the photos we discuss here are on Radar Online
In this week’s US Magazine, there were long lens photos of Ben Affleck meeting up with nanny Christine Ouzounian on July 17 outside his rented home at night. Christine was driving Ben’s Lexus and we saw her enter the code to his gate. She brought a bottle of champagne and presented it to Ben, and he looked incredibly happy to see her. The embargo on the photos seems to have been lifted, I would guess that US bought the exclusive rights to run them for a few days, because other online outlets have now picked them up. You can see the photos on Radar Online. Christine is looking away in the direction of the covert photographer she tipped off and Ben is looking at her, oblivious and with a sh*t eating grin. ET reports that Christine spent two hours at Ben’s place and left.
Radar has some quotes that sound like they’re straight from Ben’s camp. While the nanny’s “sources” allege that the relationship got physical, sources close to Affleck say that the nanny was more of a confidante as Ben’s marriage crumbled. (’cause his wife nagged him, amiright?) Radar reports that an insider told them “They didn’t sleep together or get physical. When the separation happened, they started talking, there was an inappropriate meeting.”
Radar also reports on the rumor that “Affleck is also ensuring Ouzounian’s silence on the matter,” and that “she was warned that there would be severe consequences if she violated the agreement, including significant financial damages.” This woman is trying to take a page from Rachel Uchitel’s book if this is true. A press conference with Gloria Allred is next. (I stole that idea from one of you, I’m sorry. You also mentioned that this is just like Andie, the mistress in Gone Girl, holding a press conference revealing the affair while Nick’s wife is missing.)
As for the nanny’s next move, she thinks she’s playing it cool but we’re just waiting for her to pull another amateur stunt. She’s been photographed at the Hotel Bel Air, which she surely can’t afford, lounging poolside in a bikini. She also arranged to have the paparazzi photograph her leaving her house to go to the hotel. If Ben is paying her off not to reveal key details she’s not earning that cash.
Meanwhile Jennifer Garner is living her life and furthering her awesome mom image. It seems true-to-life, I don’t doubt that she’s a good mom despite how thick her pr team lays it on. A new article in People details various outings she took in Atlanta with her children. She went to Panera, the nail salon and Legoland Discovery Center. It includes quotes like she “was so focused on her little girl, she didn’t even notice all of the people looking at her,” “she is so down-to-earth,” and “she was like a supermom, taking them places and giving them her full attention.”
In the photos below, Jennifer Garner is seen out on 8-1 and the ex nanny is seen out on 7-29. Several of you have pointed out that Garner is wearing a shirt very similar to the one Ouzounian is wearing. That’s just a coincidence, right?
Photo credit: FameFlynet and Pacific Coast News
Ok I’ll start by saying he is the douche as he was the one married with kids but …
Jesus effing Christ how can anyone look so smug and happy with themselves over having an affair with a married man who has kids and is actively participating in this getting spread around for them to see. Its also painfully obvious she’s not even in love with him, this was all planned not that it would make it better but at least if they were in love or went on to have a relationship it would at least not have been for nothing.
UUURRGGGHHH!
What a trick. She totally called the paps for those radar pics. She’s looking directly at the camera
Why is she looking at the photographer??? It’s a performance for sure.
I didn’t even know he COULD smile..
In a couple of the pics it looks like he is looking directly at the photographer too.
I was thinking that when looking at them and thought “Does Ben know he is being photographed”.. because he is looking in the direction that the pictures are being taken
It looks as though she wore the same outfit for the daytime pap walk as for the nighttime assignation. Way to keep your homewrecker image consistent.
lisa2, I wondered the same…if he knew, why was he so smiley?…
then I figured that 1) the pap must have been far away with a long lens as the photos are fuzzy and 2) he was probably looking in that direction because SHE did a couple of times (like most folks do when someone they’re talking to looks in a particular direction like they saw something).
but who knows?…
I’d like to think he didn’t know and is just mirroring her. I do that subconsciously when talking to people, if they look away you tend to look, or if they check their watch you do it immediately after, that kind of thing.
@doofus.. I see what you mean.. it looks like she was making sure that the photographer got shots of her face. So there would be no doubt that it was her.
Ben is an idiot..and amateurish. A seasoned player doesn’t have a game this off point. He is behaving like a first timer; he is being played by this woman and doesn’t know how to handle it. I have said before this is why I doubt all the rumors of excessive cheating. Ben doesn’t have GAME at all.
@Ally8 – I noticed that too. You know it’s intentional. Most people will just look at the pictures and either not read the corresponding text or just skim it. (Less scandalous articles are blanketed with comments proving this.) By wearing the same outfit she’s creating this image that she was JUST with Ben.
Honestly…the pictures surprised me. Their body language is odd for “lovers about to rendezvous”, they’re very far a part. He keeps his hands on the bottle she gave him. I don’t doubt they had an affair, but at the same time their body language looks so platonic to me. It looks like she did him a favor by bringing over the champagne…but maybe for someone else?
I’m with Tiffany 🙂 on this one…
This could be sketchy as hell, or just a friend bringing over a present, or somewhere in between.
Why no photos of the two of them going inside?
Why no pics of her coming out 2hrs later?
And how do they know she “had his code”… she could have just buzzed him to come out.
Not saying he’s not a dog… and she’s not, well, whatever … but all this proves is that at some point she brought over a wrapped box and handed it to him outside his place.
@lisa2— Ben is probably looking in the direction of the camera to see what Christine keeps looking at. Totally normal reaction.
I agree with everything said here. This is such a non-story, I just wish they’d get divorced and make this nightmare nanny go away.
Agree with everything said here. His goofy smile even fades a bit after looking in the direction she was looking.
He’s an ass but I think he’s being set up by a super thirsty opportunist.
“Trick’ Oh what a great descriptor. I’d like to add “Single white female” as a precursor to “Trick” since she’s wearing the same look as Jen in the photos posted here.
and also, I’d like to somehow blame Monica Lewinsky for this.
I have to agree with Tiffany and others. I assumed the photos would show proof of something but nothing is going on. Couples pretty much great each other with some kind of affection – kiss, hug, etc. But they aren’t doing anything, not even standing close together. The photos actually make me think Ben is being setup.
@Tiffany, I agree. If those pictures are her evidence, she has no evidence. He’s delightedly smiling, sure, but where’s the contact?
For the first time, I’m wondering if he’s actually the boy who cried wolf.
Lindy
We mimic the gestures of others subconsciously to be accepted. It displays an empathetic and accepting quality.
It’s a pretty interesting action.
And agree. He’s mimicing her and likely not even aware. Not because he sees what she sees.
Her behavior is drawing all the attention away from him. Sure, people think he’s a douche, but all the conversation and criticism is centered on her. Ben doesn’t seem to be getting any more flack than he normally does.
Very true actually..
Yes!! Makes me angry.
I feel like a lot of women here identify a tad too much with Garner/the wronged wife…and the wronged wife always blames the other woman first clinging to the notion that her husband was tricked, set up, bewitched etc. It’s less hurtful for the ego.
Wow, that might be particularly of it, but I think her being the nanny is a large part of it too.
I think that says more about the people here then it does anything else.
As one point out in yesterday post the Daily Mail posters have more hate for Ben then the nanny and I found the same to be true on others sites as well.
I said at the start he’s the douche, and I feel that about any cheater. Its the one who was in the relationship who shoulders the blame.
However, not liking her handling of this since it came out doesn’t make me some insecure jealous idiot who instantly blames the other woman. The two are not mutually exclusive.
Just to clarify.
Funny you said that. Usually in cheating scandals I am all about blaming the married party and laying off the single interloper somewhat. (Emphasis on somewhat). For ease of explanation, I will use stereotypical gender roles. My rational has always been that the married man took a vow, and the on-the-side girlfriend did not and does not necessarily owe the injured wife fidelity. (yes human decency should factor into it, but again it isn’t OWED or PROMISED via an explicit vow.)
In this particular case however…….I blame both Ben (the POS) and the bunny boiling nanny. She took a job to care for the children. That is a promise to do no harm. And for that–I’ll gladly skewer her as thoroughly as she deserves. I wish I could find nasty enough words that express myself without getting me banned. But I don’t want to waste creative energy on worthless scum.
As for Ben–I’ve written him off totally as a douche bag scum that I will NEVER respect again no matter what he does. And no–I won’t knowingly or willingly spend an entertainment dime that goes to revenue that he benefits from. Pulling that crap while with the kids in the Bahamas on the trip designed to protect the family?
There is nothing more to say about those two.
I disagree. This is the worst that could happen to him, because, even if the girl is getting a lot of criticism, is not that she’s shutting the attention towards jut her, but to both her and Affleck. This is way worst than the Bennifer debacle, but we all know that Hollywood forgives and even awards cheaters, while this girl will forever be the wh*re.
I don’t see Tom Cruise because of the Scientology stuff and the abuse within the religion or Woody Allen movies because of his creepiness of marrying Mia Farrow’a adopted daughter and allegations of abuse surrounding Dylan but I am not going to draw the same line with Ben Affleck. Why? Because I’d be a hypocrite and so would anyone else that says this. You would have to stop seeing 90% of movies @ Dirty Martini. Very few people in Hollywood don’t cheat, very few. From actors to agents (Harvey Weinstein) to directors and producers, very few of them don’t cheat on their spouses. Before you start naming actors who don’t, I am going to offer this: the acting profession attracts more narcissistic people than possibly any other professor other than a politician (ironically enough they attract sociopaths at a alarming high rate).
I always knew he was an asshole, but I no for a fact he’s one. The nanny? WTF! I totally agree with Dirty Martini. It looks to me that they want the paps to see them. Why did he come out of the house, he could of stayed in and let her come thru the door. All this was done intentionally. What about his children? What will they think and how will they feel, especially the oldest one. He doesn’t give a hoot about them. I’ve never seen him smile as wide as he’s smiling in these photos with his wife/family. Assh***
I totally agree, Lindy99….He is a stupid, douche, who should be mortified that he brought all this pain to his family, but what kind of person is this woman? She looks like the cat that swallowed the canary!!!!! So proud of herself…not a bit of shame, not an ounce of sorrow for her part in hurting this family! Violet is old enough to read the tabs and hear about this…Of course, this is Ben’s fault, he was the married party, but how can this woman walk around looking like she just won the gold medal in the Ho of the century Olympic division! They both disgust me! I like that Jen Garner, is holding her head up, and focusing on her kids…It must be hard, with all this dirt being flung around….
Yeah, but this kind of girl has been happening for time eternal. Don’t worry, Karma’s a Bitch and she’ll get hers in time when the guy she’s with dumps *her* for the latest model.
What goes around, comes around for these people.
@Boston Green Eyes: so true.
Get that girl a tall drink of water, she’s thirsty as hell.
These are shameless times. Fame is the only currency, especially if you’re in LA.
Truer words …
Moral decay…
Hey, don’t knock LA! I think you mean “Hollywood”, not so much the actually place, though, as the entity itself…
We’re not all like that, and many of us, even those who work in the industry, don’t seek attention of any kind. Fame-ho’s like this disgust the rest of us, who are just as hard-working and normal as people anywhere else.
That’s all!
