I will criticize Tom Brady for so many things. I will criticize him for being a ball-deflating cheater. I will criticize him for being an idiot who believes in junk science. I will criticize him for his bullsh-t thoughts on concussions in football. I will criticize him for partying in Las Vegas with Ben Affleck and the nanny. But one thing I cannot criticize is the fact that Tom Brady loves his children. Tom came from a close, loving family. Gisele Bundchen came from a close, loving family. They adore their children and they are hands-on parents who prioritize their family. I always think Tom is like David Beckham in that way – even if those kids think their dads are super-uncool, Tom and Becks are still going to shower their kids with hugs and kisses. So why is it a big deal that Tom and his son Jack kiss each other on the lips? Hint: it is not a big deal.
This controversy arose because Tom took part in a Facebook docu-series called Tom vs. Time, which aired ahead of this Sunday’s Super Bowl. In the docu-series, Tom is seen on a massage table, being worked on, when Jack comes in to talk to his dad about his fantasy football team. Tom asks Jack playfully, “What do I get?” Jack gives his dad a quick kiss and Tom says that: “That was like a peck.” Jack comes back and gives his dad another kiss. Here’s the clip:
Nothing to see here, just Tom Brady locking lips with his son pic.twitter.com/gv4ysjLfs9
— Laces Out (@LacesOutShow) February 1, 2018
In all of the conversations that we, as a society, have been having about toxic masculinity and what boys are taught and the learned behavior of men, WHY are people making a big deal about this? This is a father and son who clearly adore each other and Tom likely just wants to be affectionate with his kids while they’re still little, before they push him away because he’s so uncool. The people upset about this are the ones upholding toxic masculinity, this idea that a father and son shouldn’t have a warm, affectionate relationship because they’re men and men showing affection is “girly” or “gay.” Stop it.
Photos courtesy of Getty.
I have to admit I’m a little uncomfortable with this…
Why
I didn’t mind it the first time, then Tom said “That was like a ‘peck.’” I thought that was weird because kisses are pecks unless you’re romantic with someone (usually). So the second kiss lingered, but it’s not something that I would’ve put on Twitter. People think they’re making fun of Tom Brady, but that kid has a life too. While I don’t kiss my family on the lips, I know people that do. To each their own.
I didn’t feel uncomfortable until he said that’s just a peck
It’s not a kiss, he’s just sucking some of the air out…
bazinga!
*ZIIIING*
OH YES 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Your are wrong for that! (giggles)
YAASSS!
Lol 🙂
I’m only uncomfortable because he says “that was just a peck” and makes his son come back. When I was a kid I HATED when family would say “that wasn’t a real hug” or that wasn’t a real kiss and make me do it again. I hate forced affection on kids. It has nothing to do with it being girly or gay.
I’m with you on that. The weird/potentially harmful part is using affection as currency, not the affection itself.
I do agree there. Right up there with “try it, you’ll like it”. No, I will not like it, I will gag and potentially throw up the gross food in front of God and everybody. That was a real hug, I’m just feeling shy or uncomfortable and you admonishing me is only making that worse.
It’s nice not being a kid anymore.
I’m uncomfortable because that is a LONG kiss. I come from an Italian family and many of the men kiss each other on the lips, but not lingering kisses like that. It is off.
As I said in another post, as a teacher, if I saw one of my students in an online video like that, I would call our school psychologist, at the least. Maybe Child Protective Services. SO not appropriate. I really can’t believe anyone is thinking this is healthy.
I don’t care if that child is a boy or a girl, I was a teacher and if I saw a video of one of my students kissing his/her parent that long, I would call Child Protective Services. Yup. I would. Go ahead. Yell at me. But I would. It reminds me of some of the ways Trump treated Ivanka. Just not appropriate.
As someone who used to work in CPS… Please save your calls to the abuse hotline for serious things.
Although my threshold for what is abusive behavior has been shaped by what I was forced to witness in that job. Truly horrifying things. TB kissing his kid on the lips doesn’t touch locking your small, malnourished children in a closet for days at a time while you go on a heroin binge, for example.
As a teacher, I would have been mandated to report that if I thought it was abusive or unhealthy for the child. A 3 second kiss coerced by Daddy?? I would be calling.
It isn’t only poor kids who are abused. And all abuse isn’t as drastic as what you described.
My God Veronica, are you serious? That is so absurd, I dumbfounded.
