all the time. I’d just want them all to f*ck off and leave me the hell alone if it were me. I think THAT is what Kate means. She’d want to be alone, not with couriers, staff etc coming in and out at all hours of day constantly. Being at her parents is probably more peaceful and less stressful. I honestly think that most normal people could ‘get’ that. But, hey, never let a chance to hate on Kate, even for the most petty, ridiculous and absurd things, pass by. smh

    • sally says:

      @ sal and @ bendy windy I agree too. I usually want to be left alone. I’m in my late 20s and the few times I’ve become extremely sick since moving out of my parent’s home, I have wanted my mom. It might be silly, but something comforting about being with your mom when you’re super sick and can’t do anything for yourself.

    • We are all made of stars says:

      I usually don’t comment on stories about her for that reason (and the fact that I just don’t care or think ceremonial royalty is important) but do you really think that people can just walk in and out as they please? That seems like a big servant no-no. All she would have to do is tell everyone to stay out of x, y, and z and there you have it. Good for her if she feels like staying with mommy. It’s not like her man is there anyway. Where’s the kid?

      • LAK says:

        Sal: that’s not how a palace works.

        it’s essentially a 5star hotel. the butler/hotel manager manages the palace/mansion and if you tell them to leave you the hell alone, they do. and if you want something, you ring for it. And it’s delivered asap.

        the best butlers/household staff are invisible whilst simultaneously being able to anticipate your needs. whether or not she has ‘pull’ is irrelevant.

      • Hazel says:

        There you go. She could tell the staff, ‘leave me the hell alone, I’m sick’.

    • FLORC says:

      This is far from a hate kate thread. People here aren’t looking for a weakness to jump all over. Or the majority at least. Those are on other threads.

      And I thought it was public knowledge at this point Kate has been with her parents. A heavy increase of security was noted weeks ago at the Middleton’s home. And a few random royal watchers on twitter claimed to see Kate out shopping and appearing low key and healthy, but surrounded heavily with protection.
      At this point she’s percectly fine to stay at herr parents home. It’s had many upgrades for protection and upgraded accomidations for her needs there and to house more staff and security. The money is spent. At least she’s using it and not renovating and abandoning.

      Oh! And Kate looked so pretty several years ago.

      • megan says:

        FLORC – you object to the suggestion this is a hate thread and then you claim to have read unsubstantiated gossip from Twitter that suggests Kate isn’t really sick and wasn’t where she claimed to be. Hmmm

      • Vava says:

        I agree with FLORC, this isn’t a hate thread on Kate. People are just pointing out some odd inconsistencies about information that is fed for public consumption.

      • laura says:

        megan, there’s a picture of her walking around kensington about a week after the announcement, they have been caught lying so many times, these are facts not hate. she just canceled yet another appearance. just right when she got sick was meant to be her busiest time working, what a coincidence. *sarcasm*

      • Hopeless says:

        Laura, so what? She’s not supposed to ever go outside or do anything in between bouts of feeling miserable? Have you ever been laid up for a couple weeks, and then continued to feel poorly but had to go run some errands and do some things not because it was urgent, but because you had to get out of the *&%$&%$ house and get some air? Trust me, I’ve had pneumonia, bronchitis, and a sinus infection for several weeks and would have killed to go shopping just to stop watching re-runs and stretch my legs, so I did. And the few people I ran into told me I looked better! But I didn’t feel better. I just threw makeup on my face and a comb through my hair so I would look presentable. Yes Kate could totally be faking, or she could be sick on and off and trying to not lose her sanity.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Are you aware you’re on a gossip site? Do you think there is substantiated vs. unsubstantiated tags when it comes to gossip?

        If someone posts on their twitter that they saw her somewhere, we are free to choose to believe them or not. If people who live in the area note a larger security presence, they get to mention it. We are free to bring the W&K inconsistencies into our discussions. Just like we get to choose to believe or disbelieve the Palace-planted stories.

        FLORC, the money may have already been spent on security at the Middleton’s home, but it still raises the question where that money came from. The money for security in Wales (a private rental residence) came from the taxpayers. The increased security patrols and extra burden on the local constabulary? Those costs are incurred every day she’s in Bucklebury.

      • FLORC says:

        Megan

        There’s more side conversing and indirect criticism to Kate than us actually attacking Kate like say, a Leann or KK thread. The difference is night and day. People toss around the word “hate” too freely. It’s just not that way here. Maybe a small percentage it’s true for, but by far not the majority and not every thread.
        And few here agree withtho se who appear to only write out of hate.
        Also, Megan. We offer our own lfe experience. No one ever claimed Kate wasn’t having morning sickness. She is. And the public perception of HG as it was and as it is is different. The requirements to be diagnosed have decreased over time.
        On top of Kate was always going to be receiving top care and being overtreated. This was always going to be the way and it was documented before Kate was even married. She would get the best care and protected from everything with the best medical care. If that makes me sound like my opinion is fueled by hate so be it.

      • FLORC says:

        Vava
        Exactly.

        Hopeless
        Ofcourse, Kate can go outside. That’s silly to think it’s being suggested she can’t.
        It’s more of this. If Kate can be spotted out for a few hours shopping, carrying her own bags to the train, eating meals without looking at all ill, and generally appearing as if she’s having a totally normal pregnancy than why can’t she work for 30 or 45 minutes? Or if she’s not feeling so great they could delay the meeting. That would show us she’s willing to work and cares about her charities. Also, that she is sick, but is pushing on doing service to her platform. That’s the point of referencing it.

        Notasugarhere
        I can’t remember where, but I read the funds for the Middleton renovations came from the tax funded security fund. A little over a million for windows, bombproof doors, kitchen upgrades, upgraded staff quarters, and an additional wing for Kate and George to be in and be secured in what I imagined sounded like a panic room area that was more the size of a small home.

        And yea. There would be extra detailing to cover the Middleton’s home that would be standard with KP and Amner (minus couples looking to get their rocks off).
        As far as the town I don’t know. Post George being born she moved in there and the police gave them top priority. Streets were closed off for security, people drove the long way to get home, and had there been an emergency only so many units could respond. Then they would call in from other towns for emergency services as they needed a minimum number of forces available for Kate at all times.
        I’m sure it’s quite pricey and we will get a watered down number.
        I get wanting the comforts of family and your old home, but the Midds moved in there not long ago. And Kate shouldn’t get shamed for visiting her family. It’s only that when she visits she’s there for weeks at a time. And that’s such a drain on funds.

      • Tammy says:

        If the Queen nor Prince Charles cares if she works, why does everyone else care? If they don’t care that she is always at her mother’s house, why does everyone else care?

      • notasugarhere says:

        We don’t know that HM and Charles are okay with their current behavior. Both HM and Charles are conflict averse and do anything to avoid dealing with problems head on. They just sit back and hope things will work out.

        HM and Charles probably have a different set of objectives than say, the taxpayers who fund the show and Republic UK. Both HM and Charles, while hard workers for the “work” that they do, are still mired in the idea that monarchy is a good idea. Because of that, they let Billy the Basher run roughshod over them — because they don’t want him to walk out the door. The general public may a different view, many of them one of austerity, when they cannot pay their heating bills and have horrific unemployment. Many probably think this workshy duo needs to be shown the door, along with the rest of the royal road show.

      • K says:

        @Tammy – because the Queen and Prince Charles don’t pay for her security and transport costs. We do. She and William have all the royal protection costs of senior royals, but don’t work like senior royals. That’s dead money.

        Admittedly it’s less dead money than is caused by Amazon tax dodging while claiming corporation grants – they cost us more than they ever bring in. But in a country where the benefits for working people (as in, those working full time, but with a minimum wage which can’t begin to cover their expenses) just got cut, because we can’t afford to help them more than we already do (though we can afford to bomb various nations, apparently) it’s not okay that we have to pay millions to guard those who are not doing their jobs for the nation in return. Nobody says they have to do this. They can always stand down. But they seem to want the luxury without the duty, and that’s not okay.

        I disapproved of hate on her before the wedding because she was a private person. It was not our business. Now, it is our business, and she needs to step up – almost as much as her husband does.

        I can’t comment on her HG as I am not in her shoes. I do know that drips and anti-emetics can stabilise you enough to feel okayish for a few hours. I can’t imagine eating a good meal, but the photos of that were before she was pregnant so that’s not relevant. But asking the question is okay, really. The royal machine does lie. They insisted Charles and Diana were blissfully happy for years and years when the reality was, they hated each other.

