Cameron Diaz: ‘Marriage, when you can grow with someone, is important’

The impression I’ve had of Cameron Diaz over the past few months is that she’s turning into one of those celebrities who thinks her life situation is applicable to just about everyone else’s. She’s happy and that’s great, but there’s something mildly oblivious about her, like when she claimed that stress worsened menopause, or that women just get happier the older they are. Anyway Cameron was on Ellen yesterday, where she gushed about her husband of a whole year, Benji Madden. She also talked about how the relationship helped her grow, and when I read her quote out of context I got the impression that she said we all should have this transformative experience. She actually qualified it well though. It’s not all roses for Cameron and Benji, she also admitted that some aspects of marriage are hard.

“Someone asked me, ‘What’s your favorite thing about being married?’ And I was like, ‘Well, I just learned so much about myself. I didn’t know these things.’ And I was like, ‘I would have never known them if I didn’t meet my husband, who helped me,'” Diaz, 43, told host Ellen

The Longevity Book author then joked that she gave the exact same answer when asked what she considers to be the “worst thing about being married.”

“I learned all these things about myself that I wish I never learned about myself and I wouldn’t have known them if I didn’t get married,” she said. “So it’s like this double-edged sword. But I’m just so grateful for it because I couldn’t do it without my husband and I couldn’t do it with anybody else except for him.”

“Happiness actually has shown that when we’re happy we actually live longer. When we accept that we’re aging we live longer. And being that our relationships are very, very important — any kind of relationship, it doesn’t just have to be a marriage — [you have to] basically think of it as a purpose for living. Even if you’re just engaged in something you really think is important,” Diaz told DeGeneres. “But I do think that marriage, my experience with it — and I know that you have felt the same way — when you can grow with someone, it’s very important.”

[From US Weekly]

Ok in context that wasn’t so bad and this time she did bring it back to her own experiences instead of generalizing. It’s nice to see Cameron happy in a relationship and gushing about her husband. She also said that she calls Benji “my Buh,” which is cute but I don’t know if it’s something she should admit. It’s a change for her, considering she used to date douches like Alex Rodriguez and Justin Timberlake. Back in 2011 she called marriage a “dying institution,” praised Clooney for being single and said “I don’t think we should live our lives in relationships based off old traditions that don’t suit our world any longer.” So she changed her mind with experience, which is what she said about growth basically.

Cameron Diaz signs copies of her new book

Cameron Diaz signs copies of her new book

Cameron Diaz signs copies of her new book

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  1. bmore says:

    Cameron just dropped off the face of the earth. She was no Meryl Streep, but I thought she was a decent actress with charisma and good comic timing (Bad Teacher was hilarious)

    Why can’t jennifer Aniston and her dumb rom coms be the ones to disappear? Lol

  2. Zuzus girl says:

    I like Cameron but she should not be writing anything. She’s sweet but not very bright. I’m glad they found happiness.

  3. Patricia says:

    I wish she didn’t annoy me so much. I used to find her hilarious but the lady gave one too many pieces of advice that nobody asked for, and I’m over it.

    • elle says:

      Yes +1,000. First her advice on how to be a single woman over 40, then skin care, when she’s known for having horrible skin, then marriage. STFU, Cam. It’s called life – we ALL know how to do this.

    • Kosmos says:

      I’ve read some of her advice, and she contradicts herself in places–first she hates marriage and never sees herself being married, even says that we are not meant to be monogamous–then she meets Benji and soon after, they are married–huh? Anyway, I would not buy her book, and do not think she has anything especially original to say that we don’t already know. She apparently met someone and fell in love, which you cannot fault her for. She may have even changed her mind about marriage, right? She seems happy, so we’re happy for her.

  4. lassie says:

    My 9th graders are reading the Princess Bride for my 1st period class, so when I saw this headline, my mind read it as “Mawidge. Mawidge is what bwings us togethew today.”

    • RedOnTheHead says:

      The Princess Bride…..what a classic! I could watch that scene over and over just to listen to Peter Cook say those lines.

  5. Sabrine says:

    I don’t think it was so bad for her dating Justin Timberlake for those four years. He seems like an ok guy to me, not a douche. Cameron is happy right now. That’s enough.

    • jinni says:

      I believe at one point in their relationship he messed with his current wife Biel.

  6. missmerry says:

    I’m glad people are accepting of her changing her mind and not attacking her for being a hypocrite or lying about not minding being single or having the feelings she once did about marriage.

    people change, things change, i’m glad people aren’t giving her too much sh*t for it.

    • vauvert says:

      I actually eye roll at her a lot but since she seems to have the depth of a puddle – who cares. I have no problem with her changing her mind. I do have a problem with preaching it as absolute truth (first marriage was outdated because she didn’t care and now marriage is the biggest source of joy, because she is happy.)
      I also can’t believe that anyone would be interested in books by the ghost-writers of any of these celebs – Cameron, Goop, Alba and whoever. Does anyone really believe that that they have some wisdom to impart jut because they were on a screen repeating lines?

    • Kitten says:

      Those comments will come, don’t worry. It’s still early!

      But ITA. She just found the right person and she changed. Happens all the time.

      I used to think I would never get married, or be in a long-term monogamous relationship after I got out of one at 27. Then I met my BF and suddenly marriage seems like the next logical step.

      However, I would have never made statements such as “marriage is a dying institution” even when I never thought I would have an interest in getting married. I’m glad she’s matured a bit though.

  7. Frosty says:

    She sure does like to pontificate.

  8. Alix says:

    That pic on the cover of her book makes her look tired and haggard, IMO.

  9. QQ says:

    huh! what do you know Benji looks attractive in that pic!?!

  10. Queenie says:

    I think he’s the first guy who has truly cared about her and her well-being. I think it’s allowed her to for the same for herself. The other guys were just having fun and knew they didn’t need to worry about settling down with her, to the extent that she stopped thinking of herself as a keeper (and stomached it by calling herself modern).

  11. Easypeasy123 says:

    I like that she seems to be aging naturally.

  12. Kerfuffles says:

    That orange lipstick in those publicity photos is TURRIBLE. No, Cami, no. And I can’t fathom why anybody would want to buy a book from a 40 something actress about longevity?! I guess maybe Betty White can speak to that since she’s 90, but even then the science behind it seems fasaaaaaaaar outside her wheelhouse.

    Otherwise, she seems genuinely happy and in love and that’s sweet.

  13. Lis says:

    I am not a fan of hers, but I have to give her props for aging naturally! I mean is she aging great? Maybe not. But I doubt I will either. It’s good to see an older woman in hollywood that doesn’t look like she’s made of plastic.

  14. iheartgossip says:

    I wonder when their baby is due, should be soon.

  15. CharlotteCharlotte says:

    Let’s not forget she also dated Jared Leto for years. King of the douches.