My family is a very kissy, huggy bunch. We kiss hello, goodbye, and a lot of things in-between lol. Sometimes we kiss on the lips (*usually* not on purpose, but aims can miss!), but we’d never “linger” like that! A peck IS for family, longer is for a romantic partner, not a parent.
To make a kid come back for a mulligan on the lips.. just no.
Ridiculous
I agree, this is the one thing that should not be criticized and I am sure the ones that do also are the same people clinging to the “traditional gender roles”.
If my husband kissed my daughter that long, I would hit him over the head with a frying pan.
Not about gender roles AT ALL. It’s about the length of the kiss after being called back.
It is off.
Thank you, Veronica!
Agreed.
I kiss my ten-year old son on the lips, mostly because he insists on it since we’ve kissed since he was a baby. We kiss on the cheeks too. But if he ever walked away from me wiping his mouth on his shirt like that, it would trouble me.
I also never make him “pay” for things with kisses.
Yeah the face wiping seems normal. My kid does it when people kiss her on the face and she isn’t feeling it. He didn’t seem to be disgusted though – just being germ conscious as kids are at that age which is not a bad thing. Kids think everything is “ewww”. That said I agree that kisses should never be bartered- you don’t want that to be normalized so that they become vulnerable to a perv who wants to barter.
yep – very very much this
My friend’s daughter always wipes her face after kissing someone on the face – even if she’s the one who asked to give the kiss in the first place. Some kids are just like that. It’s not necessarily a red flag to me.
THANK YOU!!!
His son wipes it off, HE’S uncomfortable, so we are as well bc we see that. I don’t like to be touched. Don’t make me hug you in exchange for something. Same thing.
Ha! My thought was, “Well, enjoys those kisses while you can, because he’s ( Benjamin) just about fed up with it.”
It seems like kind of a power struggle. Kid wants to give a quick peck but Dad is all, “Nope, get back here, pal.” Let go, Tom, he’s growing up and trying to begin the task of separating as adolescence looms.
I should add that we are not lip kissers of our kids. I have no issue with it, but it is weird and pushy that he made his son come back and yield to what Dad wanted with no thought of how son clearly felt.
The opinions on this topic are great. My best friend came to see me in hospital last week, and brought her 3-year-old grandson. He came with a Get Well Soon balloon and lollipops, and proceeded o eat the food gifts others had brought me – chips, grapes, chocolate etc. He was very concerned about my “sore leg”, which he’d heard about. He’s such a sweetie. When they were leaving he came to hug and kiss me. My face immediately turned to peck his cheek – I love him, but he’s not my grandson – but he moved his face so I kissed his lips. He is used to kissing granny and aunties on the lips, and I think he sees me as one of them. No one seemed awkward or uncomfortable, but it did feel a bit weird to me. I honestly don’t know how I feel about this topic, and cannot remember when I stopped kissing my own children on the lips. Ehh, I’m inclined to just mind my own business.
That is very cute though. He obviously adores you very much. To him it is just affection.
Maybe because I’m French and I never witnessed it here, but it feels weird. But as long as it’s ok for them, who cares. When I was in Ireland in a family to learn english, the 23 years old daughter kissed her mom and grandma on the lips, looked weird at first but to each their own
Huh??! I’m French and it’s not uncommon to see parents kissing their kids on the mouth.
But this is TOO long! It’s not about to each their own, it’s about what acceptable as a society. You do not kiss your kids on the lips like their your SO it’s just gross and very disturbing.
I’m Swedish, we’re not exactly known for being prudes, but this felt really icky to me. Mainly because of the second kiss – calling the child back and then the length of it. I’m absolutely cool with parents kissing their kids on the lips if both parties are comfortable with it and it’s a peck. This was too long and also coerced from the father.
Well in general I don’t like kissing on the lips between blood family.
BUT this is not my family so I don’t make the rules. They clearly love each other so who cares?
People always want to judge others’ parenting styles. I’m sure I’d catch huge flak for telling my four year old fart stories which she adores.
What’s wrong with kissing someone you love on the lips
Different families and different cultures feel differently about it. So it’s not that there’s something “wrong,” it’s that some people raised in a certain way in the US are uncomfortable with it.
My husband’s aunt always kissed on the lips, whereas he was raised more of a cheek-kisser and so was I. So be it.
