Cameron Diaz believes in ‘dressing your age,’ won’t wear tube tops

Cameron Diaz has a new feature in Harper’s Bazaar which reads like an e-mail interview. She gives some decent quotes, so it’s worth covering. Cameron is still promoting her health and wellness book, The Longevity Book, and unlike her past interviews she sounds somewhat sensible here. She doesn’t make any grand pronouncements about health, aging, relationships or stress and she just speaks to her own experience. So when Cameron says she believes in dressing your age, she says it’s the age you feel not the age you are, which isn’t a bad way to look at it. She also gushes about her husband, Benji Madden, a little and calls marriage “awesome,” which she’s done before.

Do you believe in “dressing your age”?
I do, actually. But everybody’s age is different, and by that I mean that even when you’re a certain age, it’s all a matter of how you present yourself, how old your spirit is, and where you are in your life. Some 50-year-olds are still 35. It’s about expression and what they can pull off.

What’s something you refuse to wear at 43 (or ever)?
I’m definitely not doing tube tops. No way.

Who are some older women you most admire?
Gloria Steinem is one of the great feminist examples of a woman doing it her way. Jane Fonda has also always been somebody who puts herself out there in a very honest way. I appreciate that. We have so many great examples in Hollywood, from Meryl Streep to Helen Mirren. They walk such a fine line between giving everybody what they want and not sacrificing themselves for it.

What’s something new you’ve tried after 40 that you never thought you would?
I got married last year. That was the biggest thing I’ve done in my 40s, and it opened me up in different ways. It’s pretty awesome. I didn’t think it was something I’d do, and I don’t know if I’d have done it if I hadn’t met my husband [Benji Madden]. It was a surprise.

What is the biggest realization you’ve had about yourself after turning 40?
That as you get older, your body changes in so many little ways. It doesn’t react the same way that it used to. I don’t get the results that I used to as easily as I once did. Now I look at myself and I realize, “Oh, right. I’m in this time now in my life where I have to be thoughtful. If I slack off, things don’t come back so easily. I have to be committed.” In part that’s what my new book, The Longevity Book, is about. But just like everybody else, I’m more and less disciplined at various times based on what’s going on in my life.

Which trend has enjoyed too much longevity?
Social media is great for a lot of things but not as a substitute for actual human connection. We need more actual human contact with one another. And less screen time.

[From Harper’s Bazaar]

If someone asked you to name an item of clothing you would never wear, what would you say? I would say short shorts, because I have seen way too many women walking around with their ass cheeks hanging out. It doesn’t matter if you can bounce quarters off your butt, I don’t want to see that. That’s the first thing that comes to mind, but I just recently saw Khloe Kardashian in extremely see-through tights, which I never knew were a thing, so I can add tights to my “will never wear out without something over it” list.

As for her thoughts on social media, I agree that it would be nice to have more human contact and less screen time. Sometimes it seems like people are doing things just to document them digitally, and I worry about that. I worry about how our phones are changing us and how we relate to each other. (And making people drive like distracted idiots.) On the other hand technology has connected us and helped our children learn in ways that we couldn’t have imagined. I think the good far outweighs the bad.




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  1. ell says:

    i believe in dressing your age as well, which doesn’t mean being boring or looking dowdy. my mum dresses her age (late 50s) and she always looks amazing.

    • Who ARE these people? says:

      Help me, then. I’m trying to figure out what it means to dress in my late 50s and am honestly flummoxed. Things in the stores seem either too young or too old, too flimsy and tight or too matronly.

      • Prairiegirl says:

        I’m with you. It’s hard to find the sweet spot of well made, stylish, and flattering. It’s like the stores don’t want my money, which I have way more of at 47 than I did at 27. I’ve gotten more discerning in my choices too which I guess is part of the ‘problem.’ I will not accept poor quality. I will not.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        There’s a website for older women called Apprecier you might want to check out. It has style tips for older women and direct links to clothes shopping. It takes the trends and translates them into “not 25” looks. Some of the clothes are out of my price range, but some aren’t, and it’s a good place to get ideas.

      • Who ARE these people? says:

        Thanks for the validation Prairiegirl. What ever happened to things that are crisp and nice? I think this is where Chico’s found the gap, but there’s no Chico’s for me in a small Canadian city. Overall things seem to be made of poorer fabric, more poorly made – disposable clothing. And that’s just not a good luck past a certain age. Also aren’t we all too busy in midlife to have to keep shopping around for quality items? I miss the heyday of Jones NY and Anne Klein etc.

