Ray Rice: ‘Our one bad night, it just happened to be on video…’

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The Ray Rice tour of redemption continues. Yesterday, we talked about how Janay Rice was performing figurative backbends for her husband to help him get back on the field. So far, no teams have taken Ray up on his newly reinstated NFL eligibility. Four teams are rumored to be sniffing around the smoking embers of Rice’s football career. Did I hear a rumor about the New England Patriots? Hopefully that was passing gossip. This Boston.com columnist believes Ray should gain a second chance somewhere because (to the journo) it’s all about the game, not what happens off the field.

Anyway. Janay spoke with ESPN last week about how she doesn’t consider herself a victim. She also did the happy family act for Matt Lauer and insisted that she did something wrong in that elevator. I feel for her. She’s fronting like everything’s okay, and maybe it is … right now. Janay has lived for 10 months with this Ravens-induced guilt, which has been heaped on her since the beginning. She’s probably in survival mode. But the heat is off Janay for a few minutes because Matt Lauer also interviewed Ray. He has a lot to say, and it’s all in pursuit of a lucrative NFL contract:

What it will take for an NFL team to sign Rice: “They would have to be willing to, you know, look deeper into who I am and realize that me and my wife had one bad night, and I took full responsibility for it. And one thing about my punishment and everything going along with anything that happened is that I’ve accepted it. I went fully forward with it. I never complained, or I never did anything like that. I took full responsibility for everything that I did, and the only thing I can hope for and wish for is a second chance.”

On not publicly apologizing to Janay: “The reason why that press conference was the way it was, was because we were still under legal situations. So there wasn’t much that could be said, but I’ll be honest, we were nervous, I was nervous, and that was the first time we were available to speak. And I made a horrendous mistake not apologizing to my wife. We were given what to speak about. It wasn’t truly coming from us, if you can understand, but I made that clear in my last time I was able to speak that my wife is an angel. She can do no wrong. I take full responsibility for my actions.”

Did it bother Ray when Janay apologized? “In hindsight I think she was doing it because she knows what I do for a living. She understood my job and my profession. And I think it was her doing that, trying to take light off the situation, to… [protect me] … And I appreciated it, but that’s not what the big deal is. The big deal is for me to always protect her, and that’s why I said I take full responsibility. She can do no wrong. This is something, you know, as a man you have to own and, we’re horribly sorry, and I’m horribly sorry for everything that I have to put my family through. I still got to live every day, go take my daughter to school. She’s going to grow up and the way the Internet works now she’s going to Google her father’s name and the first thing that’s going to come up is, you know what’s going to come up.”

His career isn’t really that important: “The reality of it and that’s what I’m more worried about fixing is that I want my wife, my daughter, my family – we all just want our lives back. I realize football was one thing, but now I realize that the amount of people we’ve affected, the amount of families we’ve affected, that, you know, domestic violence is a real issue in society. We could take our one bad night, it just happened to be on video, but we are truly sorry to the people that are really going through it. You know, it’s a real problem. And I know when the time is right, I know my wife wants to help, I know I want to help.”

Ray on the relationship: “We weren’t in a perfect relationship. No relationship is perfect. We’ve had arguments, but when you talk about abuse, you know, that’s something that we know that we’d never cross that path. But then did we say things to each other that we want to take back at times? Yeah, we crossed that line before, but it never got to an altercation where it went that far. That was just very uncharacteristic of myself. I take responsibility. That was very uncharacteristic.”

If Ray doesn’t get signed: “If I never play football again, I’ll be honest with you, I would adapt into life and I would sacrifice more so she can have a better future.”

Janay’s reaction: “I know he wants to play football, but I know regardless he’ll always support me in anything that I want to do. So God forbid he doesn’t play football again, then I’ll step in and, you know, maybe I’ll be a provider.”

[From Today]

Ray Rice is putting on a decent act. He’s definitely been coached with key terms like “angel,” “uncharacteristic,” “one bad night,” and “full responsibility” drilled into his head. There are moments during this interview where flashes of well-rehearsed sincerity come through. But the moment he says, “Our one bad night, it just happened to be on video,” reveals the charade. There’s virtually no way that a man prone to violent outbursts could always keep it together and just happen to slip up the moment security cameras are watching. Not buying it.