(*steps down off soapbox*)
Completely concur with Lindy. This times 1,000,000. 👍🏼
I have not read all the comments yet, so this might of already been said, but this woman is like the second coming of Leann Rimes.
Absolutely. She has no regard for the damage she is doing to those children. As the child of an adulterous parent who had a mistress just as selfish I can say the kids will never get rid of that childhood trauma. And it’s all played out in front of the world. The kids will be in counseling for years to come. Two despicable people. He shouldn’t be surprised if the kids want nothing to do with him when they are adults. Grosses me out.
The only irony is that is the first time I’ve seen Ben smile. He is downtrodden with the family.
I’d almost forgotten what he looks like with a real smile on his face.
He did look genuinely happy to see her.
He was happy for the booze, let’s face it. His first and only love.
The look on his face is more one of surprise to me rather than happiness to see her. It’s like, wow, what are you doing here, and you brought me a gift of champagne?!
It’s not like she has a job to go to, and she lives w/her parents. So if they were really having an affair, she would’ve spent the night instead of only two hours – talking and drinking would be my guess. Because Ben doesn’t look “up” to much else these days, besides gambling.
While maybe he’s cheated more times than even he can recall, I really don’t believe anything happened w/this nanny. It was a setup, and I’m not buying any of this BS.
Laura – why did she go with him to Vegas from the Bahamas for the celeb poker match? Why didn’t she go home to LA instead of accompanying him there? There were no kids to “nanny”?
Oh hi Christine
He is about to score easy booty. Of course he is grinning like a Cheshire cat.
I wonder what happens in subsequent photos? The sequence, to me, looks like: she drives up, he comes out smiling, she gets out smiling, box handed over, she smiles at camera, he looks in cameras direction with curiosity (smile fading?), photos end. I wonder if that’s when he realized what she was up to?
You know the photog kept snapping, so there’s a reason only this sequence is published. Doesn’t absolve anyone of anything, but I’m still curious.
Antonym, I was thinking that too! His face is all “happy happy everything is – ehh who is that over there?!?!” Can only assume the agency is holding out the pics of her going in and coming out for a bigger pay day.
Pretty much. They ‘say’ she left two hours later, where’s those photos? For all we know she sat straight into the car and drove away again after he took the booze and went back inside. No pics of her going in or out, which, let’s face it, would be the juiciest shots to get. But there’s none.
Honestly, if I was Jen, this would be the most hurtful thing to me. Even if they never did had sex (ha!). He looks so genuinely happy, so pleased to see her, in a way that I don’t recall him EVER looking with Jen. Like, wow, somehow he’s happier to see this little nobody nanny than his wife. Ouch.
I just googled Jenn and Ben smiling photos and was surprised to see several photos of him smiling at her throughout their relationship.
@Wren- You hit the nail on the head. Seeing his happiness here would hurt more than anything.
To be fair, just because something isn’t caught by paparazzi doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. And plenty of stars scowl when they’re being hounded by paps.
Am I crazy?
Sure he looks happy to see her, but he also seems really happy to see that box of booze. If you’re in a torrid affair with your nanny and you know that the wife isn’t around, wouldn’t you be all over each other — like a “hello” kiss at the very least?
I think Ben has his problems, but so far, I haven’t seen anything conclusively from these pics that reads as sexual body language between the nanny and him.
Am I crazy?
True. These photos don’t indicate anything sexual other than the fact that she’s meeting him alone at night. He doesn’t hug or kiss her, we don’t see her go into his house, there isn’t confirmation that she stayed long. I believe he has cheated on Garner in the past, but if this nanny really wants us to believe her 100% then she should provide better “proof” that she was involved romantically with Affleck.
Whatever your family set up, if your partner has a wandering eye, don’t hire an attractive nanny/manny. It’s asking for trouble….
If it wasn’t the nanny, it would have been someone else. He was looking to have an affair and she was easy access.
Someone else mentioned that an unattractive housekeeper didn’t stop Arnold Schwarzenegger. A cheater is going to cheat. It’s about opportunity. Does anyone really think he’s in love with this nut?
^This. It’s the thrill of getting away with it, not necessarily about the other party. Some people will cheat just because they can. Period
But a guy like Ben can get random with a finger snap, barely any effort required. Why bring on the drama of banging the nanny? Is he really so dumb he didn’t see this coming?
Garner is not that stupid to hire a young nanny when she’s in the middle of a divorce. I say she orchestrated the nanny gate to make him look bad and get sympathy by the media. And he totally fell for it.
Agree with BettyRose. Why sh*t on your own doorstep when you can get strange on the sly literally anywhere and everywhere else?
Oh no, not this tired trope again…
First of all, if he has a wandering eye, he will wander. This is a town full of pretty, ambitious women – he will run into “temptations” everywhere, the drugstore, the bar, his agent, a casino in Vegas…
Second, I thought he was always busy working and not at home, where the nanny was presumably working to take care of his kids, under Jennifer’s eye. If you come home and don’t have time for the wife but can ogle the nanny, whose problem is that?
Finally, like I mentioned in multiple posts, I have placed nannies all across Toronto with wealthy families. I interviewed hundreds. A lot were young, many were pretty, a few were quite gorgeous. There were also some I never sent to meet clients because they seemed sketchy – and this person looks like a poster child for the ones I sent packing. I blame the agency a bit for this mess – when you interview hundreds of people, if you are good at what you do, you can tell who is on the make and less interested in the children than their own advancement at any cost. But hey, let’s blame Jenn… Who should have hired a troll with a hump to protect her delicate hubby from being led astray, instead of blaming the two adults who broke every decency rule in the book by hooking up next to her boss, his kids, her charges.
+1
This!
I have been trying to figure out how to say this for days; thanks for saying it o eloquently.
+Infinity
@vauvery — Absolutely. My friends have had nannies who were pretty to gorgeous, but who were reliable, hardworking, intelligent and not into hitting on (even the attractive connected) dads. They had goals, focus, some had BFs; all were were respectful and mature for their ages, and they were treated with respect — nothing like this, though they were attractive. This nanny is something different. And Ben is a douche. Blame them, not Jenn.
PS: in college, I dated this great guy with two brothers. One night, we were all having dinner and they told me the story about how their father, a well-to-do business leader, had cheated on and cruelly divorced their mom — this smart, beautiful, vivacious woman with her own very cool career — and replaced her with their housekeeper/former caregiver. This woman was so far from attractive, I mean, seriously into troll territory. I met her one time before I moved. She was like, completely narcissistic, crackers, loop de loop. The mom came home from work one day and found her things on the lawn burning, had had no idea, the housekeeper was burning stuff! The father protected the housekeeper. (Later, the same housekeeper put the boys’ things on the lawn and burned their stuff. The kids were done.) The father: arrogant, entitled, self-serving mega-douche. Maybe weird attracts weird.
Exactly. And I feel sorry for the hardworking, caring, pretty young nannies who don’t get jobs because of how they look. Just cause you’re pretty, it doesn’t mean you don’t hAve morals. But as usual, it’s the woman’s fault, not the man.
@vauvert well said!
@Snowflake THANK YOU for saying this!!! I’m a nanny and there have been A LOT of “hire an unattractive nanny” comments on here (and elsewhere). The idea that I should lose out on a job I am qualified for because I am young and not a complete troll is rage inducing. You’re right, it’s not her looks that are the problem, it’s her morals.
Why do people keep acting like if the the nanny was ugly that there was no possible way he would have cheated? If he had it in his mind to be unfaithful he would find somebody. It’s not like he was homebound and couldn’t go out in the world and find ready and willing women. Constantly saying ” don’t get an attractive nanny” just looks like a subtle way of blaming the cheated on for the cheaters actions. Ben is solely responsible for his own behavior.
this. A thousand times over. An unattractive nanny doesn’t make a cheater not chest. Makes me think Garner has better self esteem than we initially thought.
I think it’s more subtle than that. Wife married a player. Then wife and player played the media. Then wife hired a player. Now nanny is playing the media as well as the Husband. Wife continues to play media. It’s all the playing and timing of playing and motivations that are a puzzle…a strange chess game where some players are making renegade or amateur moves. So, I think our reaction is more, so surprised a player nanny would be given so many cards to play.
@jinni —– yup x1000 — just read this, sorry — see my post above.
Unless Jen hired her specifically to bring about the current situation, I totally agree. And agree with vauvert that the agency is partly to blame for hiring someone apparently so unsuitable to do the actual job.
Oh enough with this shit!
Are women really that naive in believing that you can force a man to stay faithful if you do everything right?? Keep yourself looking good, surround him with ugly old women, control him, ban alcohol, parties, drape yourself over him 24-7….. Yeah it’s not gonna work.
You could look like Adriana Lima (who btw got cheated on as well) and your nanny could be the female George Costanza, and you still couldn’t force him to love you and cherish you the way you want him to.
So stop with the “asking for trouble with a hot nanny” posts.
You know what’s asking for trouble? Marrying a man who doesn’t love you nearly as much as you love him.
+ a million
Out of the 3 people involved in this mess, 2 of whom seem to be gold-plated pond scum, why are people still trying to find an angle that blames the wife? Weird.
Yep.
OT but it’s what annoyed me so much about the nanny storyline in SATC2. Charlotte acting like an insecure lunatic and the only reason Harry didn’t cheat with her was because she was gay. Not because he just wasn’t interested because he loves his wife and kids and isn’t an animal with no self control around an attractive woman.
Well said! I get so tired of this mind set. The ‘Cheerleader’ song sets my teeth on edge. Yeah, it’s a catchy tune, but have you listened to the lyrics? It might be tongue in cheek, but yikes!
Thank you @A. Key!!!!!!!
Everything you said is SPOT ON!!!! I nannied for YEARS through college, for very wealthy families. I established a great resume and before you know it, I had millionaire stay at home moms fighting over me! I have done pageants and modeling, BUT nobody cared once they got to know me. HOWEVER, I had a few moms, to my face while at the club pool, tell me try wouldn’t hire me no matter how great I was because of my looks. WTF?! It really just makes me feel bad for them….what an insecure relationship to have?! Having no trust in your husband!!! I trust my husband in a room full of VS models!!! I’m very well aware that there are prettier girls in the world, but we are with each other because we want to be. Not because I tie him up in my basement and force ugly faces on him so he thinks I’m the best in the world. Not all men cheat!!!! Who gives a flip about this nanny?!?! Focus on the scumbag-has-been! Rant out!!!
You’re absolutely right. Great comment.
fabulous comment, A. Key.
A.Key-you have it down, my friend. Amen!!
So, so true. So true. You can’t force love and respect, and at the end of the day, if you don’t have it then there’s nothing you can do. If not this person than the next one, it doesn’t matter how “lock down” you are on hiring attractive help or “allowing” attractive women (or men) to be around them.
@A.key,
You are absolutely correct in every particular. There is nothing and I mean no amount of effort possible to keep a man from cheating if he is inclined to do so.
*standing ovation*
Ben is surrounded by gorgeous young woman pretty much everywhere he goes and often he is on set with them for quite a bit including the filming kiss/sex scenes with them. If he want’s to cheat, he will cheat. Not Jennifer’s fault.
And honestly, who wants a man is not cheating only because he has no opportunities?
Yeah and AS IF the nanny was the first one.
