Prince Harry: Losing my mum was ‘a gaping hole that could never be filled’


The royals were busy during the American Thanksgiving holiday. The Queen, Philip, Charles and Camilla were in Malta for the Commonwealth meeting. Will and Kate were releasing baby photos. And Prince Harry went on a six-day trip to Lesotho and South Africa. These are photos from his stop at the opening of the Sentebale Mamohato Children’s Centre in Lesotho, plus some photos of Harry doing a charity polo match in Cape Town, South Africa. The polo match benefitted Sentebale, which is Harry’s charity. Harry fell off his horse TWICE during the polo match.

During the stop in Lesotho, Harry once again proved that he’s the best of the whole lot of ‘em. He was completely at home being surrounded by children, practicing his dance moves, showing affection to the kids and generally being lovely. The Sentebale Mamohato Children’s Centre is actually an orphanage to support children who have lost parents to AIDS. Harry named the dining hall the Diana, Princess of Wales Hall. Harry also gave a speech about losing his mother at such a young age, and how her loss inspired him to help other kids.

“I knew there would always be a gaping hole that could never be filled. The children at the center were far younger than me, and of course, their situation was a great deal more challenging than my own. Nonetheless, we shared a similar feeling of loss, having a loved one — in my case a parent — snatched away so suddenly.”

[From Us Weekly]

I’m always reminded of the fact that Harry has used his personal tragedy to positively affect change around him. His brother uses personal tragedy as an excuse to not do much of anything.

On a gossip-level, Harry’s trip is somewhat interesting too. It’s widely believed that Harry spent some time with Chelsy Davy over the summer while he was working in Africa. Chelsy is currently living in Cape Town, working on a line of jewelry. Katie Nicholl at Vanity Fair says that it is “unlikely” that Harry and Chelsy would meet for a romantic interlude, with a source claiming: “If there’s a chance of seeing each other they would love to, but it’s unlikely. This is a work trip and Harry’s staying focused in the business side of things.” That being said, the source says Harry and Chelsy are both single right now and they’re still in regular contact. Oh, and Chelsy is planning on moving back to London “very soon.” Huh.




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  1. Liberty says:

    Come on, Chelsy. Or, come on, Joss Stone! Help fill the Thumping Ginger King’s heart space!

    Maybe he has proven something to Chelsy with all his industry, shown her the potential to do good that comes with trading away one’s privacy as a royal? I think he gets that part, as Sophie W does….as many of us do. Maybe maybe. BUt I love the shots of Joss Stone working with him at this opening event too….

    Anyway well done, Harry, yet again. This guy walks the talk. His brother shirks even the talk.

    • LAK says:

      I loved all the pictures of Joss Stone with the kids, BUT is too much of a hippy to work well with the firm although the media spotlight adjustment wouldn’t be too rough since she’s been famous since she was a teen.

      I like Chelsy, but we need to let her go. With love.

      • CG says:

        ITA, LAK. How long have Harry and Chelsy been broken up? At least four years or so, right? People need to give up on the idea of them getting back together.

      • Liberty says:

        Lol because broken up people never get back together???? I hear, I acknowledge your misgivings, but I remain hopeful based on the fact that people do reconnect.

        And my point exactly — get some warm, nose-ringed hippie energy into that dusty glove box if a Firm. THEN we will see the modern incarnation of royalty perhaps.

        Princess Sophia posed w snakes, and is doing very well in a new role, but Joss can’t be a good Princess? It is all a matter of heart, I think.

      • LAK says:

        Liberty…I adore you. LOL.

        Can you imagine the wedding?! Ha!

      • ladysussex says:

        Agree with you LAK, but she’s not only a hippy. She’s very unaccomplished. The most recent interview I read with her, she said that she’s never learned to read music or play an instrument. Really?? All the years she’s been working in the music business, and she hasn’t bothered to learn anything about reading music or playing an instrument? It seems she’s very smitten with him, and he is like “meh”. And what about Chelsea Davy? She’s trained as a lawyer, and yet she’s not working as a lawyer, but rather “working on a line of jewelry”??

