I saw this story on Monday and I just thought, “Yeah, right.” But it’s taken on a life of its own. Seattle Seahawk Russell Wilson did an appearance at The Rock Church over the weekend and he ended up chatting about his relationship with Ciara. I sort of didn’t know/care that Ciara had moved on from Future, but that happened last year. Ciara gave birth to Future’s son, Future Zahir Wilburn, and then by August 2014, Ciara and Future were done. He cheated on her and their engagement was off. According to the internet, Ciara and Russell started dating this spring, maybe March or April. And in that time, Russell says they have not had sex. They are practicing abstinence. Because of course.
Taking it one (two) step at a time. Russell Wilson is an open book when it comes to his faith and now his romantic life. During an appearance at The Rock Church on Sunday, July 5, the Seattle Seahawks quarterback, 26, opened up about the intimate details of his relationship with Ciara.
“I do have a girlfriend, yes, she’s a sweetheart,” the self-proclaimed “saved” Christian admitted. “She’s everything you could ever want, honestly. Funny thing is, I told somebody that that’s the girl I wanted to be with before I ever met her. I told somebody, ‘I’m probably going to end up with Ciara.’”
When asked about how he moves forward with his relationship while remaining true to his promises to God, Wilson told a story.
“I met this girl named Ciara who was the most beautiful woman in the world, the most kind person, the most engaging person, everything that I could ever want,” he explained. “She was on tour and I was looking at her in the mirror, and she was sitting there. And God spoke to me and said ‘I need you to lead her.’ And I was like, ‘Really? Right now?’ And he goes, ‘No, I want you and need you to lead her.’ And I asked her, ‘What would you do if we took all that extra stuff off the table? And just did it Jesus’ way?’”
When the host of the talk asked Wilson to clarify what he meant by the “extra stuff,” the football star admitted, “Yeah, we’re talking about sex… Can we love each other without that? If you can really love someone without that then you can really love somebody… I ain’t gonna lie to y’all now. I need y’all to pray for us. Because I know y’all have seen her on the screen now. If there’s a 10, she’s a 15. Pray for me, keep my mind clear, keep my heart clear.”
Wilson went on to talk about the plan he felt God had for them as a couple.
“For me, I knew that God had brought me in her life to bless her and for her to bless me,” he said. “We’re not going to be perfect, by any means. But he’s anointed both of us and he’s calling for us to do something special.”
I’m including the video below (full disclosure: I only made it about a minute into the video). My take: I don’t really have a problem with two adults deciding to abstain from sex because of their religion or what have you – I think that’s a totally different situation than, say, being paid to shill abstinence-only education to kids or telling hormonal teenagers that sex is dirty and sinful. Does this still bother me? Sure – sex is an important and healthy part of modern relationships and I can’t imagine that there are many adult men or women prepared to marry a person without sleeping with them, Duggars excluded.
This whole thing sort of reminds me of Ali Landry’s post-divorce situation – when she remarried after the debacle with Mario Lopez, she and her new husband waited until they were married too. Ali has said it wasn’t so much about religion for her, she just felt very damaged from her past relationships and she wanted to have an old-fashioned courtship without sex. I wonder if that’s how Ciara feels? Like, it might be refreshing to be with a guy who is not trying to get in her drawers 24/7.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
It’s a fine decision. I’m just sad on a personal level because they are both super hot and this means definitely no sex tape.
Hahahahaha!!
Nope, you need to be thirsty to take out a sex tape (looking at Kim and Paris)
I wish I could abstain from sex before I get a ring on it. But men…. *shaking my head*
As soon as the word ‘abstain’ comes out of your mouth… The count down begins.
He gay. And possibly schizophrenic
That’s so rude. I am as non-religious as they come, but even I’m not that judgmental. They feel they should do this for their religion and they’re two adults- let them be.
I also think you are being mean. However, I do hope Ciara talks to Sherri Shepherd. Sherri also waited until marriage. Then,I think lack of sexual attraction was one of the things that went wrong there.
I also think it is a mistake to bring religion into the bedroom.
Definitely right about the first part.
LOL i’m NOT about to shade you cause Even Kid Fury Chimed in on his podcast and called this one as Serving a Strong Tea of “Gay Brazilian Porn Star” LOL It’s terrible but I am still Cackling
What a horrible thing to say. It is insulting to people who chose to wait and it is insulting to gays. So if you wait to have sex you must be gay? or crazy? Really? We all have a personal belief as to when sex is introduced into a relationship. Some on the first night, others after marriage and then there is everything in between. Do what works for you. And respect people who do what is best for them.