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  1. Kitten says:

    @Bedhead- It’s NEW ENGLAND Patriots! 😉
    It’s a completely unsubstantiated rumor based on the fact that Belichick has a history of scooping up talented but troubled players that nobody else wants.

    • Bedhead says:

      Fixed, thank you!


    • doofus says:

      hahahaha! I KNEW you would take issue with that.

      love ya, kitty!

    • Tippy says:

      Patriots already have an overabundance of good running-backs.

      After the Aaron Hernandez $hit-Storm I think the Patriots are less likely to be taking chances on bad character players.

      Some NFL team will give Ray Rice the opportunity to play this season.

    • megs283 says:

      This is ridiculous. Bob Kraft has said the Patriots have NO interest and will NOT be pursuing Rice. The Patriots are a lot of things – but they don’t (knowingly) employ wife-beaters!

      • Kitten says:

        @ Doofus-It’s an easy mistake to make if you don’t follow American football but I don’t want to exclude the other five New England states! 🙂

        @megs and Tippy-As I said, they’re unsubstantiated rumors and I hope they’re not true.

      • megs283 says:

        @Kitten – sorry, I was reacting to the story, not your comment!

      • FLORC says:

        The rumor might have been floated out to test the waters. I think Rice would be a bad move for them. Especially now that he’s claiming it was 1 time only. That makes him vulnerable to many people who are going to search out other times he was caught. Even an old and obscured tape. If it shows him having another “bad night” it’s a nail in the coffin.

    • feebee says:

      Ah, Aaron Hernandez? Was he one of Belichick’s talented but troubled? That didn’t work out so well for them – not that I’m saying some troubled youth can’t use sports to turn their life around – many have successfully. Just sayin’ the Pats may want to steer clear of Mr Rice while Hernandez’s case is so fresh.

  2. Alyce says:

    “Our” one bad night? I’m so tired of this guy. He isn’t even pretending to be sorry!

    • L says:

      Exactly! Followed up by the “for the people really going through it” Agh. He’s still claiming it was a one time thing and it’s only ‘really’ abuse when it happens more than once. As if that has ever happened.

      And you know what a ‘bad night’ is in my house when my husband gets to drunk? He ends up dancing and singing to bad 80’s pop on the coffee table, playing the piano til 4 am, and then falling asleep on the stairs because he claims they are comfortable. Not hit me in a elevator and knock me out so that he has to drag me out of it like a sack of potatoes.
      ARGH. This idiot frustrates me to no end.

      • Kiddo says:

        This is f-cking hilarious. I loved the stairs story.

      • Louisa says:

        I’m so sick about the Ray Rice story I don’t want to comment on it. But I love your husband sleeping on the stairs. I found mine early one morning after a few too many curled up with our dogs ….in their tiny bed ….on the kitchen floor.

      • doofus says:

        your hubby sounds fun! yeah, when the bf gets drunk, it’s dance time!

      • Jenna says:

        Your guy and mine should have a bad night together (and we’ll film it and make millions😜) – in 10 years together, my BIG guy (former powerlifter, he can lift my 6’2 butt over his head one handed) Bad nights are ‘get home from work, drink rum or brandy until giggly, turn ever slowly into a drunken winston churchill/winnie the pooh. I don’t get ‘i really really love you’s’ instead? “I’m really quite fond of you, don’t you know”, followed by snuggles and random discussions about subjects ranging from astro physics to he roundness of oranges. Never once ‘hit, drag around, slam into walls’. In 10 years, I’ve taken one punch… And that was in the midst of a bar fight while I was trying to get a bunch of little college girls out of the mess, we were working security together, I slipped, he turned, I got a shiner in the scrum. Total accident and it still had him sobbing like a child and years later he still gets paranoid in making sure he knows where I am in crowds. Real men don’t have ‘bad day’ where they beat the crap out of their partner’. Gah.

      • littlestar says:

        Hahaha! Sounds like a bad night in my house too. Except my husband comes home drunk feeling frisky and then 10 minutes later does a complete 180 and is laying on the floor in the bathroom by the toilet, sick as a dog, regretting even drinking to begin with LOL.

