Goldie Hawn, 70, is in England promoting her Mind Up Organization. I’ve written about Mind Up before. If you aren’t familiar with it, it’s an interesting classroom technique that helps certain students to engage. I love writing about Goldie and Kurt Russell – separate or together. Provided I never have to write the words “Goldie and Kurt Split” I will always be happy writing about them. Fortunately, Goldie and Kurt seem dedicated to keeping me happy. And the secret to their longevity as a couple? Unwedded bliss. She told ITV’s Loose Women that marrying Kurt, 65, would have only led to divorce.
She’s been in a loving relationship with Kurt Russell for 33 years, and celebrates the anniversary of their romantic first date every Valentine’s Day.
And Goldie Hawn, 70, believes that one of the secrets to their romantic longevity is the fact that they’ve never taken a walk down the aisle.
During an interview on ITV’s Loose Women on Monday, the Oscar-winning actress admitted: ‘I would have been long divorced if I got married.’
She continued: ‘If you need to be bound to someone, then it’s important to be married. If you are independent, then it’s important to not be married.
‘We like the choice and we chose to stay. We’re always asked why we are not married. Why? What is marriage going to do for us?
‘Our children said years ago they don’t want us to get married. But all our children wanted to marry.’
As for her romance enduring in a Hollywood climate, where relationships often end soon after they start, she said: ‘Not every relationship works, that is the truth, whether you are a movie star or not.
She explained a little later on that her children didn’t want them to marry only in that whatever they had was working so why change it? Ultimately, Goldie is saying do what works for you. I mean, we all “choose to stay,” whether we hold marriage certificates or not but I could see a free spirit like Goldie having a mental shift should the union become bound and legal. I really don’t think she is making a larger statement such as you can only be independent if you aren’t married. I’m sure that’s why she pointed out that all of her children (except, I believe, her stepson Boston Russell) chose marriage. Besides, does anyone other than the tabloids really want them to marry? As I said, if they ever split, I’d wear a black armband but I don’t know that their wedding would get any more than a “huh” from me. As Goldie said, “I don’t know that it matters anymore, after 32 years it doesn’t matter.”
Goldie has just finished her first film in fourteen years. Unfortunately it’s with Amy Schumer so I won’t make the effort to see it in a theater but I will watch it because I truly think Goldie is a great comedic actress. She is also going to Melbourne for the first time in November. Her five-decade career is to be featured in an event hosted by Peter Helliar called A Night of Laughs. Kurt, meanwhile, is promoting Deepwater Horizon (with Kate Hudson) and has both Fast 8 and the Guardians of the Galaxy sequel coming out. Oh, and if you have nothing else to do, you can check Kurt out in GQ. But seriously, clear your afternoon because there are photos and he just gets better with age.
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I used to like her but I hate how she turned her kids against their biological father. The rest…eh. I like them as a couple but I don’t think she’s the brightest person in town. “If you are independent, then it’s important to not be married.” That’s just a silly statement. You can absolutely be independent and be married. Depends on how you and your partner relate.
Do you really think she turned them against their father? It takes more than some bitching from the mom to turn a kid against dad, I’m sure he had as much to do with their strained relationship. I’m in the same boat as Kate and Oliver. My parents split, my mom bad mouthed dad, but he never said or did anything to prove her wrong. He moaned and complained to anybody who would listen that it was moms fault his relationship with my siblings and I was so shitty…but he never did anything about it.
I can only speak for myself in regards to the father subject, and the only reason I’m going to say this is because I feel Kate’s situation is similar with mine. When you get older you gain a larger perspective and you see things for what they are. The blame game only goes so far. Personal accountability is a great thing and healing . If a parent wants to be a present parent you make it happen . You fight tooth and nail, because it’s important and your child is worth it .
Bill Hudson is a notorious scumbag, and his ridiculous demand that his children stop using his last name and his need to publicly disown them said a lot more about him than it did about his kids. According to the kids themselves, they consider Kurt their father because he was there for them when Bill Hudson couldn’t be bothered. It’s really not a coincidence that Bill Hudson has only resurfaced in recent years to bash his kids or threaten to write a tell-all book. He’s a dirtbag, dead beat dad who is trying to bank off of children he never bothered with. This is the same man who wouldn’t stop calling Goldie “sex-crazed” from 2009 to 2011 in the media to anyone who would pay attention to him. He’s sleazy as hell.
I can see the appeal of what she’s describing. Nice to have that independent minset while choosing to be with someone. The legal part is the least interesting part of being married in my mind.
My daughter and her SO were going to marry just so that he could have health insurance. Kurt and Goldie don’t have to worry about that. So the legal part, while may be the least interesting, there are good reasons to marry if you are committed to someone for life. Also, my daughter’s SO passed away and she was lucky that his family allowed her to be in on the decision on his funeral and where he was to be buried.
So, a couple that has been together for the three + decades is STILL being asked if they’re going to marry?! HOW, SWAY?!
In terms of “western” cultures, I feel like Americans, in particular, are marriage obsessed.