That’s good for them, but why talk about it?!
This exactly. I don’t understand why people feel the need ti talk about ther sex life so publicly.
Also, I’ve never heard anyone talk about God that way. He sounds like a preacher.
You must not know a lot of evangelical Christians. This is how they talk.
He didn’t randomly bring it up in a GQ interview or post it all over Twitter. He was doing a lengthy talk at a church and the subject happened to come up. This part of the conversation didn’t even occur until about 25min into his appearance.
What I’m curious about is: Russell Wilson just got divorced, Ciara has a child out of wedlock, and now it’s important to God to abstain? Why is pre-marital sex just a big deal when the ship has already sailed, so to speak?
I don’t know any evangelical Christians. Pretty much everyone here is Catholic, and I know a few atheists or Orthodox Christians, and not even the priests talk like that.
That explains a lot. I was raised Catholic in the Bible Belt south. It was…. interesting going to church with friends or having religious discussions with people.
@ Scarlet Vixen: It’s very barn door/horse of “God” to care at this point, but I don’t have a direct line to the Lord, like Russell Wilson seems to.
I can tell you don’t live in the Bible belt, @Franca. Lucky you. You don’t have to listen to people telling you all freaking day long on phone calls “Have a Blessed Day!” or have to listen to work colleagues tell you that they did well on a particular project/sale because “God came through for us” or “the Lord was on our side on this one.” That’s right, forget all the long hours and hard work your co-workers and staff put into it, it was really Jesus running that copy machine and prepping Powerpoints.
Yes! The relationship is their business, and there’s no need for anyone to know those details.
Agree. I have no problem being a religious person and a sexual person, and I think his beliefs are sad. Especially the part where he’s “special” and supposed to lead her. We are all special. But he’s entitled to them, and all that. But why make such a personal issue public? I think many people use their faith to gain publicity and to bolster their own ego. I know nothing about him, but people who are so vocal about their “virtues” rub me the wrong way.
Me too.
I’ve never felt the need to discuss my sex life with anyone except very close friends or medical professionals. My response is, “Why do you need to know?” with a smile when anyone who has no business knowing asks me about it.
Ooh, good one. I’m going to use that.
He needs to stop talking. I’m a regular on nfl pages and he’s turning off a good portion of fans.
Not so much this. But he also previously said that God wanted his team to win a game. And just recently stated that god spoke to him after his super bowl losing interception.
His fans are starting to find him to be weird, over the top and a bit crazy/offensive.
Fans also want to know if God explained why he deserves $25 million per season (he would be the highest paid nfl player and really hurt his team’s ability to sign other players due to the salary cap)
you are definitely right about turning off fans. Seattle is fairly irreligious and the few that aren’t are quiet about it. If he played in the deep south, this might be brushed off but he’s giving off weirdo vibes.
Ugh. That drives me nuts. So God looks the other way while a child starves to death, but He intervenes when you need to win a football game. Got it.
I am one of those fans. I thought he was wonderful until he rolled out his PR and started talking about God this and God that. Just play ball, dude. And wanting to be the highest paid QB. That chaps my hide!
In evangelical Christian circles, people feel entitled to know about your sex life. My husband and I did not have sex before marriage. It wasn’t something we went around bragging about, but random people in our church felt comfortable asking (some repeatedly) if we’d had sex. We answered honestly when asked, and I think that’s likely what Russell is doing as well. Because he’s famous, his honest reply has made headlines.
Exactly! Why do we need to know? That’s their private business. I don’t care what they do or don’t do.
And why do others feel like they need to know? That’s not their business at all.
Yeah, uh, that would not work for me. Good for them though!
Someone care to give Mr. Wilson the number to the Candies foundation?
They were talking about this on morning radio yesterday. People were calling in and voicing their opinions. Most men ( all while I was listening) said they could wait if they really loved and wanted a girl. Most women said they could wait, also, but not for too long. I think that if a guy is into you, really into you, he will put up with just about anything, even no sex with the idea that it will eventually happen.