      • FLORC says:

        That’s my husband! Although we aren’t big drinkers.I must say though. I’ve passed out on steps before and they can be quite comfy while stabalizing the spinning ground. Once you get the spins it won’t be a fun night.

        Couples fight. They argue. It’s healthy. When it crosses that line into abuse is when you harm the other. Rice didn’t appear to be a man who struck his wife out cold for the first time. This appeared to be the norm for him. He was so casual!

        2 things here. He still hasn’t appeared remourseful over his actions. And Janay is rewarding him for his actions. Not leaving means what he did won’t impact their relationship.

      • L says:

        @FLORC That’s exactly what my husband says. 😀 Apparently the carpet there is comfy and it helps with the spins, and no amount of saying ‘don’t you want to sleep in a bed/on the couch?’ has ever been able to move him once he starts sleeping there.

        I wouldn’t mind if any of our spouses ended up on video on one of their ‘bad’ nights-they all sound hilarious. Ray Rice wasn’t having a bad night-he’s just a bad person.

      • I Choose Me says:

        Your guy sounds awesome.

      • K says:

        “One bad night” in our house is my husband suddenly talking at length about how awesome cheese is, and going through the delights each variety offers. Or how amazing it is to have a dog. Or child. Or, you know, comfy couch. Depends on how much he’s had. Too much, and he’s snoring; now that IS bad.

        It’s exasperating and adorable at the same time. But no, no suddenly knocking out someone and then dragging their unconscious body around like a side of meat here, either. Funny that.

      • doofus says:

        well, K, to be fair…cheese IS pretty awesome. 😉

    • AntiSocialButterfly says:

      The “Our” and “We” he uses so liberally to reference the violence makes me ill. Full responsibility, my @ss.

    • Senna says:

      Yup. There is no way that this happened for the first time in a public place. And there’s no way that the first time you knock someone out cold, you stand there nonchalantly poking her with your foot and not even bothering to check for breathing or injury. There’s no way that his reaction says, “OMG what have I done?”

      This PR campaign is simply maddening. In order to try to salvage his NFL career they are trying to spin everything to minimize the damage, and everything coming out of their mouths sounds like a script of domestic violence excuses, minimizing the real gravity of the situation. I can see why they are doing it, but I think they aren’t trying to be honest with themselves for even a second. They are chasing after his career, and the fame and financial stability that comes with it. I think I would only feel ok about him still being in the NFL if he agreed to get help for his violent tendencies, was honest about his problems, and committed himself to being an advocate for raising awareness for domestic violence. It would come across as a lot more believable than this “I don’t have a problem, it was a one-time thing” BS.

    • crtb says:

      I have a question:

      Janay Rice has received a lot of criticism for remaining in a relationship with Ray Rice. She has been called horrible names like stupid and gold digger. She has been accused of staying because she didn’t want to loose her lifestyle. Here is my question: Not one word has been said about Camille Cosby. No name calling. No questioning why she stay married to a sexual predator for over 50 years. She hasn’t been forced to apologize. No interviews, no video tapes, no criticism. No questions about how much did she know. Not one word. He name has yet to come up in one article so far.
      Janay is a young woman with little life experience. Camille was the role model , the standard for many women to live up to. Why does she get a pass?

  3. littlemissnaughty says:

    Mean it or STFU. Goddamn it, this story needs to die. She won’t leave him, he’s a poor baby, we get it. Go away and my God, take care of yourselves and that child especially. I can’t anymore. This is a HORRIBLE example for young people.

    • velourazure says:

      There is no way that this is the last time she gets beaten by this guy. When all the attention dies down and he’s just some bitter has-been, he’ll probably end up killing her.

    • Anony says:

      “This is something, you know, as a man you have to own and, we’re horribly sorry, and I’m horribly sorry for everything that I have to put my family through. ” Love how he says “we’re horribly sorry” first. Even when he’s trying his absolute best to pretend he’s not a regular abuser the little slip-ups sneak in and reveal him for what he is. You know in his mind it is her fault. She made him hit her! This is all her fault! She should be SO sorry!

  4. Kitten says:

    ” Yeah, we crossed that line before, but it never got to an altercation where it went that far. ”

    I feel like he’s admitting that they’ve gotten into physical altercations but this is the first time he’s straight-up knocked her unconscious.

