Us Weekly: Kaley Cuoco is divorcing Ryan Sweeting because he’s an addict

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This story reminds me so much of Hillary Swank’s divorce drama with Chad Lowe back in the day. Gossip history: Chad Lowe and Hillary Swank announced their split out of nowhere and no one was really sure why it happened. A few months later, Swank sat down with Vanity Fair and basically blamed the whole thing on Chad’s heretofore-unknown substance abuse problems. Swank got some flak (long-term) for selling him out that way. I wonder if something similar will happen here? Us Weekly claims – in a cover story seemingly provided to them by Kaley Cuoco and her people – that Kaley is divorcing Ryan Sweeting because he’s addicted to painkillers and refusing to get help. Huh.

Kaley Cuoco was gushing about her marriage to Ryan Sweeting when appearing on Watch What Happens Live on September 20. But behind the scenes the 29-year-old actress was already planning to split from the 28-year-old tennis pro, UsWeekly claimed on Wednesday, because he was addicted to painkillers prescribed after a 2014 back surgery, it was alleged.

‘She supported him but she said he couldn’t make the commitment to get sober,’ a friend told the weekly. ‘He’s tell her he was working on it and instead go get wasted.’ It was added that she is ‘devastated’ their marriage has crumbled and has ‘sworn off dating.’

The weekly explained Ryan was sober when they married in 2013. The athlete – who once ranked number 64 in the world – had a history of trouble with pills. In 2006 Sweeting was arrested for a DUI and possession of a drug with an intent to sell. After they wed he ‘developed a dependency on painkillers.’ When he suffered a back injury just months after meeting her, he was prescribed pain pills. Earlier this year, UsWeekly stated, he had another injury that caused even more problems.

‘Kaley told friends doctors prescribed something that he was taking too much of,’ a source said. ‘That is when it went downhill again.’

He promised to go to rehab in Boston, it was reported. But by the time he agreed to go, it was too late, it was alleged.

‘She couldn’t fix him. He wasn’t the man she thought he was,’ a friend told UsWeekly. It was also noted, ‘She couldn’t take his ups and downs.’ And there were the fights. ‘He’d lash out at her,’ it was claimed.

[From The Daily Mail]

This story could very well be true, and it could be that this is Kaley’s tough-love move and she’s creating some boundaries so she won’t be emotionally devastated by an addict anymore. But there are other details in the piece where the narrative seems to be “she’s totally over it, she doesn’t even care about him at this point.” Which may be a long time coming, for sure, but I kind of wonder if this press strategy is going to backfire on her, a la Hillary Swank.


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  1. Bonnie says:

    She knew, yet married him anyway? No sympathy here.

    • Annie says:

      She forced the relationship after that embarrassing PR relationship with Cavill, which blew up in their faces. She needed to look fine and happy.

      Everything that has a shady start has a bad ending. Never force things.

      • Kosmos says:

        Yes, I thought that was awfully fast moving after her previous breakup….who gets involved that fast and serious with someone again? And then marries them so soon? Why marry so soon when you can date and really get to know the other person first? Strange…..I blame her as well for the botched marriage.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      “The weekly explained Ryan was sober when they married in 2013.”

    • Naya says:

      He had a past with drug abuse but was sober when they hooked up. Unless an argument is being made that former addicts should be struck out of the dating pool, I cant see why you wouldnt sympathise with the spouse of someone who relapsed.

    • FLORC says:

      She had a history of wanting to marry and pressuring for a ring. He accepted and she later was over the relationship having had what she wanted. My opinion. No sympathy.

      This feels like she’s looking for a public justification to give the press. If it’s real would she want to expose his addiction and possible suffering over it to the world to save her image?

      • Nerdista says:

        You literally have no idea if she ever actually pressured anyone for a ring. Marrying anyone is a challenge let alone an addict. Everyone deserves compassion.

  2. QQ says:

    She wants me to give a f*ck and to be surprised that our modern Romeo & Juliet didnt work out, Trouble is, i can’t seem to care

  3. Tiffany says:

    It was not just Swank outing Chad’s addiction that hurt, she straight up belittled her career. He was the bigger star and breadwinner when they got together and then the award upswing and money came in. She did not come across as a synthetic spouse but as someone who thought they can do better.

