Chris Brown: ‘If I love you, bitch, ain’t nobody gonna have you’

Chris Brown Peforms at Drais Beachclub

For months, we’ve been discussing the “normalization” of certain kinds of destructive, reductive, racist, misogynistic, fascistic and deplorable behaviors, issues, politics and people. It absolutely feels like we’re through the looking glass and every a–hole, homophobe, transphobe, racist, Nazi and misogynist is just letting their freak flag fly proudly, out in the open. Chris Brown is one of those people, unshockingly. Breezy posted an Instagram story (it’s just an IG video) in which he rants to the camera about how he’s a stalker. I’m not going to post the video, but you can see it here.

Chris Brown may want to rethink his approach to romance. In an expletive-laden video, the 27-year-old singer ranted about his love life in an Instagram Story Monday. “Ladies, y’all be complaining about n—as being, like, stalkers and in love with y’all, kinda crazy and s–t and you get tired of it. Well, guess what? I’m one of them n—as! If I love you, bitch, ain’t nobody gonna have you. I’m gonna make you miserable,” he warned his followers. “I’m going to chase that n—a out and I’m gonna chase yo ass around, and it’s done.”

It’s unclear what—if anything—prompted the R&B singer’s announcement. Later that evening, it was back to business as usual, as he promoted his Black Pyramid clothing line on social media.

Some fans questioned whether Brown was merely joking in his Instagram Story, while others saw it as an opportunity. “Come get me then,” one fan teased. Others were more critical of Brown’s message and pointed to his volatile relationships with Rihanna and Karrueche Tran. “This man needs help,” another user wrote. “Nothing cute about this behavior.” After seeing the video, one of Brown’s fans said his words sound “like the intro to an episode of Dateline…”

[From E! News]

Um, yes, that Dateline comment is dead-on. People who are treating this like a joke are absolutely normalizing really scary behavior. “If I love you, bitch, ain’t nobody gonna have you. I’m gonna make you miserable. I’m going to chase that n—a out and I’m gonna chase yo ass around, and it’s done.” That’s what he did to Karrueche Tran, remember? He just couldn’t let it go when she broke up with him. There’s a mental health conversation to be had, for sure. But there’s also a conversation to be had about consent, autonomy and respect and that conversation needs to be had with boys and girls. If a guy ever says “If I love you, bitch, ain’t nobody gonna have you,” run to the nearest police station, get a lawyer and a restraining order and report it every time he drives by your house. Believe the abusive a–hole when he brags about abusing women.

Chris Brown celebrates his birthday at Drais nightclub

Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Ana says:

    Absolutely disgusting. This guy might be a sociopath. Sad that after beating Rihanna he still has fans.

    • Hannah says:

      Apparently not only fans, but the kind who wants to be with him romantically.

    • squee says:

      ‘might’ be a sociopath… that’s being kind ! think!

    • Otaku Fairy says:

      It’s sad that he’s probably able to still get girlfriends too. I don’t follow him closely though, so I don’t know if he’s had any other girlfriends besides Rihanna and Karreuche Tran. Hopefully all women will stay away from him.

  2. NastyWoman says:

    How so very romantic. :-/

  3. Ayra. says:

    I just don’t understand how anyone, especially a woman, is able to condone his actions. How is this cute? It’s disgusting and is blatantly showing him to be an emotional abuser. Does it have to be written on his forehead for people to understand?
    It’s actually incredibly scary, and to think this is a man that has a little girl..

    • Carryon says:

      Simple. We romanticise abusive relationships. Twilight, 50 shades of grey etc. Books, movies are full of innocent women redeeming “bad boys”. The man who “gets the girl” at the end by any means necessary is unavoidable in our life. I mean Chris Brown is quiet unhinged, but many abusers are much more in control of themselves especially in mentally abusive relationships. It is sad really, we should tell our girls and boys that love in movies and books do not reflect reality. I love Wuthering Heights but fuck if i want to have my own Heathcliff…

      • Ramona says:

        I’m glad you mentioned Heathcliff. I’m gonna add Rochester and Darcy. I mean Rochester imprisons his wife in the attic and tells no one she is there, you know in case theres ever a fire or something… God that man is evil. And then Mr Darcy, the primary reason why women hang out with jerks believing that his inner good guy is just waiting to be dug out. I know socially awkward, Darcy isnt socially awkward, he is a rude douche. So yes we have a long history of romantacising exactly the types of men we should be avoiding

      • Carryon says:

        Ahhh… I agree with most of the things you said but i have to defend Darcy. I never thought of him as a douche. In the book, he is very socially inept and proud but he does treat Elizabeth nice. Putting him in the same category with Heathcliff and Rochester, who put their love interests through hell, is unfair. Not to mention, he was my first “book crush”.

        I would not want a real life Darcy as well though. I love the book character but that does not mean he would make a great boyfriend. That difference is so important and unfortunately so many of us do not get it.

