Frances Bean Cobain got secretly married & Courtney Love was not invited

Frances Bean Cobain

Frances Bean Cobain keeps a low profile, which sets her apart from other children of famous folk. She doesn’t shy away from the occasional profile and photo shoot, but we never see her waltzing into the Chateau Marmont with several squad members. Frances also must cope with her mess of a mother, Courtney Love, with whom she recently played nice at the Montage of Heck premiere. Courtney has maintained a semblance of normality of late, but there’s always Mommy Dearest lurking under the surface.

The lovely Francis, however, seems pretty darn normal for a trust fund kid. There were a few minor warning signs with the late 2011 murmurings of an engagement to a Kurt Cobain look alike, Isaiah Silva. Around that time Frances and Isaiah posted “engaged” statuses to their Facebook pages, and many were understandably concerned with how Isaiah resembled Frances’ father. A few months later, Isaiah gushed over Frances, which did not help public perception. So Frances went low key, only Instagramming this picture of Isaiah about a year ago.

Over two years since they got engaged, Frances and Isaiah have tied the knot in a super secret ceremony. Frances’s biological mother, Courtney Love, was not invited to the small ceremony. Here’s the confirmation and essential details from E!:

Frances Bean Cobain just pulled a fast one on us. On all of us.

Courtney Love and Kurt Cobain’s daughter went under the radar and married her boyfriend of five years Isaiah Silva in a small and intimate ceremony recently, E! News confirms, and even her famous rocker mom had no idea it was happening.

“Courtney loves Isaiah, but was devastated to learn that Frances had gotten married without her knowing,” a source tells us, adding that, “Courtney really likes Isaiah and is very happy for Frances. Courtney is sad she wasn’t at the wedding.”

The insider continues, “Frances called her after but understands why she did it. Frances needs a man in her life and has always craved stability. She’s found it in Isaiah,” and reassures that, “This has not caused a rift between mom and daughter. Courtney was sad, but she’s cool and Isaiah is a great son-in-law.”

A source tells E! News Frances had been planning her wedding for over a year. The ceremony included 13-15 guests, and the insider explains that the young star’s inspiration for the theme of the wedding was daisies in mason jars.

[From E! Online]

Honestly, I cannot blame Frances for shutting Courtney out from the ceremony. Have you ever attended a wedding where a drunk relative shows up and shouts outside the venue? I have. And in light of that experience, I believe Frances was correct to not take that chance. Courtney’s feelings may be hurt, but she will survive. Considering how Frances’ engagement lasted longer than Kaley Cuoco’s marriage, Frances will be okay. Congrats!

Frances Bean Cobain

Frances Cobain

Photos courtesy of Frances Cobain on Instagram & WENN

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  1. InvaderTak says:

    I was going to say something like oh he really doesn’t look like her da- and then that last picture. Oh well. Congrats kids. Hope it lasts.

    • Esmom says:

      Yes, that was my exact process, too. Even his shoes/the way he seems to be walking seems Kurt-esque.

      Wishing them well.

    • bettyrose says:

      IKR. It’s like I was looking at a picture of the 90s.

    • Samtha says:

      I still don’t see it.

      • Nicolette says:

        Me either. He’s cute but I don’t see Kurt’s face at all.

      • lisa says:

        me neither. i think it’s just his styling. if he shaved and got a haircut and a suit, no one would see it.

      • bettyrose says:

        That’s the point. The two of them are totally styled like it’s the early 90s.

      • jammypants says:

        hard to say when the 90s is making a comeback lately. It weird seeing teens wear similar clothes some of use wore in the real 90s haha

      • M.A.F. says:

        I don’t see it either. And with the 90’s stuff, I feel like my mother when she used to say to me “I wore that when I was your age”. I should have kept my clothes. But hey, at least my Doc Martins are holding up nicely.

      • Bob Loblaw says:

        I don’t see it either. Just because he’s grungy people imagine a resemblance.

      • RainbowGirl says:

        It’s just because of his hair. That’s it. His face is a different shape, his nose is a different shape, the jawline is different, the cheekbones … everything except, oh, he has blue eyes and shaggy hair. That does not a Kurt Cobain look-alike make.

      • LA Juice says:

        Agreed! IMO , SHE looks like the mini-kurt, not him. that photo with the side eye, where she is looking away? gave me sad, struggling Kurt vibes all day long.