    • Hannah says:

      To be fair Hillary was from what I read married to Lowe throughout the peak of her career, 2 oscars. She divorced him after all that. So I don’t think it’s a question of somebody thinking they could do better, as much as living with a substance abuser is hell, and perhaps a dash of they married when she was very young and people grow apart.

      • Bridget says:

        To be fair, he stayed married to her while he was the more successful one and she was fired from Beverly Hills 90210 after just half a season. She outed his addiction publicly, in Vanity Fair, and after he’d gotten sober, to try to save her own image.

      • Hannah says:

        I don’t know anything about him,if he was a star it was way before my time but looking at his cv I can’t see that he ever was such a big star that being married to the unknown swank would be beneath him.He is a few years older than her too so that would normally mean he had a head start career wise.
        I am just saying that I don’t believe she dumped him purely because she believes she could do better. If that was the case she would have dumped him after her first Oscar around 2000. Instead it took her 7 years and she stuck by him in those 5 years that was arguably the peak of her career 2000-2005.

        I accept that outing him was selfish but I think one has to be reasonable and see that one partners substance abuse is a very valid reason for why a relationship may not survive. Even if that partner is the nicest guy.

        I don’t have a stake in this, I barely know who he is and while I think swank can be a terrific actress I dont follow her personal life or care much about her outside her work.

      • Bridget says:

        If you have no idea who he is or why they even divorced, why on earth comment?

        For what it’s worth, when they got together he was drfinitely a bigger deal. His character on Life Goes On was a big deal, and if the name Lowe sounds familiar it’s because he’s Rob Lowe’s brother. Hilary Swank is an anomaly – a double Oscar winner who after her initial career boost after Boys Don’t Cry went into a significant career slump, since she can really only play one type of character well (but can really hit that out of the park). And people’s criticism of her was very valid: she sold out her ex as an addict to try to make herself look better for cheating with her agent.

      • Hannah says:

        Dear Bridget, I should think my opnions are just as valid as yours considering we are both outsiders just guessing.
        This post isn’t about Chad Lowe, it’s about the comparison made by the writer with re to how substance abuse allegedly played a part in the break down of a relationship.
        I don’t need to have followed mr lowes career to make the observation that substance abuse severely complicates a relationship between two people.
        Your take on this is about the power and status, I merely disagree because of the timing of the divorce. There no need to be rude because someone disagrees with you.

    • L says:

      Swank outed Chad’s addiction right as it was coming out that she had been cheating with her agent. So she was trying to do damage control.

      It’s one thing when it comes out when the divorce is announced, but 6 months later? Nope.

    • hogtowngooner says:

      Slightly off-topic but Hillary’s career has always kind of baffled me. She’s got two Best Actress Oscars so clearly she’s got some respect in the industry and hustled pretty well, yet she has no consistent-work career? She’s not the famewhore, pap-stroll type, but she also doesn’t seem to be quietly working either. Her IMDB has pretty significant gaps even as a producer, and the stuff she has been in is TV movies or ensemble movies (New Year’s Eve). Never really made sense to me. Does she have a rep for being difficult or something?

      • J.Mo says:

        I think she’s taken care of sick family members, kinda recently too, but I’ve not paid attention. Random fact, she’s besties with Mariska Hargitay.

      • Naya says:

        Oscar wins may be personal career goals but they rarely translate into career longevity and thats especially so for the Best Actress list. The truth is that as annoying as it is, staying on paparazzi lists is a necessity especially if you are not ready for matronly roles. Keeping your name on peoples tongues also keeps you on the casting directors lists, because theres a sense that you are a “current name” whose presence markets the film.

      • Bridget says:

        The issue is, she only really plays the hardscrabble, blue collar roles well (and as evidenced by her Oscars, she plays them very well indeed). She tried really hard to strike while the iron was hot after her Oscar wins, but as an actress she just didn’t really resonate in any other type of role, and she didn’t draw audiences. That’s why she’s not hired much anymore.

        And she may not be a pap stroll kinda hustle, but she still goes for the occasional event/festival/circuit. But we don’t see a lot of pics since she doesn’t sell. The Homesman was actually very well received a year or two ago but just didn’t pan out with any big nominations.

