Tom Cruise was verbally abusive, yelled at Katie for 4 straight days over CO$

Katie Holmes Suri Cruise

Naturally, this week’s tabloids have gone crazy (again) for the TomKat divorce, but I’ll get to that in just a moment. Here are some photos of Katie Holmes heading to Suri’s gymnastic class in NYC with a little friend in tow, which provides for a quick transition to his week’s Star (which we’ve already discussed for the Katie is too skinny and Nicole Kidman offered support angles), which poses the theory that, despite the divorce settlement, that nothing has really been settled in Tom’s eyes. Further and over the past two weeks, Tom’s “devastation has turned into anger and a sense of real injustice about the way he is not being portrayed in the media.” What’s fueling Tom’s fury even more than the sudden divorce? The fact that Katie’s spent the past few weeks doing normal things with Suri and being photographed doing so. This is pretty rich coming from the King of the Weekend Photo Op, but here’s Star’s take:

Katie Holmes Suri Cruise

Katie, 33, parading Suri around for the cameras on the streets of New York City has only convinced Tom that she’s trying to turn the world against him — and his beloved religion, Scientology. But damaging public battles have never been Tom’s style, and winning custody of Suri was never his plan. Instead, Tom’s settlement with Katie allows him to engage in much longer battle for Suri, one away from the public eye.

Tom can now dig in for a protracted fight for influence over his daughter — much the same way he won over son and daughter Connor and Isabella, ultimately enjoying far more influence over them than their mother, Nicole Kidman. For starters, he is even considering buying a new private jet for flights between L.A. and New York so that he can spend as much time with his daughter as possible.

“He would make it very kid-friendly inside so she could enjoy the trip, and it would be on standby 24/7,” says the source. The jet alone is going to set him back at least $50 million, not to mention the fuel and insurance. But Tom doesn’t care at all. He will spare no expense on Suri. When it comes to spoiling her rotten, no one can do it like Tom. You better believe that will be a part of his game plan.”

[From Star, print edition, July 23, 2012]

Star also has added some bizarre details about how Katie has “quietly reestablished contact with many of her old friends,” and one of those “friends” just happens to be Chris Klein. Supposedly, Chris is “the first person she thinks to call when she is alone and can’t sleep,” and Chris is all “eager to meet up in person when Katie is ready.” LOL. I bet that Chris really would be excited if this really happened, but there’s no way in hell this went down. Right?

Meanwhile, The Enquirer has devoted two feature stories to the TomKat divorce. The first story is about Katie’s mid-June trip to Iceland, which is the last time she and Tom saw each other and endured an uncomfortable last supper together. This story goes on to discuss how (as Kaiser covered) Tom had his goons place duct tape over hotel security cameras — and the overriding theory is that Tom didn’t want anyone to know that he and Katie were sleeping separately and having problems. The second story is a lot more fun though because it’s the “Tom is a Monster” story that we covered yesterday that has Tom threatening to sue. Kaiser pointed out that it didn’t make much sense for Tom to get upset and “pushback” over allegations that Suri slept for five months in a small, windowless room — indeed, it seems silly because the full story itself is out now, and that’s the very least detail over which Tom should have freaked out. Here is the tabloid masterpiece in question (although I’ve cut out some filler paragraphs):

Katie Holmes Tom Cruise

“THE REAL Tom Cruise is a monster!”

That’s what a member of Katie Holmes’ family told The Enquirer. And in a blockbuster world exclusive, The Enquirer can reveal Cruise and his Scientology family turned his $35 million Beverly Hills mansion into a “house of horrors” for Katie, holding her a virtual prisoner in her own home.

The devout Scientologist and his minions subjected his wife to relentless verbal abuse, emotional punishment, humiliation and intimidation, sources say, until Katie decided to break free of the controversial religion.

But when [Katie] told Cruise that she didn’t want their 6-year-old daughter Suri raised in the church, [Tom] flipped out, insiders say, and raged at Katie until she suffered a breakdown.

“Katie told Tom last year that she’d no longer be part of the Chruch of Scientology, and she didn’t want Suri raised solely as a Scientologist,” a paly of Katie’s told The Enquirer.

“Tom went nuts! He read Katie the riot act for four straight days until she was forced to apologize. Tom was verbally abusive and ordered Katie to never again mention her feelings about Scientology. When Katie finally got her father on the phone, she was crying hysterically. She was suffering a breakdown. I think Katie’s family felt Tom was basically holding her a virtual captive. Katie’s dad wanted her to see a professional therapist, but Tom refused,” said the source. “He said that if Katie had to see a counselor, it would be someone from Scientology.”

“But Tom knew he was losing control of Katie,” said the source. “When they had guests over, Tom told them that ‘Katie’s not been herself lately and that he really needed to watch her.’ By then, Katie had moved into a guest bedroom on their property.”

Raised a Roman Catholic, Katie immersed herself in Scientology within months of meeting Cruise. He approved her wardrobe and appeared to limit her contact with her parents by changing her phone number and e-mail address, sources said.

Meanwhile, their daughter Suri was hidden from the world until she was 5 months old and spent her time in a tiny wood-panelled room with no windows at their mansion in Telluride.

The twice-divorced star also used intimidation as a tool to keep his young wife in line, according to a Los Angeles insider. “One time when Katie and Suri were late for a flight, Tom lit into her, yelling, ‘I ask one simple thing — that you get yourself and my daughter here on time, and you can’t do that! Do you have an explanation? NO!’ It was verbal abuse.”

Cruise was even cruel enough to humilate Katie in front of her parents at a dinner party last year, said another eyewitness. “Tom had a stern, angry look on his face all night, and barked orders at Katie constantly!” said the source. “When it was time for dinner, Tom pointed to a chair and told Katie, ‘Sit there!’ Suri sat next to her, and then Tom seated his mother to his left. Tom believes the person who sits to his left is closest to his heart, and when he did that, Katie pulled her hair over her face to hide her tears.”

[From Enquirer, print edition, July 23, 2012]

It certainly sounds like Katie was experiencing the classic “walking on eggshells” syndrome that any verbally abused spouse would immediately recognize, and she was dealing with an egomaniacal tyrant who was used to everyone obeying his every wish, so I’m sure Katie felt that she was merely one of his pawns. Of course, I feel that any woman who felt it necessary to to use burner phones in order to file for divorce must certainly be afraid of her husband. So these allegations of verbal abuse come as no real shock.

Meanwhile, there are a few other TomKat stories floating around out there that are worth mentioning. First up is a TMZ story that claims that a quick divorce settlement did not occur to keep Katie quiet about Tom or CO$ because “Tom has nothing to hide” and “people are just making this stuff up.” Further, Tom is very disgusted with “the media firestorm which is replete with bogus information.” Of course.

There’s also a rather unbelievable tidbit (which originated in a British tabloid) about how Katie allegedly wants to change Suri’s name to “Scout Cruise Holmes.” Who makes this stuff up?

Let’s shift this discussion back to the the Enquirer’s story though — I fully believe that Tom was a verbally abusive little “monster” to Katie. Remember, he made a formerly vibrant 33-year-old woman look like this.

Katie Holmes

Katie Holmes

Tom Cruise

Photos courtesy of Pacific Coast News, Fame/Flynet and Enquirer

 

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  1. Kaye says:

    Your choice of pictures to illustrate the articles is epic.

  2. alison8701 says:

    I hope we hear from her directly about this. It’s not really our business, but if she was in this unhealthy relationship I think it would be good to tell her story for the benefit of others in situations. And if it is not at all the case… should she speak up and clear Tom’s name?

    • Sisi says:

      yeah, the fact that she hasn’t denied any of the accusations also occurred to me. That is quite telling imo

      • Chris: now with 10% less negativity says:

        Sure Tom has issues but let’s not go overboard and start believing every piece of hearsay that comes out of the tabloid press.

      • G says:

        She doesn’t owe the public anything on this one. Better for the kids and both of them not to leave a legacy of public acrimony.

        The only person keeping this story alive is Tom’s lawyer at this point.

      • RHONYC says:

        @ Chris

        ‘Meanwhile, their daughter Suri was hidden from the world until she was 5 months old and spent her time in a TINY WOOD-PANELLED ROOM WITH NO WINDOWS at their mansion in Telluride.’
        __________________________

        or as Tom calls it ‘Suri’s little office’

        @ min 2:40, you be the judge:

        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cH_uiE7SXgs

        smmfh. :-(

      • gg says:

        totally agree with G. And if she starts addressing this issue, she’s opened the door to being sort of obligated to continue to respond to every piece laid out by the $cilon shills, and she needs a break already from this crap.

        At the end of the day, I do believe that this is just a lady doing what any mother would do with her child in the summertime, especially in the wake of a divorce. Taking your kid to the damn zoo should not have a zillion implications.

        Also – I think they need some lovely beach time right about now. And Katie won’t have to wear high heels like before when Rumplestiltskin made her get all dressed up. She can actually wear a bathing suit and flipflops like every other normal person.