    • Cindy says:

      That was my response also. Even the way he tilts his head and holds his body. Wow.

      • Lucky Charm says:

        They say people tend to marry someone who looks like their parent, maybe because subconsciously that’s what’s familiar to them?

    • yellow says:

      He’s WAY too hipster.

  2. BengalCat2000 says:

    This makes me feel old as F@ck. Congrats, they are a lovely grungy couple. I really wish her the best!

    • Scarlet Vixen says:

      @BengalCat: That is EXACTLY what I said to my husband. “This makes me feel old as f*ck.” (I’m 36, so not old per se, but I was 14 when Kurt Cobain died, so this makes me feel ancient.)

      I don’t see plastic surgery, tho. I see heavy makeup and an adult woman who’s lost her childish pudgy face. The structure of her face and her features are the same–it’s just not round and babyish anymore.

      • hmph says:

        She’s had a shit ton of plastic surgery. Just google her before pics, she looked like jay leno, she doesn’t even look like the same person anymore. She shaved her jaw and restructed her whole face, including several nose jobs.

      • Bob Loblaw says:

        Her face was dramatically altered by surgery.

      • mytbean says:

        I’m still on board with the conspiracy that the real Francis is happily elsewhere enjoying a normal, paparazi free existence while this girl performs as her stan-in. It would explain the sudden change of appearance, the intense structure to her media exposure and especially that her wedding was even a secret to Courtney.

  3. PunkyMomma says:

    I wish them the best, too. Kudos to Frances for having the courage to keep the crazy away.

  4. dr mantis toboggan says:

    I hope she has a prenup

  5. COSquared says:

    All crazies, blood or not, shouldn’t be invited to a ceremony. Congrats to the couple.

    • aims says:

      Agreed. Just because you’re family doesn’t mean they have the right to act like a fool. I’m so impressed by the way Frances turned out. If anyone has the right to go crazy it would be her. She’s created her own family and stability, and I don’t blame her.

  6. Oceanborn says:

    I don’t blame her for not telling her mother. I had to do the same thing. Neither my husband or I had our relatives at our little courthouse wedding. It was painful to cut them out of our lives but it was for the best. Too much drama. 🙁

    • Jenny says:

      I’m sorry oceanborn, that must have hurt.

      On my wedding day as I was getting ready at the salon there was another bride getting ready there at the same time and she and her fiancé had had to not invite his mother and sister to the wedding because the mother was an alcoholic and they were both prone to drama. I completely understand Francis not telling her mother.

    • yellow says:

      I had to do something similar because of a sibling’s spouse.

  7. jeanpierre says:

    Congrats! I wish them many happy days.

  8. LAK says:

    Due to her parentage, I have a soft spot for Frances. I always hope that she’s OK.

  9. Cindy Lou says:

    Can we please talk about her frightening weight loss? I have read that her mother shamed her for having a round face, called her fat and discussed her body in minute detail with anyone present right in front of Frances. I don’t think she could allow her daughter to be prettier than her. Courtney is known to live on varying drug cocktails which always include Adderal. Even in these pictures in which Frances is covered up, you can see she is skeletal. There are event pictures where you can see the tendons wrapped around the bones at her knees and elbows. I hope this is not long term and that she has not damaged her internal organs a la Karen Carpenter.

    • Elizabeth says:

      There are rumors that Courtney forced Frances to have a lap band put in when she was 17 so she wouldn’t get fat. That poor kid!

      • Tate says:

        Ugh… Poor girl. I hope she manages to have a happy adult hood despite her mother

      • Isabelle says:

        Wasn’t Frances already gone by 17 because Courtney lost custody? Maybe this was one of the reasons her rights got took away?

    • Laurie says:

      Looking at her in that picture in the dress she looks ok IMO. Her arms aren’t tendon-y, her calves look normal. Also, I think she is strikingly beautiful. And they make an attractive couple. Hope it works for them.

      • RR says:

        Laurie, that picture is several years old. The recent ones are where Francis is in black with her mother. She did several events for Montage of Heck and she is beautiful… but, so thin it makes me hurt. I struggled with stress & ED for years, looked too familiar. It made me feel very sad for her, I can only imagine what she goes through behind the scenes. :/

  10. Daria Morgendorffer says:

    After all of the sh-t Courtney has put Frances through in her life, she should just be thankful that her daughter even keeps in contact with her. Frances’ upbringing was no picnic with crazy, unstable Courtney and her bullsh-t.