This doesn’t feel at all like a big deal or newsworthy. As Kaiser wrote, plenty of other things to criticize Brady on if one had to.
Leave the kid alone.
I doubt Tom Brady is attracted to his kid 😗
Btw, it bothers me when people shame kids on the internet as this does, in a way. Kid has to go to school.
I don’t know why, but it kinda makes me uncomfortable too. I’m not gonna complain about it and tell people how they should interact with their kids, but I just find it weird. I don’t like it when my kids try to kiss my lips and I don’t let them. I guess I just feel like kissing on the lips is a more of a sexual/intimate act, whereas a kiss on the cheek or head is more platonic/affectionate. That’s just how I view it and I know everybody doesn’t see it that way. I’ll never complain about any parent showing love and affection to their child. As long as it’s appropriate and some kind of abuse isn’t taking place nobody should ever harp on a parent showing their child love. They need that love and at this point the world could use a lot more love too.
I’m with you – that’s how I feel as well. Well said.
Tom grew up with this. He was under fire before when he kissed his dad at the stadium on the lips, he’s kissed his mom on the lips many times, etc. There are photos. Seems to be a family thing.
What a world we live in where positive and loving interaction between a father and son are turned into something unwholesom.
Keep on being a good dad. The hell with the people who see wrong in the right.
^10000000000
Ugh I know! I see so many stories lately of parents abusing or killing their babies or toddlers and than this?!?! Are you effing kidding me?! I’ve said this before when other celebs have been shamed for kissing their kids on the lips as well. I do it, my kids are all under 6yo though and they will probably stop letting me soon and then I will. For now though this is how we show affection. My kids came out of me and nursed on me ffs. Turing this into an issue is ridiculous. You can’t win raising kids either way anymore.
This completely. So very sad.
Yes. Totally. How sad that we are micro-analyzing this to death.
I’ve always liked how affectionate and open Becks is with his kids too.
The length of that kiss is disturbing. I don’t care about kissing on the lips, many families do that. But the length of the kiss?? Something is off.
Yes Veronica, you’ve made it very clear you really have some issues
My son asks for kisses before he goes inside his school, it ranges from 5-10 kisses and the last kiss always lasts long, longer than that. I hope none of the parents in my son’s school veronica. Btw the only kids who doesn’t kiss anyone on the lips are the ones who was taken to school by the nanny or driver. So I guess all parents in my son’s school will make you feel uncomfortable. The first time you said it was more than enough not again and again and again and again.
Geez Veron, we get it. You don’t like it. You don’t condone it. You WILL call CPS. You WILL MAKE IT YOUR JOB!!!! Noted.
We are lip kissers, and I kiss my kids on their lips. My husband does too, and they see us kiss each other. We are very affectionate, so at bedtime, we kiss the forehead, the ears, the nose, the eyes, the cheeks and a final kiss on the lips. My oldest daughter will hold my face and then kiss my lips and cuddle.
I think there is too much equating innocent affection with sexual affection. It is just lips. My baby likes long lips kisses like it is a challenge. Or a series of counting lip kisses. But not lips it is wips as in Mama I kiss wips. L is too hard at this point.
I kiss my father on the lips, a peck because I love him so much it feels like a more personal kind of affection but absolutely nothing untoward about it. My mother hugs me and likes to sit me next to her and cuddle and kiss my forehead. When I was very ill last year, she kissed my lips.
Tom just seems like he misses his children being babies. I wouldn’t be surprised if they had another.
Is he southern? We do this in the south. I kissed my mom and dad goodnight on the lips until I was probably 12 or 13. It was never a big deal at all. Same for my brother. I kissed my daughter on the lips until she was in sixth grade (after that, it was a no go for her, LOL). My brother kisses his kids on the lips.
It’s just REALLY not that big of a deal.
I do really think this is a regional thing. My grandma was from West Virginia and would always kiss all of us grandkids on the mouth. My parents on the other hand, as Chicagoans, were barely huggers. It depends on the family.
Idk. I’m from Michigan, as is my entire family, and we are all full on the mouth kissers, even as adults. My in-laws, too. It’s just totally normal for us, although I know other families have different norms.
I don’t really know what determines whether you’re on the lips kissers vs cheek kissers vs huggers, etc. maybe it’s regional? But doesn’t seem like it, really.
@Anastacia: Tom Brady is from Northern California & went to college in Michigan, so he’s not Southern. But his wife is South American, so maybe she was a bit of an influence.