        I am celebrating return to normalcy for these two. (I hasten to add: as “normal” as it can be, when 60 papps are climbing all over themselves just to snap photos at you everywhere you go. I just can’t imagine the hell that would be).

        Anyway, it’s so long overdue. :)

      • Chris: now with 10% less negativity says:

        @ RHONYC

        It looked like a kid’s cubby house to me. This is what I’m talking about. In their haste to condem Tom people are believing everything that’s being said about him even when there’s insufficient evidence. I’m all for getting stuck into him when the allegations are backed up with more than hearsay and opinion but i’m not gonna start taking the word of the tabloid press just because they say so. Question everything!

      • Chris says:

        @RHONYC:however I found the way Tom was staring at Katie when she was talking to Oprah a bit weird. It seemed like he was scrutinizing her rather than listening to her. I also thought it was weird that Katie left shortly after Oprah arrived. Not wanting Katie to sit in on the interview made it seem like he wanted to make sure he put his version and only his version across to the public, which kind of supports the allegations of him being a control freak.

    • julie says:

      I’m sure there must be some kind of “shut up” clause in their divorce settlement. After all these years Nicole has never said a word either. I doubt anyone will know the truth, but although i do think it’s none of our business, she could be a great crusader for women who are in abusive relationships.

  3. Dibba says:

    He’s crazy as crazy. Too bad she rushed into this so quickly including having a child with this lunatic

    • inthekitchen says:

      I firmly believe that Chris Klein is the real bio dad and hope to xenu that they do become friends again and the real story (as far as I am betting) comes out and Tom is further marginalized.

      He sounds like an abusive lunatic. I hope both him and his “church” go down in flames. It’s interesting to me that no one is really coming out in his defense. You’d think all the other scientologists would be singing his praises…Kirstie Alley, Jenna Elfman, John Travolta, etc etc.

      The whole thing is just sooooo bizarre but I”m not surprised by any stories like this about her being abused. I’m really just shocked that she was able to escape since I do believe she was watched 24/7. I want the details of how it all went down behind his back. How’d she get those phones? I had imagined that she wouldn’t even be “allowed” to see her parents without her Co$ minder there.

      • moxylady007 says:

        What I think is fascinating is that for all the celebrities who talk about Tom Cruise being such a great guy, it seems like he has no real friends. BECAUSE HE IS CRAZY AND IN A CULT. But really, Chris Brown had people defending him. Tom Cruise? Not so much. Not even other people in his cult.

        Because he isnt just in a cult. He is a controlling A$$HOLE.

        Anyone else feel like he is always acting? Acting like a normal human male, but always a step or two off? Not a lot but enough to where you raise your eyebrows and go… wha??

        Its like with his lawyer feeling the need to say he is a normal parent. With any other celebrity, a lawyer would never think to say it and the fans would never think to question it. With Tom his lawyer says it, and we all go… yeah right!?!

      • Moi says:

        I don’t think Chris Klein is Suri’s father. She looks a Lot like Tom to me. She’s a beautiful girl. Man who knows what’s true and not true regarding Katie and Tom’s relationship. But I do believe the horror stories regarding Co$. I also agree with the post yesterday that it is pathetic for Tom to chose the Church over his wife and child.

      • Anne de Vries says:

        @ Moxylady – agreed on the acting. I found it especially glaring during his ‘I’m So In Love’ tour. It felt like he was acting it from the outside, not actually feeling it.

        I think you’ll find this interesting:

        http://technorati.com/entertainment/glosslip/article/deconstructing-tom-cruise/

      • Lady D says:

        “You’d think all the other scientologists would be singing his praises…”
        Maybe they are jealous ’cause Tom gets all David’s attention.

      • mayamae says:

        I don’t believe that Katie is in contact with Chris Klein. It seems to me that would be a stupid thing to do considering all the gossip that he’s Suri’s bio dad.

        I don’t like Tom Cruise but regardless of who the bio daddy is, Katie made sure that Tom is Suri’s father legally and publically. You can’t screw around with a kid’s head by telling her – no this is your real dad (Chris Klein).

        If Tom isn’t the bio dad, he’s still just as much a father to her as he is to Bella and Connor. While I think his visits should be supervised, I think Suri needs to see him as well as her siblings. Please don’t think I support Tom in any way. I’ve know about his CO$ craziness since he blindsided Nicole Kidman.

        If Chris Klein is the bio father, Katie made her decision 6 years ago to exlude him from Suri’s life. I don’t think she would ever publically acknowledge it if it were true.

      • Playlist says:

        How I hope the Chris Klein stories are true! Compare pictures of Suri and Chris Klein and see the similarities, then re-read how quickly Katie jumped from Chris to Tom and Katie was hidden at the beginning (so her pregnancy didn’t show too early) and then Suri was hidden after the birth announcement (to hide that she was born months before). Paternity is the big ‘get out of jail’ card Katie has over Tom (plus the dirt on his alternate lifestyle and his church).

        I would just love if Katie started dating Chris again and everyone could start talking about the resemblance! Even if Chris could never admit to being Suri’s father, everyone would know. And if they had another child, it would speak for itself. Tom really would have a meltdown! I think Katie should date Chris even for a little while just to irritate Tom and get the speculation rolling.

      • Playlist says:

        @mayamae – So you would rather hide Suri’s biological father from her? How is that in the best interest of Suri? What if Chris K. never knew or had time to get used to the idea he was going to be a dad, because his ex-fiancee was already locked into the claws of the Cruise PR strategy?

        Telling a child that her father is not biological happens all the time with adoptive children. Katie or Chris may not be able to publicly acknowledge Suri as part of the divorce contract, but he certainly has a right to be included in her life, especially now that Tom is not controlling everything. If it happened that Chris and Katie got married, Chris would indeed be Suri’s father in the public eye and Tom would still be allowed visitations. What I want to know is if Suri gets to know and celebrate her real birth date.

      • mayamae says:

        Playlist –

        I AM an adopted child. You can’t just f–k around with a kid’s head because YOU think it would be cute to spite Tom Cruise. If Suri is Chris Klein’s – he knows if he’s not an imbecile. You can’t change a kid’s dad on a whim. If at any time he wanted to step up and claim paternity – he had a year. Katie did not marry Tom until after Suri was born. Chris Klein is not a CO$ nor is his family – intimidation should not have kept him from claiming his child. If it did – he didn’t deserve knowing his kid. If he was paid off – what kind of dad would he be? Try explaining that one to your child. “Well, Daddy really wanted that million dollars and he knew you would be ok …”

        So I’m asking you – is it ok to tell a 6 year old that you lied about who her dad is? Thus making her siblings not her siblings, her grandparents not her grandparents, her cousins not her cousins. That decision was made 6 years ago. I believe Katie fell under Tom’s influence but for God’s sake don’t paint her to be so stupid she did not even know she was pregnant. This isn’t the dark ages. IF she was pregnant when she met Tom Cruise, she had no plan on telling Chris Klein anyway.

        Perhaps you’ve never actually known an adopted person. And maybe you have the nerve to tell me my parents aren’t my parents because I’m not biologically
        “theirs”. Tom for sure is a zealot – but for all intents and purposes he is Suri’s dad. Katie held all the cards in the divorce agreement and if she wanted him cut 100% out of Suri’s life she could have done just that. She obviously thinks he should maintain a relationship.

        I know it’s a cute fantasy in your head but there’s little chance that Katie and Chris Klein are going to get married and have little clone children that look just like Suri.

        This isn’t about the adults it’s about a kid. Imagine yourself at 6 y/o being told your dad isn’t your dad – this guy is. How fair is that to the child? Sometimes adult’s have to actually sacrifice for their children. If Chris Klein is the father, either he did not want involvement with the baby, or he is so incredibly stupid he did not hear the constant gossip and constant media coverage claiming he was the dad and Katie was faking the degree of her pregnancy from the moment the pregnancy was announced. Now considering I lived in BF Illinois at the time and I was up on the gossip, I think he probably knew. Do you really think Katie was out dating and enjoying the single life when she was 2 months pregnant? It’s a fun story to tell but unlikely.

      • LAK says:

        i know we are on the hate Tom Cruise train but stating so firmly that he isn’t suri’s bio dad is so wrong. The problem is that people keep using Tom Cruise plastic face to compare when he started messing with it since around 1985. When you google pictures of his pre-sugery face from 1981-84, you can see the Suri features. She is a blend of a young Katie and a Young Tom. She mostly favours Katie.

        The same goes for the idea that Suri is Tom Davis or Chris Klein’s kid. Who would risk such a thing when we can’t order genetics? The only way you can pass off someone else’s baby as your husband’s baby when they are not is to use a member of his blood family. That way there is a greater chance of ordering genetics. Some random guy who is unrelated is too risky.

        And as @mayamea has stated, at this point Suri is Tom’s kid in every other way that matters. saying she isn’t his kid just because you wish it is just being cruel.

      • Playlist says:

        Yes, I do know several adopted people, including members of my own family. They are not traumatized for life like you were to learn they were adopted. My uncle, on the other hand, was traumatized in his late 40′s when he needed his birth certificate to get a passport and discovered he had a different biological father he had never had the chance to meet (the man had died by then). It shocked the whole family. I also know people who discovered their birth date was different.