    • Esmom says:

      I thought he was referring to them saying things they wish they could take back. But it seems obvious they’ve gotten into physical fights before, and now he’s just rambling to try to save his ass, seems like he will say anything if it somehow will get him reinstated.

    • Kiddo says:

      I noticed that he never says he HIT her. He dances around that word calling it an altercation or bad night or other sanitized versions thereof. He never says I’m sorry I hit her, I’m sorry I hurt her. It’s weird. Plus he makes it sound like he’s apologizing for the video offending anyone who is suffering in an abusive situation. Lastly, he says he accepted his punishment and yet this entire charade is being put forth because he appealed the decision of being expelled from the sport, even though he says it’s not about football. It’s all so contradictory.

      ETA: He should never ever drink alcohol again.

      • Kitten says:

        That should be part of the contractual agreement for the next team that signs him: he has to refrain from alcohol.

        Not that I think booze is the root cause of his violent behavior but it obviously doesn’t help matters and since Janay is staying no matter what, at least this is one way of *potentially* minimizing the frequency of abuse.

    • Anony says:

      Agreed Kitten.

      “This is something, you know, as a man you have to own and, we’re horribly sorry, and I’m horribly sorry for everything that I have to put my family through.”

      We’re horribly sorry came before I’m horribly sorry. :S

  5. swack says:

    Does anyone else find out a little word that they got married right after this happened? It makes me feel like it was done so that if he were charged them she could not testify against him. JMO.

    • Ag says:

      that was my thought precisely.

    • Jasmine says:

      HE was probably covering his bases, making sure that she was on side should it come to a criminal charge or if the NFL got involved. He was preparing for a time such as this, smart guy.

      SHE was probably flying on the buzz of the apology period, you can bet it was very “heartfelt” and extravagant. And she probably reasons that his gratitude to her for protecting him will keep him in check within the marriage. That he wouldnt cheat or beat her given the massive debt of gratitude he owes her for fighting his corner. Its a juvenile attempt at emotional extortion that fails to account for this mans near sociopathy and shamelessness.

    • swack says:

      Edit: Find it a little weird. (Darn Swype and me for not checking)

    • The Other Katherine says:

      swack, she can still testify against him, but as his wife she cannot be compelled by subpoena to provide testimony against him if she doesn’t want to.

  6. Odessa says:

    A bad night is when My husband and I argue about who is going to shovel the sidewalks. Hitting someone and spitting on them is a hell of a lot more then a bad night.

  7. Talie says:

    The only thing weird, optically — why is everyone dressed up except Ray? What was the thinking there, I wonder…

  8. Ag says:

    a “bad night” is me being p-ssed about my husband’s clothes being all over the bathroom floor. and going to bed annoyed. not punching someone out. in any other context but the domestic sphere (i also include hitting children under that umbrella), this would call for someone’s a$$ to be thrown in jail. but here, this is still somehow getting handled with kid gloves. yeah, i bet he’s sorry. he temporarily lost his income ( i assume he was suspended without pay?), and the world found out what he’s about. i bet he regrets that. i used to be a fan of his – we share an alma mater and i live in MD, where he played. not anymore.

  9. Jasmine says:

    The spitting was the give away. Its such a visceral thing to do. Even without the knock out punch and the dragging out of elevator (he couldnt bring himself to carry his “angel” who as far as he knew could have been in a coma or dead?!), you can tell that this is an abusive dbag.

    This poor girl. She probably thinks her self-sacrifice will buy loyalty, affection or even peace. And it may in the short term. But give it afew months ……

    • Racer says:

      I agree Jasmine. I just cant wrap my mind around the fact that he spit on her.To me that is worse than the punch.

    • Marie-France says:

      The spitting is pure contempt. One bad night? Marriage includes ups and downs, good nights and bad nights, but violence does not belong in a relationship. Nobody is an angel or perfect, we are all human beings. Sometimes you disagree with your human, imperfect partner but you do not hit her (or him).

    • Artemis says:

      Everything was bad but for me the worst part was that he could have easily killed her and yet he didn’t check for signs of life nor did he stay with her. He walked away and seemed annoyed at her unconscious self!

