Did Jennifer Garner & Gwyneth Paltrow bond over cheating bastards?

These are photos of Gwyneth Paltrow and Jennifer Garner hanging out at a charity telethon for Think It Up, which supports education and is put on by the Entertainment Industry Foundation, the same group who does the Stand Up 2 Cancer telethons. The event aired Friday at 8:00 on the four major networks and you can watch it on Hulu.

Paltrow and Garner may have never worked together but they’ve both dealt with Ben Affleck on an intimate level. Garner, being the bigger masochist, was of course married to the guy for ten years while Paltrow dated him in the late 90s. Paltrow has said of Affleck that he “was not in a good place in his life to have a girlfriend” when they dated and she’s spoken in mysterious terms of a past boyfriend who cheated on her, who is widely assumed to be Affleck. There’s also a dubiously sourced quote from Paltrow that “Ben’s ideal woman would be a stripper with a Budweiser in each hand.” That story came out of In Touch, but it sounds like something she would say and we know it’s true. There needs to be another line in there about how the stripper moonlights as a staffmember in his house and is constantly available to stroke his ego.

This isn’t the first time that Paltrow and Garner have met, of course. I found these other photos of them, from 2004 when Paltrow was pregnant with her first child, Apple. (I still can’t get over that name.) Plus Paltrow has said that Garner is awesome and that they’ve hung out. She gushed to Howard Stern this January about Garner. “Not only is she beautiful, she’s so warm and she cooks, and she’s so into her kids. She’s hilarious… I had a girls dinner before this summer. (She’s my neighbor.) I really like her a lot.

So there you go, these two are friends. Do you think they bonded over Affleck’s douchiness? Do you think that Garner called up Paltrow for tips on how to consciously uncouple, or at least how to convince the media that’s what’s going on? (Credit to Kaiser for reminding me of this.) If so, Garner could have learned some restraint from Paltrow, she’s done entirely too many pap walks and “sourced” stories.

Garner also posed at that event with Jessica Biel (she starred with her in that god-awful Valentine’s Day) and Justin Bieber. Oh and Ben and Jen went to church and to the Farmer’s Market with their kids yesterday. They may insist that they’re still divorcing, and that Jen would never take Ben back, but they haven’t filed yet. She looks super happy in those charity photos and I can’t figure out if it’s because she has Ben right where she wants him or because she’s lost 200 pounds of dead weight.

Ben Affleck Enjoys The Farmer's Market With His Children

Ben Affleck & Jennifer Garner Leaving Church With Their Children

Photo credit: Getty Images and FameFlynet

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  1. A.Key says:

    Both being cheating bastards themselves you mean?

  2. Ronda says:

    Both are no saints. they talked about “how to keep affairs on the down low and let your partner take all in the blame from the public”.

  3. Margareth says:

    Garner’s son looks exactly like a toddler Matt Damon.

    • SleepyJane says:

      That’s what I can here to say. I love it.

    • ummok says:

      I SEE IT!

    • Bishg says:

      Speaking of which: the blog Wineandsass.com has an extensive archive of blind items. One of the latest was arguably about Jennifer Garner being in love with her husband’s close friend.. Another blind (on Blindgossip.com, if I recall correctly) hinted at JG not being sure about the paternity of her youngest son…

      By the way: does someone know what happened to Wine and Sass? The website has suddenly disappeared without any trace. It made me sad cause I had only just found out about it, and I enjoyed the authors very much.

      • Jayna says:

        Oh, Dear God. Not sure of the paternity? What a crock.

        Don’t worry, if you enjoy nutcase, grifter, pathological liar JustJenn, she will have some other blind gossip site soon enough. I’m sure she will accept your donations to help get it started. Cockroaches always resurface.

      • Bishg says:


        No need to be rude, I was just reporting something I read.
        Besides, do you wish to explain re: Wine and Sass? As I said, I didn’t know the blog until recently so if, as you stated, the owner has a reputation for bull***t, I’d like to know more.