      • LAK says:

        Ladysussex: Chelsy worked for a couple of years as a lawyer. There is pap evidence of her going into the office block documenting this.

        She’s appears to have given that up and good luck to her. She has 2 degrees and decent amount of work experience at a top law firm, so I won’t call her lazy just yet.

      • Tina says:

        I worked (as a lawyer) in big firms in London like Allen & Overy (Chelsy’s firm) for 8 years and got out as soon as I could afford it. I don’t blame her for quitting at all, I’d much rather design jewellery too.

    • bluhare says:

      After that article over the weekend about the US marine who just had her leg amputated — and who Harry’s been talking to every day since her surgery — I’m rooting for her!

      • The Original Mia says:

        Oh, really? That’s awesome.

      • notasugarhere says:

        I thought it was also shown, the first time this rumor went around, that she has a long-time boyfriend.

      • zinjojo says:

        Bluhare, I’m with you! I saw that article too, and thought they might make a great match. They definitely have a connection!

      • bluhare says:

        The articles aren’t rumor, nas. And if she does have a long time boyfriend she’s in love with nothing will come of Harry, but a girl can dream can’t she?

      • FLORC says:

        Dreaming with you bluhare. That would be such a romantic start.

      • bluhare says:

        Wouldn’t it, FLORC? And imagine what the two of them could do.

        Practically it probably wouldn’t work, but I still like it. 🙂

  2. MrsBPitt says:

    Why does Harry have to be the spare??? He has more charisma in his left pinkie toe, than Charles and William have in their whole bodies combined!!!!

    • tracking says:

      +1000 And seems to have a good heart.

    • Beatrice says:

      Yes! I wish he was the heir. Harry seems to have inherited his mother’s work ethic and passion for helping others. He’d be an amazing king.

      • LAK says:

        He’s also inherited his father’s passion and work ethic. Let’s not forget that.

        He seems to have inherited the best of both parents.

        I’d say that William has inherited the worst of both parents and a Spencer temperament to boot.

      • Snappyfish says:

        I believe Harry is the way he is BECAUSE he’s the spare. A much more easy breeze upbringing. W/that I mean he didn’t have the pressure of being the heir. Of knowing your life was already planned. In this particular situation of the stress of being your mother’s confidant to a bad marriage.

        Back in the old days the same said of Harry was said of Andrew (before his lazy grifter ways became apparent but that might have come once no one cared for the spare anymore because the POW married a lovely young girl & they had 2 adorable children…)

      • Jayna says:

        I doubt he would ever want to be King and live such a claustrophobic, rigid life. He probably feels lucky.

      • LAK says:

        it’s actually the opposite. Expectations may be higher for the heir once they reach adulthood, but in reality, as children/teens, they are spoiled and petted and never disciplined like their siblings/spares. The Heir is given everything whether they want it or not, including attention from staff who will run to soothe any sniffle. The spare/siblings have to scramble to get anything and are usually treated callously in comparison. No one let’s them forget that they will ALWAYS be second best. This type of heir vs spare raising results in a very spoilt heir and a more pragmatic ‘normal’ spare.

        Anecdotes from their childhood tell us that the pattern was repeated with William and Harry.

        That’s why Monarchs who were formerly spares, or further down in the line of succession tend to be very pragmatic and end up being more popular than anyone could have imagined them.

        Monarchs who were the heir tend not to be very good and resistant to change because they’ve been brought up as little emperors.

        This is also why Charles reacted so badly to Diana’s popularity. He was brought up as a little emperor. Surely people should be grateful that he was gracing them with his presence. As ballsy as Anne can be, she has never challenged Charles’s status. So Diana’s popularity was the first real test of his life and as we know, he failed that.