      A lot of people involved are apparently unclear about First Aid because he dragged her body out of the elevator which is a big no -no. She could have had a head/neck injury and killed her by moving her so abruptly. Secondly, her body was in front of the elevator, even her head at one point. Wth? Her body was in an awkward position not a safety position (on her side to prevent for example suffocation).

      The only care administered was a woman rubbing her back. Truly appalling how nobody really cared. How is he going to explain all of that to his daughter? The aftermath? Walking away from the mother of his child and not even checking if she’s OK?! Treating her literally like garbage?

      • That’s what makes me believe that it wasn’t the first time, Artemis. Even if I bought the fact that that was the first time he had physically touched her (by knocking her out in one hit), the fact that he didn’t even check to see if she was okay, and just dragged her out of the elevator nonchalantly is a huge red flag to me. He didn’t even help her up. It was that female guard (if I’m not mistaken), who helped her sit up, rubbed her back, and then helped her up.

  10. Esmom says:

    One bad night, my ass. And when it comes to his “punishment” — “I never complained.” Give the guy a medal.

  11. scout says:

    How many other “one bad night which is not on camera” there are? I bet many, once a abuser always a abuser and it will happen again unless he gets some serious therapy and severe consequences for his actions.

  12. QQ says:

    I want Eyes for Lies All over this video and the Body Language, like ASAP, Dude talking, Dad that should have beat him within an inch of his life GRIPPING the counter and tersely staring ahead, Mom and daughter looking at the fixed point in the floor, corner of the mouth twisted when he talk, almost jabbing him when he goes on too long.. this is super uncomfortable to watch all of them tight in a frame but totally disconnected

    • Racer says:

      New hair QQ? Love it! I got me some new hair over turkey day- subtle ombre is what I call it.

      Their body language makes me tense watching them.

      • QQ says:

        OOhh show me show me!! well it’d been Purple for a few months now , is just brighter in certain lights? and I think i had parted to a different side

    • AlexandraJane says:

      Yes. this. The idea of thinking of the family meal where this crazy charade gets pitched and her mother and father agreeing to go for it. Rather than, you know, providing an escape route and safe haven? Is this the body language of shame?

      • QQ says:

        This is the Body Language of we need you to pay us good NFL settlement money so we don’t speak out about you ever, so we are gonna put our principles to the side and help you hustle.

    • AntiSocialButterfly says:

      She did an article today on Janay & Camille Cosby; I don’t think she’ll do one on Ray because it seems she tends to avoid real hot-button issues ( see her reason for not reviewing Darren Wilson)

  13. doofus says:

    yeah, he sounds contrite, but that “one bad night” thing is SUCH A CROCK.

    said it before and I’ll say it again, you don’t go to full-on face punch as the FIRST action of abuse.

  14. Odessa says:

    Jasmine – I completely agree about the spitting. I’m not saying it’s worse than hitting someone, but it’s so full of contempt and distain. It speaks volumes about the situation.

  15. lassie says:

    I live in Maryland. The local news doesn’t touch this story with a 10 foot pole, and we are a football nation that wept when Ray Lewis retired. People are suddenly remembering that Ray Rice had slowed down and lost his speed just before this story exploded, they just forgot to mention it. I would be surprised if any team picked him up. He’s an albatross around your neck in the football world.

    • noway says:

      I live in Maryland too, and I see it covered a lot on both the Baltimore and Washington stations. I just think people see what they want to see. Remember I like Ray Lewis too, but he was arrested for homicide in Ga. and testified against others to receive a misdemeanor sentence of obstruction of justice in 2000 after the Super Bowl. Yet a few years later we wept for him. Trust me Ray will be on a team next year. If he doesn’t get into more trouble.

  16. Birdie says:

    Disgusting. Even more disgusting that teams consider hiring him.

  17. Delta Juliet says:

    I can’t imagine. If my husband spit on me, my father would take him out. And I’ve never seen my dad hit anyone, ever. But the lack of respect is astounding. Never mind the assault that came after that.

    I just….I can’t imagine my parents standing there like that. I have been through a lot with my husband and my parents can barely stand him as it is. And he’s never laid a hand on me.

    • Kcarp says:

      I thought the same thing. Mom should have said pack your stuff while dad beats his a**. How can the parents stand there?