I am a big fan of Russel Wilson. Religion is personal and he can practice what he believes.
lol it’s not personal if he won’t shut up about it. He doesn;t sound better than Laura Prepon from another article posted today. In fact, I find this worse.
Why does it make people uncomfortable when someone talks about their faith? If he’s not hurting anyone by talking about it, why are people getting their shorts in a wad?
Some folks to do this after string of bad relationships like Ciara has had. I think it’s refreshing, I hope it works out for them. Hopefully dude is not hiding something because it would be terrible for Ciara to through another heartbreak.
I like the texture of that dress.
Yes, what is that? Sack cloth and ashes? Just kidding, it’s pretty.
Thank you GNAT for giving me my first guffaw of the day.
I honestly wish there were more Christians like you because Mr. NFL in the article is giving me the dry heaves.
Lol. Many Christians give me the dry heaves, too. It’s sad, because I think there are a lot of good ones out there, but you hear mostly from the barf-inducing ones.
I didn’t even notice the texture. I zoomed in on the silicone bag that is trying to run away from her chest.
I just can’t with the “Future” name. So his next kids will be Past and Present?
Eh, I don’t see why this needs to be talked about, except to highlight that having a connection with someone can happen without sex. I don’t regret having sex whenever I wanted in my early 20’s, but my husband actually put the brakes on our sexual relationship in our early dating days. I was almost petulant at the suggestion, but was also kind of relieved. We waited 4 months and then it spontaneously happened — no pressure. It was like, an adult decision or something :p
TMI
I need you to lead her? That’s kind of gross. And I liked them as a couple, so talented, so hot.
I’m just wondering why God didn’t lead him into throwing that football to Beast Mode during the Super Bowl.
If God wants him to go after as much money as possible, God should have had him audible out of that play when he saw that Kearse needed to push around the giant Browner to be able to execute the pick play
Go patriots 🙂
LOL..You two 😉
Yeah, I was kinda following him until that part. What does he mean, he needs Russell to “save” her from her wanton ways?
Yea, that’s gross.
I also don’t understand how people say that God speaks to them.
Part of the reason why I don’t go to church is because there was so much focus about feeling Jesus in your heart. Letting the spirit of the Holy Ghost move you….stuff like that.
I remember even as a little kid feeling destined to go to hell because I couldn’t feel anything.
I was with him until that part. That smacks of old fashioned misogony and I hope Ciara has sat him down and explained the 21st century to him.
Yeah I wonder of she’s gonna start dressing more “modestly” soon? Ugh
Why does the public need to know?!?
I think he’s sweet and cute, a bit crazy but in an innocent way. He seems like a very well intentioned, good person so his slight nuttiness is forgivable. Beautiful looking couple.
My warning sign blares whenever I hear very religious people talking about relatioships. Yeah, I didn’t have good experiences with any of them, because the ones I met were unable to see a woman as a human being. We were all involuntary temptresses making them “derail their path”.
“God spoke to me and said ‘I need you to lead her.’”
No, sorry ma’am… not having this. I have a problem with people who use God and religion in this way — to manipulate. Lead yourself.
Yeah, I grew up in that stuff. They always push the man is the head of the household and has to lead the family down the right path. They take it as a responsibility of being a Christian man. To me it is very offensive, as if I’m some dummy that can’t do the right thing on her own. I have to say, that is the thing that turned me off of religion.
Yep. Well the part where god doesn’t exist kinda bothered me too lol
I was wondering about that part too. Really? Lead her? Lead her where, exactly? And why does she “need” you to lead her anywhere?
She needs it cause she’s just a poor dumb woman. And where? STRAIGHT TO CHRIST, that’s where.
Yeah that part scared me. Screams of manipulation and controlling behavior.
Right? RED FLAG, Ciara!
The public should hear about this other end of the spectrum. This is rare in our hypersexualized society so it’s good to hear, refreshing. I feel bad for Ciara. I didn’t realize that stuff happened. pregnant with an ill-chosen fiancé. That is rough but I’m a fan and I’m glad she seems to be with someone who appreciates her.
What I want to know is what he means by “leading” her? Thats all.
Basically I need to stop her from doing the things she’s doing because she’s a horrible, wanton woman with no morals who can’t think for herself. Because Jesus.
lead her to his church’s ways….I live in the bible belt after moving here from Seattle and you have no idea how much these people feel like they can “win” if they bring a non believer into the fold.