My parents were both very physically UN affectionate. Like, we NEVER even said, “I love you” to each other. My mum and I were extremely close & I knew she loved us with every fiber of her being, but she grew up in a German immigrant household that was not affectionate at all. I really missed not having that affection, so I’m super affectionate with my kids. We kiss each other on the lips & say loving things all the time. My son just turned 10 & decided he’s too old to hold Mom’s hand in public–but he still likes to snuggle & get a goodnight kiss at home. 🙂
I’m from Michigan too. My parents were Michigan born and raised. My mom’s parents came from Germany. My dad’s family has lived in MI for several generations. We’ve always kissed on the lips. I’m 41 now and we’ve never stopped. I don’t even think about it.
HA! Maybe it’s just a Michigan thing then!
I’m also from Michigan and my whole family kisses on the lips too.
I commented up about kissing on the lips and I’m also from Michigan lol.
OMG – What’s going on!? Too funny!
I’m German and our whole family kisses on the lips. Maybe a German thing 🤔
I did that too, though I stopped much sooner; I decided I preferred to hug people goodnight instead. But I didn’t and still don’t regard it as strange. It’s just a form of expressing affection.
If you watch the web-series this comes from Tom vs. Time they actually show a childhood photo of Tom and his dad (Tom Sr.) kissing and then a more current photo of Tom kissing Ben. It just seems like a family thing. I say different strokes, different folks. Nothing dirty or inappropriate is happening. If people have a problem with it, I think they need to examine why it is they feel that way (IMO, I tend to think Americans can be too puritanical about physical affection).
No but what I find strange is that everyone forgets he also kisses his own mother and father on the lips (now, at this age!), therefore he grew up in a lip kissing family, obviously. While I think he has Irish blood, this doesn’t really matter. What matters is that this is clearly what Tom knows from his own family and Gisele is very touchy kissy too (I have Brazilian friends and they are very physical with us, with kids and all, like very!). I think it’s more probable Jack is less comfortable with this because his mom may not be that kind of person. BTW my own son started kissing me on the lips himself as a sign of very good mood, it’s a special treat lol and with such a pouting face that one can hardly restrain one’s laughter, he is Jacks age.
It’s weird to me no matter the sex of the parent and child.
I come from a family that isn’t touchy feely. I don’t even like hugs for the most part with my family, ahha. I do give hugs – but not all that often. Whenever I visit nan I’ll give her a hug, and when I see family I haven’t seen in a while, or whatever. But I’m just not someone who needs to be touching people all the time.
So to me, it’s strange. But thinking back, I think when I was very little I’d give my mom super exaggerated ‘guppy lips’ kisses.
It’s one of those things that doesn’t really bother me if other people do it – it’s their family. But it always surprises me when I see it just because it’s different than what I’m used to.
yes, I find it weird independent of the sex of the parent and child…and I actually come from a very super touchy feely family..but kissing of the lips? no thank you. A hug is way more affectionate than a kiss on the lips, so I also don’t see how feeling that this is not appropriate is some way of denying an affectionate relationship between father and son.
Agree.
And that second kiss… I wouldn’t kiss my husband that long in front of my/his parents LoL
(european c̶h̶e̶e̶k̶ air kissers here)
Who are these internet thugs that complain about such minute things…probably ones that never received love or affection. My 11 yea oldl still kisses me and his grand parents on the lips. smh
Do you kiss your grandchild for that long? Cause I was a teacher and if I saw a video in which you kissed your grandchild for that long, I would be calling Child Protective Services. Seriously. And I bet most other teachers would do the same looking at that.
I watched again. That was a 3 second kiss. That is WAY unhealthy. Sorry. I stick to my guns on this. I would be making that call.
Veronica you are unhinged. Get a life!
Veronica has some serious problems
She is really pushing Her agenda hard on this.
That was kind of a long second kiss but it’s probably just the angle. We kiss our daughter on the lips all the time. I didn’t grow up kissing my parents that way but it just kind of naturally evolved that way. Now when I ask her to give me a kiss she holds my face down and plants one on me. Seems like a loving dad loving his son and how great is it that his son returned to give him a kiss – must not be in his preteen/teen years.
Ha! His son seems like such a regular kid. He wiped his mouth with his shirt and mentioned Cam Newton. Love it.
F that. If I’m feeling indignation in defense of Tom Brady there’s a serious problem here.