  18. Hawkeye says:

    I get that they’re on a damage control mission, but did Matt Lauer really have to go to their home? Did her parents really have to be there? Did the show really have to show the Rices’ daughter? Second, can professional athletes stop being glorified already? They basically do gym class really well, yet somehow make more money than teachers, engineers, doctors, journalists and even the POTUS, and are above reproach.

    • Esmom says:

      Agree that so much of that interview is just plain wrong. And don’t even get me started on the glorification of pro athletes…but sadly I think our sports-worshipping culture is so entrenched nothing’s going to change anytime soon.

      • Amy says:

        Tbh though this is where the conflict comes in.

        When Rihanna was tapped to sing the song for CBS and during the midst of this scandal they refused to use her anymore people complained that they were taking away another victim’s voice. I remember wondering what those same people would have said if they asked Rihanna and she said, “Stand by your man girl.”

        Rihanna regretted not staying with Chris and the two have had a tangled relationship ever since. She’s even implied a few times the pressure from society made her lose out on this guy she’s never been able to totally get back.

        If they talk to Ray and about this incident then don’t be surprised that Janay is there, and her whole family is there, and they’re putting up a United front of ignorance. Is it disgusting to watch? Oh yeah and just looking at her face in the midst of it makes me sick but this is sadly the reality of it.

      • Hawkeye says:

        @ Amy I think this is what bothers me so much about the huge publicity around the abusive relationships of famous people. Everyone has an opinion on how the victim should act and what the victim should say instead of giving that person the time and space to do what’s right for them. I don’t think Rihanna owed the public an explanation of her choices (just like I don’t think Chris Brown owed the public an apology), and neither does Janay Rice.

  19. snowflake says:

    he sounded sincere, I almost felt myself softening. but at the end, when matt asks what will it take for another football team to pick him up, it made me feel like the whole interview was based around that. like that was the intent of the interview.

    • doofus says:

      IMO, that WAS the intent of the interview.

      why else would this wife-beater do one? if he truly didn’t care about getting back into the NFL, and had “accepted his punishment”, he would go away quietly.

      • Kitten says:

        Exactly. This is a PR campaign to see if there are any franchises that are interested.

      • doofus says:

        let’s hope that every NFL team head is watching and seeing how disgusted most people are with this entire interview, and no one signs him.

  20. lucy2 says:

    “all about the game, not what happens off the field” This attitude is so wrong, I don’t know why the NFL is so permissive of it (oh wait, $). Plenty of high profile people have done or said something stupid unrelated to their work, but have lost their job due to the embarrassment factor and companies not wanting to be associated with them. This is so far beyond embarrassment, it would be downright disgusting for any team to welcome him. His second chance, IMO, is that he’s not sitting in jail.
    Also, there’s no way this was “one bad night”. Based on the video, he thought nothing of spitting on her, nothing of punching her, and nothing of dragging her on the ground like a sack of potatoes. If this was the first time anything violent had happened between them, he would have been freaking out at what he did.

  21. Jayna says:

    If he ever said once that he watched that video and is sickened watching it and doesn’t recognize that monster in the video and how he could be so rageful and violent against a woman and that being drunk can’t excuse that violent a response and that he is in therapy to understand it, then that would be something that showed me he is acknowledging the horrible violence by him.

    She comes from a well-off father. I saw excerpts of him in the video. He sent her to private schools. She was raised with nice things. He said his daughter is not weak nor is she with him for the money. He was a nice man and she seems to come from a great family, and he was supportive of their relationship. I think they are in denial also and want to believe nothing more goes on behind the scenes . So let them go on. It’s their relationship. I’m over their mea culpa tour. And who knows, this attention may truly change him with a mirror being held up to his violence.

  22. Gina says:

    There seems to be an inordinate amount of domestic violence in the news lately. If he was not in the NFL begging to get his money, I mean job back, we wouldn’t know this couple existed. People need to clean up their houses. A real bad night between a married couple shouldn’t involve a husband knocking out his wife and dragging her to the curb like garbage. He sounds like Chris Brown in a football jersey.

  23. Kip says:

    I don’t get why the apology is so important – I mean, I find it super weird that she apologized, but even if he apologized, he still did it, I’m not really sure even a genuine apology would make that fact any different. Whether he’s sorry or not, he’s abusing his partner and breaking the law.