        And GNAT thanks for the tip! I will get ideas there. This never came easily at any age! I saw that the late Joan Rivers once said, “Pretend you’re sitting across from you at the lunch table. What would you want to change?” I just want to meet basic requirements, show that I still care, and not embarrass myself.

      • Zuzus girl says:

        Ans if you are older and tiny, there really is no where to shop. I think the established brands like Ralph Lauren, Karen Kane etc. have stylish clothes for the mature woman (that you can mix with favorite things) but they rarely have petite. I’m lost in a sea of fabric.

      • RedOnTheHead says:

        @who are these people: THANK YOU! For bringing this topic up. I am in your age group and have the worst time trying to find something cute but not too young. And I live in a very large city. I was shopping two days ago and it was beyond frustrating and exhausting. All I wanted was some cute tops to go with shorts. Everything was made of tissue fabric. See through, thin, and clinging to everything. I don’t want my bra and torso showing through my top. That’s not a good look on someone my age. After hours of browsing in large department stores I realized that the clothes being made today are only for the much younger crowd. Unless you want something shapeless and covered in ugly flowers you’re screwed. It’s ridiculous.

      • paranormalgirl says:

        I like J Jill. I find that I still dress kind of hippie/boho and J Jill’s Wherever and Pure Jill collections have some nice pieces that fit my style but are a little more streamlined and pared down for my 53 year old self. And they have Misses, Women’s, Petites, and Talls!

      • cd3 says:

        It’s tough out there! My mom is in her 60s and 5’2″ – we live in Canada – and she buys most of her clothing in Europe (she returns frequently to visit family). Often she will take the items she buys in Europe to a seamstress and have her sew garments based on those designs. She hates the petites stores bc they seem to put a flower or bow on everything and that’s not her style.

        Side note – I love the way that Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin are dressed and styled on Frankie & Grace. Good examples of “age appropriate” dressing (in two vastly different styles) – both look great, and trendy in their own way.

      • BooBooLaRue says:

        Chico’s used to be good then they must have swapped designers because suddenly everything looked boxy and frumpy. Hand to god, I am going to start wearing a sari or salwar kameez because they always look classy and well-fitted no matter what your weight.

      • Wha? says:

        Try stores like the Loft. My mother is around the same age and she always looks age appropriate and stylish.

      • HappyMom says:

        I co-sign on the Loft. I think the tee shirts are a better weight and fitted without looking old lady like. I’m 49 (gulp) and my wardrobe is a mix of Anthro/Loft/Gap/Nordstrom/J Crew/Old Navy and Costco, of all places. It is hard to find a balance of stylish but still age appropriate.

      • Jen43 says:

        Have you tried Boden? It’s an English store that is only mail order in the US. I could buy so many things there if I had the need. They make great tailored wool trousers, and dresses and skirts can be bought in petite, regular or long length. I am only 5’3 but often buy the long because of my age and my not great legs. Also, if you decide to buy something, Google a code. Never pay full price. In most cases shipping and returns are free.

      • isabelle says:

        J Jill is a good example of classy dressing pass middle age. Add Talbots to the list. Personally always think of flowey, soft and feminine after age 50.

    • Jib says:

      I like the Loft and also the regular Ann Taylor. Nice clothes, age appropriate, and I’m 54. However, I’m really loving the clothes that Lily Tomlin wears on Grace and Frankie. I”m a hippie at heart, and it’s time I embrace it! I spent my life dressing like Jane Fonda in that show – now it’s time to unleash my real me! And as long as I’m decently covered, and happy, who cares what I wear as long as I’m comfortable. (I am not in the business world, however; if I were, I’d use Jane Fonda as a example.)

  2. CidySmiley says:

    I also tend to stay away from short shorts. Beyonce’s thighs may make HER look good .. but on me? It’s a little tragic. Also… little tmi.. but when your thighs rub together the shorts end up shoved up your crotch anyway.

    • Who ARE these people? says:

      It’s not TMI. It’s the dang truth!

    • Erinn says:

      I always have, and always will stay away from short shorts, unless they’re sleepwear.

    • JenniferJustice says:

      This has been my challenge. I’m 47 and damned if I can find shorts longer than bootie shorts but not as long as bermudas. I’ve found a few, but it’s taken time and patience and figuring out what brands are the right length and fit my figure right.