    • M.A.F. says:

      Swank ruined her career because after the 2nd Oscar she was taking nothing but Oscar bait films and she got called out on it. As far as outing his issues, that I don’t recall, but I think she just came across as a butthead (staying PG) after that 2nd Oscar.

  4. Jen43 says:

    The Hillary Swank/Chad Lowe divorce was a shock. This isn’t, and there is really no need for an explanation.

  5. Idon'tCare says:

    I’ve always admired celebrities who quietly divorce and don’t put their dirty laundry out for the whole world to see. People do need to learn that silence really is golden.

    • paola says:

      Sometimes friends dish the dirt to redeem someone’s image to the public eye.

      • LAK says:

        I doubt the public was asking for the sordid details or even taking sides.

        At most everyone had put this one to marrying in haste. No blaming and no need for her to explain herself.

      • WinnieCoopersMom says:

        LAK – I think much of the attitude (according to the Cuoco posts the past few days) is like “well she only knew him for a few months when they married, what a desperate idiot she was after the Cavill mishap” I think she maybe felt pressure to put the blame back on him, for PR and self-preservation sake.

    • Mia V. says:

      Addiction is a disease, so it’s really sad to expose someone ina vulnerable moment. This tells a lot about her personality.

  6. Audrey says:

    Addicts can be mean. She may be over it because of the mental/emotional toll it’s taken on her to try so hard to get him to get help and get nothing but verbal abuse in return.

    I’ve had addicts in my family and it’s very hard on everyone

    • evie says:

      This times 100. It is soul-sucking to deal with an addict.

      • Dasani says:

        I agree.

        It always drives me crazy how people (especially addicts) expect everyone to be sympathetic and understanding and etc

        I feel like addiction is all about the addict and recovery is all about the addict too. And it’s like, everyone should just forgive them and move on.

        It’s almost like it’s not okay to be the person who is hurt by the addict. Like God forbid someone says how it really is: addicts sucks, they’re selfish and mean and let you down and don’t care about you. And it’s really really hard to trust them ever again.

        Nobody ever cares about the victim aka the unlucky suckers who happen to love or care about an addict.

        Maybe he was a dick and she couldn’t do it anymore. Who knows.

        This rant is a long time coming for me because of personal issues (my mom and other family members are drug addicted assholes) but sometimes I just feel like screaming “sometimes addicts dont deserve to be forgiven” ya know?

    • Merritt says:

      Yes, it is hard to not get sucked into an addict’s issues when it is a close relative. And they can be very mean, especially when you start to detach and refuse to let them walk all over you and run the show.

    • Oh Lord yes. My grandma is an alcoholic……and is in need of open heart surgery. She basically shouldn’t be doing anything that will raise her heart rate, except for the proscribed PT. She has a two story house. So I started going over to her house–three days a week–to help her out. Basically doing all of the cleaning, and doing stuff that would mean that she would have to go up and down the stairs–stuff she couldn’t/shouldn’t be doing because it tired her out so much.

      It was fine in the beginning. And then she started drinking and smoking weed again (and God knows what else)–and when she gets drunk/high, she gets really mean and nasty. So she basically started following me around and giving me instructions on how she wanted me to clean something. And I’m like…slow your roll. You’re not paying me at all. Your other grandkids (who, when she went on a five year bender, she said were her REAL grandkids, and no one else was, including me) don’t bother coming over or doing anything unless they’re getting paid, so……

      But it’s SO frustrating.

      • Christin says:

        You’re a good granddaughter — even if she doesn’t appreciate it all (or any) of the time.

        About her crazy comment about her other grandkids — It’s interesting how some people view the family slackers or greedy ones as the “best”.

  7. minx says:

    This may be true, but it also sounds like she’s trying to gloss over the fact that they barely knew each other when they got engaged. “Oh, he was fine when we got married.”
    She should have just moved on instead of airing dirty laundry, but, well, too late.

  8. Cinderella says:

    Hope she learned some kind of lesson here.

  9. My two cents says:

    I don’t blame her at all. She probably truly loved him and believed him when he promised to get clean. After repeated broken promises and lies she had to walk away. Of course, you never know how much is true when you read it in a magazine.