      • Don't kill me I'm French says:

        According to Wine&Ass,Ben Affleck is the biological father of Blake Lively ‘s daughter( roll eyes) .

      • Bridget says:

        What Jayna said: grifter. She’s about as unreliable a source as you can get, not to mention if you ever read any of her personal anecdotes she’s kind of a d!ck.

      • Bishg says:


        Thanks for sharing. That might be the reason why her website suddenly went offline? Lawsuit/defamation or anything of the kind..

      • Arock says:

        I was wondering the same thing. She had this dramatic/traumatic thing with her husband, moved her 3 kids to Atlanta, then she and her blogging partner just vanish. Blog, Twitter, etcetera, all gone.
        There was a thing with stolen money and her going to jail but that was a before the blog and apparently she had rediscovered Jesus (cough,cough) or something.
        Anyone got any info?

      • snakecharmer says:

        jayne you do realize your on a gossip site that does attempt to maintain high journalistic standards however it is what it is. no gossip site is objective and really? a lot of the seemingly farfetched items could well be true. not to mention thst reality if likely far stranger

      • DIRTNAP says:

        BISHG, I’ll do my best to answer your question. From what I can gather, Jenn and Kristi had a falling out (Kristi said as much on the WnS Twitter account, if I remember correctly). The Wine and Sass site was dismantled. Jenn was asked on another social media site what happened to WnS, and Jenn said it was on hiatus while she pursued other projects. I am busy and sleep-deprived, so I am going to insert the word “allegedly” in here just in case I am not recalling the turn of events with 100% accuracy. I’m not out to spread untruths, but felt you deserved an answer to your question, BISHG.

      • Bridget says:

        This also isn’t the first time she’s done something like this. She’s gone through at least a couple of other iterations of her website and then bails and shuts down the whole thing when people start catching on and questioning her.

        The money issue that Arock brought up was actually a while back – she got caught embezzeling something like $20K from her employer (which I think was a church at the time, so…) and got into some very serious trouble with the law.

      • Bishg says:

        @dirtnap @bridget and everyone else: thanks for the headups! Wow, I didn’t know the site had such a shady backstory. I just took time to read some of the blind items ans most recent posts and was fascinated by the wroting style, but I had no idea about the rest. Anyway, I think to abruptly take offline a website that has a following is very irrespectful towards your fans. A few lines to explain the situation would have been appreciated, and then they could just as well go on with their lives.

      • Jayna says:

        @Bishg, sorry. My tone wasn’t meant to be rude to you but I can see how it came across that way. It was meant to be sarcastic not to you, but in referring to that nutcase once I read who was writing the blinds.

      • Bridget says:

        @Jayna: I get it. That woman is crazy.

    • FingerBinger says:

      Garner’s son looks exactly like her.

      • Don't kill me I'm French says:

        Violet is JG’s mini-me,Seraphina is BA’s mini-me and Samuel is Matt Damon’s mini me

      • serena says:

        I agree, he’s her spitting image just like Violet. People just want to see shady romance (?) where there isn’t.

    • Miss M says:

      I have posted photos of Ben Affleck as a child and Sam looks exactly like him. When looks really determine paternity?! Does it mean that celebrity likealikes are related?

    • Esmom says:

      Lol. I kinda see that but I also think he looks a lot like the younger daughter, who to me is a dead ringer for Ben.

    • Sam says:

      I too was suspicious of Little Affleck’s ongoing strong resemblance to Matt D. However as he grows (the sprog, not MD) he is finally beginning to resemble Big Ben. He has the telltale little chin dimple on him that Ben has, which is a a highly genetic feature (apparently). Matt doesn’t have one, fwiw.

      Ben was also blond as a child, or so I’ve read online.

  4. Bridget says:

    Gwyneth Paltrow, who has thinks that ‘All men cheat, and to think otherwise is just deluding yourself’ isn’t really the person I’d go to for relationship advice, but you have to admit that she and Chris Martin really have got this amicable divorce thing down pat.