Jen should have gone with the manny, but if some old gossip is to be believed, she might have a trouble with that situation, too.
Haa. I love how even the proven hetero hound dog of Hollywood is still saddled with gay rumors. Just goes to prove that all it takes to attract that speculation is a handsome face and famous name. So damn unfair for Danny DeVito and Steve Buschemi that nobody ever makes up man-on-man love rumors about them.
I’m sure if you scour hard enough there’s some Buscemi-DeVito erotic fanfic lurking around the deepest darkest recesses of the internet…. If not Imma bout to write some.
‘CHAPTER 1
It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…’
Come on. She is barely attractive.
I’m genuinely curious, how far does this policing go. If you hire house staff based on their appearance do you then have to ensure that he isnt surrounded by beauties at work? Afterall, we do spend vast majority of our waking hours at work. Do you ensure that your hot single friends dont spend too much time at your house when he is home? If your distant cousin needs a place to crash while her college housing is sorted, do you send her to hotel instead? Its kind of a rhetorical question because I do actually know people who do these types of things; show up to the office to check out his staff, ditch their single girlfriends and refuse to host hot relatives for longer than a night.
It must be absolutely exhausting and worst of all, it doesnt work. If he wants to cheat, he will. If you wont dump him then attempt to live a paranoia-free life until then. Save yourself from the ulcer and high blood pressure.
I am going to come to LAK’s defense here. I don’t think she was saying that Ben wouldn’t have cheated if she hadn’t hired the nanny, or that it Jen’s fault that he cheated or that you can prevent a cheater from cheating by anything that you do. I think she was just saying why put YOURSELF in the position of having to watch the attraction begin, the side glances, the abrupt ceasing of conversation when you walk in the room, the dependence on someone to care for your children while watching and hoping you’re imagining the affair. I was married to a cheater the first time around, and he had an affair with someone I thought was a good friend. She was using me to get closer to him and to have more time with him. Maybe other people are different, but I went through a phase where I was completely blind to what was happening – it just didn’t occur to me that he would betray me that way because I believed he loved me. Then I went through the hardest part – I thought I was either crazy, like he said I was, or he was cheating on me. I wanted so badly not to believe it, and part of me was still in denial. I wasn’t ready to leave. Stupid? You bet, but that’s how it was. I meant what I said when I took my wedding vows, and it took a long time for the word divorce to become an option for me. That’s where I think Jennifer was when she hired this nanny, and I agree with LAK that she should have thought twice beforehand. What everyone SHOULD do is divorce a man you can’t trust. But she has children, which complicates everything and it takes a while to get there even if you don’t have children. It’s Ben’s fault Ben cheated, but because Jen hired this woman, she had to suffer more than she would have if the affair had been out of her sight. I know, I’ve been there. So I think you all have wonderful points about cheating and cheaters – I mean that – but I think you are taking LAK’s words the wrong way or adding meaning to them that she did not intend.
Thank you GNAT, that’s what I meant. That’s why I started my sentence with ‘if you have a partner with a wandering eye’. Emphasise on the partner NOT the nanny.
If the partner has a wandering eye, he will cheat regardless, but why make it easy for them?
That’s not to say that the nanny will always succumb. It’s still going to be painful to watch your cheating partner flirt with them.
And so much for trying to overturn the societal indoctrination when all of you immediately turned to blaming the nanny when my sentence construction very clearly placed the blame on the cheating, WANDERING EYE partner.
And if you have a cheating, Wandering eye partner, and you hire eye candy for the home, you will drive yourself crazy imagining what they are upto. Creating scenerios that do not exist because you put catnip infront of the cheater. And before you know it, you are policing any situation that involves them. Whether the nanny/manny succumbs or not, it’s all unfolding infront of you and tainting your life.
As for the people dissing Arnie’s housekeeper, she was once young and attractive. Just because the affair was revealed in their mutual old age, doesn’t negate the fact that she was an attractive woman in their home.
Further, Arnie’s cheating wasn’t something he developed during the marriage. The man was unapologetic and very brazenly a hounddog. He was in several well documented side affairs right upto their wedding day, so the only betrayal that should have surprised her in the housekeeper scenerio is that he had the balls to bring up their child under his her nose. And THAT is more hurtful than the actual cheating.
I don’t agree that a cheater is going to cheat and therefore it doesn’t matter if you hire a pretty young nanny who he is likely to hit on. Even if a woman has a hard dog to keep on the porch, like Ben, it makes the situation even more fraught and embarrassing (and extra tough on the kids) if there is too much availability and temptation in the home. The lesser of two evils is he gets it on with his assistant or some other outside person than bring it into the home with someone the children know and may even like or love. When you think about the sheer volume of celebrity/nanny hookup stories It is fairly staggering and it’s always way more excruciating, hurtful and embarrassing than cheating even with co stars or other outsiders because of the children. In that situation I’d probably want a manny, an older lady with strong religious values, or a committed lesbian,
@LAK it may not have been your intention but there have been a lot of comments along the lines of hire an unattractive nanny/don’t hire a young nanny etc. so I think that’s what people are responding to. (This is the only place I’ve seen arguments against that, it seems to have snowballed, apologies if you felt attacked.)
My problem is with the “it makes it easy for him” comment. This assumes that if Ben wants to sleep with the nanny he gets to. Sure, I’ll believe that if the nanny is attractive he’s more likely to be interested, but that doesn’t mean she’s going to reciprocate. Whether she gets involved is determined by her morals, not her looks. The problem isn’t that she’s attractive, it’s that she’s an asshole.
Then let me rephrase that, if you have a partner with a wandering eye (and you know he has a wandering eye), then BREAK UP WITH HIM.
Don’t prolong your misery by living in denial and sparing yourself the pain (unsuccessfully) by not giving him the opportunity to cheat right under your nose, rather by making him cheat far away so you will “suffer less”.
Though if you ask me, there’s no less or more suffering. If he’s boinking another woman, it will hurt you, no matter where or who it is. You will suffer no matter how “hard you make it for him to cheat”, and clearly there is no trust at all if you know he has a wandering eye and you are avoiding attractive nannies. I mean, what kind of a relationship is that?!
And I don’t blame the nanny, I blame him. He should have known better. Shameless nanny is just making the most of this cash cow and riding her 15 min of fame like there’s no tomorrow.
For some reason in all bens pap photos, he is always carrying a large box. That’s all I got. Oh and the nanny is great gossip.
Well yeah he’s be with a box…(snicker)
It must be a present for the nanny….you know that song “A dick in a box”…lol
He is waiting for Jen to descend on him with a boxcutter like the scene in Gone Girl…
I was just thinking that not too long ago it seemed like the Ben/Jen divorce was losing steam in the press. Especially after Blake/Miranda announced their divorce.. Now here is the Nanny and this is not going away any time soon.
Regarding the pictures; he does seem so happy to see her. I have never see him light up like that with Jennifer. And why did she have the code. She could have buzzed the place and he let her in. She is driving his car too.. What was the Champagne for.. What were they celebrating.
I was giving Ben the benefit of the doubt.. but now this looks like it looks.
“I have never see him light up like that with Jennifer.”
People love to talk about how miserable he always looked when he was with Jen but that’s just not true. A quick Google image search and you’ll find tons and tons of photos of them smiling at each other like love-sick puppies.
http://static.entertainmentwise.com/photos/Image/515066e94d3bf1364223721.jpg
http://styleandbeauty.cult2.net/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Jennifer-Garner-and-Ben-Affleck.jpg
https://seraphinababy.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/jen-ben.jpg
http://www.lovebutblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/jen-n-ben.jpg
I just don’t believe that he never loved her. I think he really did, until he didn’t anymore.
I never said he didn’t love Jennifer.. And yes at the beginning of their relationship I saw that (a couple of the pictures you posted are from very early in their relationship).. but in the last few years no. I’m taking about him looking at her with glee.. and I didn’t see that
That being said I do think he loved her and probably still does on some level.
I agree with you. They were obviously in love once.
+1 I’ve seen a lot of comments on here that Jen was always in love with him and he never loved her and the only reason he married her was for his career. But, I just don’t believe that. I think he loved her as much as he is capable of. Unless he does some serious self-improvement, he will never be happy long term no matter who he is with.
No I know you didn’t say that. I just meant that people in general tend to use photographic evidence to prove that he never loved her, but ignore the photographic evidence that shows that he did.
Anyway, I’m not one to put a lot of stock into photos anyway.
I was thinking about how if people were snapping pics of my boyfriend and I walking around Portsmouth this past weekend, we probably wouldn’t be smiling and looking lovingly into each other’s eyes. After the long drive, I had to pee and was cranky and both of us were starved so no smiles were to be had. Yet we do very much love each other.
Bingo, Kitten.
Heh I’d forgotten about that. Still, that would hurt a lot, seeing your husband looking at another woman the way he used to look at you.
So well said. I think he loved her too. I guess with men like Ben they only love you until real life sets in and the high wears off.
I felt kinda sad looking at those pictures.
Well, if he’s like Don Draper…
Then as the jilted Faye once said: “I hope she knows you only like the beginnings of things!”
Or maybe Betty said it best: “That poor girl, she doesn’t know that loving you is the worst way to get to you.”
There was love there, but Jen was absolutely blinded by it.
None of this seems like a smoking gun to me. There are plenty of other reasons why a nanny or a friend might have that code. We really need to see how this plays out, all this is too strange and unsubstantial. Smiling doesn’t mean sex partners. I’ve had experience with a delusional person who made such things up in her own head, so I’m not so automatically trusting of the story she spread to her friends and/or family.
I’m with you on this one. This could be sketchy as hell, or just a friend bringing over a present, or somewhere in between.
Why no photos of the two of them going inside?
Why no pics of her coming out 2hrs later?
And how do they know she “had his code”… she could have just buzzed him to come out.
Not saying he’s not a dog… and she’s not, well, whatever … but all this proves is that at some point she brought over a wrapped box and handed it to him outside his place.
Same here, jwoolman.
What I’ve JUST realised is… sure the photos can be construed as pretty damning. HOWEVER, wouldn’t the really juicy photos be either of her going into or coming out of the house? They claim she was there two hours but there’s no proof despite her ‘allegedly’ (she so was) setting him up for some good shots.
She brought the paps to their “clandestine ” meeting! He is so dumb!! He is soooooo dumb!
The various scenarios proposed don’t make sense. He acted friendly but not like a lover in the photos. She acted friendly. Why did she call the paps if they were still friendly? That seems more in line with a “nanny trying to make $ before it’s too late” scenario.
Man, he has a thing for ugly shoes, doesn’t he?
Shooting Garner’s shoe collection into that heart-shaped butt pimple on Pluto should be National Priority No. 1.
The nanny has ugly shoes too. Maybe it’s a fetish.
Snort.. I have nothing to that, perfect.
oh, that made me laugh
@Abbott — spit take!! Gah, but, hilarious.
Never saw him smiling like that with his wife.
That’s all I have to say.
True 🙁
Not true. Google pics. They’ve looked plenty happy in the past.
I don’t think the nanny cares about being paid off; I think she has ambitions that go well beyond a check to keep her quiet. Way to go, Ben.
And the stuff about ‘yes she came over with champagne late at night driving his car, but they just sat around and talked’ -? Really?? How stupid does he think we are??
