Katie Holmes on Tom Cruise: ‘I don’t want that moment in my life to define me’

Katie Holmes

Katie Holmes covers this week’s issue of People. They didn’t choose a very flattering cover shot, right? This is very “bride of Xenu,” but People dangles the promise of Katie telling her “story.” So the sleepy, robot look may be on purpose. I am interested to read the full story when it arrives, but I don’t think it will be too dramatic. Katie’s kept quiet on the issue of her divorce to Tom Cruise, and I suspect there’s an agreement in place. Plus we’ve already heard the worst of it. Like how Tom would scream for days on end at Katie and how she had to use burner phones to organize her getaway. What else could she possibly reveal?

Katie’s been doing well for herself. She bought a second home in Los Angeles. She has some indie movies coming out, and she’ll reprise her Jackie Kennedy role. Oh, and Olay hired her as global ambassador, which is probably how she afforded that second home. Here’s what Katie has to say to People (so far):

Katie Holmes has a three-part mantra these days.

“I don’t have any fear now, I don’t have a lot of rules for myself, and I don’t take myself that seriously,” she tells PEOPLE exclusively in this week’s cover story.

And when it comes to her career, “I feel ready for new challenges,” she says.

The star, 35, is poised to reprise her role as Jackie Kennedy and appears against-type as a vigilante school teacher in the new black comedy Miss Meadows.

And Holmes will soon go behind the camera for her feature directorial debut.

Yes, her 2012 divorce from Tom Cruise made headlines around the world, but Holmes has long since moved on.

“I don’t want that moment in my life to define me, to be who I am,” she says of her post-split persona. “I don’t want that to be what I’m known as. I was an actor before, an actor during and an actor now.”

She is also a mom, and life with her 8-year-old daughter Suri “means everything to me,” she says. “I’m learning every day, and I have been since the minute I became a mom.”

Part of that learning curve is accepting that things don’t always go smoothly at home, she admits.

“My patience has grown, but between 4 and 6 p.m. . . . I mean, wow,” she says. “Between tickle fights and glitter art, I try to throw in some manners along the way.”

[From People]

I completely understand Katie’s desire to not be known as the third ex-wife of Tom Cruise. That must be super embarrassing to realize the whole world was correct about Tom when we all thought he was losing his (lifted) marbles. Katie will be fine. She’s been free for two years, and there’s no going back. She’s completely correct about the hours of 4-6 pm when it comes to raising a child. There’s something about that time of day that brings out the most rambunctious behavior.

Since we haven’t talked about Katie in awhile, so here are plenty of pics. She and Suri went to the farmer’s market together, and I’m jealous of Suri’s hair.

Katie Holmes

Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet & WENN

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  1. Hawkeye says:

    Did People have no other Katie Holmes pictures to use for the cover? What is that facial expression? “Who am I and what is this place?”

  2. aims says:

    There’s a reason why it’s called the bewitching hour. I don’t blame her for not wanting to be known as that woman during that time. On a related note, you don’t see a lot of pictures with tom and suri anymore.

    • Mel M says:

      Exactly! The witching hour is so tough every. single. day.

    • MrsBPitt says:

      Personally, I think Tom not seeing Suri was part of the divorce agreement, and specifically, the “Katie keeping her mouth shut” clause…It’s funny (not really)…but when Tom and Nicole divorced, for the first few months, every once and a while you would see a pic of Nicole and their kids, then slowly it became less frequent, until there were no more. Same thing with Tom and Suri…Right after the divorce, we would see a pic of them together every once and a while, until it withered down to none. I think Katie (or her lawyer dad) took a page right out of Tom’s own custody handbook! Karma, Baby!!

      • Poppy says:

        There are at least a few sets of pictures so I don’t think it was part of divorce. That would not be in Suri’s best interest. She will grow up and ask about him. I do think he sees her but 1) maybe keeps it private or 2)maybe it isn’t that often. I do think its possible to keep it out of the press if they want to. I don’t have a clue what Meryl Streep kids look like but I think she seems them!

      • GingerCrunch says:

        Agreed, MrsBPitt. Katie did a reverse Co$ custody arrangement! Wonder what her leverage was? How’s that feel, Tommy???

  3. Bored says:

    She totally bores me. Plus she made her choices. Of course they define her. Bleech. Usually I ignore any story about her completely.

  4. Jaderu says:

    “tickle fights and glitter art”
    Ironically that’s what Tom and Miscavige do between 4 and 6 pm.

  5. Tiffany says:

    Remember when People Mag use to balance celebrity and civilian. I cannot believe the Washington shooting was not the cover story for this issue. From those excerpts, Katie did not bring anything to the table other than being the ex Mrs. Cruise.

    • FingerBinger says:

      The Washington shooting probably didn’t make the cover because there has been an effort not to mention the names or give the shooters any recognition. Anderson Cooper did a report about it and didn’t say that guy’s name once.