        Do you work in the twisted world of Hollywood? It falls under the category of “you can’t make this shit up”, even when it comes to kids. Tom is not the biological father. You will never hear it confirmed because it’s the glue that holds the divorce contract. Katie got pregnant before she met Tom, which worked in Tom’s favor.

        Katie was engaged to Chris Klein right before she moved on to Tom, so it wouldn’t be unheard of for her to connect with him again. That is not messing with Suri. Katie will be dating and most likely marry again and Suri will get another dad. That is not messing with Suri. Having more than one dad that loves her is not messing with Suri. That is a blessing.

        I never said that Suri would ever be told who her real father is. I said both biological parents would know. I also said it happens to a lot of adopted kids if she were to be told Tom is not her biological dad. I never said Tom should not be allowed visitations so that Suri can visit with the father who has raised her. There is no doubt Suri and Tom share a loving bond.

        Whether the biological father knew it, rejected it, or was kept completely in the dark until discovering it later doesn’t mean he can’t change his mind later. A biological father would normally have rights. But, doing so after Tom has publicly set up that he is the father would make things very difficult. Tom would make sure that the guy would not have any access to Suri or Katie. And that IS messing with Suri.

        If you think this kind of stuff doesn’t happen in Hollywood too many times, both past and present, you are naïve.

  4. Anait says:

    never liked the man. He has some issues to deal with…

    • julie says:

      I don’t think she looks anything like Tom except they both have dark hair.. and he’s probably really all gray anyway. If he was not the father, wouldn’t she use that to cut him off in trying to control Suri’s life? Or maybe that’s a secret she wants to keep. If Chris was the father then Tom would have no chance in continuing on his inevitable sneaky way of keeping control of Suri. Surely this would have been dealt with already.

      • mayamae says:

        This would be a disaster. Tom is legally Suri’s father and has been her father for 6 years. No court would deny his rights as a father.

        The publicity would negatively affect Katie and why would a mom want to do this to her child? Some things should be kept private.

  5. mln76 says:

    Totally believe the allegations of verbal abuse. And before the ‘it was Katie’s fault’ posse gets on board. It really doesn’t matter if there was a contract, if she knew he was a Scientologist…Even if he is gay. In the beginning he charmed her and treated her beyond wonderful then he became a tyrant and controlled and belittled her holding her a prisoner until she had to use subterfuge to escape him. It’s a classic abusive relationship.

    • Bad Irene says:

      Totally agree with everything you said. I also believe that he is playing a waiting game, he will wait for the media storm to die down and then slowly try to bring Suri into the CO$. This is far from over, he believes Suri is his possession and will not let go.

    • RocketMerry says:

      I believe this story too, and I actually expect more to come in the future from former employees.
      Imagine the kind of behaviour he must have had in front of staff! Imagine the kind of things he said and did to Katie in front of strangers or “friends”…

      That man is a tiny little beast.

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        Nope, I bet all his employees/slaves are sea orgs or dedicated cos peeps. They won’t talk, just like rathbun wouldn’t divulge Tom’s secrets.

        The force is strong with even the independent ones. They like their secrets, keeps the people they love who are still in the cult safe.

      • RocketMerry says:

        Yep, I too am convinced they are all sea org now, but maybe someone who got out, or someone from before…? There was one publicist who spoke of her experience with Tommy, don’t remember her name, but she described him being very abusive towards employees.

        I would LOVE someone else to come forward and explain exactly how much of a crazy, abusive f*ck he is!

      • the original bellaluna says:

        I believe it’s pretty much common knowledge that his entire staff (from PAs on down to landscapers) are Sea Org. It’s come out before that he used “CO$ slave labor” as his “Beverly Hills compound” staff.

        No will say a word about what they heard or saw.

      • Anne de Vries says:

        @ TheOriginalTiffany

        In defence of Rathburn, the cult spills auditing secrets ALL THE TIME and I believe that his refusal to do so is his way of establishing his integrity and that of the Indie Scientologist movement.
        It’s not about hiding something – he’s made public plenty of things about the inner workings of the cult. But somebody’s personal auditing secrets ought to be private, and I for one would lose all respect for people like Rathburn if they started spilling things like that.

        Exposing the abuse and insanity of the cult is one thing. Exposing personal, private and confidential information that serves no purpose exept hurting a public figure and satisfying tabloid curiosity is another.

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        @anne, I know that. They have concern for the people still inside, they know what happens when they talk. I’m not the one mad at rathbun, I feel for the guy.

        He is keeping his integrity by not getting into messy personal secrets, that would discredit him for sure.

    • MerryHappy says:

      Me too, he seems completely capable of this behavior. Classic abuser–super charming, then boom! You’re crying because everything is ‘your fault’ and ‘you can’t do anything right.’

      • TrustMeOnThis says:

        Last night, Mr TMOT was criticizing my continued interest in all of this, and I realized, it isn’t *just* that I have known for years that the Co$ was an evil and vicious cult (and I know some folks who escaped) but that it is because it thrills me to see Katie escape what was clearly an abusive, controlling situation, and doing it with such elan.

        When I finally managed to break away from my abusive ex, I actually PAID HIS RENT in his new place for two months, and GAVE him a CAR! It was worth it to get rid of him… but really he still had me suckered. It took one final screw-over for me to really see and cut him off 100%. And this was after the physical and verbal abuse. They totally make everything your fault, once they get sick of lovebombing you. It’s all about control. No one controls me – but I did get sucked in by someone who tried.

        I can see this whole story written on Katie’s face. It isn’t selective photo editing; it is the truth. She looked so haunted and beat down for such a long time and now she looks fantastic. I never really noticed her for so long and now I truly admire her. Shows you can’t always tell, especially with the quiet ones. Go, Katie, go!

      • Chordy says:

        @TMOT – 100%, and I don’t think that people who haven’t been in that situation have any idea what that process is like. I see so many comments like “she was a grown woman who knew what she was getting into.” Um, no. There are people out there who are abusers and manipulators. Those people know the correct tactics to put a person under their control. A lot of smart, strong, capable humans have fallen victim to people like that, and it’s a sad commentary on our society how often people blame the victim and try to absolve the abuser. I understand why people do that. You feel safer when you think you’re in complete control of your well-being, but personal safety is frankly an illusion (and I don’t mean that as jaded as it sounds). It was hell to go through what I did, but I suppose I’d rather have that on my back than still be sitting ignorantly atop my high horse passing judgement on people in real pain.

      • TrustMeOnThis says:

        @Chordy: quite so. I have always told myself that if anyone ever struck me, I would be out the door so fast their head would spin. What really happened: I spent two weeks making up bullshit excuses for how I’d managed to “give myself a black eye.” And everyone bought them, no matter how ridiculous what I said was.

        People want to believe they could never be victimized and this totally colors their perceptions. Also, my abuser worked his way into my circle of friends and even did childcare for some. When I finally was able to open up about what happened to me, some of these friends chose to distance themselves from me rather than accept that mr nice-to-them beats up his girlfriends. (And it wasn’t only me, I learned later. Of course.)

        Loving the comment community here! The comments are as good as the articles! That’s rare.

      • Chordy says:

        Agreed! I’ve been reading Celebitchy for SO LONG, but I’ve avoided the comments since I have sort of a “NEVER READ THE COMMENTS” policy, particularly on gossip sites. I’m glad I stumbled into it! These commenters around here actually add to the story! I guess smarter writing inspires smarter commenters!

      • Emily says:

        @Chordy — “personal safety is frankly an illusion”. I completely agree. So many people think they could never be in that situation, whether it’s a victim of a controlling partner, a rape victim, getting injured and becoming disabled, falling victim to a con artist or cult, becoming ill, whatever. Victim-blaming is a shield they put up to pretend that it could never happen to them. But it can happen to anyone.

    • Jen34 says:

      ITA. She was emotionally battered.

    • moxylady007 says:

      YES! Thank you.

      Enough with the victim blaming people! Its not ok when its rape, assault, harrassment, physical, verbal OR emotional abuse.

    • wilkiecollins says:

      At OTiffany again lol. More More more heels for tommy, heels for tommy. sorry studio 54 made it stick in my head.

    • mayamae says:

      You know, I’ve never thought “it’s Katie’s fault” and I certainly despise Tom Cruise, but I admit to thinking she should have known about CO$ before agreeing to raise her child in it and married into it.

      Many have mentioned how young and naive Katie was and I found it hard to swallow considering she was a 27 y/o actress in the business for 10 years and just coming off a 2-3 year engagement.

      BUT, I just read an article and if it’s true, it explains a lot. Katie was incredibly sheltered – even too much in my opinion. When she was 20 y/o, she was still given a curfew by her mom – who did not even live with her! And she followed it! And as late as 2003, she was proclaiming to the world she wanted to remain a virgin until marriage.

      Now she obviously broke that vow considering Suri was born before she married Tom Cruise. I’ve always found it strange that Katie was engaged so long without an oops pregnancy, and yet practically the instant she met Tom Cruise she is knocked up. That speaks to me of how much he really overwhelmed her and over came her inhibitions.