      • Tulip Garden says:

        Heathcliff always skeeved me out! I just wanted to shout GTF over it. Hated Cathy too. He was crazy and she coyly encouraged it. That book has always made me furious. *deep sigh*.
        This rant has been brought to you by years of frustration with this book and one of its ride or die fans!

      • Aysla says:

        Add Marilyn Monroe’s ‘Bus Stop’ to the list. I remember watching it when I was little, and had such a visceral, from-the-gut negative reaction. I could never watch it again, and it’s still the only movie of hers I do not enjoy and actually thoroughly hate.

        I remember the main guy falling in love with her character immediately; expecting and demanding she reciprocate, constantly hounding, harassing, and cornering her. His character was obsessive, posessive, controlling, and jealous. Ugh. As you can see, I’m still not over my disgust– especially since the characters end up together and his actions are romanticized, even when he literally cattle ropes her when she tries to leave! Glad I knew better as a little girl.

  4. swak says:

    Saying he was joking is on the same level as Trump’s “grabbing the pussy” is locker room talk. He needs help and the next one he “loves” (and what he conceives as love is just a big NO), may not be so lucky.

  5. Maya Memsaab says:

    The fact that this asshat still has a career is an affront to society.

    • arock says:

      dont sweat it. hes a head case and the people around him will bleed him dry for every available penny they can before pretending to loose his number. Two years tops til hes wandering around melrose looking for his coin cup, having been bounced out of any future he could have had.

  6. Aims says:

    I have watched enough ID television to know that comment will have a bad ending for someone . That’s so scary .

  7. Shambles says:

    I hate you, bitch, and ain’t nobody gonna have you. As in: you are irrelevant, psychotic, and disgusting. And I ain’t havin’ it. Bye.

    But seriously, this is OUTRAGEOUS. He beat a woman almost to death, suffered zero consequences, and as a result he feels bold enough to spew this crap in public. He needs to be in prison.

    • detritus says:

      He even has fans who say things like ‘beat me’ etc. The idiot who told him to come and get her? Girl you in danger and you don’t even know it. We need to do a better job educating our girls.
      He doesn’t want a partnership, he wants an object to display.

  8. Mari says:

    Gross. That just made my stomach turn.

  9. Harryg says:

    Go away you foooooool.

  10. frisbee says:

    Misogynist sociopath, he clearly doesn’t see women as human being but as merely objects for his use – needs a straitjacket.

  11. susanne says:

    I think a woman will have to die before he is stopped. Tragic.

  12. Nancy says:

    Is he speaking of Karrueche Tran. He has been vocal about making the women he dates famous, and with her, it is somewhat true. Before their breakup, she was constantly posting close to x rated pics of them. After the split, she’s found work with his name attached. Not a fan. Rihanna is another story. He beat her up, but not down. She felt guilty for whatever reason and went back to him only to find out what she probably already knew, she’s a better person than he can dream of becoming. He is full of hate, jealousy and has a violent nature. Who knows maybe he can grow up to be president.

    • Marlena says:

      I get what you mean but surely this is not an excuse for his language. I mean, that is like Kanye West saying he made Taylor Swift famous and then recording that disgusting video with naked dolls representing various women.

      • Nancy says:

        They’re both road kill, but Taylor was famous long before Kanye and then Kim went after her. Karrueche has an agenda, but I am in no means justifying anything Brown does. He had promise as a young man as a dancer even more than a singer, but ruined any hope of redemption after beating up a woman and acting though he was the victim. He’s over and out.

  13. Narak says:

    That’s what his cell mate can say to him.

  14. Sayrah says:

    He’s vile.

  15. adastraperaspera says:

    Cue all the “good men” saying they can separate Chris Brown’s tirades from his music talent. And then keep buying and listening to his music. Hey, don’t worry, babe! Ugh.

    • Marlena says:

      This. I simply cannot seperate the art and the artist. Doesn’t matter if its Richard Wagner (Antisemitism), Polanski (Rape), Allen (Sexual Abuse, Paedophilia) or Brown. As a creative person myself I know my art originates in my soul, so I have no desire to experience art that is inspired from an antisemtic, rapist or mysoginist mind.

      • Neverwintersand says:

        I co-sign on this! My art is a product of my innermost thoughts, that have been brewing for months before being poured on paper. Just imagine, what’s going on inside that douche’s head, to say these things out loud!

  16. BP says:

    Prolly a trump supporter. What a POS.

  17. Melody says:

    Yeah, I was thinking: isn’t that what your ex says before they kill you?

  18. Nina says:

    If that ain’t panty-creaming talk, I dunno what is! Keeper material for sure.

    • Pandy says:

      LOL good one! I can’t believe he’s only 27 …. I almost feel sorry for him because he’s still so young … but his attitudes are way too harmful to feel any sympathy.