      Kinda’ the same with summer shirts/blouses – I don’t want skin tight light tank tops, but I don’t want shapeless tents. I’ve found a few “in-between” that I like but again, time-consuming to find and then what? I found one! just one? It’s frustrating.

      • paranormalgirl says:

        J Jill! I swear by them. Nice just above the knee shorts in easy fabrics, like this pair:

        I need to get a job with J Jill. LOL

      • Snowflake says:

        Yes! I know, it’s so frustrating!

      • JenniferJustice says:

        Thanks Paranormal!

        I just found some good lengths at the Gap this morning. I like shorts about 4″ long. The 2″ ones show your butt cheeks and anything longer than 4″ seems bermuda-ish. I want actual shorts, but w/out my under-buns hanging out. LOL.

      • Erica_V says:

        JenniferJ – J Crew makes their classic chino shorts for women in 3″,4″, 5″ and 7″ inseams (mostly just online but if you can go to a store and try on a pair to find your size then you can buy others online). I used to buy the 3″ but now that I’m into my 30s I go with the 4s &5s. If I’m feeling sassy or wearing them at night I’ll fold up the edge to make them a little shorter.They are currently $29.50-$29.99 with an extra 25% off!!

        Full confession – I own legit 12 pairs on all different colors and lengths. They are literally the most flattering and well made shorts ever.

      • HappyMom says:

        Check Garnet Hill too.

    • Erica_V says:

      Once the Fug Girls coined them “denim diapers” I haven’t been able to see short shorts as anything else and same – refuse to wear them.

    • isabelle says:

      Honesty most women shouldn’t wear short shorts. I’m talking the adult diaper shorts. It looks dang uncomfortable when you see crotch rider shorts on girls…..and I’m just going to say it a lot of women don’t have the legs for it young and older.

    • Jib says:

      I don’t think even Beyonce looks good in those clothes. I always think she’s poured into everything she wears – even her show clothes look two sizes too small. She has a beautiful body, but most of her clothes look painful.

  3. Alix says:

    She looks so tired on the cover of her book.

  4. MrsBPitt says:

    When my sons were little, one of my favorite things was our walk to and from school. Oh, the wonderful and funny conversations we would have. It makes me so sad to see Mom’s and Dad’s walking their little ones to school and the whole time they are checking their phones. They are losing such precious time…So, I agree, with Cam…put those damn phones down and talk to each other!

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Same in airports or restaurants – the whole family is on their phones and not talking.

    • Esmom says:

      It’s unreal to see how many parents cannot put their phones down when they’re with their kids — at school, in the park, you name it. Yesterday I was at a red light and this lady next to me had an SUV full of little girls and she was on her phone the whole time, at the red light and beyond. I wanted to report her, actually, or at least scream at her to put the g-d phone down at least while she was driving!

    • Who ARE these people? says:

      That’s just reckless endangerment! Where are the cops when we need them!

      Someone told me how a dad walked his little girl into a wall because he was on the phone.

      I, too, loved those funny little talks with my funny little person. And they need our full attention!

      Some of the parents on their phones are probably struggling to manage work mixed with childcare and it gives them flexibility/mobility to handle the latter while being employed in the former, but there still have to be ways to draw some lines about it.

      • Esmom says:

        I think there are ways to draw some lines. I worked from home when my kids were tiny and I was pretty much available 24/7, except when I was out at the park or another excursion with them. I didn’t even bring my (pre-smart phone) phone with me so I didn’t have to hear it ring when my one client called with yet another non-emergency. They (the clients, but probably the kids, too!) learned that some things can wait and hour or two and that the world wouldn’t fall apart.

        And honestly, I’m not sure if it’s all work stuff that is keeping people glued to their phones. I really think some people are compulsive about checking them constantly, even if it’s just stupid FB stuff.

      • Who ARE these people? says:

        It’s addicting in its way. In psych research terms, intermittent reinforcement.

        I’m glad I got to be mom to a young child before this got too bad, and I set clear lines for my clients but was able to because the workplace was still transitioning to whatever it is today. I wasn’t expected to be that mobile and available all the time, and if I worked at night, which I often did, I kept it quiet.

      • paranormalgirl says:

        My patients have to leave the phone with my receptionist when they come in for their appointment. I once had a patient texting during their billable hour. Never again.