      I was one sheltered, naive, mother-controlled mid-western girl myself, but it is shocking to me how much control her parents had over her (even though it was with good intentions). Once you’re used to submitting and giving over control of yourself, it’s not really a big deal to transfer that control over to a different person. It makes a whole lot more sense to me.

  6. Launicaangelina says:

    I buy the stories of abuse because, as pointed out, the pictures of Katie’s transformation are telling. She would look so busted and broken at times, Tom was always pulled together from head to shoe lifts.

    I wonder about Katie. Was she so charmed in the beginning, that she fell for Tom? Or, did the promise of fame and money lure her? Either way, she realized she was in deep sh-t and got the eff out. For that, I’ll always give her kudos.

    • Embee says:

      I truly believe that Katie had no frame of reference for his behavior, and kept giving him the benefit of the doubt until doing so would damage Suri permanently.

      In Katie’s normal, stable, family people are genuinely good, kind and self-sacrificing. She simply didn’t have the training in mendacity that dealing with TC required. Even her professional history on Dawson’s Creek had a sweet, idyllic and friendly air to it.

      She was the perfect victim. As Martha Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door, wrote:

      “The perfect victim, from the sociopath’s point of view, is the person who is smart enough and capable enough to do him some good in the world and who is also fun to manipulate… Another good person to manipulate is someone of high character, because that is also fun for the sociopath. On the other hand, the sociopath doesn’t want this person to be so savvy that he or she will immediately see him for who he is… This can be accomplished by looking for someone who is very, very loyal.”

      • gg says:

        Wow. That description is chilling, and so true. I know of so many instances where I have known sociopaths that behave exactly like that. I am a trusting loyal person and have to admit I’ve been played by psychos before. Which makes me believe all the more Katie was sucked in completely and didn’t know what hit her until too late. Also being 2 months pregnant will alter your perceptions a bit, especially if you don’t really want to be a single mom.

      • Launicaangelina says:

        Thanks for sharing; it’s so creepy. *shudders*

      • Ann Emmess says:

        I’m no Dawson’s Creek scholar, but I follow Jensen Ackles, who played CJ in a very late season. His dominant memory of the show is how high-school-cliquish the cast was. I bet that’s true of many shows whose main cast is in that age group.

        I inferred that Katie was probably in deep the clique. (He said Michelle was not.) Either way, I don’t think it matters except: even though Dawson’s is a substantial professional credit, it sounds like it may not have been substantial life/growth experience. Any workplace that can sustain high-school cliques isn’t giving its team much experience with adult behavior.

        So it’s a different way that Katie was likely very sheltered about the kind of hurts the real world has to offer.

      • Emily says:

        That is a perfect description of one of my friends who is still a victim of an abuser. He abuses/has abused her in every conceivable category: emotional, sexual, physical, and some of the crap he pulls, I don’t know if we even have a name for. She is absolutely brilliant in her field and a loyal and kind person with tons of empathy. Whenever she starts to pull away, he brings it back to how bad he feels and makes her feel bad for “breaking his heart”. Ugh.

      • Embee says:

        There is a certain class of woman: sheltered, smart, kind, loyal, young, strong and sweet. They are catnip to these predators. I call them “Nice Girls”. It happens all the time and it is a travesty because the energy wasted by these phenomenal women on these little psychos could be channelled somewhere so uh more productive. These gals are literally victims of their goodness. To blame or accuse them is a travesty.

    • Moi says:

      She did look broken at times. I’m sure it wasn’t easy living with people monitoring and dictating her every move. I don’t think she really knew what she was getting into. She was only thinking about her long time crush and fell head over heels. She’s looking much more vibrant and healthy now.

    • Anne de Vries says:

      I’ve been posting this link:

      http://www.wmagazine.com/celebrities/archive/katie_holmes

      That, to me, reads like somebody who is heavily under the influence of several things:

      - lovebombing both by TC and his circle (a girlhood dream coming true, her wildest fantasies exceeded!)
      - a high pressure, very fast romantic strategy. She moved in with him, and thus fully under the Co$ influence, within a month of knowing him! And it sounds like she was never left alone almost from the beginning, so she never had time to stop and reflect. Then she got pregnant almost immediately.
      - Actual mind altering techniques, which is what scientology DOES.

      She underwent a complete personality change. Friends who worried about her were not her friends. That is not somebody who went into this with awareness and open eyes. That’s somebody who was calculatingly swept off of her feet. I believe she was truly in love, and that TC played her like a fiddle.

  7. marie says:

    First the superficial, Suri’s wearing flip-flops! I don’t know that I’ve ever seen that, so cute.

    Also, that Enquirer story doesn’t sound that far off. He thinks a lot of himself, so I can see him being verbal abusive and controlling..I mean, there’s a reason she had to use burner phones.. Glad she pulled Suri and herself out of the situation..

  8. obm says:

    I’m in the middle of reading the 3 part 2009 Tobin/Charles Tampa Bay Times expose of Scientology and this rings eerily similar to the descriptions of his BFF Miscavige’s behaviour… shudder…

  9. MoxyLady007 says:

    Have you ever seen Suri carry her own stuff? And she is happy and holding onto her little friend?!? Kaitie Holmes, just when I thought I couldn’t love you more!

  10. Nanea says:

    The little $cilon looks like he’d be abusive not only to his serfs, but also to wife and kids and everyone else in his inner circle. Maybe he even screams at people like Miss Cavige. I can’t imagine any other way why they all came to an understanding about the terms of the divorce so fast, unless someone has incriminating evidence.

    I wonder if things were ever normal in that relationship because I seem to remember there were reports when Crazy Cruise was filming Valkyrie in Germany that T&K didn’t share a room in their Berlin hotel, and that Bert Fields was going to sue.

    • mayamae says:

      I definitely get the impression that Tom submits to David Miscavige. Tom probably thinks he has a true friendship, but Miscavige uses him and mocks him behind his back.

      This does not take away the bad things that Tom has done. I just feel Miscavige is the greater sociopath.

  11. lucy2 says:

    I doubt some of the details, but I believe the gist of the story.

  12. Lizzie K says:

    Yep, lots of rage in that tiny package.

    • stinky says:

      we’ve heard of his abusive father, but i also think he was abused when he pursued the priesthood. i’ve read that he entered a seminary or something, but dont know if thats true. i do think guys w/ rage & control issues have been molested … its such a damaging thing for all children.

      • Lira says:

        Not all of them. The personality trait may be there, and some lfe trauma triggers it. I know a friend who fights that controlling angry aspect of him with therapy. His father was a womanizer and he saw his mom suffer, but one of his brothers became a hopeless womanizer too. Then his dad died when he was a teen and he started suffering panic attacks and vigilating his mom for non existant boyfriend. The death of his father and missing him was the trigger. On to therapy! Sad that Tommy chose to boost his ego instead of addressing his issues.

      • polk8dot says:

        Other than the customarily accepted (though not necessarily completely true) ‘the abused becomes the abuser’, I do not see Tommy-girl displaying ANY of the usual behavioral and emotional acts and traits that would suggest abuse in his early life.
        As to the seminary reference – Tommy said in one of his old interviews that he enrolled in a seminary high school one summer, when he was 14, and only lasted there less than 2 months before changing his mind and his interest, and leaving. I do not believe for a second that he was in any way victimized at that place, be it sexually, mentally, physically. He just does not appear to be a person who will tolerate abuse of this kind directed at himself. His personality is that of an abuser himself, a control freak who’s been able to keep everything under his thumb most of his life, and thus it is incomprehensible to him that ANYONE wouls dare to stand up to him.
        I feel there is nothing in his childhood that speaks to abuse. And his control issues seem to have surfaced/developed coinciding with his joining SciCo$. The more he was being told he was their ‘next coming’, the more ‘special’ they made him feel – the more separated from reality he became. He bought into their whole basic BS ‘religion founding’ story, and he was given the tools to become a total d-bag whose issues extended far beyond ‘bettering’ himself, and into forcefull bettering of others in his life.
        I have ZERO empathy for Tommy and whatever might have happened in his life that ‘made him that way’. Our culture has become very adept at and very apt to excusing everything by dredging up, or inventing, past issues. But sometimes it is not at all what happened. Sometimes people are simply born A-holes, narcissists, egomaniacs, sociopaths. I believe Tommy is the perfect example of this – he was not made into a monster by a Catholic monastery (I’m paraphrasing and simplyfying, but that’s the gist of it) – he was born with the personality, intellect and emotional makeup of a tiny-brained egotistical nut job with innate knowledge of who to surround himself with to further this persona.

  13. Loulou says:

    A name change might be nice, but not Scout. This child is way too feminine to have a falsely gender-neutral name. She’s an Eliza or a Vanessa or Marina… and traditionally, the father’s name follows the Mother’s name so it would have to be Marina Holmes Cruise or something.

