Tracy Anderson on the importance of sex: ‘I don’t care if you’re having sex with yourself’

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How bad/funny is this Health Magazine cover? Maybe magazine editors are just like us: actively looking for a way to make Tracy Anderson look like a bobblehead. It’s not that difficult – she looks like a bobblehead in most photos anyway, although I think Health might have Photoshopped her head at some point. Anyway, Tracy covers Health and the interview is mostly about her Method, health and ladies needing to just get themselves off, for health purposes. Finally, I agree with Tracy about something. You can read the whole profile here. Note: this interview was conducted before her fiance dumped her in the alleged first trimester of her third pregnancy. Some highlights:

Her engagement: “I knew it was coming, but I didn’t know when. Once you find your true love, you start to get a little anxious. Everyone was saying, “I think he’s going to propose!” I thought he might ask at Christmas, and then when that didn’t happen, I thought maybe New Year’s. Then we were in Aspen without the kids. We were walking on this street at the base of the mountain and he got down on one knee. I actually crouched down on my knees with him. He said, “I want you to be my wife. I love Sam [Anderson’s 19-year-old son], I love Penny, I love you.” It was really amazing. I’m going to try and have another child. I’m 43, but my body feels like it can do it.

She went into therapy after her second divorce: “I was never a therapy-goer before. Even in the face of trauma, I always felt like, “I can do this.” But then I realized, you know what? I don’t want to invite chaos into my life. I want to learn how to stand up for myself. People looked at me and said, “Oh, you’re so strong,” but actually I had a lot of things I really needed to figure out. In therapy, you have to go way back. It was the hardest work I’ve ever done. Gwyneth and I have this in common—sometimes we say, “That was so bad, I erased it from my brain.” But in therapy, you have to be radically honest.

Every woman has fears, except for Jennifer Lopez: “Every woman feels vulnerable. What’s interesting is that now anyone can do the trickery that’s been happening to celebrities for a long time. Doesn’t that person on Instagram look like they have it all? We can all play that game now. It’s a disservice to womanhood to make us envy one another or desire to look like one another. Everyone, whether or not they’re a celebrity, has the same fears. Except for Jennifer Lopez. She doesn’t ever hate on herself physically. I mean, she is J.Lo, but I’ve seen very beautiful women hate on themselves, and she’s really the only woman I know who doesn’t.

Sex is part of self-care: “Sometimes people become sexually turned off and shut down. I see it a lot. People will say, “Oh my God, I don’t even care about sex anymore,” and I say, “No, no, no. It’s important.” I always say to women, “I don’t care if you’re having sex with yourself. It’s a part of your body, your processing, your stress release, your self-love—it’s important.”

[From Health]

I think it’s fine for people to go in and out of sexual urges and most people will go through a stage or a period in time in adulthood where they just aren’t that into sex. Maybe it’s weight gain, maybe it’s hormones, whatever. It happens and you can be fine with that too. But I actually sort of like the way Tracy describes “self-love”: “It’s a part of your body, your processing, your stress release, your self-love – it’s important.” It IS important. Plus, everybody feels better about the world after an orgasm (I had to invest in a new vibrator when Baby Fists became president). As for Tracy wanting to have another baby… we’ll see. Her romantic life is actually littered with drama, so I’m not even 100% sure she’ll make it down the aisle again.

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  1. Maum says:

    Wow. That flowery jumpsuit is sooooooo unflattering.

  2. Lucy2 says:

    Trying to decide which is more awkward- talking about her engagement in a magazine that comes out right after the news of their breakup…or her in that jumpsuit.

    • Esmom says:

      Lol, I thought the exact same thing. The celeb name dropping was kinda cringeworthy, too.

  3. Shirurusu says:

    Ugh I’m in a such a dry spell right now. Im in my mid thirties and single and because of studies this last year at a hard core pace I haven’t had the energy to go on dates or even ogle cute men on the subway, and it sucks! Luckily I only have a month to go with my studies but I think I have to start making an effort, my vagina is literally dying

    • Kezia says:

      In the exact same position (lol)! We need to get our mojo back

    • Slowsnow says:

      When I am really caught up in work – which means research and a lot of writing – it either pumps the girl up or dries it up completely. I have to motivate myself so that my poor husband gets some but also because I end up enjoying it. However, when I started going to the gym the libido suddenly went up the roof regardless of my amount of work. Well, except the first week when all I wanted was sleep, lol.

    • Huckle says:

      I am older than that! I’ve got a good job and take care of myself but I haven’t had a date in ages but then I make no effort to put myself out there either. Outside of dating sites, I also don’t understand however how one goes about finding dates either. When I was younger it was no problem but now…? Def a dry spell for me too.