Maybe Brad and Angie should have taken this route.
But Brad and Angie’s kids were the ones who pushed them to get married. But maybe that was also a reflection of how American culture encourages marriage.
@ari – Yes, I’m sure the kids were encouraging it because their friends’ parents were married, so they viewed that as “normal”.
Been in a committed relationship for 16 years and have a child and still have best friends asking when we will get married. It’s annoying. I don’t know why anyone else would care. Oddly most of the people so hit for us to marry have been married a couple times.
We are going to get married soon. Just for legal reasons, property etc. I want to be sure we have things wrapped up well if something happens to one of us. I don’t trust either of our extended families to respect our relationship if something happened.
Good for you for doing what is best for you. Guess I got asked too many times when I would marry that it is not one of the first questions out of my mouth. It’s equivalent to asking couples when they are going to have children. It’s a personal decision and no one else’s business. And I totally get why you are marrying for the legal reasons. My youngest was only going to make it legal because of getting health insurance for him – his company didn’t provide it and they couldn’t afford it on their own. As I said above, when he passed (they were not married at the time), she was lucky she had a say in the decisions on the funeral and where to bury him – his family lived 45 – 50 minutes away.
been 23+ for me and the bf…and FINALLY people have stopped asking.
I read the GQ article. He talks about not understanding social media at all, not understanding why anyone would give a s*** that he ate a taco for lunch and posted it on Instagram. And then he mentions that his daughter is into it… which made me laugh so hard, because I think Kate Hudson’s Instagram is one of the most narcissistic accounts out there! It makes me wonder what kinds of conversations they’ve had about it!
I know couples who’ve been married for 60+ years and still genuinely love each other’s company, and I also know people who’ve been married and divorced multiple times who found that giving up on marriage and just being in a committed relationship is what works for them.
I hate that our society still acts like marriage is one size fits all. It really doesn’t work for everyone. Just like human beings themselves, all relationships are unique and different. The relationship being happy and healthy is what matters at the end of the day.
Now I would be torn to shreds if this relationship ended. They are amazing together and I will always love the movie Overboard!
Overboard and All of Me are two comedy movies from decades ago that can still make me laugh hard enough to pee my panties.
I am really curious about those who are in long term, committed relationships who don’t get married. It obviously works for a subset of people. I am just genuinely curious since it is different from my perspective (getting married equals certain legal benefits, so why not?) Is it a feeling less trapped thing? Just having prior bad experiences with your own or your parents’ marriage? Just not wanting to go through the hoopla?
I wanted to get married before we had our child but we never got it done. I am actually a pretty traditional person so I kind of thought we should. After having baby I just didn’t see the point because honestly that’s all I think marriage is about personally. Wanting to make it official now for legal reasons.
Both of my parents have been married a couple times so I guess I don’t see marriage as the ultimate goal in a relationship. And having a child joined us in a way that marriage just can’t. That is truly forever… Whether you like it or not.
I have nothing against marriage. I plan to get married. I just see it as more of a contract than a sign of true love.
I do side eye people someone like Goldie saying their relationship wouldn’t have worked if they had gotten married. Being a couple is an agreement with or without a piece of paper. If a piece of paper ruins your relationship or makes it… There is something not right.
For me, Marriage isn’t just a piece of paper or a legal contract BUT I understand not all people feel or agree, more power to them. What doesn’t work is when one person wants marriage and the truly doesn’t believe in it. Couples with the same outlook/views on marriage and what it means, usually have better success rates. Good for them for being together so long…
Hmmm….I have mixed feelings about all involved and I beleive the truth lies somewhere in the middle:
Goldie Hawn cheated on Bill Hudson. He left her for it and was very vocal about it why he divorced her. She was mad as heck that he outed her and she brainwashed her kids and kept them away. He tried to see them at first but quickly realized she was going to make a miserable challenge, so he backed away.
His kids never wanted anything to do with him, but did use his name – why? It’s not because they felt like Hudson family. It’s because his name had pull in the industry.
Hawn and Russell have supposedly had an open relationship all these years. They don’t feel the need to get married. It all works/worked for them, so to each their own. I do get riled up when she spews that stupid line about marriage only being a piece of paper. No, it’s definitely not just a piece of paper and if it were, she probably would have married again. She didn’t want the possibility of another divorce. That’s fine, but don’t say it’s only a piece of paper. It’s an ignorant thing to say and extremely offensive.
Given the rate of divorce by people who have that piece of paper (and a religious ceremony to boot), many people don’t seem to share your outlook, Jennifer Justice.
Oprah has said the same thing about her relationship with Stedman, that if they’d married, they’d have gotten divorced.
I’m sure the two women have different reasons for deciding on the same outcome (Goldie is a free spirit, Oprah likes her control), but they have the right idea: you have to do what works for you and your partner. Stepping into societal expectations works out just fine for a lot of people, but that doesn’t mean it’s always the right thing for the individuals involved. One-size-fits-all does not work for human beings.