Ha, this.
THANK YOU !!!!
Priorities people. ;).
My dad did this with my brother and I until he passed away and we were in our 30s. My mom on the other hand doesn’t really do it all the much. My dad was Arab and my mom English – culture definitely plays a role. There’s nothing I wouldn’t give for just one more of my dads kisses! Far more things to be outraged by
my mother always kissed me on the lips and i always hated it, when i tried to get away she would say there is something wrong with me
im not saying this kid hates it but seeing people do it always reminds me of being little and not being allowed to have autonomy over your own body
Reminds me the same way, Lia. It’s not the kiss itself to me, a kiss between parent and child is fine, it’s that he criticized the child afterward that the kiss was not sufficient in length. I feel people should let the child set the boundaries of their physical contact with others.
Your mother was wrong not to respect your autonomy. My friend’s children are all under five, and we still ask their permission before giving kisses and hugs most of the time. (Except the toddler, who is non-verbal autistic, but he’ll give you a physical “push” if he doesn’t want it, and we respect that. Otherwise, he’s a very snuggly baby.)
Tom doesn’t force his son to kiss him specifically on the lips, the kid does it himself, so I’m fine with this.
I hate Cry Brady with the power of a thousand suns but even I can’t criticize for this. My husband would kill for our boys to show him this kind of love. Once they hit a certain age they want nothing to do with you (unless it’s money, material things, or a ride somewhere) and that STINGS. My favorite part is Jack wiping his mouth after the kiss. Atta boy.
When my nephews were that age, their parents, grandparents, and I gave them quick smooches on their lips. A quick kiss on the lips isn’t like the open-mouthed tongue hockey you’d do with a boyfriend or husband. I have no problem with Tom smooching his kids
Like it or not, it was scientificly proven that the balls deflation was caused by the temperature outside, and the Pats ended up scoring more points in the second half with the fully inflated ball
This is such a natural, normal part of their lives that it seems as though they didn’t think twice about including it in the video. It must have been shocking and sickening to Tom and his wife to realize how some twisted people would view this. It shocks and sickens me, and it’s not my family.
I’m not a big Brady fan, but he’s a damn good QB and a great dad. I’m not a fan of either team in the Super Bowl this year, and I was looking for a reason to root for someone. Makes the game more fun. So thank you, twisted fools, you just gave me a reason. Go Patriots!
I love your comment.
Yes, I also thought they’d would had never left this in the movie if they were uncomfortable or even just wondering about it. The fact that it is there is a clear proof that to them it is just how things are in their family and not in a sick way. Tom obviously grew up kissing his parents that way and Gisele is super touchy and kissy, so it makes sense. It’s normal for them.
Not a fan of his but I love that he is affectionate to his kids.
+10000
My daughter’s sort of growed up and she still says, “Give me kisses!” We tend not to kiss on the lips but she’s so affectionate, if my husband and I were not basically cheek-kissers she’d probably go in for the kill.
It’s hard to see parent-child affection as a bad thing and when something wrong is happening, people tend to hide it, not put it on display.
This is the problem with broadcasting intimate family moments.
Did he not want to do it because he did not want to do it, or did he not want to do it because of the camera in the room? Tom Brady is used to living out his life in front of cameras. Maybe this would be better left to private family time.
Yeah. As “aw” inducing as it can be, I get really uncomfortable watching things like this, mostly because it feels like an invasion of privacy. Like I’m a voyeur spying on them. Which I realize is exactly the point, but personally I don’t enjoy it. I would not want my family’s little intimate moments on display for the world to pick apart and criticize. Even as a kid I would get weird about doing things I normally did when we had guests over. I can’t imagine how I’d react to strangers with cameras.
Yeah, unheard of in my family. Never never never. Still looks weird to me. If the kid was comfortable with just a peck – maybe because of the cameras? – I’d leave him alone – but give him a power hug later!
I can’t believe this is a scandal.
I still kiss my parents on the lips, how is affection ‘gross’?
We are exactly the same in our house.
I am really shocked by quite a few of the comments on here especially the teacher who said if she saw this in person she would ring Child Protection…
I think it is very very odd to turn a loving gesture like this in to something abusive and/or sexual.
I was completely fine with the peck but the longer kiss was a bit weird. And I have kissed all my kids on the lips.
I thought the first kiss was fine but the longer kiss was a little weird but to each their own.