        Personally I think she’s sick and I feel sorry for her. But when well, she does not work hard, and as she works for us, it is our place to comment. It’s irrelevant what the Queen and Charles think – we still have the right. This is not a feudal country.

      • Feeshalori says:

        This is an excellent post, K. You called it correctly: when these two are riding on the the taxpayers’ coattails, the public has every right to comment and criticize if they’re not justifying their pampered lifestyle with some hard work. It is the public’s business if they’re not stepping up to the plate, and these two need to be called out on it. That doesn’t mean commenters are haters if it’s constructive criticism. As you say, this is not feudal times when peasants must knuckle their foreheads at their betters and suffer in silence.

        I’m not saying that Kate isn’t sick, but history speaks for itself as far as her work ethic and I’d feel sorrier for her if she had a known track record of working diligently. And the same goes for William. Then Kate would more than deserve the time she requires to get better.

      • Megan says:

        I seem to recall everyone responding negatively to my comment questioning the authenticity of Kate’s HG diagnosis in prior posts. And at least one of you has asked me to post links for proof when I defend the BRF. If you demand proof from me, surely I am free to demand the same of you. If you want to have a real debate, then everyone is entitled to the same rules.

      • notasugarhere says:

        (third attempt posting this reply)

        @K. “I can’t imagine eating a good meal, but the photos of that were before she was pregnant so that’s not relevant.” Going by when the news was announced, she was about 5 weeks pregnant at that dinner.

      • FLORC says:

        Megan
        In another post I believe I asked you to post a link to a palace press release that used HG. And not just tabloid usage. Something more official and backed up. And you and notasugarhere did provide links.
        And I stand by my upthread statement. It’s easier to get diagnosed now than it was years ago. And Kaate was always going to be over treated. Headaches are migraines and that logic.

        And what are you asking of us? We’ve posted support for our opinions before. And if not provide links explain where to find them. Don’t act like we’re avoiding evidence.

        Notasugarhere
        And the train photos of her carrying bags she was also with child there.
        I stand firm she appears to be having a normal pregnancy. Morning sickness isn’t fun, but it’s normal.
        And also having issues posting.

    • hmmm says:

      You don’t have to have staffers coming in and out of your room. There’s people to organise things without her. That’s the beauty of wealth and privilege. She’s not a victim.

    • LoveKate says:

      It is not that she can’t go to her parents house when she is sick. It just feels like yet another excuse for her to be living at her parents house.

    • Chammy says:

      What would royal staffers bother Kate with? Kate doesn’t do public appearances nor anything else and all she needs are three meals a day or such (and she has her own kitchen in KP, remember!) and that bit of cleaning can be done when Kate goes for a walk.
      It is more like a Hotel as Kate isn’t really engaging in kind of royal duties or occupations.

      If Kate hadn’t wanted staff and nannies she should have married somebody else.

      What about Prince George? Is he still at KP or did Kate bring him to his grandparents?
      Security nightmares …

    • India Andrews says:

      Kate’s parents have staff too and her RPOs and we assume nanny go with her. Kate isn’t alone at mom’s house either. As for KP and Amner Hall, Kate can use her trusty personal assistant as gate keeper. The staff there work for Kate and William. If she wants them not to disturb her and speak to her PA instead. She can have it. I think people are really stretching to find sympathy for Kate.

  5. The Original Mia says:

    So…William is at Amner, while his wife is with her parents. As usual. Tell me again what was the point of the Kensington renovation.

    • wolfpup says:

      This marriage seems so strange. I’m feeling concerned about Kate.

      I don’t believe that this is a hate thread – I believe that it is a conversation containing all points of view, which is helpful when one is trying to flush out what is going on..

      • Bucky says:

        But what’s to flush out?

        Kate is sick, and prefers to be close to her family when she is. She also likes to spend time with her family when she’s well. She’s a bit of a mama’s girl.

        She is also part of an aristocratic marriage, which can involve lots of spousal time apart (at the preference of the high-ranking husband), as well as lots staff help for children and home.

        That seems to be about the size of it. She knew was she was getting into, and I don’t think going home to Bucklebury indicates that anything is awry, it’s just business as usual. They don’t spend a ton of time together, it appears, and I think they both know the score.

        I mean, yes, their PR is a massive departure from this narrative, but it’s PR, so OF COURSE it’s a departure from reality.

      • The Original Mia says:

        Separation seems to be the key to their marriage. William lives on his own, somewhere else and Kate lives with her parents. I guess it works for them but it seems ridiculous to me.

      • hmmm says:

        What I find strange is the need to live with your parents at that age. And without your husband. Wasn’t Anmer supposed to be their retreat? Why bother fixing it up?

      • FLORC says:

        hmmm
        More to the point wasn’t Amner Hall going to be the place Kate will get that fresh country air to aid in her morning sickness? And to protect George and let him have fun in a country setting? Seems it would be more important for both of them to be at Amner right now. For George to be protected and Kate to be with her husband in a calm setting.

      • Chammy says:

        Amner Hall for William and his country friends.

        KP and the Middletons new manor for Kate … being married living apart

        I can’t believe Kate would like the country much. She had had an allergy against horses and she clearly LOVED living the high life in London.

      • FLORC says:

        Chammy
        That allergy from horses has been debunked. It came from a journalist claiming to have approached Kate sitting alone watching William in a polo match. She struck up a conversation. Kate said she was memorizing every detail to discuss with William and his friends later. And that she couldn’t also ride because she was allergic to horses.

        Later on the timeline could not be matched to events. And Kate was confirmed to be taking horse riding lessons.

        She has however shown she enjoys the city life far more than the country.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        FLORC,

        I have a friend who’s allergic to horses and she loves horseback riding! She had to stop for a while but she has been getting treatments for her allery and she’s found out that she can go horsback riding if she doesn’t have to care for the horse, like saddling, curring, etc. So it is possible to work around an allergy if it isn’t too severe.

      • FLORC says:

        ArtHistorian
        I agree. Kicking up the allergens happens much in prepping and caring for the horse than in riding. That said the palace has confronted this and said Kate has never been allergic to horses. And the reporter claiming this was found to have just written a work of fiction. The polo match, dates, events, locations were all found to not line up with eachother.
        With all that I believe she’s not allergic to horses.

      • Chammy says:

        @ Florc

        Believe me, that girl had an allergy to horses and she got treatment not that long ago. Else she would have learned riding a lot earlier in order to fit in with the aristo set. Most british upper class girls practice riding while at school.

        Furthermore it is somewhat riduculous how much you love splitting hair.
        See, my point was about Kate not loving the country side and her horse allergy was just one supporting point. You are petty in overlooking this and dragging out a point that you have no proof of. The horse allergy was mentioned earlier and not just in that conversation with that journalist. Show me Kate’s medical records and you might gain some credibility.
        As for fucked timelines – ridiculous. A fucked timeline doesn’t proof there was no horse allergy nor does it necessarily proof there was no conversation. Maybe if the person in question had been on another continent…
        Claiming that there is a fucked timeline is a very easy way to debunk rumours and gossip so guess who uses that trick!

        Kate won’t go to Anmer because she doesn’t like the country side too much. She likes the high life in London or at least at her family’s home. I bet Anmer Hall will become William’s love nest as soon as he is capable of finding some lovie.

    • AM says:

      I do think part of this is her not wanting to be sick at KP if William isn’t there. Does make me wonder why she couldn’t go to Anmer if she can be at Bucklebury, but I’m not privy to the vagaries of their marriage.

  6. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I want my mom when I’m sick, and I’m 58. I’m not especially proud of that fact, just being honest.

    • ncboudicca says:

      I’m 47, and my mom has been dead for 18 years, but that doesn’t stop me from wanting her when I’m sick, either! I don’t think much of Kate, but I can’t fault her for this.

      • Bucky says:

        Right there with you, lady friend. I’m 30 and my mom’s been dead three years, and I would give just about anything to have her comfort when I’m sick. In the last year of her life, we lived in the same city, and when I got sick, she drove down from her suburb and slept on my couch until I was better.

    • MrsB says:

      I’m 32 and have been sick as all get out. My mom took me to my Dr. appointment yesterday, and has been bringing us dinner the past 3 nights. So I absolutely understand Kate wanting her mom when she feels like crap. Nobody can take care of me better than my mom, and I will say that till the end of my time.

    • Charlotte says:

      I want my mum when I’m sick, and she was never even in the same country as me when I was growing up. And she’s been dead eleven years. Still want her, though.

      • Andrea says:

        I want my dad when I am sick, but that is because my mother is a cold, heartless woman who tells me to stop whining if I get sick. :(

      • maddelina says:

        I want my Mom too when I’m sick and she’s been gone for seven years, severely brain damaged from when I was quite young but I still remember how I seemed to feel better when she was there. I envy Kate.

