Amber Tamblyn, pregnant with a daughter, makes case to vote for Hillary


Amber Tamblyn recently shared her horrifying story of assault. At the time, she revealed she was moved to speak out because of the terrible comments made by Donald Trump to Billy Bush. Wednesday, Glamour published an essay written by Amber, which further explains why she chose to speak up. Amber and husband David Cross are expecting their first child together, a daughter. Amber and David have been married for four years and this is the first child for both of them. Amber’s essay is an endorsement of Hillary Clinton for president and Amber makes some of the most solid arguments I’ve read.

Somewhere between Donald Trump calling Hillary Clinton a woman with “tremendous hate in her heart” and “a nasty woman,” I found myself making a phone call to my mother I was hoping I could avoid forever. A story I shared about an encounter with an ex-boyfriend had gone viral, and I feared she would read about it in the news. When I told her, my mother’s reaction was unshockingly unshocked. “You know,” she began, “I have a story of my own I want to share with you.”

On the phone, my mother ended with a second story. She told her mother what had happened to her, and I’ll bet you can fill in this blank, too. My grandmother’s response to my mother was, “Boys will be boys. You just have to be really careful around them.”

Motherhood has been heavily on my mind because I am going to be a mother soon. I’m pregnant, with a daughter on the way. I think constantly about the world I am bringing her into. Will I get a phone call from my daughter someday, one she never wanted to make? Will I have to share with her my story, and the story of her great-grandmother’s words to her grandmother? Is it possible to protect her from inheriting this pain? How much do I have to do, as a daughter and a soon-to-be mother, to change not just the conversation about how women are seen, but the language with which conversations are spoken in?

Hillary Clinton is a mom. She’s also a daughter. She’s also a grandmother. I have wondered what kind of conversations she’s had to have with her daughter about men, or what conversations Hillary’s mother had to have with her about boys? When people tell me they dislike Hillary not because she’s a woman but because of her record alone, I think, “How can you be sure?” I don’t think anyone can be.

This is not a think piece asking you to reconsider Hillary Clinton’s voting record. I am asking you to reconsider the world in which Hillary Clinton has had to vote. I am not asking you to rethink a woman. I am asking you to rethink women, period. Go deep. See the frame that holds the big picture. Men have countless examples of leaders in public office, while women have had almost none. Whether you are an actress, a teacher, a candidate for student council or a candidate for President of the United States, if you are a woman you have navigated your life solely in a world built by and for men.

[From Glamour]

The story of her phone call to her mother gave me goosebumps. I can’t imagine how many of those similar conversations have taken place recently. You can read Amber’s full essay here – it’s worth it. Although her argument is framed from the perspective of a soon-to-be parent, she doesn’t alienate non-parents. She understands that the desire to protect children from the horrors of this world isn’t exclusive to those who have raised them. For me, the essay’s most powerful line is, “I am asking you to reconsider the world in which Hillary Clinton has had to vote.” I know everyone is tired of the media telling them who to vote for so I just ask that you let that thought roll around your mind for a bit. It means something to have a candidate that has had to fight against while voting within the system’s grandfathered restrictions.

Congratulations to Amber and David. I think she seems really sweet and he always makes me laugh. I know their twenty-year age difference raises a few eyebrows but they seem committed and supportive of each other. I’m all for happy partnerships.




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  1. Margo S. says:

    Oh my god!!! I’m so happy for them. They are going to be such friggin cool parents!

  2. Escondista says:

    My due date for my daughter is Nov 28 and I voted early in Austin on the first day I could (this Monday). I cried it was so meaningful to be able to vote in this historic election for both my daughter and myself.
    Also big props to Austin’s Travis county for being registered at 90% AND almost 12% of those registered have voted in the first two days of early voting!

    • delphi says:

      Mazel tov for your bambino/bambina AND for living in a place that actively participates so amazingly in the democratic process. *ovation*

      Meanwhile in my notch in the bible belt, we have a giant mock-up of the ark, 20% voter turnout in our May primary, and a governor who finds it more important to set up a new dress code for state employees and destroying our state healthcare marketplace than fixing our decimated education system.

    • Lindy says:

      Fellow Austin-ite here! Best wishes for the new arrival! I’m leaving work early next week to go get my 7-y-o son right after school and go vote. He’s too young to remember that he came with me (in the womb, just barely!) in 2008, and then again in 2012. But he’ll recall this time, I hope. I truly hope that at least the first 12 years of his life will be in an America with the first black and first woman president.

      Also…I love Amber and have for years thought she’s one of the most underappreciated actors out there!

    • Miss Kitty says:

      Another Austinite here. My baby is three (today, actually), so I imagine taking her to vote is going to be chaos but it’s happening. I can’t wait. It’s so cool that you get to vote with your daughter literally there with you. What a wonderful story for her in the future.

      It’s demoralizing to vote in a state that has represented so badly in so many ways, but as ugly as this election has been, getting the ugly out in the open really does give me hope that now that people have to look at it for what it is, it will die out.

      Good luck with your delivery!! Savor every moment and take good care of yourself, lady.

    • Notsoanonymous says:

      I’m having my second daughter in 11/15 (my first turns three on 11/19 which was actually my due date for this one.) I am THRILLED for this election to be over, to have a female president, and to write them each a birthday letter this year talking about Hillary. I even bought them each future president shirts!

      Like the statement by Amber, I’ve struggled with how to raise girls and to address some of the things I’ve been through, which include sexual assault as a child and sexual harassment twice in the workplace. My hope is that the 20 years will be progressive enough that they will have a better experience.

  3. Jenns says:

    I really like her. And they both seem like a nice couple.

    I’ll admit that the idea of going into the voting booth and voting for a woman gives me goosebumps.

  4. Esmom says:

    I don’t really know much about her but this makes me really like her. I just had a depressing conversation with a friend whose daughter is going off to college next year and the thing that terrifies the mom the most is date rape on campus. Of all the things to worry about, it seems telling that it is by far her worst fear.

    On a lighter note, one of my preschoolers came to class wearing an “I voted” sticker. He was so happy and excited to tell me that “me and my mom just voted for Harry Clinton.” So sweet.

  5. Pandy says:

    I missed the original post. Sigh. Not surprising but doesn’t lessen my anger and horror and sadness that I’m not surprised about her story.

  6. Freyja says:

    I’m not one for advocating having a baby past 50, but I love Cross and they do not look weird together in these pics. Lol