My husband tells our 3 boys he loves them but as for showing affection, it’s him grabbing them in a hug or headlock and giving them a hard kiss on the cheek. That’s what I’m used to seeing but I’d have had no problem with him giving them a kiss on the lips.
His son wiped his lips after and seemed annoyed with his dad. Maybe he has “outgrown” those types of kisses.
I used to think kissing your children on the lips was weird until I had my own. Our daughter is 13 years old and severely disabled. Non-verbal, non-ambulatory etc. She functions at around a 6-12 month level. One of my biggest fears was that she would never understand or show me love. A few years ago I asked her to give mommy a kiss and she leaned over and kissed me right on the lips and smiled at me so big. Words can’t describe the relief and overwhelming love I felt in that moment. My daughter can kiss me on the lips forever if she wants to. I will never judge another parent for kissing their precious children on the lips.
That is such a sweet story.
Aw … thank you for sharing that! What an incredible moment that must have been!!
That must have been such an amazing moment for you both. Thank you for sharing this perspective.
Sweet story made my morning. Thank you.
what a beautiful moment. thanks for sharing.
i kiss my family on the lips and will kiss my child on the lips unless she asks me not to. it is not sexual in any way shape or form. some people are neglected and desperate for attention and affection and human contact and it impairs them mentally. these children (and yours and mine) are so lucky to give and show love with kisses.
stop making me cry!!! <3 the love between a mommy and her daughter <3 <3
Oh, that’s beautiful!
Love this and so happy for you that your daughter can show affection like that. My oldest who is almost 6 is also severely disabled and non ambulatory, she can sit up and roll but nothing else. I kiss her on the lips all of the time and she laughs and smiles and it’s the best feeling in the world!
Love hearing this ❤️
Beautiful story.
Beautiful!!! Thank-you so much for sharing that!!
These stories make me weepy. I am so happy for OP and MelM.
Heartwarming stories that I wish we heard more of nowadays.
People use ANY excuse to hate him. This is ridiculous. Like football or not, he is a prodigy. He is one of if not the best players to ever exist. I do not watch football but people hate him so much it’s not even normal. Get over it, my gosh.
+100 it’s just a couple of days away from Bradys millionth Super Bowl, and the bitter haters use absolutely anything to talk bad about him. The ridiculous dislike for him is never normal.
Like @kaiser said, there should be no criticism for him being a loving and adoring father in a close and loving family.
And this is BEFORE he wins his sixth ring this weekend.
I feel bad that people are talking about this. My youngest kisses my cheek and likes to cuddle. My middle kisses my lips, and the oldest barely even hugs me. It’s whatever their comfortable with.
???
I’m 31, and I still occasionally give my mom kisses on the mouth. He clearly extends it out the second time for drama. My friend’s children kiss the grownups on the mouth all the time and do the same thing. It’s a child and parent. People are f*cking gross implying anything different.
Uh, there is apparently a second Veronica on these boards now, but to clarify, I am not the one responding to everyone how WRONG!! the kiss is and threatening to call CYS on them.
I don’t see anything creepy there. Dang, I even kiss my cats, and it sure doesn’t mean it’s zoophilia.
Lol, I kiss my cat too. I love him to pieces.
Everyone acting like this is about bodily autonomy is exploiting that term. Having a loving and playful relationship with your parent is very different from lack of autonomy over body choices and sexuality. I kissed my parents on the lips, sometimes I was embarrassed or sarcastic about their affection. That is very different from being forced into a situation with a parent you don’t want. Come on now.
thank you.
We criticize things like this, then we all sit around and wonder why adult men do not understand platonic loving touch and cannot express affection physically without there being a sexual element involved. It’s ridiculous.
This so damn much.^^
Amen
ITA!! Damned if you do… damned if you don’t.
Great point.
Exactly
It’s fine. If you’re not comfortable with it, that’s your issue.
Whatever. I’l raise my kids as I see fit. FTW.
My mom and dad always kissed us goodnight, our whole lives. It was not a big deal. This is just a normal, loving family to me. My dad died young, and I miss him. I would do anything to have one of his smooches again. I bet my brother would too!
Yes!! The over-sexualization of our society. There is nothing wrong with this. I love that his family is demonstrative.
This must be a cultural thing. I couldn’t imagine EVER kissing my parents on the lips. EVER.