    • FLORC says:

      We all want our moms when we’re ill. In a fevered state I called mine up when I was in college. She told me what to do and sang to me. It was wonderful (for food poisoning). I currently am sick and wouldn’t oppose my mom visiting, but I can take care of myself. And she would visit me because I live with my husband. I can’t imagine my husband FMORC being too keen if I kept going to my family’s home for long stays every time he left for work or any other reason. He might wonder if i’m not happy or healthy. But that’s also not me. And he knows me.

    • Dena says:

      Outside the comfort of mom (and mine doesn’t need to be by my side when I am ill), in addition to my other “issues” where Kate is concerned, her constant stay with mom & in the family home just seems like an extended stage of co-dependent adolescence to me. That can’t be healthy? I’m not getting it.

      But hey, as I shrug my shoulders, I’m a member of Gen X—the latch key kids who watched after school specials, called Moms @ work to let them know that we had made it home from school, called her at work when we were afraid (don’t answer the door or let anyone in) and called when we were hungry (there r TV dinners, lunch meat, tuna, ravioli, etc. in the refrigerator), or sick (lie down until she got home), and just generally hung out with other kids /teens & generally did our thing until curfew.

      So @ the age of 32, they both seem to be enjoying one long stretch of adolescence to me.

    • HH says:

      Kate’s closeness with her mother, Carole, is part of a long pattern that I find disturbing. Aside from her closeness with her mom, Kate no longer has any friends of her own; and, she and her husband have long periods of absence from each other. Kate seems to have no life. If she’s not with her husband than she’s with her mother, but there’s nothing else. No book club. No wine night with the ladies. No pottery class. No monthly dinners… or SOMETHING. It is quite disturbing to me, especially because William is so comfortable spending time away from her and George. He hunts, plays polo and soccer (football); and, *always* has an outside activity (job, bespoke program, etc). William seems so active in life while Kate seem so… caged; this shouldn’t be the case.

      Also, the only other person I knew who depended on her mom as much as Kate, was a single mother with 3 kids.

      • FLORC says:

        She’s a prisoner of her own design.

      • Luciana says:

        Exactly, HH. On another posts, months ago, I said If I were in her position, I would take time to learn more languages, to educate myself in history and art matters, to find a cause to defend. Her only hobby seems to be shopping around. Hobby or addition. I don’t know.

      • HH says:

        @FLORC – I agree but it’s still odd.

        @Luciana – Her and William’s relationship is so odd because they lead separate lives, but will is the only one actually “living” it seems.

      • Chammy says:

        Just imagine what opportunities Kate has. Some of those royal courtiers are VERY knowledgeable. She could invite ANYBODY to dinner and talk about interesting things, I mean who would refuse an invite?
        Those royal collections must be marvellous … certainly a history of art graduate would be interested in those things?

        Even Prince Philip who is not know for deep intellectualism had his weekly dinners with interesting people – mostly actors and artists, I believe. When Prince Philip was at Kate’s age he had a whole lot of things he kept going and started many many things …

      • HH says:

        @Chammy – Agreed! I can’t believe she’s so sheltered when she has so much at her disposal. Also, why doesn’t she TRAVEL? Harry has been to Croatia, Spain, Africa, Las Vegas, Tajikistan (? When he was with Cressida), and more in his SPARE time. Let alone what he does on the clock.

      • FLORC says:

        HH
        I also agree. It does seem odd. Especially in such contrast to the pr image.

        And KAte travels a lot. Vacations a few times a year.

      • LAK says:

        Florc: Kate only travels wherever William wants to vacation which isn’t varied at all. William himself has travelled to varied places either to vacation with his friends or alone. Kate doesn’t seem to pick up and go with anyone beyond her parents to vacation spots and those vacation spots are very much with William in mind.

        HH: ‘William is living whilst Kate seems caged’ i think this is the best description of the situation that i’ve heard in a long time. whilst it is by her own design, it makes me pity her more than i already pity her.

        it’s probably why she keeps up the external grooming appointments, what else is she going to do and who else can she otherwise meet.

      • inthekitchen says:

        @Chammy – I agree 100%. It is shameful, the opportunities she is wasting! Not just to do fun, personally-enriching things like you mention (dinner parties, artwork, jewels…drool!), but also the opportunity she has to change so many people’s lives. She has been such a disappointment to me. William too – he is failing in his role too, IMO, BIG time.

      • FLORC says:

        LAK
        That may be she only travels with her family and/or William. It still means she travels. And she doesn’t seem to be the type to pick up and go, but she only has her family and husband. If she was to take off for some down time it would be alone or she’d need friends. In the end she still travels a few times a year for pleasure.

  7. Lurry says:

    Girl, sit yo ass down.
    Literally and figuratively .

  8. LadyJane says:

    So funny – I thought they ‘didn’t have’ a bunch of servants – just a part time cook. Right?

    • Megan says:

      They may not have a lot of servants, but they have plenty of staff. I can’t really see Kate asking Rebecca Deacon to hold her puke bucket. I get why she wants to be somewhere completely private.

      • AM says:

        Rebecca Deacon has her own office. For the most part, those staffers shouldn’t be in the private living quarters, and presumably Kate hasn’t been going into the offices recently.

      • hmmm says:

        I imagine that Kate is capable of holding her own puke bucket.

    • notasugarhere says:

      They had 27 office staff 2 years ago, and those staff would not have access to the residence. They have household staff like the Italian housekeeper, the cooks, nanny and assistant, etc. who would.

    • PennyLane says:

      There are people in uniform standing in the hallways and such – you have zero privacy in royal residences. Can’t blame Kate for wanting to just lay on the sofa at her Mom’s house without courtiers hovering outside the door waiting for updates.

      Camilla famously refused to give up her private home for exactly this reason.

  9. Nilo says:

    Well, if I felt like she probably does and I could choose between a palace and my mom’s, I would choose my mom’s. I felt terrible for four months with both pregnancies, just sick and tired and woozy. Ugh.

    • wolfpup says:

      I wanted to be with my husband in early pregnancy – all 9 months actually. We were having a baby together. It was exciting. He was very supportive. The first three months I laid in misery; I could barely take care of my other children. My parents believed that I was now bonding thick and thin with my hubby. And we did, he became like a brother to me. We were there for each other.

      I know that Kate is a special snowflake. Still, it does look odd.

      • hmmm says:

        Yes! That’s what spouses are for. When you marry you leave your family and cleave to your spouse. Lovely comment, wolfpup.

        The fact that she’s so far from William is a head shaker. Why not go to Anmer to be closer to him? Seriously, she’s supposed to be really sick, she is pregnant with their child, and he is nowhere around to support and soothe her and care for her. He doesn’t even seem to want to bother to keep up appearances. What about wanting to be ‘normal’? Ha!

      • LNG says:

        Everyone’s relationship is different. Some people remain very close to their families after marriage and some don’t. If it works for them, who cares? Maybe he’s terrible at taking care of her when she’s sick? The sight of vomit makes my husband vomit, so I’d probably rather be with my mum too.

      • notasugarhere says:

        @Hmmm. Wasn’t the news 4-5 weeks ago that Anmer wasn’t done yet so they were staying at Wood Farm? That’s where they were when they had the dinner with KM papped with a bottle of wine, and her carrying her own luggage at the train station? “Loving husband” was busy with the dog.

        William could be at Wood Farm, KP, Balmoral, Spain, Africa, or anywhere he wants to be to stay away from wife and kiddo. He didn’t know how long she had been sick when asked, he left her days after the announcement to go hunting, and he isn’t around now.

  10. gytha says:

    She will be fine as soon as the trip to New York is close.

    All those wonderful shopping possiblities can’t be missed.

  11. Someonestolemyname says:

    Kate is future Queen Consort, she needs to get use to the rigours of Royal life and the Firm, as well as the inner workings within the Palace. It will help her in her future role.

    Rumours are Kate does NOT like Palace life, because she doesn’t like the discipline inside the Palace. It’s been this way since the marriage began. She keeps running home to her mother, even when she’s not pregnant. She has practically lived with her mother for good portions of this marriage since the start. Even when they were based out in Anglesey, Kate was spending weeks at a time at her parents home in Berkshire,
    Much of the royal press is well aware that Kate basically flees the Palace at every opportunity possible, but they won’t say it.

    I hope Tanna talks one day, because he knows quite a lot, he has never told. I’m sure.

    • Vava says:

      +1

      Can’t wait for some books to be written about the Cambridges. The PR spin is shot full of holes these days.