Oh boy!
Yuck, he’s gross. I knew he was a little TOO perfectly cast as Nick Dunne (who I also hate as a character, I was team Amy all the way even if she was a sociopath – the “cool girl” monologue is so profoundly true.)
In the movie,Nick Dunne is maybe a cheater ( so a douche for you) but i don’t see how you can be #TeamAmy whereas Amy is a sociopath ,a liar,a murderer and the worst nightmare for all who fight for raped victims and beaten women .
Seriously. Amy was the worst character ever.
Gone Girl was all about symbolism. Nick represents society, Amy represents the insanity of trying to be perfect and worthwhile in the eyes of society. The entire cool girl concept is expectations about the worth of women. Amy was only worthwhile to Nick (society) when she was pretending to be low maintenance, looked pretty/thin, was okay with being a doormat, always eager to please sexually, and never assertive about her own desires.
I continue to be baffled that so many people didn’t see the bigger symbolic picture and still look at the book and film as a procedural.
Yup. I was #TeamNobody in that movie.
LOL. I’z dumb. Me not get fancy deep movie stuff.
I get it. I’m a huge Fincher fan and I know that he always explores the same types of allegories, sometimes with success and sometimes, not so much.
But really, all the symbolism in the world couldn’t save that movie.
Oh, God, yes. I *hated* the Amy character. But what I hated more about her, and the author for writing her, is that now normal guys are pointing at a fictional character and saying “see! Women are like that!” No joke, my ex-husband used the Amy character from Gone Girl in our custody hearing to claim that all my careful documentation about his abuse were lies, and fabrications. And the evaluators let him.
It’s honestly that bad for women out there, that a fictional character can be used against a real women and witnesses (also women) to discredit her story.
@Dena: I’m so sorry. Is there somewhere you can go to complain about the evaluators? They need to be fired.
I hate this book and the character as well. Not on the same scale as Dena’s experience but I hate it because now it’s being used by other women to put down women for having interests that are typically male dominated or acting in some way that men would like (see any JLaw thread). I’ve gotten called a CG to my face because of my alternative music interests. I don’t carry a purse, I carry a messenger bag with pins and patches on it and I wear a lot of band shirts in my free time. I’m instantly a cool girl because I guess it’s impossible that I genuinely like these bands, and god forbid want to show it . I hate everything about CG to the point of tears. And I hate the hypocritical women that shame me for my interests and then call themselves feminists.
@Dena
Yes! I have overheard men I don’t even know talking about Amy “the psycho bitch”. Let me tell you what really bothers me about this. Statistically, men kill wives and girlfriends so frequently it barely makes the paper. If a woman kills her partner, (Jodi Arias), it makes national headlines. And why? Because it is so out of the norm. Alex from Fatal Attraction and Amy Dune are pretty rare in real life. Men who stalk, murder, beat up women are the norm. Yes, I said norm. Maybe not the majority, but no one is surprised when men murder women. And before I get called a man hater, look up the statistics. Numbers don’t lie.
Sorry for the rant. It just irks me when I hear men use the term “psycho bitch”. And the Amy Dune character and Alex Forest are held up as examples. Guess what! They are *fiction*. Real life Jodi Arias’ are unusual.
Okay, I will step off the soapbox. This rant was not aimed at anyone here, just needed to get that off my chest.
I have to admit I was team Amy up until the point where she murdered Doogie.
“Who would believe you now Nick?”
Because Ben is a dude, he will keep on making movies and no one will give a damn – just like Sandler keeps dropping flops yet they still give him chances. The nanny won’t get anywhere with this mess. She is dumb as rocks – any chance of becoming official girlfriend is gone, and she was with Ben only of r two minutes, not long enough to become a D-list celeb in her own right and parlay it into more.
The only one coming out of this looking good is Jennifer and I say good for her. It doesn’t take away the private pain – we all agree that in this relationship she put up with a lot because she was the one who loved more and tried harder – but she can walk from this with her head held high, and in twenty years when her kids look back, they will see clearly who was the douche and who tried to keep the family together. (Yes, I know, Jen dumped her exes. Big boo hoo. This is not karma and is not fair, she and Ben have been married a decade and have three kids. In my old fashioned book hurting little ones with selfish behaviour is way worse than deciding to break an engagement or even a short-lived, childless marriage because you realized it was over or you fell in love with someone else. Not perfect for sure, but nothing like the incredibly cruel behaviour Ben has been displaying. Your children’s nanny?? FFS Ben…)
She is probably making some dough now, getting paid off by the tabloids. Likely more than she made as a nanny, but it will be short-lived because Ben will move on to someone else, and then no one will care about the nanny. She’s getting while the getting is good. Hopefully, she has a savings account.
I wouldn’t be surprised if Ben has already moved on………why date someone that thirsty when you can get private and discreet strange?
^^^^agree with vauvert 10000%
Why should this affect his career though? His personal life should have nothing to do with his films.
Sure didn’t hurt Tom Cruise. All that negative publicity from Going Clear and the other CO$ stuff and Mission Impossible is a hit. The man was basically shown to be just short of a slave owner and crazy as a loon, but it did not matter.
Cruise’s publicist just told everyone not to discuss it and the press didn’t. He is very popular with the entertainment press, so they gave him a pass. So, I am sure Affleck’s publicist and the Batman folks are taking clues from how Tom did it and this will all be off the front pages or at least not a big subject when the film comes out. Affleck has two Oscars, so I am sure they will steer the conversation just the way he wants it.
Jo, Have you never boycotted a business for something they said or did? Would you get a new dentist if you found out s/he liked to hunt big game with a bow and arrow? These are the same reasons some will boycott BA. And I boycott all of Woody Allan and Roman Polanski’s films because of the way they have conducted their personal lives.
Maybe it will. Affleck is not that good at playing the game, like Cruise or other, he barely smiles (expect at the nanny, it seems) so I think he’ll disappear until the Batman promotion will keep him busy. I’m curious to see how he’ll behave himself and what he’ll do/Say, he’s not that much of an entertainer.
Also, I’m boycotting his Batman movie, because for me liking the main actor is vital to the movie.
Comparing Ben’s actions to pedo/rapists is a huge stretch. The way some of you are shaking your torches & pitchforks at this man is over the top.
Moob hysteria or Moob mentality, right moobimif?
Ha! Kiddo FTW 😄
Mimifstein! You’re here. Yay.
mimif, Oh please, I did not say messing with the nanny is equal to messing with a child and you know it. I said that people boycott things if they disagree with how the thing’s owner or creator conducts their personal life.
No really, it seemed to me you were comparing Ben’s alleged actions to pedos/rapists lame ass big game hunters puppy killers Wall Street Bankers Monsanto and Josef Mengele. Sorry if I read that wrong.
It could hurt Ben a little bit. He have never been good at PR. Jen helped court good press for him. That is all gone now. He is a ticking time bomb. Jen is no longer protecting him and he already is in a PR crisis. And then there was the drama with PBS. Ben has always been his own worst enemy.
I feel terrible for Garner and the kids and at the same time I’m laughing my ass off because oh my God, Ben Affleck is the dumbest person in Hollywood. This is so old-school douche-y, I wonder if he’s called David Beckham or Jude Law yet.
And who is running Affleck’s PR? This is some amateur sh*t, admitting only as much as you have to, bit by bit. And every time, the nanny shows them that maybe if they keep denying it, there will be new sources or photos. I would not be surprised if there was a sex tape. HOW DUMB ARE THESE TWO PEOPLE???
So agree!! Better hope he was wearing a condom. But he is so dumb as well as self destructive, and she is so thirsty, and a bit crazy–pure bunny boiler, so who knows.
I agree. In addition to being a petulant man-child, I have always found it hilarious that Affleck thinks of himself as some kind of intellectual. (I guess he convinced himself that the ability to talk loudly over other people makes him the smartest person in the room.)
What a moron.
The biggest thing I have learned out of all of this is that BA is a huge idiot.
In just a matter of weeks I have gone from finding him attractive to finding him pathetic. I laugh when I look at him now. Move on Jen. He is no prize.
I don’t necessarily think he’s an idiot. I’m convinced his life is such a mess because alcohol, drugs, gambling and/or sex addictions are controlling his decision making. Oh, and I almost forgot. His dong gets a lot of say too.
BA reminds me of the Jack Russell terrier who chased a rabbit right over a cliff. The difference between them afaik is that the terrier was not under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3167363/Tiny-Jack-Russell-Spott-survived-chasing-rabbit-cliff-falling-120ft-sea-below.html
They may be a good match in the intellect department.
I don’t understand his camp’s statement, which claims nothing physical, yet there was an inappropriate meeting.
My head is spinning trying to decide who is more despicable – Ben or the nanny. He is dumb and despicable, but she is manipulative, dumb and despicable. Without taking anything away from his stupidity, ego or sliminess, I still think she wins.
Not that we have to decide but I think the person with a spouse and children always wins that battle. And let’s not forget they’re both pathetic as well.
+1. As far as we know she was/is (snark) single during the time this all went down. And he had been separated from Garner for months.
If at all, he is the one who is more despicable, as he was still legally married with kids.
Yes, I considered that and as always, you make an excellent point. So he wins for the cheating, definitely. I just think she is maximizing another person’s pain (Jen) for attention at this point. It’s so cruel. And pathetic.
Oh she’s an awful person, no doubt. She doesn’t consider the wife’s feelings and especially the kids’ feelings at all. Selfish doesn’t begin to describe her and like I said, no need to choose. It’s just that to me personally, the person who made that commitment will always be the bigger a**. If they were my husband and nanny, I’d be more hurt by the person who had three children with me and asked me to spend the rest of my life with him rather than the person I hired a few months ago.
True and good points. Ok, Ben wins.
He’s more gross cause he’s screwing the woman who you would hope you could entrust with your children. She’s a tacky twat but the betrayal on his part has so many layers to it it’s depressing. Have fun explaining that fun little fantasy when your daughter comes home from school on her first day of school crying cause some students taunt her for having a who’re of a father, Ben!
So many levels of sordid, the lowest being when his adult children read about this sorry episode. “Lucy….you got some ‘splanin to do!”
That’s the worst part- your kids are going read every cliches,sordid detail one day! And what’s worse, his kids are going to be confronted by other kids about it cause kids can be cruel. Ben’s a total ahole of a dad.
I find it unbelievably disgusting that Jennifer Garner effectively gave up her career (at one point she was a hotter commodity than he was, post Gigli and the JLo debacle) to marry this a-hole and spend a decade raising his children, while at the same time helping to rehab his image and support his career comeback. And this is how he repays her?
And PLEASE don’t anyone say “Jen is no saint” yet again. By all accounts she is a decent person. Who cares that she was married before? I hate this whole gold-digger-soccer-mom narrative, that overlooks the fact that when they got married, her career was on fire and his was in the toilet. He was also well known as a douchebag even then.
People just dont like this narrative of her being the saintly supermom. She cheated on two of her ex relationships and always moved on to a guy with a bigger career. She was succesesful with Alias but Affleck was an Oscar winner, totally different league. Also tv was seen as way more lowly than it is today.
And if someone actually thinks Garner sat at home being all supermommy and didnt get laid behind her husbands back, alrighty.
