Demi Lovato & Wilmer Valderrama had ‘more of a brother-sister’ relationship


Recent victims of the Breakup Plague sweeping through Hollywood were Demi Lovato and Wilmer Valderrama. After six years – off and on – together, they issued a joint statement along the lines of ‘We’re done but it’s cool and we still have mad PLATONIC love for each other. ‘However, those mystical sources that crawl out of the woodwork during times like this are saying they saw this coming from months away. Apparently the lovefest that once was Loverrama had fallen into a relationship that resembled siblings more than lovers.

Demi Lovato and Wilmer Valderrama took the world by surprise with news of their split on Friday, but people close to the pair say this was actually a longtime coming.
After dating for nearly six years, the couple called it quits last week, realizing they were better friends than lovers.

“It had turned into more of a big brother-little sister kind of relationship,” a source tells E! News exclusively. “The romance wasn’t what it used to be. That said, Wilmer is still very protective of her. He did a lot for her—not just in terms of being there for her when she had her health issues, but really helping build her brand and launch her product lines. You never saw him out in front though. He never tried to ride her fame.”

The insider adds, “He was very close to her family. I don’t expect that will change. There was a lot of love there.”

The love, however, is on more of a friendship basis than a lifelong romance. In fact, a second source tells us that when Wilmer was asked whether they would walk down the aisle soon, he replied, “No, I don’t think we’re in that space.”

Another source noted that the relationship had been on the rocks for awhile. “They love each other but aren’t in love anymore. They are really great friends which they’ll continue to be but the romance sort of died.”

[From E! News]

The article states a second time that this breakup came as a shock to fans of the couple; was it really that much of a surprise? From personal experience, it seems that the five year mark brings on the ‘where is this ultimately going’ talk. When she was dropping boulder-sized hints that she wanted to get married while he maintained they weren’t, “in that space,” I waited for this announcement. I would guess her desire to get married played a bigger part in their breakup than their love going cold, although that may have been factor. I just got a little creeped out at the description of their relationship becoming “more of a big brother-little sister” so I choose to focus on the marriage thing.

However, Demi has been very vocal about how Wilmer’s support got her through her darker periods and for that, I give them both credit. He will likely always remain on my Side-Eye List for prior bad behavior but Demi sounds stronger and healthier and she says he had a hand in that so good on him.


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  1. HeidiM says:

    I guess saying brother sister sounds better than father daughter? I’m still getting the creepo teas from this guy, but I guess she was a willing participant.

    • QQ says:

      ^^^THISSSSS #NEVERANYCOUNTRYFORWILMERVALDERRAMA watch him start pouncing on the next Vulnerable fresh off Disney (if he has any shame or chill or self awareness he’ll stay off active underage and court 19 y.os like Dicaprio has normalized)

      • Naya says:

        Seriously. Stage mothers better lock up their Disney starlet daughters. Wilmer is back on the prowl.

      • QQ says:

        I also feel like Bella Thorne is thirsty enough for it and right on brand for him ..Yuck

      • Ayra. says:

        She would, but Bella’s been dating a 24yo guy since she was 17.. *sips tea*

      • Sigh... says:

        Hide yo Disney/Nickelodeon/Freestyle (or whatever the Family Network was in America)/Kids Choice Awards kids, hide yo youngins! They should have his pic up at the stage doors like they did check bouncers at an old school diner cash register, cuz this bro/sis narrative still has a “grooming” feel to it.

        And I have NEVER interacted with or spoke about my bro like she did with/about him. As far as I’m concerned, he is asexual…father of two. 😤😜

  2. HH says:

    The source honestly could have just stuck with the term “good friends.” I’m also creeped out by the brother-sister comparison.

  3. Angelica says:


  4. Ayra. says:

    A sibling relationship my ass, just say that they were better off as friends. Who alludes to marriage or talks about how passionate someone is if they consider them to be brother? foh.

  5. Tiffany says:

    I can see that. With the issues that she had and worked through, it was more caretaker than just taking care of someone.

  6. Cali says:

    Yeah that’s why he started sexing a 16 year old, his sister? disgusting this guy is and her parents for serving her to a pedo.

  7. Jayna says:

    No. You aren’t having sex with your brother or sister, Just leave it at friends.

  8. Lukie says:

    …she aged out of the program.

  9. Lex says:

    I heard her speaking voice for the first time a few weeks ago and I was quite surprised

  10. bluedacnis says:

    I dunno, i had a relationship like that. We were talking about marriage but one day i had the sudden revelation that i saw him as more of a brother than a boyfriend. The sex had been really sad for months by then. He is still my best friend 10 years later.

    • Meegs says:

      Yes I also had a relationship end that I would describe aso being “brother/sister”. We were high school sweethearts and dated for 5 years, we fought and bickered all the time (two Italians with short tempers = lots of broKen dishes, but never any physical abuse). We grew up together in our tender late adolescent/early adult years. Loved each other, but didn’t like each other. I get the analogy, it’s not meant to be creepy and shouldn’t be interpreted that way.

    • MarcelMarcel says:

      I haven’t had it happen in relationship; however I can see how it could happen if you still care each other however the sexual spark has faded. I think their PR teams are emphasising that their romantic relationship reached it’s natural end point instead of their break up stemming from conflict. Sometimes we just outgrow a particular romantic connection. I’m not a fan of Lovato’s music however I admire how she survived Disney child star factory. I hope she continues to thrive.

  11. hogtowngooner says:

    I don’t get why the media never really latched onto the skeeziness of 29-year-old Wilmer dating a 16 year old Demi. Especially when he did the same thing with Lindsay Lohan when he was a bit younger (and she was about the same age as Demi, IIRC). They were underage for crying out loud.

  12. julied says:


  13. Apsutter says:

    This is 10000000% from his team. This is the kind of crap that cheating men ALWAYS say. Was with my ex for a decade, lived together for 8 years, we’re each other’s first and this is the sh*t he tried to say to people when I found out he was cheating