    • FLORC says:

      Tanna has given more tips as to Kate’s true location numerous times. He’s got the inside line ;)
      I’m curious as to what he could say as well. Although more for the Uncle Gary dirt. That man should be locked up.

      And was it Tanna or another that broke the story Kate tried to move back into to their cottage with George, but left only a short time later with weeks worth of suitcases? Wasn’t Carole there?

      Kate shouldn’t run from her duties. We all feel ill and we all want our moms when we’re feeling ill. I don’t blame Kate for these wants and urges. She’s human. That doesn’t make it justified. She has several homes, a husband, and child. Yes, she has the means to leave everything to move back in for an extended visit at her parents. That doesn’t mean she should.
      And it doesn’t help the pr image.

      • Someonestolemyname says:

        +1
        Exactly!

      • Vava says:

        This doesn’t help the Cambridge PR image at all. The public has been fed this line about how so in love the Cambridges are, the model couple/family if you will. When we hear that they spend little time together, have a huge staff (when the PR people are trying to make it out that they do most things for themselves), it just doesn’t add up – and people like me become skeptical about what is truthful and what isn’t.

        I don’t really care if she’ home with Mummy, but the news releases shouldn’t lie and say she’s holed up in one of her many homes. Personally, I wouldn’t run to my parent’s home, if I wanted my mother near me I’d ask her to come to MY house. But more important to me would be to have my HUSBAND with me.

        William’s public image right now is pretty low, I think. That’s a story in itself, and more tantalizing than that of his ill, pregnant wife, IMO.

      • Jen says:

        Not really. The majority of the public don’t spend their time online at gossip sites and stuff. They think william and kate are perfectly normal.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Jen, unless you’ve done a poll of every member of the general public in the UK, your statement is an enormous stretch.

      • FLORC says:

        Jen
        That’s not really true. It’s all in how you get your news and if you dissect it or take it at face value. Twitter reporters are awesome imo. They put news out there and immediately other reporters and civilians are cross checking the tweet’s info. It’s not fullproof, but it’s pretty great. And it’s in real time.
        Also, there’s always spin in news. That varies publication to publication.

        And I have a few friends in the UK and a higher concentration in London. They believe strongly it’s understood that William and Kate live apart. The image in pr is the normal fairytail, but not out of touch. And she’s mostly with her parents while he’s mostly not with his wife. And that’s what it takes to help their marriage stay together.It’s the pr that ruins it imo.

      • littlestar says:

        It REALLY makes you wonder why Kate even married William, let alone chased him for 10 years. She doesn’t like the work required of royals, okay I can understand that a little bit because some people are lazy, but she doesn’t like the royal LIFESTYLE?! Like what in the world. She knew what it was going to be like, so WHY did she marry him? They don’t even spend much time together. I honestly cannot come up with a reason. Money? Fame? Endless shopping trips? WHY did she marry William?

      • FLORC says:

        Littlestar
        Family encouragement?
        The Middletons have certainly benefitted greatly by their union.
        Seeing Kate’s investment of her 20′s pay off?
        And William has someone he’s tested heavily and knows he can trust. He has their family that treat him like gold. And he has his child(ren).
        Or maybe this isn’t what Kate had in mind. We do know when she wants him home another shame story will come out. William abandoning son and wife for Jecca. William at hunting party while Kate drives self to hospital… She’s very press savvy in that way.

    • Dena says:

      😄😃 – Exactly. Running home to mom won’t make her future tasks easier or make staff respect her. Wasn’t there a dailymail story about William raising his voice at the staff because they either slighted “Catherine” or where being disrespectful to her? She eventually has to stand up in her own stead. That’s something mom/dad & William can’t do for her.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Maybe the staff think that respect has to be earned.

      • Dena says:

        @ Notasugar – Bingo!!!! Yes, in the technical sense, Kate’s staff has to do what they r told and to treat her with deference & respect. However, if she is “just like them,” she needs to earn the respect of the rank & file. After all, she doesn’t have royal lineage or even social class (in a real sense) that outranks theirs.

        They 2 have watched her over the years more so from an inside track in some instances and I’m sure they have probably taken her measure & may have found her wanting or lacking. And running to Moma when Big Willy is not around doesn’t help matters.

      • LAK says:

        Despite my earlier comment about palaces being like 5 star hotels, it can still be lonely despite being surrounded and pampered. Diana was always lonely inside the palace and she had girlfriends and work to break up the monotony.

        How much more lonely can it be for no mates Kate who can only rely on family. Whatever we think of them, they also have stuff to do, so they cant be around 24/7 to prop her up.

  12. L says:

    Well paired with the story about all the drama going on in the royal press office-I’m not sure I believe this one. “sources” saying she’s going to go back to work. Same “sources” now saying she’s at Mom’s when it turns out she is still pretty sick and they have to backtrack. I think something’s gone off the rails over there.

    • Vava says:

      I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s been at her parent’s house quite some time. I don’t really care, either.

      The press office needs to get it together though. They keep cancelling these unpublicized appearances that the Duchess apparently has/had on her calendar. If they were smart, they’d just clear her calendar completely until such time that she herself is ready to schedule something and follow through. The rumors of an upcoming trip to New York City are also damaging. One wonders why that is even being suggested if she is so sick. A savvy PR person would nip that in the bud immediately.

      • AM says:

        I think these cancelled engagements are being announced because it makes it look like she WOULD be working, if only she could. As opposed to the many, many months of her marriage where she wasn’t pregnant and didn’t work at all.

      • notasugarhere says:

        Yes, AM. It is like they’re so desperate they’re resorting to revisionist history already. ie. The books will show she had X amount scheduled but had to cancel. No wonder so many of the PR staff are fleeing.

    • ArtHistorian says:

      But are they the same sources? From the excerpt here it says that a family friend states that Kate is with her family, but Palace officials say that they review her engagements on a case by case policy. So it looks like there are two different sources saying two different things – and the Palace can’t really control what outside sources tell the press.

  13. Elise says:

    Where is George? Are he and Maria staying full time in Bucklebury too? How does it work? I’m now 5 months pregnant w/baby #2 and have (luckily) never experienced more than a few days of mild queasiness early on, so I can’t even fathom what HG is like. But how do you take care of your other kid(s) or do anything, ANYTHING else at all? She’s so fortunate to have even the smallest of tasks taken care of by other people. In that regard, it makes things easier to deal with when you don’t have to worry about shopping and preparing your 15 month old’s food, doing his laundry, changing the diaper pail, I could name a thousand other things. She is very sick but very fortunate.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Oh, Congratulations! One of my best friends was very sick with her second baby. Her daughter was three, and she would come in the bathroom when my friend was sick and clap her hands and say “Yay!!” every time she threw up. Lol

  14. silken_floss says:

    Hyperemesis gravidarum sounds like it could be a spell cast by one of those Harry Potter kids

    • Luciana says:

      LOL The first time I heard about it I thought the same thing.

      • Pixelated says:

        It’s not HYPERemesis it’s hypereMESIS! As Hermione rolls her eyes and flicks her wand.
        In all seriousness, I feel sorry for her if she is truly very ill. I’m torn between her fleeing to her parents. It’s kind of endearing that she’s so close to them but it’s also kind of odd because she lives in such a luxurious place already and is supposed to have everything at her beck and call. I think a better solution would be for her parents to come visit her for a bit? Then she doesn’t look like she’s escaping the palace, but still has her mom.

      • notasugarhere says:

        The LAST thing their failing PR needs right now is the image of Carole Middleton moving into Kensington Palace and having the KP staff carrying her suitcases for her extended stay.

      • Pixelated says:

        @notasugar Definitely agree. But maybe some staffer could let it slip that she visits Kate for a day visit (not extended stay)? Just a ‘hi honey, how are you doing, I brought you some flowers, I can watch PGTips for the afternoon’ or whatever.
        If I lived in the same area as my mom and had terrible HG, that’s definitely what I would want to happen.

      • notasugarhere says:

        The Middleton’s own an apartment 1-2 miles from KP. Carole could stay in that apartment.

    • Isadora says:

      Maybe she bought some puking pastilles at Weasleys’ Wizard Wheezes to skip tedious royal work. ;)

  15. Tig says:

    I had some morning sickness, but this almost sounds like a curse of Biblical proportions- poor girl. And seriously, who would want folks in and out, regardless of where you tell them to be, who could hear you retching all day long? If she still does this when she’s healthy, have a go at her then, but not when she’s ill and pregnant to boot!