    • TG says:

      I like Suri it is different and somehow suits her. But your Marina Holmes Cruise is cute too. I know Suri is the name of a xenu princess or something but it is still a cute name. And I don’t believe the child will be traveling back and forth to LA little tom thumb will have to be flying back and forth if he wants to see his child. And as others have said on here every action Katie has taken is a sign of abuse. No question about it she was in an abusive situation.

      • julie says:

        I’m sure the name-change story is completely bogus for starters. Secondly, if he couldn’t be bothered to be with his daughter for her 6th birthday, then why is it suddenly so urgent that he spend $50 million on a plane to have it ready 24/7?
        He has not seen his daughter in weeks… suddenly he has to see her all the time? I don’t buy it. He is the guy who said he doesn’t see his family alot “but we have an understanding about that”. Yes of course they do – he says i’m leaving to work, and they say, oh great?? No way. He just tells them and off he goes not seeing his family for weeks at a time. I think he’s completely full of sh*t and a total liar who has no idea how to be even remotely normal.

    • Emily says:

      I can see Katie changing Suri’s name to Suri Cruise Holmes, but not changing her first name. The kid is six years old — changing her first name at this point would be wrong. If she wants to change it when she’s an adult, that’s her decision. But she’s gone through enough upheaval and, I believe, emotional abuse from her father in her life. I think changing her first name would be a very, very bad idea.

  14. Catherine Paris says:

    I completely believe this story. I have suffered verbal abuse and I know the signs. I had posted before the divorce that she needs help and that she was depressed. I’ve been there done that, that’s why I feel so proud of Katie and what she did. It’s really hard because you actually start to believe what the abuser tells you.

    • Tiffin says:

      Well done! Congrats on getting out of that horrible situation!

    • TrustMeOnThis says:

      Good for you, Catherine, for getting out. The mental stuff really is the worst. I think it is really telling that those of us who have survived abusive relationships can see it so clearly. Some things you only learn from the inside. Thank Xenu I can’t say that about $ceintology for myself!

    • Embee says:

      Believing what the abuser tells you is natural. Steven Stosny refers to it as the mirror of love. We are hawired to believe the things the people whom we love say about us. Don’t blame yourself. Blame the person who was unworthy of your love.

    • Catherine Paris says:

      Thanks for the kind words, I never meant this to be about me, just I understood why this situation must have been so hard for Katie. But your words mean a lot to me and I thank you. :-)

    • MrsBPitt says:

      I too was verbally and emotionally abused, and yes, just looking at Katies face, I can see signs of abuse. I couldn’t put a key in a keyhole without my husband screaming at me that I was stupid and didn’t do it right…Katie has the beat-down look that abused women get when they feel they are so down, they will never be able to get up again. I weighed 90 pounds when I finally left, because I felt so sick and scared all the time I could barely eat…and I consider myself an intelligent woman. At first my boyfriend (then husband) treated me like I was the best thing that ever happened to him, that he couldn’t live without me…he wanted me all to himself,because he loved me soooo much…then slowly, after he made sure he was my whole world, he started to change…all of a sudden I was stupid and ugly and nobody else would ever want me, and I believed it for a long time…and my husband wasn’t an international movie star….so yes, I can see how Katie found herself in this situation…I am proud of her for getting out!!

    • autumnleaves says:

      thankfully, you got out of it. i know how you feel all too well. i believe this story is accurate.

  15. amurph says:

    Someone else had made this connection in a previous article but I really do think of him as Rumpelstiltskin. In my head, he’s this little terror who’s all sweet as pie and doting until he gets what he wants and if he doesn’t, he’s going to jump up and down in a tantrum. One can only hope his 5″ lifts can handle that amount of stress.

  16. Eleonor says:

    Since she has divorcerd she looks 10 years younger.
    I’m totally buying the abusive thing. This man has all the scientolobots believing he is a sort of God, he himself believes he can make things move, It’s perfectly possible he has lost any kind of limits.

  17. Veruca says:

    Really… he just needs to do the world a favor and teleport off this rock. He has that skill too, right?

  18. Liberty says:

    Maybe the abusive little fella will scream at Travolta and make him provide a jet, and fly it too. I have nothing but respect for Katie and her family for getting her and Suri out of this living prison.

  19. Kate says:

    I totally believe that he was controlling, and probably verbally abusive too. I’m not sure if the whole dinner party thing is real or not, because I feel like he would NEVER act like that in front of anyone but staunch Scientologists. He seemed so game to keep up the happy couple front.

    Still, any story along these lines seems completely plausible now, and that’s got to be a huge problem for him.

    It’s the burner phone thing…that is, to me, is the most damning piece of evidence. It not only sheds light on Katie’s situation, it has made people talk about his divorce with Nicole and the alienating of the two elder children in rather frank terms. I hope at least one of his older kids gets clued into this and reestablishes contact with Nicole.

  20. Aria says:

    I totally believe these Tom Cruise’s monster stories. I don’t care if he is the most influent, powerfull person in Hollywood. I cannot see his charm. For me he is a crazy man in love with a crazy cult but mainly in love with himself.

    It’s hard for me to believe he truly loves his children. If he did, he would have let them have a healthy relationship with their mother, Nicole Kidman.

    • TG says:

      He is in so deep with the cult because like everyone on here has said the cult feeds into his narcissisism and need to feel special and need for power. They give all that to him so he is a demigod or something like that. I mean they created that ridiculous Freed Medal of Valor (ugh) award just for him. I can just image Missy Cabbage coming up with that one in his war room on how to keep tom thumb happy and make him feel special.

      • MrsBPitt says:

        I’m sure part of the reason Katie bought into all the Tom is wonderful crap is because when they first got together and he was introducing her to all these scientologist, I am sure every time Katie turned around someone was there to tell her what an AMAZING person Tom thumb is!

    • Zvonk says:

      The only reason he has influence in Hollywood, is because he makes them money. Once his ability to make money goes, then his influence diminishes. I’m going to do my part by refusing to watch any more Tom Cruise movies. I am hoping that many more do the same.

    • julie says:

      well said. As a mother who has lost contact with both of her sons, because her ex is a woman hater who convinced his sons they don’t need me, I know exactly what the kind of abuse is like. I often asked him if he thought alienating my children from me was “love for his children”. It’s not. it’s a control thing. I’m still shocked that Nicole just walked away and never spoke of it, that her own children called katie “mom” and she just bred a new family. It’s horrible. Been there.

      • Pat says:

        Totally understand. I was married to a misogynistic prick who essentially raised my own kids to disrespect me from the time they were small children. I hope that this marks the end of Katie’s abuse and that Tom gains no control over Suri – now or ever.

  21. obm says:

    I bet he even made her keep the cans straight in the pantry…

    • lulu says:

      ^^Best post here! And totally agree that she took on the cast of an abused woman. I am beyond proud of her busting out. Thank God she had a strong family to rely on. She still has a long fight ahead of her because she is going to have to deal with this little Cruise character for the rest of her life, and he is like a rat terrier when it comes to getting his way.

  22. only1shmoo says:

    The sad thing is, I believe EVERY word of this! Tom left Nicole Kidman in a horrible way, so I think that this insecure Napoleon behaves like a malicious tyrant in order to feel more like a man. No woman lets herself go downhill the way Katie did unless she’s absolutely miserable (and perhaps this was her quiet way of letting the world know she was unhappy).

    • Raven says:

      Remember how pretty Nicole was before the divorce? Afterwards is when she started with the botox and lip fillers so she looked like a clown. She clearly was so damaged from the loss of her children and feeling like dirt, that only in the past couple of years has she been able to approach normal again.

      • bluhare says:

        Why does everyone blame Tom for Nicole not fighting for her children? Katie’s fought for her child. You won’t get me on the Nicole sympathy bandwagon.

        If she’d have fought, then maybe Katie wouldn’t have to have gone through all this crap, and Isabella and Connor would have had a chance at normal.

      • moxylady007 says:

        @ bluhare- Nicole was awarded 50% custody. She went to bat for her kids, and did what she thought was best for them. Tom used classic parental manipulation techniques combined with the beliefs of a cult to pull his kids from their mom. They chose to stop seeing her.

        I feel like people arent remembering how bad it was, even just a few years ago to fight against Scientology. And if her kids are “choosing” their father, what is there for her to do?

        She went on the record saying that she wished she saw them more, that they chose to live with Tom and that she misses them. She always mentions them in interviews.

        I am not saying she is a saint. No person is. But I think if anything this situation should cast some light on her situation and it should be read with a little more compassion and understanding.

      • julie says:

        Yes I believe she did fight but not that much was known about how horrible CO$ was at the time. Now I think she deserves alot more compassion.
        On the other hand I read several times that Nicole rules her husband’s life like a tyrant.

      • mayamae says:

        Bluhare – it is not on Nicole’s head what Katie went through. Katie should thank God every day that Nicole Kidman preceded her. It was watching Connor and Bella be alienated from their mother that showed Katie what would happen to Suri. Nicole did not have that advantage. How could she possibly have known that Tom would expose the children to daily brainwashing sessions by Tommy Davis telling them their mother was a psychotic SP? This began when they were 6 and 9 y/o. Then when Katie came along Nicole had to read lovely articles in which Katie bragged that Connor and Bella called HER mom. If someone should apologize, I suggest it should be Katie.