      • Lucinda says:

        I really appreciate the lack of coverage for exactly that reason. The more coverage you give it, the more you normalize it and the more people choose it as a viable suicide option (because that’s what it is-suicide).

  6. Eleonor says:

    I haven’t seen Suri photos in a while she has become taller !
    And again Tom in Suri’s life is nowhere to be seen. So sad.

    • kibbles says:

      It’s amazing that six years ago there were news stories about Suri Cruise and her designer outfits and custom-made toddler high heels everyday. Tom loved to show off Suri to the cameras. I can imagine how Katie must have felt being inundated by the paparazzi while having her and Suri’s image controlled by Tom. There was an immediate change after the divorce. Suri started looking like a normal child and not a fashion model. She is rarely seen with Tom. Maybe because Katie won’t allow her daughter to become a Scientologist. I doubt Suri has a close relationship with Tom or her step siblings anymore.

    • lucy2 says:

      I haven’t seen a photo of them together in ages. It is sad, but possible for the best for Suri, if he’s too far gone in CO$.

    • SnarkySnarkers says:

      I still think she wasn’t really Tom’s to begin with. The timing with her pregnancy and birth was so weird. Plus, she looks nothing like Tom and bears a striking resemblance to Chris Klein in my opinion.

  7. Sam says:

    It’s tough to reconcile the picture of her now with her Dawson’s Creek days when she was famous for how young and vibrant and happy she looked. Granted, some of it is just age, and nothing will change that. But it’s hard to believe that she didn’t go through the ringer after being Mrs. Cruise. So many people who have divorced out of the fold tell horror stories about being followed, harassed, etc. Maybe her high profile prevented that? Either way, I’m sure there are plenty of people left who have no love for her and what she did. I hope she does manage to get some happiness. Lord knows she deserves it.

  8. LAK says:

    She needs to do something that changes the conversation. Right now, the most interesting thing about her is still TC.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      Very well said.

    • lucy2 says:

      That’s a good point. I think she’s at least trying though, by working more and now directing, I guess. It was such a huge circus though, I don’t know if she’ll ever get away from it.

    • lunchcoma says:

      I think she needs to, but I don’t think she can. She’s not the sort of actress that Nicole Kidman is. She’s too old and not really the right sort to be a sex symbol. She’s not been very good at fashion design. I don’t think directing is her thing. I believe she’s pretty bright, but I think she probably has the talents that make people better at being lawyers and doctors and accountants than at having entertainment careers. So, her choices are to be obscure and successful at something more private or to keep talking about Tom Cruise.

  9. kibbles says:

    I understand that she doesn’t want to be defined by that period of her life, but here’s the thing. She wouldn’t be on the cover of People if it weren’t for her marriage to Tom Cruise. She is one of the most talked about actors from Dawson’s Creek (although Jackson and Williams have carved out more serious and critically acclaimed acting careers) because of her marriage. I imagine if she had not married Tom Cruise, she would likely have disappeared almost entirely from the spotlight other than the career she currently has as a C-list actress in tv movies or minor roles in films. An actress with her career would never end up on the cover of any magazines. So in a way her marriage will always define part of who she is as a celebrity.

  10. Tiffany :) says:

    If you don’t want it to define you, why are you on the cover of a magazine letting it define you again after all this time?

    I was never a big fan of either of them, but I just have a hard time believing she didn’t know a little about what she was getting into. If the “interview” stories are true, she took him up on it when many other women said no. I just don’t see her as a victim. I see her as someone who was in an arrangement that was mutually beneficial, and then decided it wasn’t. That doesn’t make her a villain, but it also doesn’t make her a hero to me.

    • misstee says:

      No it doesn’t make her a villain but it certainly makes her highly manipulative with the way she played out the divorce, trying to segue it into a career lift.

      Of course she KNEW what she was getting into she wasn’t a 14 year old virgin a la Pricilla Presley

    • CF98 says:

      While I probably wouldn’t be talking to People either she also can’t ignore it forever. I mean its not as if she’s Jennifer Aniston where she’s still on the tabloid covers to this day over Brad/Angelina despite having high profile relationships since then.

      I mean really if Elin Woods is allowed to say something to People without being criticized I don’t get why Katie Holmes can’t. I also don’t think she talked about Tom all that much compared to Suri/her life these blogs pick out the certain quotes so we click and read.

  11. Someonestolemyname says:

    The future words of

  12. Julie says:

    There is simply nothing interesting about her, her life or her career choices.

  13. Luciana says:

    When I was Suri’s age, I had the same haircut. LOL

  14. Arya Martell says:

    I always got the feeling Tom was way more abusive to Katie then any of us will ever know. I get the feeling Katie keeps Suri and Suri gets kept out of Co$. In return Katie doesn’t reveal any of Tom’s or Co$’ nasty secrets. I would be cautious though when Suri becomes a teenager. It’s all well and good while she’s a child but I always got the feeling it was the teen years when Tom ensnared his kids with Nicole. But I think Katie has taken the wisest and classiest way to move on.