Scott Foley has said repeatedly that no one cheated. She just became a big star overnight and was working 14 hour days for 7 years, and I think the marriage broke down over resentment and career jealousy.
I couldn’t care less about the “saintly supermom” image, but I think she’s an underrated actor ( e.g. Juno) who has been selling herself short for years while this a-hole got to indulge all his ambitions at the expense of hers.
She was peaking when she married him and she knew it though. She was also smart to realise that she’ll never be huge. I don’t think she is a golddigger, I think she just kept dumping her guys for more and more attractive alternatives eventually thinking she can domesticate someone like Affleck. I think she was genuinely in love with him though.
Eh, I think career-wise she was already on the downslope. You won’t find a bigger fan than me of the first two seasons of Alias, then it turned into garbage and the ratings reflected that. After Alias I recall a solid turn in Juno and Dallas Buyers Club. Other than that? She did crap. She never stopped working but she did crap. Her opportunity came and went. Affleck deserves blame for the family implosion but career wise she made her choices.
I wouldn’t call it “unbelievably disgusting”, I would call it love. That’s what love is. Putting someone else’s needs above your own. Clearly Ben never truly loved Garner, or anyone else for that matter.
Actually, I think he’s quite fond of himself.
Can we take a moment to remember that Alias though awesome was cancelled, and that Electra was a bomb. She’s handled this whole thing with class -probably because she has always known Ben is a dog and isn’t surprised by this- but let’s not rewrite history. She was never bigger than Ben. Even after Gigli and J-Lo Ben was a household name and an Oscar winner and she was an actress that was hyped but mostly known for chasing Ben Affleck and dumping her husband and costar. Not far off from a Blake Lively type a few years back someone that everyone kept saying was going to be huge but was only good for gossip. Marrying Ben probably extended her career to the extent that it kept her visible and A list by extension.
Absolutely. I think for her it was just a nice byproduct at the time, she was so in love with his pretty popular boy persona, but the marriage kept her in the spotlight for far longer than expected. Let’s see if she can make a career happen as the famous ex-wife Aniston-style.
Jennifer Garner got exactly what she wanted when she married Ben. She didn’t give up her career, she kept making movies and her top priority in Hollywood was being “Mrs Ben Affleck” she loved the fame and the perks that came with that. She knew who and what Ben was when she married him, put up with his cheating for the past ten years, I’m sure there have been many more side pieces besides the nanny. Too bad for her she is being publicly humiliated by Ben and the nanny now but what she really needs to do is take that pathetic wedding ring off at long last and move on with her life. Team Kids.
I think Jen truly loved Ben….I keep thinking of her crying on the Today show a few months ago, for seemingly no reason….Just because a guy is an asshole doesn’t mean the woman dosen’t love him…I’ve seen women stick with guys with all kinds of problems…cheaters, alcoholics, etc. I feel bad for Jennifer…You can’t help who you love…
Both sides of this argument are guilty of overstating the facts. First, nobody, until the last five years, even suspected that Ben may have deserved the screenplay Oscar. We all believed Good Will was written by Matt Damon with Ben latching on for the ride. Ben was mocked by pretty much every late show and all the big adult animated shows (Simpsons, Family Guy and South Park). He had little industry cred. His acting was regularly panned too.
Second, his ticket sales were a joke. After Gigli he couldnt even be trusted to sell tickets. The next five years were filled with either failed leading roles or semi-successful ensemble roles. You just know it must have killed him to have to do Hes Just Not That Into You. His career was going the way of Skeet Ulrich, had he not been able to get his own scripts made he would probably have a failed TV show or two by now. So he may have been above Garner in the pecking order but this would still be true of the vast majority of successful actresses. Men are just bigger Hollywood commodities. Among Jens own peers, she was high on the list.
So from a gold diggers perspective, she could have done much better than Ben. I mean even Tom Cruise came calling before he settled for Katie Holmes
I don’t think she was ever a gold digger. I think she was and is a social climber there’s a distinct difference. She wanted to be part of a power couple. It didn’t matter that Ben was a cheater and a gambler etc she was willing to do whatever she could to mold him into the perfect family man and by extension she was an A list wife.
Havent seen This twatwaffle smiling harder since Oscar Campaign
I didn’t even know his sourpuss face could do that.
* falls down laughing * Yup.
His children and a puppy didn’t produce this type of smile lately, did it? But by nanny-ho, he can smile after all!
Maybe it was the champagne…
Probably. I smile like that if somebody brings me champagne.
Seriously asking….How do we know this is champagne? I just see a box…..
It looks like the orange box that Veuve Cliquot comes in. But I can’t be sure from that grainy picture.
She toooootally looks like the kind of girl men only ask over to confide in. “Inappropriate meeting” is all his lawyer can come up with? He is so screwed.
I’m baffled by the “she ended his marriage” comments. She’s a thirsty wench, for sure, but the Afflecks were already separated when this all started.
And she’s a perfectly pretty woman, so I don’t understand people who are dragging her looks. There’s plenty of stuff to bag on her for, but she’s not ugly or fat, which I’ve seen said more than once.
yep, she’s pretty. I guess they were separating because 1) he was over the marriage and 2) he cheated.. so it makes sense this story got so big, since he pushed the ‘family-man image’ right after the divorce news.
I just wrote sth similar above before I saw your comment. I also don’t quite get the drama – both Affleck and the nanny where separated/single when this happened. Of couse it’s weird that she was taking care of his kids. But maybe she seriously thought that she could be the next Mrs. Affleck?
And I agree, I saw some pics of her without the sunglasses, and she def is pretty. Garner is a beauty, but she has 0 style. She always looks soooo boring.
Well you know that women always go for looks when attacking another female they dislike. The remarks don’t have to be true, they just have to hurt. And appearance is the easiest target when it comes to tearing a woman down. And if you can’t find faults with her appearance then you attack her sexuality (slut, etc.)
Exactly. It’s still a betrayal by both of them on some level but if Ben was separated and she knew that, the relationship was probably easier for her to justify.
I cannot stand this chick but let’s be fair: this marriage was dead long before she came along.
Finally some words of wisdom. The feeding frenzy with this one is reaching biblical proportions.
It really is.
What’s funny to me are the people complaining that Ben is getting a “free pass” somehow. Yes, the comments are so full of love and support for Ben lol. He’s America’s Sweetheart, don’tcha know.
I like Ben. THERE I SAID IT. This whole thing reeks and I’m not buying any of it. Ben makes poor life choices, nanny is a –insert various insults here– and Jen is the long suffering wife. Rinse, repeat, ka-ching!
*runs from pitchforks back to Lenny’s Free Willy post*
I’ll protect you mimif—hide behind me.
I have a really strong throwing arm and a glass of Guinness next to me.
mimif, least shockingly surprising admission EVAH.
Ben is bland, Jen and the nanny are bland, story is bland. bland
And yet from all accounts that they have given to the press they were still going to marriage counseling….so separated or not….they were still legally married and maybe attempting to repair a broken marriage. All I hear when I see these types of stories is Ross screaming “We were on a break”
“she was like a supermom, taking them places and giving them her full attention.”
LOL! reminded me of Jlo (unrelated to Ben dating her before Garner) who said “i comb my childrens hair”
i wish i would be such a super mom, sometimes i think Garner even ties their shoes and asks them to brush their teeth. we all can learn something from Megamom Garner, what an inspiration.
Right? It certainly seems that Jennifer is a good mom who is attentive to her children and who loves them dearly (and vice versa), but with all of the nannies and the help in her household, she is actually the opposite of a “supermom”!
Yes, my little niece started her own business out of her basement and now has a store and along the way has three adorable, well-behaved but energetic children and gets up every morning at five so she can exercise before her hectic day starts. Her husband is very involved but otherwise she has no help. She is a super mom. I get exhausted just looking at her life, but she seems very happy.
LOL
YES Ronda I laughed at that comment. BREAKING NEWS!!!! A Mom takes her kids places and pays attention to them!!!
I can’t help but laugh at his stupid ego…man, did he get duped by the little trollop he assumed he was duping…heehee!!!
The only thing that can top this is if whatever check this trick got paid for these photos was signed by Garner herself. 🙂
In my crystal ball I see Nanny and Jen putting the kids to bed and toking it up one late night and concocting their master plan.
It goes something like: Nanny complains/confides to Jen one late night that she is not sure, but she swears Ben was hitting on her last time she had to drop the kids off at his hotel and while she knows they are at the end of their marriage, she is not comfortable at all with this cause huh… uhm…yu know…she wants to go far and all…maybe even marry a nice guy of her own… ’cause she is not the best at nannying and doesn’t want a bad rep. Jen slowly nods…breaking out into her jawbreaker smile and squinting through the mesmerizing smoke, sizing up nanny-girl’s physique ….meanwhile a plan forms at the back of her head…
And with this post it has dawned. I need a job. I have got too much time on my hands.
Ben smiling is an actual shocking sight to me.
That’s the same smile he had for Blake lively. I can just imagine what he tells these girls. He’s soooooo stupid I almost feel sorry for him.
I may be way off the mark but this girl looks like someone you’d hire if you suspected your husband was a cheater and wanted to catch him in the act. easy done because he’s so dumb.
I wish she would release the semi- intimate pictures she has of them together. Just to drive home how disgusting he really is.
The “still wearing the ring for the kids” story is insane. Not sleeping with their nanny might have been more helpful.
There was no physical contact in the photos which you would expect when greeting a close friend or lover. He smiled at her while she handed him a box. No different than when any of us interact with a neighbour, colleague or boss. She obviously set up a friend to take the photos but surely if there was anything going on he would have greeted her with a kiss? If that was their relationship she would have made sure of it. The photos make me disbelieve her story and think she’s exploiting his philandering reputation to get fame and money. I think he’s being extorted here.
These photos are only proof that the nanny is a twisted, greedy, famewhore who’ll do anything for money/attention. And she’s likely lying since her ‘lover’ greets her in the same polite manner he would an elderly neighbour.
oh come on, everybody’s knows he’s a serial cheater.
That’s why everybody believes her!!!! The lack of contact suggests she was the only one he hasn’t cheated with. She would have made a lot more money with a kiss or hug which she would have gotten if there were any intimacy to their relationship.
Whats intimacy got to do with anything? This is just sex. Many f buddies dont even kiss during the sex let alone when they meet. I suppose you think they spent the next 2 hours eating cold pizza and discussing current affairs?
@Red-Um, well intimacy is relevant because she’s telling the world that she’s having an intimate relationship with Ben. She’s not just claiming that she’s f*cking him, she’s saying that they’re in love.
These pics aren’t proof of that. At all.
I hear you. Although arent we all in agreement that she was a jumpoff and she is pushing the “in-love” story because the alternative is very damaging for her and significantly shortens her 15 minutes?
I was expecting something much more scandalous. I find it particularly odd that she tipped off the paps, but didn’t play up the intimacy angle for them…..at least a hug and a kiss or something to prove that they’re intimately involved. Amateur indeed.
Yes, that struck me too. I don’t see anything physical between them in those photos at all. He is keeping quite a distance from her. At that point anyway.
I agree with you Tippipippi, but ben’s silence on the matter is pretty suspicious.