  4. minx says:

    Can’t stand this person.

  5. Cantgooglme says:

    “There was actually so much I had to figure out. With therapy you have to
    Go way back” – how about back to all those people you screwed out of their Pilates studio money. Did this come up in therapy

    • Slowsnow says:

      What has this woman done and if it was that bad why do celebs keep on employing her? I am honestly curious as I don’t know the backstory.

      • Ange says:

        She screwed a bunch of people out of money for a chain of plates studios as mentioned above. She also got caught up in Madonna’s Malawi charity and made off with money from that and someone else’s husband if I recall correctly.

  6. Electric Tuba says:

    Ugh awkward!
    She’s genuinely a terrible person who does bad things to people and her getting a little cosmic payback like this is uncomfortable to watch. She is not cool, not at all.

  7. jeanne says:

    i don’t understand how she gets clients. her body is the worst looking of any of the exercises gurus out there. and, no i’m not body shaming, it’s her job to be judged on what her body looks like. she has zero curves and a square waist. for all that working out she just looks average to me.

    • Rumi says:

      I agree, but this no curves just straight look is in. Personally I love Halle Berry’s figure she has curves and is toned.
      Around me I see alot of women wanting to be waif thin but toned like a pre adolescent girl with some muscle or a marathon runner.
      These insta models are straight no curves and girls see that as the ideal. Sofia Vergara is another figure I love.
      Self pleasure is very important. There are so many aides that you can use.

    • minx says:

      Agree, I wouldn’t judge (well, maybe a little) if she wasn’t posing on magazine covers and holding herself up as someone to emulate. She is really unfortunate looking, not curvy at all and with a huge head and short neck.

    • Slowsnow says:

      I guess this is the body she has or wants to have considering her frame. Not every woman can have an hourglass figure. I am pretty square with hips because scoliosis ate one of my waist! I can go to the gym 24/7 and it won’t give me an hourglass figure.
      As long as she gives clients what they want and need, she can look however she looks.

      On a more snarky level, she is a white fake blonde catering to wannabe skinny white fake blondes which is the aesthetic of HW. Her ideal is probably skinny, thigh gap, zero booty etc. She seems positively astounded with JLo’s self-assuredness and I honestly think that deep down she doesn’t get how someone with a booty can love her body.

      • minx says:

        I would feel more generous towards her if she preached body acceptance and just trying to make the most of what you have. But she shames people and wants everyone to go for the starved boyish look.

      • Slowsnow says:

        @minx
        I was just reacting to the above post about how she looks average. I think she looks toned as hell but does not know how to dress in order to enhance her toned body. She’s had kids and if she wasn’t a horrible human (apparently, I don’t know her story) she would be a good example of a fit mum’s body for people who have her body type at least.

      • minx says:

        Slowsnow, yes.

    • Jussie says:

      That’s not something she can do anything about. You can’t exercise your way to an hourglass figure if that’s not your shape. Tracy has such a straight up and down shape that even surgery could only make her minimally curvy.

      A lot of famous female trainers have her exact shape, the only difference being an extra foot of height that makes those proportions look ‘athletic’ rather than odd. Gwyneth Paltrow, Cameron Diaz and Jennifer Garner all have wide waists with extremely minimal curves, especially when they’re at their fittest, but the extra height means they look athletic or modelesque.

      She has clients because her ‘method’ does work. The before and afters, both from celebrities and real people, are pretty amazing.

  8. Chaine says:

    Those magazine headlines are a hellscape of body insecurity and self hatred. “Health” my foot.

  9. asfasl;dfja says:

    —-Plus, everybody feels better about the world after an orgasm (I had to invest in a new vibrator when Baby Fists became president).

    AMEN. ME TOO.

  10. Ladykeller says:

    Amen sister. Nothing wrong with a bit of self loving. As my dear mom always says “if you want something done right do it yourself” sometimes you gotta take care of business to keep yourself sane.

  11. Pandy says:

    OUCH!!!!! Stings to have this interview out right after you’ve been dumped by your true love.

  12. Dee Kay says:

    I’m in my mid-40s and I’ve stopped trying to diet and work out to achieve some physical ideal. I’ve gained a lot of weight in the last couple of years but I *feel* much better about myself after working on self-acceptance and self-love. I realized that by restricting food intake for years, I had developed a very harsh inner voice that was berating me and yelling at me all the time — I was full of self-loathing, not in a clinical depressive way but in a just average everyday way (if that makes sense). So I began to eat what I want and gained the pounds and began to love and appreciate myself, just as I am. And you know what? My husband still loves me, my friends still love me, my work colleagues didn’t fatshame me. I have a great life, at a higher weight, with a lot more self-acceptance and zero self-shaming.