    • Raj says:

      MrsBPitt I agree with you 100%. Every Tuesday I take my son to swimming lessons and there would be only 2 parents out of 20 that are watching their children, the rest are on their phones. It breaks my heart when one of the children swims really well and they look at their parent really happy and excited and their mum/dad aren’t even looking.

    • Vava says:

      It’s not just parents/kids…..our society is rapidly becoming addicted to cell phones or other digital devices. People moving around not paying attention to anything but their screens (while they walk, bike, drive, or ride on the subway).

    • Birdix says:

      Agreed–those in-between moments to and from school can be great. I also like to listen in on a group of kids in a carpool–it’s like they forget a parent is a few feet away and talk so openly. Until they get phones/devices, then everyone is comparing what’s on their screen or in their own online world.

    • Sabrine says:

      I see it every day at the mall, children totally ignored while the parent has his/her nose buried in their phone. It’s sad really. I hope when they’re at home, they’re giving them more attention than what I see out and about. Today, it was at Subway. The kids kept saying “Mom! Mom!” because they wanted to point things out to her and she shushed them, too busy with her phone..

  5. Honey says:

    I’m still not used to her face with all the fillers or whatever it is. I really wish she would try a darker hair colour, the blonde is really aging her.

    • Lisa says:

      Came here to ask “what’s up with her face”? in a nice way of course.

    • Jayna says:

      I thought it was fillers a month ago and then realized she’s gone up like two dress sizes. She’s always had a full face with very prominent cheekbones. She’s put on weight, so it’s natural that her face would be even fuller. She’s got filler all right in her face, natural filler from weight gain.

      I had two thin friends gain weight, go up several clothing sizes, and the change to the shape of their face was so noticeable. It would throw me when I would see either of them as the weight gain on the face came on oddly in that it changed their faces so much. My sister gains weight, but her face always looks basically the same. I guess it’s different for everybody.

      • HappyMom says:

        My guess is she’s trying to get pregnant and going through fertility treatments, hence the weight gain-it’s hormonal. She’s probably stopped smoking too.

      • Kitten says:

        Yes I noticed the slight weight gain as well and I do think that’s what changed her face.
        I’m not going to say that she’s trying to get pregnant (although she may be who knows) but I do think it’s the dreaded Relationship Weight that many of us experience.

  6. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I would never wear a sheer skirt with granny panties underneath, and the world is grateful. Two things I wish I could still wear but can’t are sleeveless dresses and heels. I haven’t gone completely old lady shoes yet but I went to a funeral on Saturday, and my feet were part of the reason my eyes were filled with tears. I just can’t do it anymore. I stopped wearing sleeveless dresses after I saw a friend waving at me across a lawn of a party and saw her upper arm flapping like a flag. Who wears tube tops anymore?

    • MrsBPitt says:

      GNAT….I live in a very hot climate, and although, I’m sure the world would be grateful to me, if I stopped wearing sleeveless, it’s not happening! People will just have to avert their eyes, because I hate, hate, hate being hot….now, don’t worry, I will never be so hot, that I will put on any swimsuit, (I shudder just thinking about it)…and I totally agree with you about the heels thingy….tried on a pair at the store recently, and said to myself…ouch, ooh, ahh, never again…flats or maybe tiny, tiny heels from now on…

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I feel ya. You probably look fine in sleeveless, though. I hate being hot and if I lived somewhere really hot I would just make them suffer. Lol

    • Who ARE these people? says:

      I’m relatively slim and lift weights but sleeveless, especially tanks, are getting harder. The shape just changes,they don’t sit right. Ouch. Like, now I ‘get’ ‘illusion sleeves though hope I won’t have to buy anything with them. I could wear short shorts if I wanted, but I won’t. It’s my daughter’s turn. Things around the neck area have gotten trickier – sometimes turtlenecks help, sometimes not, depending on the fabric and cut; same with scarves. As for heels, I never could wear them, so not much change in that department. However, whatever dress shoes I do have seem to get chunkier and lower and more rubbery with time, and that really affects “the look.” Ah well. I’m not alone. I’ll be that happy old lady in soft-soled lace-ups dancing at the wedding.

      • Jen43 says:

        Omg the neck area. I had to take a passport photo last week. My face looked okay, or at least it looked as I expected it to look, but where did I get that veiny neck? I work out and my arms look okay if I hold them a certain way. Ha. I still wear tanks, though, because I do put the effort in and I don’t care.