  19. Workdog says:

    Rappaport come get your boy.


  20. Lucy says:

    He should be in jail.

  21. Bridget says:

    Another healthy perspective on relationships and life from Fist Brown.

  22. Jem says:

    He sounds like Early Cuyler.

  23. jugil1 says:

    As the saying goes, “when someone shows you who they are, believe them”. He’s an abusive creep!

  24. minx says:

    Ugh, what a sicko.

  25. Liz says:

    How is he still able to have people actually pay attention to him?

  26. Tanakasan says:

    Isn’t this the plot of very single rom-com???

  27. sunnydaze says:

    All I can hope for is that when he sets out to hurt another woman – and he will – I hope this rant will be front and center of his trial.

  28. Tessa says:

    Don’t forget sting and ‘every breath you take ‘
    Ever heard him talk about the lyrics ( or don’t stand so close to me- but that’s another issue)
    This stuff is rife. It’s only because he’s an ill educated arse, that we notice it more

  29. kinta07 says:

    I like listening to a podcast calles “real crime profile”. One of the hosts is Laura Richards, the founder of Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service. They are basically talking about real crime cases like O.J. Simpson or Amanda Knox from an investigative point of view and (that part is very important to them) the victims.

    Thanks to that Podcast I have a better understanding now of what stalking is an means and how this cycle starts. It is really sad how underrepresented this topic is because it is really dangerous. And to what extend the stalker will go. I think that Chris Browns behavior is really scary an not healty at all.

    On the Paladin site they even have a Risk Check (called S-Dash 11) which is a Checklist for stalking cases. it helps potential victims to identify the warning signs. I will not link it here because I am not sure if it is allowed, but you can google it.

    Lots of love to all the ladies who ever had to deal with that. It is very sad how little I knew about that topic before but I really think people should understand that – what Chris Brown is showing – is no healthy behavior and not cute at all. Get help or get out.

  30. Kri says:

    Well. Thanks for the warning you shit dumpling, but most of us have had u figured out for years.Anyone else who is new or thinks they can change him….take heed.

  31. African Sun says:

    Chris cannot handle the fact that Kae walked away and had professional success with winning an Emmy and the success of her Colourpop line.

    He lashes out like this as part of his jealousy. He is a misogynist in the truest sense and he hates the idea that a woman does not need him.

    He also compartmentalises women into good and bad — good (Royalty his daughter), bad (Kae).

    I am amazed Chris is still even musically successful at this point.

  32. Ally8 says:

    It’s terrifying how pervasive this attitude is and how young this starts. This story from this week is haunting:

    That Margaret Atwood quote is sadly accurate: ‘Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.’

  33. pinetree13 says:

    Wow. Why didn’t he just say, “HEY EVERYONE, I just want you all to know that I learned NOTHING from being criticized for beating Rhianna to a pulp and I completely have an abuser’s mentality oh and HEY EVERYONE I also want you to know that not only do I have this mentality, I think it’s so OKAY that I see nothing wrong with telling everyone.”

    Also ladies, a man who says “I love you, bitch” no. please no. A man who loves you won’t need to feel the desire to include a derogatory term in the same sentence to let you know your place.

  34. BearcatLawyer says:

    The fact that Chris Brown refers to a woman he is supposedly enamoured with as “bitch” says it all to me. Whatever he is selling, it is not love and respect. It is not healthy, and anyone who tries to pass off his comments as the hyperbolic rantings of a tortured musician is just as blind and ignorant as he is.

  35. Anilehcim says:

    Having a hard time finding the words to express my disgust. The Instagram comments treating that video like a joke are really disheartening. This pathetic loser continues to try to make Karrueche’s life hell and it’s horrible! If anything, I would say this video can and should be considered a threat against her. I stopped listening to his music a long time ago because of how disgusting I find him as a human being. I cannot condone that behavior. I wish that more people would feel the same way. Please, anyone reading this, stop supporting this man.

  36. Maraidh says:

    He needs psychiatric help, STAT. My heart aches for his baby girl. What kind of crazy antics has she witnessed?

  37. Bunny says:

    He seems like a really nice guy.

  38. bitchy says:

    Look at the language in porn and erotic movies.
    Look at the way men are allowed to talk to women: “I want to f*** your brains out.” and similar.
    Look at how people refer to themselves: “I am a lean mean machine.” Really? You are a machine that has an owner and does what it is told to do? And you are “mean”?
    Look at the way some men some women refer to women/themselves as “bitches” and such. No matter what you think you mean to express when you call a woman or yourself a “bitch” this is always a derogative term. Always. Even if you mean to express admiration with the term “bitch” there is always the connotat of humilitation and derision within the term “bitch”

    This type of violent and nearly belligerent language is everywhere in human conversations. And unfortunately some people take it literally. And unfortunately pathetic rappers likce C. Brown will try to make some money by provoking with such language and by using it.