  24. Merritt says:

    He really thinks everyone is stupid enough to believe it only happened once. No, it has happened more than once. It just happened once on video.

  25. Jewbitch says:

    The nonchalant way he stepped over her/nudged at her on the way out of the elevator, imo, shows its not the first time.

    • Trashaddict says:

      Nudging, hell. He drags her like she’s a sack of flour, and tries to move her midsection with his foot. It’s not a kick, but it sure shows he sees her as more of a thing than a person. And the monumental stupidity of moving a person who is knocked out cold and not checking for signs of life! At the worst, he’s a sociopath whose only motivating factor is himself. At best he is just massively stupid.

  26. JenniferJustice says:

    Hey Ray! Nobody’s buying that was your only bad night. Your bahavior after the fact proves you didn’t think much of it because it’s somewhat normal for you. Stop memorizing scripts provided to you by the NFL. It’s obvious and confirms your lack of sincerity.

  27. Estella says:

    He still doesn’t apologize! Meanwhile, Janay is offering to provide for him if the football thing doesn’t work out! And it sounds like he’s trying to put feelers out there to DV groups to speak for/work for them – perhaps as a backup plan in case he is canned permanently? (Not that I have any problem with him supporting domestic violence prevention – but he should do it for FREE.)

    This is reminding me too much of Chris Brown and Rihanna or OJ and Nicole Brown Simpson. 🙁

  28. Tig says:

    I don’t see how this helped their “cause”, for lack of a better word, at all. It is transparent what is going on- say anything, do anything to get him back on a NFL team. I will be pleasantly stunned if not one team does.

  29. Cainterviewer says:

    And if he doesn’t play football again it falls to Janay to be the “provider”? With what skills and work experience? It sounds like he is still punishing her. What a POS.

  30. Jackson says:

    As others above have said, not buying in the least that this was ‘one bad night.’ Puhleez. The disregard he treated her with after her knocked her out told me even more than that punch did. I bet the only thing he was thinking was ‘damn, now I have to drag her back to the room, too.’

  31. Amy says:

    Honestly this is a sad societal issue.

    People say this is an example of how society devalues women but honestly…corporations don’t give a fck what’s between your legs when there’s money to be made. As far as Ray Rice and the NFL there’s still and will always be money to be made.

    The NFL doesn’t care if it’s kids, dogs, or women and I think making this into an issue specifically towards women detracts from what the true story is – The NFL does not give a fck about anyone who’s putting money in their pocket, either as a fan or a player.

    I feel like if people accepted that viewpoint more about ALL corporations they wouldn’t have such a stranglehold on society. They’d know how flimsy their relationship with the consumer is and have to go above and beyond to maintain some foothold. But unfortunately all that die-hard fan crap and the people who will dislike this one issue but will continue to support the larger beast aren’t helping loosen the death grip. Honestly unless a large number of men stopped supporting there’ll be no change because that’s when the NFL will freak and see a few million bucks disappear.

  32. littlestar says:

    “If I never play football again, I’ll be honest with you, I would adapt into life and I would sacrifice more so she can have a better future.”

    WTF does that even mean???

    • I think they’re just some BS buzz words so that people will think that he’s sorry.

      • Nicole says:

        No, it’s abuser talk. Allow me to translate: I play football so that YOU can have a better life. Everything I do is for YOU. Look at all the sacrifices that YOU have made me make. This is YOUR fault, but I’m sticking by YOU.

  33. Nicole says:

    Liar! Liar!

  34. PixieWitch says:

    and here i thought my husband was an a$$hole for walking on a clean floor with his shoes…Our idea of a bad night is eating the last reese’s cup.

  35. Corrie says:

    The blatant misuse of the word “OUR” bad night…. NO his bad night. Janay, i don’t want to see anyone bemoan her anymore but she definitely is the victim and its horrible to see. No, Janay you did nothing wrong. He spit at you, punched you in the face and then left you in the elevator before dragging you by your foot. All couples fight, but physical assault – HIS BAD NIGHT and LIFE.