  11. teacakes says:

    Congratulations to Frances, and I don’t blame her at all for shutting Courtney out of it. I would’ve done the same, if my mother was as terrible as Courtney is capable of being.

  12. Bethie says:

    She’s awfully young. I hope things work out for her. I don’t blame her for not inviting CL, could you even imagine having that woman as a mother?

  13. Jules says:

    Congratulations and good luck to them both…and holy moly, Isaiah does bear a striking resemblance to Kurt Cobain. If he were blonde, it would be downright spooky…

  14. Elizabeth says:

    It must have been horrible to have Courtney as a mother – the drugs and all the constant drama. Plus the poor kid had to deal with a father who committed suicide. I’ve always heard she has a love/hate relationship with her mom. Courtney is always trying to borrow money and criticizing her looks. She allegedly made Frances get a lap band and plastic surgery when she was a teenager. I hope Frances is happy.

    • bettyrose says:

      I would hope no doctor would perform an unnecessary lapband, but Los Angeles. Anything’s possible. A quick Google image search and, yeah, Frances Bean’s looks have changed dramatically in recent years. Poor girl. She deserves someone who loves her no matter what. Hopefully she’s found him.

  15. tmbg says:

    Whoa, Frances’s face is completely different. It doesn’t look badly done though. The thick makeup is a little much, but otherwise she looks good.

    This was her before surgery/fillers or whatever she had:

    • HeySandy says:

      She definitely had her mother’s chin at one point.

    • LMS says:

      Her nose and chin were originally all Courtney, but between the tweaking of both and the weight loss, she’s all Kurt now.

      • beanie says:

        I think the erasure of Courtney’s features by Frances was absolutely subconsciously intentional. Those fug genes were strong and I knew they would present sooner or later, but Frances obliterated them. Good for her. She deserves to be pretty after having Courtney for her mother. Good luck to you Frances.

    • ninal says:

      whatever she has done, she went from looking like a little courtney to a little Kurt now.

  16. Mrs. Ari Gold says:

    Frances is so grunge, she even has 90’s eyebrows.

  17. saras says:

    Smart move to not invite possibly the worst momzilla in history to her wedding!

  18. serena says:

    I always gasp when I see new photos of Francis, cause she looks nothing like she did pre-plastic surgery. We complain about Kylie Jenner but even Francis did it when she was 18 (except she didn’t lie about it.. she never said anything).

  19. Betti says:

    Congrats – hope she finds what she’s looking for.

  20. Melly M says:

    I wonder if she watched “Soaked in Bleach” and what she thinks about it.
    I guess I would be able to ignore all the theories you find in the internet if I was Kurt’s daughter, but to hear someone like Norm Stamper in that film…
    Hmm, I am not sure that wouldn’t bother me at all…

    • Nicolette says:

      Really good documentary. Courtney doesn’t exactly come across as the innocent widow does she?

    • Cindy says:

      I have never heard of this. Is it on YouTube or Netflix? I am guessing it’s about crazy/psychopathic Courtney love?

      • Melly M says:

        I ordered it at Amazon, but I think it’s also available at Vimeo.
        It’s about Kurt’s final days and the many inconsistencies in the police’s investigation of his death. You can listen to original recorded conversations with Courtney and Kurt’s and Courtney’s lawyer and really renowned experts comment on the case, like Vernon Geberth.
        I bought it just because I love Nirvana and would be curious about any new documentary about them or Kurt and don’t regret it. Interesting 90 minutes.

  21. Nancy says:

    Her dad was a junkie who blew his head off at 27. Her mother was a junkie who was using while pregnant. Which one do you emulate…read a recent article where she thought it was cool that Dave Grohl said she had the same IDGAF attitude as father and she thought it was cool. Can only hope she tries smiling and lives a healthy life…..just looked at her pic again, she does have the genes of dad, small frame and the eyes.