  5. Kitten says:

    That pic of her and Biebz is so funny and awkward.

    Since people love to play the photo assumption game with Gatfleck, I’ll just say that Jen looks really good and very happy in these pics. Good for her.

    • Neah23 says:

      Isn’t it though they look like they didn’t want to take a picture together, but were force to. 😄😄

  6. Renee says:

    I am going to be a jerk right now: the difference between Garner’s and Paltrow’s skin is night and day…and I believe that they are close to, if not, the same age. Don’t smoke kids. Even Gwyneth’s mother has better skin than her, and she has to have at least 30 years on her. I state this as someone who secretly likes GP.

    • Don't kill me I'm French says:

      JG uses Botox,fillers and sunscreen contrary to GP

      • Renee says:

        Oh, I don’t doubt that JG uses botox and/or fillers, but it doesn’t seem to be everywhere in her face. And even when people have bad skin and use it, it doesn’t really improve the quality of their skin tone, it just removes the wrinkles and makes their skin seem plumper. Even if her skin were more prone to sagging, JG’s that is, I think that it would still look better than GP’s.

  7. Neah23 says:

    These church photos seem very stages for both of them. This family has been photographed almost daily for the last 10 years and not once have there been no pictures for them going to church. Yet now when it time to fix someone image they are a visible church going family.

    It didn’t work for the Duggers Ben it’s not going to work for you.

    • Don't kill me I'm French says:

      The next months until the release of BatmanVsSuperman will be painful for us.So many staged photo-ops in church ,farmer markets…

      • Bishg says:

        They must think we’re that stupid. In +10 years Affleck has never spent so much time with his wife and children. He looks rough & miserable in each and every picture, he’s not even good at playing a role that should come naturally. WHY, why do they even bother? I feel bad for the little ones.

      • Neah23 says:

        It seems someone told Ben to get his public image together ( my guess WB) That’s why he smiling laughing in all of these photo op.

  8. Mabel says:

    I completely forgot that Ben and Gwyneth were a couple once. I wonder how much sharing went on between these two gals after the photos were taken.

  9. Micki says:

    Two cooking moms, who are into their kids…why not bond?

  10. Kate says:

    This must be an insufferable pair. I’m sure that, if anything, they bond over their meticulously crafted, manufactured public images.

  11. JoJo says:

    Why are the other parts of GP’s comments about Ben always conveniently removed to fit a narrative? GP made the comments about “strippers” over a decade ago and clearly stated he was funny, smart, her parents liked him, but he wasn’t at a stage in his life where he was ready for a girlfriend. (Yes, I can laugh at the fact that maybe he hasn’t changed much – that’s debatable :).

    But in the Howard Stern interview last year where she talked about the fact that she liked JG, she ALSO very clearly said that she really likes Ben, still talks to him still and they remain friends. And she is one of the exes that Ben said he still talks to. So, I wouldn’t kid ouselves. I highly doubt JG and GP are fast friends. They may pose for photos together when the opp arises or go along with social niceties, but I don’t think these two are confidants, spilling secrets about Ben. A) GP is still friends with Ben, and B) Garner is no fool. She believes she’s the “real” love of Affleck’s life, And she’s going to play this whole divorce drama close to the vest … at least until if/when she decides to go through with filing for divorce. Spilling secrets to GP would have to mean JG is truly done with him … And is she?

    As for the outing this weekend, one outlet had a few more details, saying Jen wasn’t there the whole day, I’m guessing the farmer’s market part, and Ben/Jen’s exchange appeared to be very awkward before she left.