  10. MariaTR says:

    I think Chad Lowe had a lot of supporters in Hollywood and was very well-liked, which contributed to the backlash. This guy not so much.

    • Lexie says:

      Just what I was coming on to say.

      • Pandy says:

        Me too. Nobody knows this guy so he’s not really going to have supporters that way. And sometimes you think you can fix people until you realize you can’t.

    • holly hobby says:

      Well another thing about the Swank/Lowe debacle was that she was cheating on him with her agent (who was also married with kids I think) so it didn’t look too good that she outed him to save face/reputation.

      Sorry if your spouse previously publicly cried over your Oscar win, he doesn’t sound like he was a raging addict. I think Chad did remarry and had a kid. Guess it worked out for him.

    • Katherine says:


  11. K37744 says:

    As the mother of two little kids with an addict I feel for her. If you don’t know the horror that is living with someone hooked on narcotics, then please try not to pass judgement, because it truly is hell on earth. (And i fell in love with a kind, gentle, intelligent man. It was 7 years into our relationship and after our second child was born did he become addicted). Having your small children ‘comfort’ you while you’re bawling on the kitchen floor and he’s screaming obscenities….I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. My saving grace is he left US 3 years ago (I was trying to save him for my children’s sake) and now we’re just trying to heal. Here’s hoping she heals as well and moves on to a healthier life.

  12. Jayna says:

    So he spent his days getting high while she worked and then she came home to a moody man when he would be coming down from the pills She probably kept thinking he would get it back under control and believed him, not having experience with an addict.

    • kai says:

      wasn’t she previously engaged to an “addiction specialist” or counselor or something? Just randomly crossed my mind.

      I don’t think anybody needed to know this, Kaley.

    • Wren says:

      That sounds about right. I got frustrated coming home after work to my unemployed boyfriend who had obviously only gotten off the couch to get more Doritos while playing video games all day. I can’t imagine if he was spending that time getting high.

      I can see it. He swears he’ll do better, he’ll change, he’ll go to rehab. In that moment he’s probably completely sincere, and she wants to believe. But then it doesn’t happen, and so it goes.

    • Katherine says:

      Yep, I don’t blame her one bit.

  13. K37744 says:

    And as for airing her “dirty laundry”…..when it comes to this I say GOOD. It’s a vicious epidemic that destroys lives and shouldn’t be swept under the carpet. If someone can see themselves in him or her and come to some sort of self-awareness that leads to a change, then more power to them. He needs to realize that his whole life will implode because of this bullshit and he can’t hide it from people he loves. Dude, get some help.

    • minx says:

      I don’t disagree with what you are saying, but I don’t think her people are leaking this story as some sort of public service. Seems like it’s damage control because everyone was saying they got married too fast and no one was surprised at the split.
      This way it makes KC look like she would have stayed married if he had just cleaned up his act. Which, that may be true. But they may have been headed for a split anyway.

    • vauvert says:

      I am of two minds on this. I agree that pretending everything is well does not help an addict but if he was not willing to own it and get help, I don’t think shaming him publicly is going to do him any good. You want to stage an intervention, go ahead and involve the family and friends of the addict. Shouting to the world at large that you are leaving him because he has an addiction is, in my opinion, just her doing damage control for her image rather than tying to help him out. She is not doing this for his benefit.

      • AmyB says:

        ^^^ Agree 100%. She is trying to save her image and throw him under the bus. It’s not like this is some public service announcement regarding getting help for addiction, which is a VERY serious and deadly disease. She should have kept her mouth shut and dealt with this fall out privately, with family/friends who are directly affected. Lost a lot of respect for her for this PR move. I predict a similar fallout like Hillary Swank as was previously mentioned.

      • JaneS says:

        She’s so throwing him under the bus.

        It’s one thing to not sweep it under the carpet. It’s another to put him on blast in public, knowing she has a public presence that will result in the fallout being so much bigger than if he was a private person.

        Swank Fallout 2.0.