    • bettyrose says:

      *slow clap* I’m always reluctant to call out Cobain for what he was. TBH , I wasn’t a huge Nirvana fan, but I was a college student when he killed himself and my reaction was anger. First, that he left a baby behind and second, that I was surrounded by people trying to overcome their own demons (abusive childhoods, etc) and they were coping. Maybe it’s not fair to put that on him but he was a beloved idol to a disillusioned generation, and he took that from them. And my heart has always gone out to that little girl/now married woman. I wish her all the best.

      • Sarah says:

        I read a biography of Kurt and his life was very complicated and tormented (I think I remember it saying he found a dead body as a kid). You can’t ever compare people’s struggles as they’re always different depending on your life experience.

        I feel bad for him that the only way for him to get relief was death, especially as he had a baby that he loved.
        He had ongoing crippling stomach pain that he self medicated to relieve. There was a strong history of addiction and suicide in his family, he was on loads of mind altering drugs and was bipolar. He had “premonitions” of not living past 30. Death was always on his mind, it seems.

        He genuinely believed his daughter would be better off without him. I can’t imagine how bad his life must have been to think that.

      • bettyrose says:

        I hear what you’re saying. I realize now that 27 is still incredibly young to deal with so many complex issues, and many factors can contribute to an addiction, but I was 19 at the time, and I had strong opinions about it. From an older perspective, I’m actually not entirely convinced that he did kill himself. He was an addict married to a lunatic. Things happen.

      • Melly M says:

        In the documentary I mentioned above, a friend of Kurt’s from Aberdeen says that the thing about the suicides in the Cobain family was not true.
        I read the biography by Charles Cross, too, and while I liked his writing style, I believe he was also critized for several mistakes in his book.

  22. DD says:

    But did you see what Courtney said about it on Twitter?
    She said that she chose not to go so she could bang her new boy toy.
    Uh huh, sure.
    What a terrible mother.

    • Yoohoo says:

      Wow. I don’t even know what to say. Frances needs to cut her off for good.

    • Daria Morgendorffer says:

      Courtney is such a piece of sh-t. Always has been, always will be. Kudos to Frances for her strength, her ability to find and seek out normalcy away from her toxic mom. She’s so young and obviously wise beyond her years because she knew well enough to draw a line between her and her mother. Smart girl.

    • minx says:

      And I’m sure that guy is with CL solely for her charm, wit and good looks.

      • bettyrose says:

        I’m so skeeved out by that guy. Gold diggers abound. He’s hardly the first, but mygawd the horror of being intimate with Courtney Love. He can’t be entirely stable.

    • beanie says:

      Ha! I seriously doubt Courtney was invited; this is just her excuse after the fact to cover up that she wasn’t invited. Seems like a Courtney thing to do.

    • ninal says:

      this is the same woman who flippantly mentioned how when she would OD, francis as a child knew the drill and they’d both wait for the ambulance to come like it was some mommy-daughter time. She’s a total asshole.

  23. Chanteloup says:

    Good boundaries, Bean.

    [And look how she’s pulling away in those pictures where her mother’s clawing all over her in publicity shots – poor child]

  24. minx says:

    I have a 16 year old daughter and Love is everything I don’t want to be in a mother–because I WANT to be invited to my daughter’s wedding.

  25. word says:

    Well just because you share DNA doesn’t mean you are obligated to invite someone to your wedding. I have family I would never invite to my wedding…I don’t care. Why would I want to celebrate such a happy occasion with miserable people who will probably gossip about me on my wedding day and try hard to make the day hell for me? No thanks.

  26. Argirl says:

    What about what Courtney posted on Instagram? It was cruel. She will never grow up.

  27. Amanda G says:

    The first picture says a lot. Look at her body language. I can’t blame her for not inviting her awful mother.

    I don’t see the Kurt resemblance. I wish them the best. She’s 23, she’s been with him awhile, maybe it will work. What a beautiful girl.

  28. Ella says:


    just a quick remark – I don’t think that’s her real instagram account.

    But congrats to her wedding!

  29. Dinah says:

    Frances is a gorgeous young woman with flawless skin. I love her eyes, they remind me of Kurt’s. I wish her the very best and wish her the true joy in life that eluded her famous father. I don’t think her husband resembles Kurt and, even if he does, there’s nothing wrong with having a type. It’s not like he’s trying to play father figure. I have a big warm spot for her and Eminem’s daughter. I truly hope they have wonderful lives and, who knows? They may have little sons who set the world on fire one fine day. They’ll have the genes; that’s for sure. My best to them.