But his rep’s comment that she was his confidante, and that they had an inappropriate meeting (to share confidences-apparently!!) certainly implies there was an affair. Why even admit to an “inappropriate” meeting otherwise? Why not just say she delivered a bottle to his house?
He looks pleased to be getting the champagne if anything. And if she was there only 2 hours – thats a quick booty call.
She doesn’t even get to the spend the night, Oh, honey, he really loves you, like you keep telling everyone. LOL
LMAO
Meh, Ben only needs 20 mins. I’m guessing when he was done, he went off to play online poker and was surprised to find her still in his house when he took a bathroom break.
Betti, if your love making sessions last for longer than 2 hours, I admit I’m jealous!
Usually takes much less time than that…
The player just got played: karma edition.
I’m probably in the minority when I say I don’t think she’s “attractive” like many are saying. But that’s beside the point – she’s ugly on the inside, as is he AND Jennifer, who is not exactly a role model when it comes to relationships herself! The only ones I feel sorry for in this sad mess are the three kids.
In Jennifer’s defense, her previous divorce and questionable relationship moves happened before she had kids. I don’t think she’s anywhere near the league of Ben and this sleazy chick.
Garner’s real mistake was thinking she would ever turn Ben into the guy she wanted him to be. When a person shows you who they are- take his or her word for it.
But Ben is her “soulmate”! That’s what Jennifer told her friends.
These people who live in LaLaland really do believe the ridiculous fairy tales in their own movies and TV shows …
I think a lot women believe a guy has changed, not because of their love but because the guy will declare that he is sick of his old life and has given it up to seek out more from life. Men are really good at this spiel. Maybe because they probably believe whats coming out of their mouths. Eventually his inherent selfishness and impulsiveness overrides noble intentions.
I can also believe that Jen legitimately thought Ben was her “soulmate” just based on how madly in love she seemed to be in that Dinner For Five episode and how long she stuck with his butt.
I’m with you Twinkle.
Like hell the relationship wasn’t phisical, who does he think is so dumb to believe that? Pf, I guess that’s karma. He tried to play the ‘poor devasted’ but so ‘hands-on dad’ and it blew in his face. Now it’s pretty clear how much he cared about his children (and I’m not saying he doesn’t love them, just that his dong has priority on them). Scumbag.
What a mess. A pregnancy would be the ultimate plot twist in this soap opera.
People just put out a story totally from what looks to be Jen’s camp – the “poor Jen” story.
http://www.people.com/article/ben-affleck-nanny-fling-ultimate-betrayal-jennifer-garner
Before you flame me, of course it’s terrible what Ben did (if he did it.) Believe it or not, I’m not pro-Ben or Jen. But even in this People story, they state that Jen always had a doubt about separating, even up to the end, and this makes it sound like it was just finding out about the nanny that finally put her over the edge. Several weird things about the story – it says they flew to the Bahamas to figure out what to do with their marriage. From all other accounts, I thought they had already decided before they went and then flew there to make the announcement. Also, again, this story implies that Jen didn’t really want to separate, all the way up until nanny-gate. See – this is and has always been my issue with her. It’s really not as simple as, Jen is the poor, long-suffering wife while Ben is just a dbag. No. Clearly, Ben has issues, but #1) you can’t make someone love you, even if you’re apparently the so-called “perfect” wife or husband. You may be perfect to the world, but maybe not to the other person. Not saying Ben is perfect either (far from it!), and 2) I’ll say it until the end of time, Jen CHOSE to remain with this man and CHOSE to continue having child after child, year after year, in spite of all of the cheating (allegations) and other issues – for years! Why do we put all the blame on Ben for that? Yes, he should have walked out years ago, but she should have as well. Is it because we’re women that we feel compelled to “side” with someone, and usually the woman? That makes no sense. Aren’t women supposed to also be strong? Was Jen just “strong” for “putting up” with this all of these years, from the beginning? Seems to me it would have taken a lot more “strength” to walk out, and she didn’t do that – until she was essentially put into a corner. So, I go back to my original feeling on all of this – her end goal has always been “Ben”, no matter what, in spite of everything that happened. I mean, she packed up her family and flew across the country to keep watch over Ben in Boston when she heard the rumors about Blake Lively – instead of leaving him. Same for Olga and whoever else. She “parented” him instead of being his partner. I can’t really pity her for that – it always takes two – she accepted the “parent” role early on and almost seemed to relish It, instead of leaving, or at least not having more kids. Maybe now, since this is so public, she’ll have no choice but to walk away.
I agree.
Think back to the rumors from their “sources” before the Ben/Jen split was announced as well as the actions of Ben/Jen:
Jen pulled Ben along for pap strolls with the kids while Ben looked miserable.
Ben’s sources said he wanted to announce the divorce but was waiting on Jen.
Jen’s sources said she had enough and wanted full custody of the children.
Though I’m still not certain that Ben boinked this particular nanny, he no doubt cheated numerous times in the past. I am pretty sure that he passive-aggressively made it so that Jen would have no choice but to finally leave him.
Once Jen had really had enough, I think she did want to make it hard for him. so she waited until the 10-year anniversary mark, forced Ben out on the pap strolls, and maybe (?) even made sure he was caught in a compromising position so that she could get full custody of the kids.
And I think that Jen wore that similar white shirt/jeans outfit the day after the nanny photos purposefully, to make a clear comparison for anyone watching.
We are all being played by a well-oiled PR machine. There is much more to this story than meets the eye.
Oh, and:
1. Jen is not a supermom – she’s just a loving mother with FAR more privileges than most other mothers. She really needs no pity – she made her own bed.
2. Ben is a selfish douche who thinks way too highly of himself and his intellect.
3. Nanny is an opportunistic POS.
Can the world handle another POOR Jen.. God I hope not
You’ll get no flame from me. I blame neither of them and both of them for their marriage problems. Relationships are complicated, people are complicated. Sometimes you desperately want something to work and you try everything you can to save it, and it’s still not enough. Maybe Jen felt like Ben was a disappointment as a husband and a father, maybe Ben felt ignored or as you say, “parented”, maybe Jen placed too much trust in someone who was untrustworthy and maybe Jen was a bit delusional in believing Ben was capable of being the father and the husband she wanted him to be. Also, maybe Ben felt like it was impossible to live up to Jen’s standards and expectations and simply gave up.
It’s weird how these gossip narratives seem to form where one person is the villain and the other the victim, when none of us know definitively what happened between these two. I have a feeling that both were victims and villains, depending on the particular problem within the marriage.
Personally, I’ve been in relationships that were VERY complicated. I’ve been with men that were amazingly great people but somehow I couldn’t get there with them, I couldn’t make it work, and I had to end things. Even though I was the one to break things off, it still hurt. It was never some happy, exciting thing like “yay! I’m finally free!”, it was a disappointment. I felt like a failure for being unable to make something work with a great guy that I cared very deeply for.
Yes the gossip is very juicy with this story, but it’s still the end of a marriage for two people.
So agree with you. It’s rarely as simple as one person is a saint and the other a villain. Even in my first marriage, where the husband was the only one who actually broke the vows and abused, I made mistakes. Mostly they were being blind to red flags and teaching him that he could get away with more and more, and handling confrontation by ending it in the easiest way, even if I ended up pretending along with him that nothing happened when something huge had happened. I’m not taking on responsibility for his actions, but they were plain to see had I been willing to look. I think people just want to take a side when it’s often, not always, but often, just a series of missteps and mistakes that add up to an insurmountable problem. Not everyone is meant to be together, and even when ou find the right person, it can get tough when you want different things.
Hmmm. I’ve read the People piece and its abit confusing. Was there or was there not a 10 month separation? Were they or were they not in counselling at the time? Anyway all I see from that article is that Ben had confessed to cheating pre-Bahamas and that Garner was uncertain about divorce. Now, it doesnt sound to me like Ben came and said “you me, divorce Monday,” It sounds like it went something like “I have failed you. Please dont leave me. You know I have issues but I need you. We can save this. Think of the babies”. I say this because obviously had he declared his independence, the line about her indecision wouldnt exist. I think he left the decision in her hands but I bet he muddied the waters some. It would also explain why he looked so crap for the first few weeks because Ben, like most people, is a complex person who may not even fully understand what he actually wants. And as for Jen, lots of couples work through infidelity, I can see why she would be indecisive especially if Ben presented the cheating in remorse. Relationships are complicated, I imagine thats doubly true in Hollywood. I would just say that no matter how complicated a relationship may be, sleeping with the woman employed to care for your children is an absolute low. I think the only thing that may be more despicable would be to sleep with your estranged wifes sister.
I don’t know, @JoJo, in some situations it takes a strong woman to stay with a marriage and work it out and in other situations, leaving seems to be the strong choice. Since we don’t know what is truly going on, or what truly went on in their lives, we can’t really guess. In my own personal situation, I have stayed in my marriage, despite my husband’s cheating early on, and despite always feeling like I was the one who loved my husband (without that love being returned to an equal degree). Honestly, I have never been convinced that he has loved me at all. I still can’t say for certain, Sometimes I think yes, a little, and sometimes I think not. I always play it out to it’s logical conclusion in my head…If I end it, I will be giving up my life that I have now that I am happy with most of the time. I would be giving up my home, disrupting my family, etc. It always boils down to — what I might gain is not equal to what I have now. So in most people’s eyes my staying would be seen as weakness or fear in all likelihood. On the other hand, I was married previously, and leaving that marriage was definitely taking the easy way out. It would have taken great strength to have stayed in that marriage. There is no cut and dry answer to the equation. So many circumstances factor in.
Ya know, I don’t think he was smiling like that out of genuine excitement in seeing her. In one of the pics he is not only smiling but his mouth is wide open, like he is laughing or excited about something. I feel like she said something to specifically MAKE him smile. Look, he is a dog. We all agree on that. No one (except Ben’s PR Team) is saying he wasn’t banging her. We all believe it happened. But I don’t read his smiles as being all about her. This is a guy that has had plenty of trysts, he ain’t getting that excited over one more.
But this chick isn’t just milking this situation post-blow up. I think her behaviour on all levels is gross. But this all seems so premeditated. Extra gross. Also– America, where you can become famous overnight for banging your celeb boss.
She *clearly* had a game plan all along. She keeps looking at the hidden photog.
If you wonder what she’s saying, think about what you say when you hand someone a bottle of champagne. “Congratulations!” A real class act.
Well Jen Garner hasn’t been able to MAKE him smile that way in years, so that’s saying something. The last time he looked so happy and relaxed was with Blake Lively.
In one of the pictures HE is smiling to the pap too! And that’s not in line with what the rumors that he was livid when he saw the paps and that’s when he dumped the nanny. there’s something wrong with Affleck smiling at the pap …
I noticed that, too. I thought maybe he looked at pap because nanny did and he looked to see what she was looking at.
Yeah. I think he was smiling at her and when he noticed her turned looking at the pap he turns his head to look at what she’s looking at while still smiling as he turned his head to look.
At what point in the narrative does he figure out that its a set up? Because I think some articles are claiming that they had a 2 hour rendezvous inside the house. Of course I wouldnt put it past Ben to figure out that he has been set up but bang her anyway for old times sake and then only after that dump her. When exactly was she dumped? Before or after these photos? Because I think I have read that she was there to return his stuff because he was done with her.