    • Scarlet Vixen says:

      @GNAT: I’m with ya. I’m almost 37, but I’ve sadly inherited what my mother and all her female relatives called their ‘big German peasant arms’ (sorry if that offends anyone–it’s not meant to), so even when I was very fit I always had a bit of extra meat on my upper arms. I gave up sleeveless several years ago. In the summer I usually wear maxi dresses with blousy jersey knit ‘cardigans’ over them, or capris with a light cotton safari shirt. I’m bigger chested (and a pasty redhead), so I’ve never been able to just throw on a tank top anyway, so I don’t really miss sleeveless.

      I’m ALMOST to the point of giving up heels. I love the look of heels and used to wear them all the time, but every single time I wear them I regret them. I just own so many cute pairs that I just keep torturing myself…

      • BGirl81 says:

        Giiiiiiirl, I have what I call “the Russian dairy farm body”, so no…you offend no one! In my case it’s, big boobs as well (which, now that I’m approaching 35, have clearly started a determined march to my kneecaps), no discernible muscle tone in legs OR arms and negligible a$$. I love maxi dresses too, but I’m sub-5’2″, so the tailor has to take about 20′ of fabric from the bottom 😉

    • Vava says:

      I would never wear anything Kim Kardashian wears. LOL.

      I’ve never been into high heels, I tried a three inch heel once and that was it. I’m amazed to see people wearing them. There are lots of cute shoes that don’t have that sort of incline.

      Sleeveless – in my youth I never wore them because my arms were so scrawny. But now I sometimes do, nothing is flapping yet but when it does that will be the end of that! LOL.

    • Kitten says:

      I’m also 37 and I pretty much gave up heels 4 years ago. Every now and then I’ll put on a pair of pumps (like for holidays or a business lunch) but it’s rare for me these days.

    • Jaded says:

      Shorts, alas, are out of my life even in hot weather. My legs are fit but I’m very pale and they look veiny now. I can still wear sleeveless stuff (thank God for triceps kick-backs). Never could wear heels, even when I was young, so I have to stick with low kitten-heel type shoes.

  7. chaine says:

    i avoid all shorts… not just when they’re so short the booty is hanging out. shorts just look weird on adults.

    • Scarlet Vixen says:

      Some adults can pull off shorts if they’re the correct length. My husband wears cargo shorts that are just above the knee and a looser fit. Many female golfers wear shorts that are not quite Bermuda length (just a few inches above the knee) that can be flattering. I just don’t find shorts to be very comfortable. I feel like-especially when it’s really hot-that they’re constantly riding up or sticking to my inner thighs. I prefer knit skirts–much more comfy, cooler in hot temps, and easier to dress up with jewelry or cute sandals or whatever. I am so seriously tired of seeing any aged buns hanging out of teeny shorts, tho. When can that trend die already??

      • Who ARE these people? says:

        I really miss culottes, which dates me, because they enjoyed a very brief window of popularity in the late 70s.

      • Birdix says:

        Yes to the culottes! I had some great culottes in the early 80s. I saw some advertised recently and eagerly clicked through but they were awful. Bring back culottes!

      • Cate says:

        But culottes are every-where this season. From denim to all kind of fabrics. I live in Europe btw, like I see much more culottes than short shorts. Culottes can look pretty awful too if you wear them the wrong way though……

    • tiny martian says:

      Oh, thank you Chaine! I hate shorts on adults as well, but pretty sure I’m in the minority on this. When it’s hot I wear skirts, or capri pants if I’m doing something more active. I find shorts to be tremendously uncomfortable, as well.

      And I’d like to add leggings worn as pants to the list of things I’d like to see disappear forever. I ride public transit, and I’m really tired of sitting on the subway surrounded by a sea of black spandex wrapped bums and crotches at my eye level. Plus, I think they make grown women look like toddlers who are running around in tights with no skirt on, it’s just a really silly look to me. Tights aren’t comfortable, either, so I really just don’t get it at all!

    • isabelle says:

      Grew up in the hot south and they aren’t truly hot weather clothing either. They will burn you up on a hot day. Cause they fit tighter with a band, you know the dreaded back & butt sweat A loose dress or thin linen pants are much cooler than shorts.