        And so with William. The way he reacts to things is very much of little emperor syndrome. He doesn’t know how to compromise because he’s never had to. Harry has compromised all his life.

      • vava says:

        LAK, once again you nailed it. The Little Emperor Syndrome. Yes, that explains much of the problem with William.

      • Crumpet says:

        Snappyfish and LAK are both right IMO. Yes Harry had to scramble, but it made him a better person. Plus he did not have the expectations of England weighing on HIS shoulders.

        The other half of the equation is genetics. He inherited charisma from his mother and his father AND mother’s work ethic.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I know! He’s so perfect for the role and William is so disappointing.

      • Belle Epoch says:

        Everybody loves him, just the way Diana was The People’s Princess while she was alive.

        I wonder if being raised #1 is the problem? Maybe William used to be fun but it all got starched out of him. Harry always knew he could get away with things.

      • COSquared says:

        ^Quite the opposite. Bill, throughout his life, has never been properly disciplined. He’d only have to unleash a tantrum to get what he wanted. In some cases if Bill was given a toy he didn’t like he’d be told that Harry would get it, Bill would backtrack & accept. IMO both C&D are responsible for his behaviour. He has always been coddled.

      • Betti says:

        ^ agree with COS. There are many anecdotes out there describing Normal Bill as a child and he was basically a nightmare. At one point TQ stepped in and told Chuck that he needed to start disciplining him. Apparently he used to stomp around telling people that they had to do with he told them as he is going to be King. Seems that hasn’t changed.

        I don’t necessarily thinks its all to do with him being the Heir but a lot to do with him being the first born. I have seen this sooo many times- the first born (particularly if its a boy) getting treated like the 2nd coming with the younger siblings were just ‘there’. I saw it in my own family – my eldest brother was treated like the golden boy by both parents, not so much now as he’s a bit of a selfish twit.

      • FLORC says:

        I suspect the same. Even when the children were toddlers and babies personalities and temperments were clear. It’s funny how that works.
        There’s no denying William is resistent to his role and Harry embraces it. Even by their own words on that subjects and in speaking about eachothers approach.

        And as a side comment a gaping hole that is never filled is exactly what losing a parent at a young age feels like.

    • Esmom says:

      I know. He really gets it, using his royal status for the greater good. Swoon.

    • EN says:

      Why does there need to be a monarchy? They could all abdicate and go on and do whatever it is they really want to do with their lives.

      This is why I normally don’t comment on any of the royals articles. I don’t want to feed the beast. Monarchy is an outdated concept. These people are not needed. They could live their lives just like the rest of us, only richer and more privileged.

    • Jib says:

      He has his mother’s charisma and empathy. He leans into people when he shakes hands, as opposed to his brother and SIL, who lean back. He is hard working, as opposed to his brother and SIL. What a darn shame that he was born second. William is going to be the end of the monarchy. I wonder if QEII and Charles are too blind to see that.

      Harry for King!!!!

  3. Digital Unicorn says:

    Oh Harry I wish u had been born first. Your useless brother and sister in law were trying to cash in on ur good work again over the weekend. I think it’s obvs that they released photos of Charlotte as an attention seeking, take the good press away from the actual hard working royals to focus on hem and the hidden ones. Didn’t quite work for them as they r now yesterday’s news and the focus is back on Harry in SA and meeting Desmond Tutu.

  4. Nicole says:

    I also love that he stayed pen pals with a young boy he met years ago. The first photo is him and other outlets posted side by sides. Had me tearing up.
    He definitely inherited his big heart from his mother.

    • bluhare says:

      Someone please tell me that he wrote that boy back. I want to say he never did. Demerit for Harry if so!

      • notasugarhere says:

        Bluhare, if he had he wouldn’t share it publicly. Given the way Mutsu always greet him, I doubt Harry failed to respond to letters.

      • Tina says:

        I read that he didn’t write the boy back, but I can’t say I blame Harry. The boy’s letters were heartbreakingly affectionate, and it would not have done any good for him to fixate on Harry any more than he was already doing.