  14. JenniferJustice says:

    Don’t know if it’s a good thing to talk about addiction or a bad thing to put the intimate details of your relationships out there because honestly, my gut instinct is to view that as a PR plus for her – as in “dont’ hate me for leaving him and I’m not stupid for marrying so quick. He does drugs so I left!” I’m kind of swaying toward the ladder – this is PR for her so she doesn’t look like the bad guy. If we’re wanting to have open discussions about addiction so people might be more aware, even self-aware, there are ways to do that without involving the person you made vows with not even two years ago. Seems a crappy thing of her to do.

    P.S. Her crooked mouth bugs me.

    • jwoolman says:

      How do we know she had anything to do with these stories? She filed for divorce without saying anything about that, just citing irreconcilable differences. Unnamed “sources” can act on their own.

      • Original T.C. says:

        How do we know she put this out there?

        Well she was “happily” married to him for 20 months and spent that time posting loved up pics with no stories out about his addiction. Then she files for divorce, takes off ALL pictures of her husband from her social media, replaces them with pics of her out happy with friends and her new horse. No comments released about the divorce.

        The comment sections of gossip sites however have plenty of people saying “what do you expect from a marriage of two people who got married after one date”. We all know how much this lady keeps track of gossip sites talking about her and how PR driven she is. So fast forward a few days later exclusive details given to US weekly all about the husband’s drug addiction and how that’s the reason for the tragic breakup and not because it’s dumb to marry a stranger. Yeah if you don’t believe she leaked it I have some cheap Oceanside property in Dubai for sale.

  15. Lindy79 says:

    Does US Weekly hate her because her face on that cover… yikes

  16. Tacos and TV says:

    We easily could have forgotten that this was a thing. Yawn. And I’m so glad that bad hair is growing out. She was desperate. He was available.

  17. Matador says:

    The thirst is strong with this one.

  18. Chelly says:

    I agree with the previous post about being careful to pass judgment because living and loving an addict really is hell on earth. I had a boyfriend who was also hooked on pain pills & it was daily torture. Ultimately & inevitably he passed away from ODing & I felt relief (tragic, right). I do however find it distasteful for her to publicize his addiction at this time. As all of us who have dealt with this have come to learn that its their job to help themselves…that also includes airing their own dirty laundry

  19. Stella says:

    Their body language in that photo in which she is wearing the gaudy blouse is pretty telling. Pursed lips, strained eyes… Those two were not happy. And his eyes looked sunken.

  20. Sillymilly says:

    That explains a lot, in particular the fact that he always looks slightly unhealthy. Addicts are very secretive and lie, especially to themselves. I’m sure her understanding evolved over time. There’s no having a relationship with them. The only relationship they want is with their many substances.

  21. xxx says:

    Does any celebrity have anything besides an alcohol or pill problem? I guess those are the socially acceptable addictions. I think adderall, oxycontin, cocaine, meth, speed, heroin, etc. are likely culprits as well. Hang around Los Angeles enough it is very clear what the popular drugs are. Just say what it is already. “Oh I hurt my back and now I’m hooked on pills”… lame. Let’s go back to the part where it says he was arrested with intent to sell “a drug”. That’s his addiction. Admit you’re an addict and get on with it.

  22. Pumpkin Pie says:

    We don’t need to know that he has (maybe, allegedly) an addiction, this is a private matter.
    Not really appropriate for this context but I think they both look better with long/er hair.

  23. WinnieCoopersMom says:

    I feel bad for her. Yes, she married him quickly and he had a past with drugs, but when you fall for someone, you look past their faults and he was probably in a good spot during the beginning of their relationship. Yes, it would have been classy to not air his issue, BUT we have no idea the hell he put her through. For all we know, he could have been violent, lashing out at her, threatening her life..or maybe she came home and he was passed out from taking too much. We have no idea what happened behind the scenes with this, but she is in an emotional state and it’s easy to be weak and lash out at someone who hurt us. I cant imagine dealing with such a messy break up so publicly. Easy for us to sit back and say what she should/shouldnt have done in her shoes. We are all so perfect.

    • Original T.C. says:

      No one thinks being married to an addict is a bag of chips. No one. However there is no need to release this information to the public, perhaps the courts but not us, as her husband’s not really a public figure and is only getting featured due to being married to her. It’s nothing but purulent information meant for us to judge her husband poorly while providing sympathy for her. (What next? Pictures released of his small penis showing he wasn’t giving her sexual satisfaction?) So perhaps the comments about being judgemental should be aimed at her via her social media?