    As for how happy Jen acted at Think it Up!, I do believe she thinks she’s got Ben right where she wants him at the moment. She’s lost weight (not that she needed to), and she’s seeing a resurgence of positive interest in her due to this whole scandal. Ben sees that, and she likely seems more attractive to him right now. It’s the typical, “you want what you might lose” – even when you don’t necessarily really want it – scenario. It’s all an illusion for them right now – a big challenge that’s diverting attention from their real, old problems. The real test won’t be getting through this debacle. If they stay together, the real test will be them both actually being happy together in their day to day lives over the long term, which didn’t appear to work out too well over the past 5+ years.

    • captain says:

      I think Gwyneth’comments sounded quite condescending towards Garner. I believe I read somewhere a blind that Garner is still jealous of Gwyneth. So yeah, that would have been strange friendship.

      I look at these pictures and agree with everything you write in the last paragraph. My thoughts exactly, about both of them.

      To be honest, this is too stupid, too much and too false to bear. Unless they bring the nanny back, I check out )) I don’t like any of them anymore, and their fashion is unremarkable. Kids are lovely, but I don’t gush over other people’s kids. So really no reason to see their fake silly stuff.

    • Elisha says:

      Welp, that’s a whollllllle lotta projection/fanfic going on there.

  12. KNOW-IT-ALL says:

    cannot blame Scott Foley for not wanting anything to do with her.

  13. Diane says:

    I was browsing (sitting in the recliner holding my sleeping grandson) this weekend and read through some really old stuff on this site to see the history on these two – I’ve never paid attention until this came up. Here’s a quote from Ben in the early days, before his career came back (September 2006):
    While promoting “Hollywoodland,” Ben Affleck said he’s not sure what his wife, Jennifer Garner, sees in him:
    Affleck said: “I thank the Lord for my wife every day. I can legitimately, truthfully say I do not know what she sees in me. Family’s the most important thing, the center of my life.”
    There was another interview about his breakup with JLO. He said (I paraphrase as I don’t know which article it was) basically that he broke off with JLO because he came to see that it was not going to make it long term. He said that with JG, he knew immediately she was it.
    I saw through the years that the reality of life kinda got in the way of this, but I do suspect that the shock of actually losing what he (I think) took for granted has shaken him up a bit. I have no idea if it is genuine, or if it will last. I know that no change would be permanent without a strong desire AND consciously making it a priority by both. He has to deal with his demons and she has to learn how to not be an enabler.
    I do hope they work out, BUT not if it means going back to the way things were. I do believe change can happen if it’s wanted by all.
    I also go by the name Pollyanna occasionally. It works for me for the most part.

    • KNOW-IT-ALL says:

      And what would make him change that did not happen in ten years I have seen men change when they want to but they do it on their own then find a great woman.If he really thought Jen was great he would have done it before getting with her.When he says he saw it working with Jen what I understand is he could be an asshole but she will still stick around hence the comment I do not know what she saw in me.And yes it could not work with Jlo because at least she has some sense to distance herself when he became a nightmare something I do not see Jen doing.Why should Ben change when he has shown his true colours and Jen is still one hundred and ten percent behind him.Living in denial and wishful thinking.I just do not get people who can do this they are just a pain in the butt because they never want to see reality and they keep doing the same shit and hoping for change.It is exhausting to be around this kind of people.truly

      • Diane says:

        I actually agree. I do know people CAN change – but it does take desire and work. I have NO idea what is going on here, so I can’t say. I do know that any real change would happen over a period of time – not in a couple of months. It can’t be believed until it’s sustained over time, especially when the person has so much deceit in them.
        It’s the Pollyanna in me – I really do want to believe the best in everyone. That has been to my detriment in the past, as well.

  14. KNOW-IT-ALL says:

    Even Ben the royal ahole canbot pretend around her how sad.

  15. Pumpkin Pie says:

    I’ll just say Goop is coaching her on conscious uncoupling or what is that called.

  16. WinnieCoopersMom says:

    I dont know who is more of the PR try-hard here, the Biebs or Daddy Manboobs.. double gross.

  17. darlene says:

    Ben is sooo desperate for an image rehab. Too late Nannyf*cker!