  8. Astrid says:

    If this is how she looks during a regular day, I’m not that impressed. She looks rough, considering she’s pushing a book about beauty

    • Myrna says:

      She isn’t the Cameron Diaz of younger years, for sure.
      But I think she’s lovely.
      For some odd reason, I am incredibly happy for her.
      And believe she’s really in love and has found normalcy in her life.
      It’s almost like a mega movie star is just like us!
      Know what I mean?
      She’s not walking perfection as she once was, but she’s pregnant and in her 40s now.
      I bet she that when she has this baby her radiance will return.
      But if it doesn’t, just as well.
      I want this star to find the real joy in life, if that’s possible.

      • Zuzus girl says:

        Myrna- Who said she’s pregnant??? Did she make an announcement?

      • Myrna says:

        Good question.
        I assumed it had been confirmed, but you’re right – there wasn’t an announcement that I know of.
        She appears to be so, no?

    • L says:

      Actually, her books are about aging gracefully , accepting where you are as you age and not trying to chase the fountain of youth. So I think her appearance goes along with that, actually.

    • Who ARE these people? says:

      She looks great, just older and a little “fixed,” but she seems relaxed about herself and her appearance. I’ve liked her in her better movies. With more and better scripts for women, she’d be more visible.

  9. cocoa.x says:

    I find the wrinkles in the first picture so refreshing and beautiful! It is nice to see an attractive woman age gracefully, allowing markers of a full life decorate their face instead of trying desperately to fill them in.

    I totally think you can have great glowing skin, great hair, wrinkles and still look feminine and sexy as f**k. I love when a woman let’s herself mature into a glass of fine wine, instead of constantly trying to keep herself tasting like grape soda.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I agree with you that you can have wrinkles and still be sexy, but I think she had her eyes done recently.

    • Jaded says:

      Exactly cocoa.x – like Helen Mirren – she’s sexy as all get out.

    • Birdix says:

      I ran into my next door neighbor in a downtown office building elevator recently and my jaw dropped. She’s tiny! And in her 80s! She was wearing a beautifully tailored, elegant suit, low heels and had her hair and makeup done. She looked tremendous. Really stunningly beautiful. It was eye opening to me. She hasn’t had work done, isn’t chasing youth at all. But she knows how look amazing when she wants to put in the effort, and in a totally “appropriate” way. The twinkle in her eye when she greeted me let me know she appreciated my admiration.

  10. Beatrice says:

    Hello? Madonna, here’s a nice article for you. Please put bondage gear thong dresses on your “do not wear” list. It doesn’t matter if you think you are still 20, some things, just no!!

  11. Prairiegirl says:

    Tube tops should be banned. They’re universally unflattering. Have never, ever seen it look cute on anyone unless she was under age 10.

  12. Nancy says:

    I agree with her. She had to cover her butt so as not to get bombarded with ageism attacks by saying some 50 year olds have 35 year old spirits. We all get our turn at youth and the tube tops and daisy dukes. After a certain age, some women still rock the look they had in their twenties and thirties. Madonna, Madonna……you can still look pretty, sexy and all those things without raiding your daughter’s closet. I’m all for class and classic. Bingo on social media as well….take a look at any of the Kardashians, you NEVER see them out and about without the phone in their face. I avoid the phone like the plague just to relax.

    • Zuzus girl says:

      In fairness, the Kardashians never have phone to face because they have a damn camera crew following at all times.

  13. Melibea says:

    My mother in law is in her mid 60’s and she wears really tight skinny jeans and short sundresses, it looks ridiculous but she thinks she looks great. So, I’m with Cameron on this one,dress your own age!!!

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      If she feels great in it, maybe you should just leave her to decide what’s right for her. Maybe she thinks you look ridiculous. And you totally missed Cameron’s point.

  14. Florida’s the best for inappropriate age dressing. If you’re carting your grand kids around and your sun damaged tramp stamp is sagging out over your low rise, skin tight, bedazzled jeans you need to stop and really consider your life.

    • Who ARE these people? says:

      HA HA – thanks, this made my morning.

    • Snowflake says:

      Oh yes, I live in Florida. Scary, some of the stuff you see. Shudder=-O

    • Zuzus girl says:

      Haha- sounds like Ft. Lauderdale to a tee!

    • tiny martian says:

      This comment makes me really glad I live in a cold climate, so thanks for that!