      • MrsBPitt says:

        I just hope that Tom doesn’t win Suri over as she gets older because you know that Katie will be setting limits and Tom will let her get away with murder…I think that is a lot of what happened with Isabella and Connor…Tom gave them whatever they wanted and let them do whatever they wanted…as long as they were scientologist of course!

  23. Trollydolly says:

    I remember one photo from a couple of winters ago taken of Katie with cold sores everywhere, black under her eyes which were swollen from crying and she looked so terribly battered and vulnerable, and another one taken on the 4th of July a few years ago when they were in Telluride and she looked so exhausted and bedraggled and depressed I was horrified. I used to constantly criticise her style of dressing but I feel much more compassionate now. The fact she was being spied on at all times, conversations bugged and aware of how she was surrounded by lunatic cult members masquerading as staff is truly terrible. Part of me wonders though why she didn’t just grab Suri on a walk through NYC and grab a policeman and ask for protection?

  24. hmm says:

    Ya know, I have been watching Dawson’s Creek endlessly on Netflix lately.. and the amount of Tom Cruise references are eerie…. what’s even weirder is that Mimi Rogers (Tom’s ex wife) even has a walk on role as Jen’s mom! So weird!

  25. Elizabeth says:

    I believe that Tom isn’t done yet and that is scary. But he is operating from a much diminished power base – even with all his money. Public image means everything to an abuser and his has been on the slide since the divorce from Nicole Kidman. When I do see his movies now, it’s only to look at him and laugh.

    • Raven says:

      He may not be done, but I believe her attorneys issued a statement that an agreement had been made. I think custody arrangements have been established with Katie having custody and Tom having visitation rights. Custody and Suri’s future were likely the prime reasons for the surprise divorce filing.

  26. hairball says:

    I am so impressed with Katie Holmes now too. How sad for her. I would be always afraid of TC trying to take Suri away. And to have to deal with him forever, sad.

    How is it known for sure she used burner phones?

  27. Julie says:

    Did anyone notice the comment about how he sat his mother next to him and not his wife? I remember him in an interview on Inside the Actors Studio and he made a comment about his mother and sisters. It was about how NOBODY would ever come between him and his sisters. I’ve always wondered if that’s how Nicole slipped up? Did she actually assume somehow that as his wife she came before the mother and the sisters? They are totally CO$ and seem to be in charge of his little world. A little unnatural to my way of thinking.

    • TG says:

      Thanks Julie for picking up on that. This just further confirms my dislike of this tiny maniac. One thing I can’t stand in men and women for that matter is when they are momma’s girls and they put their momma’s and sisters before their wife and kids. Makes me think he can’t handle the world without the people in it he can control which are his mommy and those idiotic sisters of his.

    • bluhare says:

      If I recall correctly, the Kidman divorce was right before they were married ten years so the prenups would be invalid? Didn’t I read here a while back that in CA ten years is the magic number?

    • Snowpea says:

      Julie I remember reading an interview where TC said that if he wanted to get really pumped and angry for a scene he would just imagine some dude violently raping his SISTER!

      I mean, seriously? His wife, maybe. But his sister? What a fucking freak.

  28. Anais says:

    Is it weird that I want to get that Enquirer because I’m more interested in Paula Deen’s DIET LIES!?

  29. Bess says:

    It’s wonderful that a lot of the press is pointing out Tom’s crazy behavior and cult, but we, the public, need to hit him where it really hurts- at the box office.

    There should be some sort of petition to boycott his films, especially if he tries to pull “a Kidman” and turn Suri against Katie.

  30. cam says:

    The best things about seeing Katie and Suri out having fun is that we see Suri playing with other kids as well. Is not like before when Katie would cling to her daughter and take her everywhere.

    When a kid goes through a divorce between his/her parents there’s always sort of a competition between them to spend more time or get more love from their child. Sometimes is just cause they miss them and love them, but sometimes its also to get back at their former partner.

    I think if Suri has real kid friends to play with she can escape most of that drama. No doubt Tom will spoil her to win her affection and draw her in and away from Katie, but this time he’ll have to do it with presents and not scientology. As long as Suri has friends at least she’ll have an avenue to escape the tug-of-war and form her own life and opinions as she grows older outside of her mother and father’s believes and hopefully learn different ways to look at the world beyond what they teach her.

  31. Krock says:

    To me, the most disturbing part of the Oprah couch jumping incident wasn’t the couch jumping at all, it was the way he was grabbing and shaking Oprah. Like very rough way to lock hands with a woman and just shake her until she tips over.

    He is scary no doubt and I think he’s like that with everything. Sort of manic.

    I’m so happy she got out and did it very smart. That picture of her makes me sad, you can see it all over her that she was depressed.

    • Dirtnap says:

      @Krock, the way Tom was physically engaging with Oprah during that interview bothered me as well. I remember thinking at the time the interview aired that maybe they were such close friends that he felt he could “rough house” with her like that …but even Oprah looked surprised at the way he was acting toward her.

      And now if you will allow me to indulge in a heapin’ helpin’ of Oprah rant …

      Note to Oprah: Your taste in celebrity friends reflects poorly on you, dear. Tom Cruise, John Travolta (and Julia Roberts, can’t forget her now, can we?) don’t play nicely with others. Don’t preach about how to become a better person when you yourself clink glasses with such evil …

    • portlandmermaid says:

      I always see that look on Oprah’s face; she’s not grinning at his insane antics, she’s baring her teeth like a wolf, telling him to back off.

  32. Paloma says:

    It seems to me Tom is waging a media war using his lawyer, Bert Fields, to refute stories as the come out. I hope Katie keeps on her toes.

  33. Dorothy says:

    Toilet flushing….that’s the sound of TC’s career going down the drain.

  34. lower-case deb says:

    Scout Cruise Holmes? a missile or a baseball player?

  35. heidi says:

    Thank God she got out. Poor woman has some gray hairs in that one photo and is only 33. And now Suri gets an op to have normal friendships and childhood.

  36. TG says:

    Poor narcissistic Tom Thumb and Missy Cabbage the media isn’t playing into their hands. It is obvious that this creep doesn’t like to lose control. I am starting to believe that he really is psychotic and has only just begun his maniacal breakdown. Hope the Feds go in and drag these two monsters off to a cell somewhere.

  37. Mac says:

    Tom Cruise seems like a profoundly unhappy person.

    Dude needs to make some serious changes in his life.

    His official visitation with Suri begins this weekend so maybe he can start there.

  38. The Original Mia says:

    I believe every word of this. There were numerous times over the last 5 years where Katie has looked so broken down that I wondered if he’d hit her or shook her really hard. Who knew her slothful appearance really was a cry for help. I’m thrilled she/her family got them out of that hell.

    • Relli says:

      Yup I totally agree. A close friend of mine is going through a divorce and her face has had the same look of despair for the last 6 months. i couldn’t figure out what was wrong with her and why all of suddenly things she was so excited about were canceled at the last minute, she seemed distant and lost. Finally in these last few weeks she told her husband she wanted a divorce and the truth has come flying out how verbally abusive he has been to her. Much like Katie her best was never good enough and his mother always came first. I am happy for my friend and Katie, no one deserves to be treated like a 2nd class citizen.

  39. AmyLynne says:

    Suri always made me feel uncomfortable because she was never “a cute kid” she was a “pretty girl” really early. She just has a face that seems way older than her years. Seeing her smiling in those Central Park zoo pictures from the other day made her look like a kid, it was really nice.

    Glad to see her having fun and looking like a kid! The zoo pictures really were precious. I like seeing her talking to other kids. Since CO$ is obviously looking at all these posts and pictures, I hope they take note of all the times she’s spotted smiling now as opposed to before the divorce.

  40. melmel says:

    If he is such a monster, why is he still the highest paid actor? He can not act for sh@t. Hope that little girl does not get into his clutches and become more spoiled

  41. Linda says:

    Even though I do not believe he is a monster, he is in a cult. Something very disturbing must have happened for Katie to bail like that. But I do not feel sorry for her, she is a grown woman who has told us that she was very happy for 7 years and her husband was amazing and the most caring person in the whole world. Let her deal with the fall out.

    • Lady D says:

      Linda, that is what all abused women say. Glad you aren’t among them, but how about a little compassion for your kind?
      Women slamming women, especially abused ones is not the way to live.

      • TrustMeOnThis says:

        +1. You can’t know what it is like unless you have walked in those shoes (no suede bootie jokes, plz).

        All of this “she knew” – how could she have? I would like to see everyone – but especially us women – quit blaming her for getting suckered into an abusive situation. It has happened to more people than you may realize. It starts all sushi and roses and gradually turns. Getting away from a controlling, manipulative partner is hard, even when he doesn’t have the mafia of cults at his disposal.

        Look at the difference in her photos. She was abused and depressed. He DID act like a monster. You can see it on her face, in her posture – she looks a decade younger. In a week.