Basically, sex is bad and greedy salary demands are good in church o’russell
The opposite end of the spectrum isn’t where you want to be, if the scale if from *hypersexualized* to *repressed*. Really. Extremism on either end isn’t something to applaud.
Amen. There is the middle ground. Run, Ciara.
I’m not religious at all, but I think the world would have fewer problems, fewer unwanted children, and fewer people with STDs if people waited to have sex. I’m not advocating for abstinence until marriage, but I am an advocate for getting to know a person before jumping into bed with him or her. It isn’t a surprise that women like Ciara and Ali Landry have decided to wait after a disastrous relationship. I’m sure Ciara probably wished she had realized Future was a douche before getting knocked up by him. All that being said, I think Russel Wilson’s comments are unnecessary. I don’t really like people who wear their religion on their sleeve. He comes off as a nice a respectable guy, and I’m glad he’s not taking advantage of women like so many men in his position would be doing, but he kind of went overboard with his comments and his conversations with God. I rolled my eyes when I read his comments. Anyway, if Ciara can deal with his devout Christianity, I think this relationship can really work. At least she is with a decent man after her experience with a douchebag.
“I’m sure Ciara probably wished she had realized Future was a douche before getting knocked up by him.”
Future already had 3 children from 3 different mothers. It was obvious that he was a douche and Ciara walked in that relationship with her eyes wide open. I don’t feel sorry for her just like I don’t feel sorry for women like Leann Rimes, Alicia Keys, Britney Spears etc…Don’t date a man that has a sketchy relationship and/ or babymaking track record.
Also lots of married older people discover they have STDs, it’s just less talked about. Knowing somebody for a longer period of time, does not guarantee that person will not cheat on you and bring home an STD. And I know plenty of people who have ‘whoopsie babies’ after 40. When I researched some statistics for abortion (in the UK this is), I found out that a good number of abortions are also performed on older women (even 50+), not just teenagers. Granted the numbers are much higher for other age groups but they are still there. It’s not just a thing for the young, dumb and horny.
On a last note, people don’t just get pregnant or get an STD from consensual sex only. Sometimes it’s not about waiting, sometimes people’s ability to make a choice is taken away from them.
Maybe it’s new to the UK BUT ‘older people’ such as myself have been reported here in the U.S. as a growing segment of society being reported as having STD’s. I am single and always use a condom. Sometimes it’s a deal breaker. NOT MY ISSUE.
When I was in college herpes was a big deal. Then as now people were lazy about protecting themselves from unwanted pregnancy and disease.
My mom talked to me and my brothers about our responsibilities regarding our sex lives. She told my brothers it was their responsibility to use condoms. To protect themselves. There is no reason to place that on your partner. She told them that some women will lie about being on birth control. She explained there was no excuse for not being responsible and she did it early on. As in by the time we were 12 or 13. None of us were perfect but none of us had any unwanted pregnancies or STD’s either.
Ciara always struck me as a bit Alicia Keys-ish. Ahem. Russell Wilson…hmmm. Sometimes people get together for what they think are the right reasons…see travolta and Preston.
I like that he said this sorry but everyone has sex up in their faces…all i see on the tube and buses are young women with babies talking about benifit checks.I AM NOT SAYING THIS IS ALL YOUNG PEOPLE IN LONDON. I just think its nice that people who are famous are putting another messafge out there that its okay not to rush intimacy in a relationship
They’re both super hot.
I’ve read some stuff about Wilson being a cheater and having orgies. He’s an athlete after all.
I don’t see a problem with abstinence. If that’s what the couple is ok with then it’s fine. If you really want to be with that person then go for it. Why should I judge just because they decide to wait.
I think it is great that they are waiting.They are obviously are not virgins ,they are both sexually experienced.They know what relationships are like when sex is introduced on the onset.Why not try it the other way.
Russell talked about alot of stuff during that discussion but the only thing people are focusing on is sex, as usual.
Not sure why there’s so much snark here.. Ciara usually makes bad decisions when it comes to relationships so I think it’s good that she’s waiting. If they decide to abstain there’s nothing wrong with that. Good for them.
Exactly, and the very fact that, as someone alluded to earlier, each has had failed relationships, makes it all the wiser.
There’s nothing wrong with abstaining. There’s no need to tell people what you’re doing or not doing. I don’t care for the over sharing.
That’s it exactly.