      • claire says:

        I read that the boy writes him a letter each year. Harry, in return, visits each year. Harry probably lets him know that’s his version of staying in touch, instead of letters. Like Tina says, the boy is very fixated. It’s sweet, but it’s probably good for Harry to have boundaries like that, so the boy doesn’t expect lots of letters.

      • bluhare says:

        Saying Harry wrote back isn’t sharing publicly. And I do not see the harm in writing a boy once a year.

      • notasugarhere says:

        There appears to be no proof one way or the other. If they are corresponding, Harry is more likely to keep it quiet rather than use it for PR. There are people who are criticizing Harry because, at 19, he didn’t adopt Mutsu who was so fond of him. Given the amount of attention that is being put on the Harry-Mutsu relationship, it is probably better that it is downplayed IMO.

      • bluhare says:

        Sentebale released that letter, so they used Mutsu’s letter for PR. It would have been very easy to say Harry responded to him without disclosing the actual letter. I’m not talking adoption; I’m talking courtesy and writing back to some kid who hero worships you and with whom you supposedly have a special bond.

      • notasugarhere says:

        All I’m saying is that, if there was a back-and-forth, it doesn’t need to be acknowledged. The amount of PR that one kid is getting might end up being harmful.

  5. COSquared says:

    Sorry Nicholl/Jason, people haven’t lost their focus on Harry’s work. Nice try.

  6. COSquared says:

    Why is it such a headline that he fell twice? Even the Beeb mentioned it on it’s newsstrip at the bottom of the screen . Huh.

    • Crumpet says:

      Because it’s freakin’ dangerous to fall off horses. I have the broken bones and concussed brain to thank for it. I grew up riding, as did Harry, but a bad fall will end you even so.

    • Amber says:

      The Daily Mail’s headline was that he fell off his horse twice AND “look at his bald spot!”

  7. Rice says:

    The Hot Ginge fell off his horse ???!!! Does Michael K know about this?

    Seriously though, Harry reminds me so much of his mum, compassionate, caring and self-effacing.

  8. Hejhej says:

    It’s hard not to love Harry. He’s charming and it’s lovely to see him use his position for something good.

    I’m firmly #TeamChelsy but sadly I think the ship sailed a long time ago *sigh*

  9. Nicolette says:

    Whatever “it” was that Diana had, that clearly has been passed on to Harry. Warm, personable, friendly, funny, and approachable. William looks more like her but Harry has her heart. Love him and as others have commented it should be Harry that takes the throne someday.

  10. Bettyrose says:

    Chelsy is “working on a line of jewelry”? I thought she was a lawyer?

    • COSquared says:

      She quit, DJ’d for a spell and now (allegedly) this. Quarter life crisis of sorts?

      • Bettyrose says:

        Whatevs. If I could afford to not work a day job, I’d DJ and make jewelry too. But I liked that she wasn’t a typical socialite. Oh well

    • Betti says:

      Training to be a lawyer after finishing your degree is a long and difficult process. I have 2 friends who studied law at Uni and started the training but dropped out after a year – its apparently quite common. A lot of people realise they can’t hack it – long hours for little pay etc.. Its even worse if you want to be a barrister.

      However there are many other interesting career opportunities if you have a law degree – seems she’s become just your ‘same old’ socialite but she still does more than Waity ever did.

    • notasugarhere says:

      Wasn’t her most recent boyfriend in the jewelry business?

  11. littlemissnaughty says:

    So does this count as an official engagement? No? Because he’s really working a lot more than his brother and sister-in-law, right?