  36. kri says:

    “Our one bad night, and it ends up on video”. Huh. That damn elevator camera! The nerve of it! You should teach it a lesson, Ray! Oh, wait…your lessons only apply to women, right? I mean, that camera f7cked you up, didn’t it? While you were busy treating your wife’s face like a punching bag and dragging around her body like a trashbag, that mean old camera was..WATCHING you!! If I was Janay, I would have cameras hidden all over that house. It’s the only thing that seems to get through to him. A$$hole.

  37. Penelope says:

    I still get shivers when I think of him dragging her out of the elevator like she’s a sack of potatoes or flour. Just chilling.

    • doofus says:

      I, and a lot of others, have been saying that it’s clearly not the first time he hit her because of the severity of the attack…abuse escalates and you don’t start with a full-on face punch.

      and, reading your post, and thinking about that video…I FIRMLY believe that not only was this NOT the first time he hit/punched her, it was likely NOT the first time he knocked her unconscious. BECAUSE of the callousness with which he reacts. it’s like “oh, gawd, THIS again…” *toe poke* *drags body*

      and yes, chilling is what it is.

      • Lila says:

        Exactly! If i knocked someone out, I would be freaking out, crying, calling the paramedics. That reaction isn’t the reaction of someone who has never knocked someone out before.

  38. feebee says:

    I’m no body language expert and single photos can be misleading BUT (!) she looks defensive in one of them, eyes down in another. Where as he looks relaxed. Maybe he’s just more used to the media.

    He’s proven he can be coached… in football and now in media. Wow, those consistent sound bites would be the envy of a political candidate. He didn’t take “full responsibility” for it. Full responsibility means not bleating and whining like a toddler over the punishment. Ugh.

  39. anne_000 says:

    Yeah, don’t you all know? The real fault is that there was a working security video system in that elevator. If it wasn’t caught on video, we’d know that he’s not an abuser and that their marriage is normal and just fine.

    Damn video, damn railing in the elevator, damn elevator door opening!

  40. Eleonor says:

    Of course it’s the camera fault.

  41. Misprounced Name Dropper says:

    Where’s the dignity?

  42. Pegasus says:

    One bad night…
    Those who “really” go through it…

    Apparently knocking your wife unconscious doesnt make you a “real” abuser. Good to know.

    So much evil in one interview. All I see when I look at him is the next OJ.

  43. jferber says:

    I’d love to see journalists digging up other videos of him beating Janay. Then what would he say?Because you know he’s lying. Also, the header picture says to me that HE feels like the true victim. That btch Janay!

  44. Lv says:

    “She’s an angel who can do no wrong”
    Sounds like he has an idealized image of what his wife SHOULD be and when she diverges from that he snaps!

  45. miasys says:

    Hard pass. I get that he’s trying to sell his particular flavor of crazy, but I. Ain’t. Buying. His actions show that he’s not sorry he did it, he’s just sorry that he got caught. And Janay…I feel so very badly for her. Unless you have been in an abusive relationship, you can’t begin to understand the epic level of mind fuckery that goes on. Whatever she is saying/doing, she is in survival mode & it really won’t make sense to anyone else. In the years to come, if she ever gets out, it probably won’t make sense to her. I hope she gets the opportunity to put her life back together on her own terms without the media or her crazy husband eating her alive.

  46. d says:

    I concur with the theory that you just don’t get how demented your thinking becomes in a DV relationship until you are out of it IF you make it out of it. I remember one of my early bad relationships I was trying so hard to make it work, beating myself up all the time how I was messing everything up, and so on, and it wasn’t until it was over (he broke up with me, thank God) that I realized just how humiliated I was (I was in denial before then) and just how wrong his behavior was and how I didn’t deserve all the crappy things that were going on. It wasn’t until I was out of it that I realized how unhealthy it was, how messed up *I* was, and what I needed to do to avoid those situations and men in the future. When you’re in the thick of it, I don’t know, your mind just doesn’t always work right … you’re kind of in survival mode and just get through the day mode, and you think you don’t have the luxury of stepping back to get some perspective on your situation. So, I mean, I feel sorry for Janay because it’s so clearly a bad situation. Ug.

  47. HoustonGrl says:

    The worst thing about this situation is that she’s in constant danger. I never saw the video, but the few photos I briefly saw (with the big headlines), showed the acts of a killer.

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