    Meanwhile, other women work on their bodies endlessly, striving for perfection, and they look great — but do they feel great about themselves? Do they love and accept every part of themselves, and surround themselves with people who love and accept them? I’m not saying that all skinny women are self-shaming, I definitely know women who really are naturally thin and don’t stress about food or exercise. But I also see *plenty* of women who prioritize thinness over everything else, I think, “Losing that 2 or 5 or 10 lbs. is not going to make you happier, more loved, more fulfilled, more appreciative of yourself.”

    • Bridget says:

      How’s your health tho?

      • Dee Kay says:

        My health is great, thanks. And I hope you know that “People shouldn’t be overweight because HEALTH REASONS” is a form of concern-trolling. Plenty of ppl with high BMIs are in fine health, plenty of ppl who have low BMIs are in poor health.

    • Gigi LaMoore says:

      I am considered a thin person. Even at 46 and in full on menopause since I was 42, I am still a considered a thin person. I eat what I want, which most of the time is really good stuff mixed in with portions of ice cream, cakes, chips, cookies, etc. I have gotten bad at working out regularly but do it when I can but for no longer than 30 minutes. I like taking care of me. I personally do not feel good mentally or physically if I am over a US size 4. I have been as high as an 8 and as low as a 0. However, I do not let how I look turn into loathing because I am a big believer in loving myself where I’m at. As far as whether those thin women you talk about are loving and accepting themselves, I would say they probably do about as much as anyone does. Regardless of size or reasons to feel good about life, we all pretty much struggle with loving and accepting ourselves at different points in life.

      • Dee Kay says:

        IA that everyone at every size “struggles with loving and accepting ourselves at different points in life.” I am just saying that personally, speaking for myself, *I* realized that being thin (or really: struggling to lose weight and then maintain weight-loss all the time) was more harmful than helpful, and that when I looked around, I realized that thinness doesn’t protect anyone from a bad relationship, unhappy job, poor friendships, etc. In my own life, I was doing more damage to myself by thinking that it was *better* to be thin, and to really struggle to do that — I know there are others who don’t struggle — and that the struggle wasn’t worth it. It was costing me. Giving up the dieting struggle helped me come to a better place psychologically, with respect to how I see myself.

        You know what though? I think I’m really saying all of this backwards. I think maybe it’s more accurate to say: When I was younger, I thought, if I’m thin, I’ll get everything I want: the great husband, gorgeous house, terrific job, fantastic friends, etc. When I turned 40, I thought: I know a lot of women who fight to be thin, and they don’t have any of those things. I have all of those things. And I don’t want to fight to be thin anymore, because it’s damned hard and I tend to be self-hating when I’m doing that. So why don’t I have a great life AND eat what I want, and accept myself? And that turned out to be the right decision for me.

        Thinness does not equal happiness and it’s no guarantee of anything. That’s what I’ve been trying to say.

    • Elizabeth says:

      So much this. I was chubby as a child (by 90’s standards; I would be considered normal now) and I thought if I ever lost weight my life would be perfect. I got down to 112 and a size 4 and my life was worse than ever. Probably the most depressed I’ve ever been because I expected things to magically get better and they didn’t.

  13. Shannon says:

    Whatever. She’s so annoying. Some pretty deep-set issues keep me from dating or even masturbating. I’ve been raped. I now look at that area of my body as just another area of my body. The worst thing I’ve had in the past few years was a bad cough. Take your pseudo-science away from me, girl.

  14. homeslice says:

    OMG her head is bigger than her body. I find nothing attractive about his woman. I will say I do think Goopy has a great bod, but mostly I think that is due to genetics. She is long and lean and doesn’t look sickly thin to me. When women who are petite shape their bodies in a way that makes them look like teens, it is odd. I’m not body shaming either…these women are going to extremes. It is not natural.

    • Gigi LaMoore says:

      Goopy’s body is very flat. Tracy seems to make everyone’s body look the same, except for J. Lo. No way to exercise off her curves.

  15. themummy says:

    Yeah, I don’t agree with that. For some people, sure. For others? Perfectly happy without sex and not really missing out on much. When I was in my 20s I had a roaring sex drive, but after 27 or so, I just have very little sex drive and I’m perfectly happy with that. I’m 40. And I’m not sick, or out of shape, or unhealthy, nor do I have low self-esteem, so there is not some sort of pathology to my not caring about sex. I just simply don’t much care about it. When I want it I do it–whether with myself or someone else. I love it when I do it. But most of the time, I’m not interested at all. An orgasm a month or so is usually enough for me. And I’m totally happy with that. Everyone is different.