Drew Barrymore covers the upcoming issue of InStyle. Drew favors too-young pastel makeup with a bright lip, and she’s usually styled like that on the red carpet and in ads for her Flower makeup line. I don’t think that look suits her, so it’s nice to see her in some muted browns with a darker lip on InStyle. She looks much prettier and more mysterious somehow.

Drew is promoting her new book, Wildflower, which is a series of essays written for her two daughters, Olive, 3, and Frankie, one and a half. She’s also starring in Miss You Already with Toni Collette, which is out now. In InStyle, Drew talks about body image and about talking to her daughters about her wild past. Drew can come across as an oversharing earth mother, but I liked what she had to say here. It sounds like she’s mellowed lately.

First and most important to Barrymore is to know thyself, and to then have a sense of humor about thyself. “I am who I am and I just don’t have a bikini body,” she says. “I don’t even have a one-piece body anymore! But I am loving the long rash guard, board-shorts look.”

Though it’s not always easy to be so laid-back about it. “I’ve beaten myself up about not being a certain thing. If someone says, ‘Let’s go to the beach today,’ my first thought is, ‘F––, what am I going to wear?’ I remember when Amy Schumer was on Ellen, she called her midsection a ‘lava lamp.’ I thought, That was perfect! That’s what I’ve been trying to say. But then I saw her in Trainwreck, and she looked so good in a tiny bra and short skirt. I was like, ‘No, you don’t have a lava lamp.’”

She is more focused these days on passing on what she’s learned from her rollercoaster childhood. “I’m not going to pretend to my daughters that I’m pure as the driven snow… The best I can do is open up my heart to them. That’s soul-baring enough,” she explains. “Making bad decisions doesn’t make you a bad person. It is how you learn to make better choices.”

And one better choice she intends to make? Not embarrassing her kids with her new book of personal essays, Wildflower, which she calls “a love letter” to her daughters. “My own mother, Jaid, wrote a book on sex, and it was the most mortifying feeling in the world,” she says. “So I know how a child feels when their parents put themselves out there too much, and I will never do that to my daughters. There are some things about your parents you just don’t need to know.”

[From People]

Drew’s second child is only a year and a half old, but in her business she’s expected to snap back immediately. She’s previously said that weight loss is difficult for her and that “I’m having to work my ass off until I even think about getting it off,” which is refreshing to hear. So many Hollywood mothers act like it’s simple and like they’re losing weight just running after their kids. Drew will tell you that it’s hard and that she’s not comfortable wearing a bikini yet.

Drew is shown at premieres for Miss You Already on 9-17 and 9-30 and at an event on 9-24. Her fashion and makeup are just awful. Credit: FameFlynet and Getty