  12. noway says:

    Wow such negative William comments. First, I take great issue with the comment that Harry uses his mother’ s death for good while William uses it as an excuse to do nothing. Seriously!!!!! As the mother of a daughter whose father died when she was young, I would take great offense if anyone thought that way about her. It is bad enough that you go through life with everyone judging your reactions as a normal person who lost a parent young, I can only imagine if you are to be the King of England how that must feel. You do not personally know these two or what they are feeling and what they do privately. For all you know, William may do a lot for his family in a quiet way, as his life is always so scrutinized. I just feel that the pressure of being King and not having the person who William seemed closest to may have greatly affected him in ways that it didn’t Harry. Plus they are different personalities, even Diana said that when they were little. She felt Harry was better suited for it. Not belittling Harry’s good deeds, but seriously what is so amazing about being a good spokesman for worthwhile causes. Yes he speaks better and does more events and in my opinion better looking, but the guy isn’t curing cancer, helping world peace, or for that manner teaching children. The British Monachry is just a ceremonial role he does look better at the position, but so what. The funny thing is I remember this being said about Charles. How they should let William be King and bypass Charles, and before that they wanted Andrew. Funny how times change, but seem so similar.

    • Naya says:

      Yep. Same rhetoric, different day. Once upon a time people wanted Andrew to reign instead of Charles. Then William instead of Charles. Now its Harry instead of William. Sheesh. Charlotte to rule them all.

    • Azurea says:

      Yeah, especially since Andrew has turned out to be part of the upper class pedophile ring in Britain.

    • maggie says:

      It’s about time someone on these threads made a sensible comment! Thank you noway.

    • notasugarhere says:

      There is an enormous difference between honoring someone’s memory (Harry) and using someone’s memory for your own selfish reasons (William).

      Harry is said to work three days a week at a London rehab for wounded vets. Hands on physical therapy work. Plus he does WWTW, Invictus Games, and Sentebale. You’re really grasping as straws to think all Harry does is give the occasional speech.

      The monarchy is not just a ceremonial role. If it were, someone as ill-suited and poorly-trained as William would have no trouble at it. William resents his position but takes all the perks from it he can get. He is welcome to step aside at any time, but he has to leave the riches behind. No one is forcing him to stay in a job he doesn’t want, but he is required at 33 to Grow Up. If William cannot handle the role and resents it all so much, don’t let the door hit him on his ill-fitting khakis on the way out.

      • FLORC says:

        Harry works constantly. How this is disgarded to prop up his brother shows the lengths of PR fluff and willful ignorance on topics. Being fully informed. Even when it’s somewhat counter to your prefered stance is a good thing. We can’t ignore facts because they go against what we want to believe. IMO anyways.

    • Robin says:

      Agreed. And piloting a helicopter on search-and-rescue missions is hardly “doing nothing”.

      • FLORC says:

        you mean copiloting a helicopter that needs no copilot and as a result taking a seat that could carry an injured child’s parent? All while accepting full wage for a job you clock in 2/3rds of that actual time at a maximum and take off without much notice for anyreason leaving your spot to be filled at a moments notice.

        I’ll grant you he does something, but what does he do the rest of the time he’s paid to work?

  13. The Original Mia says:

    Harry’s speech about his grief and loss was touching. He truly is the best of his parents.

    I don’t think he and Chelsy will try it again, but who knows. The heart wants who the heart wants. Joss is too hippy and I’d hate to see her personality stunted by being a “proper” Duchess. Who knows? They’ve been friends for a long time. Sparks could fly.

  14. Bassza says:

    I feel you Harry <3

  15. COSquared says:

    Pleased(and secretly excited) that he got primetime news coverage over here. Poor Fred didn’t even get a mention in our tabloids(he came earlier this month). He’ll be in Durban next(2hrs away from me).

  16. suze says:

    He should move to Africa and marry an African woman. Will never happen, but he does look his happiest when he’s there.

  17. reed says:

    LOOK AT HIM. Total Prince Charming, this one.

  18. Caz says:

    Team Harry. I just love him the more I read & see about him.

  19. mememe says:

    Wow! in the first picture Harry is the spitting image of his biological father !