Of all the things to criticize about Tom Brady, this isn’t one of them. BFD, my 10-year-old son still kisses me on the lips sometimes. Soon enough, I’ll be lucky to get a quick hug. Talk about oversexualization of society; kind of sad, really. Team Tom on this one (one of the only times I’ll ever say that LOL)
Does your son kiss you on the lips for 3 LOOOONNNNNG seconds? Cause that is how long that poor kid kissed his father for? And that isn’t healthy or normal.
I’m 36 and give my dad occasional kisses on the lips, like quick little pecks hello and goodbye. It’s sweet and I love it. That level of affection works for us and when he is gone I’m going to be horribly sorry I can’t do that anymore.
It sounds like you have a great relationship with your dad! <3
It appears to me that the boy determined the length of the kiss. It’s no big deal. I’m 47 and still kiss my parents on the lips. My 20 year old daughter still kisses me on the lips. My 17 year old son kisses me on the cheek or forehead. We are just a loving and affectionate family. That’s all there is to it. I can see why many people would be weirded out by it, but there is nothing weird about it to me.
Better this than all the violence and brutality in this world. Nothing but love.
People will likely make “tinfoil hat” jokes at me for this, but social engineering doesn’t like to see families together and being affectionate.
How you are equating a 3 second kiss a boy is coerced to come back and give his daddy with social engineering destroying families is beyond me. Really.
U seem really bent about this. If you don’t want to kiss your kids – don’t But stop making it seem like people who do are pedophiles. I honestly think you’re a little too focused on it. Why are you counting the long seconds a child kisses his father? That’s weirder than the affection.
Lizzie,
I went back and looked at the video again, because I am having trouble with people thinking this is OK. I think that you think this is normal perhaps means you have some weird ideas of what is healthy behavior between a parent and a child.
And 26 years in a classroom where we have to be aware of subtle signs of abuse or unhealthy boundaries does make one sensitive to this, even if the Daddy is a rich white football player.
I’ve been teaching upper elementary for 23 years. I don’t see anything wrong with the affection. It’s a familial kiss, and I think it’s kind of gross the way it’s being sexualized.
But here’s the thing, your point was made the FIRST time you said it. And unless there’s a secret society of Veronicas that’s VERY OPPOSED to the idea of parent-child kisses longer than 2 seconds, you posting over and over and over again about how weird it is just MIGHT indicate that the problem lies with you. Just a thought. SHEESH.
Boy Veronica I’m so thankful for you. My mom kissed me on the lips today after I hadn’t seen her in 2 months. It was so excessive. I called the police and got that bitch locked up. You’re a hero. #veronicatoo #26yearteacher #hideurkidsfromveronica
I kiss my mom on the lips goodbye most of the times I see her, and my dad very occasionally. The kiss did kind of linger a tad, so it appeared a little weird, but if I hadn’t been looking for it I likely wouldn’t have noticed and it’s wonderful to see a father physically affectionate with his son.
The thing that makes me uncomfortable is that the son seemed very reluctant to do it. The camera was probably a major factor in that.
Yea, we are a very affectionate family- snuggles, hugs, and kisses on the cheek. I don’t think it’s just a toxic masculinity thing.
I don’t think people necessarily find this inappropriate because Tom is a guy. I remember similar criticism for a female celebrity and her child (can’t remember who right now!) a few years back. I think some people are generally uncomfortable with kissing on the lips between immediate family – regardless of the gender of the parent/other family member and child. We used to “peck” our grandparents on the lips when we were kids, but I’ll admit I generally feel a little uncomfortable about it as an adult (not with my grandparents – just in general) for reasons that I can’t fully identify. That said, I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Re . the face-wiping that people are commenting on, this is just a kid thing I think – I don’t think it means his son is uncomfortable or grossed out or feels forced or whatever. When I drop off my daughter at school (she’s 8), she does a big show of eww’ing and eye rolling when I hug or kiss her goodbye – but if I DON’T, she will come back and make sure she gives me a big ol’ smooch.
So honestly I don’t see that as a big deal at all.
My son (who is 5) will grab my face and make sure he plants a smooch full on my mouth if I happen to turn my head or my cheek is facing him. He will not take no for an answer! It’s a completely platonic show of love and affection!
Strictly hugs in my family. Kisses like that would be regarded as weird and not in anything like a good, shrug off way.