Does The Rock Church have anything to do with The Rock? I would be down for that. That’s all I’ve got on the skepticism inducing thread.
Ha. No, I don’t think so. That would be funny, though. The Rock (church) is quite… Different?
That would be entertaining!
For sure, I would be there every Sunday! 😋
best comment all year.
I don’t think they have chemistry at all from pics I’ve seen of them. They won’t make it to the altar or marriage bed.
Personally, I’m not comfortable talking about my faith in public; however, he was at a church service here and as someone mentioned above, it was nearly half an hour into the interview. It’s so disingenuous to me that many in the public arena who would justly defend people’s right to free speech, equal rights, etc, have no qualms at all in villifying Christians — although bizarrely not most other religions outside of Scientology — who speak about their beliefs. If this was some Duggar jerks it would be one thing, but this is a guy who hasn’t spoken harmfully (that I’m aware of) about anyone and, as a football fan, I do recognize he conducts himself respectfully and with extreme poise, winning or losing, yet when he goes to a church and speaks about his beliefs, he is accused of forcing his beliefs onto others. People force their beliefs on me all the time, and as their is freedom of speech and religion, I like it that way. I personally don’t care to hear anyone speaking about his or her sex life, and while I may not have personally held the same beliefs as Wilson, I respect that he does. He is certainly a good role model to young men who play the sport in comparison to so many of those who beat their girlfriends/wives/children.
Where is anyone vilifying Christians?
Who’s forcing their beliefs upon you? I’m not being snarky, I’m just curious to hear examples of people forcing their beliefs upon you.
I’m also very surprised to see you saying that “you like it that way” and then add “as is their freedom of speech an religion” as if that is an explanation.
Nobody should feel that somebody else is forcing a religion upon them and that has absolutely nothing to do with your right to be a practicing Christian. It also has nothing to do with equality, so I’m not sure why you brought that up.
How is someone speaking at a church forcing his religion upon you? Has the state sanctioned its citizens if we do not watch? He isn’t commandeering the airwaves. This was some TV show/Youtube video (I’m not sure as I only heard about it via social media) that was produced by a church for people from this “The Rock” church. I’m not a huge fan of some of his sentiments; however, I find it utterly bizarre that this, of all the truly insensitive and cruel things that are out in the universe these days, is what people choose to bash — and yes, do no more than read through the thread that continually mocks and chides him for “shoving his religion down throats,” etc. He is a notable figure in the culture and this church where I’m going ot presume he either attends or at least supports invited him to speak at their service. That is not forcing his religion on anyone, and yes, it has to do with equality! This man has a right to practice his faith — which wasn’t hurting anyone in this case — by speaking at this church just as you have a right not to watch it, and yes that is an issue of equality and freedom of speech. I will own being “snarky;” yet again, I feel the double standard is absurd. People are certainly far more than snarky all over this site time and again, yet if someone defends a Christian person who was doing no harm and certainly isn’t forcing his belief on anyone who doesn’t want to hear it. I get into SO many debates with conservatives I know who are constantly claiming that society or the “mainstream media” has castigated the Christian faith permanently and is determined to destroy the earth. I still think that is absurd, yet things like this really do give them red meat because there are many commenters here who would justly so defend other religions and atheists to be able to express themselves and their beliefs as long as no one was hurt, and some of those very same people are those who are stating that he “needs to keep his mouth shut.” In a truly free and, yes, equal society, we sometimes have to endure hearing things that offend us or maybe rub us the wrong way.
I feel like he is way more into her judging by their body language….and I love Russell Wilson on the field and don’t begrudge him his platform to connect with his religious people when he’s around them (i think this interview was in a church setting, right?)….that being said, I don’t see this going down the altar anytime soon. The fact he said he needs to lead her into the church makes me think Ciara isn’t on that evangelical level so they are already on starting out with different styles of religiousness which can cause issues.
He needs to find the female version of Tim Tebow and that would be perfect. Or just Tim Tebow himself, which would be even better
I live in Seattle and people up here are getting really tired of him. I’m personally tired of him using God as an excuse. God wants him to be the highest paid player in the NFL, which is why he hasn’t signed a contract. 1. He’s totally not worth it and 2. That’s a bunch of BS. I’m pretty sure if there is a God, he has more important things to do.