  15. misstee says:

    I watched The Giver last night where everyone is pretty much a Stepford bot and she was still MORE bland than anyone else on the screen….

  16. Hissyfit says:

    But that’s the best thing that ever happened to her career. Being Mrs. Cruise.

  17. Poppy says:

    So glad to find most the comments here agree. Goodness, for a cover of PEople you pretty much are in the loop with them to discuss how they cover will be and what you talk about. She was aware they would talk about him YET she is trying to say she doesn’t want that. Katie has had several big bombs with the things she tried to do post divorce and I think next month that Miss Meadows movie comes out. It’s her next big chance to try and make it. It’s only an indie film and not a wide release. This is her big push. Sorry Katie, but I agree with those upthread- People will talk about something else when you do something else noteworthy. I also don’t feel sorry for her since I believe she got exactly what she was after at the time.

  18. KinChicago says:

    The red carpet picture is so much prettier and more vibrant… don’t know who Tom Cruise bribed or blackmailed at People but dude, minivan moms relate to exhaustion and it will certainly score points for Team Katie.

    Also, did anyone see Miss Meadows? It looks campy but is it MST3K worthy?

  19. lunchcoma says:

    I’m simultaneously sympathetic to someone who doesn’t want to be defined by a marriage – either an existing one or one that’s ended – and rolling my eyes a bit at her calling it a “moment.” I wasn’t married as long as Katie was and have been divorced longer, and “moment” still doesn’t really apply.

  20. M says:

    Someone needs to inform her that she hasn’t talent, so if it weren’t for marriage / divorce no one would care about her.

  21. Miss T says:

    She has barely said anything about Tom or her marriage since the divorce. Even in this interview she doesn’t really talk about him. So it seems she is honest about not wanting to be defined by it. She may never become an A-list star but she is working consistently and making some interesting choices. I saw a trailer for her new movie Miss Meadows, and looks like a great role. It may not be a blockbuster or win her an oscar, but at least she is challenging herself when she could easily just be a socialite. Good for her.

    • Bobbie says:

      The key to good pr is you don’t have to say a word!! You let your pr team tailor it all for you. There are plenty of times Katie has milked it with the set up pap pictures during the divorce and after it. Even any of those things about the divorce were true they came from her camp leaking things too. Regardless, she doesn’t have to use her mouth to have the image projected of the Sally Field “not without my daughter” .

      • CF98 says:

        While that’s a legit point. How often do we see or hear about Katie since her divorce?

        We don’t see Suri much either.

        I mean if it was all about publicity for her wouldn’t we be hearing more about her? I mean one would think Jennifer Aniston would’ve gone away if not for the Brangelina saga she’s a part of in the tabloids(which we don’t see much of Katie in as we used to)

        We’re only hearing about her if she’s promoting something as the case with most actors. I don’t get the issue here I mean if she bothers people so much why can’t you just ignore her?

        She’d go away faster.

      • Bobbie says:

        Actually we see Suri a lot especially lately. Not on this site but ones that feature kids.
        Her other leaking might not be as much currently but it doesn’t change that she did it to doctor a certain image at the divorce and shortly after. She does know how and still does play the pr game.

  22. CuriousCole says:

    “I don’t want that moment to define me” – You’d better win a slew of Oscars then. Either achieve peace in the mid-east or be on the team that cures cancer. Adopt an orphan from Mongolia for good measure. Best of luck Katie!

  23. MrsNix says:

    We don’t hear from Katie much, so I tend to believe her. The People cover is obviously a gear up to publicize her new movie. I bet she goes back to being quiet after Miss Meadows is released and done with. These people are contractually obligated to do interview circuits. That’s what this cover was, I’d bet money on it.

    • Jordan98 says:

      If you see other sites like Daily Mail or Just Jared , Katie is talked about in what seems like twice a week. She knows how to keep in the blogs and isn’t being quiet at all. For her camp to arrange for the People cover she probably had to agree to let them push the Tom angle. Otherwise , why would they give a cover to Katie? She is not that newsworthy otherwise.

      • Elise says:

        Maybe her camp is trying to put out a nice, whitewashed piece about her to counteract some bad press that is soon to be released. I don’t know, just have a feeling. We will see. She seems like a decent person, but has an overblown sense of her fame and talent, which led her to make some really poor personal choices (that do in fact define her, sorry). Perhaps she should go to college and pursue something better suited to her strengths. She is likely bound to a restrictive confidentiality order so she will never speak about what really happened.

      • Jordan98 says:

        Elise have you been reading cdan? lol just kidding she seems to be part of a blind there that some are confident is her and will come out but I am not convinced. I do agree though about her lack of talent vs her view of her talent. She needs a reality check. Even if she never met Cruise I don’t think she had what it takes to be a big start but I think in her mind she feels without she would have been. Jmo.