Emily Ratajkowski: ‘I was never going to wear white on my wedding day, I hate that’

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For about a week in February, I was really concerned about Emily Ratajkowski. She suddenly married Sebastian Bear-McClard, a film producer who she had only been dating for about a month. When she and Sebastian posted their wedding photos to social media, she looked dead-eyed and slightly drugged. I just thought… is Emily in a bad place? A sudden elopement with a douche-bro you’ve only dated for a month doesn’t exactly scream “healthy” to me. Anyway, I sort of forgot about it because… you know, other sh-t came up. Now Emily is promoting her role in I Feel Pretty (the Amy Schumer comedy), and she’s talking more about the sudden wedding and all of that. Apparently, she never wanted to wear white on her wedding day?

On her mustard-yellow Zara wedding suit, which cost $200: “I really wanted to feel like myself,” Ratajkowski tells USA TODAY. During her youth in California, “$200 was what I would get to go shopping before a new school year. So I have never been like, I need the finer things in life. I like vintage shopping. I enjoy beautiful clothes. But I don’t think that it always means that they have to be expensive. I love the color mustard-yellow. I liked the idea of being at City Hall in suit, like taking care of business. I was never going to wear white on my wedding day. No matter what. I hate that. I don’t like the concept that I have to be some kind of pure version to present myself to a man. I like the idea that I’m colorful person who has lived through a lot, and comes with all the different things that I do.”

[From USA Today]

I’ve been known as an Emily Defender in the past, so is it weird that I don’t hate this? I mean, obviously, I hated the mustard suit. But I don’t hate her reasoning behind it. The bridal industry has run amok and we’ve been brainwashed into believing that every woman NEEDS to wear white or off-white on her wedding day. And really, why? Why is it such a thing?

Emily also appeared on The Tonight Show this week and talked more about the wedding and the proposal. Sebastian proposed without a ring and her reaction was “MMmm, nah.” Then he fashioned a ring out of a paper clip, and then they ended up making their own rings. Like, they were smelting and sh-t.

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  1. Red says:

    I think there are very few women that believe they NEED to wear white on their wedding day. Do I think women enjoy that tradition? Sure, it’s fun. It’s also fun to wear other colors. Emily is not a trailblazer, no matter how much she tries to sell herself that way. Every time she talks, I get ‘cool girl’ vibes from her and it’s drives me nuts. Do what you want, it’s your life, but spare me with the I’ve never been that type of girl crap.

    • Kitten says:

      She reminds me a bit of Amber Heard in that way.

      • Beckymae says:

        Also, millions of women in China, SE Asia and the subcontinent would beg to differ…..red is the colour of choice there AND, BTW, wear whatever fucking colour dress you want to on your wedding day!! FFS

    • Merritt says:

      She is definitely not a trailblazer. She married a dude with a history of racist and misogynist online behavior. She is not even credible as a white feminist at this point.

  2. Kitten says:

    He fashioned a ring out of a paper clip?
    What are they, eight-years-old?

    I actually like the fact that she wore a suit and didn’t wear white. What I don’t like is her brand of feminism and the fact that she married a dbag in a shotgun wedding. But hey, her choice, her life. I give their holy union another 4 months tops.

  3. lobstah says:

    I think she’s gorgeous in photos, but once she starts talking, she loses it for me.

    • Chloeee says:

      I was just thinking that which is weird because I find it opposite for a lot of people/actresses/models. My new major crush is Neri Oxman though. When she moves and talks I can’t stop looking at her! But I watched the clip with Emily and I just couldn’t.

  4. JA says:

    Oh please! My sister had 3 children before she married their father in a church ceremony and wore white!!! Not because she wanted to appear PURE but because that was her dream wedding dress. Enough of this trying to yuck on ppls choices and spinning it as some feministic agenda. My other sister wore pink and white, I wore off white! Why? Because we wanted to! Emily needs to STFU and real talk, EVERYTHING she does including this marriage mistake is for attention…ugly mustard outfit included

  5. Citresse says:

    I wore a pink maternity dress I found at a local shop by the lake.

    • SK says:

      Yeah white is not my best colour and I’m just not a white wedding dress type of gal. I’ve had friends married in various other colours and they all looked fab. One white-blond pixie-haircut friend wore an amazing fuchsia pink dress and the underneath layers of tulle were in orange. Another tall, skinny, sporty friend wore a late 20s/early 30s style dress (with a modern twist) – very long and slinky in goldish/bronze oblong sequins – pretty amazing! Yet another friend who is a tiny, puerto rican – australian pocket rocket with some quirkiness wore a canary yellow slinky gown that looked insane on her. Another bombshell curvy blonde friend wore a gold beaded dress that looked amazing. If you want to wear white then 100% put it on and feel amazing in it! If you want something else – that’s the go! I will be in the latter category.

      • Citresse says:

        SK your reply is so wonderful to read…my mind’s eye wide open with vivid colours, textures etc…

  6. Laura Dawe says:

    I do not like wedding dresses in general and at my first wedding I wore a very simple, off white dress. If i ever remarry I want to wear a simple yellow dress because it’s my favourite colour 💛

  7. kate says:

    It’s so funny to me that so many white feminists want to yell at hijab-wearing Muslim women like they are brainwashed fool but they have nothing to say about the countless white, non Muslim women who wear a veil and a white gown on their big day.
    Anyway, her yellow suit would have been unflattering in white as well.