    • Micki says:

      I agree with you. Noone wants to barf in front of many people, however trusted they may be.
      I’ll save my bashing for some real issue.

    • wolfpup says:

      Perhaps the palace realized that she would be spending a lot of time at her families home (sort of like Camilla having her own place). The difference is that Camilla has her own home, the Duchess is at mom and dad’s. Apparently she’ll do anything her mother wishes.

  16. Luciana says:

    I can’t blame her. When I feel sick, all I want is my mom and then my husband. This woman reiceves too much undeserved hate.

    • MrsB says:

      +1. Some of the criticisms of her are well deserved, but I don’t understand why so many people bash her for every little thing she does.

  17. Bess says:

    Carol is the brains behind the whole Middleton clan. I’d run home to her every chance I got as well.

  18. Jess says:

    I feel bad for and don’t blame her for wanting to be in a place that’s more comfortable. A friend of mine had hyperemesis Gravidarum and it’s constant barfing and feeling miserable, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Kate probably felt like she had to be up and about at the palace fulfilling her duties but at her mom’s house she can just relax and be taken care of. I don’t even get along with my mother and we rarely speak but she took great care of me when I was pregnant and it was comforting. I understand why people get irritated with Kate, but she doesn’t bother me!

    • wolfpup says:

      Thing is, she’s almost always with mom. She isn’t there just when she feels sick.

      Kate seems isolated – where are her girlfriends when William goes visiting his? Does she stamp her foot, and say, no princess duties until you act like “my prince”?

  19. Someonestolemyname says:

    I laugh when People mag calls her Princess Kate, do they think it will help sell her more? Most of The world refer to her as Duchess when they use a title, it just makes me laugh, that they keep trying to shove the Princess Kate thing.

  20. betteboo says:

    Lawd, the application of industrial grade eyeliner and devotion to sausage curls seem to be the most forceful thing about her

  21. HoustonGrl says:

    I’m kind of a conspiracy theorist but I believe all this “hiding” is more of a security measure than anything else. I think the hype for Kate is always at a fever pitch after she announces a pregnancy. It’s just easier for everyone if she lays low (not that she minds, clearly). She’ll be back for the New York trip, I have no doubt.

  22. puffinlunde says:

    I have had hyperemesis and I would not have anyone in the house as the last thing you want is people watching you – or worse talking about food – when you are throwing up 24/7. Even the smells of other people cooking would set me off. Sometimes I was so exhausted that I would lie on the bathroom floor as it was easier than running backwards and forwards – no way I would want staff around

  23. Tiffany says:

    I wonder how their staffers are paid. It is not like Willnot and Kannot does much to begin with. So are they paid even though their employers are never around does not do much of anything at all.

  24. Jackson says:

    I don’t know, it seems like a non-issue to me. She’s sick and feels like crap and would prefer to be around the comfort and coziness of her family and their home. No big deal.

  25. laineyd says:

    Poor thing! Having to order around a staff that we’re constantly told doesn’t exist!

  26. tracking says:

    I sympathize with the discomfort of all the scrutiny by people you don’t know gossiping about your every move. If I were that ill, I’d want to be in a safe haven too.

  27. ManchurianGlobal says:

    There are plenty of things to bash her for – laziness, the Stepford Wife personality – but I can’t really fault her for this. There is a comfort your mom (or parents) can deliver that no one else can. If I was in her shoes, I’d be at my mom’s too.

  28. Ellen says:

    Maybe the problem isn’t that Kate regularly retreats to her family. Maybe the problem is that the royal press offices want to pretend that William and Kate are “just like us,” when in fact, they have a very workable and extremely typical British aristocratic marriage. And for all that the Middletons get slammed for their middle-class roots, maybe they’re smarter than the Spencers, because they’ve been able to provide the support structure that a royal consort needs to navigate the (really ridiculously) byzantine working of The Firm.

    Just look at Camilla, who turns out to have been a remarkably good influence on the PoW. She kept her own house after her marriage, celebrates holidays with her children while Charles stays with his family, and regularly takes weeks-long retreats by herself. Camilla and Charles openly speak of Highgrove — not London — as their primary home, and make no secret of the fact that Camilla often retreats to her own nearby estate even when they’re both off-duty. Do any of us think that Camilla needs to change her ways? That she chose this life, so she should spend all her time with Charles? That all the money spent to renovate Clarence House in the decade since the Queen Mother died was a waste of funds?

    I wish the royal press offices weren’t such a mess. I very much wish that the entire Royal Family wasn’t starting to have obvious personal issues as their parents decline into extreme old age (just look at Andrew and Charles over the last 5 years). But I can’t fault Kate or the Middletons for following the established model for British royal marriages, and I’m glad that Kate has the resources that her late mother-in-law never had.

    • Ms. Turtle says:

      Great comment!

    • wolfpup says:

      I wonder if her middle class roots were not prepared for the ways of aristocratic marriage.

      • AM says:

        But certainly 9 years of William doing his own thing gave her an inkling? Unless she thought he would change after the wedding.

      • Sunspot says:

        They lived apart from each other for much of their courtship after college. William was often based at military installations in other counties or countries. I always wondered how they managed that. Maybe Kate thought marriage would be a return to their college closeness.

      • wolfpup says:

        Diana apparently wasn’t prepared for an “aristocratic marriage”; at least the part where the POW was sleeping around and which he felt he was “historically entitled” to do. I hope Diana brought the 21st century in the palace up-to-date. I really hope that Kate is not hurt in this way.

        Does anyone think that the trip to the Maldives was for making up, after William was caught with Jecca and friends?

      • Ellen says:

        Well, I would argue that Kate’s very well prepared. When you see her with the Royal Family, she looks genuinely happy. I mean, compare Kate’s balcony and other official appearances so far to those of Diana — Kate’s body language vis-a-vis Harry, Sophie, and Camilla in particular is strikingly more relaxed than Diana’s was toward anyone (with the possible, early exception of the Duchess of York). Whatever she expected from William, I think Kate has been pretty satisfied so far.

        Elizabeth and Phillip have been, by all accounts, exceedingly happy together, and yet Phillip was a notorious philanderer in the 1960s and 1970s. When Charles and Camilla married in 2005, more than one royal reporter repeated that old chestnut, “when a man marries his mistress, he creates a job opening” (and although I don’t know that this has turned out to be the case, Charles wasn’t faithful to Camilla any more than he was faithful to Diana). The issue isn’t necessarily the lack of fidelity; the issue is the different expectations and ideas that people can have about what makes a happy married life. So far, William and Kate seem to be in decently good harmony about theirs.

      • Juliette says:

        @ Wolfpup

        Yes. I think the Maldives trip (without George) was absolutely a holiday to make up for Wills getting caught with the mistress. I think Kate largely turns the other cheek, but does not want to be made a public fool. Its not uncommon in political marriages.

    • AlwaysConfused says:

      I so agree with you. Now, IMO, the fact that there is still a “monarchy” is asinine, but it is what it is. I’ve never bought into the Wills/Kate “love story.” It seemed obvious from the jump, to me at least, that theirs was a marriage of “you got the job of public wife!” I mean, I am sure they enjoy each others’ company, but their PR team has never convinced me of the fairytale. William made SURE she knew the deal before they went public — and she was willing to play the game, the trade off being the Queen of England one day; to be immortalized in history. And hey, a lot of people would make the same deal. In a way, the real story is more interesting.

      But the palace tries to push this “normalcy myth” — and its almost offensive, because most adults see through it. It’s almost like the palace is trying to play to the tweens and teens.

      • Ellen says:

        I’m not sure that the only options were “contract” and “fairy tale.” I think they really are loving, sympathetic partners and I think they work together very well. I just think their private expectations might be, well, aristocratic.

        And I also think that even Camilla would advise Kate (remember all those press reports about the lunches they shared?) not to lose herself inside the palace walls. The Royal Staff really are a separate world, in an almost medieval way, and the people who marry into that family need a great deal of political savvy and personal strength to manage it.

      • AlwaysConfused says:

        TO each her own. I, personally, have never seen a spark between them. I think she was a good choice of wife for him, though, because she knows the deal — a point on which we agree (Kate being fully vetted in the ways of aristocratic marriage, that is). But yeah, I don’t see anything between them except friendship. But hey, to each her own.

      • hmmm says:

        @Ellen,

        Kate invariably looks strained in William’s company. I don’t buy that they are “loving, sympathetic” partners. I do buy that they are business partners, though.