  30. The Other Katherine says:

    Mad props to Frances. Now THAT’s how a celebrity pulls off a wedding under the radar — by not making a media event out of it. I like the fact that Frances does not seem to feel a need to narrate and explain / defend her life choices (that are none of our business) to the public. Good for her for eliminating drama by keeping Courtney out of it. (Because you *know* C. Love could could never have resisted the opportunity for a media circus.)

  31. Kym says:

    Very smart girl.
    That day was about them ..and it’s fair to say that Courtney would have somehow made the day about her.
    Good luck to them.

  32. Amy M. says:

    Frances used to be the exact spitting image of Kurt when she was younger. Her face was more round and her jawline was not as defined like her dad’s. But sometime in the last couple of years, I guess she had work done? Because now her chin is a lot more prominent and she is a lot thinner. She can try to change her face as much as she wants but she will always look like her dad to me.

    But I’m happy for her and hopefully this guy sticks around and provides her the stability Courtney never could.

    • notsoanonymous says:

      In the comments above there is a link to a photo shoot pic where Frances was only 13 – she has a very prominent jawline and a larger nose/shape. There was also a photo of Courtney in the liner notes of Hole’s Live Through This album. I’d guess that she was around age 6 in the pic. It looks a LOT like Frances did as a kid… but then there are moments where she looks a lot like Kurt. Genes are strange things (as are growing bodies through the teen years). Some kids really are a 50/50 split of their parents, and she has always struck me as that type.

  33. EN says:

    > . Have you ever attended a wedding where a drunk relative shows up and shouts outside the venue?

    I have been to a ceremony where the mother of the groom got drunk. It was embarrassing for everyone.

  34. Shannon says:

    Good for her, but it’s a shame what she’s done to her face. And at such an early age too. I encourage anyone that has doubts about whether or not she’s had work done to google some before and after pics. Crazy.

  35. Lucy2 says:

    Given the tough hand she was dealt in life, she seems tobe doing well. I don’t blame her one bit for not inviting CL- she probably would have tipped off the paps and created a scene.

  36. No. He does NOT look like Kurt, but walking pidgeon-toed is not attractive.

  37. Goodnight says:

    I grew up listening to Nirvana (I still remember the day Kurt died and I was only a child, I cried my eyes out) and I always had a soft spot for Francis. It seems like she’s very grounded and I see a lot of Kurt’s potential in her, like what he could have been if he hadn’t had such a fucked up life.

    I think Kurt would be really proud of her. Courtney didn’t pull her shit together for Francis and it would have been the easiest thing for her to become hooked on the same drugs and act out, but she was a stronger person than either Kurt or Courtney were able to be.

  38. Moi says:

    No matter what, many feel a protectiveness for/ towards Francis Bean. A kinship of sorts. After watching Montage of Heck, I feel for Kurt, Courtney and Francis. The Soaked in Bleach theory needs to go away. It has run its course. Courtney did not have Kurt killed. She loved him and he loved her. He honestly thought they would be better off without him, he was wrong/right if he could never get his shit straight…..the end.

    • Patricia says:

      Well, you must be the closed of Kurt’s close friends to know all that. Some of his real friends like Buzz Osborne said that they didn’t believe Kurt was suicidal, the experts (who actually have performed thousands of autopsies and investigated thousands of murders, have you?) in “Soaked” say they have doubts, but you know better, of course…

      • sars says:

        Remember Owen Wilson? Heroin can make anyone suicidal. Courtney didn’t do it.

      • Patricia says:

        So? It makes some people suicidal and doesn’t make others suicidal. Remember Keith Richards?
        That doesn’t mean or prove anything. It’s much more useful to get informed about the facts of Kurt’s case. With “Soaked” people can do that. I find the director very talented.

    • ninal says:

      I side more on the idea he committed suicide. But Courtney was a horrible person then and now. Maybe she has reasons I don’t know. But Kim Gordon’s account of how their relationship went down in “girl in a band” shows courtney to be a pretty manipulative person who used people left and right.

  39. Jeanette says:

    I dont see his resemblance to Kurt..but eye-yie-yie..I DO see one in Frances!!!