I’m convinced the Wilson is not as good as he seems and think there’s something dark and twisted lurking in him. More than a few people I’ve talked to think this way, and they are huge Seahawks fans.
Yes. that’s the vibe I get from him. From any guy who uses the same words as he did, “I need to lead her”, “she’s a 15…”
I always assumed they were abstinent in the way that Aaron Rodgers and Olivia Munn are abstinent, if you catch my drift…
But that’s none of my business, and among consenting couples, there’s nothing wrong with waiting. In fact, if you’re used to jumping into bed immediately, why not try it another way when you find someone you really like? That’s not what’s happening here, though. Not according to his narrative.
It’s just… hard to hear a man say he’s “leading” a woman by not having sex with her. If she wants to wait, fine. But he seems to believe it’s a sacrifice he’s making for God, and he’s making it on her behalf too. That’s some DANGEROUS backwards thinking there, whether it’s true for them or not. It’s a message he’s sending to little boys… “lead this poor sinful creature by resisting her flesh”. If religion matters to both of them, that’s one thing; it’s another to claim she’s so sexy he needs to be “prayed for”.
The part about being a 15 was embarrassingly over-the-top, too. Especially considering the rumors that swirl around this couple. It reminds me of John Travolta blaming Goldie Hawn’s beauty for his Adele Dazeem mistake.
I come from an evangelical background so they do this stuff all the time. However, I think I would have had more respect for him if he said, they are courting and left it at that. The first rule of leading is knowing when to respect your partner fully by keeping your relationship private. No one else needs to know what God “said” or what your are or are not doing. Stop talking about love, and be love.
I’m with you. I’m from an evangelical background and think its nice that they are choosing to wait on sex. But talking about it publicly is unnecessary and borders on disrespectful.
And “leading” in some religious circles like the Duggars can be deeply rooted in sexism, but in my experience has always meant serving, being respectful and not stringing someone along.
Why are we saying ‘good for them’? Why is ‘purity’ held on a pedestal? It should not be. Sheesh. Sex is a natural human act, not something shameful. Do I get an ‘atta not’ for sleeping with whomever I please, whether in love or married or otherwise? Look, if you want to follow this purity route, more power to you. Personally, everything he says is a huge turn off both personally and sexually. Waiting until marriage and then getting divorced shortly after is idiotic. But, hey, at least you waited until marriage to have sex. I’m sure God is awfully proud of that divorce, isn’t he? I swear…. The selective and hypocritical stance on right and wrong of most Christians is just baffling to me. No thank you.
On a personal level, I agree with you, but I still say “good for them” in the sense that I really don’t care who a person has sex with, how long they wait, their reason for getting married, whatever. It wouldn’t work for me, but it’s their choice.
Abstaining doesn’t mean you think sex is shameful. Seriously? People abstain for all kinds of personal reasons, religious or otherwise. It’s none of my business what they do, but I wouldn’t disparage them because their choice isn’t for me.
My gaydar is going off the charts….
It wouldn’t surprise me. http://www.msn.com/en-us/sports/nfl/chicago-radio-host-makes-controversial-comments-about-russell-wilson/ar-AAcHeP2
Too god damn bad he’s working so hard on listening to God say ” Keep your peen in your pants concerning your girlfriend” ….but didnt work that hard on maintaining his marriage. What!? God had nothing to say about that?
Exactly! To each their own, but saving yourself for marriage is kind of a joke when you get divorced less than two years later.
I have a really hard time judging there. Russell Wilson is supposed to be a decent human being, but it had to be very hard being married to him – not only having to share all of his focus with football, but with the city as well. I have friends that are nurses at the Children’s Hospital, where he regularly visits, and they’d talk about how his wife was basically just pushed aside by everyone trying to get to him. There had to be a ton of strain on that marriage.
To each their own. I really don’t care what couples do, but their story may be seen by some who may be uncomfortable with the idea of having sex or would rather wait and are afraid they are weird or not normal. By this story being out, some people, especially teenagers who are not ready for sex, maybe they will take comfort in knowing they aren’t the only ones out there having sex all the time.
What a joke.
Eh, I mean a long term marriage of 50 or so years usually has a lot of spots of no sex, especially if there’s an illness. Me and my husband rarely have sex, we’re youngish, it used to really bother me, but after a while of something like that being a certain way, you start to not care about sex anymore. Pretty sure I could never have sex again at this point and not care.