    • WTW says:

      @Decorative Item, I’m 39 and pretty liberal about what I wear–my dresses have actually gotten shorter as I age and I like overalls–but there’s something about a woman in jeans with bedazzled back pockets that irks the h*ll out of me. I feel like this look should be reserved for teenagers and girls. Oddly, enough, my mother-in-law who is a grandmother does have bedazzled jeans. They don’t look so bad on her because they’re not skinny jeans, low rise or flared out at the leg, but, overall, this is a look I wouldn’t be caught dead in.

  15. Kitten says:

    Meh. I wear cut-offs a lot in the summer. My legs and my butt are my best features plus dresses aren’t always appropriate if I’m kicking a ball around with the BF, dog-sitting, gardening, whatever.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Well, you’re young and fit, so you can wear whatever you like. Nothing wrong with that.

    • Erinn says:

      I hate summer. I haaaaate it.

      When you’re 5’2″ and have a desk job, not only are your legs going to get flabbier than intended, but they’re also going to be startlingly white.

      I am however, less self conscious now compared to my teens/earlier 20’s when I was in better shape than I am now. I turn 26 in a week, and I just dgaf as long as I’m not overheated. Flabbiness be damned. Our office is climate controlled because of all the servers and pcs… so I will wear jeans/pants all year in the office. Basically I dress for spring/fall.

      Out house, however, is out of town, and it can get sickeningly hot. I ended up buying what is probably an incredibly unflattering top from this really eclectic, kind of hippyish store in the city. But thank god for it. It’s the coolest, comfiest tank I’ve ever owned. And no matter how much I hate my legs, I am in some form of shorts around the house all summer. Thankfully, we live about a 5-10 minute drive from a nice provincial beach for the really hot days.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Ok, Missy, you sit down and you listen to Auntie GNAT. For years I hated summer. Hated shorts, hated bathing suits, wore sweaters telling myself they were cotton so that was ok while I sweated and looked like a nut. I see pictures of myself now and I looked fine. But even if I didn’t, who cares? Finally, I made myself go shopping and find some things that looked nice on me that we’re beautiful, lightweight fabrics and cool as in not hot. It changed my life. Now we are going to change yours. You are a beautiful person. I know this from talking to you for a long time. You are smart, funny and kind and you are adorable. Nobody looks like those people in magazines. Stop comparing yourself to them. Look at yourself like you would look at a dear friend, with love and kindness. You go find some clothes that you think are pretty and you find your size and you buy them and feel wonderfully cool all summer. Maybe some really flowy dresses or maxi skirts or longer skirts or longer shorts if you don’t like your legs. Go swimming, it’s fun. Wear your hair up, it’s cooler. Please do this for me, just try it, and stop being so mean to our Erinn.

      • JenniferJustice says:

        GNAT! ….thought sweaters in the summer were okay so long as they were cotton, but you sweated and looked like a nut.

        You crack me up!!!!

        You are right, though – nothing like gauze and linen in the summer and there are some really cute tops and skirts out there. For office attire, Erinn might try The Limited or Anne Taylor/The Loft.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        I lived in TEXAS. And people would say “aren’t you dying you’re so hot,” and I’d be “no, no, it’s cotton.” Lol liar liar.

    • Becks says:

      I’m 40 and in shape so I wear a lot of short shorts in the summer. It’s not such a big deal, I live in LA and we tend to be a bit more relaxed.

  16. Zuzus girl says:

    Spaghetti straps are a big no for me.

    Still don’t think she has enough knowledge to be writing all these books but somebody must be buying it.

  17. Kimbers says:

    I saw a girl in extremely see thru tights. You know those ugly patterned ones people have been wearing? She chose not to wear underwear and you could see her butt dimples and the darkness of her crack. Her boyfriend knew the pants were see thru bc he was avoiding eye contact from the waste down. A sunny LA day but the moon was strong!

  18. NeoCleo says:

    Cameron’s is one woman who can wear whatever she wants regardless of age. She’s got amazing legs.

    I absolutely will not wear shorts out in public anymore unless they are of the Bermuda variety.

  19. Stephanie says:

    Leggings are gross. I judge every woman for wearing them lol. Jk. But honestly i hate them. If you dont have the legs to show them off you look ridiculous. I have really skinny legs, so i would look stupid. I have never own a pair.