  8. MellyMel says:

    I really like that suit and the way she styled it. I also like the reasoning behind it. I’ve always imagined getting married in a white dress and the whole thing, but the older I get the more I like the idea of a courthouse wedding and wearing something less traditional.

  9. minx says:

    It’s not what she wore, it’s the guy she married.

  10. Sam the pink says:

    Oh please. I wore a dress that was a mixture of colors to my wedding (the top was white). I also had a colored sash over it. I know multiple women who wore either colored dresses or colored items at their weddings.

    And very few women are, ahem, “pure” for weddings now. We know, we don’t care. Most want white due to tradition or just because there aren’t many occasions for such an outfit and hey, let’s go for it. It’s sort of patronizing to presume that women are brainwashed into wanting white.

  11. Pandy says:

    Personally, I’m surprised she was so covered up for a photo opp!

  12. Milla says:

    My sis married in a black suit. I really do think it is optional. I do like to watch couture wedding dresses, but I don’t even think marriage is a necessity.

    As for her, she’s nothing more than a skinny girl with big boobs. No substance. No knowledge.

  13. Rachel in August says:

    “I’ve been through a lot,” lol. How old are you? Girl you’ve got no idea what life will throw at you. I wonder if her new husband has seen her implant scars yet …

    • Kitten says:

      Yeah I literally LOL’d at that.
      She’s in her twenties and grew up with two professor parents in San Diego. She’s not exactly Malala Yousafzai, ya know?

      • Rachel in August says:

        Exactly, she’s barely out of her teens. I’d like to know what she’s “been through.” A tacky music video?

      • Veronica S. says:

        But she only got $200 before a school year to buy new clothes! That’s downright ascetic living conditions!

  14. Slowsnow says:

    She is trailblazing with her Joan-Collins-goes-to-a-funeral hat for a wedding that’s for sure.

    In French there is a saying, “breaking down open doors”: that’s what she’s doing. White stood for purity a long time ago, now it’s just a garment tradition that some people embrace while others do not. I hate wedding dresses and therefore used one of my favorite dresses to my wedding which happened to be black and white.

  15. Who ARE These People? says:

    Photographers say white washes out in photos, so other colours may be remembered better. Also, even if white is the ‘tradition’ where we live, not all of us look good in white. On Say Yes to the Dress, some brides come in wanting not-white dresses and they usually get talked out of it. Not fair.

    • jetlagged says:

      They get talked about of it because the store only carries a handful of dresses that aren’t white or ivory and you can’t sell someone a dress that doesn’t exist. The show really should be called Say Yes to the Dress So I Get A Commission.

  16. whispersjane says:

    Too many people don’t question the white thing.

  17. Sara says:

    The tradition of wearing white has nothing to do with purity. Queen Victoria started the trend by wearing white to her wedding. She wanted to stand out so the public could see her. She was an immensely popular queen (obviously since an entire era is named after her) and so the tradition began. The traditional color of purity is blue. Hence why in Christianity you often times see the image of the Virgin Mary dressed in that color.

    • Grumpy says:

      Absolutely, it was just a fashion trend amongst people wanting to show they were rich enough to have a white outfit, and people have forgotten that and imposed their own meaning upon it and then used that self-imposed meaning to find offence with it!!

    • Veronica S. says:

      It’s also very Western. A lot of African and Asian countries utilize bright color palettes in their bridal wear, particularly places like India and China where white/black is traditionally associated with funerals. (Greek brides used to wear white if I recall correctly. It was symbolic of joy, though, not purity.)

  18. Happy21 says:

    Of course she hates it (insert eyeroll). Ugh.
    I don’t necessarily see the need to wear white in this day and age either but I’d never say ‘I hate that.’

  19. Melissa says:

    I love the Bianca Jagger inspiration.

    Pre-Victoria there are some lovely traditions about how brides would wear their wedding dress again when the couple hosted their first dinner party together. Anybody else love reading the descriptions of “blue watered silk” wedding gowns in books like Vanity Fair?

    The White Dress tradition has held on because it represents conspicuous consumption (like gendered baby clothes) in that you only wear it once.

  20. Snoozy says:

    She is such an unconventional trailblazer that she wore mustard yellow on her wedding day, yet coyly refused the proposal because there was no ring? Puh-eeze.

  21. Anika says:

    This woman always comes across as just obnoxious and annoyingly try hard. She thinks she’s a feminist b/c she repeats some very unoriginal quotes about feminism and sexiness and self empowerment, and now adds to this “cutting edge” perspective by not wearing white to her wedding?!?! Wow, she is a trailblazer, this one, a pioneer in the field of feminism….LOL. I can’t believe she actually thinks her wedding dress color makes her EVEN MORE of a feminist than ever…She’d be hilarious, actually, if she weren’t so self righteous and vapid, and a complete bore.