Anyone confident enough of their timelines to explain them to me?
I feel like Ben is one of those men who simply get off on women finding him attractive. Like the moment a woman shows interest she becomes sexy to him, and I wonder why that is, is it an ego trip? Either way, I think he’s gross. I think any man (or woman or person or whoever) that strays outside their marriage (without some sort of agreement) is gross. There is nothing worse than thinking your relationship hinges on when your partner needs a “pick-me-up” – as for the Nanny, she needs to take two seats. She’s making an absolute fool of herself. Looking at her pictures with her smug smile make me want to shower and lecture my husband all at the same time! She’s the psycho lady the lifetime movies have been warning us about all along. And she’s not going away anytime soon.
I think Jen is soaking this shit up. I was talking to my sister yesterday and she brought up a good point: the divorce came at the most convenient time for Jen. So that all this shit that comes out falls on Ben. As many times as he’s probably cheated on her? This is probably a walk in the park. However I find that I respect her more the more she manipulates her image, is that weird?
It’s ego. My ex-boyfriend, when I was in my 20s, and he was older, handsome, successful, used to tell me how the cute cashier had a big crush on him. He mentioned her several times after coming back from the grocery store because she did clearly have a crush. The man was southern charm personified. But he made it sound like she was this really cute young cashier. We went to the store one day and the girl was as homely as grits and no figure to compensate for it.
I realized if she had a crush on him she had to be cute in his mind. All ego.
As much as I am ragging on Ben for the horrible way he has handled the ending of his marriage, I will still always root for Ben’s career and his success. I remember how far back he has come from his career being in the toilet. He is a talented director and screenwriter and I like him in most of his movies actingwise the last ten years. Because he’s a dog and was unhappy in a marriage and passive-aggressively drug it out to the mess it is instead of manning up and ending it with more respect and class and because I’m team Jen on that part doesn’t mean I still am not a fan of Ben. I’m looking forward to Bartman v Superman and his new thriller he will be working on.
“I feel like Ben is one of those men who simply get off on women finding him attractive.”
One of those men? LOL. Show me a man who doesn’t get off on women finding him attractive! And gay men don’t count 😛
EVERY man gets off on female attention, if he’s straight. It’s just that most men aren’t handsome and rich and famous so they rarely get hot women showering them with attention.
Ben Affleck is Nick Dunne through and through.
my thoughts exactly
Not being callous to this situation, but does anyone know the brand of sandal Jennifer is wearing in the first pic? They are really cute.
the only thing i will say is that sometimes it seems like a celeb knows the paparazzi are there because they are looking in that direction, but more often than not the pap is sooo far away and zooming in that it just doesn’t make sense. I could believe the nanny tipped them off (she seems the lowest of the low) but Ben is probably obvliious
Yawn.
+1 Ben ,Jen and the nanny stories are boring. If Jen was having an affair with the nanny that would be interesting.
I’m just wondering how/why all of this is coming out NOW. Like I doubt this is the first woman Ben’s “allegedly” messed around with. And I doubt he’s gotten sloppy like this.
Can I join you on that yawn? While both of them have had successful Hollywood careers, I just never saw them as a real power couple, or that interesting.
He grumps his way around the paps while she squeezes the organic fruit again this weekend. This is the most interesting thing they’ve done. And, even by that standard, it’s more tawdry spectacle than really surprising or compelling.
LOL yes, that would be much more interesting.
They deserve each other. This chick is not backing down. I do like the similarity of outfits between her and Garner. Hilarious. You know what would be an ass-kicker? If the nanny turned up enceinte.
While I think it’s tacky and cliche to be banging the nanny, they were already split up. So it’s not like this famewhore broke up a family. Jen and Ben have been on the rocks for eons and were split up officially for months before this fling. I wonder what happened to their longtime nanny. She seemed to be out with Jen and the kids all the time and then just disappeared.
Does anyone notice the similarities on how “in love/enamored” Gwen Stefani and Jennifer Garner were with their husbands? I posted this when the Jen/Ben story broke, no one that one-sided worshiping of someone else makes it work long term ever. People get sick of the worshipping and want something more genuine/tangible. But it surely fueled their egos for a long while for them both. They both seem insecure too, but Gwen has the more I will never take my makeup off approach while Jen was just whatever with clothes/makeup.
Admiring your husband, being in love with him head over heels is certainly a risk of being heart-broken one day.
But I disagree, that people get sick of this because they want something more genuine. Please. Love and admiration of Jennifer is thousand times more genuine than some silly vain girls with no names or faces that he can finally get without having to hide.
What were they supposed to do? Not marry the man they love with all their heart, who in their eyes is the best man that ever lived? Who they want to have children with, because he is so wonderful? And then what? Would they be happier with someone they don’t love? More safe, perhaps, but not so happy. Both men were clearly very much in love, and they were enough in love to marry the girls and have three kids each with them. It’s not like nobody has ever admired them before, they were famous guys, so it wasn’t that one-sided.
I believe the real problem is the bad character, dishonesty, egoism and total lack of responsibility for your actions, your family and well-being of the ones you are responsible for. This is such a disgusting, and most unattractive, thing in a man, when he doesn’t assume responsibility. Ew.
Ben Affleck: physically gorgeous on the outside, disgusting second-to-none on the inside.
He is really into cheap women. JLo, his Vegas whores, Blake, this new slut… wow. Just wow. What a douche. How can you do that to the mother of your children? Sleep with a woman she has hired to TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS?????
Wasn’t there some other opportunistic 25 year old to bed? Couldn’t you just call Leo so that he’d spare some of his leftovers for your rebound ‘professional’?
She is not even pretty. What a low low low man. A handsome face and body is wasted on this asswipe.
As much as I hate Goop, she said his ideal scenario is a stripper as a girlfriend and a bottle of beer on the couch. I think she summed him up perfectly! I cannot imagine dating or wanting to be with someone who that is their ideal. LOL
omg, totally.
She had pegged him for what he is a decade and a half ago.
Such a gorgeous outside. Wretched on the inside. Like every middle eastern country on the map!!
Got to give Gwynnie credit for that observation, because she was obviously spot on! That’s why I’m thinking all the smiling was really for the alcohol delivery.
J-LO isn’t a cheap woman. Come on.
Oh pls. JLo is not cheap???? lol
Acrylic french nails with square tips?
Wearing modified beachwear on the red carpet?
Mink eyelashes?
Pink diamond rings?
Dyed chinchilla fur?
Zuhair Murad?????
Cheap… Thy name is JLo!
@lolavie, Dolly Parton’s exterior is cheap, but she is one classy woman on the inside, a heart of gold.
@ Jayna
Trust me – JLo is no Dolly. Dolly is an icon. A legend. I wish Ben rebounded with Dolly.
JLo is pure trash dipped in glitter.
She makes Beyonce look like Mona von Bismarck.
Dolly Parton is an exception. She plays up her cheapness and owns it. I have to agree with @lolavie with her JLO description. Her taste in men is horrible too.
+1 I can’t believe someone would say that about J-Lo. Just because she has “hood” or hip hop associations? She’s a legend at this point. A legendary beauty and a legendary performer. Can’t sing and never could, plus her dramatic acting Is laughable at best but she’s a decent comedienne and a stellar dancer. Oh man I can’t believe I’m sticking up for Jennifer Lopez here
I’m having an unusually strong reaction to her (the bad-boundaries babysitter): total loathing.
🙂
He’s thrilled to see the alcohol not the nanny!
MrsBPitt says:
August 5, 2015 at 10:16 am
“I think Jen truly loved Ben….I keep thinking of her crying on the Today show a few months ago, for seemingly no reason….Just because a guy is an asshole doesn’t mean the woman dosen’t love him…I’ve seen women stick with guys with all kinds of problems…cheaters, alcoholics, etc. I feel bad for Jennifer…You can’t help who you love.”
I so agree. And Jen crying on that morning show was really around the time of the real split. Ten months was thrown around by Ben’s camp,which no one believes, but Jen’s camp threw out several months, which would go back to the spring when Jen was filmed in that interview.
I believe she broke down when speaking about her mom and sisters because she was in the most fragile part of her life, the marriage ending, and her mom and sisters had been there big time for her and she got emotional when bringing them up and tried to cover on the reason she was crying. I’m sure her mom wasn’t feeling good, but in hindsight, it’s clear this was around the time of the split because after that Ben didn’t spend her birthday with her. They were separated I believe. She couldn’t hold back the tears.
For anyone who hasn’t seen it, here it is, from back in March.
When she was discussing the movie and what regrets you have looking back over your life, what was the road not taken, etc., I feel it got to her because she was in the midst of her marriage truly ending, and she is so close with her sisters and mother. It was hard to watch as she tried to hold back the tears and not cry but couldn’t stop. I felt Savannah was very kind to her because she knew Jennifer was embarrassed.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1TQGYxkHwpU
She looks like every other basic girl walking around my town. Really? This is the best he could do? My brother dated a version of this girl every year or so in college then married prettier.
One thing I noticed about that top first photo of Ben is the same thing I’ve noticed about him for a long time. He is working the grumpy Kristen Stewart face. Have they met?
This guy is a piece of sh*t and to me, he has always been the less talented half of the Matt Damon/Ben Affleck duo. The fact that Matt’s career took off while Ben made flops like “Gigli” speaks for itself.
I believe the only reason Ben’s career got anywhere in recent years was because his marriage to Jennifer Garner helped his image. Now that he appears to be a philanderer, we’ll see how far he gets in the future. This guy has never had any kind of exceptional talent, so this really might be it for him. Has there ever been a more contested Batman? Almost all of his movies have been failures with critics and audiences, and although I actually liked “Gone Girl,” his role could’ve been played by anyone because he really brought nothing special to the role. I feel like he still rides the coattails of the success of “Good Will Hunting,” and that movie and Argo are the only things worth talking about that he has been a part of.
After America has seen his wife running errands looking like a doting mom with their 3 adorable children, people are going to immediately think he’s scum for cheating, especially considering how fame-hungry this nanny is. Just another trashy dude who was thinking with his d*ck.
You are wrong. Ben is very talented. You have completely left out his directing career.
His direction of Gone Baby Gone and the Town were really great and got great reviews. I was so impressed. The Town was a success box office-wise and made a very nice profit for the studio. The guy showed right then with two back to back movies that he had huge promise as a great director. He co-wrote both screenplays based on novels for those movies. And I thought he did a fine job acting in the ensemble The Town also. He did a great job directing Argo. I thought he was great in Gone Girl
How anyone could say Ben is not talented is beyond me. He is at his peak and offered Batman because of that. He had the clout to say he would take it if he could direct and co-write the next one. They gave it to him. And to see the comic book fans happy with the news that he is directing the next Batman says a lot. It’s a hard bunch. He is that respected as a director.
He came back big not because of Jen, but because his work product has produced profit for the studios. You are only as good as your last project. Argo cemented everything for him as a big player and then the hit Gone Girl put him also back in big box office as an actor. He now has to capitalize off of that. The trailers for Batman v Superman look like he pulled off the role of Batman, which many were worried about, or at least it looks promising that he did. The fans seem to be coming on board now with him as Batman because of the trailers.