  20. JenniferJustice says:

    I’m glad she’s happy and all, but I still resent all her past talk about monagomy not existing, marriage being urealistic, not wanting children, and all the plastic surgery she had done just up until about a year ago. She’s only now embracing age and talking about dressing age appropriate because she’s gained weight and doesn’t have the same figure she used to. And I’m guessing her husband’s probably telling her to lay off the fillers. She is a hypocrate.

  21. TreadStyle says:

    I will never ever wear crop tops. I’m waiting for stores to start selling normal length shirts again… It’s depressing.

  22. Andrea says:

    I have a 45 year old friend who wears frilly pink skirts and other things that make her look like 12-17. It is beyond creepy to me. She had loads of plastic surgery at 33 and is obsessed with appearing younger than she actually is, she is convinced most men won’t like her if they knew her true age. It is thoroughly sad.

  23. Jackie Jormp Jomp says:

    As I get older I have found that you invest in the fabric. Cheap trends and plastic threads look cheaper and cheaper the older you get.
    If it won’t look the same after 2 washes then leave it on the rack after age 30…something about being older makes it all the more obvious.

    • Jib says:

      I have always loved good fabrics!! I still have clothes that I bought in my 20s – silk shirts, Harve Benard jackets, I love them! They don’t fit anymore, but if I lose the 30 pounds I gained when I quit smoking, I’m wearing them again!!!

  24. Michelle says:

    I come from a very rural town in NC and we had a fairly huge yard. My mom LOVED mowing the grass and what did she wear when she did this? A STRING BIKINI. I promise you am not lying. A thirteen years old riding home on the bus with all my classmates seeing my mom on a riding lawn mower in a string bikini (that she didn’t need to be wearing in the first place) was absolutely mortifying and it happened more than once. Granted she looked a heck of a lot better than some of my classmates moms, but that didn’t silence the ribbing I would get. I certainly understand Cameron’s message about dressing your age, and as a 47 year old, I feel like I am 30, but that doesn’t mean I am going to dress like it. I would never wear something that would embarrass my kids like my mom did.

    • Susan says:

      Michelle what a funny story!! It gave me a flashback of that “Stacey’s mom has got it going on,” remember that video with Nicolette Sheridan?? Lol.

    • isabelle says:

      Oh, that would be mortifying as a junior high kid lol.

  25. miasys says:

    My grandma used to cut the grass in a 2 piece beige swimsuit, poofy little slouchy socks and sneakers. This was in her 40s, 50s and I think she finally put on shorts in her 60s when she became a great-grandmother. We lived on a pretty busy city street in STL and she would legit stop traffic. My grandma is in her 80s now & gives absolutely zero f*cks about how anyone thinks she should behave or dress. She’s awesome.

  26. Truth says:

    Gwyneth is pathetic! Having her pals indirectly take shots at Madonna (who dresses however the flip she wants) now that they’re not friends anymore. Just know, Cameron, your popularity (and more importantly, likeability) will dwindle the longer you hang around that pretentious blowhole and do her mean girl bidding. Next time she “whispers in your ear”, just ignore it.

  27. Anonymous says:

    I will never wear shorts anymore, of any length. I’m 45, and I’ve always been fit and healthy, but I inherited my mom’s cellulite, and my legs just shouldn’t be seen by anyone anymore, except my husband (who, thankfully, doesn’t seem to care). I have cellulite on my arms now too, which is really sad. Not a ton, but enough that I probably won’t wear sleeveless shirts anymore either. I’m finally coming to a place where I accept my body more and don’t care so much what other people think of me, but I have to admit, the cellulite bothers the shit out of me. Enough that I’ve considered wasting God’s valuable time praying that my daughter doesn’t get it. 😉

  28. da says:

    Does anyone think she’s pregnant? I do. Lately she’s been hiding her stomach area.

  29. Karla says:

    IMO, seeing as we don’t live under Sharia Law, a woman can wear anything that she feels comfortable in.

    I understand the concept of age appropriate clothing and am not dismissive of it but I don’t believe all women should automatically change how they dress once they hit a certain age (I didn’t understand the furore against Madonna; she’s been walking around half dressed and we expect her to cover up now?)

    It’s a bit like saying women of a certain age should cut there hair or change there makeup

    The women who stand out the most in my own life are the ones with blondw hair and purple eyeahadow at 67, waist long hair and short shorts (my 90 year old neighbour) and a sparkly gold birthday dress (my grandma).