  18. kaye2 says:

    Did Jen get new teeth? Looks like a different set in that photo of her and Gwyn in the first meeting in the 2004 link.

    • caitlin says:

      Yeah, I noticed a difference too and it’s a bit disappointing as I thought of Garner as one of the “natural” ones in Hollywood. There was a post upthread about botox & fillers too… Jenn, say it isn’t so!!!!

  19. KNOW-IT-ALL says:

    Had an aunt she left her husband for her first love she loved the man so much he wanted out after ten years.He divorced her found a younger wife she never remarried no man wanted her she came of as desperate because she was always trying to get their love by trying to do favours for men they either tried to use her or pitied her.Jennifer Garner reminds me of my aunt so badly everyone pities her but she never learns.

  20. K2 says:

    I’m pretty sure Howard Stern asked her about the “better off with a stripper” comments, and Paltrow said something along the lines that it was true at the time. Seems little ever changed.

    I think a lot of us mistakenly date a selfish, elusive arsehole in our 20s. Unfortunately for Garner, she married him and had three kids.

  21. Kate says:

    Wow, GP is really super tiny isn’t she? Jen looks like a heifer next to her and Jen is pretty slim.

    • wendi says:

      It’s probably Jen’s light coloured shirt and the angle. She is pretty tiny herself and although not a Tracy Anderson disciple, she is well known for being diligent with her exercise. I read somewhere that her trainer arrives at 4:30 a.m. (home gym) and she is constantly photographed outside various LA gyms taking classes.

  22. Diane says:

    So another gossip site blurbed today something about BA selecting Sienna for his movie because he’s hot for her. I know…gossip, but he has a pattern. That really turned my stomach and I kinda take back the “he can change” Pollyanna stuff. I believe he can…I just don’t think he does want to given that continuation of an apparent pattern.
    Hollywood is just ugly. Really, fake and ugly. I wish I had never paid attention!

  23. JoJo says:

    @Diane – I love that you’re a Pollyanna. I’ve gotten to know your way of thinking from your comments over time, and it’s good to be an optimist! 🙂 I’ll just play devil’s advocate on the Sienna Miller thing though. Although I actually could see them hooking up, I don’t buy the rumors in this case. I think the tabs are just trying to create a story where there isn’t one … at least not yet. I don’t think Ben would be dumb enough to start something right now. I truly do believe he’s going to try (being the operative word) to lay low on the relationship front for a while, at least until the nanny fiasco has become a more distant memory in the public eye. I also think the press is going to automatically create these stories with any woman he works with. Unlike you though, I really don’t like Ben and Jen together. There were stories after their announcement that cited sources saying it was only a surprise that they lasted as long as they did, and that they are and always have been “two very different people”, and that’s just how I’ve always seen them – like two people who are a very strange mix. :/ I just wish they would stop trying to fit a square peg into a round hole and move on from each other but still co-parent. Maybe that is what they’re doing – it’s hard to tell right now… 🙂

  24. JoJo says:

    Ugh, now here’s People again – with a new headline about how Ben just enjoys spending time with his family “and that includes Jen.” At this point, it’s PR overkill with these two. What’s the deal here? Are they trying to slowly backtrack from the 6/30 announcement and ease the public into the reality that Jen is going to take Ben back, but they want to show that she made him wait and made him earn it? How long can this go on?

  25. kibbles says:

    Just wanted to say that I checked out the photos of Garner and Paltrow from 2004 and Garner still looks pretty amazing. She hasn’t aged all that much in 10 years. She still has a very youthful look to her. Someone mentioned above that Garner looks like a heifer next to Paltrow, but I’d much rather carry around a few extra pounds (Garner is still skinny btw) than look a decade older. Despite her healthy lifestyle, Paltrow’s skin looks absolutely awful. I just checked their age and was surprised to learn that Garner is actually slightly older than Paltrow. Garner still could pass for someone in her 30s. Paltrow looks close to 50.