    • lower-case deb says:

      this was what i found with my bestie too. she’s always “love you,” on the phone, hold hands with her then-husband, declare how she couldn’t possibly be more in love.

      it’s their way of rationalizing things, convincing themselves that it’s all right. as though we don’t have eyes. but then again, what can we do? we’ve called the police several times for her when we saw her looking particularly rough, and the cops did nothing because she’s all like “oh i fell”, “oh it’s nothing”, “yes, i did cry a lot, but that’s because i’ve been watching sad movies, you know, i just can’t help it.” (excuses which she used on us too)

      and the cops couldn’t do anything when she wouldn’t press charges. then the husband would come out and say, “sorry for the false alarm” all smiles and happy-family fronts.

      we stopped alerting the cops because after the whole song and dance for the cops, the husband would turn nasty to my bestie and yell at her. he even turned her son against her!

      the worse thing is, he’s been this two-faced guy even BEFORE they got married. he could be the nicest prince charming one has ever met one time, and the next he would be verbally abusive to her in public (semi-public, like drag her to a corner where he thought we weren’t listening). we TOLD her, we even recorded what they said and played it back to her. did she listen? no!

      “you guys don’t understand it. he’s nice, the nicest guy ever. if he’s mad, that’s just because i’m so scatterbrained. it’s for my own sake he’s doing it. he’s like this strict headmaster, you know what i mean?”

      NO! we don’t know what you mean. but heck she went and married him anyway.

      but finally, after 12 long years (!!) she finally broke free of him.

      so, that’s probably why i’m emotionally invested in this Katie story, maybe i’m projecting.

  42. Lindy says:

    You know, whether these reports of Tom’s terrible, abusive behavior are true or not, the plain fact is that they seem plausible to so very many people–people who may have been Cruise fans in the past but who have been reading up on CO$ stuff and taking in all this divorce-related reporting.

    And for someone like Cruise–and really, anyone in the celebrity game–image and perception may as well be reality. It seems as though Cruise and his lawyers and publicists are unable to effectively counter these reports, and can’t seem to stop the flow of negative publicity.

    I hope that continues to be the case. I mean, I think many of y’all are right that TC is in this for the long haul–meaning, he’s in this to gain control of Suri and her religious life over the long run–but I sincerely hope that there has been enough damage done to the Tom Cruise brand that his career will take a hit, and his influence and image will go down the tubes.

  43. MarcyParcy says:

    My HS best friend married a Mormon guy she met on a two week vacation in Utah to visit her grandparents. They married 8 weeks later in 2006 and he changed her number soon after and only lets her call her family on sundays for 10 minutes while he stands next to her the entire time while the phone is on speakerphone. Her parents are laid back LDS while this guy and his family are insane yet look cookie cutter perfect. He thinks that since her parents left Utah for “the sinning world” in DC he has to undo the damage done to Briana by limiting contact with anyone she was close to on the east coast. He’s only 26. Of course, I was the first to be cut off and I hear she has 3 kids so she is stuck. I’m so happy Katie was able to win the first battle and escape with her daughter. A lot of other girls aren’t so lucky.

  44. Memphis says:

    This:

    “Tom can now dig in for a protracted fight for influence over his daughter — much the same way he won over son and daughter Connor and Isabella, ultimately enjoying far more influence over them than their mother, Nicole Kidman.

    and this:

    “You better believe that will be a part of his game plan.”

    He did it before and I’m sure he thinks he will do it again. But he’ll be watched by a lot more people this time around.

    I also believe he was controlling to the point of exasperation. He doesn’t seem like the type to relinquish any control, well.. unless your name is *David supreme leader of Sci*..then he gives you control of everything, including his (alien) soul.

  45. G says:

    Sounds like somebody needs to smack the Xenu out of that angry little dwarf. Thank GOD she left when she did. I see him going off the deep end at any time now…

    I tell you what my husband would have been wearing dinner treating me like that in front of guests.

  46. Dandilion says:

    Their blow up in public might rescue a bunch of people in major trouble caught up in that cult.. hoping so..

  47. Tiffin says:

    I absolutely believe she was a victim of his verbal abuse.

    And I agree with everyone who says that in his mind, this is not over. He is like a coiled snake, waiting to strike back.

    Let’s just hope that by the time he gets to do it, the cult is no longer in existence.

    Regarding the stories of Katie being in contact with Chris Klein – I doub’t it.
    And I also doubt that she intends changing Suri’s name. Maybe they’re cult-approved stories.

    And the next thing that will cause Tommyboy to bust a blood vessel, will be the photos of Suri in her school uniform on the day she starts Catholic School for the first time.

  48. Shelly says:

    Little Suri looks so happy to have a friend to hang around with. I also disagree with the mags and sources who call Katie being out with Suri every day “parading”. I don’t think Katie is parading. I think Katie is finally doing things she’s wanted to do for years, all on her own with no Co$ babysitters around. It must be liberating to wake up every day and decide what they are going to do, without having to get permission from her husband or the cult. It must be liberating to walk outside, grab a cab, and go do whatever the hell she wants. It must be liberating to actually do normal things. Yes, there are still bodyguards and paps around, but they can’t really change that. I’m glad she is just living her life. Little Suri already looks like she’s got a little more light in her eyes.

  49. Sue says:

    I believe most of this article. But as far as the little wooden room, I would have loved having a play area like that as a kid!

    • jwoolman says:

      Me too! If it’s the one I remember from some tv show, it was a great little place under the stairs, just her size, with toddler sized furniture. I’m sure that’s not where they put her as a baby – too hard for adults to get into.

  50. the original bellaluna says:

    Is the beefy dude in blue one of their new bodyguards? Because I do believe he’s strapped. And rightly so.

    So now, to everyone who said Katie should have known what she was getting into and blah, blah, blah… how do you feel about that in light of this new info?

  51. Dibba says:

    Can’t remember the last movie I saw him in, maybe Jerry Maguire? Kind of feel sorry for him because he’s so messed up. His life is adding up to a BIG nothing and his ego is so big and frail. I will actually AVOID movies of his now. I am his age and remember so well “Risky Business” and all that good stuff. Too bad he couldn’t stay grounded and lead a good life.

  52. Sabrine says:

    A little of this might be true, certainly not all of it. The reporting on Tom and Katie is bordering on the ridiculous now.

    It was interesting last night on the NBC expose of Scientology. Rathbun, a former member was harassed for nearly a year by a team of Scientologists who rented a house across the street from him, wore T-shirts with his head superimposed on top of a squirrel, calling themselves “squirrel busters.” Wow, it doesn’t get more weird and wacky than that!

  53. Krock says:

    What I really want to know is why is he so angry and defensive all the time?

  54. gatinha says:

    I swear she has those jeans on in every picture of her lately…just looking at them and thinking of the NYC heat makes me break out in swampass

  55. Lauren says:

    I never believed Katie’s statements about Tom..after the first two years. She was just pretending to be happy..many abused women have to put on an act or there will be repercussions. Just think back to Nicole Kidman and their divorce..Tommy tried to ruin her in every possible way. Then Nicole won an OSCAR for The Hours! I watched Far and Away recently, and Nicole carried the whole movie + she was so glowing & gorgeous. No rubber lips, botox, bleached hair. I think TC nearly ruined Nicole’s self esteem, and turned her children against her. I have refused to view any TC movies since his divorce from Nicole. Sometimes a powerful man is a dangerous man.

  56. Moi says:

    I have to add that Katie has always been beautiful, but she did look bad there for a while. But are there any other moms on here that went through a “Mom” phase of dressing terrible, no makeup, you just weren’t that worried about your looks? I cringe when I look at certain photos of myself when my teen was little. lol But ya, I think hers was severe stress too. She looks great tho’ in those current pics with the leather pants.

  57. Emily says:

    To all the women saying Katie doesn’t deserve sympathy: some of us were raised to stand up for ourselves and not to let anyone walk on us. But many, many women are not raised that way. Even those of us who think we’d never put up with abuse can end up in a bad situation with a man who turns on a dime. Manipulators know how to play people, and they know how to turn your strengths against you. Any of us absolutely could have ended up in a position similar to Katie Holmes’.

    Anyway, I love her red-orange shirt. As for the jeans — the big dude behind her is wearing long pants, and Katie herself looks comfortable. She looks like someone who feels the cold more than the heat.

    • Pam says:

      You raise an excellent point, Emily. Tom made the mistake of marrying someone with a strong and supportive family – not to mention Katie’s father being a lawyer. Since I got out of an abusive, mentally torturous, controlling relationship (all on my own, with no support whatsoever), my ex has actually spent considerable time and money to get himself into my family’s good graces. And, because I come from a family where abuse is considered the norm, I’m the “bad” one for having left him. Family. They can love and support you – or not. And Katie is blessed in that arena.

  58. skuddles says:

    If my husband yelled at me for four days straight I’d be sorely tempted to take a shovel to the back of his head. Katie showed a lot of restraint with Cruise… but babe most definitely got her licks in in the end. I’m so proud of her!