    • inthekitchen says:

      @Ellen — one of the differences for me (in your question about why no one cares about Camilla’s separate bolt hole) is that Camilla WORKS. It’s one thing if someone is seen as being busy with royal duties and goes cheerfully about doing them (basically EVERYONE else in the family except Will&Kate), then sure, take a vacation, who cares. But when someone is seen as primarily shopping, decorating several new homes (that will then sit empty), vacationing, and every now and then working, IMO, the reaction will be different.

      Some people get the benefit of the doubt because they are seen as being harder workers than others. And, honestly, IMO, the “work” that this family does is hardly “work” so again, it’s difficult for me to sympathize with someone who can’t even do the bare minimum. Someone else makes their schedule…they just show up, smile, shake some hands, get fawned over, present something/unveil something/tour some place, possibly eat or drink a bit of the local food/whiskey/etc., possibly say a few sentences…and then that’s it. And, that schedule that I just outlined would count as 4-5 “engagements”…It’s barely work and it’s dead easy!

      • Ellen says:

        Oh goodness, YES. I agree that Camilla earns her privacy through her work habits, and what can only be considered a miraculous shift in public opinion about her character and personality generally. And I agree that W&K would get much more support if only they were taking on a proper load of patronages. (At this point, it’s becoming frankly worrisome that no one has fixed that — the fact that they let William take on this new job of his speaks to real chaos inside The Firm.) But from one POV, that’s all separate from having a functional marriage, and I do think that over the centuries, most royal consorts have done best when they’ve had households of their own to which they could retreat.

        To put it another way, I have a lot of disdain for the Cambridges’ poor work ethic, but the fact that Kate spends a lot of time at her parents’ house, or the possibility that William is living something of a separate life, doesn’t bother me one way or another. Fix the laziness. Live wherever and however you want.

    • hmmm says:

      Great comment, Ellen.

      Camilla and Charles have raised their families, and don’t have the same needs and interests as a young family. It’s like comparing apples and oranges.

      George rarely sees his dad, it seems. What kind of cohesiveness is there in that sort of lack of family life, when Dad/husband is always elsewhere, out of choice? It doesn’t make for strong bonds, and it does shape George and his future beliefs and attitudes.

      Certainly, Charles and Diana, as a young family, ensured, by being a strong family unit, that their children had a relatively normal upbringing, with both mother and father being around as much as possible. It was also clear Charles loved his kids and was involved in their lives. Not so much here, IMO.

      • Ellen says:

        Actually, Charles & Diana’s marriage broke down relatively soon after Harry’s birth, and it’s pretty clear that they spent very little time “as a family” after that.

        Remember the big, beautiful photo-shoot they did with the boys at Highgrove in, I think, 1985? Even then, Diana was never at Highgrove, the whole thing was more or less a sham, and while the boys spent many happy days there after their mother’s death, it wasn’t a big destination of theirs during their childhood.

        I seem to remember that at one point in the mid-80s, there was a press report about how many days it had been since Charles and Diana had even been in the same building. The count was more than 35. The press stopped counting soon after that. And every biographer, pro-Diana and pro-Charles, seems to agree that the boys were a weapon between the parents, with (for example) Diana trying to make sure that it was Charles who had out-of-town obligations during the boys’ school holidays.

        Of course, I’d like to imagine that William is seeing George much more often than Charles saw his sons, that’s true. It wouldn’t be so odd for their social set for that not to be the case, though.

      • hmmm says:

        According to Wendy Berry, Charles and Di did put the kids first and did act as a strong family unit when the children were young. Yes, the kids were used as weapons later on, but the fact is, Charles was not indifferent to his kids.

        Not even aristocratic families abide by some iron clad rule for families and it’s unfair to paint them all with the same brush. Who is to say this is the norm now? And, fact is, a young family does have different needs than a couple of geezers in their twilight years. Another unfair comparison.

        Moreover, aristocratic culture is no justification for being a lousy father and husband, even though it may be ‘understood’. It can only be understood, I imagine, if it’s a contract and convenient. And it certainly shines a giant klieg light on William’s drivelling mantra about wanting to be ‘normal’ and this fairy tale ‘love’ between a king and a commoner.

      • Someonestolemyname says:

        IMO Wendy Berry wrote one of the best Royal books about Charles and Diana’s life. She was the Housekeeper and saw things close up and her book didn’t take sides.
        I really enjoyed it.

    • Suze says:

      Agree totally. If there weren’t all this pretense of “being just like ordinary folks” than most of WillKat’s marriage would be unremarkable, it would just be royals being royal.

      They are very different from us, from every single solitary one of us commenting on this thread. William probably agrees to Kate spending as much time as she wants/needs with her parents because it frees him to do what he wants. And it probably works fine for both of them.

      • notasugarhere says:

        I think it is more likely that Kate agreed to let William do whatever he wanted, therefore she ends up spending a lot of time with her family. As someone said upthread, she has no friends. All she has is William, baby, family, shopping, and grooming appointments.

  29. Bethany says:

    I wonder, at this point, if she still wants to fill the palace with children???

  30. Irishserra says:

    She still behaves like a coddled child. And this is a future queen? I know Diana had her issues and behind closed doors was reportedly a terror, but damn it, she worked her arse off for those in need and endeared herself to the people!

  31. RoseyRook says:

    I want to say that all the grief the Duchess gets portrays a cynicism in this culture which I think should mediated with a bit more positivity. I personally find it a bit depressing that this culture thrives on seemingly ripping on one another alot of the time.

    • notasugarhere says:

      I find it depressing that two pampered, taxpayer-funded individuals refuse to step up and try their best to help the people of their country. To look at the unearned riches around them and know that they need to give back. As Harry said, “You can’t just sit there” but W&K do. They aren’t being asked to do heavy labor, they’re asked to raise money for charity, visit sick children, promote museums, and lend their names to work schemes to help veterans.

      They dig in their heels and refuse to help their suffering country in exchange for their privileged lives — that is depressing.

      • The Original Mia says:

        +Infinity!

      • inthekitchen says:

        …infinity and beyond! :)

      • Vava says:

        Amen to that!

      • maggie says:

        notasugar,
        Aren’t they already? Isn’t William in training right now? He’s giving up his whole paycheck to charity. Maybe people’s expectations are unrealistic.

      • Someonestolemyname says:

        Well said notsugarhere..+100

      • notasugarhere says:

        Maggie, the people’s expectations are (I suspect) that he do his royal job in exchange for his massive royal perks. Ex. Over £4.5million in tax money spent rehabbing a 57 room mansion in Kensington Palace — a rehab that we’ve discussed ad nauseam wasn’t needed – and they aren’t going to live there. It isn’t William’s job to fly helicopters. It is his job to raise money for charities like EAAA — all charities not just that one. He has a royal role in this world and he refuses to rise to the occasion.

        The EAAA is 100% run on charity. Someone (Her Majesty, The Duchy) had to donate the money for William’s salary, since it was admitted that there was no job opening and the job was created just for him. Someone (Her Majesty, The Duchy) had to donate the rumored larger helicopter – to make room for the extraneous RPOs. William is donating the salary because he doesn’t need it – spitting in the faces of the people who work for a living – but he isn’t donating it back to EAAA. Wherever he donates it, he’s going to get a tax write-off for the full amount of his salary.

    • hmmm says:

      I find it depressing that they are consistently dishonest and implicitly show contempt for the very people who are forced to support their opulent and extravagant lifestyle. The glaring lie about the paralympics was my water shed moment about what they really thought about people.

  32. megan says:

    Completely random question, but I am guessing someone on this thread knows the answer … although I wish the Queen a record-breaking long life, Charles will eventually be king. When that happens, the Cambridges will becomes the Wales. Does the Cambridge title pass to someone else, or do they keep it?

    • Ellen says:

      William will keep the Cambridge title until he is crowned king, at which point it will automatically pass to George, but William’s not likely to use it regularly once he has access to grander things.

      When Charles becomes King, William will automatically gain the title Duke of Cornwall, and he and Kate will be The Duke and Duchess of Cornwall and Cambridge. It’s likely that they will either stop using, or gradually phase out, the “and Cambridge” piece, and simply be styled Duke and Duchess of Cornwall. At some point in Charles’s reign (sooner rather than later?), the King could then bestow the title “Prince of Wales” on William (it’s not automatic), at which point William would be styled pretty much the same as his father is now, only with Cambridge after Cornwall when all the titles are read out.

      Harry, by the way, if he hasn’t already been given a Dukedom, would become “The Prince Harry” and no longer “Prince Harry of Wales.”

      I believe that, if/when William becomes Prince of Wales, George switches from being Prince George of Cambridge to being Prince George of Wales. What I don’t know is what he would be styled during the period after Charles inherits the throne but before William is invested as PoW. It’s possible he’d be styled “Prince George of Cornwall” then (he’d be Prince George of Cornwall and Cambridge, technically).