I gave to admit, while Brady and his wife get on my nerves, I don’t see anything wrong with this at all. I think his son was trolling him when his dad said the first kiss was just a peck. His son was not forced to kiss his dad again, and I have to admit, it’s really nice seeing Brady and his family with Gisele spending time with Jack. He obviously loves his family.
It doesn’t matter what we think of Brady demanding a longer kiss, what matters is that it made his son uncomfortable. We don’t know their off-screen dynamics. The kid does. I would say Brady does, but he’s too self-involved. At least when he ends up in therapy for control issues, he’s have this for Exhibit A.
This was me, all the time. I hated being kissed on the lips by my father. And being told it wasn’t enough. Where is the line? If you are asking, it’s been crossed. My kids (13, 9) will initiate sitting on my lap, hugs, and good night kisses and hugs. After Sandy Hook we started “hugging out” – kid gets hugged until they say hugged out Mom! And only if they want “hugging out”.
I don’t think there was anything obviously wrong about this. It was affectionate, but I didn’t see anything “sexual” about it.
At the same time, I do appreciate the newer line of thinking when it comes to parenting and body autonomy. For example, asking your kids if they WANT to give grandma a hug/kiss, not telling them they MUST go give grandma a kiss.
People don’t be crazy. That was really sweet.
omg. I read every single comment and don’t know where to start. It WAS sweet. And kids ALWAYS wipe their lips after kisses. Tom included all this in the film to show us his love.
On the other hand, my immediate family kisses on the lips. NONE of my relatives kiss on the lips except one uncle. My extended family is very affectionate. And my cousins and I have discussed for years how only MY siblings kiss on the lips. I dislike kissing on lips of anyone but my husband. So with my immediate family I turn my head once I realized there was a choice.
My family was dysfunctional. There was abuse between my younger siblings, and my father did something unforgivable. For ME, my sisters and brothers kissing on the lips has always been fraught with tension, anxiety when all I want to do is hug and kiss on the cheek. I love kissing on the cheeks, particularly twice and thrice.
There is no one way for anything. It is clear that whatever else is going on in the Brady household, his kids are loved and nurtured and feel safe in a way that NEVER happened in in my home. When my siblings and parents kissed me on the lips it felt like being pulled back into the crab barrel.
There was absolutely nothing wrong with what he did.
of course my post was cancelled! what an open-minded and free to debate and discussion place! there was nothing wrong or offensive, yet disagreeing is not allowed here?
I just want to mention Damn Veronica has some serious issues
Get some therapy girl, and I’m saying this as a professional therapist :p
I fail to see what this has to do with toxic masculinity. It’s creepy. And it would be creepy if a woman did it with her daughter. Or any variation of gender.
Many celebs do this. Alessandra Ambrosio kisses her daughter on the lips.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with family members kissing each other on the lips, however I found it strange how TB coerced his son into kissing him with his comment “what do I get?”. Clearly, he has used a kiss from his son as currency in the past, as his son automatically knew he was supposed to come and kiss his father in order to get what he wanted in return. And then for TB to demand a longer kiss? The child seemed uncomfortable. I’m all for showing affection with loved ones, however I want to be the one to initiate this affection, when it is natural and spontaneous, not because I feel obligated or coerced. I feel children should have the same ability to decide when they want to share affection.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with family members kissing each other on the lips, however I found it strange how TB coerced his son into kissing him with his comment “what do I get?”. Clearly, he has used a kiss from his son as currency in the past, as his son automatically knew he was supposed to come and kiss his father in order to get what he wanted in return. And then for TB to demand a longer kiss? The child seemed uncomfortable. I’m all for showing affection with loved ones, however I want to be the one to initiate this affection, when it is natural and spontaneous, not because I feel obligated or coerced. I feel children should have the same autonomy and ability to decide when and with whom they want to share affection.
“I will criticize him for being a ball-deflating cheater.” You know he is not a ball-deflating cheater. He didn’t do that. The NFL didn’t prove he did that.
“I will criticize him for partying in Las Vegas with Ben Affleck and the nanny.” Why? He can’t party anymore? It was a charity event.
You really don’t like him. I can’t believe you wrote a “nice” story about him.
I stopped kissing my parents on the mouth when I started kissing boys during recess lol. But my family is full on huggy kissy lovey. I grew up like that (I’m not even American). My daughter refuses to kiss me and her father anywhere but on the mouth. Let’s focus on starved, abused kids as opposed to a dad who very openly loves his son.