Jen was his stability, whose support was very helpful to him, but Ben was going to come back anyway because of his directing ability.
You’re right, I was wrong. I did completely forget about his directing. I don’t personally like his acting, though. I feel like he’s one of those actors who plays the same role in every movie. That’s just my opinion though.
I don’t get it when people say they won’t watch such and such person on screen or support their projects because they cheated on their spouse. Like REALLY? I don’t care how a-holeish you are, how many people you cheated on, etc……if you aren’t Roman Polanski or Woody Allen, and you make good movies, I’ll watch you. I may talk shit, but if you make something worth watching, I’ll watch.
I won’t watch Tom Cruise because of his involvement in scientology, but IMO he hasn’t made a worth while movie to go see since vanilla Sky/Eyes Wide Shut anyways.
What a title on the Daily Mail to their latest story on the triangle. Too funny.
“Inside Ben and Jen’s life after the ‘ultimate betrayal’: Batman star laying low in Georgia while ‘disgusted’ actress ignores his calls… and the nanny’s living it up in Bel Air hotel.”
The nanny living it up at Hotel Bel-Air cracks me up.
“Jennifer Garner is so ‘disgusted’ at her estranged husband Ben Affleck’s behavior she’s refusing to answer his calls or respond to text messages.
The actress, 43, who’s currently filming Miracles From Heaven in Atlanta, only communicates with the Batman V Superman star about matters directly concerning their three children, Us Weekly reported Wednesday.
Meanwhile, Ben has retreated to his secluded plantation-style property near Savannah, Georgia, while the couple’s former nanny and Ben’s rumored love interest Christine Ouzounian, 28, is holed up at the swanky Hotel Bel-Air in Beverly Hills.
“Rumors of a romantic relationship between the Argo director, 42, and the nanny, who was only hired this spring to work for the Afflecks, are said to be the last straw for Jennifer, who now wants nothing to do with her husband of 10 years.
‘Discovering the extent of Ben’s relationship with Christine completely changed things,’ a source told Us Weekly.
The publications says it prompted the Alias star to revoke her previous offer to let Ben stay in a guest house on their sprawling Pacific Palisades property that’s the family’s main base.
‘She will facilitate him seeing the kids but other than that, she is finished,’ another insider told the publication. ‘What happened with Christine is the ultimate betrayal.”
And who is paying that hotel bill? I know some have speculated Ben has a crash pad there (rented for an extended period), but it seems ridiculous that she would be allowed to stay in it — or that he would foot the bill for another room.
Maybe her parents are wealthy and don’t want the paps on their doorstep. Who knows!
Edit — Saw your post downthread. So he’s supposedly paid up for three months. Interesting.
I’m really beginning to question who’s paying for the hotel holdup now??
Judging(yep, don’t deny that’s what we’re all doing here) by the pics on radar, & her infamous debut papp stroll, nanny looks like THIS is her bestest, prettiest outfit!
BA is now just one huge walking cautionary tale for any woman or man who thinks they can go into a relationship and change their SO on some significant level. 9 times out of 10, you can’t change them, and you will end up getting hurt. Although, even given his reputation, this fellow surprised everyone in publicly exhibiting just what a massive crackhat he really is in front of not only millions of strangers, but his own children. I can only imagine the pain these children must be feeling.
Also, a tryst with a nanny? Pffft. Not exactly an original narrative, is it, Mr. Oscar Winner?
I have a few friends who married a man and had kids with someone they thought they could change. Guess what happened? They are miserable and one of them the husband pees the bed he is such a bad alcoholic! But he will change.. and she needs to stay for the kid’s sake; they need an intact family etc. It is scarily common and disgusting because these charmers get women at their most vulnerable (my one friend has huge self esteem issues). She will never leave him and it saddens me. Life is too short to put up with such bs.
Thirsty as a dry sponge.
Just putting this out there- but what if it was the Nanny that called the paps in the Bahamas….
WHY has no one mentioned this interview yet!? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GDEz_TCK1Z4 He practically molested that woman, and mentioned the janet jackson incident, used the R word and looked as if he was high. Gross. Funny, but gross.
Well, that was interesting. He certainly is happy handsy when he appears sauced, isn’t he?
I think this is all one big farce to cover up the real reaons, which are–he’s been cheating, drinking and gambling too much and it finally hit the boiling point.
I think you might be right. I’m not sure Ms Ouzounian is aware of this or is just being used, but it definitely seems like this, and it seems to be working. And I don’t like the diversion.
I wish Jennifer will fall in love again, and love her man even more than she loved this messed up manipulating egoist, because he will be more deserving of her love and admiration. She is such a good woman, absolutely charming and kind. She has to be loved so much more than she was in the last 10 years. You can practically see it in her eyes, the lack of love received and the broken heart. What an awful person one has to be to break a heart of such a sweet woman? And keep breaking it.
Finally someone else said it!!! I think so too. All of this is very suspicious to me. These people are so influential, they have so much power and savviness when it comes to controlling their image. I don’t believe any of this, it is a sham. Open your eyes people!!!!
Not saying this happened, but how crazy would it be if Jen paid the nanny to out Ben?
Make him look worse in the public’s eye but both working together to do it?
Maybe I’m just..crazy lol
I was thinking the same thing!
I feel bad for Jennifer Garner. I’m not a fan of her or Ben Affleck, but for some reason I remember a comment reportedly made by her when she and Ben first became a couple. She said something like, “I’ll be having a rough day, and then here comes Ben with that big ole goofy grin of his.”
The nanny claims (through ‘sources’) that they went into the house for two hours. Why no photos of her going into or coming out of the house? Only one reason; because she didn’t.
The big smile Ben had on when the car pulled up, before she even got out, is so telling. He had a big old smile going, all happy to see her.
Could this be true? I know In Touch is rarely true.
“In Touch magazine published photos Wednesday of Ouzounian poolside at the Hotel Bel-Air, wearing a black bikini and texting on her cell phone.
In other pictures, she is seen enjoying drinks at the hotel’s outdoor bar.
A friend told In Touch that the Hollywood movie star is covering all of the bills and expenses and has given Ouzounian ‘spending money for at least the next three months.”
She set him up and sold him out, unless he was in on this to extricate himself from Jens control (possible but unlikely) then he’s ghosting her right now.
I agree. In Touch Weekly is a rag mag that is always fluff and cut-and-paste stories with a real get every once in a while.
I thought for a second maybe she had him bamboozled into believing friends of hers she confided in set this all up and she loved him and would never set him up for a payday. But I don’t think Ben is that stupid.
Especially, given Life and Style has clear photos of her by the pool, obviously they were set up and paid for. That ex-nanny has to make money somehow. Still setting up and selling photos. But he might have paid for three months of rent and living expenses trying to shut her up, thinking she will be an honorable ex-nanny-ho, and stop, but she is still selling out.
Get a job, you little wannabe. Your days are numbered. But she’s become Ben’s worst nightmare, because she won’t go away. LOL
http://www.intouchweekly.com/posts/ben-affleck-and-jennifer-garner-s-nanny-if-you-dump-me-i-ll-sue-66059
I just saw that Jayna. Ben is a tool. I know some of you don’t like JG and you feel this is her penance for sticking out for him for 10 years and having his 3 kids but no one truly deserves this humiliation and it is very public. She was wronged and didn’t deserve the hatred. I have said before, i don’t see anything wrong with being ambitious. I don’t think she is a social climber. She works even though they are small roles but they are solid films and i am glad she never stopped working. What if she is calculating or manipulative, aren’t we all? She has to be because Ben is a big dbag . Imagine dealing with him for 10 years!
I am not going to apologize for thinking this woman is a piece of crap. Yes Ben is a bigger one but it’s not an either or. He deserves the lion’s share if there was an affair. She took no marital vows and he did. He also brought his behavior directly to his home and children. Thsts 100% on him. But she knew he was married, she was in a position of trust within the home and especially with the way she is flaunting this in Jen’s face so soon after the separation. That is cruel and trashy.
The “Cheating with the Nannie” allegations are perfect timing for Batman vs Superman. He could be a cheater but this is really reaching.
Or, Ben is loving this scandal because JG has no other choice but to divorce him. He took it to a higher level so JG will give up. If so, poorly done on his part.
Batman will still make money and he will still be a good director. He will start filming Live By Night in November and could be an Oscar bait .
Ben Affleck is a fraud and he reminds me of a scumbag politician. Jennifer Garner is fake too. Taking a photo with a cancer kid to make her look like an angel to the press.
This woman though should be ashamed of herself for walking around in front of paparazzi with a smug smile on her face. Whatever happened to morals? Feeling remorse? There are kids in the picture.
This whole situation is just embarassing and Ben Affleck is such a screw up and an idiot. He has never fooled me.
You can call Ben whatever but Jen is on a different league. Ben and his people, tell lies. He is with the nanny. They can’t even get their story right. Lots of contradictions but we know he is with the midget nanny. At least with Jen you see what you get.
You know what I don’t get? Why was Ben looking so depressed and like crap the days after the divorce was announced, he looked like he was gonna kill himself, little did we know that he was already in a full blown relationship with the nanny for months… it’s weird, at comic con he looked downright depressed, almost suicidal, if it was all an act, then he’s a better actor than I thought because he had me feeling sorry for his ass for a minute, now I’m back to full on hate again.
I really worry about Jen though, no one cares about her in all this… everyone is interested in Ben and the nanny story, again Jen is a bystander in her own divorce, playing second fiddle to a midget nanny, so sad. Jen’s career is going nowhere, that christian based movie she’s shooting is not the right comeback vehicle if she wants to jump start her career, hopefully the other movie Nine Lives will be somewhat promising for her, but I think that Jen will be forgotten, soon to be C list actress, she’s 40, roles for an actress of her limited talent and age are few and far between, I’m afraid she’ll struggle to get decent roles and then ultimately will be forgotten. Meanwhile Ben, the cheating, d-bag, narcissistic, selfish prick will continue to reap success and marry the nanny, maybe he’s in love… sad for Jen, life isn’t fair sometimes, thank God she has her kids.
@JETS I completely agree. Always have. Jen’s never been a big, big star & we’ve all just witnessed where she’d be in the past 10 years if she wasn’t Mrs. Affleck.
Sad but true, she’ll go right back into that category once this is all finalized. Now, she’ll always be known as the ex-Mrs. Affleck.
Maybe by now she’d be right where she is, but Ben acknowledged earlier in their marriage that Jen had passed on two big roles in movies because of the family and his career. He then said it was her decision to pass and wanted to, but that she had sacrificed for the kids and for his career in that regard. So she might have parlayed the Alias career and the success of 13 going on 30 movie into bigger roles in movies the first five years of her marriage, but basically wouldn’t have stayed a leading lady, I agree.
She would be great on TV and I think very successful, since she made a ton of of money off of Alias. But with popping out three kids over the years and being married, that kind of commitment wasn’t and still isn’t right now what she would want. I can see her down the road when the kids are a little older, little Samuel up and in school maybe committing to a half hour show. I can’t see her committing to an hour-long show, as those hours would take her away from her family too much.
Paparazzi notified obvious stage. Good Lord why
The nanny looks as if she’s enjoying her 15 minutes.