      • megan says:

        Ellen — thanks for the info!

      • inthekitchen says:

        Ellen – do you know what happens if Charles dies before the queen?

        Isn’t Cornwall reserved for the eldest son of the monarch? So then…would that go to Andrew or just revert back to the crown to lie in wait for George when/if Will becomes king?

        So…my guess it that Willy would remain PW of Cambridge, but not get his father’s other titles (or at least the ones reserved for the eldest son of the monarch since he would never be the eldest son of the monarch). Does that sound right?

        TIA!

      • LAK says:

        Inthekitchen: Duke of Cornwall and POW are reserved for the heir. If the heir dies before the monarch, it goes to the next in line of succession who in this case is William. Andrew is currently 5th in line. Charles, William, PGtips and Harry are all ahead of him.

        unless the top 4 people ahead of him die or renounce their succession rights, he’ll remain Duke of York until death. The peerage hasn’t been reformed so because Andrew has no sons, his title will revert to the crown on his death to be granted to the next living 2nd son of the monarch.

        when William inherits DoCornwall, he’ll inherit Charles’s current titles since he’ll be the heir at that point. Charles will have upgraded to DoLancaster and all the titles HM currently holds as he’ll be the monarch.

      • inthekitchen says:

        LAK – actually, the Cornwall title would revert to the crown…I looked it up after I first posted and (according to wiki, anyway): “The dukedom of Cornwall can only be held by the oldest living son of the monarch who is also heir apparent. In the event of a Duke of Cornwall’s death, the title merges in the Crown even if he left surviving descendants. The monarch’s grandson, even if he is the heir apparent, does not succeed to the dukedom.”

        So, Will wouldn’t get Cornwall if Charles dies before the queen since he’s not the oldest living son of the monarch. But Andrew wouldn’t get it – even though he becomes the oldest living son – because he is not also the heir apparent.

        Since PoW is given at the discretion of the monarch, I would imagine William wouldn’t get that one either since it is too much associated with Charles. But that is just speculation on my part and he would certainly be entitled to it if the queen wanted to give it to him.

      • wolfpup says:

        What do these titles mean in $$$ ?

      • LAK says:

        Inthekitchen: You misunderstand and my comment and that Wiki page doesn’t take into consideration that we’ve never had a situation where the grandson becomes heir – excluding female heirs here.

        The two titles are ALWAYS and ONLY the direct heir. Andrew being 5th in line with 4 other people ahead of him will never be DoCornwall or POW.

        As for the titles not being granted to William, that’s an assumption that’s taken a negative interpretation because

        1. All these titles always revert to the crown before they are handed out to the next recipient.

        2. The handing out of titles is always at the discretion of the monarch. It’s never a given that titles will be given or withheld.

        3. What is certain is that the heir ie no 1 in the line of succession inherits DoCornwall. ditto POW.

        4. The scenerio you are proposing doesn’t have exact governance which makes it fall outside the rules, but that doesn’t mean it can’t or wont happen since the normal course of things is to make the no 1 heir DoCornwall/POW. It’s a loophole similar to the one that presented itself when PGtips was born where he fell outside the rules as a result of being born the GREAT grandson and therefore wasn’t a Prince. The normal course of events dictated that he be made a Prince and so HM created him a Prince.

        5. Should HM decide not to hand out DoCornwall and POW to William IF Charles dies before her, it may cause all sorts of issues that indicate that she doesn’t consider William the heir. William won’t be able to draw from the income of the duchy and or have the powers that the POW does by virtue of those titles.

        6. Andrew’s title can only be DoYork because Charles has provided heirs that put distance between him and Andrew. Before the birth of William, Harry and PGtips, if Charles had died before HM, THEN Andrew would have moved up and become DoCornwall/POW – see George V for similar scenerio.

        Wolfpup: DoCornwall means wealth for the title holders. POW comes with government vetos. the other titles only indicate blood relationship to the monarch, but not much as far as wealth and power are concerned. It’s the classic ‘heir gets everything whilst rest of the siblings get sod all’ scenerio that plays out across the entire aristo class.

    • inthekitchen says:

      LAK, we’ll just have to agree to disagree about your #3 point. It seems very clear to me that wikipedia is saying that the Cornwall dukedom goes ONLY to the heir IF he is BOTH the heir apparent AND the oldest son of the monarch. That is what I thought I had read previously – and why I originally asked – so I’m just going to assume wiki is correct (no disrespect to you and your knowledge). Their source is cited as the Complete Peerage, so I’m going to assume it’s correct.

      William will never be the son of QEII so if Charles dies first, it seems clear he would not get the Cornwall dukedom because being the oldest son of the monarch is a requirement for this title. And wiki does say this has happened before (your #4 point) with King George II and his grandson George III (who became PoW but NOT Duke of Cornwall), so there is precedence on what would happen (i.e. William would NOT be Duke of Cornwall, only PoW, if QEII grants this to him…which see my other point, IMO, I don’t think she would since it is too much associated with Charles).

  33. Jaded says:

    Wading into the byzantine structure of the BRF and “The Firm” is harrowing enough for someone raised in an upper class family and familiar with the royal family. It has to be downright terrifying for someone like Kate who was brought up in a wealthy but close-knit family, and from a middle class background. She seems to have lost whatever backbone she had earlier in her one-track minded mission to bag William. It’s like the old expression “be careful what you wish for” because things you want that badly almost always have negative consequences.

    It’s clear she’s feeling like she’s bitten off more than she can chew and painfully obvious that she’s uncomfortable in a public role. Her dream prince has a dark side and her old life, which she tries to escape to again and again, is her comfort zone. But how much longer can she keep running back to the welcoming bosom of her family life? As Charles takes on more and more of his mother’s duties, it stands to reason that William will have to start taking on a more public role whether he likes it or not. Both he and Kate must know that shirking off royal duties and living an indolent country life isn’t winning them the “Royals of the Year” award. It’s almost like William is deliberately thumbing his nose at what could be a golden opportunity to make meaningful change in the royal family, not just take advantage of all it’s perqs and luxuries.

    • Bucky says:

      I really don’t think William cares that he’s shirking his duties. I don’t think he cares about his duties and I don’t think he cares THAT deeply about the well-being of his people as it pertains to him.

      And, I mean, as long as there’s a monarchy, he can do exactly that.

      • Jaded says:

        True, I really hoped better of him and that his mother’s style of bringing up her kids to work hard and experience what life is like for the majority would have imprinted on him. Apparently it worked for Harry but not for William.

      • wolfpup says:

        William seems to have inherited some of his mother’s resentment. IMO

    • Hazel says:

      I don’t think William concerns himself with being ‘royal of the year’–he got his position in life through a birthright & doesn’t have to care–or so he thinks. The reality is, if the British people get ticked off enough, he’ll lose that position & have to fend for himself. He’ll finally have to start spending his own money & not live off the charity of others.

  34. Xantha says:

    Well judging by the comments left by people here, it’s obvious why the Cambridges PR machine continues to churn along the way it does despite some major problems: It’s because there are enough people who will defend their actions vehemently no matter what. People who completely buy the “They are just like us” nonsense they keep spewing out and these people would give them a pass on things that other public figures gets ripped to shreds for.

    I mean if another famous woman, even one that’s Royal was said to be this coddled and spoiled would so many people go “Aww poor thing. I would want my mother too?” Cause I can think of a number of female celebs who would NOT get that sympathy.

    Here’s the thing and I will say it again because it will always needs repeating: If she didn’t want Palace life, she should have moved on and never looked back when they broke up in 2007. She didn’t marry just a man, she married an institution. With doing that, she became a public servant and with public service there are obligations. As pointed out in this thread she doesn’t just run back to her parents’ home when she’s pregnant and sick. Nor did she do a lot of work prior to her pregnancies.

    I do hope she will get better at some point. Being constantly sick is horrible to go through. But she can’t keep running to her parents forever when things get tough, and at this point it’s like she’s running away from the reality of what she married into. And it seems to me that William is doing the exact same thing only he was born into it.

  35. Luciana says:

    And yet anyone has asked THE question: Where’s William?

    • notasugarhere says:

      Wherever he wants to be, doing whatever he wants to be doing, most likely away from wife and child. Business as usual.

    • FLORC says:

      He might be getting certified. I’m doubtful though. If he was wouldn’t that be played up more? That he had to leave his wife’s side for work purposes? And with this job he’ll still be working after the baby is born, yes?