  59. Billy says:

    It is so apparent that he has issues. I remember him talking about what a tyrant his dad was. Oftentimes the abused becomes the abuser. She really changed, not for the better. Like she’d had the lifeblood drained out of her. So happy that she’s free of that relationship.

  60. Catherine Paris says:

    Time for you to get a life John C.

  61. moxylady007 says:

    SUPERFICIAL NOTE!

    Does anyone else think Tom hated those suede booties and thats why Katie loves them? :)

    When I got out of the abusive relationship I was in (years ago), one of the first thing I did was go crazy for clothes. It sounds so strange, but suddenly having all this freedom- to wear what you want, do what you want- its amazing. I spent hundreds and hundreds of dollars on clothes, feeding my self expression and my independence. I know it might seem silly but really…. there were a couple of things that he never liked – styles of clothes that I did but he didnt- as soon as I was free, you betcha I was wearing them. And loving every second of it!

    I also think she left all of her clothes. Did anyone else see that article about how she fired her people, walked out her door to be surrounded by her new body guards and never looked back? Left everything? It fits….

    • Emily says:

      She’s definitely wearing cuter clothes now. I’d want to raid her closet, except there’s no way her clothes would fit me. I even like the boots. When I lived in NYC, everyone wore boots like that (though black), so that could be a New York Woman thing.

  62. TG says:

    I hope Katie knows she has a fan club over here and we are all rooting for her and her daughter! The Great Escape!

  63. MaxxHotness says:

    Wha? Buy a plane just to fly Suri? Keeping contact with ex communicated family members I.e. supressives- how very un-scientolgist of tommy….

  64. Mich says:

    I SO believe this story!

    I came across a clip from an Australian interview he did a few years back and all I could think while I watched was “this man must be hell to live with”. Rather than just not answer questions he didn’t want to, he instead scolded the reporter constantly.

    Attached is a short clip with a few examples. The full video is worth watching if you can find it.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10Tz5wIWsYw

  65. d says:

    “wilkiecollins says: July 13, 2012 at 3:51 pm rom now on when I see that post I’m shouting at the poster “HE KNEW SHE WAS A CATHOLIC HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS GETTING INTO HE”S A GROWN MAN” of course I haven’t seen that post….yet”

    If I understand your humour, that deserves a comment of the month award. LOL.

    And yeah, I have friends and have myself been involved in situations that until they happened and until we woke up and realized what was going, always said we’d never put up with that crap. And it’s true, unless you’ve been raised a certain way, unless you’ve been taught about certain behaviours and how to deal with them, this kind of thing happening isn’t out of the question.

    there are all kinds of reasons you can get sucked into relationships (personal and even professional) that aren’t good for you.

    So katie getting sucked into this, not getting out right away, all that doesn’t surprise or seem odd in the slightest. that’s what happens.

    “There but for the grace of God…”

  66. barb says:

    I believe it! I’m an astrologer, and Tom has the aspects of a complete control freak! Sun to Saturn and Moon to Saturn….yikes. Here’s a link to the post.
    http://comfychairastrology.blogspot.ca/2012/06/tom-cruise-and-katie-holmes-divorce.html

    • erika says:

      Hello! Oh my gosh,,, would you be able to give me a report on Sagittarius? Could i email my birthdate/city of birth, etc?

      I’ve always been fascinated with astrology – i’d love to see what your take is on me!

    • erika says:

      barb!

      om gosh! that’s so kind of you – an internet horoscope connection!

      I did check your site out and bookmarked it under ‘spiritual’ stuff (into that kind of thing….astro, etc) and i was really impressed by the content, you put some serious work into those readings.

      you should contact some celeb magazine editors with some samples, maybe you could get published in national’s publications like Us, InTouch???

      readers, if you like astrology ‘comfy chair astrology’ is written by commenter barb and has some pretty interesting takes on celeb stuff astrologically speaking!!

  67. Tara says:

    I wonder if Tom thought Katie was an ashtray…

  68. anonimouse8319 says:

    I bet those boots smell horrible…Katie should switch to flip flops.

  69. erika says:

    —-CELEBRITY is a MENTAL DISEASE!—-

    This inspired me to think- Celebrity, all the perks/fame/attention can develop into a mental/emotional illness….

    …and Tom is suffering greatly to this mental disease. He has spent practically his entire life, in the limelight-showered with attention, praise, sexual self esteem boosts, money, luxury, POWER.

    He MISUSED these POWERS to evoke mental/emotional/verbal and i bet physical abuse (yeah, i said it, years of mental breakdowns can cause the victim to develop physical ailments – Katie’s broken looks in the past 3 months leading up to this PROVE it)

    - I wont say much as I agree with every single commenter’s take on TC’s disability and horrific treatment of his OWN family but…

    “Tom has nothing to hide”

    IF TC has ‘nothing to hide’ than SPEAK UP, and out and HONESTLY about what the F**k is going on with you??? TELL us the truth about Scientology (the REAL truth), tell us what your plans were for your OWN DAUGHTER and did you plan on brutalizing her with Scientology?

    SHOW us that yes, you can be a weak, troubled, sad, lost person JUST LIKE THE REST of us! You are NOT superman, you are NOT CRATUS the greek God of power and strength!

    -only a WEAK man abuses a woman of any kind…

    And wipe that mother F***king CHIMPANZEE’S GRIN off your SMUG face!!!

  70. Lauren says:

    I am watching War of the Worlds on digital cable. Dakota Fanning is incredible. Tom is a good actor, but that does not make you a good husband. He seems very rigid & controlling..i admire that he crawled up from nowhere and made a career for himself, but this Scientology circus is ruining his relationships & reputation.

    • erika says:

      bless your heart!

      I don’t know how you can stomach watching a TC movie right now…

      i can’t stand the sight of him right now, and i’m OK with passing up all his films..

      except…i have to be honest, Les Goldman character from tropic thunder get’s me rowsing each time…

  71. Kosmos says:

    Tom had a rough childhood and because of that, he has many issues. Since Scientology preys on the weak for potential members, Tom feels that Scientology has helped him struggle through his issues, although I believe they just turned him into a robot for their own use. Katie was always a happy person in her own right and had a normal childhood. When she hooked up with Tom and Scientology, that life changed drastically. Tom has huge issues, still, because he has been brainwashed. Katie has finally freed herself and her child and because it has been made so public, Scientology has to keep a low profile and let her go unless they want to bring even more unfavorable publicity to their organization. Katie was smart and had help in order to pull this off. I’m thrilled about this. Perhaps other members will see a way out now.

  72. Tiffin says:

    It’s early Sunday morning and before we start a new gossip day, I just want to say how much I admire ALL of you who escaped abusive relationships.

    I can’t even begin to imagine the kind of courage it must take but I am in awe of you.

    You are truly wonderful!!!

  73. LOL says:

    Wow. Tommy Boy has really sunk on the Tone Scale. His OT powers are slipping.

  74. Frayed_Edges says:

    Tom is a nutjob. Check out the yummy security guy in the first pic!

  75. ViloDeMenus says:

    He’s a maniac. I hope she learns to really get to know the next man she’s with because she apparently really didn’t know what she was getting into with the church and Tom.

    My guess is that she’s got a buttload of sensitive info about Tom and the church, two can play at that game. They may have watched her but it seems she was watching and documenting back, because this ended with her getting out in weeks not months or years with everything she wanted. He’s paying for her to have exactly what she wants and I’m pretty sure Tom is very unhappy. Don’t expect to see Tom with Suri alone either, one of her people will always be near that kid reporting back to her. Remember she who rocks the cradle rules the world. Actually I’m rather impressed with how strategically she handled this, it was a true slam dunk.

  76. Katija says:

    I might be the minority here, but I think the Scout thing would be great. It’s a beautiful name with a lot of meaning… Suri, if I remember correctly, is the birthplace of L Ron?

    Damn. I think I’m going to watch “Trapped in the Closet” for the umpteenth time now. Scientology stories always make me want to.

  77. juno says:

    Katie Holmes has always had a smile that lit up her face at first being married to tom cruise she still had it but as the marriage went on the light of her smile grew dimmer and dimmer and if she took her daughter out of a situation like that then good for her there are many many women who don’t have the guts to do something that brave way to go Katie Holmes

  78. Shane says:

    I was a Scientologist and left the cult 6 years ago. I personally observed first hand how abusive, verbally and physically Tom Cruise and his lover, Man-Wife David Miscavige (leader of the church of scientology) are towards their close staff, family, especially women.
    Tom Cruise used to brag about himself proudly when he would say how he grabbed one of his female scientologist staff by the neck and slammed her into the wall because she didn’t style his hair right. This was, according Tom Cruise, getting the staff Ethics-in.
    Tom has done this to all his wives and girlfriends. Yelling and threatening people around him is part of his true character.
    David Miscavige ordered in 2004-2005 through his right hand man, Greg Wilhere with the help of Tommy Davis and Jessica Feschback (now is dying of Leukemia) to find Tom Cruise wife by auditioning different girls.
    According to Tom Cruise, having a female partner was only for his PR appearance.
    Tom Cruise’s relationship with David Miscavige was known to be very unnatural.