  24. kairos says:

    Honestly? She comes off as desperately wanting to be seen as the woman that men are falling all over. I remember her saying as much in an interview where she said she always gets what she wants with men and just magically always finds herself in a serious relationship. Nice try, but we all know THAT girl. THAT girl is too desperate to be alone for 5 seconds and spends all her energy locking down the next guy. THAT girl escalates relationships realreal fast and fronts like there was nothing forced about it because they’re sooooo in love. THAT girl is obsessed with appearances and gravitates towards men she somehow feels are above her — like aiming for someone hotter than she is. THAT girl will always put more effort into the relationship, but she’ll always have the lower status even if she has the higher net worth. I wouldn’t be shocked if he’s an addict, but she’s THAT girl and she’s thirsty too. She needs to spend time soul-searching solo instead of looking for herself in the arms of the next guy.

    Who knew I had so many feelings about this walking mom haircut?

  25. AmyB says:

    I have to say…having been married for almost 8 years (and together for 10 yrs) to a heroin addict, it is BEYOND torture and devastating. You become as sick as the addict and sometimes leaving is the best thing to do. It helped in my case b/c my ex became sober years later and now has a healthy relationship with our daughter and with me (but we are obviously not together anymore). That being said, the airing of this devastation a la Hillary Swank and Kaley Cuoco (I guess to gain sympathy for themselves) seems cruel, IMO. No one really needs to know what happens behind closed doors. Marriages break up for lots of reasons and just b/c someone is a celebrity does not mean we have to know every intimate detail of their lives. Just seems to me that both these women were trying to make themselves look better. Think that it would have been classier for both (Kaley and Hillary) to keep that stuff to themselves. It’s not like they are out there advocating for help for the addict and their families aka Al-Anon and AA. Besides rushing into marrying someone after a few months is usually not the brightest idea 🙂

    • Chanteloup says:

      It is insidious. I had no idea what I was getting into, having no clue about addiction. I fell in love with a kind, caring, gentle man who all but disappeared in the horrors his addiction. I also lost everything. Money, home, job, self-esteem. I almost didn’t get out alive.

      • AmyB says:

        Wow @Chanteloup….me too!!! I almost lost myself in all of my ex-husband’s addiction. I was so consumed with saving my husband, that I wasn’t taking care of myself. I almost didn’t make it out alive either. I too lost so much. He was able to pull the wool over my eyes for many years b/c I knew nothing of drugs or addiction. I was very naïve, but not anymore. In the end my ex got sober so that is a blessing, but it certainly took its toll on me and his family, that is for sure.

        Which is why I kind of don’t buy this PR stunt by Kaley. She is throwing him under the bus to save herself publicly. I just don’t respect her airing out this personal/horrible information for the sake of some tabloid. She should have dealt with this privately IMO and gotten some help for herself in that she married someone with an addiction, because loved ones get sick in the process too.

      • Chanteloup says:

        @AmyB ” I was so consumed with saving my husband, that I wasn’t taking care of myself” brought tears to my eyes because that was me EXACTly
        It is so hard when the one you love is suffering, dying, desperately doesn’t want to be that way, is trying everything to get well but can’t find their way.
        No one could understand why I stayed all those years through so much horror. I had promised to care for him in sickness or health. I got so LOST trying to save the unsavable, a mere shadow and skeleton of the self I’d been.
        When I finally realized no matter how strong I thought I was I could not save him, he would have to find it in himself, he went crazy with grief and rage. That’s when I almost died.
        I truly hope you have found a safe place for your own recovery. xo

  26. Lady D says:

    ‘friends,” “sources,” “claims,” ‘US Weekly’ said. Nowhere in this story is a quote from Kaley, but because nobody likes her she said it, and it’s allllllll true.

  27. iheartgossip says:

    She’s an addict too. Fame is her drug of choice and it’s not going well for her. I don’t get why people think she is a bombshell.