      • hmmm says:

        Yes, it seems too quiet on the Wills front. Wouldn’t PR be crowing from the rooftops that the prince is steeped in study and practice? Isn’t that usually the way it works?

  36. minxx says:

    My mom is not the maternal type but I can understand – when I’m sick I really do miss my granny and I don’t blame Kate for wanting to be with her family when ill. She needs someone to hold her head and massage her back – normally, a husband should do it for his pregnant wife, but I guess she can’t count on William to support her in her hour of need, especially if this hour turns into weeks and months. Well, at least she can get sympathy for her sufferring from the public. After all, she’s cooking “a spare” for them ;)

  37. dawnchild says:

    Not a fan of WK, but…. as someone who has had a personal staff (where I lived this was not unusual), it is a COMPLETE PAIN to have to deal with questions when you are ill. Sorry to state a gender-based reality here…but the woman in the house will ALWAYS be asked questions by the staff. They would feel presumptuous if they didn’t, so they keep checking with you about every detail. Plus you feel like a horror show on display if you go out of your room…and since you really don’t need much except tea and peace and quiet, you wish they would all go away till you get better. When you live alone, this is not a big deal, as you can just shut out the world till you feel better…not so with paid staff rattling around and asking ‘helpful’ questions.

    In this case, I think she’s trying to save her sanity, and make sure her parents can step in to provide some baby oversight. Certainly her useless husband and in-laws are not going to do it! I don’t think she would rather be doing this. She probably has a whole fashion statement to make with maternity clothes that she’s missing out on. Not to mention public attention to bask in!

    • notasugarhere says:

      My guess would be Nanny Maria is in Berkshire living in the newly-built-by-taxpayer-funding staff quarters and doing the majority of PGTips care.

    • hmmm says:

      I imagine she has an entire suite she can wander around in. And she can assign a gatekeeper as well.

      • dawnchild says:

        Oh, I’m sure the nanny will be on, but still parental supervision required on and off? And still even if she is in a suite (which I’m sure she is) she will either be alone and puking, or have to give the gatekeeper occasional housekeeping/child-related directions as asked. It’s nice to be ill and not responsible for your image or your house management decisions, is all I’m saying. Can’t shade her in these circumstances, I find. But after babies,…Oh definitely :)

  38. Sarah says:

    I don’t find this at all unreasonable or hard to understand. Yes, I’m sure she can tell the staff to leave her alone at KP, but that leaves her sick and isolated in a place that isn’t “hers.” It’s not nearly as comforting as convalescing at home with your parents (particularly mom), who have seen you through countless other illnesses/injuries, seen you at your worst, know how to make you feel better, etc.

    • hmmm says:

      Well, her parents’ brand new home isn’t hers either.

      I don’t understand why she doesn’t get her own little pied a terre where she can get away from it all. A small cottage somewhere. But then, who would take care of Georgie? And her? I guess she’s stuck.

    • notasugarhere says:

      She demanded the space at KP and spent a year decorating it. Surely it should feel it is “hers” by now.

      And funny, I thought home was with your husband and child, the new family you build together. Not in the brand new mansion her parents moved into about 1.5 years after the wedding.

    • Feeshalori says:

      Nice to have these toss-away homes where you get to spend millions to redecorate and then decide you don’t want to live in them.

    • Jaded says:

      Isn’t that what William should be doing? Sorry but her constant running home to mummy despite having her pick of wonderful homes and loads of caring staff doesn’t ring true. There’s something wrong here, something dysfunctional in the whole scenario, and I think it boils down to William’s general dislike of responsibility and her childish regression into a young girl who can’t look after herself despite having loads of help. She’s 32, not 21, and has had a decade to prepare for this – not much sympathy here.

  39. Clare says:

    I’m very happily married and pregnant and sick. Nothing against my husband, but i would love to be at my mom’s house right now. I honestly couldn’t think of anything better right now.

  40. Milly says:

    Can you please lay off her? My friend is going through the same thing and she literally can’t keep anything in. Imagine being surrounded by strangers while puking your guts out?

    • notasugarhere says:

      “Can you please lay off her?” I’m always curious at this type of comment. Kate Middleton isn’t reading this website, she has stated she only cares what William thinks. It isn’t like she’s being required to read all of our discussions and pay attention.

    • India Andrews says:

      I seriously doubt she is paying attention to us.

  41. Hmmm... says:

    I’m fairly agnostic about this girl
    But I’m starting to wonder if she might be having some mental issues
    She has, on occasion recently, not looked well. Frazzled

  42. Vava says:

    Well, it’s probably a good thing she has her family for support because it seems quite evident that her HUSBAND likes to fly solo.

    I think Kate is stunted emotionally and is immature. Go ahead, blast me for that. I fail to understand why a mature educated woman of 32 years would allow such poor treatment by the Golden Boy William, or why she would move in with her parents. At 32 she should be making her own happy home and not running home to Mummy. If things are so horrible with William, why on earth doesn’t she just take up residence in one of her mansions and have her support group COME TO HER? She’s ‘royal’ isn’t she? Honestly, Kate is a joke at this point.

    • Pixelated says:

      @vava Yes, definitely stunted emotionally. I’m sure Carole has been likened to PMK of Kardashian klaim.
      Unrelated note: I have been reading a fantastic biography of Madame de Pompadour. Now THAT woman knew how to work it. What a 180 degree difference from a boring, self-indulged royal like Kate.

  43. India Andrews says:

    What is Kate going to do when her parents pass? She is going to be so lost.

  44. Moi says:

    Hmmm that’s unfair. Think about the difference. Having people/servants watching your every move, or at home, with your mom, where you’re truly comfortable. And when you’re pregnant, it’s not like just simply being sick. There is this innate need for your mother. When I was pregnant, I would cry if my mother was not at arms length at times. Many times. It’s tough to explain, but I don’t blame Kate at all.

  45. Jennie says:

    Chronic vomiting is the great equalizer and all the money and trappings in the world don’t help that utter misery. Royal or not I feel sorry for her.

  46. Flower says:

    Don’t really care that she is with her mum, if it’s an extra security cost, so be it , it’s not like she can just send them away, she feels like crap and wants peace and quite and someone to look after her I have no problem with that. However when she’s well and back on deck that’s a different issue entirely.

    • notasugarhere says:

      “if it’s an extra security cost, so be it ” Then you can pay it. All of it. Until then, we get to continue to criticize their workshy ways, their immaturity, and the combination of the two leading to ridiculously-increased costs for the taxpayers.

      • Flower says:

        Do you really think that Kate being at Kensington Palace instead of with her mother would save you one penny in taxes?

      • notasugarhere says:

        Yes, Flower. Please see FLORC’s excellent post under number 4 above. Every time she chooses to be at her parents instead of in a royal property, the security costs skyrocket. Locals cannot use local roads, they have to call in services from outside (meaning if you have a heart attack, the ambulance has to travel from another town to get you because the town ambulance is permanently on-call for Middleton), etc.

  47. jwoolman says:

    Kate’s job is to produce an heir and a spare. She’s working… Honestly, people need to get a grip. There is no way that she actually realized what she had signed up for with this royal family nonsense until she was actually married. The expectations sound insane. So what if she’s not a brilliant fundraiser and speaker? Her job is to produce children. Really. That’s it. All the expenses people cry about are a problem with being royal, such as security costs and multiple homes. I doubt that anybody would satisfy the critics on that score. I doubt Kate is the power behind all of it, she just does what she’s told and tries to get and stay pregnant (according to her job description). That’s why William married her.

    She probably prefers her parents’ house right now both for real privacy and comfort as well as the assurance that a family member is available for her son, without disrupting her parents’ lives too much. she has no need to stay in palaces anyway, the staff can run things. It’s a business more than a real home. George’s dad isn’t around much and might not be a lot of help. Nannies are nice but family is forever.

    • notasugarhere says:

      “Her job is to produce children. Really. That’s it.” What an incredibly misogynistic view. There are hundreds, HUNDREDS, of people in line to the throne. You can see the first 51 of them here:
      http://www.royal.gov.uk/ThecurrentRoyalFamily/Successionandprecedence/Succession/Overview.aspx

      W&K did not have to have children. That is not their job. Their JOB is to do their utmost to improve the lives of the people of the UK and Commonwealth.

      I’d think “family is forever” would mean the family W&K are building together. And the nanny is with George, whether he is in KP or Bucklebury.

  48. Mzizkrizten says:

    Eh, Camilla is an adulteress, she shouldn’t even get any sort of title.

  49. Alix says:

    Oh yes. Her life is just so hard.