  28. megs283 says:

    Was the doctor responsible in prescribing those painkillers to someone with an addiction problem? Could have there been another way? I graduated from an affluent HS in 2001 – this year two girls have died of an OD, that I know of. It frequently starts with painkillers…

  29. Nameless and Blameless says:

    I’m the adult child of an addict/alcoholic and so is my spouse. I have no sympathy for addicts and alcoholics, particularly when they have young children. If her ex-husband is an addict I don’t blame her for leaving him and having someone leak that information. Run girlfriend, run!

    Until you are raised by an addict (and the co-dependent people that get into relationships with them), you have absolutely no idea the living hell it is for the children. It didn’t get better as we got older and the pain is only different now that our fathers are dead. We are left trying to explain why our children don’t have grandfathers and why we have strained relationships with our remaining family members (because both of us refused to play a part in the dysfunctional family dynamics that come with addicts/alcoholics). We have both spent a small fortune on therapy so that we don’t become addicts or bring the disordered mentality that comes from being raised by addicts into our happy and functional home life. It’s not easy for us to make the decision everyday to not abuse drugs/alcohol/money/food/etc.. But we do it so that we can break the cycle and so that our children have the chance to have a life and opportunities we only dreamed about. My spouse and I could both share stories from our childhoods and teenage years that would make the average person want to gauge out their ears and eyeballs. And no, we weren’t raised in poor neighborhoods. We were both raised in middle class homes where people assumed these sorts of things didn’t happen and no one believed us when we told adults that should have helped us. No one.

    • Patricia says:

      My hat is off to you and your husband for making a better life for yourselves and your children. It’s a hell of a cycle to break and what it takes is ongoing, consciousness and difficult effort like what you describe. You are making a healthy future.
      I’m sorry for all that you went through. It rings familiar to the experience of my cousins, some of whom are addicts themselves now. I wish they werent, with all my heart, and I worry every day The ones committed to change, like you, are doing well thankfully.

      Sorry to blab on. This subject brings up a lot of feeling for many people.

  30. Sway says:

    I actually remember looking into his eyes in the pictures of them together and seeing no light in there. Totally dark, dead eyes. My friend had the same look in his eyes when he was using. Lifeless eyes are a big tell.
    Also, it’s kind of strange this man has had no passion in his life for … years. He has not played in a long time, he has no hobbies that we know of… He was obviously supported by Kaley in everything, financially and otherwise.
    I think she had enough at one point and had the strength to put a stop to it. Kaley is dumb and annoying, but she’s not that shallow overall – she has some dignity, and her passion for life and love for animals is commendable.

  31. Corey says:

    I find her media games annoying at times yes, however I do feel for her. She just gained a lot of success and then dealing with this in the background when she should be celebrating a happy time. I feel for anyone going through a divorce, its awful

  32. tamsintoatea says:

    Taking it upon yourself to spray his addiction across the internet like a medieval poopicorn is some serious PR game-playing and ethically shady nonsense. These are her PR people releasing this info both for legal reasons and to bolster her image through the sympathy vote. From most comments on here it seems like it’s working. Lots of people with truly sad stories are relating, sharing their stories. And that’s the point. The more you do, the more you’ll side with her, identify with her, conflate her with the heroics of a survivor.

    But here’s the problem: I’ve worked in celebrity PR, I know why they make the choices they make. This is coming from her people. Even if it’s true, there was no reason for this story to be aired publicly because he’s a nobody. He’s not a big star who needs to be taken down a few notches when he behaves badly because his fans will take his side. The only reason this statement/cover happened is because Kaley wanted to play victim and hero at the same time. Maybe he was awful — but I’m not taking her PR people’s word for it and that doesn’t negate her role in green-lighting this press. The very fact that this is the direction she took media-wise speaks volumes. And this is from someone who buys that he was a lazy mooching addict.

  33. CC says:

    So this is weird. People and Us posted the story about the marriage ending because of Ryan’s addiction issues but after searching I can’t seem to find the articles. I know she’s admitted to reading gossip about herself so I wonder if she saw the reactions from people and had her PR pull the stories. I know both mags get a lot of their stories from publicists.

    Of course, this is all under the assumption that he does have addiction issues and the story was leaked by her PR. *Tinfoil hat firmly screwed on.*